#transition into not sucking

[oo-ooo-oooo-oo]

hey irie

irie

irie bo-byrie

irie irie irie

*deep breath*

IIIIIIIIIIIIRRRRRRRRRIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!

…bitch :3

[chrissy-kaos]

Would you go on a date with me?

[userdramas]

这条路的终点是我要失去你了，那告别之旅也是旅途啊。 The end of this path is that I will lose you, but the journey to farewell is nevertheless still a journey.

@usergif style swap: by @ruanbaijie in the style of @khaotunqs [insp] @asiandramanet apr creator bingo board ⎈ inspired by another creator + quote

[i-like-forcefem]

Cuties I’d like to mention: liking forcefem or other gender-blending kinks doesn’t invalidate your gender! You don’t want to be a girl just cuz you like forcefem, you like forcefem cuz you want to be a girl!!!!

I had this fear for so so long, it’s normal! “What if I only want this dress, or this skirt, or this makeup for kink”, I avoided touching myself in girl clothes just because I was so scared It’d make everything kink that I would be nothing but a “sissy”, but that wouldn’t (and won’t) happen!!! I like being forced into the role of a kinky-girl because I am kinky-girl!!!

So cuties please don’t let *any* kinks you have make you doubt who you are as a person!

[atlasisrq]

our DID symptoms have been worsening!

upside: hehe transition go brrrr :)

downside: wow cisDID ppl werent lying this SUCKS

[marsbotz]

whats ur fucking deal

[triple-pupil-but-nasty]

Light teasing.

[sillyratshenanigans]

[skeletonpendeja]

Semi annual transition recommendation.

It'll change your life for the better. I was a teenager in the first pic nearly a decade ago and was putting off transition for social reasons. I didn't start properly until senior year of highschool. It was rocky, slow, and annoying but now it's like I'm living a dream.

Chase that dream.

[astriiformes]

I obviously haven't even seen my chest yet but I am totally overcome with how incredible it feels already. I am a small person who had (had!!) a very large chest for someone my size and it was always so... present, even when I was binding (or attempting to).

But the gender euphoria I am getting from just. Looking down and seeing where my shirt falls (and it's a loose one for obvious reasons, I can't imagine what it will be like with tighter-fitting ones) and knowing that I am going to be so much happier in my clothes is enough to have me all emotional already. It feels so good. 😭

[chrissy-kaos]

Awww my switch died.. looks like you gotta catch me instead of some Pokémon 😜

[queerorthodoxy]

It will be beautiful not because everything will be perfect but because you fought hard to get there

[justsumtransdude2000]

So tired of bitches with zero credentials trying to tell me if I'm trans or not. Like, my gender identity has been carefully observed and confirmed by multiple people with PHDs, and I'm not sure you passed middle school. Fuck off.

[bijoumikhawal]

I hate to shake my can again, especially so soon after last time, but I'm tight on transportation money AGAIN and have to repair my car AGAIN (it had an unplanned problem I gotta fix asap and two more down the road that are less important). I'm more so concerned about making sure I can get to work this week since i dont have to worry about rent coming out of my check friday, next week shouldn't be a problem (beli ayin hara ptoo ptoo ptoo), which comes up to worrying about roughly $60-72. I'll have to shell out more for the mechanic and won't enjoy it but should be able to cover it (I was able to get the part last week on payments and my mom said she'd help split the cost on labor, which he guessed might run close to 400$ but hasn't been solid on), however I won't refuse extra help.

ko-fi.com/rosebijoumme

$0/72

[tinystepsforward]

ngl it makes me want to die a little bit that it's so often trans people who feel that sex is mutable but oppression is always-forever based on asab in ways that allow them to demand that information from other trans people. like it feels fucking bad. it feels bad when it's people holding up someone who posts a lot of selfies as transition goals to a degree they have to clarify what they have or haven't done or what "direction" they're going in, it feels worse when people are out there like "caster semenya is not tma" or whatever the fuck. i am, as always, not a trans woman, but here's a sentiment echoed by many of the trans women around me who log the fuck off, quoted directly from one: "people who draw a clear line where they say that semenya or khelif are tme and then call me tma are just calling me male at this point".

like i get it. i really do. we seek community and shared experiences, and we feel betrayed when people have less in common with us than we thought they did. [*more on this later.] but that's not those people's faults and my god in the case i'm seeing play out on twitter rn this poor person did absolutely nothing to intentionally mislead people, just posted pictures of their actual kid self. who looks a lot like i did, because shockingly enough "we can always tell" doesn't fucking work for trans people either!

on the one hand i move in intersex circles which are unapologetically welcoming in cis "dyadic" people with pcos, because it serves nobody to draw a clear line where mutilation or genetics or some ineffable childhood suffering are what make somebody intersex, especially when most of us (esp in places like nz) have never been karyotyped and are being treated for symptoms without a pinned-down cause anyway. the more of us there are the stronger we are, the more pressure we can exert on a medical profession which doesn't like to consider how common outliers are, how uneasy sex is at all. and then on the other hand there's dyadic trans people on the internet who've yelled me out of spaces because a couple of traumatised incarcerated trans women i worked with as a prison abolitionist assumed i was also a trans woman and i didn't immediately tell them my entire csa-involved history of being sexed in varying ways as an infant and child and/or exactly how big my phallus was at birth or where in my junk config my urethra lives so they could decide i was tme or whatever.

returning to the * for a related but not identical thought: i think presuming shared experiences leads to some fucked shit in general! "oh we all had a radfem phase" or "oh we all were channers" no we fucking weren't and it's particularly obnoxious when me & mine are trying to build trans community locally to organise and resist the growing wave of far-right backlash against our existence, and there's just white people in there on a spectrum from "straight up being antisemitic and trying to get the n-word pass" through "handwringing about how they need to make space for people who aren't politically correct" to "handwringing about how brown people are right to be mad at them but doing shit fuckall". and then the other fucking brown people in the space are on some identity politics shit where they're like "trans joy inherently excludes those of us who could get deported" or "big city white queers are killing us by being visible instead of going stealth bc it stirs up the discourse" or whatever the fuck i've heard pulled out this year. there's a bunch of reasons i primarily organise outside of trans spaces and that's one of them. i've never felt more alone in spaces where people claim we're all the same than being left as the brownest moderator or organiser in a space full of people to whom "this is a safe trans space" apparently means they get to abdicate all other responsibilities not to lapse into presumed shared patterns that are fucking racist or otherwise alienating. i've never felt more alone than surrounded by exclusively trans people who sort people into boxes and assume everyone in those boxes has the transition goals they have. like i was on cypro until it disagreed with me to the point of endocrine crisis and now i'm on t and at both those points people were so fucking presumptive or entitled to my reasons or journey or personal relationship w my body

literally just submitted on (and was invited to consult on) the nz law commission's review of the human rights act and like. it's straight up fucked how many nz trans people fully do not comprehend that any "sex assigned at birth" type definitions fundamentally exclude migrants who have no way of proving it and many intersex people who happen to have been reassigned later or many times or never assigned at all as a baby. we can't make law with this shit and that's why we have to have symmetrical protections for all genders/sexes/expressions/presentations, bc naming and defining a protected class here often leaves the people who already are left out from those shared experiences of marginalisation out in the cold when they face violence

[perilegs]

i'm trying to watch a trans guy critique some video game trans rep bc i'm interested in hearing more trans ppl talk about it. but he's very. i'm paraphrasing here but "why would anyone ever in a million years want their rpg character to have top surgery scars. isnt that a constant reminder to you and everyone around you about how you were born" and "you don't work on transitioning. you just need hormone treatment and possibly some--"