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is your pfp ai

(personal)

No! I hate image generation with too much passion to ever even consider making anything let stand make it my pro

it's a random post I saw on Tumblr and saved to my phone a bit before getting active on the blog!

Back then this was never meant to become such a big thing- and once it picked up steam I kept wanting to make a custom pfp- but each attempt at it kept being too bad

And now it's grown on me a bit! But I'll need to change it sooner or later though as I don't have permissions from the artist

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This ask goes to some weird areas so no need to respnd or anything I don't believe the "it's justa fetish" stuff when it comes to queer but I've been struggling on whether I'm actually trans/genderfluid. I'm still a minor in my parents house and can't access anything femme to present myself with or any therpists(expensive) so for a while I just looked at before and after images of people to feel hope. But later on I started pleasuring myself to the idea of changing gender and afterwards the thoughts of being trans would, so I thought maybe it was just a fetish thing with me specifically but the idea would keep returning to me and I just repeat the process and the thoughts wuld go again. And I'm confused as I have expressed genuine interest in voice training and going on hormones but I'm not sure maybe this whole thing is just me repressing the idea being trans via that method. I was wondering what your thoughts on this would be?

(Personal gender advice- she is such a girl)

Gosh couple things first off, thank you for the ask I know it's scary! It's important to talk about these things and I'm proud you're taking this step

Secondly nothing discussed that you're dealing with is weird in the slightest (at least in my eyes), I've dealt with these fears myself! It's all perfectly natural

Hun I am extremely confident you'd fit in very nicely identifying as a woman! Like gender euphoria is sexually gratifying!

For me even the tamest forcefem still feels really hot because the fantasy of being seen as a girl- I got hard the fist (dozen) times I wore a skirt and back then I was incredibly afraid of the "its justa fetish" narrative so I always stricktly avoided doing anything kinky while in girly clothes

And like- Doing that for years was all well and good, I loved wearing skirts and just exisiting in them in the comfort of my room!

But I also could've pleasured myself in them back then and I'd be in exactly the same place I am today, it'd have been really hot too! I like feeling like a girl and cute a Lot

-And in the bottom of the post I'll also discuss why the fetish fear got so big for me (CW: Will talk about my first sexual fantasies at around 13? So when I was very young, I understand if it makes you uncomfortable, but this is all natural and I don't think avoiding it's discussion is healthy)

And back to you, seeing other women be what you could be- deriving pleasure from that, does not effect your gender identity and to me would seem another reason you might feel best if you start calling yourself a woman!

And gosh rereading the post better- It is not just a fetish thing for you if I read this post properly and see how you talk about it

Gender euphoria is sexually gratifying and the main thing I'd look for if someone is thinking of switching labels If you'd be happier as a girl be one!!!

Gosh I wish you all the luck and kindness in the world hun

(CW: Will talk about my first sexual fantasies at around 13? So when I was very young)

So, I was a dumb kid!

My recollection is quite bad in general so I do apologize for any mistakes

but I believe I was around 13 at the time, I should've had some education about sex and, but I believe it either failed to mention what masturbation was or I never understood the concept

And at that age, one day laying in bed late at night, I started thinking about a dress, more specifically the dress from Belle and the Beast

And for some reason I just got enamored with the idea of wearing it- hell actually being *forced* into it by someone else

And my body changing to so that I would fully match its curves

And, thats when I first started to realize my girl bits felt good, and I tried touching them yadida lots of dumb kid things happened (I still had no idea what masturbation was)

But, for like a solid couple months all I pleasured myself to was the idea of being turned into a girl, generally one of the disney princesses

I didn't know what I was supposed to like or what I was even doing- i just, did

It felt good to me

And that, doesn't make me doubt my gender identity (anymore at least, sure was afraid before) I've just realized that gender euphoria is sexually gratifying, I experience dysphoria (even if I got num to it and had a lot of major realization like "Wait guys like looking like they look????")

I would be happier living as a girl, even if I count the social negatives

And even if the social negatives would be too much for a full transition- all you need to identify as a girl, is to want to be one

If you'd be happy being seen as a woman

I whole heatedly encourage you to be one!

Take it slow

Start online! (maybe join the voice training server I talked about in earlier posts (tell your family and things your picking up voice training as a hobby to be a voice actor maybe (I had such a fascination with voice acting in the past myself, took so so long to realize why I wanted to change how I sound so badly)))

And be kind to yourself!

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you used to dance? 😮

(personal chat)

I did!! Just in my room as an excuse to wear femme clothes- but once my vacation is done I'm planing to get back into it taking official lessons and everything!

Dancing is such a lovely excuse to get all femmed up!!! Wonderful bit of excersizes and just so so fun as well! Like if they made rythem games for your whole body and its also an art form!

I was never any good though! (Like I was a beginner if you were very generous) but it was fun and if I keep doing it I will be someday!

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Fun fact- I came out as trans at school about two weeks after I started wearing skirts!

It was the final day of the semester, everyone had to give their end of block presentation- and by some magical quirk I was first!

So tension and spirits were high! Everyone gathered to celebrate this block of making games, the year leed giving a speech congragulating all the amazing work done- and I was up

Handed the mic to present first!

And I told everyone I was trans! (wew!)

And people cheered!!!!!

Gosh it felt so so so magical

My silly project was also well received and yeah!

You dont always need to get on stage to tell folks

But if you want to- what's stopping you :3

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What do you think would happen if I sneakily did your nails every night while you were sleeping for, let's say a month-

Every day you wake up you have a fresh set of cute nails!

Bright pinks, blues, and greens, sometimes even having cute decals or drawings!

Everyone around you starts to think of you as someone who wears (damn good) nail polish

And you to, would probably get used to it!

And then- what would happen, if the month rolls by, and I stop?

You wake up with no colour on your nails... That'd be sad wouldn't it?

The texture feels different, looking at your hands feels off, grabbing for something you're reminded how boring it is now

...and then would you try to solve this ache

By doing your nails yourself?

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Honestly need someone to forcefem me and then forcefem me again. Like go for take two or take three and see how femenine I can be. See how much estrogen and woman I can fit inside me.*

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I recently realised I wasn't as cis as I thought and I would be a lot happier presenting femme, but I have no idea what first steps to take. Any recommendations?

Skirts!!! My most beloved <3

Trying to wear one if you can could be a delight! (Matched with some leggings or tigh highs!) such an easy source of infinite euphoria!!!

And other then that a very big thing is telling people and being seen as a girl! I'd recommend doing as you already are~ and making a blog where you use she/her! Make friends that know you are and treat you femme

See you as the cutie you are!

And then you have longer term things like:

-Ask people from your country/state what steps to take for eventual trans care, just so you won't be surprised by high waiting lists if you choose to start hrt later (which I'd highly recommend! If you're in a progressive EU country get on a waiting list as soon as you're comfortable doing so!)

-start training with makeup! Or perhaps get a friend to give you your first make over!!

Make up is very difficult, but can work so so well to hide the places you feel most dysphoric about + just looks hot! Makes you confident! Even despite dysphoria you might have its just so much better when you have some eyeliner!

-Start voice training!!!

This'll also take a long while to get a hang of- but once you start sounding femme gosh it will be so so so worth it! Whenever I'm speaking and I realize for a moment "o-oh I might actually sound, at least the smallest bit, cute, right now" just made my whole day

And just imagine hoping into games voice chat (like vrchat or like... Marvel Rivals? No idea what people play these days) and being treated like a woman!

That'd make my whole month!!!

Plus I made the little server for training your voice you can join if you'd like 👉👈 (gosh I need to bring it up every chance I get just how delightful everyone who's joined truly is, the most adorable, talented passionate collection of girls I could wish for in a community like this! Its still starting up no idea where it will go, but the cuties whove joined this far are just so amazing I have all the faith in the world it will be something special!)

(also tell me if the link doesn't work!)

And that's about it!

I'm so so so proud of you Jade!!! I wish you all the best of luck in your journey exploring yourself!!! <3

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suggestions for feeling more girl-like?

my unpopular opinion on this is that it's really easy to fixate on how you present or what you see in the mirror, but what's actually gonna make you feel most like a woman is feeling like people treat you as one. the more time you spend with people who see you as yourself, the less the details will matter. trying to get yourself perfect first so no one can react the wrong way is a trap. i didn't stop hating my shoulders because my shoulders changed, i stopped hating my shoulders because it didn't seem to matter once all my friends and loved ones were showing me in our interactions that they saw me as myself. find your people.

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Not enough people turning shy boys into mindless inanimate mannequins to display cute girly clothes with proportions to match nowadays

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for me internet friendships are “we don’t talk all the time but I see you’re online and it makes me happy” and I really hope it’s like that for everyone

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I really like the "Estrogen is not a Uniquely Worse permenant thing" argument

Its just another way to show your body has been lived in!

Because everyone has that one scar that was compeltely preventable- but you dont really care much about anymore

A burn, a cut, a shipped tooth-

Sure it was silly, if you could get rid of the scar right away you would, it'll always be there, but it's not like you're losing any sleep over it

Its just there

A sign you lived!

But then why is estrogen seen as this unique terrifying permenant change?

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the maid dress does NOT stay on during sex. it will be folded neatly and put away so that it remains in pristine condition when i return to my duties