#tw pda

[our-arospec-experience]

very funny i didnt fully realise i was aroace till 18 even though every relationship i ever had i only had a 'crush' on them because i suspected they had a crush on me (i was funnily always right) and only got into said relationships because they confessed and asked first;

Then whenever we broke up I never really felt sad about it, never understood why people were always so upset over breakups (obviously until i realised i was aro and that allos experience it completely differently);

and even during the relationships some romantic things i did enjoy like cuddling, spending time just doing things together, but them always wanting to be together or around me, kissing, anything more intimate, that all made me uncomfortable and upset, i never knew why until now.

I'm glad you've come to terms with your identity :)

[lilac-set]

I think pathological demand avoidance makes my tendency toward addiction infinitely worse tbh. And also makes addictions that much more unbearable. I just want some fucking control over my life and doing The Forbidden Thing feels like a good way to assert it. And then surprised pikachu face when my need for The Thing actually makes me feel less in control than i ever have. Surely if i just do it more i’ll feel in control again, right? Thats how this works, right? The pda in both directions makes me fucking hate being alive. Im ok though

[bitter-bloodbank]

i have hearts bouncing off my head rn i am awestruck at how wonderful my fp is. i’m so gay. goodnight tumblr goodnight mutuals i’m gonna sleep like a baby now because i am in love

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

Autisticality

[aftgficrec]

Hi, can you recommend fics with Andreil being discovered by the new foxes?

Here you go! -A

also see:

freshmen react to andreil 1 here, 2 here

freshmen react/pov outsider here

latest foxes react to andreil here

‘Me and You’ series here

‘midnight love,’ ‘flashes of intimacy ch 14 “devotion,”’ ‘Forever Is A Big Word,’ and ‘Master post for Fluent Freshman AU’ here

‘Allison asks how andreil got together’ here

‘AFTG/TFC minifics…Ch 21’ here

‘Teaching a caged bird to fly’ series here (particularly part 4)

you may also like:

Jack & Sheena being assholes here

Neil fights with Jack here

fics featuring the freshmen here

they match by Ani_Rygaard [Rated G, 2869 Words, Complete, 2021]

Baby Fox finding out about Andrew and Neil cause Neil called Andrew babe.

tw: alcohol, tw: homophobia

Never Have I Ever by hismiley16 [Rated T, 4332 Words, Complete, 2023]

The foxes induct the freshman with a post-preseason drinking game. Things get out of hand and Andrew shuts everybody up.

tw: alcohol, tw: homophobia

The Palmetto State Foxes Rules by Overherenow [Not Rated, 1536 Words, Complete, 2018]

A summary of rules for all freshmen for the Palmetto State foxes Exy team. And some upperclassmen who might forget.

The most beautiful thing ever by poly_pr1nce [Rated T, 1055 Words, Complete, 2018, Locked]

Kevin gets sent a clip from the last winter banquet, and when Allison sees it she agrees all the Foxes need to see it, especially the Freshmen/Cubs so they know what to expect when they piss Neil off or say stuff about Andrew

there's no way JOSTEN has a girlfriend by itadoriminyard [Rated G, 3246 Words, Complete, 2021]

“But it has to be her! Neil literally doesn’t spend time with anyone outside of this team. Like at all. Who could he possibly be dating? Someone on the team?” She asked sarcastically. She was met with silence. “Wait… are y’all serious?” Nicky was positively ecstatic at this turn of events. -- [The freshmen are determined to find Neil's secret girlfriend. Neil and Andrew are unwilling to aid their quest.]

The 5 times Neil wore Andrew's jersey and the 1 time Andrew wore Neil's by Hand_of_the_Alex [Rated T, 2489 Words, Complete, 2016]

Neil hadn’t meant to do it the first time, he just saw orange and white and slipped it on for his late night exy practices with Kevin. Kevin didn’t give any reaction further than an eye roll and a scoff before getting back to exy, so Neil finished the practise wearing Andrew’s jersey.

tw: homophobia, tw: nightmares 

five times christmas meant something by nomadicdeer (someonestolemycoffee) [Rated G, 2359 Words, Complete, 2017]

Neil Josten asks Andrew if they can celebrate Christmas. He decided he likes Christmas quite a bit.

[svejarph]

emma mackey gif pack

CLICK THE SOURCE LINK BELOW and you will find #238 245x150px gifs of Emma Mackey as Maeve Wiley in Sex Education Season 4 (2023)! These were created from scratch by Sveja. Do what you want with these, just don't repost/claim as your own, don't use them to play Emma, don't use in any smut/smut-based blogs, and like/reblog if using. If you like what I'm doing, feel free to commission me or donate to my ko-fi. Emma was around 27 during filming and is white (French, English, Irish).

tw: alcohol, drinking, funeral, hugging, kissing, pda

[clowningcrows]

autism be damned that boy can

[icelogged]

i need him on my lap rn </3

[sirenium]

people with PDA, you are not a horrible person for not voting this year. Voting is important, but it doesn't make you terrible for literally being unable to vote. I'm old enough to register, have been for a year, but haven't been able to bring myself to do it. Why? It's a demand. I don't realize how much my PDA affects me until it does, in which case I find myself wanting to scream and cry at the thought of doing something, especially something so important. This makes me feel like a hypocrite, a failure, a traitor to the multiple communities I'm a part of whose lives are at stake this year. But I'm not any of these fucking things, and neither are you.

I try to urge people who are in the space to vote to do so when I can, because that's something I can do. All that matters for me is that I do what I can, when I'm able. People seem to forget about those of us with PDA when telling those who are old enough to vote, and I'm frankly tired of feeling like I'm personally responsible for the downfall of America because of how my brain works. I'm not, and you're not either.

[our-arospec-experience]

I'm like 100% aromantic and relatively open about it to almost anybody but my family. But now a friend of mine is in a romantic relationship and it weirds me out. Not the concept per se, they are of course free to do what they want, but seeing them and their partner together in a romantic way (holding hands, kissing, overall touching each other) just feels icky to me. Sometimes even the stories that they share of activities that they and their partner did together irks me. I've put a bit of thought into being romance-repulsed, but never really considered it, cause I'm mostly fine with romance in books, movies and other media. I can also mostly ignore couples on the street and sometimes even feel happy if I see a queer couple out and about. But the closer the romance is to me (i.e. friends or otherwise people in close physical vicinity) I get just a bad, weird feeling...

And I don't really know how to deal with this, cause I just feel like a villain if I bring up to my allo friends that they sometimes just irk me with their PDA. The one time I brought it up it wasn't really recieved to kindly and now I think now I'll just grow apart with those friends.

Mostly needed to get this of my chest, but any advice or experiences with being romance-repulsed are very appreciated <2

are there any romance repulsed arospecs out there with some advice?

[pda-culture-is]

PDA Culture Is... having to delete discord because the perceived demand of needing to respond to people was so debilating that it made you suicidal.

^

[ensemblesongs]

No need to answer this but i love when youre professionsl i need to come drop by work and give you your linch box and a kiss on the cheek

Sending this ask is like dropping by my workplace and giving me my lunchbox and a kiss on the cheek (ノ_＜。) I miss you after you fell asleep during our date sleepyhead! I'm working right nowwwwww....

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autism and PDA Profile

[aftgficrec]

andreil being domestic in front of the foxes

Everyone is so surprised to see these two being soft! -A

latest foxes react asks

Foxes react to coupley Andreil here

Foxes react: andreil can’t hide it here

Foxes walk in on cute andreil here

more foxes react

andreil having incomprehensible convos here

andreil + pda here and andreil casual pda here

kandreil coming out to wymack/the foxes here

andreil secret marriage here and secret marriage/relationship here

‘It's a Home’ here 

‘I Found’ here

‘A Dad By Any Other Name’ and ‘small as a wish in a well’ here

‘you're here and you're you’ here 

‘it starts like this,’ ‘Love's an Endgame, but It's Not a Game,’ ‘hedge your bets,’ ‘can you keep a secret?,’ ‘The Bet,’ ‘We aim to win,’ ‘They Look Like The Stars,’ and the tumblr posts here

‘Andreil Massages Turned War…’ here

‘andrew minyard’s gossip sessions with david wymack’ here

‘What everyone doesn't see unless they look close enough.’ series: part 1 here, part 2 here, part 3 here

‘Secret Privacy’ here

‘simple romance,’ ‘call it what you want,’ ‘The Foxes Date Night,’ and ‘Andrew scares the waiter’ here

‘Consequences of Coaching’ here

‘they match’ and ‘baby, baby’ here

‘Better than a Blanket, Your Coat’ here

‘Surprise?’ here

and more

‘night by night’ here

‘you make my heart shake, bend & brake,’ ‘we'll be the last ones dancing…,’ and ‘you, forever, everyday.’ here 

‘Calling All My Lovelies,’ ‘for a heart beats best…,’ ‘Not boyfriends,’ and ‘Neil calling Andrew cute nicknames’ here

‘I'll See You in My Dreams’ and ‘Seeing Stars’ here

‘there's no way JOSTEN has a girlfriend,’ ‘every piece of you, it just fits perfectly,’ and ‘The One Where Everyone Finds Out’ here

‘Same old fresh air’ here 

‘never stood a chance’ and ‘You've Begun to Feel Like Home’ here

‘Happy Birthday, Neil.,’ ‘ i wanna hold your hand,’ and ‘Fuzzy Feelings’ here

‘The Road Trip’ here

‘Dare You,’ ‘never have i ever…,’ ‘Too Drunk,’ and ‘Here.’ here

‘i’ll crawl home to him’ here

‘Halloween couples costumes’ and ‘skirt and a crop top’ here

‘ANDREIL + #120’ and ‘neil gets his wisdom teeth taken out’ here

‘Hospitals and Anesthesia,’ ‘ I see who you are,’ ‘Ficlet Collection’ Ch 10 and ‘Going Green’ here

‘the one with the black sweater’ here

‘In Too Deep,’ ‘Surfin' U.S.A,’ ‘In a Lifeguard's Gaze,’ and ‘andreil + the beach’ here 

‘Me and You’ series here

‘Andreil- Piggy Back Rides’ here

‘The Love We Lost (then found)’ here (completed)

‘Sugar & Spice (and everything... nice?),’ ‘skylight,’ and ‘scarier things’ here

‘Hungover,’ ‘neil josten goes to the dentist,’ ‘mistakes were made (but it's okay),’ and ‘au where Neil and Katelyn work at a coffee shop’ here  

‘Twinyard Trouble’ and ‘the ‘which one is Andrew’ game’ here

‘Identity Theft,’ ‘don't be so cold,’ and ‘Step 1 in "How To Handle A Crisis"...’ here

pro teams/outsiders reacting to andreil

foxes react + pov outsider here

freshmen react/pov outsider here

andreil secret relationship/relationship reveal here

canon compliant, post canon Minyard-Josten rivalry here

details of Andreil being intimate go public here

andreil in a magazine here

‘Professor Neil’ series here

‘Stop Me If You Think You've Heard This One Before’ here

you may also like

foxes revise opinion of Andrew here

super and long domestic andreil

Like no one does by trubenblack [Rated T, 3689 Words, Complete, 2023]

He should get up, he should go for a run but as soon as he looks at his husband he decides he would rather just stay here. Andrew’s face is calm, smooth. Not in the way it used to be, he looks younger, the wrinkles that are just beginning to form between his eyebrows and on his forehead smoothed. - A day in the life of two men that are simply in love thats literally it

Married To Annoy by chaoticas_hell [Not Rated, 6068 Words, Complete, 2023]

Andrew and Aaron's relationship was better, much better, than it had ever been before. They could talk to each other about anything, fights no longer threatened to destroy their relationship. It was very peaceful. And that was boring as hell. So Andrew plans to do something about it, something that would majorly piss off his dear brother. So Andrew decides to marry his long-term boyfriend, Neil Josten- the guy his brother can't stand.

Definitely Not Valentine's Day by sillyunicorn6154 [Rated T, 961 Words, Complete, 2023]

In which Neil and Andrew definitely don't celebrate Valentine's Day.

head case (what to do with you) by Major_816 [Not Rated, 4007 Words, Complete, 2023]

It bolsters him now. Because Andrew’s in the hospital and this medical fuck with an incompetency problem won’t let Neil in to see him. ~ Andrew gets hurt and Neil...handles it.

tw: major character injury, tw: blood/gore

midnight love by imaddictedtoreading [Not Rated, 2141 Words, Complete, 2023]

Andrew and Neil have been acting very couple-y lately. 5 times somebody witnesses a moment and one time Andrew clears everything up

Words Are Important Too by sensetia [Rated G, 1937 Words, Complete, 2021]

They all knew that Andrew and Neil loved each other. They’d seen it through subtle touches and passing glances throughout the years. But what they didn’t know is if the two boys said it to each other. Did they say ‘I love you’ ? Did they whisper sweet nothings in each others ears? Did they hold hands just for the sake of being close? Did they kiss when there was really no reason to? That’s what the foxes wanted to know.

tw: nightmares, tw: implied/referenced torture

flashes of intimacy by mostly_maudlin [Rated T, Collection, Complete, 2023]

NB: this series was recced in our romantic andreil/growing together ask

Chapter 1: death threats [506 Words] Andrew’s expression cracks, his baseline apathy shrinking under bright headlights. Neil hears Nicky calling his name, and then he’s being yanked up onto the curb, almost knocking Andrew over in the process. Chapter 14: "devotion" [493 Words] Neil sees Andrew across the dining hall first, but it doesn’t take long for Andrew’s eyes to meet his as he scans the room. Chapter 18: baby steps [443 Words] “Truth or dare, Neil?” 

Forever Is A Big Word by ADifferentTime [Rated G, 14154 Words, Complete, 2022]

Neil gets injured and ends up in the hospital which leads to a marriage proposal and a very quick courthouse wedding with all of their friends.

Pointless by maqicien [Not Rated, 3034 Words, Complete, 2022]

The Foxes have only ever known him as the vicious, vindictive Monster he’s portrayed himself as. Now, he’s a mystery no one knows how to solve; hard and violent for strangers, soft and gentle for this boy with the sharp smile. - 5 times the Foxes accidentally spied on Andrew and his secret boyfriend and the 1 time they actually get to meet him.

One day we'll reveal the truth by allyasavedtheday [Rated T, 3773 Words, Complete, 2019, locked]

“Is there a reason you don’t like Neil?” Bee asks him then and Aaron doesn’t understand how the fuck they got onto this when she’s supposed to be fixing him and Andrew. “I don’t trust him,” he says eventually. “All he’s done since he’s got here is cause trouble.”

TFC headcannons by Sugden_in_a_beanie [Not Rated, Collection, Updated 2018]

Chapter 1 Instagram  Chapter 11 Pancakes  Chapter 13 professional Exy after the match when they all line up and shake hands they take kids on with them too

Tumblr Drabbles by PumpkinspiceLou (CatyDreamDwyer) [Not Rated, Collection, Updated Jan 2022]

Chapter 4: Secret Husbands Neil gets injured during a game (set after everyone has graduated/gone pro)

these feelings, they keep running the red by orphan_account [Rated M, 3589 Words, Complete, 2020]

Neil Josten had never imagined getting married. He’d never been allowed to. He was meant to keep himself disconnected and alone, only in the company of his mother. He couldn’t let himself be distracted by the girl he kissed in eighth grade, sticky with lipgloss, let alone marriage. His mother had told him, endlessly, that love was nothing. It was worthless. Attraction was weakness, love was pain. or, 5 times Neil thinks about marriage, and 1 time he gets married.

tw: implied/referenced self harm, tw: implied/referenced rape/noncon

Nap Time is Best Time by Willow_bird [Rated G, 2659 Words, Complete, 2021]

“Is he dead?” “Don’t be stupid, he’s clearly breathing.” “Yeah, okay, but like - you should go check.” --- The Foxes are chaos-gremlins who have to stick their noses into EVERYTHING. Neil loves them anyway

Photo Shoot by sheskyripa [Rated G, 2473 Words, Complete, 2021]

Neil was not shy, not at all. He had no problem with being placed in front of a camera and saying shit about everything he was thinking. But a photoshoot was completely different. A photoshoot would have an almost total focus on his appearance and Neil didn't like it at all. or, the Foxes have to do a photo shoot and Neil is not happy with it. Andrew helps.

tw: scars

NB: fanart by @linecrosser here 

AJMICKEY56's Fanfiction Palooza! by AJMICKEY56 [Rated G, Multifandom Collection, Complete, 2023]

Chapter 2: aaron asking andrew to tell neil to help him with math Chapter 82: aaron saying something homophobic…this time neil won't ignore it and chews aaron out

tw: homophobia

Chapter 86: Three times Andrew couldn't help but smile and one time he chose to. Chapter 100: foxes react to neil buying the maserati for andrew

Master post for Fluent Freshman AU by @jtl-fics [Tumblr Fic, 2023] The serialized adventures of a foreign language major freshman Fox who is unwittingly subjected to sappy Russian pet names and spicy flirting between Captain Neil and the scary goalie. 

Foxes Reacting to Andreil by @kanekicure [Tumblr, 2022]

foxes reacting to andreil being cute by @rainbow-femme [Tumblr, 2017]

foxes accepting and loving andreil fluff prompt fill by @whatmack [Tumblr, 2019]

the upperclassmen. the monsters. andreil. fandom fun post by @lemonboyjosten [Tumblr, 2023]

Neil: *sticks Andrew’s hand under his shirt* fandom fun post by @4-fox-sake-txtpost [Tumblr, 2019]

Art

mittens and stitches art by @greenchilypepper

anyway this is gay and transparent art by @rotenkehl

Cute lil AFTG tweet 😌art by @eislekaj on instagram

andrew minyard this is boyfriend behavior…  art by @02511213942

i'm sorry kevin... it's too early for this art by @02511213942

this bastard is kissing my brother art by @jayjuls

aftg meme redraw art by @s-hanna-h

he does that sometimes art by @jeannemaybedarc

[rorywritessmut]

How do I get my spouse to understand my PDA?? It’s taken two years for him to understand that I am autistic and things won’t change. Now that I have a PDA profile, which has always existed, he refuses to believe it’s real and it something I can change.

Take today for example:

Him:What Are you doing today?

Me: I’m not telling you my plan because then it’s a demand and I won’t do it.

Him: you really need to grow up and get over this.

Like, I can’t??? I’ve talked to him about PDA and sent him articles but the man, I have to admit, is ableist as hell. He won’t even support me in accommodations because it’s “a crutch.”

[svejarph]

hari nef gif pack

CLICK THE SOURCE LINK BELOW and you will find #81 245x150px gifs of Hari Nef as Cal, Barbie, Anna, and Talia Hirsch in Bad Things, Barbie, Extrapolations 1x07, and The Idol S1 (all 2023)! These were created from scratch by Sveja. Do what you want with these, just don't repost/claim as your own, don't use them to play Hari, don't use in any smut/smut-based blogs, and like/reblog if using. If you like what I'm doing, feel free to commission me or donate to my ko-fi. Hari was around 30-31 during filming and is Ashkenazi Jewish. She is also a trans woman. Cast her accordingly.

tw: eye contact, flashing lights, kissing, pda, shaky camera, violence