#this is kind of a reminder to myself too

[nagichi-boop]

How it sounds when people tell a disabled person to “try harder”

(Or things akin to it)

Imagine there’s a fire in front of you. Okay, now put your hand in the fire. Go on, do it! You can’t? Why?

You wouldn’t, would you? You know from the experiences of others that forcing yourself to put your hand into the flame is dangerous and can cause lasting damage. There’s a reason your body hesitates to do it - your body is warning you that it’s dangerous. You only need to put your hand near a flame to know it’s hot and want to back off.

Now imagine the person tells you that you’ll never know you’ll get burned unless you try. You would think they’re stupid, right? You don’t need to put yourself in excruciating pain to know that it’s completely reckless. Not only would it hurt like hell in the moment, but you could permanently damage your hand.

The person then tells you that their friend put their hand into the flame and they were fine, so you should be fine too. This friend of their’s, however, was wearing fire-resistant gloves - you are not. It is not the same scenario. You are naturally going to be more susceptible to injury because you don’t have that added layer of protection.

How does this relate to being disabled?

People often get told that they are lazy or using their disability as an excuse not to do things, for example working. Logically speaking, a disabled person could potentially do those things, BUT the difference is they cannot do it safely. If you put your hand in a flame, you couldn’t keep it there long, but your hand will likely be ruined for a long time, even permanently. You could force yourself, as a disabled person, to do certain activities, but it wouldn’t be sustainable and you’ll probably end up making your health worse in the long run.

Your body warns you when you’re pushing yourself and (hopefully) you stop what you are doing because you know that continuing would be damaging. You also know that from either your own experience or the experiences of other disabled people. You don’t need to put your hand into a fire to know it’s dangerously hot. Sometimes well intentioned people, assuming that for whatever reason it’s encouraging to say it, will compare your situation to someone they know. But even if that person has the same conditions as you, everyone’s limitations and capabilities will be different. To have a one size fits all approach to disability is damaging. It’s like saying; “Well if Usain Bolt can run for the Olympics, why can’t you? You both have working legs - you just need to train harder!” Just because your situations are similar, it doesn’t mean you’re capable of the same things.

The flame is your tolerance for exertion. Some days the flame is dimmer and you can get closer to it. Other days it blazes and you have to avoid it entirely. You might be able, on most days, to creep up to the flame, but once you start feeling its heat you know to stop or back away.

Your disability and what you can do on a given day may change day to day, week to week, month to month. Don’t let anyone make you feel as though you’re not doing enough or that you should just push through the pain and symptoms. Listen to your body when it tells you enough is enough. Don’t burn yourself just to prove to others that you know what is best for yourself.

[surreal-duck]

some business to take care of

[genericpuff]

There's a user going around currently reblogging/commenting on antiLO content with the intent of "digging up dirt" on people who simply read and enjoy the comic. Basically demanding the OP's of such posts to inform them of any 'stans' so they can add them to a 'list' that they absolutely do not have any good intentions to do with, along with making some very unsavory and completely unwarranted comments about the fans in general (and I don't mean the usual "lmao LO fans are weird/dumb/etc." stuff, I mean genuinely cruel wishes to have the fans of the comic doxxed/harmed/etc.) I have blocked this user for obvious reasons, and if you get a similar reblog or DM like I did from this person, I hope you'll do the same.

Please do not play into this. As much as I and many others talk shit about this dumpster fire of a comic and its questionable if not outright controversial writing and messaging, none of us have any right to go after any of the fans or stans directly. At best that would just be proving to the fans who already hate this part of the fandom that we're boogeymen out to get people, at worst it would be a betrayal to our own integrity as human beings who should be capable of discussing media without turning it into a harassment campaign. Making shitposts about the media and the fandom is fine, discussing the media itself and the creator who made it within our own little spaces of the Internet is ultimately harmless so long as it's managed within reason, but deliberately going out of your way to dig up personal information on innocent people within the fandom for the purpose of ruining their life is not okay and if you ever get to that point where you're trying to rationalize going after people directly, you need to log off.

[giddlygoat]

whenever i start to doubt and think that my self indulgent, hyper specific work is cringe or somehow less valuable as art, i just remember that all of the things which have moved me the most have been the bizarre product of an artist’s self indulgent and hyper specific obsession. so i’m okay

[deoidesign]

Quick re-do of a 4 year old piece

[rinksrats]

hockey screencap 2/???

[cypher05]

so about that eclipse. huh.

[hballegro]

the clock is here. all hail.

i forgot to turn antialiasing to the right settings with my pen so it is. the little numbers are chunky. thats life sometimes. just dont zoom in too hard. if i fix it, i wont make a new post abt it ill just edit it on to this one or something [and state that i did so in the post]

prev post with noclock version

and as promised here is also progress pics, harvested from when i sent screenshots to friends as i worked. as a bonus ive also included various layer names and the 5 different names the file went thru. the parts i [very lazily] painted over with dark blue had not been done yet, ergo anything with dark blue over it is just the picture itself so do not regard it

i will now be nice to myself and work on my fanfic and smaller drawings for a while. i will do eye posts sometimes still when i get a slow day and wanna do some peepers for 3 hours, i have collected many eyes [klinger, fr mulcahy, trapper, margaret, charles, hawkeye, bj. ive been busy stealing eyeballs to paint on. theyre all on one document its pretty funny]. i will be doing my best to force the cast into my style so i can do quick stuff.

i also WILL do more paintings of full shots again, but. fellas. ive done 3 back to back full paintings with no other digital art projects in between.

this has been NOT good planning lol

not sure if i should tag everything again so i will just. do so? idk i have not been on tumblr hardcore since like 2018 and have never regularly posted so idk proper etiquette. im gonna leave off characters for this one ig

[vultursvolans]

˚˖𓍢ִ໋🦢˚ 𝓻𝔂𝓾𝓱𝓪𝓲𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓶

there was an ache in my heart when i awoke in a strange, beautiful world that wasn’t my own. even as months turned to years, i still missed the familiar skies, the voice of loved ones and the home i had left behind. i wrote letters that went nowhere and whispered silent prayers that reached no one. it was like i was plucked from my own reality and placed in a world where i didn’t quite belong.

yet, as much as i longed for home, i was determined to learn in this new life. sumeru became my sanctuary and the akademiya, my solace. i learned their languages, customs, and secrets while sharing stories of the stars, landmarks, and beauty of my own world. the scholars listened, fascinated by the similarities and differences, but none more than al-haitham—a student assigned to guide me through this foreign land. he was a quiet presence. thoughtful and curious. he did not pity me.

and over time, he went from guide to peer to something more. over time, i wasn’t just seeking knowledge but also him. but what was the point? what was the point of falling for him if one day, i could just disappear—vanish back to my world, leaving him and teyvat behind? this could slip away at any moment. this might be as fleeting as a dream.

despite all reason, i still found myself loving him deeply. in a world that wasn’t my own, he had become my home.

𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐬: very slow burn, mutual pining, friends to lovers

𝐀𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐔𝐒: 22.10.22 | playlist | genshinverse ryu | home for christmas (fic) | moodboards

𝐀𝐑𝐓: silk & moonlight | modern au | akademiya days | season of love | minecraft |

[kandavers]

do u ever get jealous when u see ur partners with other partners ?

unfortunately yes sometimes LMAO

That's why we reassure each other a lot <3 I feel like feelings of jealousy/missing out are unavoidable in relationships like these, so the best way to rectify it is a lot of communication

[instantpansies]

wow i love fanfiction and shipping i wish romantic attraction was real

[walkingstackofbooks]

Perfectionist brain is now trying to tell me that the comment I've written, in which I've quoted back a dozen or so of my favourite parts, still hasn't properly conveyed how deeply and utterly this fic has cut me and that I need to write something more insightful about the themes of the story rather than just squeeing throughout and gah, BRAIN, stop it!! You keep doing this, and you know that's the type of thinking that ends up leaving no comment at all! I'm pretty certain the several hundred words you've left is a fairly clear sign that you loved the story, even if it doesn't live up to your ever-reachingly high standards of being able to tell them *everything* you loved and felt about it which - may I remind you, Andi - is impossible!

Man, I've kind of laughed at myself for feeling kind of guilty in the past for leaving "only" a paragraph on comment when my energy has been greatly less than my love for the fic, but that's at least understandable. Now it's getting ridiculous! "You're quoting so much so you don't have to put in the effort of writing something that engages more deeply with the story's themes and is actually meaningful--" Oh, come on, brain, can you be a bit kinder to me, please? You don't think that when you *get* a comment, do you?! You'd be delighted! So can you please just leave me alone and stop telling me I'm doing things wrong!!

[bloomingdead]

a whole lotta antagonists starting new channels full of blathering bullshit to get a hype train of followers in the wake of the game’s impending release. and it’s working bc youtube’s algorithm is boosting anything dragon age at anyone absorbing newly released content!! so hateful when they could be focusing on promoting the things they actually like! anyways, i’ll be over here guarding my suspicions as i fuel my obsession in order to keep my hopes up and an open mind when the game fully releases ❤️

[cowboybrunch]

over medium

hi taglist!

@dyrewrites @aintgonnatakethis @aspiring-dreamer @saturnine-saturneight @gioiaalbanoart

@tragedycoded @sableglass @the-golden-comet @wyked-ao3 @deanwax

@leahnardo-da-veggie

[thegreatcrowdragon]

Might be a hot take but I liked Charlie more when it was a feral rodent terrorizing people on the subway

[foundnthestars]

HELLO BELOVED MUTUAL SKY 👋👋👋 I don't rlly have anything to talk about I just wanted to remind u that you're the best. Don't burn yourself out on writing 🫵 drink water and stuff !!!

oh, man, copper you’re the best seriously!! thank you so much for this, i think i needed to hear it 😭😭

but honestly don’t worry about me, if anything’s burning me out it’s making coffee 40 hours a week for boomers. writing and thinking about writing makes me feel sane.

i will be drinking more water though. that i DEFINITELY needed the reminder for 🫡