#there is no reason to have your dog off leash in a public area

[halfricanloveyou]

9) My cat travels on a leash. I can’t do any outdoor leash training with him if your dog is off leash. Your dog may be nice and friendly, but even nice and friendly dogs will kill cats. If your dog has never been around a cat it may try to kill my cat. It’s just part of what a lot of dogs do.

Everyone else talked about outdoor cats, it's time for me to talk about offleash dogs

[thehmn]

Let me give you a perfect example of someone feeling discriminated against when they were absolutely not being discriminated against.

In my village there’s a relatively big fenced in area. It used to be a sheep enclosure but the farm was torn down and the sheep moved somewhere else. For some reason they left the fence up and people started using it for dog play dates. For whatever reason people never really used it as a dog park where you’d just go to let your dog off the leash. It has always been for meetups that people arranged via a Facebook dog group.

One day someone wrote “Does anyone who has a small dog want to meet up with me and my pug at the enclosure? Only small dogs please. She’s very scared of big dogs and I want her to have some positive experiences” Several small dog owners said they’d come but one dude wrote “I’d like to come. My dog is big but he has played with loads of small dogs and is very gentle with them”

The original poster of course replied “I’m sorry but it doesn’t matter how gentle they are. It’s the size alone that stress her out”

He didn’t take it well. How dared she try to exclude him!? It was a public place! Anyone was free to use it! If she wanted to exclude someone then why did she write in a public forum?!

And then two other big dog owners agreed with him and despite being asked to please not crash the meetup they of course did and ruined it for everyone.

Sometimes you have to wonder why people like that immediately jump to “You think you’re better than me!?” instead of “Makes sense. I’m better than you and would make you feel inferior” Well, we know why but they should work though their inferiority complex somewhere else.

[draconym]

Hello! I’ve been interested in park ranger work for awhile— but since researching the institution a little deeper, I’m worried that park rangers are essentially forest cops. I noticed on one of your posts that you mentioned that you were a a park ranger law enforcement officer— and I was wondering if you could go into a little detail about park ranger work and it’s connection to law enforcement? Another reason I feel weird about pursuing park ranger work is I feel that national parks have a non-ignorable history of stripping land from indigenous people. If you have any thoughts or experiences related to the career— it would be extremely helpful for me to hear since I am trying to sort out what I would like to do after college. Thank you for reading. If you don’t want to answer this question either, I completely understand.

There's no singular institution. There are rangers who work for the National Park Service, for State governments, for local governments, or for cities and towns. And there are many different types of rangers: enforcement, interpretive, wilderness rescue, the list goes on. Different sites have different needs, and different positions will have different duties. Many rangers have zero law enforcement authority, and most I've spoken to prefer it that way: they prefer to focus on education and conservation.

I was an enforcement ranger, but never a law enforcement officer--the primary authority I had was the ability to issue fairly cheap citations for animal-related violations (fishing, poaching, off-leash dogs, harm to wildlife, etc.) through local Animal Control. Though some rangers elsewhere carry weapons and receive law enforcement training, my department never did (the latter, frankly, was often to our detriment).

Certainly the NPS has a history loaded with racism, land theft, land desecration, even genocide. The very inception of the NPS was predicated on the myth that the lands to be designated as National Parks were uninhabited wilderness. But don't assume the problem lies solely with NPS: any institution with even a small amount of power has the potential to abuse it, and smaller parks are no exception. I've never even worked for the NPS (my state doesn't even have any national parks), but local agencies often have histories of segregating parks or enforcing segregation within them.

I've heard people say that park rangers are the "only good" law enforcement, and that's a generalization I absolutely wouldn't make. Yes, there are laws and regulations that are necessary for the sake of conservation and our ability to safely access natural areas. That doesn't mean those laws are always universally fair or fairly enforced.

If this leaves you feeling dismayed, well, yeah. Me, too. But there are also quite a lot of positions within parks that are not rangers at all, and quite a lot of jobs within conservation and nature education that are not parks jobs. I've found both park maintenance and trail crew to be just as rewarding in many ways, and if you can live with the low salary they typically offer, I do recommend giving those positions a try. The salary was ultimately a dealbreaker for me.

I haven't been a ranger for several years. I left because the agency I was working for was undeniably a toxic work environment. This isn't intended to put you off working for parks: it's a valuable, rewarding career to educate the public about the natural world and to help maintain wild spaces. I'm grateful to still be involved with parks in other ways. But even the small agency I'm currently working for struggles to right itself. It can be rough out there.

I've already discussed a few of the above points before in my #park ranger tag, so I encourage interested folks to read there if they're interested in more of the mundane, day-to-day stuff.

[ceasarslegion]

Have you guys noticed the like. Weird attitude lately on this site that's like "I'm personally afraid of dogs so therefore no one is allowed to have their dogs exist around me or you're reckless and irresponsible and should have your dog taken away from you. What if someone has a phobia!" And like I hate to break this to you guys but if you go out in public the public will be there. And some of them will have dogs. They are allowed to have their dogs with them. It's actually on you to manage your fears and phobias and not on other people to lock their pets up forever and never let them go outside for your sake, a total stranger. "Well what about accessibility for xyz!" Well you can have dog friendly and accessible areas at the same time, did you know that? The dog owners are not the reason management didn't put a wheelchair ramp up to the cafe. And if youre afraid of dogs you can just not go to establishments that say dogs are welcome in them. Brb going into a lesbian bar and getting mad when most of them aren't interested in me

I also hate to break this to you but if you go to a public park there might be dogs off-leash there playing fetch and running around. Crazy thought I know. It's almost like if you go to a place where dogs are particularly known to frequent you might see dogs. And they might be off-leash if the environment is encouraging for it. This does not make the owners abusive and irresponsible. Brb playing fetch with my high-energy breed dog in a wide open field but only throwing the ball a few feet ahead because I can't let them off their leash or tumblr user pikafag with a toothpaste flag pfp will say my dog is dangerous and deserves to be euthanized

[trashykat7-blog]

Derek and Tim: Hiccups at the Dog Park.

Part 1 of a series between these two characters. Derek meets Tim, a frequent hiccup sufferer, at the dog park and the two hit it off.

Later parts of the series will be NSFW but this one contains no sexy bits.

MDNI!

Derek heard it from across the dog park, his ears finely tuned to the sound. Someone had the hiccups.

He scanned the area casually for the sufferer and noticed a man in his mid-30’s on a bench not far away with a hand held to his chest and his eyes fixed on a yellow lab that was chasing a ball. The man’s shaggy blond hair and athletic build might have caught his eye under any circumstances, but the fact that he clearly had a bad case of hiccups in public definitely had his attention. Derek kept his stance casual but out of the corner of his eye he could clearly see the stranger’s head and shoulders snap back forcefully as the continued sound of regularly spaced “hic”s and “hulp”s cut through the noise of the park.

Quickly calling his border collie who was attempting to herd the other dogs, Derek leashed him and walked toward the water fountain which was right next to hiccup guy’s bench. He was glad he’d worn jeans rather than shorts today because the man’s gulpy hiccups already had him aroused. Derek made a show of filling the dog bowl and then moved in next to the bench.

“Do you mind if we join you for a sec?” he asked?

“N-o. Go ahead.” A silent hiccup interrupted the stranger right away.

“Thanks man.” Derek placed the dog bowl down on the ground and settled in. “I’m Derek by the way. This is Dash.” He gestured to the dog who looked up at the sound of his name.

“Tim.” He reached out his hand. “And that’s Sasha *Hulp*.” A powerful hiccup cut him off. “Sorry, I have really bad hi-*hmk!* hiccups right now.”

“Oh man. That’s a pain.” Derek sympathized, carefully tamping down his interest and keeping his tone neutral.

“Yeah. Had them *hickl* had them all day. Off *hilp* off and on. Just can’t seem to *hilp-hip* scuse me, shake them.”

“Oh man, that sucks.” Derek sympathized, secretly delighted. “I got hiccups just before a presentation last week. I wanted to die.” He laughed, and hoped the shared experience would make Tim relax and keep talking.

“Y-*hup* yeah. Everyone in *hilk* in my office is pretty much *hickl* pretty much used to it. If I don’t *hulp* get a good case at least *huck* once a week they worry.” Tim smiled shyly.

“I think I have an extra water bottle,” Derek offered rummaging in his pack.

Tim shook his head. “Doesnt work. J-*hulk* just have to let them go until they’re *hilp* done.”

“My mom always used to use the sugar trick on me,” Derek shared, hoping to keep the conversation going.

“Tried that o-*hoop* one too. And p-*heep* peanut butter, and holding my br-eath. My hiccups just kind of h *hulp* have a mind of their own.” Tim shrugged.

“I’m sorry, you’re probably tired of explaining that to people,” Derek said, secretly delighted.

Tim laughed “*hulp* a little. But I know they’re just trying to h*hilk* to help. Besides, I’m glad it gave *hulk* gave us a reason to *hup* to get to talk.”

The two chatted while the dogs played and ran for the next 20 minutes. Tim’s hiccups kept up a steady pace but gradually grew further apart as the sun began to set. For his part, Derek was in heaven.

“Hey, I think your hiccups stopped.” Derek pointed out after it was clear they had. He was disappointed but couldn’t complain.

“For now,” Tim laughed.

“So, we should hang out sometime. Maybe without the kids?” Derek gestured at the dogs.

“Hang out or go out?” Tim asked.

“Well, I’d hope for the latter but take the former.” Derek admitted.

“I’d love to go out sometime. Maybe we’ll have a chance to chat without my hiccups making me look like an idiot.”

They both laughed at this and exchanged phone numbers.

Xxx

Derek and Tim’s first date came without the hiccups making an appearance. Despite this Derek found himself more attracted to Tim with every passing moment. His laugh was infectious, his sense of humor just the right mix of dry and sardonic, and his ass…well, that was a very fine bonus indeed. They watched a movie and then discussed it over drinks. Tim was well-read and shared Derek’s interests in science fiction. While the hiccups were absent, Derek did make several notes.

At the movie Tim ordered water and milk duds, turning down Derek’s offer to split popcorn and a fizzy drink. He also went with straight bourbon on the rocks afterward, shying away from beer. Derek couldn’t help but wonder if he was intentionally avoiding common hiccup triggers.

The date ended with a kiss and a fast agreement to get together again soon, this time for dinner and a movie at Derek’s apartment.

Next up: Dinner and a Movie with a side of Hiccups.

[mandana-the-service-pup]

Off-Leash Dog Hot Take?

In general, I’m against having dogs off-leash in public areas. This is especially true in areas such as neighborhoods and parks where you can expect traffic, kids and on-leash dogs. It’s illegal, incredibly inconsiderate of other people and almost always an unsafe situation for the public and your dog. Its not the way to train a dog how to be off leash and it doesn’t make you look like a competent dog owner. It makes you look like a jackass.

But most of the time I’m not going to confront you. If your dog appears well-trained and you make an effort to keep your distance then I’m just going to stay hyper-aware of the situation and probably leave the area. My actions are very clear and both my dog & I wear signs that say we don’t want to be approached. Yelling at you from a distance would only escalate an otherwise neutral situation. I’m not going to do that.

But here’s the thing. If your dog comes towards us, I’m going to prepare myself for a dog attack. I’m going to put my dog behind me and blare my airhorn in your dogs face. I’m going to throw things at them. Kick them. Prepare to use my stun-gun on them if they get close enough. I don’t owe you anything. I don’t have to accept your dog as friendly just because you say it is and I sure as hell don’t have to be humane towards a dog that is assaulting us.

It’s not your dogs fault and I don’t want to punish them for having a stupid owner. But at the end of the day my responsibility in that situation is to keep my dog safe. I’m the only one who is going to protect my dog from physical and mental harm. I’m the only one who is going to protect them from legal accusations if something goes down between our dogs.

So if you’re the kind of person who allows your dog to run loose in public just keep this in mind:

Dogs get hit by cars all the time. A lot of them were frequently off-leash for months or years leading up to their accident. Their owners thought it was fine and that their dog was trained but it only takes one mistake to lose a leg or their life.

Dog phobias, elderly, parents with little kids, pregnant or disabled people. There are many reasons why someone would not want to have to deal with your off-leash dog and even if you have them “under control” just seeing them without a leash is enough to cause a huge amount of distress in someone.

Lots of on-leash dogs are dog aggressive or reactive. Unless legally prohibited due to their bite history, those dogs have just as much right to be in public as your dog does. That said, many of them would love nothing more than to bite the throat of your friendly pet and thrash them until they stop moving.

Service dogs exist. Just because you don’t see them in your area doesn’t mean you will never cross paths with one. Off-leash dogs are a huge liability for service dogs and their handlers. Even if it doesn’t lead to an attack just being a high level distraction to a disabled person who’s trying to go about their day is incredibly ableist.

[prodogz1]

The Ultimate Guide to Dog Training in Medford, Oregon

Dog training is an essential part of fostering a well-behaved and happy canine companion. In Medford, Oregon, where outdoor adventures abound, having a well-trained dog not only enhances your pet’s quality of life but also makes outings more enjoyable for both of you. Whether you’re a first-time dog owner or an experienced handler, this guide will provide valuable insights into Dog Training Medford Oregon.

Why Dog Training is Essential

Training your dog is more than just teaching them to sit or stay; it’s about establishing a healthy relationship based on trust and respect. A well-trained dog is less likely to engage in destructive behaviors, more comfortable in social situations, and better able to enjoy the freedom that comes with good behavior. In Medford, where parks, hiking trails, and dog-friendly events are plentiful, having a trained dog means more opportunities for fun and less stress in public spaces.

Finding the Right Dog Trainer in Medford

Medford offers a variety of dog training options to suit different needs, from basic obedience classes to specialized training for service dogs or therapy animals. When selecting a dog trainer in Medford, consider the following factors:

Experience and Qualifications: Look for trainers who are certified by reputable organizations like the Association of Professional Dog Trainers (APDT) or the International Association of Canine Professionals (IACP). Experienced trainers will have a deep understanding of dog behavior and a range of techniques to address different challenges.

Training Methods: Positive reinforcement is widely regarded as the most effective and humane training method. Ensure that the trainer you choose uses reward-based techniques rather than punishment. This approach not only strengthens your bond with your dog but also encourages them to learn with enthusiasm.

Class Size and Structure: Smaller class sizes often allow for more personalized attention, which can be crucial if your dog has specific behavioral issues. Some trainers in Medford offer private sessions, group classes, or even in-home training, depending on your dog’s needs.

Specialization: If your dog requires specialized training—such as behavior modification for aggression or preparation for therapy work—ensure that the trainer has experience in these areas.

Popular Dog Training Centers in Medford

Several reputable dog training centers in Medford cater to a wide range of needs:

Southern Oregon Dog Training Club: Known for its friendly atmosphere and knowledgeable trainers, this club offers classes for all levels, from puppy socialization to advanced obedience.

Off Leash K9 Training Medford: Specializing in off-leash obedience, this center is ideal for dog owners who want their pets to enjoy more freedom while still being under control.

Rogue Valley Canine Academy: This academy offers comprehensive training programs, including agility training, behavior modification, and service dog preparation.

The Benefits of Training Your Dog in Medford

Medford’s dog-friendly environment makes it an ideal place to train your dog. The city boasts several parks, such as Bear Creek Park and Prescott Park, where you can practice obedience skills in a real-world setting. Additionally, local events like dog-friendly hikes and meetups provide excellent opportunities to reinforce training in social situations.

Service Dog Training Medford Oregon also allows you to build a stronger bond with your pet while enjoying the beautiful outdoors. With so many resources available, there’s no reason not to invest in training that will benefit both you and your dog for years to come.

 

Dog training in Medford, Oregon, is an investment in your pet’s happiness and well-being. With the right trainer and a commitment to consistent practice, you can ensure that your dog is well-behaved, confident, and ready to enjoy all the adventures that Medford has to offer. Whether you’re exploring the local parks or attending community events, a trained dog is a joy to have by your side.

[owenspets]

The Ultimate Guide to Small Dog Backpacks: Convenience, Comfort, and Adventure

As pet owners, we always seek ways to include our furry companions in our daily activities. Whether it's a hike in the mountains, a stroll through the city, or a quick run to the store, we want our dogs by our side. Small dog backpacks have emerged as a popular solution for keeping our pets close while ensuring they’re safe, comfortable, and secure. These versatile carriers offer numerous benefits, making them a must-have accessory for small dog owners.

Why Choose a Small Dog Backpack?

Small dog backpacks provide an excellent way to transport your pet, especially if they’re prone to fatigue or anxiety in crowded places. Here are some key reasons why these backpacks are gaining popularity:

Convenience: Small dog backpacks allow you to carry your pet hands-free, making it easier to navigate through busy areas or enjoy outdoor activities. This is particularly beneficial for dog owners who want to maintain an active lifestyle without leaving their pets behind.

Safety: For small dogs, navigating large crowds or rough terrains can be challenging and even dangerous. A backpack keeps them off the ground, reducing the risk of injury or getting lost in a crowd. It also provides a controlled environment where you can monitor their well-being closely.

Comfort: Modern small dog backpacks are designed with comfort in mind. Padded straps, breathable fabrics, and ergonomic designs ensure that both you and your dog enjoy a comfortable experience. Many backpacks also feature adjustable straps to distribute your pet's weight evenly, reducing strain on your back and shoulders.

Bonding: Carrying your dog in a backpack allows for close physical proximity, strengthening the bond between you and your pet. Dogs are social animals, and being close to their owner can help alleviate anxiety and increase their sense of security.

Features to Look For in a Small Dog Backpack

When choosing a small dog backpack, it’s essential to consider several factors to ensure you select the best option for your pet’s needs:

Size and Fit: The backpack should be appropriately sized for your dog. It should allow enough room for your pet to sit, stand, and turn around comfortably, but not so much space that they can move around excessively, which could lead to discomfort or imbalance.

Ventilation: Adequate airflow is crucial to keep your dog cool and comfortable. Look for backpacks with mesh panels or ventilation holes to ensure your dog gets plenty of fresh air.

Safety Features: A secure harness or leash attachment inside the backpack prevents your dog from jumping out. Additionally, the backpack should have sturdy zippers and closures to keep your dog safely enclosed.

Comfortable Straps: Padded, adjustable shoulder straps are essential for your comfort. Some backpacks also offer waist and chest straps to help distribute the weight more evenly and reduce pressure on your shoulders.

Durability: The backpack should be made from durable, easy-to-clean materials that can withstand regular use. Consider options that are water-resistant or have additional protective features if you plan to use the backpack in various weather conditions.

Style and Design: While functionality is key, style is also important. Small dog backpacks come in various colors and designs, so you can choose one that suits your personal taste and lifestyle.

When to Use a Small Dog Backpack

Small dog backpacks are incredibly versatile and can be used in a variety of situations:

Hiking and Outdoor Adventures: If you’re exploring rough terrains or trails, a small dog backpack allows your pet to accompany you without getting exhausted. It also keeps them safe from potential hazards on the ground.

Urban Exploration: Navigating crowded streets or public transportation with a small dog can be stressful. A backpack ensures your dog stays close and protected while you move through busy areas.

Traveling: Whether you’re flying, driving, or taking public transit, a small dog backpack offers a convenient way to transport your pet. Many backpacks are designed to meet airline requirements for in-cabin pet travel.

Running Errands: For quick trips to the store or other errands, a small dog backpack lets you take your pet along without the hassle of holding a leash or worrying about their safety.

Conclusion

A small dog backpack is more than just a trendy accessory—it’s a practical, comfortable, and safe way to include your pet in your daily activities. By choosing the right backpack for your dog’s size and needs, you can enjoy countless adventures together, knowing that your furry friend is secure and content. Whether you’re hiking in the mountains, exploring the city, or simply running errands, a small dog backpack is the perfect companion for both you and your dog.

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[ghostjelliess]

This has been on my mind a lot lately, so I'm just going to say it as succinctly as possible:

No matter how well trained your pet is, if, for some reason, they are off-leash in an on-leash area (i.e. not a designated dog park), and they run up to me and they get kick/punched, that's on you.

I'm not saying I'm out here kicking puppies okay? I like dogs. But we don't all have the same experiences. I grew up in a neighborhood that had active dog fights. Avoiding strays with rabies, being taught about locked jaws and not letting the dog bite at all costs, little kids with amputated arms, watching dogs for scared muzzles and flanks, and seeing them be poor victims but also vicious predators, that experience doesn't magically go away because the ring got shut down and I grew up, and my first instinct to your lunging dog is defense.

On a leash, I can often reach out my hand, get to know the dog, let it sniff, and do all the right things because I'm not irrationally scared of them (but also cus my fiance is a golden retriever and he's already bff's with the dog by the time I'm there usually). Off-leash in a public space, your Rottweiler running at me is gonna get tossed, no matter how much you tell "she's friendly!" Bish, so is a 22 if you're tryna die.

It's not subjective, it's just facts. I don't know your pet, I don't know how "well trained" it is, but if its running at me despite you yelling for it to stop, it's a predator in that moment. This isn't anti-dog. I love dogs. It's pro-responsibility. Training is important for the safety of others but also for your beloved pet. You have no idea what world people are coming from. I've seen well trained dogs off leash and not felt threatened, it's the "trained enough" that bothers me. It's the uncontrolled, barely restrained, and blaming others for feeling uncomfortable that bothers me.

I saw someone else bring up a point about traumatized animals as well, about poorly trained dogs running up on shelter pets who get scared and might bite out of fear. We see dogs so often, and are around so many different kinds, that I think we forget to respect the diverse reality. If you've never seen a dog with rabies, you might not know that ancestral fear, if you've never seen a dog lock jaws, you might only think of it as a mythical ability. You might think of cats as undomesticated but dogs as obedient, and there's probably entire research papers of discourse on the strange social dichotomy of dog vs. cat, though historically they fill very important but different roles in human survival, but dogs can be feral, rural areas can and do (from personal experience in the high desert and UP) have wild dog packs.

Again, I don't hate dogs. I don't seize up at the sight of a pitbull, and I know tons of people are just trying their best, I've simply had it with the naivety I keep encountering on the bike path where leashed dogs lunge and couples who can't hold them get offended when I yell at their dog to back off while it's chasing me with an open mouth. Laugh all you want at people's fears, think it's dumb that you need a leash, train your pup well, call out that he's friendly as he races after a stranger, but please also protect your dog by understanding that if that stranger in a public on-leash property, pops your doggo with a foot, a fist, or a rolled magazine, it's not right, it's not fair but it is your fault, your responsibility, and your job to protect your pet.

Okay, I'm done. I just... People really don't respect their dogs it seems lately. They get cute puppies bred for generations to be really good at a job, and then are denied the space or resources to enact that action. Then they get brought to a park to "run around" or be free or whatever, and end up covered in ticks and running up on someone about to knock their lights out if they get any closer, with good cause!

It's the same additude of people who cross the road without looking or push their buggies without looking. You've endangered your baby because you are entitled to crossing. It's true you have the right of way, it's not true that everyone saw you and stopped, you have to look both ways, and I'm really annoyed with the amount of people thinking they're entitled to their dog's innocence, meanwhile their dog is actively in attack positioning and lunging at strangers. Ha-ha he likes to nip ankles, it's playful and he doesn't bite usually....and you, apparently, like to play American courthouse roulette, the way that stranger could sue if and when something does happen.

Protect your dogs, educate yourself, look both ways before crossing the street.

[whatdoyouneedsugar]

(Answering a day later because I got busy :( )

Quick update for today: I called off of work with a friend so we could go shopping. It was initially just for her to get Christmas gifts for other people, but while we were browsing in Hot Topic, I found a really pretty dress that was 40% off and some cute stockings to go with it! Will I ever wear them in public? Probably not. But they're cute! And maybe I want to feel pretty some days. (Slowly starting to get over the whole "feminine things = bad" mindset and more into "clothes have no gender, wear what makes you feel good")

I haven't tried them on yet, but I can't wait to!

Okay, back to yesterday: Yes Mommy, I kind of like the rush I get when I'm trying to hide that I'm looking at/reading/writing naughty things at work. It makes my pussy so tingly and my face so warm.

Thank you for being so understanding, mommy <3

Thinking about humping something while mommy kisses me makes my brain melt a little hehe

You promise?? Yayyy!!! 🥰

Oh, I'm not into the whole "keep me in a cage, make me wear a puppy mask, feed me with a dog bowl" sort of puppy play. I do like the nicknames, collars, and leashes for sure, though. As for the praise and worship: I don't mind receiving praise at all! And receiving worship isn't a hard limit, it's more just...I wouldn't know how to react? I think? It's just a gray area, I guess :>

Ooh, that actually sounds like a great idea! You're so smart, Mommy! 😊

Hm...I don't know about the filming part...Rewatching it while you tell me everything you liked and why does sound fun. I wonder if the embarrassment would turn me on or just make me want to hide haha

- 🐸

Thank you for your update, lovely, I really enjoy you telling me what you're up to. I hope you had fun with your friend and I am so happy that you got yourself clothes you love. I went a good chunk of my life not buying clothes that I enjoyed/not thinking I should or could even have my own style and enjoy how I looked (for different reasons, more to do with weight and body image, some body shaming from someone i lived with, anyway, just a lot of time wasted on that sort of thing) and I remember when I first started looking for stores with a good range of plus size clothing and when I first bought a couple flowery dresses (i also had an issue with dressing more "feminine") I literally started crying because I had actually chosen then, I didn't just buy whatever fit, and I felt so pretty and so good about myself. I know the reasons behind it are different, but I just wanted to say I partly understand how exciting it is to have bought yourself those clothes and I couldn't be happier for you. I hope one day you feel comfortable and safe to wear whatever you want inside or outside.

And I'm so proud you're able to work on your mindset in that way, it's so important for you to not let it keep you from enjoying yourself and wearing/doing what makes you feel more you, without needing to label it connected to a certain gender or a certain way to perform that gender. It's not easy to work on our perspectives in that way, especially when the world around us is so strongly shoving us in the opposite direction. I hope you're proud of yourself for that too, baby <3

And I don't even need to see it to know you're going to look gorgeous, please let me know when you try them on, I wanna hear all about it if you wanna share 😍

And about our tastes: they seem to align very well, honey, I wish I could get to know you in person, I bet we could have a lot of fun together, baby. Just imagining you in a collar and leash, splayed out on a bed, all at my mercy for me to use and ruin... makes my brain melt, baby.

And I understand that some things you're not sure about how you'd feel because you never tried them. I don't have any experience with kink, and I really hope to one day find someone to try out things we're interested in and find out what we like, so thank you for always telling me what you're not into, what you're not sure about. Even if we're just talking and fantasizing about it, the idea of figuring out these things with you is also so hot to think about, baby.

[hotcupoteckla]

Agreed - even if you are being made uncomfortable

Intentionally

for someone's personal sexual satisfaction, there are So Many Things you can do before calling the cops. The Police are not there to protect your comfort level, and "decency" laws are usually fucking stupid and racistly applied.

1. Ask them if they are intentionally making you uncomfortable - most of these people are going to tell you No, at which point

2. Ignore them

3. Leave the area, assuming you can

4. Endure the discomfort.

In that order. If you cannot leave and can't ignore or endure them, because there are obnoxious people that make up life sometimes.

5. Ask them politely to stop an action they're doing as you're forced to be there -

two homeless people fucking on your bus ride home? Yeah, they could probably hold off for a bit. The magic should still be there after stop D, when you can leave.

A NeoNazi preacher can shut the fuck up for the 20 minutes, if not forever.

The person learning how to juggle limes for their Disney princess audition can put them down, because they've hit you 3 times, whoops. They're tonedeaf singing? Hey, ask them to stop singing. If they ask why, be honest, not cruel.

The person who refuses to take off their neck leash and put it on their leashless dog who keeps humping your leg can do SOMETHING to control their pet.

Important Note: this is an inaction/action they are intentionally doing that they can stop, not their clothes, not their smell, not their faces/appearance. If it's something that a person cannot expect to correct or change in 5 seconds or less, You Say

Nothing and you Endure.

6. Cause a scene/go full yelling Karen mode on them - Provided you can't leave, or they refuse to stop/change the situation.

Important Note: assholes are preferable to cops. If you're yelling at someone in public, you're an asshole. Most people can understand you going asshole mode after the 4th lime in the head or dog humped leg.

If you weren't yelling at them, but privately judging them instead of minding your own business, you're still an asshole, but a tolerable one. And hey you found a coping method to endure unpleasantness. You might want to find a healthier one, but good for you.

If you're yelling at someone about something they cannot change or stop, you're a Cruel Asshole, and do not deserve to be tolerated in the space, but hey, at least you made it easy to find you, and you did Not call the Cops.

You shouldn't call the cops on anyone except for those actively causing you harm or endangering you - someone's waving a gun in your face area- sure, call the cops. Someone is yelling at you and won't stop yelling/leave you alone even though they have the opportunity to leave? Yes, call the cops.

You see? You see how I'm referencing a harrasser as a yelling asshole who is cruel for no reason? Yeah, that could be you.

It's supposed to be a last resort, so don't be an asshole - be kind, and respect that public space is to be shared.

extremely unsettling how some people have actively embraced applying “consent” to other people existing in public

I think many of them would genuinely call the cops on homeless people having sex, on gay people fucking in a bathroom stall, on people they can hear fucking in an adjacent motel room, on [people they assume to be] sex workers, and on any woman whose clothing doesn't cover up her nipples

this sucks and isn't excusable even if you're a 19 Year-Old Minor or whatever, this is a fucking DANGEROUS attitude. you are going to hurt people. you are going to do serious, direct, lasting harm to people around you

[jonfarreporter]

Sonoma’s Sugarloaf Mountain Range is it a local Yosemite?

Traversing up Adobe Canyon Road in Kenwood, just north of the town of Sonoma, a person seeking an exhilarating experience of nature and bucolic adventure will be breathtakingly taken aback by the rustic beauty of Sugarloaf Ridge State Park.

Some visitors have commented It’s Sonoma’s Yosemite. “I am not one of them,” said longtime Sonoma resident Mary Oswald.

Her reason for not comparing it to Yosemite is simple. “Sugarloaf is unique and it’s a part of Sonoma. It’s one of those special places that few people know about,” said Oswald.

As someone who has volunteered as a docent and visitor’s center guide, she explained why the 4,900-acre mountain range is called sugarloaf. “Sugar wasn’t always sold in the neat paper packages that we buy at the supermarket these days,” said Oswald.

“Before the 20th Century, said Oswald, sugar came in loaves that looked something like oversized, upside-down ice cream cones. The grocer just broke off pieces for his customers,” she said. To the pioneers who settled in the Sonoma Valley, “it reminded them of a piece of a loaf of sugar; hence the name Sugarloaf,” Oswald added.

A 25-foot waterfall flows after the winter rains. And now that spring has arrived it’s an ideal time to make the trek to the 200 to 2729 feet elevations of Sugarloaf.

There is a self-guided nature trail along Sonoma Creek that starts near the picnic area. Sugarloaf Ridge State Park contains the headwaters of Sonoma Creek. It runs through gorge and canyon, across the meadow floor, beneath scenic rock outcroppings, and is surrounded at times by redwoods and ferns.

Views are spectacular as far as the human eye can see in just about every direction.

Trees of many varieties are abundant. Within the oak woodland and chaparral, the park has 25 miles of trails for hiking and horseback riding. But amid the abundance of arbor expansion Redwoods are the ancient gem of this hill and mountains retreat.

Simply stand beneath one and look up. The sounds of birds and of babbling creek waters are soothing as well as enticing.

The eagerness to explore and meander is encouraging. Yet it’s advised to do so with caution as trails can be narrow. Twigs, branches, rocks and other obstacles can make for a slow climb or descending path.

With daylight hours increasing, this is an on-foot excursion that should be savored and not rushed.

On a clear day, visitors can see views of the Sierra Nevada and the Golden Gate bridge from the 2729-foot summit of Bald Mountain.

Deer, gray foxes, the occasional bobcat and coyote can be seen in the park. In spring, wildflowers provide a colorful palette across the green hills.

Lower portions of Sugarloaf is free for visitors to park and walk. Other higher portions and sections, especially campsites require an admission fee.

Note that all plants and wildlife within the park are protected. Collecting or destroying anything in the park, including mushrooms, is prohibited.

Dogs must be on a leash under your control at all times. Dogs are not allowed on trails.

Camping is permitted in designated areas. Dogs must be in a tent, camper or enclosed vehicle during the night.

The non-profit Valley of the Moon Observatory Association provides year-round astronomy education and interpretation programs at the Robert Ferguson Observatory within Sugarloaf Ridge State Park. Program fees vary, some are free with the payment of the park's Day Use Fee.

There are three telescopes and the New Generation 40-inch Telescope Project at the Ferguson Observatory which will be one of the largest telescopes dedicated for public viewing. For more information and public viewing schedules, visit the Sugarloaf State Park website.

[acrepairgilbert]

Some Best Things You Should Know About Gilbert, AZ

If you're looking for a new place to call home, Gilbert, AZ might be just the place. If you've never heard of it before, don't worry! I'll take you through what makes this city so great and how it compares to other cities in Arizona.

The Town of Gilbert is one of the fastest growing communities in the country, with more than 240,000 residents calling the City of Gilbert home. In fact, Gilbert's population has grown faster than any other city for four consecutive years. A significant portion of this growth can be attributed to its affordable cost of living and a high quality of life that includes exceptional schools and low crime rates.

The Town has been rated as one of the top places to live, start a business and raise a family.

If you're looking for a place to live, start a business and raise a family, then Gilbert is the place for you.

The town has been rated as one of the top places to live, start a business and raise a family by multiple sources including CNN Money Magazine and USA Today. In addition to its high quality of life ratings, Gilbert has been ranked among America's fastest growing communities. It's easy to see why people are flocking here from all over the country: Gilbert is safe; it offers great schools; it's close enough to Phoenix but far enough away that you can enjoy small-town living without giving up all of your modern conveniences.

There are plenty of reasons why this town is so popular with families looking for an ideal place in which they can raise their children!

Gilbert has some of the most affordable housing in Metro Phoenix.

If you're looking to move to Gilbert, you'll be able to buy or rent a home without breaking the bank. In fact, according to WalletHub's study on 2018's best cities for first-time homebuyers, Gilbert ranks as one of the most affordable places to live in Phoenix.

But it doesn't just end there—Gilbert also ranked highly for its real estate market health and property tax rates (1st), among other factors that make it an ideal place for homeownership and investment. If you're planning on putting down roots in this community and making it your permanent residence, you'll be glad to know that homes here are relatively modestly priced compared with some other parts of Metro Phoenix.

Gilbert is miles away from ordinary.

There are many things that make Gilbert unique, but the one thing that sets us apart is our sense of community. Whether you are looking to live in a safe and friendly neighborhood, raise a family or start your own business, we have everything you need right here in Gilbert.

Freestone Park is one of the largest parks in the state, with many unique amenities including one of best skate parks in the Southwest. The park features a large grassy area for picnics and sports games, an off-leash dog area with separate areas for large and small dogs, playgrounds for kids of all ages (including toddlers), plus many more attractions that are sure to keep everyone busy.

In addition to its diverse selection of facilities and amenities, Freestone Park also boasts several notable buildings such as "The Castle" which houses restrooms and showers; "The Lodge" which offers concessions like food vendors during events; or "The Recreational Center" which offers meeting rooms available by reservation only - perfect if you're planning an event!

Gilbert is an amazing place to call home

Gilbert has been named one of the fastest growing communities in the country and it's easy to see why. From its delightful downtown area to its historic neighborhoods, this city offers something for everyone.

Gilbert offers everything you could want out of life: great schools, low crime rates, plenty of parks and recreation facilities, plus so much more! It also happens to be perfect for families with children or those who just want their kids nearby while they work—Gilbert has an excellent K-12 public school district (USD #480) and several nearby universities including Arizona State University at Tempe campus just 15 miles away.

If you're looking for a place where everything feels new but still has that small town vibe then Gilbert may be just what you've been looking for!

Gilbert is a wonderful place to call home. There are so many opportunities to explore and discover the best things this city has to offer. Whether it’s hiking up South Mountain, going for a swim at Ray Moore Aquatic Center or exploring one of our local museums, Gilbert has something for everyone!

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[darkwood-sleddog]

hi! do you have any tips on training recall for dogs who like to wander?

I am not a dog trainer and my dogs tend to stay on leash in public because I do not like them running up to strange people or strange dogs and to me that just brings me a lot more peace and

This is a really vague question. There are many reasons that a dog may wander and ignore you asking them to come to you. But if it's distraction based (and most recall issues are) then you need to find something that your dog values more than the distractions that are keeping the dog from coming. This can be a toy or a treat, but it must be higher value than what you have (which is often the difficult part for many primitive dogs that like to wander just because of their breed temperament. A sled dog is bred to go many miles a day and thus wandering on its own is rewarding, moving on its own is rewarding).

Some other tips:

Start in an area that's very very low on distractions (such as inside your house or in a fenced yard or park. Work up to distracting areas. If you step up to a higher distraction level and your dog isn't listening they need to be collected and you need to go back to a lower distraction area. Be patient, this is lifelong training and takes time for consistency.

Long lines are a LIFE saver and will allow your dog more room to make errors and learn while still being safely on leash. I prefer a biothane long line as I find by their nature long lines do get a bit waterlogged by dragging on the ground.

Please choose the areas in which you teach your dog recall skills carefully. People walking with young children, people that are afraid of dogs and people with reactive dogs that are reasonably controlled themselves still deserve to be out in public areas without untrained and uncontrolled dogs going up to them. Many public areas have private property nearby that may have livestock. Many public areas also have wildlife habitats. Make sure the area you are in, if public, allows dogs to be off leash.

Use a friend/buddy to help you! Another set of hands can be so useful in instances like this, especially if you need to go grab your dog for any reason.

Train often and try and be consistent. If your dog cannot reliably come to you there is no issue keeping them on a long line, it gives them plenty of space to roam.

[ladyhearthkeeper]

Good manners in public places

I’ve been musing on this subject for a while. Of course, my focus is my own behaviour rather than that of others. I’m not here to judge as we’re all human and life isn’t always easy or simple. However, I do notice when people are being disruptive when I’m out and about. And I hope I’m not disturbing others.

We’re all free to behave however we want to (well without breaking the law) but wouldn’t be nicer if everyone made an effort to be courteous in public spaces? Here are a few points to make us think about how our behaviour can affect others.

Loud noise : Do we need to raise our voice in all occasion? Do we really need to have a loud private conversation in a public space? I’m a big fan of listening to my music (with earphones of courses) when I’m out, especially when I’m surrounded with other people (I’m trying to kick the habit but well) but I have my rules : I lower the volume when I’m public transport or a quiet place. If I need to make a phone call, I wait until I’m off the bus. I know I tend to be a bit loud when I’m speaking on the phone (without meaning to) so I don’t want to disturb others.

Littering : In most countries, we have trash cans everywhere. There are no excuses to litter. It’s a lack of respect for other residents and for the place you live in.

Clothes : Ok so this is maybe a sensitive subject. We’re all free to dress the way we want (up to a point) but hygiene and proper attire are a must. I know some people will grumble at this but please for the love of all that is good : don’t make us notice that you’re not wearing undergarments. Most human beings don’t want to see strangers half naked. Yes it’s hot but wearing good quality fabric can help you stay cool and dignified.

Smoking (or vapping) in crowded places : please don’t. If you must, make sure people around you (if you’re in an outdoor café) are done eating. And please, move away if there are kids and babies in the vicinity.

I live in a semi big city so maybe I can afford this : don’t push other people and don’t be aggressive. There are gentle but firm ways of asking for space to walk. Saying ‘please/sorry’ makes the whole situation more civilized. We’re all in a rush but it’s not the fault of that lady with her pram or that old man struggling to get on the bus. You don’t know who is disabled and might fall if jostled.

You can help elderly people or those with small children or anyone. How nice it is when people are gentle with you and help you out.And it costs nothing.Giving your seat will make an older or disabled person or pregnant lady feel visible and taken care of.

Be kind with people working in shops or driving buses etc. It’s not their fault you are late or stressed. They’re just doing their job. Being civilized can make your whole neighbourhood a happier place.

Follow the rules : if it’s forbidden to snack in the bus; please follow the rule. It will make life easier for the bus conductor and for fellow passengers. Same goes if a dog has to be leashed or not in a park, if you can step on the lawn etc. There’s always a reason behind these rules. If they seem excessive or useless : see if you can talk to someone about it. But until they change... follow them.

Greeting people in the street : well that depends on what kind of place you live in. I don’t necessarily do that but I always smile. But when I’m on my street or the main street before mine, I say hello to people because we are generally neighbours in this residential area. Saying hello and sharing a smile can make someone’s day.

Be gentle (and firm) when you are faced with someone begging on the street. It might be illegal in your country to beg on the street but you can still be polite and gentle. To come to this point, people must have gone through some very dark times so be kind and helpful. And if you’re not sure the person is sincere : you can still be polite and firm.

There are more points to raise, I’m sure but it’s enough for today. The world can be a scary brutal place so why not be civilized and courteous?

How can we be more considerate of others when we’re in a public place?

[rocketonthemoon]

HEY I hope you dont mind, how would you recommend building your resume to work in bookstores or pet stores? I'm trying to crawl my way out of the kitchen industry

Hey Friend! love the icon!

I don't know how much I can say towards "building a resume" as pretty much both of those jobs I got/was good at due to luck and being charming but I can give you some advice on what to expect/how to maybe give yourself a little better leg up on selling yourself during an interview!

(Note: these are my personal experiences working in 1) a small chain pet supply store in rural new jersey usa and 2) a midsize second hand bookstore chain in suburban midwestern usa so depending on where you are/company you're looking at ymmv) (also this got a little long so I'm gunna put it under a cut but tl;dr both jobs are retail jobs and while can be a ton of fun can still make you feel dead inside but maybe a little less than a kitchen job?)

For pet supply a lot of people think it's just going to be ✨working with dogs✨ and like, yeah ok you'll meet a lot of dogs but having people skills is super important cause like. Your potential boss wants you to sell shit and the individual with the money is on the other end of the leash. So eye contact and an easy smile when their dog pees all over your shoes is a plus. Also, like, half the dogs you meet will be Not As Well Trained As You Wish and will possibly steal/destroy your product while in the store. And then pee all over your floor and possibly other unfortunate bodily fluids/functions. That you will be responsible for cleaning up 8/10. If you live/work in an area like I did where people have obscene amounts of money the patience to listen to them jabber on about things to land a $500+ sale is great because then they'll come back and SOMETIMES tip you 50 bucks for being "such a great help". Also being able to lift over 40lbs is crucial. That job paid me absolute dirt money - especially for living on the EC - but I didn't need a gym membership and easily gained at least 10lbs of muscle due to hauling dog food everywhere around the store - large bags at my store came in either 25 or 30 pound bags and often people would need help carrying it out to their cars. Truck days would be just endless moving of product while helping customers at the same time so it's a whole workout on the job. Having experience with pets is a HUGE plus as you can imagine and not just dogs. My store was more likely to hire people that currently had pets or had owned pets for a long time in their life but weren't - and this is critical - weirdly prejudiced about other kind of pets. Like if you don't like cats or think snakes are gross, don't say that or at least don't in the interview and preferably not in the first few weeks of working there (and definitely not to customers)!

Bookstore again, people skills. And people of all ages. Kids especially. Kids read and like bookstores because there's books and toys and sometimes stickers! So there will be kids you will have to be nice to. Also the people who just want to loiter because it's a bookstore and they'll grab ten off the shelf just to sit in the aisle for three hours specifically where you need to go (most bookstores have chairs for this exact reason. Please be nice to your local bookseller and sit in a chair to read. It means they won't accidentally hit you with a book/cart/trip over you if they don't see you). Bookstores are kinda just libraries so hang around your library and people watch and then you'll get an idea of the kind of people you can expect to react. Also again being able to lift a decent amount of weight is good. My store bought back from the public and often had to help people take boxes out of their cars and I dunno the last time you lifted boxes full of books but they can get heavy. Plus your inventory will most likely come in boxes so unpacking and moving those will be easier if you already have some good strength.

Mostly though, the thing to remember about both of these jobs is that they're retail. You're dealing with the public and a very specific sort of public that are into animals and into books so they might be a tad more interesting than your every day retail shopper so having an upbeat attitude always helps. Patience is Definitely a Virtue because you will find people can't read or ask you questions like 'hey do you sell dog food here?' while standing in front of giant shelves of nothing but dog food. Advertising yourself as a people person or at the very least Good With People and a Problem Solver during your interview will help a TON in my experience. My line for both interviews that I will give you is "when asked a question I don't know I always like to say 'you know that's a great question! I don't know off the top of my head but let's go find out together/someone who does!" Managers eat that shit up.

Hope at least some of this is helpful and I hope you have success getting into a new industry :D