#trans man chandler bing

[nickeldean]

-- March, 1987 --

"Hey, Chandler," Ross says, leaning up against the locker beside Chandler's. He'd been clinging to Chandler lately, which made more sense the more Chandler thought about it. They'd been friends since middle school, and now it was senior year, and they were planning to go to the same college, yeah, but they were getting vastly different degrees and Ross never was very good at making friends. Not that Chandler was great at it either.

Chandler sucks in a deep breath through her nose and slams her locker, leaning back against it once it's closed. "What is it now, Ross?" she asks, wishing she had a cigarette based on the look on Ross' face.

"Well," Ross sighs, "You know about the Prom, and how I haven't found a date yet," he trails off, looking over at Chandler.

Chandler snorts. "Oh God, good. Prom sucks, man, I mean, who wants to dress up like that anyway? I'm just going to stay home and watch whatever's on, probably. I think there's a Star Trek re-run tonight, if you wanna swing by," she offers, raising her eyebrows at Ross.

He only groans in response. "You know I have a math test tomorrow, and my mom will kill me," Ross says, "She'll kill you too, y'know."

"Fine, fine, whatever," Chandler relents, "So you don't want to watch Star Trek with me and you want to go to Prom? Who the hell are you?"

Ross shrugs, looking down at his feet. "I was kinda hoping you'd like, come with me to Prom. And we could watch Star Trek after on my DVR, you know I've got the good episodes on tape, and maybe like, just have fun?" Ross rambles, refusing to look at Chandler as he offers.

Chandler laughs, a full-on, throaty, uninhibited laugh, hands on her knees from its power. "Wow, good one Ross, really had me there," she says, rolling her eyes and leaning back again, chuckling some more.

"I'm not kidding, Chandler."

They both fall silent.

"Ross," Chandler starts, nervously laughing, "You know why we're best friends, right?"

Nodding, Ross answers, "We both like Star Trek and have been bullied our whole lives, yeah," he trails off, not liking the look on Chandler's face.

Chandler shakes her head and shrugs. "Not exactly, really," she mutters, "I mean, I'm your friend because you don't care that I'm weird. I smoke and I dress like I'm straight out of the Dollar Store Men's Warehouse, and you don't care."

"Well," Ross interjects, "I wouldn't say Men's Warehouse. I'd say you still look pretty, it's not like you come off as masculine or anything," he laughs to himself, but Chandler's not laughing.

"Ross, I'm not going with you to Prom."

"Why not?" Ross asks, clearly annoyed.

"Because," Chandler sighs, "Because I think I'm a lesbian."

Ross goes quiet for a moment, tapping his foot on the dirty school floor, thinking. "Well," he starts, "We wouldn't have sex after. Or kiss. You could just show up in a nice dress and we'd pretend. We could watch Star Trek after, even," Ross begs, and Chandler knows why. If they go to the Prom, and both have dates, even if they're each other, they might not be losers for once in their lives.

Chandler forces a laugh. "I'm not the dress type. Kinda butch, I guess. Been thinking of cutting my hair, actually," she admits, unsure where the line between them is, when Ross will tell her to shut up, yell and tell her she can't be a lesbian, she can't, and even though they live in New York, she's not safe. She's not safe anywhere, not with Reagan in the goddamn White House and not with Bush set to succeed him.

Ross must sense Chandler's panic, setting a hand on her shoulder gingerly and shrugging. "We are losers. Maybe you could come with me in a suit? I've got one from a couple years ago that might fit you. My parents probably wouldn't care if you took it, they love you," Ross suggests under his breath, and even if he's ashamed of Chandler in some way, he's still offering her a lot, more than anyone else has before, and so she nods, shrugging beside her friend.

"I guess I'd go to Prom with you, then," Chandler says, "But only if I get to pick out which episode we watch afterwards."

Ross smiles. "Deal."

[ghostboyhood]

i think growing up watching primarily shows and movies from the early 2000s and 90s definitely did something to my young (unknowingly) dysphoric ass bc all these guys would make me cry i was so jealous of them

[lilqu33rboi]

people who are "so gender" according to me, an androgynous transmasc person

aled last (Radio Silence character)

dallon weekes (musician)

remus lupin (Harry Potter character)

charlie spring (Heartstopper character)

leif donnely (Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist character)

chandler bing (FRIENDS character)

agari himiko (Komi Can't Communicate character)

peter parker (Spider Man: Homecoming character)

jake peralta (Brooklyn Nine-Nine character)

feel free to rb if you agree with any of these / want to add more :))

[genderimpala]

all the kids who wanted to be shapeshifters as a child. how’s the genderqueerness going for you?

[witchthewriter]

𝐇𝐨𝐠𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐇𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐝

Like I did with the moral alignments, I thought I would make a post about why and how I sort characters into Hogwarts Houses! There are also quizzes so you can figure it out for yourself as well. I go into detail about each House, what they represent, their background and what it means to be sorted into a certain House. 

I hope you enjoy!

*just because I’m talking about Harry Potter doesn’t mean I align with the transphobic views of J.K. Rowling. There is no room for transphobia on my page, and I support the trans and LGBTQIA+ community*

Figuring out which Hogwarts House you belong to has been around since the HP series came out. But I think there’s more to it than simply choosing to be in ‘the brave house’ or ‘the smart house.’ I think it reveals a lot about a person - or rather, a large aspect. 

Here are a few tests for you to try, comment below what you got!

Test 1 (the ‘official’ Wizarding World quiz)

Test 2 (from IDRlabs, they have other personality quizzes as well!)

Test 3 (Here’s the full Pottermore quiz. The 1st quiz will only have a few questions, so that’s why I don’t think it’s fully accurate to take)

Test 4 (A really good one from Quotev, the questions/answers aren’t obvious)

Gryffindor: Do what is right. Hufflepuff: Do what is kind.  Ravenclaw: Do what is wise. Slytherin: Do what is necessary.

𝐆𝐑𝐘𝐅𝐅𝐈𝐍𝐃𝐎𝐑

“ Where dwell the brave at heart, their daring, nerve and chivalry set Gryffindors apart “

𝐸𝑙𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡: Fire

𝐹𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑏𝑦: ‘Bold Gryffindor, from wild moor’, Godric Gryffindor. 

Dwelled at Godric’s Hollow

Was an accomplished dueller

A fair man, he believed that any child who displayed magical abilities before their 11th birthday should be able to attend Hogwarts.

Gryffindor was the original owner of the Sorting Hat

Gryffindor also had a sword made, which would present itself to any true Gryffindor in a moment of need.

He was allegedly the best friend of Slytherin before he left Hogwarts

Godric will always be known for his accomplished skills in battle, and his fight against Muggle discrimination in the wizarding world.

𝐸𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑠𝘩𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑠:

Courage

Bravery

Standing up for what you believe in - even if your voice shakes. 

Caring about the greater good 

Daring/Bold 

Having a deep need to do the right thing 

Standing out from the crowd

𝐶𝘩𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑡𝘩𝑎𝑡 𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝘩𝑖𝑠 𝐻𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑒:

Lucy Pevensie

Thor

Mulan

Katniss Everdeen

Merida

Batman/Bruce Wayne

Buffy Summers

Chandler Bing

𝐇𝐔𝐅𝐅𝐋𝐄𝐏𝐔𝐅𝐅

“ You might belong in Hufflepuff, Where they are just and loyal. Those patient Hufflepuffs are true. And unafraid of toil. “

𝐸𝑙𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡: Earth

𝐹𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑏𝑦: ‘From valley broad,’ Helga Hufflepuff

A kind and warm woman who believed in loyalty, patience and hard-work as the best abilities a person can possess

Was a brilliant cook and had remarkable skills for preparing food. Her recipes are still used in Hogwarts to this day.

She brought the house-elves to Hogwarts

Owner of Hufflepuff’s Cup

She was the best friend of Rowena Ravenclaw

𝐸𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑠𝘩𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑠:

Loyalty

A need for justice. A lot of the Hufflepuff and Gryffindor traits are intertwined, but the difference is that Gryffindors don’t need to know a person to feel the need to look out for them. 

Patient 

Believe in fairness and equality (Helga Hufflepuff was the only founder who believed everyone should have a fair chance in being taught)

Accepting

Thinks about other people more than themselves

Would do anything at all, for family 

𝐶𝘩𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑡𝘩𝑎𝑡 𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝘩𝑖𝑠 𝐻𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑒:

Edmund Pevensie

Antman

Jay Gatsby

Okoye

Samwise Gamgee

Michael Scott

Alfred Pennyworth

Joey Tribbiani

Phoebe Buffay

𝐑𝐀𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐋𝐀𝐖

“ Or yet in wise old Ravenclaw, If you’ve a ready mind, Where those of wit and learning, Will always find their kind. “

𝐸𝑙𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡: Air

𝐹𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑏𝑦: ‘From Glen,’ Rowena Ravenclaw

A sharp and intelligent woman

She wanted to make Hogwarts the finest wizarding school in the world, teaching only those with the highest intelligence 

Rowena wore a diadem that was said to grant wisdom to the wearer, however, Rowena’s own daughter grew jealous of her mother’s incredible intelligence. Helena Ravenclaw stole her mother’s diadem and ran away, a fact that Rowena kept hidden from her fellow founders even when she fell ill.

Wanting to see Helena before she died, Rowena sent a man to bring Helena home. Unfortunately, that man was the Bloody Baron, who was in love with Helena, and stabbed her in a rage when she refused to come home.

 After Helena was tragically killed, legend tells us that Rowena Ravenclaw died of a broken heart. 

She was the best friend of Helga Hufflepuff

𝐸𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑠𝘩𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑠:

Intelligence

Wisdom

Witty

Open-minded - don’t mix well with traditional, close-minded people. Ravenclaws see the big picture, they think about what things could be, rather than what things are. 

They think outside of the box, they don’t like being confined by rules or traditions. 

Unique 

Individualistic/Original

Actually very intuitive

𝐶𝘩𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑡𝘩𝑎𝑡 𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝘩𝑖𝑠 𝐻𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑒:

Susan Pevensie

Sherlock Holmes

Bruce Banner

James Bond

Annabeth Chase

Mary Poppins

Gandalf

Monica Geller

Ross Geller

𝐒𝐋𝐘𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐍

“ Or perhaps in Slytherin, You’ll make your real friends. These cunning folk use any means to achieve their ends. “

𝐸𝑙𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡: Water

𝐹𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑏𝑦: ‘From Fen’, Salazar Slytherin

He believed strongly that only wizards of pure blood 

This belief caused a big rift between the founders, especially Gryffindor, which led to the depature of Salazar 

Despite his flaws, Salazar was a talented wizard, skilled in Legilemency and Parseltongue

Before he left, however, he created the Chamber of Secrets

𝐸𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑠𝘩𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑡𝑠:

Ambition

Determination

Cunning

Traditional

Strategic

Willing to do whatever it takes to achieve their goals; even using others for their gain. 

Not all Slytherins use these traits for personal gain, however, because the founder was evil - doesn’t mean every Slytherin is. 

Resourceful

Cleverness

Family means a lot to them

Desires respect

𝐶𝘩𝑎𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑡𝘩𝑎𝑡 𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝘩𝑖𝑠 𝐻𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑒:

Peter Pevensie

Natasha Romanoff

Daenerys Targaryen

Lady MacBeth

Wednesday Addams

Selina Kyle/Catwoman 

Rachel Green

Harley Quinn

[maverickcalf]

I'd like the character meme for Joey Lucas from TWW, Chandler Bing, and Ray Ferrier, please.

Joey Lucas

Sexuality Headcanon: I never really thought about it. Pan maybe? Gender Headcanon: Cis Woman... Yeah, I think so. A ship I have with said character: Joey x Josh A BROTP I have with said character:... low-key Joey and Sam A NOTP I have with said character: Joey and Al Kiefer A random headcanon: Wears headphones sometimes and lip-reads people when they think she isn't listening. General Opinion over said character: A+ I wish she was a regular she is so cool

Chandler Bing-

Sexuality Headcanon: BI! Bi DIASTER! Gender Headcanon: i do have trans man headcanons tbh A ship I have with said character: Chandler x Joey A BROTP I have with said character: Chandler x Ross, they are brothers A NOTP I have with said character: Rachel and Chandler, I dunno they are just friends A random headcanon: General Opinion over said character: I want his gender

Ray Ferrier-

Sexuality Headcanon: I have never thought about it... because HE has never thought about it. Gender Headcanon: Cis Man. Again he is just too tired to try anything else A ship I have with said character: NONE A BROTP I have with said character: NONE A NOTP I have with said character: NONE A random headcanon: He would have handled things better in the movie if he was on a normal sleep schedule. That can fuck a man up. He is pissed because he is sleepy! General Opinion over said character: Honestly I can't put him into any au in my head, which is why the ships are nothing at the moment.

[detectivehoodie]

really long, personal rant about Matthew Perry.

I found out about Matthew Perry's passing a few hours ago. I'm absolutely devastated because even though I know they aren't the same person, Chandler Bing has meant so much to me over the course of my entire life. My parents have watched Friends around me ever since I was little, so much so that my siblings and I would recognize and try to send letters to the characters as if they were real people, because we didn't understand the divide between fiction and reality yet. Chandler was always my favorite because he was funny, but as I got older, I found myself relating to him heavily. The episode where he tried to express his femininity more and the others made fun of him for it really resonated with me. And all of the jokes about him being gay, or having a certain "quality" to him, or being effeminate, helped me realize what toxic masculinity looked like, because even as a child I knew that those jokes aged very poorly, and I didn't even know what "gay" meant, really. Eventually, I figured out I was trans. Chandler was a comfort to me, because even though he was awkward and sarcastic and not traditionally masculine, he was a man, and I knew that at least in those aspects, I could find a safety with his character. Friends has been a part of my life in the background for as long as I can remember, and it means so much more to me than I ever realized. Matthew's comedic talent, his stories, his struggles, and the heart and soul that he poured into Chandler Bing, will never leave me. Rest in Peace.

[shreksflamingknob69]

Thursday, 20th December 2022

thoughts about my gender today:

it’s gotten to the point where i watch romantic gay porn to imagine myself being one of those two men.

the knowledge that i have breasts makes me want to cry and every time someone addresses me as ‘miss [last name]’ it feels like a punch into my guts.

but i don’t have to accept that i might be a trans man if i just keep shoving it down and tell myself i can at least wait until my mum dies one day because the thought of my mother, who is my only family, dying is easier to stomach than the thought of having to come out as transmasc (which i’m not. i’m not i’m not i’m not)

so i’ll just keep reading trans!dean x trans!benny lafitte fics and writing trans!chandler bing x unlabelled!joey tribbiani and watching brokeback mountain.

and i’ll keep shoving it down. because maybe it’ll go away. maybe, if i just wait long enough, if i just hate myself enough, if i just hurt myself enough, this is going to go away.

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

The original transbian

[a-system-of-nerds]

Oh, Chandler-feels are hitting hard. Think we need to write a whole big thing about him one of these days.

[morphean42]

I’m transmasc which means I’m constantly stuck between wanting to dress like Chandler Bing and wanting to dress like Klaus Hargreeves

[gaytedlasso]

You ever get to the brink of a nervous breakdown because you learned that Chandler Bing was originally meant to be gay?

[mogai-headcanons]

Chandler Bing from Friends is an autistic transmasculine allogreyro bi turian who’s still unlearning a lot of internalized queerphobia, and he’s in polycule with Joey Tribbiani, a pansexual man, Phoebe Buffay, an autistic omnipomorose pomogender trans genderqueer woman with ADHD and PTSD, Rachel Green, a bisexual woman, and Monica Geller, a bisexual woman with OCD who still sometimes struggles with her past eating disorder!

Within their polycule, Chandler is dating Joey and Monica, Joey is dating everyone aside from Monica, Phoebe and Rachel are dating everyone aside from Chandler, and Monica is dating everyone aside from Joey! They’re all open to casual dating outside of each other, and they feel that, if someone else came along that one or more of them felt strongly enough towards, they’d be open to them joining the polycule!

dni transcript here

[fictionkinfessions]

I don’t think I’ll ever admit this to anyone but this blog, but I’m chandler bing. I was a bi trans man, and my wife Monica was trans as well. Love that gal. Miss my friends a bunch.

[torley]

Chandler Bing from Friends is an autistic transmasculine allogreyro bi turian who’s still unlearning a lot of internalized queerphobia, and he’s in polycule with Joey Tribbiani, a pansexual man, Phoebe Buffay, an autistic omnipomorose pomogender trans genderqueer woman with ADHD and PTSD, Rachel Green, a bisexual woman, and Monica Geller, a bisexual woman with OCD who still sometimes struggles with her past eating disorder! Within their polycule, Chandler is dating Joey and Monica, Joey is da Consumer Culture https://begendered-mogai.tumblr.com/post/655016577447690240/chandler-bing-from-friends-is-an-autistic

[quillsink]

who's chandler bestie?

BESTIE YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE JUST UNLEASHED

So you’ve probably heard of Friends right, the 90s american sitcom everyone’s watched, this shit

So Chandler is one of the characters in this show! He’s the dude on the left :D

So his full name is Chandler Muriel Bing and he’s played by Matthew Perry! He’s one of the main six friends in the show and he is very hot and also he’s very gender

So basically he grew up in a pretty weird household—his mom writes trashy novels with a ton of sex stuff and earns money from that. When he’s ten, his dad comes out as gay and his parents get a divorce—his dad fucks off to LA and basically becomes a drag queen, and his mother dumps him in a boarding school and continues writing novels!

Chandler meanwhile is insecure as fuck, desperate for any sort of approval or affection, and now fucked up by his parents splitting up! At age ten he starts smoking to cope, and he struggles with smoking his entire life

Due to his parents splitting up bc his dad was gay, he subconsciously associates being gay with the shit his parents pulled on him and turns out to be a homophobic piece of trash

Oh also as a kid he frequently walked in on his father in weird sexual situations with men and also his dad used him for dance routines and stuff—It’s a bit unclear and he doesn’t mention it often but it’s clear Chandler’s childhood was fucked up and his dad wasn’t the best—

So yes anyways to cope with all this he became really sarcastic and also funny (he’s so funny lmao) but yeah! He’s known for his humour and sarcasm

Anyways he goes to college and befriends Ross Geller, who’s the brother of Monica Geller, and her best friend is Rachel, and that’s how the gang begins to form!

Chandler’s really insecure so he basically clings to Ross lmfao, he also sucks at dating and all that shit (I theorise it’s bc he saw his parents relationship go to hell and he’s scared smth similar will happen to him) and anyways yeah he gets through college and he gets a job as a data processor!

Chandler doesn’t rlly have a job he hates or loves he just works as a data processor lmao

Anyways-

So after college he moves into an apartment across Monica’s and Ross has a house nearby, and Phoebe, a girl Monica meets, becomes her roommate, and then Chandler’s looking for roommates and he meets Joey Tribbianni, an actor, and they become roommates :D This is Chandler and Joey (i ship them lmaooo)

Anyways did I mention Chandler is fucked up and bigoted-

So yeah I like to ignore canon and pretend he’s bi and trans and just live in fanfic universe but unfortunately in canon Chandler is quite fucked up!

He makes a few transmisogynistic jokes, calls a man a “man slash woman” when he wears makeup, the typical stuff, also low-key homophobic, and also lesbophobic (ugh) he’s the typical cishet guy fetishising wlw yknow that guy? Yeah that’s Chandler and I hate it. He’s the type of guy to be homophobic and then watch wlw porn and I’m going to hit him over the head with a chappal istg yeah he’s fucked :/ He had so much POTENTIAL i hate canon so much i’m just gonna binge read gay chandler fics and pretend he wasn’t a piece of shit lmao-

I totally see Chandler as bi and very repressed, 99% of the fandom does, he was written to be gay but they made him straight at the last minute ugh

Reasons why he’s gay-

Have you SEEN him and joey together HAVE YOU SEEN THEM OH MY GOD

When his coworker thought he was gay and tried to set him up with a guy he found out who the guy was and immediately said “well, he’s no Brian,” (another guy) and proceeded to say he could totally get Brian to date him

He kissed a guy in a bar once and when Ross brought it up he was like “In my defence, it was dark, and he was a VERY PRETTY GUY!”

He comments multiple times on attractive guys to the point where the girls stare at him weirdly 

One example is when he sees a pic of a guy Phoebe shows him and goes “WOOOAH” and then immediately goes “dont tell my girlfriend I said that-”

Come on this man is Not Straight

Anyways I sorta went on a whole rant about him lmfao, but yeah that’s my boy Chandler!!