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Asexual bird? Please
How about two asexual birds?
#ask#art request#my art#art#superb fairywren#fairywren#penguin#little penguin#australian little penguin#fairy penguin#ace#asexual#ace pride#bird art#birds#queer art#pride art#digital art#pride month#lgbtqia+#lgbtq+#queer#critter series#you get two because i couldn't decide which one i wanted to do more so i decided just to do both because i love them both#and also once i realised the fairy name connection between them i couldn't not do them together#okay well technically they're officially called little penguins but i've always know them as fairy penguins#there is actually a lot of them in the state i live. i just haven't had the chance to spot any in the wild yet#but i did see them at the sydney aquarium once. they are such lil' cuties. big fan of penguins me.#as for fairywrens. well i see 'em all the time fluttering about. definitely one of my favourite types of birds#anyway that's enough about what i like. i hope *you* like them too bluesky :3
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
Plain-text version:
Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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Mad scientist greets the consequences of their actions
EDIT btw there’s a part two (that’s actually a part one) to this post now.just so you know..
#I have posted them before in an ask but it got deleted and I don’t remember if I reposted so I did some new doodles#and anyway it’s my pride month and I get to decide the toxic waste yuri#my art#my comics#comics#art#illustration#artists on tumblr#digital illustration#character design#illustrators on tumblr#oc art#slime#slime girl#mad scientist#comic artist#wlw art#queer art
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this disability pride month, stop making jokes about people in wheelchairs standing up or walking.
can I stand and walk? sure, for a short while and with pain. the consequences for trying to be out all day without a wheelchair are that I'll be in bed for the rest of the week, too tired and in too much pain to move.
but the government won't give me my own wheelchair because they have the same attitude as these jokes - I can stand up, so I don't need one. exercise is good for you, you should walk!
it keeps me trapped in the house, unable to do anything more than short stints anywhere without borrowing or hiring a wheelchair - one that causes me pain to sit in and relies on someone to push me (usually with difficulty), because they're not going to have a high-end chair for that sort of thing.
it's not a miracle that a wheelchair user can stand or walk. it's something we should aspire to see more often.
#disability#disability pride month#chronic fatigue#fibromyalgia#cfs/me#post exertional malaise#like fucking hell people we should really be long past this by now#why am I seeing these bullshit jokes on my dash in twenty fucking twenty three#i did a short walk to a cafe yesterday because I thought I was up to it#and my right leg has seized up#my ankle can barely take my weight and my hip won't move properly#also lol I almost certainly have hEDS but cannot persuade a doctor to give me a referral#in summary#stop being fucking dense#i would rather people who don't need mobility aids use them than have people struggle because they don't want to be seen as a faker#or have people think that you have to reach a certain level of severity before you need it#also if I had a wheelchair I would bring my cat with me more places but that's by the by
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🏳️🌈HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🏳️⚧️ HK NATION‼️🗣
June is almost over, but I managed to pull something after not drawing my dear bugs for the longest time <3
[+ READ MORE FOR THE PROCESS]
#also my laptop died so this is a bit unfinished but I hope it looks good#and a few days later but at least it's still june!#turns out .clips are difficult to conver to png without csp#and has mistake I choose to not see#right on time for the gays#hollow knight#hk#grollow#troupe master grimm#pure vessel#grimm#pure vessel x grimm#pride month#pride 2024#happy pride 🌈#pride art#bug yaoi#alecz'makingz#oh also yes I made them even more bug like I guess not drawing them for over a month did it's effects#the pose doesn't make sense maybe they're just zesty
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THE QUEER ALLEGATIONS ARE NOT EVEN ALLEGATIONS AT THIS POINT ITS A CONFESSION 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
#mr birchum#queer#lgbt#gay#aro#aromantic#ace#asexual#aro x ace what did i tell you#what did i fucking tell you#every time#what a beautiful present#cant believe daily wire gave us this for pride month so kind of them
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“don’t lose it now, old boy.”
With @ratb4stard3
#They are Applewatch to me amen godbless#They are swapping nametags because they are also so gay#tragic gays 😔#but for now they are happy perhaps#Also called old man supreme yup#happy fricken pride month#look how he drew john with his love sick puppy eyes its killing me KILLing me im dead i am dust#ALSO YEAH back at it again with another collab with the brother bet you were NOT expecting this one 😏😏😏#Cause he's my best friend#he's my pal. He's my homeboy#my rotten soldier. He's my sweet cheese. My good-time boy.#Also i could NOT do wilburs other eye so i did the oldest trick in the book#ALSO ALSO.... you don't even KNOW how hard it was to not draw a mustache on him you dont even KNOW#Wilbur cross#general john macnamara#john macnamara#uncle wiley#Black friday#black friday starkid#Hatchetfield#tgwdlm#The idea was for them to be dressed up casually but sir wiley looks like he is about to take this man out for the most expensive fucking#dinner imaginable#perhaps before#before the#befo
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happy pride month to all idw sonic fans
#i love them so much#this is a redraw from a piece i did last year btw!!#tangle the lemur#whisper the wolf#whispangle#sonic the hedgehog#sth#sonic#sonic idw#idw sonic#gay#lesbian#pride month#my art
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guys, does anyone also miss Yukierre??
well I do so i decided to make a Chappell Roan Yukierre Animatic for pride month :)
It’s sad btw :3
#f1#animation#animatic#yuki tsunoda#pierre gasly#yukierre#formula 1#formula one#art#Also f1 fanfic writers#Pls write more Yukierre centered fics#Im living off scraps here 😭💀#But other than that hope you guys liked this animatic I did in a day bc that hurt my neck#and my back#f1 fanfic#pride month#mlm#mlm yearning#gay#these bitches gay#good for them#good for them 🙂↕️
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Happy pride month
Bonus textless version + the original
#Ultrakill#V1 Ultrakill#Gabriel Ultrakill#gabv1el#<- Is that the tag?? Anyway I guess this counts#Pride#I joked with several friends that I'd redraw this for pride month after SEVERAL of them sent it to me because I don't have twt#And I mean. I did it. So here we are.#Hrokkall Shitpost#But also#Hrokkall Art#Because this took embarrassingly long considering it's a shitpost with text from A Haunted House 2(?)#Haven't watched the movie just tried to find the source
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Pride illust with my webtoon's characters!! :) Happy pride
#read Tiny Tearful Demon on webtoon/tapas ect#i almost forgot to post it before pride month ends... oopsie#i also did other pride stuff but oh ig i'll post them later#my ocs won't stop being trans and gay just because it's not june anymore yeay#my art#oc art#digital art#oc artist#Appo#Chris#Nora#Roman#Cass#Lewis#Elias#Lizzie
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If ur still doin the pride flag animals- could you make a Komodo dragon or parrot with the pan and asexual flags?
Absolutely! Here are some komodo dragons for ya!
#ask#art#my art#art request#komodo#komodo dragon#monitor lizard#lizard#pansexual#pan#pan pride#asexual#ace#ace pride#lgbtqia+#lgbtq+#animal art#queer art#pride art#pride month#lizard art#critter series#i was very tempted to do a parrot (bird fan that i am) but i thought i do something different and stick with the komodo instead#and i'm very happy i did because i'm quite happy with how these turn out. especially the pan one#i hope you like them too :)#id in alt
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forgot to post this here but... sigzai kiss doodl...
i made this a while ago so apologies for the slight downgrade SOBSOB it was to get me out of art block
i might not post much for a bit due to my wrist healing... (i hate tendonitis)
but i AM participating in artfight!! ATTACK ME THERE!!!
#my art#bungou stray dogs#sigzai#bsd sigma#bsd dazai#i love them#theyre so cute and <3#nonbinary pride#bisexual pride#bigender pride#pride month#pride art#bc i DID DRAW THIS IN JUNE TRUST ME PLESAE
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Taxidermy fingerprints, taxonomies our differences
[Part 2 here]
#TMNT#tmnt 2012#casey jones 2012#raphael hamato#raph 2012#this is all platonic but#rasey#because I do ship them and I want the shippers to precieve me#played around with pens and colours and brushes and stuff#I have a lot going on in my head and in life and I just needed to get something out#messy and quick but effective#and I need to learn to not be such a perfectionist on here#also hands are the only part of the turtles I feel I don’t struggle with an ungodly amount#I cba painting Casey’s nails apologies#or making Raphs kind of yellow but they’re my headcanons#oh also pride month is tomorrow so#again this is platonic#but idm ralh and Casey being on the top of my blog for the ocassion until I can fix it UwU#oh also I did start the Leo the other week I’ll do that one properly#AND HELLO IF YOUVE GKT TO HERE AND YOU LIKE RASEY I THINK YOU SHOULD HMU#also of there is one of these you guys like and want me to use in a propper piece let me know cause i will
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"If you stay, I would even wait all night, or until my heart explodes. How long till we find our way in the dark and out of harm,
you can run away with me, anytime you want."
🥀🤖
#summertime by mcr is soooo them omg#hoyoverse#honkai star rail#hsr#hsr fanart#digital art#boothill x argenti#argenti#argenti x boothill#boothill hsr#boothill#argenti hsr#hsr ships#guns n roses#argenthill#DID YALL PLAY THE NEW QUEST OMG#theyre so gay#pride month#lgbt pride#pride#pride 2024#the gays#mihoyo#gay shit
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Wow, I can’t believe if you play Ace Attorney during Pride Month you get a secret cutscene of Phoenix Wright and Miles Edgeworth kissing. That’s so crazy woah
This is my very subtle way of letting people know I started playing Ace Attorney and I adore it already
#video games#gaming#ace attorney#phoenix wright#miles edgeworth#ace attorney edgeworth#ace attorney maya#maya fey#mia fey#I love my girls so much already#dick gumshoe#how did gumshoe become a detective?#he’s such a himbo#i love him tho#I love me a good himbo#wrightworth#I ship them already#Edgeworth is such a smug bastard I love that for him#I miss mia already she was my queen#pride month
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