#transblogging

[astriiformes]

For anyone looking for a bit of good news -- yesterday the Minnesota Senate passed both a bill outlawing conversion therapy statewide and the trans refuge state bill that further reinforces our governor's executive order from several weeks ago. Both had already passed in the House, which means at this point all they need is the governor's signature.

The Minnesota House also passed a bill limiting the release of reproductive health care information, essentially stating the state will not cooperate with efforts by other states to prosecute people for receiving reproductive health care here in Minnesota. It will likely follow the others and get passed in the Senate soon.

I know this is particularly good news for Minnesotans, but I'm also heartened by the fact that two of the bills are very focused on making our state a sanctuary for individuals looking to find care here, particularly given the state of things in the states bordering us. I hope it's encouraging to some of you as well. This fight is ongoing and there are absolutely still victories happening, including ones I truly hope will spill over our borders and help others in need.

[aromantisk-fagforening]

every song is trans if you try hard enough

[xbxndoned--soul]

[astriiformes]

Oh I can weigh in on this some. When I went on testosterone my anxiety absolutely skyrocketed, which I was not expecting, and I asked other friends with anxiety about it I was frustrated to learn that it wasn't a common or expected side effect and I just seemed to be unusual in that regard (I'm on 3600mg daily of Gabapentin to control my anxiety though, which was historically almost impossible to medicate, so I have very extreme symptoms)

The good news is, it was something my body acclimated to, and only lasted for about a month. The bad news is, the same thing happened every time we upped my dose, so that might be something to keep in mind if you're tapering up to a higher dose of testosterone. But it did always fade eventually, so if you feel like you can stick it out, it may well be worth it.

Sending my sympathy and solidarity, it kind of sucks to have the thing everyone else is so effusively enthusiastic about wreck your mental health a little, but I promise you're not alone and that it's still entirely possible testosterone may be worth it for you in the long run!

Hey. You've thrown asks open to followers before and I don't have nearly the number of trans masc followers you do so I'm hoping you can help me out...

Twelve weeks on T. I have the genetic trade off of being ludicrously physically healthy and absolutely RIDDLED with mental illness - which I've done lots of therapy about and have been managing pretty well for the last ten years.

When I started T, my doctor said I would be less able to cry, and I was like 'great, emotional dysregulation sucks, I hate crying all the time'. What I didn't realize was that T would also, like, change ALL of the warning signs of an impending mental health crisis? Which I discovered... By having a mental health crisis. Tbh it's p terrifying after 25 years of living with this and suddenly I have no fucking clue how any of it works.

So. Like. Curious if there are trans mascs out there who could comment on how T changed their experience of anxiety / panic attacks? I think my crash might be panic attacks about the US election? (I'm in Canada but have a trans sibling in the South) But maybe it's something else?

Thanks for being generous with your space 🙏

Of course! Let's try to see if we can crowd-source some new observation tools for you. (Though, your crash is a very reasonable one, lbr.)

I wish I had anecdotal info to give you (all I can say is I think T has made my ADHD worse wrt memory issues, but I'm stabilized now), so throwing this out there to anyone who'd like to tack on with their experiences with anxiety and panic attacks.

[the-ghost-of-jason-todd]

thinking about the 'hate terfs'/'love trans people' distinction.

like... i don't get mad about the people who loudly denounce terfs. i like to see that, in fact. is it a little performative? well, sure, sometimes. you should also be uplifting trans voices and all that. but i think it's one of those things where it's like... there are different steps in the journey of trans acceptance and different parts of the struggle for trans rights. if someone is yelling at terfs, i will trust them over someone who stays silent. i will work with someone who stays silent over someone who is loudly transphobic. i will argue with someone who is loudly transphobic before i argue with someone who is VIOLENTLY transphobic. it's a spectrum. but the thing is... if all you do is yell at terfs and you don't uplift trans people, you have to understand that you will not be the first person i go to for certain kinds of safety or discussion.

it's a piece of the puzzle, but it isn't the whole picture. hating terfs has its place, and i'm right there with you, but there are also deeper, kinder ways to protect and help the trans community.

[casandra-antonio]

Convince me to fuck you in 2 words

[formerlyashkatom]

there was a take on my dash earlier that was basically 'wdym men aren't allowed to talk about their feelings, all men do is talk about their feelings, have you ever heard A Podcast, what loneliness epidemic shut the fuck up about it'

and yes, being a woman in Society is worse and more limiting in any number of ways, but as a trans man I gotta say I didn't understand just how bad and lonely it is for men until I transitioned.

it was really eye-opening seeing the way people reacted to me changing. friends I had previously exchanged emotional support with became more closed off. strangers became more indifferent or cautious. this is beyond the transphobic response of losing family and friends because I was trans - this was because even the people who were supportive of my transition had a set response for how to treat men in their head, and were acting according to that. and as someone who transitioned late and got to go through Sexism Hell, I can't fault that avoidance and arm's length distance.

still, at the same time, transitioning has been the loneliest thing I've ever done, and it feels taboo to say that in no small part because of 'lol who cares about men' narratives. it's been to the point where I've questioned whether I should have transitioned at all, now that I've smacked face-first into this wall. I can't imagine what it would have been like to grow up with it. I probably would have made a podcast as well just to talk to somebody without feeling like I was inflicting my presence on the unwilling.

I dunno. the further I get into transition, the more :S I feel about 'men need to shut up' narratives, but maybe that's just male privilege coming into play. maybe this is a post that should have stayed unposted because it's just a man whining about his feelings! but I've been having ~trans feels~ about this for a while now so it gets to go on my blog.

[i-am-the-balancing-point]

suddenly,, I understand

love any game that gives me the option to be the male or female version of the same character. like they’re trans. every time. hawke dragon age, eivor assassins creed valhalla…….transgender…

[miodinmio]

Wish I could go back in time and tell my 12 year old trans-in-denial-self a lot of things.

That it was okay to feel different.

That nothing was wrong with him.

That his mom couldn't care less if he was her only daughter or third son.

That nobody important to him would find him strange or odd.

That he shouldn't waste another 12 years being miserable instead of being happy, when life is already too short.

That he is still worthy of love and people will still want to be his partner even if he is a transman.

That the next apartment he would move into has mold in the shower and it will fuck with his lungs for two years.

Dear god stop eating hazelnuts because you are going to become allergic. Stop eating them. Also stop bloody eating tomatoes because they make you sick too you little brat.

[fleaworld2]

I deadass desrcibed my dysphoria to my therapist as "mild" once. I was sitting there with three binders on, like "eh it doesn't bother me THAT much..."

well it sure is bothering ur mf ribs dipshit! take that shit off and BREAVE.

[mitamicah]

This Ken *me* is trans :3

A silly idea I got a while ago x'D

[astriiformes]

Oh man I totally missed the anniversary of my initial top surgery last month. Partly because I had to have that second, follow-up one in October of last year due to complications and remember that one more vividly but. Still. One year of being flat for me.

[aromantisk-fagforening]

Not to be nerdy and queer, but imagine making a conlang with like 10 base genders (gender systems maybe?), where gender affects verbs and adjectives and stuff, also designing it for being easy to make language for your own genders (high variation between spelling of pronouns and adjective modification, unlike French).

[necromanticwhxre]

Hi, just out of curiosity, why does a transblog don’t like interactions from sissy blogs? I hope it‘s not offensive to ask, I‘m just not from this space and I was wondering. :)

hiihii its not offensive to ask! :) like anything its better to ask if unsure than remain ignorent i dont know if i can answer this in a way that will make sense but here it goes.. So this answer will depend on who you ask. While I will never kink shame anyone and what people get off on is completely upto them as long as its safe sane and concentual.

Sissy blogs and generally any sissy spaces on the internet is A LOT (not all) but a lot will use transgirls photos & posts in their fantasies Which while doesn't sound to bad on the surface, but the issue in my opinion boils down to what a sissy (generally means) is a Man dressing as a women often for humiliation purposes. Now if a sissy/blog posts a transwomen in their content, to me that says that the sissy does not see that trans women as a women..but as a man pretending to be a women so for me thats the Main reason i do not want any interaction from sissy blogs. The other issues is a lot of the sissyblogs will repost stolen content. A lot of people i know find sissy play mysoginistic as well...as in you find it humiliating to present as women? or presenting as a women is a punishment for you. (there are other examples) I will also say i know of a few trans people who started off in the sissy scene and through that realised they are trans, so i will never hate on a sissy person. like anything i wil say its not all sissies and sissyblogs but for me its easier to have a flat DNI I will also ask if any other people want to put their thoughts in on why they dont want sissy blogs or if your a sissyblog and want to put in why you want to access transblogs feel free Just keep it civil :)

[a-sentient-cup]

i realize it would've been more fair if i had seperate cis options but this is also the transblogging website so it probably wouldn't have altered the statistics

I thought of something funny

[strangenewgirls]

blew the minds of everyone in my office when one of my co-workers said "she doesn't like dick" and i replied "i don't mind dick as long as it's not a man's dick"

they were too speechless to be maliciously transphobic and i'll call that a win