#truscum safe

[foxfairy06]

[non-dysphoric-positivity]

Shout out to non-dysphoric trans people that are part of a system, especially endogenic systems cause y’all don’t get enough love.

[economically-not-a-communist]

Nah, for real, everything is insanely overbooked. I was supposed to have another check-in six months after my last appointment, but they couldn't get me an appointment until after the start of fall semester, which means I just won't be able to go, cuz my university is too far away plus I have classes.

They need to find their own doctors and clinics and stay tf away from the resources we need.

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it, good luck and hope you manage to find an appointment that works out. Dysphoria fucking sucks, man.

I wish people would stop acting like having autism and/or ADHD wouldn’t be a disability if society was more accessible. It would make it easier sure, but executive dysfunction wouldn’t fucking disappear just because shopping malls had a ‘quiet time’ or if people were more aware of things. Trains have quiet carriages where you aren’t meant to talk or make any loud noises with devices. Do people follow these rules? Mostly but not always. Even when they do, that doesn’t stop me from feeling overwhelmed by being in prolixity with so many strangers. It doesn’t stop the anxiety from going so far away from my safe zone.

I am so sick of people, especially medical professionals acting like my autism/adhd isn’t a disability and I should just be able to make phone calls to say I can’t make it to an appointment. Majority of the time, I can’t make it cause I’m non verbal. Now I can’t make a phone call cause again, I AM NON VERBAL. I can’t control this when it happens, it’s usually from burn out. I struggle so much to manage mundane tasks like self-care. Every time I try to to go get my T shot, the clinic ONLY has a nursing appointment early in the morning. I have to travel for almost two hours to get there. First I have to wake up early, which is already difficult cause I have issues with insomnia. A lack of sleep causes me to be nauseated, which means I might end up vomiting. Throwing up means I can’t leave the house cause I might end up needing to puke while on the train.

Now everything doesn’t fit me properly, being off T has made me lose the fat repositioning and the menses have returned. I’m sick of it. Trans healthcare is so fucking scarce and ever since they introduced the informed consent model, the clinic has been SO OVER BOOKED. I can never get an appointment without it being early in the morning and waiting months in advance. They can never give me an appointment that’s 12 weeks apart because THEY ARE ALWAYS BOOKED OUT. If cunts wanted to make informed consent the way to go instead of a gender dysphoria diagnosis, they should have made it any fucking doctor would prescribe it. But no, instead stupid fucks just clog up the system while those of us who are actually suffering from a crippling neurological condition (dysphoria) and have more vulnerabilities have to be pushed to the back lists so some stupid “non binary lesbians” can microdose testosterone because they’re too lazy to learn how to voice train or work out. Then they start crying when no lesbians are into them anymore cause they start to look male, go on to join the radfems who are trying to destroy our rights. These cunts who want to use our healthcare for their body modification needs are so selfish.

[ballsalsda]

XENO BEAM

[ra1i1nbow]

it's so funny when people who know nothing about queer history try to define bisexuality. "attraction to two or more genders" do we have a gender warden that tallies up and sorts the genders now? Do you have a checklist of which non binary genders you will and won't date? Another important issue is that this definition seems to imply that non binary is a "third gender" which may be true for some nonbinary people but saying that applies to everyone defeats the whole purpose of the identity! not belonging in the binary system doesn't mean just making it into a ternary!! away with that shit!! what the hell even is a gender anyways.

Disclaimer I have nothing against labels such as omnisexual, polysexual, pansexual etc. It's YOUR sexuality, and you don't actually owe anyone an acceptable or understandable definition of it. My issue is when people try to redefine terms such as bisexual, considering the history behind gaining acceptance for multisexuality and fighting stereotypes and such. If bisexual doesn't feel right, and you don't wish to be called bisexual, that's completely valid. I just don't fw rewriting history

[sirenium]

'You need dysphoria to be trans' motherfuckers when they realize the 'trender' they 'called out' for having xenogenders is a dysphoric trans person: erm actually you're still not trans cuz I don't understand you! >:(

[m3l4nch0ly-h1ll]

Some alloromantics and allosexuals have fluxuating or spiking attraction towards others. Some of them don't experience attraction until they're close with someone. Some experience attraction to someone they aren't close with, etc.

Some cis people are gender non-conforming or have multiple expressions (masculine, feminine.) Some cis girls like to wear boy's clothes. Some cis boys like to wear girl's clothes. Some cis people don't feel strongly about their bodies- especially when they're autistic.

Stop making things so complex and stop being inclusive of allo cishets. New terms are made to just include them in a community they don't fit the correct criteria for. Stop influencing them and tricking them into thinking they're part of the community just for being diverse.

I understand people like terms to better describe themselves, but plenty of the aromantic and asexual spectrum terms describe allo's too. Aromantic and asexual are strict terms defined as people who don't experience any romantic/sexual attraction at all.

[autismvampyre]

neopronoun fun fact

the swedish language has three sets of pronouns for people. the feminine(hon/henne/hennes), the masculine(han/honom/hans) and another newer addition

the gender neutral pronoun hen/henom/hens(alternatively hen/hen/hens) is an invented pronoun adopted into common swedish as early as the 60s. it comes from mashing together the feminine pronouns "hon/henne/hennes" and the masculine pronouns "han/honom/hans" and was meant to replace the phrase "he or she" and make writing less clunky

hen helps demonstrate how language evolves over time and how adopting a new term isn't impossible or even uncommon. if a neopronoun can be accepted as a part of the swedish language in the 60s, you can learn how to use zir or whatever else may make someone comfortable.

[casperthemainecoon]

Critizeing Transmeds as a Transmed:

Btw some of this is pointed out to radmeds and I know that not all transmeds do this its just that I've seen these problems in the community before:

Stop judging random people online: This is a thing that I've done before and this is the most common thing I see in the transmed community. You don't know someone's entire life or story based on a few photos or videos, just because they look like a cis person claiming to be trans you don't know that. Some people can't transition at the moment because of living somewhere unsafe or anything like that . And btw transition takes time so if someone doesn't seem to be transitioning that isn't always the case. I don't pass at all but I am transitioning because I've gotten a haircut, got a binder, told some people close to me my chosen name and pronouns (although they're not being used at the moment) The best example I could use for this is when I was arguing with someone online because they said they were a trans men yet looked completely female (not even GNC, they looked completely cis) I called them cis and said they weren't trans because they didn't experience dysphoria or a desire to transition and they told me that they DO experience dysphoria (social dysphoria) and desire to transition and the reason why they didn't want to transition at the moment was because they wanted to have biological kids and didn't want to mess up their body until they had at least one biological child which is completely VALID. Every trans person is different and their journey is different. Unless someone straight up says they have no dysphoria and have no desire to transition then don't judge because you don't know them or their life or their current situation.

Not everyone has to medically transition or do all the surgeries: This is more directed to the radmeds of the community and I know it is a small minority but I would still like to point it out. Anyways, as I mentioned before, EVERY TRANS PERSON IS DIFFERENT which means that their transition journey will be different. That would include some people not deciding to medically transition. Someone may not medically transition for many reasons, they may already have features of their desired gender and pass with just social transition, their dysphoria isn't that severe and they already feel comfortable with just social transition, etc. Now for surgeries, there are some trans people that will medically transition by taking hormones but they don't want to have any surgeries and that is completely valid. Again, no trans person is the same and people will have their reasons not to get any surgeries. Some trans people will be fine just binding/tucking and don't desire top or bottom surgery, some don't have dysphoria with certain parts of their body and don't need top or bottom surgery (for FTMs with no top dysphoria would probably mean they already have a small chest or no chest at all which is valid for them not to want top surgery), some people just don't want to risk surgery complications, some trans people already pass without surgery and don't feel the need to have surgery, etc. Transmeds belive that to be trans one must have gender dysphoria and a desire to transition and transition is different for everyone, some will only socialally transition, some will medically transition without having any surgeries, some will medically transition and have some surgeries, some will have all the surgeries and everyone's transition journey is VALID :)

Stop supporting right winged transmed creators like Blaire White just because they have a good point sometimes: The right hates ALL trans people, even us transmeds trust me I've tried arguing with transphobes using transmed logic and they were still transphobic. People like Blaire White not only makes the transmed community look bad because she is the root of most transmed stereotypes and strawman arguments (like how all transmeds are miserable, all transmeds are right winged cis bootlickers, all transmeds hate non binary people although Kalvin is also somewhat responsible for that stereotype) but also people like Blaire White have a lot of internalized transphobia as they side with the right which we all know that most of them are transphobic TERFS and transmeds shouldn't associate with these people as they still don't realize that transphobes are after all of us and you can't be a "good" trans person in their eyes. Just because these right winged transmed creators have good takes sometimes doesn't make them a good representation of our community, these people are usually fuelled by negativity which leads me to my next point

Just be more positive guys: Everytime I go on the truscum subreddit all I see is just vent after vent after vent and people complaining about tucutes. Although I do belive that trans safe spaces should allow people to vent, Jesus Christ its all I see, no wonder tucutes think we're all miserable. It wouldn't hurt us to be a little more positive, yea I understand being trans isn't the most positive thing ever, I get it gender dysphoria fucking sucks. But try to focus more on the positives of your life, like how you had a pretty nice day, you passed well today, how therapy is going really well for you, etc. We should have a community where people feel safe to be sad and vent but let's try to be a little more lighthearted :)

And that's all I can think of for now, if you disagree or think I've missed anything I am definitely up for debate and discussion :)

[wodscallop]

I'm sure other people have talked about this re: transitioning as transfemme, but there really is something absolutely magical about looking in the mirror and seeing a reflection you love

Not "tolerate" or "accept", but well and truly love

This isn't something I thought would be possible, especially before I realized I was a girl. I'd begrudgingly accepted my face and my body as things I'd just have to deal with, not parts of myself that I was happy to have.

After over a year of hormones (and s l o w l y learning how to appear like An Girl), I can say with confidence that the meme about super depressed boys turning into gorgeous, confident girls is completely true

Anyway I'm hot as fuck now and I'm making it everyone else's problem

[dysperdis]

My rapist's workplace seems to have moved to a bigger unit in the same mall, so this is a reminder:

The "Pokémon Professor" at House of Cards Abbotsford, Monica Phillips, sexually abused me, including at least one instance where she mislead me into consuming her side piece's... "leftovers" (🤢🤮). This is the same person who:

Brought her side piece (who, btw, I considered a friend before they started screwing my then-partner behind my back!) around to the store while she was working so often that she almost got fired over it...

... by an owner who was literally keeping a dude in *indentured fucking servitude* by taking advantage of his gambling addiction when my ex started working there (& even my rapist ex wondered if he'd do the same to a white dude... 👀)

Oh, and the last time I know my rapist ex noticed me talking about her behaviour, she sent fuckin' cops to my house on a bogus report as retaliation (forcing ME to deal with them & explain WHY someone might call in a false report about me... anyways, rapists & cops love each other, what else is new? 🤷 #acab)

Anyways, for the few of you this might reach... yeah, fuck HoC- I can't promise that any other store in the area is less sketchy, but it'd be hard to find something worse.

[faefetti]

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I’m Faefetti!! Welcome to my cool and safe place to be my littlest self! I’d like to think of it as an indoor play place just for me and everybody who is kind, respectful and wants to have fun! 

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Sanrio

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Disney in General Really

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Gravity Falls

Over the Garden Wall

Webkinz!

Don’t Hug Me I’m Scared

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[foxfairy06]

[basicallycaramel]

hello!! after searching for a community for ftm people on discord, and getting disappointed by only finding servers exclusively for truscum or femboys, i decided to just make my own server. so here it is! a safe community for all kinds of masc-aligned trans people, from enbies to binary trans men :) https://discord.gg/ZujbJntbSX

[whereserpentswalk]

Binary trans people are so rarely good allies to us enbies. It's like they start to pass and stealth and suddenly they think they're cis and that its non passing and enby people who are oppressing them. Not all of them of course but so many.

If you're a binary trans person please start thinking about how you can be a good ally to your enby siblings. I swear truscum rhetoric has gone mainstream and I no longer feel safe around most of my fellow queers. We've gotten to the point where some trans people can't handle clean shaven men or women with pants.

[sophieinwonderland]

The hatesub r/systemscringe are being full-on transphobes again!

Reminder: a huge number of systems have alters and headmates with completely different genders and sexes from the body.

Anyone who has ever studied any type of multiplicity is aware of this fact.

And not-so-shockingly, this makes gender complicated.

Let's just see the screenshots they're angry at today.

So the body has transitioned to male but this one headmate identifies as female and identifies as a trans woman.

In another screenshot, the system says they aren't "invading trans spaces." Which is such an absurd thing to have to defend yourselves from accusations of when you're a part of a trans system.

Even if you do take the position that spaces for transwomen should be exclusionary AFAB people, one would at least expect the male headmates to be able to feel safe in the trans community without being made to feel like they're "invaders."

Unfortunately, many pluralphobes and queer exclusionists have decided the gender identity of headmates in systems is less valid than that of singlets.

This is another pretty common thing. Especially with introjects who have source memories. It's common to have memories of lives you may not have actually lived but still feel pretty real.

I did a Tumblr poll last year. About half of systems responding had at least one trans headmate with the same gender as the body's AGAB. Nearly all had cis headmates with the opposite gender of the body.

Of course, if you heard it from r/systemscringe, they must be faking being trans entirely!

And takes like this throw not just systems under the bus, but also people who are genderfluid or otherwise nonbinary as well.

And if you're thinking, "wow, that comment sounds like something truscum would say," you aren't wrong!

Here are some unrelated posts this same user has authored:

Back to r/systemscringe, most of the comments were more of the same, stopping just short of calling them transtrenders but clearly very much wanting to!

By the way, all the censors on the names of the system and alters were mine. u/superthrowawayEEE censored nothing. When a user points this out, moderator u/DizkoLites says they considered taking it down but chose not to, saying their name was common enough that it wouldn't matter.

To be fair, the mods did end up taking it down... after the system got harassed for their gender and contacted the subreddit directly.

So congrats on waiting until after the harassment to enforce your own rules!

But don't worry, you're free to make a brand new post mocking someone for their gender identity! r/systemscringe's mod team is totally cool with that! Just gotta hide the name because that's apparently the only problem here!🙄

(You know, unless they're on the mod-approved hit list. Then you can name them too no matter how much harassment they get.)

The other day, someone asked this question on the hatesub:

Here's the answer:

Stop being bigots.

Stop being ableists.

Stop spreading misinformation.

Stop mocking people for their genders.

Stop harboring truscum and parroting transphobic talking points!

Try to be decent human beings for once in your lives!

And then... well, I guess that wouldn't leave much of a subreddit would it? There's no r/systemscringe without ableism, transphobia and queer exclusionism. It's baked into the DNA of these groups.

But maybe that would be for the best.

Nothing from these cringe communities is salvageable. And nothing should be socially acceptable about groups founded on cyberbullying.