#truscum safe

[foxfairy06]

TW: mentions of molestation, beating, abuse, grooming, etc.

[non-dysphoric-positivity]

Shout out to non-dysphoric trans people that are part of a system, especially endogenic systems cause y’all don’t get enough love.

[economically-not-a-communist]

Nah, for real, everything is insanely overbooked. I was supposed to have another check-in six months after my last appointment, but they couldn't get me an appointment until after the start of fall semester, which means I just won't be able to go, cuz my university is too far away plus I have classes.

They need to find their own doctors and clinics and stay tf away from the resources we need.

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it, good luck and hope you manage to find an appointment that works out. Dysphoria fucking sucks, man.

I wish people would stop acting like having autism and/or ADHD wouldn’t be a disability if society was more accessible. It would make it easier sure, but executive dysfunction wouldn’t fucking disappear just because shopping malls had a ‘quiet time’ or if people were more aware of things. Trains have quiet carriages where you aren’t meant to talk or make any loud noises with devices. Do people follow these rules? Mostly but not always. Even when they do, that doesn’t stop me from feeling overwhelmed by being in prolixity with so many strangers. It doesn’t stop the anxiety from going so far away from my safe zone.

I am so sick of people, especially medical professionals acting like my autism/adhd isn’t a disability and I should just be able to make phone calls to say I can’t make it to an appointment. Majority of the time, I can’t make it cause I’m non verbal. Now I can’t make a phone call cause again, I AM NON VERBAL. I can’t control this when it happens, it’s usually from burn out. I struggle so much to manage mundane tasks like self-care. Every time I try to to go get my T shot, the clinic ONLY has a nursing appointment early in the morning. I have to travel for almost two hours to get there. First I have to wake up early, which is already difficult cause I have issues with insomnia. A lack of sleep causes me to be nauseated, which means I might end up vomiting. Throwing up means I can’t leave the house cause I might end up needing to puke while on the train.

Now everything doesn’t fit me properly, being off T has made me lose the fat repositioning and the menses have returned. I’m sick of it. Trans healthcare is so fucking scarce and ever since they introduced the informed consent model, the clinic has been SO OVER BOOKED. I can never get an appointment without it being early in the morning and waiting months in advance. They can never give me an appointment that’s 12 weeks apart because THEY ARE ALWAYS BOOKED OUT. If cunts wanted to make informed consent the way to go instead of a gender dysphoria diagnosis, they should have made it any fucking doctor would prescribe it. But no, instead stupid fucks just clog up the system while those of us who are actually suffering from a crippling neurological condition (dysphoria) and have more vulnerabilities have to be pushed to the back lists so some stupid “non binary lesbians” can microdose testosterone because they’re too lazy to learn how to voice train or work out. Then they start crying when no lesbians are into them anymore cause they start to look male, go on to join the radfems who are trying to destroy our rights. These cunts who want to use our healthcare for their body modification needs are so selfish.

[ballsalsda]

XENO BEAM

[skykittywhatchamahcallit]

Transmedicalists will be like *raging misogyny with no second thought*

TERFs will be like *raging misogyny no second thoughts*

If you bring up “theyfabs” or being a ���cockworshipper” or “those dumb women and thinking they’re trans”

You’re being a fucking misogynist

[sirenium]

'You need dysphoria to be trans' motherfuckers when they realize the 'trender' they 'called out' for having xenogenders is a dysphoric trans person: erm actually you're still not trans cuz I don't understand you! >:(

[m3l4nch0ly-h1ll]

Some alloromantics and allosexuals have fluxuating or spiking attraction towards others. Some of them don't experience attraction until they're close with someone. Some experience attraction to someone they aren't close with, etc.

Some cis people are gender non-conforming or have multiple expressions (masculine, feminine.) Some cis girls like to wear boy's clothes. Some cis boys like to wear girl's clothes. Some cis people don't feel strongly about their bodies- especially when they're autistic.

Stop making things so complex and stop being inclusive of allo cishets. New terms are made to just include them in a community they don't fit the correct criteria for. Stop influencing them and tricking them into thinking they're part of the community just for being diverse.

I understand people like terms to better describe themselves, but plenty of the aromantic and asexual spectrum terms describe allo's too. Aromantic and asexual are strict terms defined as people who don't experience any romantic/sexual attraction at all.

[aman1taverna]

god I want to support transmedicalists so much because they generally have the right ideas and I do think medically transitioning can be the right option in some cases of severe dysphoria.... but then someone gets onto the topic of fake trans people and all of a sudden everybody needs to remind us how much they absolutely hate those theyfabs who dress like women and act like women because they wear SKIRTS and they have those ugly big tits they didn't cut off and etc etc and just get so obsessed with ragging on them. they're soo quick to hate on women at any opportunity, I can't stand it

[casperthemainecoon]

Critizeing Transmeds as a Transmed:

Btw some of this is pointed out to radmeds and I know that not all transmeds do this its just that I've seen these problems in the community before:

Stop judging random people online: This is a thing that I've done before and this is the most common thing I see in the transmed community. You don't know someone's entire life or story based on a few photos or videos, just because they look like a cis person claiming to be trans you don't know that. Some people can't transition at the moment because of living somewhere unsafe or anything like that . And btw transition takes time so if someone doesn't seem to be transitioning that isn't always the case. I don't pass at all but I am transitioning because I've gotten a haircut, got a binder, told some people close to me my chosen name and pronouns (although they're not being used at the moment) The best example I could use for this is when I was arguing with someone online because they said they were a trans men yet looked completely female (not even GNC, they looked completely cis) I called them cis and said they weren't trans because they didn't experience dysphoria or a desire to transition and they told me that they DO experience dysphoria (social dysphoria) and desire to transition and the reason why they didn't want to transition at the moment was because they wanted to have biological kids and didn't want to mess up their body until they had at least one biological child which is completely VALID. Every trans person is different and their journey is different. Unless someone straight up says they have no dysphoria and have no desire to transition then don't judge because you don't know them or their life or their current situation.

Not everyone has to medically transition or do all the surgeries: This is more directed to the radmeds of the community and I know it is a small minority but I would still like to point it out. Anyways, as I mentioned before, EVERY TRANS PERSON IS DIFFERENT which means that their transition journey will be different. That would include some people not deciding to medically transition. Someone may not medically transition for many reasons, they may already have features of their desired gender and pass with just social transition, their dysphoria isn't that severe and they already feel comfortable with just social transition, etc. Now for surgeries, there are some trans people that will medically transition by taking hormones but they don't want to have any surgeries and that is completely valid. Again, no trans person is the same and people will have their reasons not to get any surgeries. Some trans people will be fine just binding/tucking and don't desire top or bottom surgery, some don't have dysphoria with certain parts of their body and don't need top or bottom surgery (for FTMs with no top dysphoria would probably mean they already have a small chest or no chest at all which is valid for them not to want top surgery), some people just don't want to risk surgery complications, some trans people already pass without surgery and don't feel the need to have surgery, etc. Transmeds belive that to be trans one must have gender dysphoria and a desire to transition and transition is different for everyone, some will only socialally transition, some will medically transition without having any surgeries, some will medically transition and have some surgeries, some will have all the surgeries and everyone's transition journey is VALID :)

Stop supporting right winged transmed creators like Blaire White just because they have a good point sometimes: The right hates ALL trans people, even us transmeds trust me I've tried arguing with transphobes using transmed logic and they were still transphobic. People like Blaire White not only makes the transmed community look bad because she is the root of most transmed stereotypes and strawman arguments (like how all transmeds are miserable, all transmeds are right winged cis bootlickers, all transmeds hate non binary people although Kalvin is also somewhat responsible for that stereotype) but also people like Blaire White have a lot of internalized transphobia as they side with the right which we all know that most of them are transphobic TERFS and transmeds shouldn't associate with these people as they still don't realize that transphobes are after all of us and you can't be a "good" trans person in their eyes. Just because these right winged transmed creators have good takes sometimes doesn't make them a good representation of our community, these people are usually fuelled by negativity which leads me to my next point

Just be more positive guys: Everytime I go on the truscum subreddit all I see is just vent after vent after vent and people complaining about tucutes. Although I do belive that trans safe spaces should allow people to vent, Jesus Christ its all I see, no wonder tucutes think we're all miserable. It wouldn't hurt us to be a little more positive, yea I understand being trans isn't the most positive thing ever, I get it gender dysphoria fucking sucks. But try to focus more on the positives of your life, like how you had a pretty nice day, you passed well today, how therapy is going really well for you, etc. We should have a community where people feel safe to be sad and vent but let's try to be a little more lighthearted :)

And that's all I can think of for now, if you disagree or think I've missed anything I am definitely up for debate and discussion :)

[autismvampyre]

neopronoun fun fact

the swedish language has three sets of pronouns for people. the feminine(hon/henne/hennes), the masculine(han/honom/hans) and another newer addition

the gender neutral pronoun hen/henom/hens(alternatively hen/hen/hens) is an invented pronoun adopted into common swedish as early as the 60s. it comes from mashing together the feminine pronouns "hon/henne/hennes" and the masculine pronouns "han/honom/hans" and was meant to replace the phrase "he or she" and make writing less clunky

hen helps demonstrate how language evolves over time and how adopting a new term isn't impossible or even uncommon. if a neopronoun can be accepted as a part of the swedish language in the 60s, you can learn how to use zir or whatever else may make someone comfortable.

[gibbearish]

ik i talk abt high control groups kinda often but i do encourage anyone involved in discourse in any capacity to watch folding ideas' "this is financial advice" video, because a lot of what he says about the gamestop apes being a self-organizing high control group imo also explains the more toxic discourse tendencies, and i feel like most discussion around high-control groups on here focuses on the tradtional kind that has one or a few distinct leaders which makes it harder to draw parallels between the signs. so i think its important to point out that these kinds of groups can still create that same energy as a unit even if there isn't one specific person calling the shots

[foxfairy06]

[ra1i1nbow]

it's so funny when people who know nothing about queer history try to define bisexuality. "attraction to two or more genders" do we have a gender warden that tallies up and sorts the genders now? Do you have a checklist of which non binary genders you will and won't date? Another important issue is that this definition seems to imply that non binary is a "third gender" which may be true for some nonbinary people but saying that applies to everyone defeats the whole purpose of the identity! not belonging in the binary system doesn't mean just making it into a ternary!! away with that shit!! what the hell even is a gender anyways.

Disclaimer I have nothing against labels such as omnisexual, polysexual, pansexual etc. It's YOUR sexuality, and you don't actually owe anyone an acceptable or understandable definition of it. My issue is when people try to redefine terms such as bisexual, considering the history behind gaining acceptance for multisexuality and fighting stereotypes and such. If bisexual doesn't feel right, and you don't wish to be called bisexual, that's completely valid. I just don't fw rewriting history

[antitransmedicalism]

I hope the transmeds who trusted cis transphobes over trans people are happy.

Not only is federal aid prohibited for trans people to use for medical transition in Florida for ALL AGES, and medical transition banned for trans kids in the same state, but just days ago, the Attorney General has severely limited trans health care for trans kids AND adults in Missouri.

Missouri, the same state which a legislator was defending 12 year old kids getting married.

“They are doing it for the kids to protect them from tucute ideology”, nothing like the political party of several convicted child traffickers/abusers/rapists/molesters, upholding child marriage in their states and forcing kids to be pregnant/give birth to “think of the children”.

They went after kids so they can go after adults too. 

And in the same state (Missouri) they are also screening people for autism and depression to further prohibit trans healthcare.

Transmeds blame the APA(s), the WPATH, the WHO, Planned Parenthood, etc for “pushing tucute ideology” but those organizations among all others are the ones FIGHTING FOR ALL TRANS PEOPLE while y’all sit like useless idiots blaming trans people for cis people being transphobic.

They are coming after all of us, and more red states will implement laws like this to come. God forbid you are mentally ill or neurodivergent because they will use that AGAINST you.

This is what playing respectability politics gets you. This is what normalizing self-hate and internalized transphobia gets you. This is what buddying up with right wingers, TERFs and other transphobes gets you.

You don’t have “tucutes” “trenders” or anyone against transmedicalism to blame.

I hope you transmeds are happy. 

[economically-not-a-communist]

Every once in a while I have to make sure I'm interacting a normal amount with normal women and actual feminism every once in a while, to avoid falling into the transsex-male-to-rampant-misogynist pipeline. Far too easy to go from "radfems and gender abolitionists are literally the scum of the earth" (true statement) to "well maybe all feminism is bullshit" (not at all true statement) to "trans women are somehow lesser than trans men, and all women are evil and out to get Us" (batshit crazy).

[swordbeliever]

why i left transmedicalism

when i started this blog, i considered myself a pretty strong transmed, and while i’ve not been all that involved in discourse publicly, i had at least one post get a decent amount of notes & still get followers from that post so i figured its about time to clarify this:

i no longer identify as a transmedicalist in any way.

why?

while not an exhaustive list, heres a couple reasons:

my experience of transness is, at this point, barely related to my medical transition and the aspects of it that are are incredibly inaccessible. making these more inaccessible and requiring more hoops to jump through (especially for adults) does nothing to help the community or root out the “fakers.”

so many transmed talking points are repackaged terf rhetoric. i cant feel good agreeing on any trans topic with terfs. lol.

being a more “respectable” queer person does absolutely nothing. those who do not respect the “weird” trans folk will never respect you because you’re licking their boots and trying to be as normal as possible. (see: michael warner, the trouble with normal, 1999)

the main thing i’ve come to realize is that none of this transmed/tucute dichotomy is useful.

all it does is divide the community into two unnuanced camps who both think incredibly poorly of one another and are increasingly unwilling to discuss topics of interest. this is not the way to fight injustice. there are bills being proposed to limit any kind of medical transition for folks as old as 26. trans youth are being targeted constantly. conservative pundits spend the vast majority of their airtime spreading misinformation about trans topics and infighting does absolutely nothing to help this.

what changed?

i got educated. honestly.

i started looking for perspectives that were different from my own, actively. not on tumblr or tiktok or instagram but through longer form media. youtube creators like jessie gender and milo stewart have been huge for me personally.

i also started college & enrolled in queer studies courses, actually adding a minor in LGBT studies. through these classes i have learned so much about our history as a community and what is actually important in activism. i also started reading theory, which while hefty and daunting at first, is more than worth it in the end.

conclusion

so yeah, not a transmed. not a tucute.

i dont give a shit whether you have dysphoria or not, whether you present in a way that doesn’t align with what’s expected of your gender, what name or pronouns you use. i dont even present fully masculine anymore, because clothes and makeup and jewelry dont have gender dude!!! theyre just for funsies!!!

i intend to keep educating myself & reading theory, news, history, and other works by trans creators because thats what matters to me!