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Your opinion on Bamon?
I'm just knocking all of these out.
Like most of Damon friendships/romances, it's just not my cup of tea.
I do think Bonnie is one of the few people Damon truly cared for and was the only person he actually changed for.
That being said, he was still terrible to her.
Damon is one of those men that can be a good friend but once you put him into a romantic relationship, he's terrible. And saying Damon is ever a good friend is a stretch. We never once see Damon be a good romantic partner. He is possessive and controlling, yet always putting himself and his desires first. He is even that way with Bonnie in their friendship.
Damon has a bunch of his own issues so he throws himself completely into love to the point of it being scary and dangerous. He loves so fully that he no longer leaves space for the person he loves because he is so desperate for someone to love him. He no longer cares to respect their wishes or autonomy because he feels he knows better and that he is the only person that could possibly keep them safe. This is narcissism and abusive. Not love.
Their Season 6 friendship was good, but it was only possible because Damon was isolated from everyone else. Damon is only able to be a decent person in small doses or in a vacuum. But when things get complicated, he can't maintain it. We see this pattern play out in various scenarios.
We finally got to see some growth with Damon when he saves Bonnie multiple times when I saw sure he wouldn't. I actually thought they were going to improve his character. Bonnie is probably the only person that Damon actually works to save. Like put in actual work. Even with Stefan, he was quick to give up if there wasn't a simple solution. Their reunion after the prison world was sweet.
But then he forces her to see Kai after she nearly killed herself because of Kai, while he was one of the few people to truly know what Kai did to her. But again, we see some growth when he actually apologizes (I don't think he's ever done that) and when she tells him to leave, he actually listens (another first, also the fact that he didn't go on a murder rampage is an improvement). Then Bonnie just magically gets better and Damon is able to forget about it. Damon falls back into the same old habits of only communicating with Bonnie when he needs something. The prison world was the exception, not the rule.
I like that there are moments Damon actively chooses to save Bonnie, knowing it will prevent him from seeing Elena, but what is that worth when he leaves Bonnie with a note knowing that he would never see her again all because he missed Elena. Bonnie was devastated that she wasn't even worth a goodbye. But Damon was never good at the difficult emotions. Even with as much as he cared for Bonnie, he was not capable of being a good friend, let a lone a good romantic partner. If they could have lived in a prison world where nothing difficult happened, sure they could work. But Damon, in reality, would always take the easy way out and end up hurting Bonnie over and over again.
Damon didn't need to be in a relationship. He needed to learn to be on his own and value the other relationships in his life just as much as he valued his romantic relationships.
And no, this isn't a "Bonnie deserves better than toxic men" post. I mean she does. But even if Damon was just toxic to everyone else, I could get behind it. But Damon is also awful to her. Just less so than he is to everyone else. Bonnie had to constantly worry that Damon would betray her or choose Stefan or Elena over her. She never felt secured in their friendship because Damon was never able to value her over or even equal to Stefan and Elena. He was obsessed with them. Just as he had been obsessed with Katherine for nearly 200 years.
Thanks for the ask!
#anti bamon#tagging to be safe#yall arent allowed to get mad about my opinions#since yall keep asking about damon#cause at the end of the day#they are just my opinions#you can like whoever you want#its truly just not that serious#i love bonnie#she deserved more than a half assed friendship#where she couldnt even fully trust her friend#because he was constantly hurting her#damon salvatore#bonnie bennett#tvdu#tvd#the vampire diaries#tvd anon ask#anon ask#fandom answers#fandom asks#andrea831 metas#andrea831 metas damon#andrea831 metas bonnie
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Can you believe I'm having to make this meme even after successfully finishing up taxes and applying to job
#adhd#autism#Dad: Don't worry little man it's super simple! Just let me - the figure you seek support from - tell you to not be afraid#and then - stay with me here! - juuuuuust do it!#voila. my job is done you're welcome have fun doing all the research and figuring out without issue now <3 no problem#(and no of course I won't acknowledge your previous adulting accomplishments bc that's just expected stuff anyway)#||#vent#i guess? man#i don't have opinions or feelings on the internet often but man
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My last post was being snarky but here's my genuine pronoun etiquette opinion in case you actually want to know: it's pretty much never a good idea to directly ask someone their pronouns in front of a group of people, especially if you're in a position of authority, i.e. a teacher. The stakes of this question are very high for some people and you are putting them on the spot to decide what they want to share and what is safe to share. If you have decided you want to ask for pronouns at all, you can introduce yourself with your own to remind people that they can share theirs if they want to. And for the love of god whatever you do please do not just single out the most gender non-conforming or "trans looking" (to you) person and ask only them and no one else
#obligatory disclaimer this is just my personal opinion/experience. i shouldn't have to say I don't speak for everyone but obviously i don't#but it keeps happening to me so#and sometimes by other trans people!
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I can’t beleive they just walked around like this for the whole movie
#quite a bold move by the execs but it payed of in my opinion#unreality#deadpool#wolverine#deadpool 3#deadpool and wolverine#deadpool & wolverine#art#my art#artists on tumblr#superhero#marvel#deadpool x wolverine#fun fact about me:#i’ve never seen this or any other deadpool movie#this is just the vibe i got based on a trailer i saw yesterday#the three fingers can either stand for third movie or the W in wolverine. make your own judgement.
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The people against bows becoming a trendy fashion accessory has annoyed me sooo much lately. Saw a tiktok that was like “if you get uncomfortable with us saying wearing bows infantilizes women and supports the patriarchy, it just means you’re uncomfortable with us pointing out you’ve been engaging in a harmful trend/behavior 😌” aaaaaAAAAAAH people online are allergic to nuance
#and their response to ‘just let people have fun’#was just ‘you don’t want to think critically about this to avoiding facing the truth’#it’s so weird how tiktok KNOWS which opinions will get on my nerves
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i keep seeing redesigns of them as humans so i decided to throw my hat into the ring
#ive seen that people get REALLY opinionated about this. so if you don't agree with me then just look for a different redesign#my little pony#mlp#mlp redesign#my little pony redesign#mlp humanized#mlp human designs#rarity#applejack#twilight sparkle#pinkie pie#fluttershy#rainbow dash#fanart#art#i also haven't watched the show in forever- so if something is characterized funny? then my bad
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Ball is (after)life *badum tsk* 🥁
#they are the ballers in the hotel in my opinion#also it just didn’t look right when alastor didn’t have his monocle#and his ass would play ball with a monocle like let’s be for real please#hazbin hotel#hazbin hotel fanart#alastor#Vaggie#Lucifer#husk#my doods
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i shouldnt be at the club i should be at a monastery. illuminating texts and shit
#i feel like some number of historical monks and nuns ive read about just sort of got to publish controversial philosphy and opinions.#wish that could be me. if i could dedicate 10 hours a day to backing up my weird opinions you wouldnt know what hit you#adddna
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haven't posted in a while, who is surprised (not me) anyways GHRGEGFAFSBTAHFSGSRE HOT DOOR WOMAN
#i can't keep my designs consistent cus i change opinions every two seconds#but uuh she's a spiral avatar i can allow her that#also i just wanted to try out a new brush but. yeah. i liked the brush as you can see#tma#the magnus archives#tma fanart#tma helen#helen distortion#helen richardson#tma the distortion#kuprum drew stuff
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leo shouldve learned how to cope with his trauma and his need for validation instead of rick slapping a girlfriend on him and calling it a day. in this essay i will-
#no because im right#leo didn't need a girlfriend#he needed therapy#he needed therapy and a hug and someone to tell him that his worth does not hinge on romance#leo valdez#heroes of olympus#jason grace#pjo hoo#reyna avila ramirez arellano#the lost hero#pjo series#pjo hoo toa#pjo#pjo fandom#percy jackon and the olympians#pjo rp#rick riordan#percy jackson#but yk this is just my opinion#annabeth chase#sally jackson#rachel elizabeth dare#anti caleo#rick wtf#i personally dont like leo and calypso#it gives me the ick#but you can like it!! im not forcing you to like it
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I don't know
#does this make sense#i was very sleep deprived when i came up with this#doctor who#sutekh#dw#dw spoilers#doctor who spoilers#nuwho#new who#15th doctor#dw memes#rtd didnt think about the implications smh#russell t davies#rtd2 era#the guy who didn't like musicals#(technically)#okay wow this blew up#i feel the need to clarify for the people in the notes: this post does not reflect my personal opinions on sutekh or RTD#i wasnt such a fan of the last two parter but thats just a me thing#the dw timeline is so fucked up already and i love it
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She will (and he'll let her)
#zutara#atla#zuko#avatar the last airbender#katara#atla fanart#prince zuko#zutara au#atla art#zutara fanart#zutara art#zuko x katara#katara x zuko#atla zuko#katara art#katara fanart#katara of the southern water tribe#the western air temple#This was inspired by THAT Trigun Stampede scene (if you're a Vashwood fan you'll know which one)#The “I'll kill you” *heart eyes* dynamic is SO Western-Air-Temple-ZK coded it's insane#Also Zuko loves girls who can kick his ass and that's canon. Like. The fact that they can and WILL plummet him to the ground is a big yes#I just know it#And yeah my boy was pretty crestfallen during that scene (too sad and defeated for someone who didn't have *ahem* at least a crush on her)#(In my very much not humble opinion)#But some (hidden) part of him was like “kissherkissherkissher” and you cannot convince me otherwise#I think about his dorky hopeful smile when he saw her literally all the time#And then the kicked turtleduck face that screamed “no smooches? 🥺”#Like what's up with that Zuko?#Why would you keep silent because you know you deserve this treatment for her but that didn't stop you from wishing otherwise?#Just WHY
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#i thiiiiiink it was probably mary poppins for me but i have stronger memories of singin' in the rain and west side story#also i don't personally consider the wizard of oz a musical but i know that's a controversial opinion so i've included it anyways#polls#also also because this is tumblr i just want to caveat that these are based on my childhood movies and not a best-of list#my mom was predominately a dick van dyke/julie andrews/audrey hepburn/gene kelly kind of girl so that's what i got
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don't stress about that opportunity that fell through or that friend you lost or that thing you really want to happen but isn't. as long as you keep your chin up and try try try again, better things will replace your losses. i'm looking at my life rn and actually marveling at how every single thing i stressed about, whether it be an opportunity or a person, got supplanted w another thing that is so much better. it really is true that loss makes space for better things. these days i don't get sad when something doesn't work out. i get excited that i'm now open to so many other possibilities out there, so long as i actively seek them. you never lack. you just transition.
#operating from an abundance mindset is changing my life truly#i used to fight to convince myself of it but now that i see it happening in real time? it's so true and i'm soothed by it#this isn't even coming from a manifestation or religious angle bc i'm neither of those things#i just believe that a good attitude and strong work ethic can get you places if you don't let failure stop you#and don't allow the noise (other people's opinions) to weigh you down#text
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#gravity falls#bill cipher#cartoon me#my art#my gifs#can’t stand his ass lol#tw flashing#don’t know if I should tag it as that but just in case#id in alt text#get rekt ya triangle fuck#it’s been low-key kind of bothering me that some are trying to make him sympathetic#probably an unpopular opinion#but he does NOT deserve redemption#let him rot in therapy forever#I’m a firm believer he doesn’t want to be redeemed#and also let villains just be villains#sorry rant over#queue
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unorthodox murder mystery
#zosan#one piece#roronoa zoro#sanji vinsmoke#fanart#okay so basically this concept is ok so basically#its a murder mystery where those who are murdered on the ship actually turn into VAMPIRES#but theyre like#guys. how the fuck do we not know who the vampire is#like what do you mean you are literally still alive after being 'killed' and somehow you dont remember who killed and turned you#zoro: well whatever. im still gonna be the greatest swordsman#sanji: right ok so hello FUCKFACE. DUMBASS. GREATEST SWORDSMAN THAT IS ONLY AVAILABLE DURING THE NIGHT OR WHAT–#sanji: CAN WE FOCUS ON THE FACT THAT WE JUST DIED THAT WE JUST CAME BACK TO LIFE THAT WE'RE IMMORTAL NOW. THAT I CANT TASTE THE FOOD I MAKE#zoro: wat dat gotta do wit me#sanji would be suchhhh a good vampire feeder but a terrible vampire I think#thats my opinion stop throwing rocks at me what the hell#anyway i dont actually know who the vampire on the crew woudl be#thats the mystery#its a mystery to the creaotr of the au as well obviously... or else whats the point.....
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