#cishet nonsense

[coolmaycroft]

I often think about the whole line that separates Frienship and romance and how that works from a cishet perspective.

From what I've gathered is that the line must be there because cishet relationships have this expectation of becoming something more: the whole marriage-family pipeline yadda yadda patriarchy thing.

And as a cis person there's a lot of expereinces that make you wary of threading that line: you fall in love with a friend and they don't like you back and then oops, the whole friendship fell apart. You cuddle with a friend and next thing you know they caught feelings for you. You think you're more than friends with someone and oh, suprise, this person has 5 other people that they treat the same and you suddenly feel replaceable.

And I know that attachemnt styles are a flimsy theory but they explain one of my observations very well: some people are just more detached and have it easy with ambiguity, but I do think cishet people lean to a more anxious-attachment style where they want that line well traced to avoid emotional hurt. I hang out mostly with cishet people and we've all had sucky expreinces with ambiguous relationships.

All this because again, there's the whole expectation of relationships fllowing a prescribed path of dating > marriage > family. A relationship that stays in that vague line of frienship-dating seems like a way of being stuck in life, and depending on the dynamic, even reprobable.

The cishet idea of romance and sex is fucking boring btw. The line between friendship and relationship is so artificial, it doesnt even really exist. And yet so much is supposed to change in the relationships dynamic once you make things "official". And then you cant even cuddle with your friends for some reason

[sillylilneurodivergent]

I find it weird how once a baby is literally an egg the parents just assume they are straight. They don’t even have to think about it. They just assume that if they are a boy they must like girls & vise versa but once a 6 year old figures out they’re bi then it’s “You’re too young to know your sexuality!” but then if they go back to their parents & say, “You’re right, I’m straight.” then it’s “Yep, I knew it was just a phase!” Like what? They’re too young to know they are bi but if they’re straight then it’s fine? H U H ?

[vavuska]

The super-heterosexual tendency of cinematic villains to have a nude guy in their pleasure dungeon

Casino Royale (2006), dir. by Martin Campbell, with Daniel Craig as James Bond and Mads Mikkelaen as Le Chiffre

This should have been Will Graham - we all know that

[justsumtransdude2000]

So tired of bitches with zero credentials trying to tell me if I'm trans or not. Like, my gender identity has been carefully observed and confirmed by multiple people with PHDs, and I'm not sure you passed middle school. Fuck off.

[wolf-tail]

This is the straightest thing I've ever seen

[olsonholloway]

Stitch is not only an alien he is a fucking scientific experiment and it’s a little insane to make him hetero and give him a girlfriend that looks like his fraternal twin, literally just a pink fem version of himself. Why does he need a romantic partner at all. Seriously, unadulterated heteronormative silliness. In fact it’s awfully presumptuous to say “he” in the first place. Stitch is not native to our world. Stitch should not have to follow our made up gender norms. Stitch deserves better.

[nando161mando]

[socialjusticeangel]

had a conversation with my cishet MALE friend about how it sucks that lesbians are basically just considered a porn category and the amount of men who jerk off to that shit.

he told me, and i quote. "well, every man has probably fantasized about two women going down on each other and making out for him"

that is probably the worst thing ive ever been told. genuinely insulting. there are records of men physically assaulting sapphics in the streets. there was a report awhile ago about a man chasing down two girls asking them to "put on a show for him" its a genuine problem.

yet he says that shit?! i just poured my heart out about how awful it feels for our (sapphic) relationships to be so sexualized by the opposite sex is awful and he just says that?! im so mad rn oh my god

[here-i-remain]

A straight man? On tumblr? You gahbbikiddimimah

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

Day 193847482097637383 of asking cishets why men punching their girlfriend's Squishmellows and other plushies is funny.

[noballoonsinspace]

“women say they prioritize humor and intellect and personality over looks yet every girl I know has a good looking dumb unfunny asshole boyfriend mannn nice guys like me just can’t catch a break” ooohhhghgghhhhh you pooooooooooor baaaaaaaaby oh noooooooo :(((( the injustice !!! cruel world !!! :( :( :(

[cryptidanathema]

Honestly I'm lucky enough that I can largely forget that societal gender roles exist until I'm really jarringly reminded of it. Like my fuckin good ole boy boss started joking around pretty much out of nowhere that I could try and beat him to death and his dad would be pissed if he so much as laid a finger on me in return and it was just really sudden, random and uncomfortable?

Fellas, if a woman is trying to end your life all of that "don't hit women" shit goes right out the door ok? Stay alive.

[mx-loar-tev]

Sometimes I think I'm not actually bi, that I only like girls and not guys.

But, no. It's just that heterosexual couples in media suck big times and that I don't recognise myself in those portrayals. Also those male love interest are either bland or toxic or both. Meh.

[nrhodact]

I miss when people that genuinely liked "tomboys" talked about them instead of insufferable weebs that only like the idea of "tomboys" so they can "correct" them into feminine house wives.

[my-cursed-brain]

Something that one of my cishet friends just can't seem to understand is how safety comes first when you're queer. She keeps arguing with me about how my family wouldn't kick me out or be mad at me being lesbian, but the point is that neither of us could possibly know that with complete certainty. I was outed a few months ago and my mother said bad things to me. Thankfully she doesn't know everything, but now I have to be extra cautious. "Safety first" is an absolute rule of life when you're queer, and people don't have the right to argue about that. If you're cishet, I'm begging you to respect the precautions that your queer friend(s) takes to keep themself safe. With all due respect, you do not understand the fear that we constantly live in. We just want to live safe and happy lives.

[i-oooo]

Trans day of visibility:

The best thing about my gender* is that with my current presentation I get ZERO cat calls and/or horny messages from cishet guys in my DMs.

What. A. Blessing.

*trans and nonbinary, agender cupcake, thank you for asking.