#they’re not diagnosed

[vizthedatum]

My friend validated me today - he told me that he never trusted my ex-spouse from the start. And that he was worried about my safety but didn’t say anything since we were newish friends back then.

I don’t blame him.

Would I have even listened?

My other friend told me similar - that she thought they were a covert narcissist when we started dating.

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I did love my ex. Deeply.

But they are the most cunning and intelligent person I’ve met - and they’re an excellent behavioral masker.

And they’re also the most fragile person I’ve ever met.

I will always love them for their role in my life.

I will never forgive them for their complete lack of empathy for me. I will never forgive them for calling me the abuser WHEN I TRIED SO HARD IN THAT RELATIONSHIP TO HONOR THEM AND US. I will not apologize for finally listening to my needs or for having boundaries (which were not control-based).

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And with that (as I wait in this urgent care where I am still haunted by DV flyers) I’m ready for my Navratri prayer/puja for tonight. I understand what I must say and ask for the matrimonial version of Durga tonight.

[houseswife]

people who aren’t in the house md fandom assume that the batshit craziness of these plotlines starts and ends with the old man yaoi and the malpractice. you all think you understand? [grabs you by the face] listen to me closely. these patients specifically seek out house because he’s known as the capital-G God of diagnostics. on MULTIPLE occasions someone has come in with seizures, coughing up blood, in multi-system organ failure and the team is like “it says here in the chart that you’ve had sex before?… yeah so we have concluded that ur allergic to cum :/ sorry.” and then are genuinely shocked when their treatment of “no more taking big fat loads from peanis” doesn’t reverse sepsis. this is a medical drama. about medical mysteries

[macbethz]

Some of you genuinely seem to believe neurotypical people are mindless conformity drones like the villains in a Tim Burton movie who are happy all the time with no inner life & that anyone who has any thoughts about the world around them at all has a mental illness. You are no better than the 12 yo boys who call service workers NPCs. Actually I’d argue you’re worse because at least those people are joking.

[sciencewife]

Why I love the old Aperture levels in Portal 2:

the 50s and 70s aesthetics

The LORE

Yayyyy asbestos

the old CEO babbling about his wacky science projects

CAROLINE

bouncy gel, speedy gel, and portal gel

A potato’s journey of self-discovery

[shadowsbrainrot]

if anyone tries to give me shit for being self dx i’ll just tell them that yeah my psychiatrist and my therapist believe me but are just unable to diagnose me bc healthcare literally sucks ass

[1000dactyls]

I wanna know if you have any thoughts on Valka and Sroicks parenting and how that affects hiccup? Because I'm loving so much of your content rn, especially your drawings!! But when I see stuff like Tgirl Hiccup while I think they would be supportive, I don't think they would be ... the best because their not really the best. Like ofc they tried even Val when she came back, but it doesn't and won't ever make up for everything else it's so complicated, and nuisanced would love to hear your thoughts!!

Im going to break this post into addressing stoick and valka separately because valka is such a non-entity in hiccup and stoick’s familial life. valka’s section will be underneath the ‘read more’

But I definitely agree! Unfortunately for Hiccup (and also not to project ijbol), it’s so hard because stoick’s best isn’t enough. Oh, stoick tries! He tries so hard — between the movies and the shows, he so clearly cares for his son. But he can never be just Hiccup’s dad; Stoick is the Chief of Berk before he’s Hiccup’s father, and both he and Hiccup know that. Hiccup grows up self sufficient and is used to a lonely home. The kind of free reign that he gets (and the resulting knee-jerk reaction he has to any kind of responsibility after 15 years of said free reign) doesn’t make for great conditions to cultivate a healthy, loving, traditional parental relationship

Still — i think stoick is more supportive than we give him credit for, at least going off the RoB/DoB characterizations. (Again, I haven’t finished watching RTTE, so Im not gonna speak for anything there.) When Hiccup makes moves for more freedom and responsibility, even as early as s01e01 “How to Start a Dragon Academy”, Stoick works with Hiccup to grant him that freedom. He makes attempts to connect to his son, albeit misguided and inevitably circling back to his own interests/role as the chief of Berk and not just Hiccup’s dad. For example, s01e07 “How to Pick your Dragon” shows Stoick ending up listening to Hiccup about getting a dragon, even though he mostly gets a dragon because it further suits his interests as a chief, which he realizes on the flight Toothless and Hiccup take him on. Which also leads to the core conflict of the episode! Because Stoick’s attempts to understand Hiccup are ultimately rooted in his own narrow perception of the world, that there is a Right way and Wrong way to do things, and Hiccup’s way is most definitely not the right way.

But Stoick listens. Over time, he picks up the signs when his child is frustrated and genuinely asks how he can help (s02e15 “A Tale of Two Dragons” 3 options talk). And after the events of the first movie, Stoick makes more attempts to involve Hiccup in his going-ons, such as the portrait of the chief’s family or contacting Johann to find a beloved childhood plushie. So i think stoick tries, and his best isn’t enough, so thank god hiccup isn’t dependent on only stoick and the both of them know this. And just because the both of them know this doesn’t mean that stoick doesn’t try to improve their relationship at all. In the end, he’s just really set in his own ways and his own traditions.

So in a world where Hiccup is trans, I do think Stoick is supportive no matter what direction Hiccup ends up going. Is he confused? Yes, always, because there isn’t a very established tradition even if Berk does have a history of trans folk. I think stoick has to try really really hard, and he messes up a lot in the beginning. Like, you know when your parents are trans affirming in a really weird and even insulting way? That happens a lot for Hiccup and Stoick. But they work together and Stoick works to try and get on Hiccup’s level, whether that means sending terror-mail to Johann to inquire about trans literature or gender-affirming clothes or dialing Gothi to move Hiccup’s t/e prescription to the front of the line.

……..argh, Valka.

Of course Valka tried when she came back, but the conscious decision to stay away for twenty years and miss some of the most important milestones in your child’s life says a lot, and I think Hiccup also knows that. Especially because of how similar they are, even though Valka would immediately accept and adore and absolutely love Hiccup and all his Hiccup-ness right off the bat… I think he’s aware of how different and better his life could’ve been with Valka’s understanding presence. In the end, one parent stayed and tried their best. And one didn’t really try at all, not until they reconnected again.

And like! I dont think Valka and Hiccup would ever be as close as Stoick and Hiccup were. Like it is one thing to idolize your parent in absentia and build up this idealistic wholesome perfect image of who they are, getting your characterization from their partner who never got over them even after 20 years. And it is another thing to meet that parent and realize… wow! They also don’t measure up to what I needed them to be as a child.

And so for all of Valka’s understanding, for all of the easiness it is for Valka to understand Hiccup, especially in a world where Hiccup is trans — it’s not Valka who had to deal with the bureaucracy of Hiccup’s gender change, nor aided in the social transition for people Hiccup has spent his entire life with. It’s not Valka who asked uncertain, blunt and somewhat invasive questions about Hiccup’s new identity, or found weird and strange ways to support it. It’s not Valka who would’ve gotten an entirely new wardrobe commissioned or talked to Gothi about medical transition.

Like, I think Valka tries, and it’s easy for her to understand the idea and support Hiccup. But i dont think she’d ever be Hiccup’s first choice when it comes to questions about who s/he is, not when there are people who stayed and tried much harder than her, and know far more about Hiccup than she ever did and maybe will.

[marzipanandminutiae]

[TikTok Girlie voice] we’re Crimson Peak fans- we’re gonna read academic articles about anger dysregulation and violence as PTSD symptoms purely for Fanfic Reasons

[little-red-fool]

You ever see a famous person and you’re just thinking. There’s something undiagnosed about you.

[cryobabyy]

it’s all so speculative and we’ll likely never fully knowwww (which is fun) BUT what do you think cooper and rachels relationship was actually like? do you think he genuinely loved her and wooed her? do you think he ever did? the wedding photo we see is so cute and i do genuinely believe he loved those kids so it can be done!!

Tbh I think that he was a great husband. My boy is a PERFORMER, he takes out the garbage, handles dinner Wednesday-Friday, he’s present with his children, he’s extremely neat and cleans on Saturday mornings, mows the lawn, you don’t have to ask him to do shit twice, king of back shots, and he probably eats box like a champ! If he does everything perfectly, he raises the least suspicion because no one suspects the perfect husband/father.

I think where he fucked up was assuming there is such a thing as a perfect performance and that it could make up for any minor missteps. Because at some point, the mask might slip, and no amount of good husbandry excuses the fact you’re working strange and late hours, smell like hospital cleaner, and actually fr murder people lol.

As for if he actually loved her; realistically speaking, technically yes. Psychopaths are capable of ‘loving’ things in their own way, but it’s fundamentally different than what a neurotypical person would consider love. He probably loved her in the way you would love a favorite sweater—once it gets worn out and isn’t useful to you anymore, you discard it because it’s an inanimate object you don’t have actual empathy for. He definitely loved Rachel as a tool. She gave him children, made him look more outwardly normal, he could easily control and manipulate her. But once she became useless to him and his pursuits, he had no problem killing her.

[macdenlover]

watching this play out over the last couple of years has been incredible

[givemebishies]

I was just reminiscing abt the time I told my mom that I’m acespec and I accidentally also told her that she’s apparently acespec too

[heisttheblackflag]

I know someone on here posted Lindsay’s reel/clip from yesterday talking about their recent mental health diagnosis and the way that vtubing as RWBY has helped them deal with it and like. I have a lot of emotions about that as I’m sure we all do (and I’ll find it to rb on here later) but. for me personally this is extraordinarily impactful because there are so few people that are known creatives that are open about being bipolar that for them to just come out and say it absolutely floored me. bipolar disorder is probably one of The most stigmatized and demonized mental illnesses out there and it is so hard to come to terms with that diagnosis, even if getting the diagnosis means you can struggle less in your daily life thanks to medication and therapy, so I don’t blame anyone for hiding it or keeping private about it, but as someone who has made a point of being pretty open about being bipolar as part of my creative…mission statement, I guess, it’s deeply meaningful and impactful to me to have someone like Lindsay Jones be open about being bipolar as well. the only way we can reduce stigma is to keep talking about it, so I genuinely hope this can help reduce the stigma of bipolar disorder in the small corner of the world that watches Lindsay/RWBY because even that little bit can make a huge difference.

happy mental health awareness month!

support Lindsay, support anyone else in your life who is struggling with mental health especially bipolar disorder (I, II, or cyclothymia), and if you have any (respectful) questions about what it’s like to live with bipolar disorder my askbox is open with no judgement 💙

[murderoftheuniverse]

honestly at this point whenever an egotypical says their abuser had npd my first instinct is just to assume they’re lying or it was an armchair diagnosis. because the majority of the time thats the truth

[randomtheidiot]

I think it would be nice if one of the one-off Pokémon characters were a therapist and they were able to tell all the protagonists exactly what’s wrong with them.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

i genuinely do think that looking at the characters in homestuck through the lens of them being autistic is pretty important to do even if it obviously wasn’t intentional (except for nepeta at least) bc like. every character in homestuck takes some inspiration from early internet users. and a lot of early online spaces were absolutely disproportionately autistic. obviously not all, there were mainstream spaces, but it was a much less centralised place and had tons of mini communities made up of people intensely passionate about one thing which is a community structure that’s extremely welcoming to autistic people (comparatively- there was still constant ableism but that was true Everywhere in the mid to late 00s). and like all of the characters are based more on the types of people you’d find in those micro communities than on myspace. the Actual People who those archetypes were based on were disproportionately autistic and that absolutely carries over into how they’re written in homestuck, even though it’s unintentional. it isn’t helpful in every scenario and character obviously but like, i do think the fact that they’re based on online archetypes of what we’d call now terminally online micro community users and that a lot of those irl people were autistic bc in the early days of the internet being terminally online was actually extremely difficult instead of being the default- this was changing a bit around the time homestuck began, but the archetypes the kids and trolls are based on almost all date back to before then (the main exception being Some of the beforus trolls)- is something that can be useful to think about. it’s not an intentional thing, but it’s kind of an inevitable thing when you’re basing characters on 2005 power user stereotypes on gaming forums.

[pwurrz]

damn. kaveh and alhaitham really are adhd vs autism huh