i think i’m a little confused by your wording (i just woke up so i apologize for that it’s probably my fault) but you’re saying the people that think ray is just using sand as another addiction are annoying right (unless that’s not what you’re saying then you can just ignore this lmao). it irritates me because i feel like ep 9 in specific proved anything but that. i think people hold onto the ideas and the way the relationships were from the beginning of the show and refuse to see them as anything else? like yes, ray was using sand to fill a void at first just like top was using mew as a new experience that he wasn’t serious about and just like how boston didn’t see nick as anything but a fuck buddy. these relationships started one way and have grown from that so it’s annoying to see them still be reduced as to what they were originally so far into the show.
and for people that continue to go on about what the narrative is saying they’re certainly missing the narrative of last episode that sand believes he’s not important to ray and that it’s just lust and his feelings aren’t serious and him expressing that multiple times in the episode only for ray to prove him wrong. they had sand say he wouldn’t drive up there for 2 hours in the middle of the night and say that he’s not important enough for it and say it’s only lust so sand could be proven wrong. sand also clearly wanted him to show that type of dedication (even though yes it was ray crossing boundaries). it was spelled out for people …..
https://www.tumblr.com/tinrange/730865004283330560/its-like-some-people-have-forgotten-the-phrase
YOU GET ITTTT yes exactly. People's perception of Ray really hasn't moved past the character introduction, hes still just the drunkard to them. Even the way lots of people talk about him healing and going to rehab has become inexplicably tied to becoming 'deserving' of sand instead of focusing on the painful process that recovery would be for him and all he would have to endure.
It honestly feels like most people lack empathy for Ray that they extend to a majority of other characters, there's a dangerous lack of awareness in the ideas being peddled and they betray so many people's subconscious views on addiction.
Ray has spent episodes on episodes reaching out to sand, listening to sand, and giving parts of himself to sand freely. Hes been kind and loving to him in numerous ways but there's a notion that he cant be in love through that addiction and that hes warped beyond belief. Its honestly sad to see.
Addiction changes you, but it is not a personal failing its a disease and one where recovery is possible, seeing people dismiss all his actions and his care as misplaced addictive tendencies strips him of his autonomy and i cant stand it!!
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Things That Happen In Gravity Falls Without Context
It's implied that rich people control their children with a bell
A single episode is shockingly reminiscent of both Five Night's at Freddy's and Doki Doki Literature Club. This episode came out 3 years before DDLC and one month after FNAF
Mabel kisses Strong Bad
There are two clones of the main character that are still alive and living in the woods
Larry King confirms that llamas are nature's greatest warriors
An old couple is killed by rap music
One of the scariest monsters in the show is eaten alive and loves every second of it
Neil Cicierega wrote a song for it that was unfortunately never used (yes, seriously)
Everyone in the town is a tad strange, except, ironically, Cecil from Welcome to Night Vale
Boy bands are kept as pets
A character proves she is pure of heart by performing a drug bust on gnomes (this does not work)
Zombies are defeated by Ke$ha
The most discourse-generating part of the show is a 12 year old giving a time traveler a snowglobe
And old man almost fucks a spider
When someone tells you they don't have a tattoo, believe them.
Fucking up a science fair will inevitably lead to your brother being stuck in another dimension
If you stick your head in a portal, you speak in code for a little bit before you turn into a hillbilly
Get your son to pay attention to you by creating a mech beast
We are all blanchin', unless we find a cool gun.
By the end of the show, the mayor's last name is "Cutebiker"
The president gives Dipper a negative 12 dollar bill
Bill Cipher
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As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.
For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.
But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.
Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.
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lighthearted.
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i turn 24 today. To celebrate, I made this comic to be a spiritual successor to lead balloon, a comic in which I talked about the darkest period of my life so far.
A lot has changed since my 23rd birthday and this one. My priorities have shifted a lot, in ways that I think are mostly good. But i think the best part about today is that suicide has gone back to being a far away notion. I'm really lucky, and I'm grateful for that.
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