#this is so much more confusing as an aroace

[justkeeponsimming]

Overwhelmed by so much emotion, Karma grabs Mercy’s hands and pulls her up. She throws her arms around her sister, squeezing her so tightly. She only loosens her grip a little bit when Mercy gasps for air. Karma: “Meme, I am so, so proud of you! I’m so happy that you’ve identified a part of yourself. But, I’m so, so sorry for dragging you out here. I would never mean to make you uncomfortable.” Mercy holds her sister close, feeling tears flow down her face. For years, she knew something was different, but could never put a finger on it. Throughout the evening at the romance festival, surrounded by sims showing romantic feelings towards their loved ones, Mercy’s mind wondered about her own views. She’d come to the conclusion that she was aroace, but the insight from the Romance Guru caught her off guard. Love comes in many forms. Mercy is a loving, generous sim who shows her feelings for others in equally meaningful ways. The Romance Guru’s advice simply cemented her identification. Mercy: “Thank you for the apology, Kar. I know you didn’t mean to make me feel uncomfortable. I feel…I don’t know. Vulnerable? Confused? Happy?” Karma pulls back and flashes her sister the biggest l, brightest smile. Mercy can’t help but grin back at her. This is a moment the sisters will remember for the rest of their lives - their understanding of one another growing even deeper. Karma: “I’m sure it’s a lot to process, but I’m so proud of you for finding a label that fits. Let’s get out of here. I can’t see any cuties.” Mercy giggles, looping her arm through Karma’s. The sisters walk to the train station, sharing more self discoveries. Karma and Mercy are each other’s safe space!

[i-dont-know-nor-care-go-away]

guys I'm feeling a little bisexual in this chili's tonight

[bread-is-my-life]

ermmm school doodles

[coffee-mouse]

[bacchuschucklefuck]

the boy-but-not-that-way-ism of riz gukgak send tweet

[booksandberries]

rubbing my queer little hands all over my favorite series (making characters aroace)

[brain-deadx0]

Ngl I always thought of them like making friends to possibly date you know?

Like oh hey none of my current friends are people I could see myself partnering with for whatever reason. Lets go interview people with similar interests and see if they become friends who might end up partner shaped.

The whole spontaneous lets date right away and everything else I legit thought was just a movie thing to save on time for plot reasons.

Who goes on two dates with someone you just met and decide to marry them eventually?

But yeah. Its like a job interview. Marriage is a contract. And evidently this is not the feelings most people have when approaching dating and marriage.

btw dating sucks as a concept.

[ragamuffin-wheeeee]

As much as I love my mom, she confuses me a lot

The other day I was telling her about ftm top surgery and that I wanted it and she just said “but you’re aroace”. And I said yes so she said “so you don’t like sex…” I agreed and she continued “so… why do you want to get rid of your boobs… if you’re asexual?”

I was so confused I just said “because it would make me more comfortable… and my body isn’t inherently sexual…????”

Im so confused is this how allo people think????? That everything is sexual?????? What??????? Help??????????

[turtleofthehollow]

Listen, I love queer platonic radioapple. It’s the main way I ship them. There’s just something so hilarious about two people who hate each other so much that they end up forming a semi functional relationship

Just the absurdity of that scenario alone makes me love these two idiots beyond belief

That being said, I also love the idea that Lucifer accidentally develops an actual crush on Alastor, and has no idea what to do about it

He doesn’t want to pursue it because he still hates the obnoxious demon whose trying to replace him in Charlie’s life

But that doesn’t stop him from awkwardly flirting with Alastor either

It’s not even intentional, he’s just that dense

One moment he's fighting with Alastor over something petty, and than the next he accidentally says something flirty, realizes his mistake, and in a fit of embarrassment tries to cover it up with insults

Alastor being the aroace icon that he is gets progressively more confused from this hot and cold treatment from the king of hell, but some part of him relishes in the attention, so he just fans the flames

[hplonesomeart]

@cookiemedo Sorry it took me an embarrassingly long time to properly respond to your lil tag inquiry. Containing my doodles in neatly formatted boxes is uh…definitely not my strong-suit as you’ve probably figured out by now lol. But I felt like your ask warranted some doodles, so here ya go!

Anyways that bowtie shall become my prized souvenir—you best believe I’m gonna wear it proudly. Look out Puzzles I’m coming for your style and then some /j

Would

(go to one of his theatrical broadway-wannabe concerts or perhaps a late night gameshow comedy hour sketch performance. I’m not too picky I’d be willing to pay money just to see him perform anything period)

Yea I felt like doing something silly in order to break away from the dread of finals week coming up. What can I say? I’m a professional procrastinator. But man oh man it was a good call this time around—I mean just look as this scrumptious masterpiece right here. Time well spent for sure. Genuinely I believe to have cooked with it chat /j

This is a version without the added stars by the way. And the second one is obviously just raw image reference/the original “bereal concert meme” source. I was very tempted to put Puzzles in that same exact outfit—however I decided it would be overly time consuming to make two separate versions. Maybe once finals are over I’ll be able to do that :)

[chronicbeans]

Queerplatonic Alastor x Reader Headcanons

Hehe my plan of writing headcanons for various Aroace-spec identity Alastor headcanons has begun. This one is with a cupioromantic and asexual Alastor in mind. I haven't seen enough of them, and as they say! "If you want it done right, you gotta do it yourself."

TW: Frustrations regarding romantic identity, complete unawareness of certain LGBTQ+ topics (my man's from the 1920's, he's almost completely in the dark), slight yandere behavior? (I feel he's just obsessive by default, regardless of the relationship type)

• So, this man has never necessarily identified himself with any sort of LGBTQ+ labels. Back in his day, there weren't any terms to use for being asexual or aromantic. At least, not any that he knew of. He's always been comfortable with his sexuality, though! His main thought process was always "I'll probably find someone that I'm attracted to at some point, and if I don't, that's alright." That thought process has also followed him down to Hell, and stayed the same for all these years.

• However... Whilst he's very comfortable with his sexuality... His romantic feelings are very complicated, now. He's always desired to have one, and he's very confused as to why he hasn't felt any romantic attraction, yet. It makes sense that someone who wants a romantic relationship to be able to feel romantic attraction, yes? He's very much in the dark to the complexities of how these things really work, mostly due to him being from the 1920s-30s. He's caught up on slang and technology, but he hasn't bothered to keep up with sexualities and romantic identities, as he doesn't think about them much.

• So, does he ask any more modern demons and sinners for help? Ha! No. He's too prideful, and simply assumes that there probably isn't much of a difference in knowledge on romantic attraction as compared to his day. Yes, he's aware that there's way more identities for sexualities. People talk about them often, and he hears terms thrown around here and there as he walks through Hell. He never hears anything in regards to romance, though. It's simply not talked about as often, from his experience. So, he's completely in the dark. If anything, he's probably completely unaware that there are identities for romantic attraction.

• He does what he can to cope. This whole situation is very frustrating for him. However, at the same time, he thinks that it shouldn't be so frustrating. So, it's embarrassing to him, and he doesn't tell anyone about it. Instead, he does what he believes everyone who is single and ready to mingle does: reading romance novels. More specifically, he flips to parts where said attraction is described, or little scenarios that he wants is going on. Restaurant dates, walking through the park, dancing, holding hands and cuddling. Those sorts of things! Things nobody would ever expect someone as unhinged as him would want...

• The most frustrating part, however, is that he feels he should already be feeling such an attraction to you. You, being his most close friend. You're the one he trusts with certain secrets, one of the few people he doesn't mind touching him unprompted (besides, say, Niffty), and probably the only person he lets his smile down around. Though, he rarely does so, as he doesn't want to worry you. Unlike Niffty, who he sees as having a more familial feeling towards, he sees you as a close friend. His closest friend, but just a close friend, which frustrates him to no end.

• It takes him a long time to even think of mentioning it to someone. However, when he does, he'd feel too awkward to bring it up to you. So, he decides to speak to Charlie about it! After all, she has one of the more "modern" relationships. So, she probably also knows something about whatever is going on with him! And after the long and grueling process of talking to her? He comes out even more frustrated than before. Being unable to feel romantic attraction, but still want romance? Cupioromantic? It is all so confusing. However, he won't question it. He's clearly out of his zone, and he was horribly wrong when assuming the world of romance hadn't progressed...

• You, however, are his most trusted friend. His closest friend. So, he decides to waste no time in deciding to propose an idea to you. He's heard of these things called "queerplatonic relationships", and his understanding is that they are like friendships, but with some more traditionally romantic interactions involved. Which, whilst his understanding of the nature of queerplatonic relationships may be a bit off, he's trying his best. Once you explain it a bit further, emphasizing that they're closer relationships than friendships, but not romantic and can vary widely in affectionate interactions, he is immediately is set on trying to start one with you. Luckily, though, you agree rather quickly.

• Despite him wanting many of your interactions and ways of showing affection to be more traditionally romantic, such as cuddling or going out on friendly dates, he won't cross any boundaries. Both because you're his closest, most prized relationship with another person, and because he can't think of many other people who would even be willing to enter such a relationship with him if he ever asked. Not that he'd want to ask anyone else. There's a reason why he immediately went to you. It's hard for him to describe it, though. Despite being a man of words, whenever he tries to explain why he feels like you are the perfect person for him to enter this queerplatonic relationship with, he stumbles heavily.

• His little ideal for this relationship is, essentially, the types of things he's read in the romance novels he has. Sure, a little bit of a twisted version of it, but at it's core it's the same. He wants to cuddle in a nice, safe, and warm room (while there's probably the screams of an extermination going on the background). He wants to go to restaurants (this man's a cannibal so check your food). He wants to do the cheesy move of handing you red roses and candy as a gift (do not ask how he was able to buy such an expensive brand, or where the two large, heavy trash bags came from or what they are filled with).

• He's going to be very, VERY protective of you. Almost, if not completely to an obsessive degree. He knows how Hell is. People want power, and he's powerful, and you are close to him. He's sure many people are going to go after you, in order to get to him. So, your little relationship is going to be as well protected of a secret as it can be, at first, until he believes he can properly protect you from any danger. And after the secret is out, he's going to be right by your side the entire time. Literally. Whenever he can be, he's next to you. Nobody, except maybe Vox or another pesky overlord, is going to try to hurt you as long as he is there. Even then, he could completely destroy them, anyways!

[genderqueerdykes]

how do i try to put this for people who get confused about aromantic lesbians and gays. not every aro lesbian is like this so disclosure: i am talking about my experience as an aro lesbian, but i feel like it's still important to discuss. lesbians can be aromantic and asexual, and even both- i am on the ace spectrum, so i can be considered an aroace lesbian. the thing is, i still experience lesbian and sapphic attraction even if it's not necessary romantic.

the way i try to phrase it is i have a deep attraction toward all dykes: butches, studs, bulldykes, femmes, lesboys, transbians, non binary dykes, intersex dykes, transmasc, ftm & trans male dykes, transfem dykes, genderqueer dykes, male dykes, bigender dykes, genderfluid dykes, two-spirit dykes. and sapphic identifying women, men & people. i'm dyke oriented. i want to be around other dykes of any identity- i want to live in domestic environmnets with other lesbians & dykes, taking care of one another, making sure we're alright.

i want to be there for other dykes in my community. i want to come visit to check on how they're doing when they're sick. i wanna be there to listen to the stone butches when they feel estranged. i want to give them groceries that i didn't end up liking but i know they would. i want to laugh and joke and goof off with other dykes. i want to be there to listen when they have gender or identity dysphoria. i wanna go bowling with the butches. i wanna workout at the gym with the bulls. i wanna go clothes shopping with the lesboys & boydykes to find them clothes that make them feel like themselves. i want to give other dykes a place to stay when they're going through hard times. i want to befriend with the weird "crazy" "ugly" dykes who are freaky. i want to be there when something scary happens so i can provide comfort and support. i want to help give resources and aid to other poor dykes who need it.

there are a lot of ways to be a dyke, lesbian, or sapphic. whatever you want to call yourself under this umbrella, there are a tons of ways to express it. i don't have to want to cuddle, kiss or hug other dykes in a romantic fashion. maybe i like surrounding myself with other dykes. maybe i just really prefer the company of other dykes. it's not that hard to wrap one's brain around once you break it down like that. there's a million other ways to be in someone else's company and spend time together. i assure you there is more to adult relationships than sex and romance. those are wonderful things for the people who enjoy them, but for those of us who are aromantic and/or asexual, there are many other ways to enjoy the company of other folks in a very queer fashion.

happy pride to every aromantic spectrum lesbian, dyke & sapphic person, you deserve to be seen and heard just as much as every other dyke. you matter

[barlupiins]

i am fond of mitsumi as much as I am with shima, but as an aro/acespec person, to find a romance manga that so perfectly defends the importance of platonic love and everything just feels so fulfilling. how he perceives it all and his confusion and navigation of it is so important to me, and even more, mitsumi's monologue about liking shima as a person ugh!!!!! mitsumi would like shima even if he were a cockroach fr lmao. skip and loafer for the aroace community 👹

[moraent-keys]

I just realized my whole thing of “I think they act in a couple of ways that are typically viewed as romantic while also being very platonic, but calling it romantic seems weird to me…”

Might be me viewing them as a qpr.. idk

So I know a bunch of aroace people can’t really tell the difference between platonic and romantic (myself included), but do any other aroace people have this problem when it comes to ships? /genq i would like to know if others experience this

I can’t tell how I ship something or how I view relationships in general anymore and I’m confused

[lilaira]

Hi! I've been following your art for a long while and I've been wondering about the gore aspect in your relationship when you draw you and your partners? I identify as aroace and I feel that way towards my partner but I'm not sure how to describe it to him so it makes a bit more sense.

It's I believe a delicate subject in today's internet culture, so I'll try my hardest at explaining it as best as I possibly can but don't take my advice as a gospel, I'm not a native eng speaker (nuances are lost on me) people's experiences and triggers are vastly different.

As a victim of domestic abuse but also a gore enthusiast from a young age I always found gore cathartic? It was a subject of a lot of symbolism for mental pain in my art. It helped me process the pain I had no words for at the time of growing up. So it became my friend, it gave me a tool to relieve the stress, the anger, the violent thoughts in a safe way.

They were however almost always associated with love in some way. Whether it was a heartbreak, or love for my mother who was getting mentally and physically abused for the majority of my life or loving myself through providing it as a therapy.

My life story aside: You need to make sure your partner feels absolutely safe around you, what you're doing is not a threat to their health or life, it's just a symbolism for how intense your feelings are. With gore art comes intensity of emotions which can easily translate into something positive. That's kinda what I'm doing turning something associated with bad experiences into something sweet and lovely. Simply put - making something good out of a bad thing to cope, like finding positive coping mechanisms in a shit situation, turning your weaknesses into strenghts. Taking power away from the abuser. That's what's great about the art. You can create something beautiful out of ugly. Turn it around. People often don't realise but we DO communicate love through expressions that sound violent. Saying you want to squeeze your partner so hard their eyes pop. Miss them so much that you want to crawl under their skin. They shouldn't assume you're actually about to hurt them but that you love them soooo much. That you're happy. That you need closeness and cherish them. Love bites are a thing. Cannibalism as a metaphor for love is very popular. It's more normalized than you'd think!

That said, learn about their boundaries, how far would be too far. V and Jacky have vastly different preferences and tolerance when it comes to gore. We are still exploring the topic and learning about ourselves and each other. For those still confused about what I'm talking about here's an example of what V wrote to me and I illustrated:

Or a romantic gorey song:

[lurkingshan]

Hi. I recently finished watching Coffee Prince based on a few recs posts that you had put out and MY GOD I'm so glad I decided to give it a try. (This was the first Kdrama where I got past 2 eps) I loved this sooo sooo much.

Do you have any recs for media (queer or otherwise) with similar strong characters as Eun-Chan? Even otherwise, thanks for your great rec posts!

Another Coffee Prince convert! Thank you for telling me, anon, it gives me so much joy every time someone gets to experience it for the first time. And I am not surprised Go Eun Chan captured your heart, everyone who meets her feels the same.

Since I don't know exactly what about Eun Chan captivated you, I am not entirely sure what kind of characters you are looking for. Is it her generosity of spirit? Is it that endearing mix of bravery and naïveté? Is it the way she keeps going through confusion and uncertainty? Is it that she is just so lacking in artifice and unapologetically herself? Or maybe it's her gender questioning journey that spoke to you.

Given that I am not precisely sure, I am just going to give you a mix of great dramas of various genres with strong characters that give me some aspect of that Eun Chan swag--feel free to come back and ask for more recs if you have something else in mind! In alpha order:

Be Melodramatic (Viki)

Shan found another excuse to rec Be Melodramatic? Must be a day ending in y. But seriously this drama is full of fantastic characters and there's a strong thread here about being yourself unapologetically and finding the people who love you for that.

Great Men Academy (grey)

Another character experiencing gender, but this time via a magical-unicorn-induced body transformation (don't ask I could not possibly explain it). This story is all about Love figuring herself out and the bisexual king who loves her in any body.

Healer (Viki)

Chae Yeong Shin is Park Min Young's best character ever and it's not close. She has a lot of Eun Chan's relentless spirit and optimism in the face of life's nonsense, and she's a spunky one. Healer is also just a great action romance with a lot of fun hijinks and a very swoony male lead, if you're into that kind of thing.

Joshi-teki Seikatsu (Life As A Girl) (grey)

Miki is an all-time great character. A trans woman rebooting her life away from home, she is more assured about who she is but has a lot of Eun Chan's core generosity and bravery. I love her so much.

Kieta Hatsukoi (Viki)

Chaotic confusion with a heart of gold, thy name is Aoki.

Koisenu Futari (grey)

Sakuko, my beloved. This show is about two people on the aroace spectrum connecting and finding companionship and family in each other, and it's so beautiful.

Light on Me (Viki)

Woo Tae Kyung is definitely sitting at the "unapologetically themselves" table with Eun Chan. And he has a love triangle, too!

My Lovely Sam Soon (Viki)

If you're up for an even older kdrama, I love this one to pieces. Kim Sam Soon has a lot in common with Go Eun Chan, in that she doesn't perform femininity the way people expect and she is trying to find her place in the world, all while crushing on a guy who feels very out of her league. This is a journey for both lead characters, and I was so moved by where they ended up that I burst into tears at the end.

She Loves to Cook and She Loves to Eat (Furritsubs)

My girls!!! I love every character in this show. I don't think it's possible to watch this drama and not find someone to connect with; it's all about exploring the many different ways to be a woman and finding the people who will love and respect you for who you are. And it's very queer while doing it!

Twenty-five Twenty-one (Netflix)

Na Hee Do is a legend, and not just because of the fencing. This show is her coming of age story and you will love her.

Weightlifting Fair Kim Bok Joo (Viki)

Kim Bok Joo, another heroine wrestling with her femininity as she navigates coming of age and changing relationships. She's fantastic.

As always, if you have trouble finding any of these, you can always hmu (off anon, because we don't share secret files in public lol). Hope you find something to enjoy among these!