#trans label is also an umbrella gay label is also an umbrella but lesbians?

[velvetvexations]

so the transfeminized subject is just a faggot? is there a difference between the experience of a gay man and a transfem?

That's a very good question, anon!

The TL;DR is that yes, there are differences between the experiences of trans women and cisgay men. However, there's much, much more overlap than some trans women are willing to admit for the sake of the idea that transfeminine oppression is based on being accurately percieved as women by transphobes.

Gay men went through much of the same experiences and still do, albiet to a lesser degree now that gay rights have come so far and cishet society has finally started to recognize that gay men and trans women are not the same thing. It hasn't always been that way, though, and homophobia and transmisogyny have a close relationship.

Even things like futanari are, yes, transphobic, and transmisogynistic, but also rooted in the fact that people who consume that kinna content think everyone with a penis is a man and therefore they need to come up with an imaginary concept that gets around that - it is equally the fear of being homosexual as much if not even more than it is a desire to erase trans women, who before the 2010s were largely considered essentially synonymous with gay men by cis people, who were not really actively thinking about trans women as a concept when they displaced their desires to suck cock onto subjects they considered appropriate.

This kinna not-even-remembering-you-exist form of transphobia is very well-known to transmascs but I feel like hyper-visibility of trans women in the modern era has made some completely lose the plot and come to the conclusion that all oppression revolves entirely around an active hatred of some Platonic form of trans woman that objectively exists on some plane of existence.

It's certainly what it seems like when they insist that TERFs hate us only because they just naturally absorbed all the hate for trans women in the media back in like, the 80s, I guess. Bossom Buddies was basically The Elder Protocols of Zion for trans women, if you think about it.

Orrrrr...maybe TERFs have genuine beliefs, regardless of how immoral and illogical? I've seen people who call themselves transfeminists say "TERFs didn't start hating trans women by hating men" and like, yes, they did, you fucking idiot! That doesn't mean trans women are men, it just means TERFs are incorrectly percieving us! Why is it so difficult to say TERFs are wrong? Why do you need TERFs to be secretly coming to the right conclusions and just lying about it?

And don't tell me "well this one time a TERF praised her husband." TERFs are also hypocrites and especially the straight ones, I cannot believe people are so unwilling to get that either. Well, I promise you, if you can stop crowing about transmisogynistic transmasc lesbians and admit to yourself it's mostly the cis lesbians that don't like us, you'll find that the gay TERFs tend to have purer ideology in that regard.

I'm kinna getting off on a tangent here, because the ask was about gay men, and I'm also not saying "androphobia," as applied to men who are every kinna privileged that a man can be, exists as an axis of oppression. But the way trans women are oppressed is actually pretty consistant with the belief that those oppressers wrongly see trans women as men, whether that be as nebulously queer faggots or, in the case of TERFs, who are a very unique case due to being an oppressed group displacing their fears onto an even more oppressed group, cis men.

So, transmisogyny as a distinct thing from other forms of oppression exists, and has always existed, but that was never dependent on actually understanding the people that were being stepped on. "Queer" is my favorite term for using as an umbrella label precisely because it was appried so broadly. People did not, in the past, take out a card to refresh themselves on which queers they hated in which order. A queer was a queer and a queer AMAB was a faggot, or what annoying people call "the transfeminized subject."

Now it's different. Now, finally, since gay marriage was legalized and queer culture has become mainstream and everyone knows our own words we use for ourselves and how we compare to one another, cis gay people have some grace granted to them by people who choose to hate trans people more. But that wasn't the case before, and considering trans women and gay men the same concept before meant they previously recieved the exact same treatment.

Gay rights and acceptance of cis gay people are further ahead than it is for trans people, and while there were still differences in some of the details in the past, it's in the present that you can especially see a gap in treatment between cisgay men and trans people AMAB. Even today, however, it's ridiculous to act like the privilage cisgays have is somehow universal, when acceptance of gay people is still highly conditional, limited, and depending on the time and place. Homophobia can still, to this day, manifest in ways that some trans women claim only happens to trans women, such as predatorjacketing.

And oh, man, speaking of different times and places, someone please ask the Crown Prince of Saudi Arabia his opinion. Would you feel 'treated like a woman' if they executed you for identifying as one rather than for being a cis man who has sex with other men? Because they kill people for both.

Iran is, weirdly enough, a T without the LGB country,* and I'd love to see someone try to explain that with the "trans women are taxonomically women because they're treated worse than all men" framework.

I'm sure that despite my disclaimer at the top, you'll take all this to mean that I'm saying cisgay men and trans women aren't treated differently. Again, though: I'm saying there's a lot of overlap, especially up until the mid-2010s, which is still fairly recent. This useful for examining the origin of transmisogynistic belief systems. If you just accept that you're a girl because you know you are and are at peace with it being an internal thing, the existence of the iconically predatorjacketing Boys Beware (1961) is not a crushing blow to your sense of womanhood.

*with too many asterisks to fit into one asterisk, but the point stands that they allow transitioning while homosexuality still carries the death penalty

[pageofheartdj]

That awkward moment when you are like 'AM i lesbian?' but then you remember lesbian community and you just 'ah no gotta figure out what else can i be'.

[mayonesamitch]

Queerness In Ninjago (Spoiler alert, it's very queer)

Contains spoilers

I honestly don't see the queer side of Ninjago being talked about enough. Probably because half of the fandom are immature homophobic people but that's not gonna stop me writing a whole post about it on Tumblr that probably no one is gonna see. I'm gonna be looking at specific characters and at the canon part of it. I do have my own headcanons and stuff but I'm gonna try to forget about those for the sake of this post.

First, let's start out with a character who is almost 95% canon to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, Sally. She's a side character and doesn't play much of a role in the series after The Benefit of Grief but I feel like she's still worth mentioning. She has the progress pride flag on her guitar and the back of her dad's van which shows that she's definitely a supporter.

You can also see the bisexual flag on her guitar case, which tells us that she's bisexual! They don't do much about with it after this but it's still good to have some representation, even if it's not a big part of the story. This is probably the only instance where a character has had their sexual orientation shown in Ninjago.

The episode where we see her in the most, The Benefit of Grief, can be viewed as an allegory of coming out, which I touch more on here, but in case you're too lazy, I'll just explain how here. The basic premise of the episode is her running away from home because she wants to move to Ninjago City and get big in the music industry. However after a while she starts to feel guilty about it, but I'd afraid to go back in fear that her parents won't forgive her. With the help of Zane she makes the decision to go back home with her parents. Her parents forgive her and woo yay happy ending.

This episode can be taken as a coming out experience. Think about it. You hide your sexual orientation/gender identity from your family, friends, or others in your life. You feel guilty about it but also afraid to come out, out of fear that they won't accept you. It's a pretty good allegory. It most likely wasn't intentional but it will always be in my head because how can you write such a good allegory like that with a canon queer character as the main character and not calm it intentional? That's all that I have to say about Sally though.

Now let's get started with these 2 girlies. They competed in the Terra Technica Dance-Off in season 12, Prime Empire. They were heavily treated like a lesbian couple in the episode. So heavily that the episode got banned in a few places around the world. Tommy Andreasen said that it was up to the fans to decide so though it wasn't really confirmed it's heavily implied. They were only side characters so we don't get to see much of them after this episode but it shows how Lego will be willing to add some gay in the show.

I've been talking about sexual orientation for some time now it's time we talk about gender-queer characters (Gender-Queer is an umbrella label which applies to genders outside the male/female gender binary like non-binary, bigender, pangender, genderfluid, ect.) in Ninjago. One of the Algae Farmers in Dragons Rising have the Non-binary flag attached to them. The person who voices them (Niah Davis) Is also Non-binary. The character didn't have much of a role but it's still super cool to see. (I'm trans so of course I was so happy when I saw it being explicitly showed like this)

The Source Dragon of Life is also non-binary. Which is another character voiced by Niah Davis. The dragon uses they/them pronouns throughout the show and was later confirmed in a tweet. This character actually does play a big role in the series and is the source of Lloyd's power. (Which means Lloyd is non-binary too. /J) They'll also most likely have a big role in season 3 when that comes out. So is every character Niah Davis voices non-binary? Heck yeah!

Now these next 3 instances of queerness in Ninjago are very minor but they include 2 instances of 2 male characters kissing and a rainbow sidewalk. Now, some can argue that the sidewalk can be unrelated to the LGBTQ+ community but it was changed to be a white sidewalk in some places in the world, so it was very intentionally to be LGBTQ+. Some may also argue that the 2 male characters kissing can just be a man and a masculine woman but Ninjago very rarely adds masculine woman, so yes, it's like 99.9% 2 men kissing in both instances. Which isn't much but is still showing that Lego isn't afraid to add some gay in the show.

Now I wanna talk about Jay. Before I hear anyone talk about his relationship with Nya hear me out for a bit. Jay is heavily implied to also have an attraction to male characters which leads me to believe that he's probably a bisexual.

First, I want to talk about this clip. Out of context, it looks very much like a marriage proposal and Jay is saying yes with such a smile on his face. Now, it's just a fake marriage proposal and he realizes after and is kinda confused but anyways. What kind of straight man says "Yes! :D" like that to marriage proposal? (Side note: The Ying-Yang promise in Ninjago is not marriage. I'm just calling it marriage because it will make more sense. It's most likely engagement but that's too long to type) I mean, it seems like he really meant it. Which lead me to believe that he's probably a bisexual.

Also the whole Sweating to the Goldies short is very gay. He's very touchy towards Zane and dances with him and stuff. Though song on the end does include both of them but in the beginning it's mostly Jay doing the gay action. He's extremely flirty with Zane and seems to genuinely mean it. Now that's not me trying to say he likes Zane, since he obviously loves Nya, but I think if Nya wasn't an option, he wouldn't mind being with one of his ninja comrades.

He's also shown to be attracted to Nadakhan's voice. Calling it "beguiling." (Beguiling - Charming or enchanting, often in a deceptive way.) and also calling him a "Silky-voiced seducer." He's also the only ninja in the show to express how attractive his voice is which lead me to believe that he can be attracted to the voice of a male character. Of course, he's not attracted to Nadakhan himself, but acknowledging that he had an attractive voice is no doubt pretty gay. Which is another reason why I believe he's most likely bisexual.

Also another clip related to Kai, he calls him, "Kai baby." Which, c'mon, you don't just call your homies that. That's definitely a sign that he has no problem flirting with other men. Honestly, after season 7, he's been the most gay ninja of the group, despite being one of the only ones having a girlfriend. (Zane was also one of the only ninja to have a girlfriend at the time too but Zane isn't as gay as him) Now if I'm gonna do a little theorizing here, but I think that he's not at peace with his sexual orientation and is now willing to tease and flirt with the other ninja. I know I said I'd keep my headcanons out of this but I'd call it a theory more than a headcanon. (Edit: I, for some reason, can't upload a clip of it so you get a picture of it instead sorry. XD)

Jay is also just 10 times more touchy than the other ninja. A straight male would normally not be comfortable with this amount of touch from their male friend but Jay doesn't mind. He's pretty chill with it and treats it like it's an everyday thing. Which is very very gay. And sure, they're his friends and they've lived together for basically half of their lives but I've lived with my sister for all of my life and she's not even comfortable with me hugging her without permission (or really anyone) so yeah this kind of touch isn't very straight.

And since we're in the topic of Jay, I want to talk about the most villainous and evil character of Ninjago, FugiDove! He's very touchy towards Jay in the series and even sacrificed himself just to save him. He calls Jay is wingman and wants to be with him a lot. Which is very big implications of FugiDove being gay. And the writers of the show aren't stupid they know what they're doing. So all of these little things are definitely implications of him being gay. Which also applies to Jay and Cole.

Speaking of Cole, yes, it's finally time we talk about him. All throughout the show Cole doesn't have a love interest. All of the Ninja had one (Jay with Nya, Zane with Pixal, Kai with Skylor) and yet, he hasn't had one. Some may argue that he liked Nya in season 3 but it's confirmed in this tweet that he was just confused by the attention and never really had a crush on her. Some can also claim that he had a crush on Vania but their interactions don't seem very romantic. More like a friendship kind of interaction.

Now, in Dragons Rising we finally see some sort of actual romance with him. He basically raised a whole family with Geo and has a very strong connection with him. They're very close, and you have to remember that Geo is kinda shy and scared to open up to others, and he's pretty vulnerable to Cole. They're also touchy and don't seem to mind it, which leads me to believe that he might some sort of attraction to Geo, a male character. Also Doc Wyatt seems to support a relationship between the 2. So if it became canon, it wouldn't shock me honestly.

Also the episode where Cole finds his true potential is literally an allegory for coming out. I explain it here but I'll explain it again here for the people who are too lazy. Basically the whole episode is him trying his best to hide his identity of a ninja to his father since his father wanted him to be a dancer. Later in his dad find out and is pretty mad at him but after a whole performance and stuff he's accepting of his son and yay they're a happy family. (Watch the episode here I'm bad at explaining.)

Now, if you think about it, it's very much like coming out. He's hiding his identity out of fear that his father won't accept him as his son. He comes out to his father as a ninja and his father is upset about that. Now flip Ninja with the word gay and bam you get the perfect coming out story coming from Lego. I don't think it was intentional but it could very much be as wel. Again, the writers aren't stupid. They know what they're doing. So yeah, I view this episode as an allegory for coming out.

So, yeah, Ninjago is pretty queer. There's a few more examples I wanted to show but then it would be way too long and it's already 11:15PM. Anyways, if you want to sum up everything I'm saying, Ninjago isn't afraid to add some queer representation in the show, Jay is bisexual, and Cole is gay. Or that I'm an overthinker who loves yapping I dunno. And before anyone gets mad, this is going based of the canon. I'd like to think of it as building a headcanon based on canon. You can still have your own headcanons. I honestly don't care. Anyways, if you're still here thank you for staying until the end and reading the thoughts I've had in my head for a while.

[jinbeisluffy]

I see so many posts over different social media platforms about sexuality/gender hcs for the strawhats and i want to add in my own two cents because i believe im very correct (but anyone’s opinion is valid so long as it doesnt go against canon coding)

Luffy - the most aroace and trans guy to ever BREATHE. i dont mean aroace in that hes somewhere on the spectrum where he can still be attracted to people, because he cant. this guy had never grasped the concept of romance and never will, because theres no reason for it to him. hes trans because i say he is, i dont have many reasons for THAT but its just the signals hes sending me. trans to trans communication trust

Zoro - gay. thats it thats the post. no but i dont ship luffy with anyone but zoro is just attracted to literally any man who is strong, thats his criteria and thats all he ever needs. is he aware of it? not at all, he has no idea that its not normal to get bricked up by the thought of other men

Nami - i havent seen a bigger lesbian in media ever, genuinely i dont think any other character is as obviously lesbian as she is. she loves girls unapologetically no matter what, supports all girls at the end of the day (cough kalifa) . i also hit her with the asexual beam because i can, specifically demisexual because i THINK so

Usopp - while i wanna consider kaya, i wanna consider sanji too and thats making me lean between bi or omni even if omni is a label under the bi umbrella. its more a question of if he recognises his preference for men or not, because he does prefer then at the end of the day. the ace beam bounces from nami to usopp because he too doesnt feel anything and doesnt think about it either

Sanji - oh my god where do i begin. maybe just the blatant queer coding of wci as a whole?? of course hes attracted to women, thats not an aspect you can remove or just toss around to being something else. he loves and respects women, but he is so QUEER. all of wci is just queer coding, its a queer story and sanji is a queer character i will die on this hill. he probably has some kind of gender issues too, what specifically? no clue, but he likes people of multiple genders and is in deep denial about it all the time he wont ever truly accept it but he can one day as a treat live with that fact

Chopper - oh hes a reindeer he cant really have a sexuality DID WE FORGET THE FACT HES HUMAN TOO ISNT THAT LIKE HIS WHOLE THING, NOT BEING A MONSTER BUT ALSO A HUMAN. HE IS BOTH? i dont have any specific labels to slap onto him, just that hes a people lover and encourager of literally everything. ace beam bounces onto him too

Robin - trans trans trans trans trans trans trans trans you will accept robin transfem into your life right here right now. she can like anyone, she has no label on it, she just likes people and cant bother with genders or anything like that. the ace beam actually skips her because if they were doing a hear me out cake she’d be the one putting all of the crazy things. freak. (lovingly)

Franky - HOW TRANS CODED IS IT NOT TO REBUILD YOUR OWN BODY TO BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF AND TO REBUILD YOUR LIFE IN A WAY YOU WANT, BUT GOING BACK TO WHAT YOU LOVED ABOUT YOUR OLD SELF, AND EMBRACING IT. literally, trans goals. he modified his body and went i might as well give myself top surgery and an awesome dick while im here!! sexuality wise hes a lover of everyone, but he has preferences for women (robin) but encourages all bromances (with brook)

Brook - THIS IS WHERE IM MOST PASSIONATE!!!! people can say that hes the token straight grandpa. but theyll never understand the joy of old gay brook had a romance with his captain, the joy of brook trying to subtlety let the other strawhats know he accepts them (he isnt subtle at all and everyone knows). look at brook in drag twice for no reason and tell me he isnt queer, in some way. the ace beam finally hits someone and its brook, insert skull joke here

Jinbei - very specifically old gay man who didnt really do much throughout his youth, he always knew he liked men but he never had TIME to do anything, too busy being awesome and a father i fear. now that hes with the crew he isnt automatically gonna seek anyone out, but hes also not gonna restrain himself from finding interests in people, hes being more selfish now and thats good for him. finally the ace beam hits jinbei and proceeds to fly off towards other op characters that i might talk about some other time

can you tell im asexual and love projecting onto characters with it !!!!

[just-a-pot-of-frogs]

I’m a girlflux lesbian who is also on the asespec

[sickly-sapphic]

[ID: A swirly background with the nonbinary flag colours - white, yellow, purple and black - as the background to all slides. Text reads; it's Nonbinary Awarensss Week... ...but what is nonbinary? Background by GaboBuasczyck (pinterest).

What is Nonbinary? In its simplest definition, nonbinary just means outside of the male-female gender binary. Some consider it under the umbrella of trans or genderqueer, others say genderqueer is under the nonbinary umbrella! Either way, not *all* nonbinary people will be transgender or genderqueer - it's its own identity!

Queer Gender Experiences. Everybody's experience with being nonbinary differs. Some people are just nonbinary, some may be nonbinary men or women. Nonbinary people can be transgender, transfeminine, transmasculine, transneutral and/or cisgender. Some people identify with multiple labels - like genderqueer, agender, genderfluid and/or demigender.

Nonbinarism & Pronouns. There's a common misconceptions that all nonbinary people use exclusively they/them pronouns. In reality, nonbinary people use an array of different pronouns. Some do use they/them, some use it/its, some use neopronouns such as xe/xem and fae/faer, some use nounself pronouns like bunself or starself and some use she/her and/or he/him. Many use multiple sets! Pronouns are deeply personal, and they give no indication of gender.

Nonbinarism & Sexuality. There are many jokes regarding nonbinary sexuality. Nonbinary sexuality comes in all shapes and sizes! Depending on their relationship with gender, sex and love, nonbinary people might identify as strictly lesbian, gay/vincian or straight, but some may feel more comfortable under labels like sapphic, achillean, toric, trixic, diamoric or enbian. Many nonbinary people also sit under the mspec and aspec umbrellas.

Nonbinarism & Intersexuality. There's a common myth that intersex people are just "cis nonbinary" or that they're proof of nonbinary peoples existance. In reality, intersex isn't even a gender (though some intersex people may use it as their gender label too) and nonbinary people are the proof of nonbinary existance. Some intersex people do still feel most comfortable as cis nonbinary, but this is a personal identity and NOT the definition of intersex.

Nonbinarism & Race. While I can't talk on personal experience, I did want to bring light on the face that race also impacts gender identity. The societal boxes or ideals of manhood and womanhood are usually centred around *white* womanhood and manhood. Some people of colour & indigenous people find the label of nonbinary useful to explain the disconnect with their birth gender due to these ideals.

Nonbinarism & Disability. Similar to the last side, the boxes of womanhood and manhood are often also focused on able-bodied people. This can leave disabled people feeling they don't really fit in the man or woman boxes. So, some disabled people use nonbinary, or nonbinary woman/man to explain this disconnect or to step outside the boxes they've been excluded from.

Don't forget about... hyperfeminine nonbinary people, religious nonbinary people, nonbinary people of colour, cis nonbinary people, lesbian, gay and straight nonbinary people, plural nonbinary people, hypermasculine nonbinary people, disabled nonbinary people, fat nonbinary people, non-dysphoric nonbinary people, indigenous nonbinary people, intersex nonbinary people, nonbinary people living through genocide.

Happy Nonbinary Awareness Week. 8th July - 14th July. End ID]

[rainbowsforbeginners]

Rainbow 101: 001

Today’s topic, as voted by you: What is LGBTQIA+?

Hello, class!

Welcome to Rainbow 101!

To start us off, today I’ll explain the acronym LGBTQIA+:

It stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, and A-spec - And the little “plus” at the end stands for any other queer labels that don’t fit neatly into the main acronym!

You may also see it shortened to LGBTQ+, LGBT+, LGBT, as well as a few others - But, they all refer to the same community!

Now, as this is a beginner-friendly lecture, I’ll also give a brief explanation of the main “flagship” identities - Though I highly encourage you do your own research of any terms you find interesting, as I will likely not be able to cover all nuance here!

Also, if anyone has any comments, questions, corrections, or kudos, please put them in the ask box after class!

Alright, let’s get started:

Lesbian:

Someone who is a lesbian is a women who is attracted to other women - Non-binary people can also use this label if they wish! The term Lesbian is also related to the terms WLW and Sapphic - Though I recommend finding sources who are more well-versed in those labels to understand the nuances/differences!

Gay:

The “proper” definition of gay is similar to lesbian, being a man who is attracted to other men - And non-binary folk can use this one, too! - However, you will also find many people use “gay” as a broad blanket term similar to “queer,” so context is useful here! Gay is also sometimes called MLM (men-loving-men, not multi-level-marketing :) )

Bisexual/Biromantic:

Someone who is bisexual/biromantic is attracted to multiple genders - Commonly interpreted as simply “likes both men and women.” But, as with many of these labels, there can be nuance that is different for every person; Such as having attraction for multiple, but preferring one over another. You’ll often see Bisexual/Biromantic shortened to Bi!

Transgender:

Someone who is transgender doesn’t fully identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. For example, someone who was born as a girl named Jane and later transitions to a man named John. (Something to note here: While many transgender people do fully identify with the “opposite” gender, and undergo various visual/biological transformations (ha!), there are many who don’t do either! Some people only change their pronouns, and some may not change anything!) Non-binary people are also under this umbrella term - though not everyone identifies with the label! You’ll often see Transgender shortened to Trans!

Queer/Questioning:

From what I’ve seen, “Queer” is a pretty broad label, often used as a collective term for all LGBTQIA+ people - But, I’ve also seen some people use it as a catch-all personal miscellaneous label, when they don’t care to explain or define the details! “Questioning” is pretty simple - It just means the person is figuring out some aspect of their identity, but hasn’t quite gotten there yet!

Intersex:

This one I don’t know as much about as I could, but my understanding is that an intersex person falls between or outside of the biological sex binary - And it can be as drastically obvious as physical organ differences, or more often, as subtle as having unusual chromosomes!

A-spec:

A-spec, or the A-spectrum, is a wide category for those who experience little, no, and/or specifically-parametrized attraction! Aromantic (or Aro, little-to-no romantic attraction) and Asexual (or Ace, little-to-no sexual attraction) are the more popular, “flagship” labels, but the A spectrum also includes Aplatonic, Agender, Afamilial, Asensual, and probably a few others I don’t know of! To oversimplify for the sake of comedy, the A-spec is for those of us who look at everyone else and go, “No thanks!” with varying degrees of intensity.

Plus (+):

And the + is for everyone else who might not fit within the above!

…And there you have it - That was a lot, and I’m glad you stuck around to the end!

I want to note here that many of these labels have more sub-labels nested under them, and/or have more nuance than we covered today - So, if any of you have questions or clarifications, or have a correction to make, please feel free to drop a note in my ask box!

Also, any ideas for future topics to cover would be much appreciated!

Batteries and Bars,

Neon

[tsamsheadcanons]

I’ve come to bless with more hcs!!

Sunshine (EAPS sun)- gay ass lithromantic man, he just doesn’t realize it yet, oh and also maybe on the nonbinary/trans umbrella

Moonlight (EAPS moon)- somewhere on the aroace spectrum, that fucking enigma /silly

The computer AIs (pre-Spaniard)- since y’know sentient computer, aroace just like their father babyy

Spaniard- aroace, and also pan if they would wanna date someone

Glam Ballora (EAPS)- lesbian

Monty (EAPS)- still bi, just w/ female preference :33

Foxy- to contrary belief, I think he’s straight (an ally of course)

Gemini- pan, sprinkle of demiromantic

Nebula- lesbian ace hehe

Sven (Nice Creator)- bi-curious

V1 Eclipse (I’m including him bc he’s diff than current Eclipse)- unlabeled, he would probably find labels stupid and/or not important

Solar again (apparently he has a crush)- demiromantic ehe

Atlas- demisexual gay, that seems right

Taurus- he seems like a gay man

Molten- probably ace

Lord Eclipse- gayest ass bitch ever

Servant Sun- maybe ace, and agender with all prns :3

Puppet- bi or straight, idk

That’s all my brain can think of at the moment :33

Even more sexuality headcanons 💕

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

the „queer community“ and their activism is detrimental to gay and lesbian as well as womens and childrens rights.

they promote these harmful ideas:

sexuality is fluid (implying that sexuality can change, which is what homophobes think as well which is why conversion therapy exists)

sex change is possible

trans and lgb are inherently linked (even though half of the trans community is heterosexual)

lgb are queer, but so are tqia+, opening up gay and lesbian spaces to straight people

lgb are queer, and kink is queer, reinforcing the idea that homosexuality is sexual deviancy

„queer“ as an umbrella term doesnt just connect gays and lesbians to straight people and fetishists but sometimes even to pedophiles

transgenderism is beautiful and not a product of internalised homophobia and misogyny resulting in severe body dysmorphia, or a fetish

gender is fluid so we dont need female-only spaces

words dont mean anything and anyone using any label is valid

individual identity is more important than the protection of clearly defined marginalised groups

gender is a construct but also a valid identity (literally a paradox)

the body and mind are separate entities

transhumanism

feminism is responsible for all marginalised groups

question and deconstruct everything but also dont ever question someone‘s identity (another paradox)

sex has no definition (but sex can be changed; yet another paradox)

there is no inherent shame in any kink, not even in pedophilia

actually nothing is real so do we even need an age of consent?

porn and prostitution are just expressions of sexuality there is nothing inherently wrong with it

[mobliterated]

Okay me angy here I go getting riled up again! If I see any more pisscourse about ace/aro not being part of the queer community, queer is a slur, men are inherently evil monsters, I’m just gonna assume you’re a TERF. Ace discourse back in the 10’s is exactly how TERFs started their rise to power.

Start out by drawing a line in the sand that (awful) people agree with. Now there’s proof that you can start boxing in certain identities. That means (general) you can start making specific definitions for things.

Queer is now a slur again. Queer actually hasn’t been reclaimed. People agree with that. You’ve just torn down an umbrella identity that everyone was able to gather under and unite behind.

LGBTQIA+ is actually the Correct Way to talk about the queer community. Actually we need to drop QIA+ because queer is a slur, intersex isn’t a sexuality/gender and is just a weird medical condition, and A stands for allies (instead of aro/ace bc we already decided that they aren’t part of the community) and we don’t want those sick CisHets infiltrating our community.

LGBT is now the proper accepted term. That means you must be Gay Lesbian Bisexual and/or Transgender to be part of the community. If you aren’t doing LGBT correctly then you are trying to infiltrate the community and steal resources (and those resources are never defined). Only LGBT people are safe.

Oh, except bisexuals. They’re dirty cheaters bc they get to pass as straight and thus aren’t Oppressed Enough like us Pure Gays. How dare they be into men. Only Good Gays get to be into men. If a lesbian ever thought about a man in any vague romantic/sexual way then they are Impure. Men are the true evil of the world bc patriarchy. The only type of man you’ll be safe with is a gay man bc they don’t want to SA you when they see your shoulders/ankles.

All men are the root of all evil, except our good example gay men, who coincidentally are usually white and follow the good gay stereotypes, which are feminine in nature. Femininity is Good and Safe. You can trust anyone who is Feminine, and you can distrust anyone who is Masculine. Men only exist to take advantage of women. Women must be protected at all costs.

Wait. We allow transgender people in the community. That means either a Dirty Evil Man is cosplaying as a woman, or a Pure Innocent Girl got taken in by the evils of masculinity and patriarchy. Trans people are bad since they are being taken over by Evil Men, and/or trying to infiltrate the community, which we already decided is bad. Trans people aren’t Pure. The T in LGBT gets dropped.

Also if you’re nonbinary someone pulled the wool over your eyes. It’s just a phase and you’ll fall into Woman Lite soon enough. There’s no such thing as an amab nonbinary person. Men are evil, and nonbinary is Woman Lite. If you dress in any way that’s not feminine or androgynous then you are doing it wrong.

Congrats, you are now a TERF.

And before you say “that’s not what happened!” I saw every single one of these talking points come out in real time. It was slow. It wasn’t sudden. It was pushing the boundary little by little until you boiled the frog. And now with acecourse coming up again I can all but guarantee that this cycle will happen again. So! Some things to look out for and deprogram.

All men are not inherently evil. All women are not inherently good. Masculinity isn’t inherently evil. Femininity isn’t inherently good. Queer is not a slur and is an extremely useful umbrella term for those who don’t know which label they fit under, or who don’t want a specific label. Yes, queer can still be used as a slur (I have been called queer in a derogatory way) but it is one the community has reclaimed. Trans people aren’t trying to trick you. Amab nonbinary people aren’t “lesser” than afab nonbinary people. Nonbinary is not Woman Lite. There is no such thing as a morally pure sexuality. The queer community is welcome for all who identify as queer; yes, even that person. Policing and oppression olympics is not a litmus test for “pure enough” for joining the queer community. The queer community is for Everyone. That’s it. That’s all.

[sun-citadel]

The violet sapphic flag

I decided to start work on a sapphic flag, as the original one did not feel inclusive to masculine presenting sapphics. The inclusive sapphic flag also felt too random for me to feel aligned, so I spent time researching a flag design

Excuse any spelling mistakes, English isn't my first language.

Info below. Original thread here. Tiktok version [ without typos ]

1. Why violets ?

The poetry of Sapphos often included talk of violet crowns, with one of her famous poems reading ;

` … Many crowns of violets,

roses and crocuses

…together you set before more

and many scented wreaths

made from blossoms

around your soft throat… `

Violets historically are considered a symbol of sapphic love and the LGBT movement, and are seen in pop culture, such as the cult classic lesbian movie, Bound. A 1926 play also involved a woman sending violets to another, as a potential nod to Sapphos. When the poem was censored / boycotted, women would send violets in support.

To say violets were not a part of LGBT + , and primarily spaphic / lesbian history would be a false statement.

2. Why these colours ?

I colour picked from violets themselves, primarily the African and common violet. One for their inclusion of white, and the other for its range of hues from more blue to magenta. I felt they could align with the various presentations seen within sapphic culture, as I myself ID as transmasculine / presently as a soft butch. There are those who are transfemme, femme, masc, androgynous, etc., and this various spectrum of colours I feel could align with how the community is not just one, but various shade of violet.

I spent time researching LGBT history, and have come up with meanings for these specific colours. They were carefully chosen for both traditional colour meanings, as well as symbolisms that align with the LGBT+ community.

From lavander to pink, both colours have a history of representing the community, and have become symbols reclaimed. From sapphos flowers, to the pink triangle, it is important to remember our history and struggles. Pink triangles itself was used as a symbol for transwomen, as an identifier for example [ as well as gay individuals, but this isn't about them at this time ] , but have been reclaimed to represent lgbt+ rights and our struggles. It is important to never forget those who came before us.

Each colour was picked based off traditional meanings, as well as identifying traits of the community.

3. Colour meanings?

From top to bottom, these colour meanings are ;

1. Femininity, health.

Pink is associated with femininity, so this is for the purely femme presenting individuals, whether trans, nb, or however they ID. It also is the colour of love, and health [ ex , ` everything is rosy ` meaning good ] .

2. Love, compassion.

A lighter shade of pink is usually associated with love, and with love comes compassion and understanding.

3. Youth and age.

From our lives comes the fact that, we as sapphics, lesbians, etc. know that deep down, this is who we truly are. Whether you're young, or come to the realization later, we live life as our authentic self. May we grow old and happy.

4. Limitless potential.

With those who are not afraid to break the gender / sexual binary, and present in ways uncaring of societal norms.

Whether trans, nonbinary, asexual, or uncaring of labels, I hope you find who you truly are.

5. Soft masculinity.

To be soft and masculine is frowned upon in society, but some of us present in ways that we deem just right. It is an oxymoron on many levels to those who do not understand, but we are indifferent and stand tall.

6. Wisdom.

With our history, we can learn and grow, it is important to never forget it. Ever on we march to assure that we are treated as equals.

7. Serenity, masculinity.

A nod to the original flag that brought us here, while also representing the other side of the spectrum for fully masc individuals. Once again, this is for those in the trans umbrella, or comfortable in their gender.

4. Who can use it ?

Sapphics or anyone who falls into that general category.

TERF / SWERFS / anyone not inclusive of the trans community are not permitted.

Please do not use if m - spec lesbian.

[leikeliscomet]

Right I've been putting off making a 'homophobia in the asexual community' post just like the racism one because asexual exclusionists would argue asexuality is inherently homophobic and so, not LGBT. So there's a knee-jerk reaction whenever homophobia is brought up because of the tactic of false homophobia accusations to justify asexual exclusionism and compulsory sexuality. But that doesn't mean it doesn't exist *at all* and if we're gonna push for asexuality in solidarity with the LGBTQ and I and genuinely support gay alloaces, there needs to be some type of self-accountability:

Anti-queer puritanism/Slut-shaming allo queer people & culture. Anti homosexuality laws have existed throughout history and banned anything under the umbrella: gay sex, gay marriage, gay relationships and even 'homosexual behaviours'. In response, the non-ace LGBT community pushed against this with unapologetic depictions and celebrations of gay sex, gay romance, kink, sex work and more. You have every right to experience repulsion and it isn't a moral or social flaw. At the same time, it's fully possible to describe repulsion and aversion to sexual spaces without using homophobic dogwhistles. When you say 'gay culture is all about sex' 'gay culture is too sexualised' do you mean how non-ace gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals and non-ace trans people have sexual expectations put on them? Have invasive questions asked about their sex and genitalia? That they're stereotyped as being perverted, predatory and dangerous? That they too also experience compulsory sexuality and are harmed by it? That all of these hurt gay aroallos too? Or do you mean it to mean 'it's bad because it's sexual' because if it's the second that's something to unpack.

"Everyone does x to asexuals, but they'd never do it to gay people!".jpg - ...They do. 'Everyone ships aroace characters but they'd never ship lesbians with men' they do. 'People don't force gay men to be with women' People still do this! Visibility =/= privilege. Just because non-ace gay people make up the most of queer representation doesn't mean homophobia and lesbophobia aren't issues anymore or things of the past. Plus compulsory sexuality and homophobia go hand in hand. The same people that believe asexuality can be fixed with sex are usually the same people that support gay conversion therapy. We can easily call out acephobia without minimising other sexualities' struggles. Puritans hate everyone outside of allocisheterosexuality don't forget.

"You're not gay, you're a homoromantic asexual" So this originally was a good faith attempt to fight ace exclus by asserting that asexuals aren't diet straight people and by definition you can't be a heterosexual asexual if you experience little to no sexual attraction to be heterosexual. But the side effect was the idea that you can't be gay and asexual, bisexual and asexual , pansexual and asexual or lesbian and asexual. It's really not non-gay aces place to tell us how to identify or say we're not "really" gay because we're ace and it's just homophobic and biphobic to say we're just gays and bisexuals with low sex drives, internalised homophobia or repression because puritanism told you being gay, lesbian, bisexual and pansexual can never not be a sexual identity. Non-ace gay people can sex repulsed and averse without being ace. There's gay aces that identify as homoromantic, biromantic or panromantic, some don't like the ___romantic prefixes and use gay asexual, bi asexual and so on and some just go by lesbian, gay, bi or pan and don't ID with their asexuality. There's multiple ways to label ourselves and again, just let gay alloaces decide what gayness means for us.

"Gay asexual is just gay" - Linked to the previous point but in reverse. Makes no sense to say queer non-ace spaces aren't ace friendly then assume every gay ace can go to those same spaces 'because we're all gay'. Compulsory sexuality exists in a lot of queer spaces. TERFS and radfems in lesbian spaces argue asexual lesbians are pretenders, repressed and sanitising lesbianism and the same views are aimed towards gay men. Then there's those shitty memes about 'bisexual men when it's time to suck dick' or 'bisexual women when it's time to eat pussy'. The compulsory sexuality creating the ideas that 'sexual' in homosexual and bisexual is literal, that you "have" to have sex to prove you're gayness, that you're a traitor to gay liberation if you're not having gay sex is why gay alloaces go to asexual spaces and need these spaces. To project the gay sexual predator stereotype is bad enough but to project that onto fellow aces is extremely reactionary.

Anti-Love is Love sloganeering - Love is Love and Love Wins was originally to push for the legalisation of gay marriage, fight the idea gay romantic couples weren't real or legit like straight couples and celebrate legalisations of gay marriage. It was never an anti-asexual or anti-aromantic slogan it was created for the push to protect gay marriage and gay love. It's been criticised as a slogan by non-ace people already and it does have limitations, but the point remains that gay love is oppressed in homophobic society. There's so many better ways to respond to the limitations in non-ace queer activism than to say gay love doesn't matter, use love isn't love or love losing which anti-gay conservatives literally used to argue gay marriage should stay illegal btw or that it's just 'allo shit'. We make our own. We have 'pride is a protest' and 'we're here we're queer' and we have ace specific ones like 'we are not broken' 'put the ace in disgrace'. Plus if we can clock making 'sex is bad' esque slogans as a focus point in ace activism can easily slip into reactionary rhetoric that harms non-ace queer people, sex workers and kinksters we can have the self awareness to see anti-love sloganeering can easily do the same to marginalised types of love. Gay love isn't the enemy, amatonormativity and compulsory sexuality are.

Asexual separatism/"We don't need pride"/"There's no point of the LGBT community" It can feel tempting to want an completely solo asexual space or movement separate from the LGBTQI parts because of ace exclusionism and compulsory sexuality but I'm sorry this isn't the answer. Not every asexual gets to a choose whether or not they're queer. If you're gay, lesbian, bi, pan, trans, non-binary or intersex as well as ace you're tagged as 'other' no matter how you identify. If individual aces don't want to be called queer and rather stay in asexual spaces, or don't see the need to join asexual spaces at all then that's a fine decision to make *individually*. But that doesn't mean the LGBT community, queer spaces, queer representation and pride is 'useless'. That's just spitting the face of decades of activism. Activism that includes asexuals too btw! Yasmin Benoit literally marched with the Gay Liberation Front and they fully accepted her. She spoke up against asexual conversion therapy at the trans rights demo here in the UK and she worked with Stonewall which is why we have the first Ace Report in UK LGBT history. And conservatives have made it pretty clear they don't fuck with asexuals (pun unintentional) and see asexuality as queer reagrdless. Self-proclaimed fascist Matt Walsh has spoken against asexuality. Various major TERFs from Kellie Jay Keen, Julie Bindel and Jo Bartosh have attacked Yasmin Benoit for saying asexual people should have rights. GB News, the UK's far-right 'news' channel had a whole section dedicated to 'debunking' asexuality. Anti-gay conservative parents are pushing to ban books for involving asexuality. You might think 'well what's the point of fighting for gay sexual rights if we're not having any?' But like... that's the point. You don't support people different to you for clout or money or because people should only have rights if you get something in return, you do it because it's literally just being a decent person.

Just very very very very tired. If you're some ace exclusionist giggling 'see they ARE all homophobic!1' fuck off it's not about you but anyway it might be cringe but we're all in this together high school musical style. Learn gay history and activism as an asexual because we do have things in common and there's so much we can learn from each other.

[mommyclaws]

look as a lesbian I don’t get why it’s so awful to just want lesbian spaces?? We as queer people all have different experiences and we can have smaller spaces while still embracing the whole community.

Lesbians go through different experiences than bi non-men do. That DOES NOT mean “we suffer more” or whatever because I hate the whole oppression olympics shit. We are not attracted to men neither sexually nor romantically, and that’s what makes us oppressed in this heteronormative world. We go through harassment, corrective rape, violence, and conversion “therapy” because we are homosexual. If my dad ever found out I was exclusively attracted to women I would get kicked out. Why is it suddenly so awful and “gatekeepy” to ask us to have our own spaces? We still have sapphic spaces! We even have bi spaces and pan spaces! Heck, I see gay non-women are allowed to have their own spaces!

It’s harmful to be treated as a monolith. I’m not attracted to men, and saying im an “exclusionist” for this is lesbophobic. I’m not evil for being exclusively attracted to non-men. I’m not evil for saying we should have our own spaces while we’d still have sapphic spaces!

Words have meanings, and the lesbian label is important to me, for all of its history and all of my struggles. I’m tired of us all being seen as “big mean lesbians who hate men” so so much. It reeks of misogyny to me.

I am heavily disappointed, and I ask everyone to please understand why bi lesbians are harmful.

I'm disappointed you've missed the point of my post. I was talking about the history of different lesbians and sapphics being excluded and hated in our community through generations. The conversation wasn't about bi lesbians specifically, it was about the butches, transfemmes, Pan/Bi, Aro/Ace, nonbinary, and countless other identities that were or ARE still considered not "valid" members of our community at point or another. I was pointing out how this "Bi Lesbian exclusion" is just a repeat of past mistakes and in the retrospective it is rooted in radfem/terf ideology that claims sapphics have to present and feel a certain way to be accepted. I didn’t say anywhere that being attracted to non-men is evil, I didn’t call anyone a “big mean lesbian”. You’re putting words into my mouth. That entire post was about defending sapphic’s right to attraction and expression.

Lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non cis women and etc can all be oppressed, harassed, hate crimed, rejected by friends/family and other terrible things for their non heteronormative attraction.

Some people are failing to realize these exclusively “one identity spaces" they feel are being threatened don't actually exist in real life. Sure someone can have like, a "nonbinaries only" discord server or a meet up with friends who are all the the same identity. But a majority of queer spaces in real life? They don't have those rules because theres no way to separate queer identities neatly like that- There isn't a need to. You're going to find bisexuals and pansexuals and nonbinaries and trans people and all sorts of other identities at the same lesbian bar, the same sapphic support group, the same circle of friends.

So what exactly are these "spaces" that every other identity has and lesbians supposedly don't? Maybe ask why bisexuals, pansexuals, etc also being in a sapphic space feels so threatening to some in the first place? They have a right to be there as well. We are a community.

A label can be used and defined as whatever the owner of the label is comfortable with! "Lesbian" has always been an umbrella term. It can be a singular identity or it can describe any sapphic experience or it can do lots of things, labels have always been flexible in this way. Someone using the label differently than another person isn't harmful. It's expression.

[redheadbigshoes]

As a lesbian, here’s some personal red flags I have when it comes to non-lesbians (not specifically in terms of dating):

- Anyone who assumes lesbians are terfs (without having any real indication of that), or anyone who calls lesbians terfs to silence us or to make us seem wrong.

- Anyone who seems very comfortable using the d-slur.

- Anyone who never uses the word lesbian to describe lesbians (who either use sapphic or gay).

- Anyone who doesn’t try listening to a lesbian talking about their own issues/experiences.

- Anyone who jump to call lesbians biphobic even though there’s no indication of that or anyone who calls lesbians biphobic to try to silence us or speak over us.

- Anyone who thinks lesbians can have exceptions.

- Anyone who thinks lesbians can be attracted to men (cis/trans).

- Anyone who compares or equates lesbians with cishet men.

- Anyone trying to derail lesbians talking about lesbian issues/experiences (and trying to make the subject about themselves).

- Anyone (this especially when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community) who still uses “lesbian” as an umbrella term, even more so when they know the existence of the term sapphic.

- Anyone who suddenly only when it comes to lesbians start being all like “you don’t need to label yourself” or “labels are restrictive”.

- Anyone who says sexuality is fluid, especially telling lesbians this.

- Anyone who seems to have issues with lesbian headcanons (of characters who don’t have any confirmed lgbt sexualities).

- Anyone who generalizes lesbians (regardless if as transphobic, biphobic, etc…)

- Anyone who thinks cis/trans men can be lesbians (just accept you’re straight).

- Anyone who seems to think lesbians are less lesbians if they’ve had experiences with men before figuring out their sexuality.

- Anyone (and this also applies to other lesbians) who uses the term “gold star lesbian”.

- Anyone who invalidates a lesbian’s sexuality because they haven’t had any experiences with men “to know if they actually like them”.

[actuallylorelaigilmore]

birthday and pronouns and fascism, oh my

since my birthday means it was time to update my blog bio, @actuallylukedanes made the excellent suggestion that i also post about it.

cuz while i needed to update my age (woo, a round number! maybe it won't take me six months of adjusting to remember how old i am, for once!) and i update my blog title constantly, sometimes more than once a day, lol...i also finally updated my pronouns.

so if you've known me for years or just happened by my little corner of the internet cuz you saw something you like, i don't know about you but i'm heading into my yeah maybe we're all gonna end up dead or imprisoned but i'd rather fight some fascists era as this coming year approaches.

so i'm here to support (and as much as i can, protect) my family and friends and people who need help, and i understand the battening down the hatches of every person who has to be more careful now, who can feel the precarity of their rights and safety more acutely than ever. i'm also worred about my own rights and safety, as a disabled queer mentally ill fat person in the world, whose only income is ssdi and only safety net is (wonderful, yet piecrust-precarious) community.

but i remain the same person who was labeled both 'ornery' and 'little miss contrary' by my grandmother as a child, and i suspect that's why my response to the truly horrific possible futures we could be heading into is Time To Get Louder Then. i don't plan to take ill-advised risks, but i also have no interest in quieting myself down.

therefore! since i have, for life/mental health reasons, ghosted my own blog for so long that i kind of didn't post through a lot of developments, i am here to say that my bio update includes pronoun changes because, well, pronouns (like people) change. though i haven't actually changed so much as figured out more accurate descriptors, over the last little while.

i've said on here for years that my gender is 'person wearing a red shirt at target' and that still feels true, because my identity is less a firm, specific thing than it is a lack of a thing. as somebody afab and socialized that way, some descriptors don't bother me at all, like terms of endearment from people i love. and broad common female pronouns (she, here) feel more clinical, somehow, as if that degenders them a little. whereas ones like 'ma'am' and even 'female' feel *more* gendered.

idk why that is, or why things that feel girly to me grate on my brain in the first place. but in my 20s and 30s, i couldn't explain why i identified as gay or queer yet was deeply uncomfortable with 'lesbian.' now i know, and as much as it feels like further complicating my descriptors (i've already got 5 different disorders! i contain multitudes!) it's a huge relief to have the language.

some of which, also wasn't new. i think i found the term agender a while back, at least a few years ago. i'd never seen a description that fit me before, not quite so well. i identify as lacking gender, wanting to exist outside of the recognition of gender--i understand the different gender labels/norms and respect them for other people, however they identify...but for me, gender feels like a lie.

it's only within the last year sometime that i finally figured out, with the help of resources via my best friend, that being agender fits under the nonbinary umbrella, which can also fit under the umbrella of trans. i've never thought of myself as someone with gender dysphoria, and that gave me this huge feeling of 'identifying as trans would be claiming something i have no right to.'

so i had to think about that a while. i had an epiphany moment (thanks to the barbie movie, of all things) where i had a physical reaction to a thing as if it were an attack directed at me. that was when i realized i may not feel like i have the right, thanks to internalized stuff, to call myself trans--but i feel part of the community whether i say it or not. and even though i don't mind 'she,' anytime my best friend refers to me with 'they' it gives me a little glowy feeling.

so, again, this might not be huge news for all of you. a lot of you have been my friends for years. but it's nice to officially add agender to my 'asexual queer-romantic' breakdown, and mentally expand the umbrella of where i fit, and with who. and it feels like well past time to do it publicly.

[fangshing]

first off, you're allowed to say you don't identify with the word queer and dont want to be referred to by it, and anyone who says otherwise sucks. the modern sentiment online of viewing queer as a slur and rejecting it as an umbrella term was started by people wanting to exclude bisexual people, trans people, anyone who did not fit into the Gay and Lesbian community. a lot of people who do identify with the word queer do so as a political statement also, and the defining of queer as a slur which should not be used to self identify has been used to silence the political movement of queer resistance.

the lgbtq+ community has been reclaiming queer since the 80s as an act of resistance, self love, power, revolution, and community, which is why its such an important term. it is okay to have a negative reaction to it or negative emotions around it, especially if you live in an area where it is still used as a slur, but it is also a term with a lot of power in it to many people and isn't going anywhere lol. (i am autistic and this is meant simply to share information i am so so sorry if i come of as an asshole or rude or judgy at all that is not my intention! 🩷)

I don't mind if people use it for themselves and I can understand why they would, I'm not trying to argue that the term should go away or someone is "wrong" for using it. If someone identifies with it then that's awesome. But it irks me that phrases like "the queer community" is common parlance when not everyone chooses to identify with the word and instead are having the label thrust upon them.

I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to answer my question though