#this user is fem-presenting nonbinary

[lgbtq-userboxes]

Requested by lunaeclipse1057-ao3

[bijouzen]

If I get misgendered again istfg

[splatcoins]

Rosgoldic / Feminine-In-Nature Attraction

attraction to femininity/fin-ness in some form or the other; a general fem-in-nature attraction. what form of femininity one is attracted to and how they feel/express it is up to the user.

fem/fem-in nature, may be, but isn't necessarily related to woman/femaleness

one can experience this label if they're just attracted to one form of masculinity (i.e. feminine presentation and nothing else, such as with some twinks, boygirls, sapphics, or nonbinary people, fem genders/​neofem/​juxera and nothing else, etc) or multiple/all forms of femininity.

it's made to be inclusive regardless of gender or orientation (straight/​gai/​homo/​neither, m-spec/​mono) and is fully customizable to fit your personal needs (you can specify what forms of fem-ness you are attracted to, or what fem-ness means to you)

it can be used for any attraction or as a stand alone term (i.e. rosgoldicplatonic/​bi-poly rosgoldic/​rosgoldromantic) it's not juvelic at its base, but it can be modified to fit however the user would like it to. get freaky with it!

psd + related terms + taglist !!

psd download

nin/topazic ; min/cobaltic

@radiomogai @sylviestial @io-archival @imoga-pride

heavily based on fingender/finromantic, i personally found the orientation limiting. i had many other notes and thoughts on this label but decided to just leave it short for everyones sake.

[danmori630]

i love people who identify as “genderqueer” with no further elaboration. i love trans people who don’t pass and don’t care to. i love cis crossdressers who look indistinguishable from the opposite gender. i love traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine but indisputably nonbinary people. i love masc-presenting she/her users and fem-presenting he/him users. i love trans crossdressers. i love nonbinary intersex people who identify as cis. i love people whose gender identity is drag queen/king or transvestite. i love people who feel their gender identity is tied inherently to their sexuality, and people who feel they have nothing to do with each other. i love cis people who explored their gender and settled right back down where they started. i love bigender people, and people who define their identity by their euphoria rather than their dysphoria. all the same, i love people who feel they were made who they are by their dysphoria.

i love that labels are for convenience instead of being hard rules.

[our-agabpunk-experience-2]

Hello! We've found a term, like honeybee transfem and coffeebean transmasc, but for transneutral.

www.tumblr.com/cringeandproudx3/774778975079776256/hi-tumblr-i-have-no-clue-how-coining-posts-work

Mintchocolate transneu! (From user "cringeandproudx3")

Just wanted to include it since it's a smaller term but fits perfectly into this.

Have a lovely day!

Honey (she/they/it) @honeyscottage

I’m going to be 100% honest, and I’m open to discussion. But I don’t really understand this term

In an ideal world, terms like “honeybee transfem” and “coffee bean transmasc” wouldn’t exist. They would just be “transfems” and “transmascs”. They exist because of attempts to push those people out of the main labels by defining transfem as “a trans person who was assigned male” and transmasc as “a trans person who was assigned female”. That isn’t saying that honeybee transfem/coffee bean transmasc are 100% synonymous with AFAB transfem/AMAB transmasc. Part of the reason the term was broadened was for AIAB/AXAB/UAB transfems and transmascs, and there are plenty of honeybee transfems who were assigned male and coffee bean transmascs who were assigned female. But using the term implies a fight against defining transfemininity and transmasculinity purely based on AGAB. As far as I know (and I could be wrong) there is no similar push to define transneutrality that way. No argument that your experience with transneutrality is only valid if a doctor said a specific thing when you were born.

That isn’t to say that there aren’t problems in the transneu community regarding the sex binary. We can talk about how asking “Are you TMA transneutral or TME transneutral?” is basically a progressive-sounding way of asking “Okay but like, what were you born as?” We can talk about the constant reinventing the wheel of the gender and sex binaries by sorting enbies into “masc-aligned” vs. “fem-aligned”, “masc presenting” vs. “fem-presenting”, usually without any input from the nonbinary person themselves (using masc enby to mean any nonbinary person with a beard regardless of whether they actually identify with masculinity) and treating them as categories that never overlap (the constant arguing that “fem-aligned enbies can be lesbians but masc aligned ones can’t!” that forgets that plenty of nonbinary people identify with both masculinity and femininity). Are these the problems that the mint chocolate transneu term is fighting against? Because they don’t exactly feel like the same kind of problems as the ones honeybee transfem/coffee bean transmasc aim to address.

I’m 100% open to discussion and to help myself understand.

[vanilla-gardens]

🌼 Gender list! WIP 🌼

🌼 Genders experienced by all Garden members other than Sanguis/RJ and Saint Lily (and Recluse, maybe? We haven't communed much with them yet)

Expression fluid is a form of gender expression, where a person's gender expression changes. It can happen swiftly or slowly, and the person's actual gender does not necessarily change, but can. (fluid between masc, fem, and neu presentations)

Bigender is a nonbinary identity in which someone has two distinct gender identities either at the same time, or at different times all together. Bigender people can experience any two genders, including binary and non-binary genders. (demiboy & demigirl simultaneously)

Healegender is a gender that brings peace of mind to the identifier. Once adopted, this gender connects one's mind in ways that it had not been connected before. It brings clarity, creativity, and security to the identifier.

sungender is a xenogender described as being warm and happy. It can also be a xenogender with a general connection to the sun.

Yellowaesic is a aesthetigender related to the use of the color yellow in various aesthetics, aesthetics that prominently/commonly features the color yellow, and/or the aesthetic of the color yellow in general.

Lightgender is a xenogender in which the lightgender individual feels that their gender can only be described as a light. This may be any kind of light, and it may consist of different brightnesses or colors.

Antiquegender is an aesthetigender related to antique/vintage feelings, such as dusty records, antique china, decades-old toys, unpolished silver, etc. Antiquegender does not have to grow/get stronger when surrounded by vintage media or objects.

Vanillagender is a gastrogender related to vanilla in some way. It may be related to the flavor, the plant, the extract, etc. This could mean a gender that is sugary, warm, and lightly floral; a gender that seems sweet but hides a bitterness within; a gentle, yet distinct and potent, gender; or any other definition that the user sees fit.

Vanillaromic is a xenogender and an aromagender. Vanillaromic is connected to the scent of vanilla and vanilla products.

Gardencoric is a coric xenogender related to gardencore. It invokes the imagery of gardens and greenhouses.

Realoraen is a xenogender in the Scene System that feels like a beautiful royal garden. It goes along with this imagery: "A beautiful and spacious bourgeois garden that works as a large decoration of a great palace. The route is full of a great variety of flowers, trees and shrubs that decorate the place in a colorful way, as you walk along the path that crosses the place. The end of the trail brings you a nice white gazebo with a small waterfall in the background."

Theaneirean is a gender in the Scene System that can be described as, ¨a gender that's like a tender breeze sweeping through a summer meadow¨. It is a scenegender that feels like the softness of meadows and breeze, and goes along with this imagery: "A breeze is sweeping through a meadow. It moves with the purest of gentilities and embraces everything with a tender grace. As it moves, this breeze sweeps through the meadow and curls around each intricately beautiful flower, bending around each and every petal and summoning these petals into its embrace with the gentlest of gravities, and as the petals are swept up in a gracefully moving mass of colorful life, the golden sun glimmers off each one and soon, the breeze is leaving the meadow behind."

Aestasean is a gender in the Landform System. The term refers to a gender identity which can be best described as a meadow. Ones experience with this gender varies depending on the person, but the gender usually feels warm and springy, like the sun has been shining on it all day, and it is covered with long, springy grass. The gender tends to feel like it has a connection to summer, but this might vary between person to person.

🌼 More to be written

🌼 If anyone knows of any gender relating to healing magic, please do let us know!

[your-queer-dad]

Hey uhm

I don't use Tumblr a lot anymore, but everything with the election has gotten me pretty beaten up, but I also feel like I've abandoned the trans community by being nonbinary (Kind of, FTM identifying but fem presenting?) I don't know what to do, I guess this big ask all leads down to, your Tumblr user, are you adopting folk? and if so, could I be one of yours sons?

-🕊️ (haven't looked a lot through your blog, hope no one's taken this tag yet)

Hey kiddo, of course you can!!! You're always welcome here.

- dad x

[sammy--moh]

A random ramble about my identity, modern queer community and queer history bc I'm hyperfixated

(I don't want slur discourse under my post. I reclaim words that have been directly used to oppress me only and only towards myself, that's where the conversation ends)

(Cis/Hets don't touch this post

Terfs especially don't even look at this post

Anti kink fuckers don't look at this post, kink and LGBT are separate things but you cannot untangle kink history from queer/LGBT history

If your against the use of the word queer, don't clown on this post

Queer cis people are free to interact and add their opinions but don't clown on this post

Trans people and queer punks and activists please interact <3

Any corrections are welcomed as long as their constructive)

So you could probably find a few posts of me talking about some of my more modern and neo/xeno identity labels, its something I'm fairly proud of I'm a neo pronoun user and have been out as a nonbinary man for a long time

But I don't think I talk about my more, I guess classical and older queer labels and that feels disingenuous because I do still love queer history and have a lot of what would be considered ""outdated"" identieies

Yeah I'm a neo user and have some xeno gender labels, and I'm T4T which as far as I know is a label thats been around a long time but its still common and normally used today

But im also just a gender nonconformist(sometimes i use and reclaim the words transexual and transvestite just to piss off cis people who say i cant), i unapolgetically reclaim the word f4g, im in the leather community, I'm a fem man, im a cub, all things that have been around maybe since the 60s - 70s that I/still/ find connection to, comfort and community in

I mean hell I usually consider myself to currently be in a masc 4 fem relationship which you'd probably never guess by just looking at me

Which is another thing! Why is it always assumed that cubs and bears are the mascs?? I think I have more traditionally feminine clothing and presentation then most of my twink friends, I am a big, fat, extroverted, hairy cub and I am still the fem in one of my relationships and very feminine and fem presenting in general

Obviously masc 4 fem is not the only kind of mlm and wlm relationship that's stupid sndnd and expecting it is heteronormative, some people are masc 4 masc,fem 4 fem, heck not everyone /likes/ traditional masc fem labels and that's awesome!

Another thing I don't see a lot of people talk about is the fact that the bear and cub community is objectively a body positivity movement, that's what it started as that's what it always will be

Bear culture was a reaction to the beauty standards of gay culture at the time, when the ideal in gay relationships were young, thin, conventionally attractive gay and bi/multisexual men

Bear culture was specifically made to appreciate, lift up, and love large, hairy,sometimes older gay and bi/multsexual men and cub culture branched off from bears

I'm gonna be honest, I am recovering from a few body image issues and disorders that I wont go in depth on, and bear + cub culture has helped me to love myself and my body and find myself attractive more than any other body positivity space! Not to say other body positvity spaces arent important and needed, but that as a queer trans man this one has been the space I felt the most welcomed in

I wish there were a few expectations we could leave behind, like the idea that bears and cubs only date other bears and cubs, that terms like bear, twink, otter, leather gay, ect are gay exclusive and not just mlm and nwlnw terms, that fem and masc culture are gay and lesbian exclusive (dont come at me there are several moments in history we see these terms used by bi and generally queer men and that show masc and fem culture in bi and generally queer spaces)

I wish I could find more people like me in history, trans men who weren't masc, transmen and transmascs that were unapologetically feminine, I want to find transman queens in history, trans gay and mlm men, it's hard to find.. but I'm almost positive there has to be at least some people like me in queer history

But in general there's so much we can learn and keep from older queer culture that I feel has been lost a lot with younger generations

I love modern queer culture and neo/xeno labels and communities ans MOGAI and the breakdown of gender norms and sexual expectations

But im also unapolgetically a fem, leather loving, kinkster, trans fucking, fat cub, cross dressing faggot

All of these things are me

You cannot untangle or separate these identieies and labels from /me/

There are riots and loss in my history, and there is raw, unapolgetic queer beauty as well. there is pride in my veins, and fight in my lungs, and I wouldn't trade any of it for shit

[mostly-imagines]

Hi! Nonbinary they/them user here to answer a question, why am I here? To be blunt it's because I like your writing enough to stick around. I have a policy, if a writer doesn't use they/them or strictly second person pronouns they pass a series of checks as to whether or not I will read their fics. Is the writing good? Are the characterizations quality? Most importantly could I see myself in the reader's presentation if I can't in the pronouns? If all three check off then I will still read and keep up with fics/writers who use she/her pronouns. I realize this could sound dismissive to some authors but this is my genuine process of vetting, some days it can be weird and throw me off so I try to make sure I have other reasons to interact with a fic. If the gender of the reader is limited to a passing line or simply experiencing the world through fem presentation then to me it's not dysphoric to read and I can brush past it. Personally I get dysphoric when a reader character has specified height or names, genuinely can't explain why those two things specifically but it is how it is so I usually either ignore the height one and don't interact with reader fics where the character has an explicit name. (Not like a nickname or a code name or a last name like an explicit first name from the get go). But uh, yeah, sorry for the ramble but I saw your post and thought I'd offer my take on the matter.

thank you for sharing this!!

[sickgirlsickpoetry]

my opinion as an afab nonbinary, genderfuck, mogai user means rightfully nothing, bit I find roseboy, or.. canceling the use of femboys so stupid.

fem boy?

traditionally feminine presenting boy.

what's wrong with that?

if we wanna cancel something let's cancel the word trap, that shit is so transphobic and rapey.

[biracy]

Like okay. Let's look at some "queer media" I've engaged with before which I imagine Tumblr users will be on some level familiar with (I think. idk what the hell is popular on here anymore):

What We Do in the Shadows has four men (Guillermo, Nandor, Laszlo, and Colin) and two women (Nadja and the Guide) in the main cast. I would not in any universe classify any of the men as "feminine," nor would I classify either of the women as "masculine." This is unfortunate because I've seen Harvey Guillen, the real person, dress fem before and I think fem Guillermo would be incredible, but in no universe do Guillermo's ugly sweaters "lean towards femininity." The characters in wwdits are explicitly some kind of gay, but all of them are some level of gender-conforming.

Good Omens is a show with quite a few androgynous and/or nonbinary characters (some of the Horsemen in the first season, Uriel, Beezlebub, etc.), but that androgyny is mostly achieved through something like having all of the angels, including the women, wear suits. Despite this, I would hesitate to call either Aziraphale or Crowley "androgynous," let alone "feminine" in presentation. Unless, of course, op of this post thinks being "a Southern pansy" or spending one scene dressed as a woman is "leaning towards femininity."

I'm only about halfway through Gideon the Ninth but I will confidently call Gideon Nav "butch." So far I don't really think gender presentation works the same way in The Locked Tomb as it does in like, our world, but Gideon is butch and Harrow is like, androgynous. Not butch or femme but a secret third thing (goth). There are definitely feminine women in Gideon the Ninth too, and for the record I think it's definitely an outstanding example for like, butch representation, gay girl representation, kind of just the concept of "representation" in general and I would never take this to insinuate that "queer media" as a whole represents butchness the way Gideon the Ninth does. I would even throw op a coin and say that yes, masculine gay women are not positively represented in a lot of media and that is a problem. I will now take that coin away because that's not in any way because of Feminine Dominance or Anti-Masculism whatever these people believe in.

TL;DR: I think what's more common than anything else is gender-conforming "queerness in media." Men are usually some varying degree of masculine, women are usually some varying degree of feminine, and ultimately the status quo remains unchanged. This is for a bunch of reasons - people, both gay and straight people, are still in some way "turned off" by gender non-conformity, straight creators are so focused on not making "stereotypical" or "bad representation" that they feel like they need to make every gay character as straight-looking and "not gay" as possible, general transphobia, whatever. There is no massive mainstream push to remove masculine men from media. There is no societal hatred of masculinity. There is a societal aversion to gender variance and things that are undeniably "gay", and femininity is just as much a part of that as masculinity. It's the same shit I was talking about yesterday lol it is just not useful at all to say "my gay trans gnc experience is soooo uniquely difficult, unlike The Other Side who have it so easy with THEIR gay trans gnc experience" it's never true and it doesn't work

Sorry for doing another "screenshotted post response" but Beck sent me this screenshot this morning and I've been unable to stop thinking about it. I would love to know what planet the person who wrote this lives on. I earnestly believe this is a take that can only be formed if your primary interaction with "queerness in media" is like, lesbians in children's cartoons, and/or you perceive any slightly "stereotypically gay" behavior in a man character to be "leaning towards femininity"

[technicolor-rhapsody]

Hey there!

I’d love to see your take on John Constantine and a fem presenting (nonbinary) reader who’s also a magic user, if you’re up for it!

(I love any and all things Constantine, so like, whatever you think you can do, I’ll take!)

Hey! Thank you so much for the request! I'm sorry it took so long. I re-wrote this piece like 4 times. 🥴

I wasn't sure how to write a nonbinary yet fem presenting reader, so I tried to keep it gender neutral for the most part. I hope that's okay and that you enjoy this anyways! 💕

You watch his movements with a critical eye. It takes a lot of energy to keep your expression neutral and to bite your tongue as to not nag. However, Constantine is perceptive enough to take notice.

"If you have somethin' to say, just say it."

His tone of exasperation and annoyance matches his expression. The scratching of the chalk against the stone floor has halted. He waits for you to speak.

If he insists. "You're writing is like chicken scratch." Brutal honesty it is. You carefully move closer towards the magic circle he's drawn. "The lines of your runes seem just a tad wobbly. Some of them are off by a couple of degrees. If you don't-"

"I bloody well have been copying yours stroke by stroke." He replies, pointing towards your own magic circle.

A hand is held out to him. You nod towards the chalk. "May I?"

It's placed in your hand as he grumbles. He moves back to observe the corrections you're about to make. That's fine. It'll settle your nerves knowing that you've done so. Magic is one fo the few things you're a perfectionist with. Really one must be. Make a wrong move, say an incorrect word or use an inaccurate ingredient and the consequences could be deadly.

With care you take the time to make your corrections. Lines are straightened out. Strokes are made crisper. You do this in silence as he stares on. Once finished you beckon him to step back into the circle, giving him the warning not to smear or erase any of the chalk.

"You're a real bossy bird, you know that?"

When he steps in you step out. Hastily you make your way over to several densely packed plastic bags. From them you start pulling out enough candles to light a small village. However there's two that not like the others. These two you made. They're imperfect compared to the store bought ones. The wax is blacker than any ink; a contrast to the sea of garish colors.

Around each magic circle the candles are set ---all except the special two. You set one inside your circle and the other in his.

"Is all this really necessary? It's a bit theatrical for me tastes." He lights up a ciggie, taking several drags.

"Inconvenient is the word you should have used. You don't mind theatrics. It's the act of having to have patience you despise." You dig a pocket knife out from your back jeans pocket. "You ready?"

He gives you a nod, expression softening. "Aye. Ta for the help." He offers the cigarette to you, to which you accept a few puffs from. You grab his hand and flip it over to press a kiss to the palm. His skin is warm yet his hand feels rough; not calloused but like a person who frequently works with their hands. You've had the pleasure of knowing just how skilled he is with said hands.

You murmur an apology before slicing his palm. Blood bubbles to the surface. He let's a few drops drop onto the black candle. A flame bursts forth, burning a bright purple. You make your way into your own circle and complete the same process. Once both candles are lit with the violet flame, you and Constantine began reciting the spell. When the runes start glowing you know the ritual has started.

Even if it might be the wrong time for such a thing, you can't help but shoot him a smug grin.

[sweetmoogirl]

I'm curious as to the psychology of your kink. For someone so young, it seems like a pretty full on and specific kink. I am wondering firstly, what is the connect between fantasy and reality, if any, are you just engaging in fantasy purely for horny reasons? Does your fantasy and kink ever enter your reality and if so to what extent? Secondly, how did this kink begin for you - were you traumatised, did you simply explore the internet until stumbling across something that you explored further because of the sexual excitement it gave you, do you have mental illness or are you a fully functioning person? I think there's a lot to learn from you so please, the more detail and clarity, the better.

im pretty flattered that you seem to think im so interesting lolol

i dont know which kink youre specifically talking about though since a lot of my kinks can fall under this line of questioning. ill answer this for the three "worst" kinks i have: detrans/misgendering, cnc, and misogyny. if its not one of these three then lmk and ill answer again.

for detrans/misgendering, it really not that specific tbh. theres a lot of trans people who have a kink like this or similar to this. (forced) feminization is also very common, especially in masculine spaces. theres absolutely a psychological aspect to this, as well as a societal one. trans people are oppressed and often discriminated against in many ways, including being misgendered. this kink allows for a SAFE and CONSENTUAL space for someone to cope through their traumas in a healthy way.

theres also a VERY strict gender binary often forced on trans people by cis people, and sometimes others in our own community, that force a lot of us into a box. if you dont keep your hair short, wear boy clothing, like masc hobbies, and transition medically then youre not a real trans man. if you dont do makeup and wear dresses with long hair, tuck, get surgery or use padding for breasts, or act feminine then youre not a real trans woman. if youre too masc or fem or you dont fit into nonbinary stereotypes then you must be lying.

this kink is a very easy way to explore masculine and feminine sides to ourselves as trans people that we wouldnt be able to irl because of these harsh gender roles that we HAVE to adhere to otherwise no one takes us seriously (obviously trans people are valid NO MATTER HOW THEY PRESENT OR CHOOSE TO DO but this is a very common mindset we have to deal with).

i got into this kink bc my gender dysphoria is awful. its made me miserable for most of my life and it, alongside my adhd and possible autism, is why i struggle so much with depression and anxiety. im always worried about how ill be seen, if ill pass as male, and remembering my own body makes me sick. i started joking over half a year ago, saying "well i cant get dysphoric if i pavlov myself into getting horny everytime i get misgendered. haha checkmate t3rfs!!!" and then it became less of a joke.

i wrote stories of trans men exploring this kink in my writing and it really helped. im still dysphoric. i may joke about how this kink is the way to cure gender dysphoria but thats not how it actually works. i still have days where my body is unbearable and the thought of being feminized makes me want to hide away forever. but it genuinely did help to break out of those boxes i put myself in and play in a safe space with terms and mentalities regarding my gender.

in terms of fantasy and reality, this is purely fantasy for me. i have no desires to detransition, nor do i have any want to be misgendered outside of horny purposes. i am a man, i will always be a man, and thats not going to change just because tumblr user xyz called me babygirl. im almost a year on testosterone and im considering getting top surgery as we speak. this kink doesnt affect me on any other level than horny.

for cnc/noncon, this one is probably a bit more in depth. i dont have any specific trauma in this field. ive been touched inappropriately against my consent a handful of times (as in someone touched my chest or my hips) but nothing that spawned this kink.

however, there are studies that show that a LOT (as in over half) of afabs get fantasies regarding cnc and non consensual situations. this DOES NOT mean that they want to taken advantage of. for the most part, this kink derives from the idea of being wanted so badly by someone that they would take you no matter what. its also the idea of POWER PLAY, of being helpless and not having to make any sexual decisions.

theres also a lot of trauma involved and, as stated before, kink is a SAFE and HEALTHY place to cope with that trauma as long as safe words, aftercare, and proper communication is enforced. there are many people who like being in a cnc scene and knowing that, unlike their trauma, they now have CONTROL over the situation and can stop it whenever they want and have their wishes be RESPECTED. in this area, i am the wrong person to ask so i implore you to do more research on your own with this topic if youre truly curious.

for ME personally, i like noncon/cnc bc of that power dynamic. i am a submissive who could NEVER dom in any sense of the word. i like being completely submissive and i like having my dom take control and do anything and everything for me. i dont want to make decisions and i like being overpowered and taken care of. its just hot to be forced to do something, whether that be manhandled into the next room or be good.

this is a fantasy that ive had for years, even when i was a kid. i dont know WHY that is, but i do know that a lot of my friends who have childhood related trauma also had fantasies like that as a kid. i also discovered hardcore porn and noncon scenes when i was WAY too young to even know what sex was and im sure that exposure affected me in an unhealthy way too. again, id implore you to look for educational resources on the nature of forceful and violent fantasies, both sexual and not. its a fascinating subject and bdsm and kink psychology and etiquette has been a fixation of mine for years.

and it is just that, a fantasy. in real life, i am extremely sex repulsed and borderline identify as asexual because i dont want to do anything like that with anyone. im also, as mentioned before, extremely anxious and socially awkward so i dont like being near people at all. the idea of anyone hitting on me or not respecting my boundaries makes me feel ill, even if its hot while im horny.

for misogyny, ill keep it short bc its related to everything above. basically combine my reasoning for cnc and detrans and youd get my reason for this. its basically me, as a trans person, going from one extreme of being so masculine it was toxic and exploring the other extreme. its once again just me exploring a taboo subject in a safe and consensual space.

misogyny kink is rooted in strict female gender roles, as well as the forcefulness and disrespect you get from cnc. thats why its my favorite kink, it combines everything i like but specifically utilizes WHY i like those things. i discovered it when i made my first detrans/misgendering tumblr account and made a side account dedicated to it, and then when i made this account i just combined the two.

i grew up super fucking feminist and i still am a major feminist who is all about supporting women and their choices. i love women and think theyre cool as hell and much, much stronger than i am lolol. this is just a fantasy for me, nothing more. this is another kink that is heavy on the dom/sub dynamics, as well as giving people who experience trauma at the face of their oppression a place to take back those experiences.

anyways thats my super long post!!! tysm for asking, anon, i love answering questions. if you have any further questions then you can shoot me some more anons or you can message me directly, i dont mind :D

i hope i answered your question and it all made sense!!!!

[trashcatsnark]

So, uhhh apparently kerry bi discourse is still like a thing? For some ungodly reason. And I’ve been open about the fact that I do not like how the bi representation was handled in Cyberpunk 2077. I’ve never minced words or pussyfooted around that, there were times where it genuinely upset me if I’m being honest. But, I’ve come to the conclusion and acceptance that regardless of who he romances in game, regardless of the piss poor way it was handled, Kerry is a bisexual man. While not overt in the game, it is present in him having an ex wife and before you scream compulsory heterosexuality, both the person who created him and developers of the game have stated they consider him a bisexual man. 

It is also stated by this developer that the only reason Kerry is exclusively attracted to a masc! v is because they remind him of Johnny. Which, i will state here, I don’t like. I think it’s poor writing choice, I think it’s a slap in the face to those who romance him, especially given that while he may initially be interacting with V for that reason, he does change so why is that still a factor in his choosing to date V? I think it’s a poor decision, but regardless of that the reason Kerry doesn’t date a fem! v is not because he’s repulsed by women, is not because he’s not attracted to women. Personally, I think the biggest reason Kerry is only interested in masc!v is far simpler and less character based, I think they wanted to have an equal amount of romance options for men and women, and they figured women would like River and men would like Kerry.

So, Kerry is bisexual, women are attracted to him. They’re going to want to create female characters romantically entangled with him. And that’s completely plausible, valid, and okay. If you are someone who ships him with a woman, a man, a nonbinary individual. If the character you ship him with is trans or cis. No matter the case, you’re okay, you’re not hurting anyone. You are not homophobic, you are not biphobic, you are not fetishizing a gay man, you are not a bad person for the victimless act of shipping someone with Kerry. 

And if you’re someone who doesn’t like the idea of him with women, who wants to write and see him as man who is entirely attracted to men. That’s okay, too. Do I personally like or agree with that sentiment, no, but I respect you enough as a person to not police what you do so long as it isn’t hurting other people. 

And you owe people that same respect. Be kind, be respectful, don’t engage with content you don’t like, and block tags/users/etc. But what we’re not gonna do is equivocate the act of shipping a fictional man with another fictional character to the physical sexual violation of actual human beings. Because that is harmful, that is hurting other people. Disrespecting and mistreating people over it, is harmful. If you are someone who’s engaged in that behavior, I do sincerely hope you take a step back, realize you’re harming actual human beings over a fictional character, and reevaluate your priorities. 

[peenalize]

one of my favorite games -the world next door- has a fem nonbinary !!! exclusive they/them user !!!

theyre so pretty i love them also !!! they have a really cute sidestory about being in love with a rock himbo

YESSS YEEHAHHAHH YESS im a SUCKER for fem presenting nonbinary rep. MASC PRESENTING NONBINARY REP TOO like dont get me wrong i love what we have but im getting kinda tired of the same skinny androgynous characters with glasses over and over (and thats when theyre not a fucking alien or shapeshifter) so ill def check this game out at some point !!!!

[enbypanposi]

Nonbinary Folks:

You don’t have to be anything. You don’t have to be or consider yourself to be

aligned

unaligned

transneutral

transfeminine or masculine 

a user of they/them pronouns

a user of neopronouns

fem-presenting

masc-presenting

androgynous

conventionally attractive

out

LGB

You’re allowed to just be nonbinary. You don’t need to confine yourself. You can just be you.