#their parents do NOT believe in coddling LOL

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Ready for my mc to yell at ex ro "Your mother should have swallowed!"

...the ex's mum would so giggle...

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You could stay forever, if you wanted (Patreon)

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Just saw your TBHK headcanons post and saw the one about Akane being the father who stepped up for Tiara since she sees him and Teru as her parents (Literally adore the mental image btw) Do you have any other headcanons for how Akane and Tiara would interact?

Omg yayyyyy yay more TBHK found family asks. Ya’ll are giving me too much to yap about, I feel spoiled. Alright onto the silliest father/daughter duo of all time, we’re about to take more liberties with fanon so everybody fasten your seatbelts

• So this headcanon happened as a result of the whole “Teru is basically raising Kou and Tiara” thing

• I feel like it’s true, their dad is absent and while most of the household work falls on Kou (a massive responsibility on its own), Teru seems to take on more of the “parenting” responsibilities. Such as training Kou and giving him guidance, plus the way he interacts with Tiara feels v much like a parent and their child

• I don’t mean to take away the sibling dynamic at all tho, there are plenty of oldest siblings out there that have had to raise their younger siblings. Being a parental figure doesn’t cancel out one’s role as a sibling

• Anyways that made me think that whoever Teru ends up dating is probably gonna end up co-parenting Tiara, especially if it turns into a long term relationship

• If their dad never gets his act together Teru will likely be the one having to raise Tiara into adulthood, I don’t think he’d let Kou take on that much responsibility (plus he likes to be involved in his siblings lives, I think he’d genuinely enjoy it)

• Since Teru and Kou are closer in age tho I don’t think the co-parenting thing applies to Kou, he’d be a regular brother-in-law (minus maybe one awkward “I’m not calling him dad” moment)

• Terukane is my main Teru ship so naturally I have to imagine Akane getting overly involved with the Minamotos

• “But what would that progression look like?” Tysm for asking, I’ve given way too much thought to this

• Tiara initially goes through a phase of not liking Akane very much, he’s way too blunt with her and she’s used to being coddled

• In return, Akane doesn’t like Tiara too much bcuz we all know he’s not above beefing with toddlers

• Since Tiara is five tho she gets over that hatred pretty quickly. All Akane has to do is, like, bring her a juice box and suddenly they’re best friends

• Akane wants to make Teru’s life a little easier bcuz he can’t help but want to take care of every person he falls for. I do believe his obsession with Aoi was unique but I also like to think it’s partially just an Akane thing, when he falls he falls hard. He locks in

• When I write Terukane I usually try to balance their canon dynamic with Akane’s obsessiveness, tho I don’t mind when some writers lean more into his yandere side for the ship. I know some shippers really hate it but I kinda like seeing various interpretations (keep in mind tho I don’t read Terukane fics often so I’m not the best authority on this lol)

• Holy Tangent, Batman! That is not what these headcanons are about. I need to yap on track

• Anyways, because Akane wants to take care of Teru he ends up babysitting Tiara a lot. This gives both the Minamoto brothers more free time, and it fulfills Akane’s need to constantly be making himself useful

• Their dynamic is one of the very imaginative, hyperactive child and the apathetic dad who adores her. He’s not overly doting like Kou and Teru are but that’s weirdly what makes Tiara attach herself to him, he’s different from most people she knows

• Oh yeah she calls him papa btw. This stems from my headcanon that she calls Teru mama, and this is where I have to reaffirm that I’m not trying to feminize him guys I just think it’s funny :(

• Basically just picture Loid and Anya from Spy x Family, that is how I imagine Akane and Tiara

• He hangs around so often that she genuinely starts to think of Teru and Akane as her dads. This indirectly strengthens their relationship bcuz like…they can’t just break up now. That would be like divorce for Tiara

• Every time they have a mild argument Teru’s like “think of Tiara :(”

• In turn, Akane starts acting more like a dad. He takes Tiara to the park and prepares her snacks when Kou is busy

• One day Tiara calls him papa in front of his parents and they have to grapple with the realization that their son has had a whole ass child for months and neither of them knew

• Akane’s dad panicked for like a full minute thinking it was a teen pregnancy before he realized that’s not really possible

• Akane would def introduce Tiara to his favorite rock bands (totally not based off me and my dad)

• Seeing Teru and Akane together actually helped Tiara understand the concept of marriage (since she doesn’t seem to understand it in canon), and that there are different types of relationships. Teru had to sit her down once and carefully explain that he and Akane aren’t married. She didn’t get it but, oh well, baby steps

• Akane introduces Tiara to people as his daughter, which results in a lot of confused looks from strangers

• When she gets older Teru becomes “dad” but Akane stays papa. She also calls him “old man” sometimes

• Since everyone seems to agree Mirai is a sister-figure to Akane, I could def see her making Tiara call her “Aunt Mirai” lmao (they would be best friends, trust)

• If someone upsets Akane or tries to hurt him, Tiara will go full lightning mode on them. Legend has it her first words were “Nah, I’d win”

• By the time Akane meets the Minamoto Father it goes down like “Who are you??” “I’m the owner of this house🤨”

• “Father?? No, you’ve been demoted to grandpa”

• Akane gives Tiara a lot of piggyback rides

• He tries to give her a lot of attention bcuz his own parents aren’t very involved in his life and he knows that can cause issues

• She likes her sandwiches cut into little shapes and Akane can accurately guess which shape she wants every time

• He can do hair really well because of Aoi and Mirai so he styles Tiara’s for her a lot

• I like the headcanon of Akane becoming a psych major (we’re twinning) so I like to imagine that when he eventually takes a lifespan development or child psych class he’s like “Teru. Teru we need to develop authoritative parenting styles. Teru we’ve been too permissive. Teru.” • I think they’d already be authoritative but shhh

• He becomes mindful of the type of attachment style Tiara has and tries to make her feel as secure as possible

• He picks up a couple parenting books

• Him and Teru would also be the type to read their Tiara LGBTQ+ children’s books. Woke parenting/j

• I think it would make both Teru and Akane happy to know they don’t have to go through with getting married and a whole adoption process for Tiara to see them as her parents. They don’t have to rush into anything or follow any standard process, they can just do their own thing and be a happy little family

• And Tiara gets to grow up with two parents who love her more than anything in the world

I’m ending it there because I could yap abt the Minamotos forever. Glad I got to spend my Terukane Girl Dads agenda again. Hope you enjoyed!!

[strlitetheatre]

MARK CHASITY THOUGHTS !!

thank you @biscuits-spooky-diner [ sorry for the tag again lol ] for reminding me w ur reblog i went fucking bananas w this LMAO

a lot of these are heavily headcanon-centric and i wanna preface that before i get into it bc i know some people may not agree!! thats fine!! i just like thinking these silly lil things

thoughts below the cut because its a Lot and i may add to this but idk?? shrugs we'll see

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starting off strong, i really am a sucker for the 'two [ or more ] characters that one actor/actress plays are related on some level' concept and i believe mark and duke are cousins bc CAN U IMAGINEE

theyre cousins on their moms sides but their moms dont really get along due to differing views and ways of parenting, but mark and duke are pretty close. theyre each others favourite cousin

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mark and karen are both gay in opposite directions but they were very close friends growing up due to overlapping social groups (their parents, church groups, most likely abstinence camp goers, etc), and because of their respective families and being unable to be true to themselves, they got married and had grace very early after they graduated highschool

mark loves karen very much, but purely platonically. he is the type to tease her, sometimes poke fun at her, and he respects her immensely! they both work insanely well as a duo, and they hold down the fort of their picket fence home extremely well, but they are not in love

he n karen live a very domestic life, they can even be pretty physically affectionate at times [ hugs, cuddling, kisses to the head, cheeks, hands even ] and share quick 'i love you's before separating for the day, but something about it was always just slightly askew from romantic love and affection

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circling back to highschool, mark and ted definitely had a secret on-again-off-again relationship for at least a few months to a year.

they inevitably fell out because ted was sick and tired of being kept as a secret [ i have so so many thoughts about the spankoffskis too dont get me started on that tho ] and ended up giving mark an ultimatum: either choose to stay with ted and become public, or choose his family and run away from himself

i think its clear which mark chose. they dont talk much anymore

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his middle name is anthony :33 no reason for this i just think it fits. mark anthony chasity :3333

he is a very sensitive man! growing up was extremely hard for him between an overbearing and coddling mother, and a hardassed and pushy father, and being heavily sheltered on top of it all

he wasnt shown a lot of genuine love and affection growing up (his mother would lovebomb him, his father didnt believe he needed it, and they were both pretty strict considering he was their only child) and he tries to do better with grace but still ends up unintentionally repeating cycles out of wanting to keep her 'safe'

he truly does love his daughter, he loves grace s o fucking much, but he n karen didnt have many positive role models to base themselves off of parenting-wise, therefore carrying a lot of fabricated truth into their relationships both separately and together with grace

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mark has an architecture degree and he would love to be an actual architect but alas. realty was what he could get into

hes the one in charge of most of the chasity homes interior decoration! he has an eye for colours n specifically he really enjoys pastels, but his favourite colour overall is actually green

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MARK CHASITY IS THE MARK FROM WORKIN BOYS [ getting forcefully pulled off stage, gripping the mic ] PLEASE P[LEASE JUSR HEAR ME OUT

before mark began working in realty, he worked at a bank. golden parachutes bank [ 'golden parachutes' is something mentioned in show stoppin number w like no context?? this concept is my gfs idea tho ] [ **I WAS INFORMED ITS A BUSINESS TERM but atp i feel like hatchetfield Would have a bank named after a business term lmfao ]

mark met greg through duke when he was about 20 or so [ I ALSO FIRMLYY BELIEVE THE GREG FROM WORKIN BOYS IS MAXS DAD BUT MY JÄGERMAN FAMILY TREE IS A WHOOOLEE OTHER CAN OF WORMS ], began seeing him, and greg was the one to bring mark into the polycule around 23-24

all of them worked at the bank! henry hidgens was one of the younger executives there

HIS N HENRYS DYNAMIC SPECIFICALLY was never sexual i believe, but it wasnt healthy overall because there was a power imbalance between them, and i also believe mark wouldve been one of the younger men in the polycule

henry and mark had a very 'wolf and lamb' dynamic, mark being perceived and treated as 'innocent' due to how he carries himself and how he was raised, and henry sometimes doing specific things to intimidate and even scare mark

all in all things do not go well. yeah. i am Not gonna get too deep into that bc it delves into pure indulgent au headcanon bullshit [ this entire post rlly lol ] but to shorten it: i believe mark to be a sole survivor of the workin boys incident in some aus and after the deaths of the boys he quits the banking job n goes into realty god bles

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coughs. anyway. he really likes historical art and i believe mark n grace are so similar in how theyre both So abnormal about historical things [ graces general interest and infatuation w the waylon place and its history that she basically infodumps about in npmd ]

he would infodump about historical pieces and their stories to anyone that would listen, which is usually his wife or daughter

SPEAKING of historical art n bringing back his architecture degree, when grace was around 10 mark built her an exactly-to-scale miniature replica of the waylon place as a dollhouse, down to the scaffolding, lighting, wall decor, etc

it took him years and was a complete surprise. it is his favourite and most pride-inducing project to date, even more bc it was for his baby

[stillaclownlol]

I will also talk about Tyler because he's also not normal about stuff 🫠

Right from the start you get these signs he's protective to a detrimental level lol

(BTW Aidlyn scene cuz I'm not normal about them ❤️ The way he literally wraps his whole body in front of her sent me lmao. Mans got his leg around her and everything 🤡)

He's pretty much like this with Taylor in all their scenes. In the Sorrel House he puts his arm in front of her when they see the phantom (that he does not think is real, considering his reaction).

He also has a tendency to drag Taylor away from situations with out asking for her opinion on it 🫠 He just kinda assumes she will want to go with him. Like when he drags her out of the house after saying the phantom was just a prank.

Sir. PLEASE. Kinda possessive of you-

I don't think Red did this on purpose because like. She hasnt really brought up their culture/heritage or anything in the story so far lmao (I'm crying). But idk like just this behavior reminds me a lot of the guys in my family 🙃 I think Latino boys get kind of socialized to be more aggressive and protective of their families at their own expense. He definitely seems like the kind of brother to impose a curfew- He has control issues like. We all see it right? He's a control freak.

Obviously his dad dying has a lot to do with this. His mother took it extremely hard, so then Tyler "stepped up" to take care of both his mom AND his sister, he's been parentified since a very young age (he doesn't look older than 10 imo). I think he feels a need to "be the man of the house" so to speak. He genuinely does not seem to have any hard feelings towards his mom even tho she...you know, fucked up. if any of you know the "latino boys are mama boys" cliche, but.

yeah.

(I do think Taylor has more mom issues because she kinda resents how Tyler has been parentified and she's allowed herself to be angry at their mom for leaving them to fend for themselves)

Sidenote: It looks like his family is very isolated. Like, its strange that nobody came to help Marianna after Ethan died. This isn't always the case but usually Latinos have large families (my mom's family had to push together eight beds so all the cousins could sleep in one room lol) WHICH probably means Tyler's branch of the family is, so far, the first and only to have immigrated to the US. He's probably already a second or third generation tho, his mom has only one surname and he and his sister never seem to speak Spanish, so I don't think they learned it (probably some basics). I don't imagine they've ever been to Mexico except MAYBE when they were very young (its kinda rare to visit...since...it's so hard to get out of there in the first place...🫠 I dont think my parents have been to Venezuela in more than 20 years...but also Venezuela is in way worse condition, so...)

But yeah like. His protectiveness of Taylor is something that actively works against her and something she dislikes. She always looks upset when he drags her out of a situation or tells her what to do. She just wants to help :(

BABYYYYY 🥲

Ofc she never says anything because for most of her life Tyler has put himself in a position of authority and is her caretaker. It's hard to speak up to somebody when they constantly say "I'm doing this for your own good, for your own safety, for-" Whatever. Taylor always believes Tyler does everything for her own best interests, so... even when she doesn't feel good about something, she'll still listen to him. It's a veryyyyyy slippery slope that can quickly become toxic, if it isn't already. Because besides being her brother, he's put himself as her parent figure as well.

He does the thing. You know. Where parentified kids try to overcorrect so they kind of coddle their own children and don't let them do anything because they're scared to death something is gonna happen to them 💀

I don't really know what the point of this was I just wanted to talk about how possessive Tyler can be and how unhealthy his attachment style is 😭 If I write Tyler and Logan angst tho just know it's gonna involve Tyler being overprotective and Logan being Not Cool TM about it 🫠

[pinazee]

Gus’s dad may have killed an old guy

Gotta gif right outta the bat! Liams run here! So cute!

I tell you what, i love the Shassie friendship here because yes, Shawn is going to mess with him by getting him something he hates for christmas, but then he’s also going to casually convince Jules to invite him to her family dinner because he knows he’s lonely.

Ohmygod i missed this part somehow! Gus forcing a vision see it! see it!

So a few things about the Gusters and how that plays into Gus’s character.

If they thought Shawn was a bad influence, then why let him hang out at his place all the time? Obviously they couldn’t just refuse to let him see him anymore but why not have him over at your place so you can keep an eye on him? Plus, Henry’s a cop… its complicated is all I’ll say. I think it had more to do with the fact that Shawn was just too much to handle as a kid. He strikes me as the type that needed to be constantly stimulated (i might go into more detail about young shawn in a later ep. Possibly when i try to narrow down their origin story). And Gus apparently agreed with his parents, so i have to believe part of him blames Shawn for how his life turned out, which is a little unfair.

I love the juxtaposition of how they treat Gus compared to how henry treats Shawn. Gus was heavily sheltered and coddled, whereas Shawn was being hardened for reality. Both are overprotective to a degree, except you’ve got Gus’s parents putting up foam guards on all the corners of their furniture until he’s 18, and then you have Henry who probably taught shawn how to swim by throwing him into the deep end of a pool when he was three. Weirdly, i think of the two, Henrys way was a little better, because even though he was a pretty shit dad, he, for the most part, didn’t try to shield Shawn from the world. In fact he was taught to observe it, to understand it.

This ep made me wonder if Gus was born sick. It would explain why they act like he has a “Delicate health and weak disposition”, why he didn’t have that many friends growing up, why they didn’t want him to go to that school. His parents are so overprotective and stuck in the mentality that he is a feeble child, that i think thats what made Gus so terrified of everything, but on the flip side, sparked his need to know how things worked, and why he has such a wide variety of interests. Shawn also does this, though. He never told Gus Henry killed his dog (henrys a canonical dog killer lol and i think he accidentally killed one of shawns pets too in a later ep. How many pets have to die before its no longer considered accidental???) and just in general he’s looking out for him whether emotionally (agreeing with him that he is definitely happy with his life at the end of 9 lives) or physically (standing between him and a gun in the same ep)

But they should be concerned that Shawns Psych business put Gus’s life in danger on multiple occasions already but that wasn’t discussed. So I have to assume Gus hasn’t told them those bits yet because he knows they’d freak out and make him stop.

Ernie freaking Hudson and Phylicia freaking Rashad! Which is even funnier when you remember Gus/Dulé keep getting referred to as Bud

I love that they’re a family of super sniffers and it bonds them. shawn seems to really get a kick out of seeing it too (probably because a family enjoying each other is so foreign to him 🙃)

U-turn Singleton everybody! I love when Gus has a little thing to go with his nickname!

Gus was really about to kick lassies ass! Dulé is killing me in this ep!

Gus being very subtle as always

P.S I LOVE HIM SO MUCH (but he definitely cheated)

[jockw]

Any nevermore headcanons?

Heya Mythawolf!

I've been thinkin bout it today when I saw this on my way home, so. Doing the same as last time, marking characters' names in colors to make it obvious. These are mainly modern tho, hope that's alright - it's also long so imma add this line for the mobile users that wanna scroll by easily

Modern Lenore would've bickered a lot with her parents for sure, getting grounded but never anything bad as a punishment. I think at worst they'd take her devices/gadgets away to make it severe, but she'd somehow have something to enjoy coddled up in her room. I also headcanon that Lenore doesn't drink alcohol because of her mother, not because she drinks basically everyday and her liver is begging for help — no. Simply put; because she just don't want to. Maybe for special moments, like new years and all, but not on a regular basis.

Going back to my previous headcanon about Annabel being vegan/vegetarian; I still see it happening!

It's a fascinating idea, because I barely see much vegan/vegetarian representation in fictional characters. But hey, my tastes in stories are wild so of course I'd rarely see such things. Perhaps I should make one myself.. anywho. Back on track, she'd definitely feel uncomfortable being near people that eat meat very messily. As in, seeing the oil roll down on the person's mouth to their chin as it almost drips onto their shirt kinda disgust. Though Annabel would never show or force her disgust to people who are meat lovers, she isn't one of those who goes "You are an animal killer! How dare you eat their flesh?!" (No, I'm not calling all vegan/vegetarian pricks. I don't think every one of them forces other people to become a plant eater either).

Prospero wears glasses, he enjoys a good book but it wouldn't have taken him double the amount of time if he had glasses with him. I'd say.. this is mostly general for any universe I s'pose? Our handsome boy is a bookworm, 'sall. You'll find him easily in school libraries, community libraries, bookstores, etc..

Duke and Pluto are deadass gamers. They like to play tons of games, cards, D&D, Monopoly, you name everything man. Hell, add Free Fire in the pot too.

I think if they were addicted to gaming, they'd also have a Twitch channel together and post their videos - mostly it's them playing together/against each other in some matches. Otherwise, we're gonna go to the Rabbit Hole and add a little problem; they're far too gone in the virtual realities that their friends are worried.

Well, Berenice is definitely some alcohol lover and like, slay because yes. We love her who she is. I believe in the world there are alcoholics who can control their liquor, and know when to stop. I see Berenice like that, unlike Lucille who continues from the Webtoon (although it's not much regardless).

Our little vamp gal would be the one winning in drinking parties, even if it's some random in a bar taking shots. She'd so win.

Eulalie likes to travel, she wouldn't mind having a travel buddy too. Doesn't matter who, even if it's Montresor. She likes to learn more about culture, see the landscapes and— go into France, in the secret passageways under Paris to search the catacombs just to take a selfie with it. Yes, she watched As Above, So Below - the movie and now she's trying to find the exact locations to get there. Her favorite to go to place is somewhere in Australia because she got bitten by a tarantula one time.

Will wears Hello Kitty pj pants btw.

I think that's it for now!

Cause i still gotta answer 2 more asks lol and I'm freezing, hope ya enjoy mate

[idontwanttospoiltheparty]

Do you have any idea why John may have cut Julian out of his will? I don’t know much about it but what I’ve seen has cut Yoko out to be the guilty party but I don’t really understand that seeing as she had no relation to Julian besides distant ‘stepmother’. I know John’s relationship with Julian was fractured as is usually the case for these type of parental dynamics but based off secondhand accounts John was quite soft and sensitive (and did love his first kid) so it’s hard to wrap one’s head around the idea of John deliberately wounding his child but he was also clearly capable of making brash decisions so I’m left with no idea of what John’s thought process behind this was if there even was any. So now I’m just thinking about how sweet it is that Julian and Sean have apparently managed to sustain a loving relationship despite other factors. But really I can’t conceive why John would’ve done that unless it was a grand gesture of devotion to Yoko and their family or he simply viewed Sean as the wanted (harsh but it is what it is) child and therefore the ‘special’ one. OR John’s will was impromptu and not intended as a final piece? As an aside, what do you think John’s relationship with his sons would’ve been like? Clearly Sean would’ve been his baby boy forever but I think Julian would’ve had his ups and downs culminating with the tentative friendship that usually evolves (in my experience anyway) from stunted child/parental relationships. An aside to the side lol but I I know John was very coddled by Yoko and the people close to him so I’m curious as to whether you think Yoko would’ve continued to be the main delegate on John’s internal connections? And when or if you think J&Y would’ve stuck it through (marriage 💀) together or not? I know people are generally against J&Y but by 1980 they did seem to have solidified their commitment to their partnership despite the cracks if Double Fantasy is anything to go by. Sorry it’s a lot lol

I had a back and forth about John's will about 10 months ago. My thoughts on it haven't evolved much since and aren't too different from yours. I really am not sure what to make of it all. But I have a hard time believing it was a serious, thought-through document.

Here's all the relevant posts: 1 / 2 / 3 / 4 / 5

As for how John would have been with his kids, had he lived, I think I agree with you. It's not like John and Julian never saw each other, though I personally kind of side-eye him for choosing to continue living so far away from his kid, even if I get why he liked New York better. I don't know Julian that well, so I don't want to be too presumptuous, but I suspect that John dying contributed a significant amount to his resentment. Once reciprocated reconciliation is taken away from you as an option, forgiveness must become so much harder.

I tend to think JohnandYoko would probably eventually have broken up, but they weren't super close to it in 1980. It more seems like they were both invested in re-vamping their relationship. I get that a part of that was probably PR, but given that Double Fantasy isn't actually all sunshine and roses, I still think it's credible they were genuine. I talked about this a few days ago actually. Here's some more thoughts: 1 / 2

Whether Yoko would have loosened the "reins" on John is very hard to say. I feel he didn't have enough time to adapt to his newfound self-confidence for me to say :(

[theosconfessions]

How does Scarlett, a fifteen year kid, hold so much power that she can manipulate so many people? I mean Theo I can see he's binded by the fact she's his baby but Dustin? River? Blake? I can see maybe Riv and Blake since they're not much older but Dustin? If he knows how alike she is to Theo he should never have agreed to let Scarlett do this show. He's the parent and supposedly the one she likes but she sure doesn't seem to have respect for him or anyone else. Dustin was asking for trouble for going along with it and I don't feel so bad for him because he knew Scarlett couldn't be trusted and now he's paying for it along with everyone else.

The apple doesnt fall far from the tree at all ;) scarlett and theo are kindred that way. but you also have to remember way back in theo lore is that he was married pretty young. [before marlee ] and he manipulated and used that girl and never really gave her a second thought or how he cheated and fucked with her emotions and life until she popped up again through dustin. and by then he needed something from her. for her to carry dustin and his babies. present theo is in his sixties and is not that much of a dick as he once was BUT man he was . selfishness runs in the genes. i thinkpersonally scarlett was blinded about what the show can do for her. and her popularity and that everyone else be damned. i dont htink she gave dustin a second thought or really thought he could be 'hurt' by anything. all she seen was how using theo could gain her that attention she wanted. unfortunately that came with backlash. which she will get. but for river hes very much not involved in the project hes a non social media kid but he did know that blake was helping her out with it. and he was pulled in because of that. blake went along with whatever scarlett said because she really does have something over him and riv that could hurt his friend. riv doesnt know this. [hopefully i can squeeze that post in today. he has a convo with dustin about it bc dustin was like okay i dont believe you lol] riv wasnt watching so he doesnt know what he came home to haha! robin was watching though and shes on theos side. not scarletts. theos a little bit of an idiot for his kid for sure. i think he feels like he has to coddle her a little bit bc of marlee etc. but because of that she played him. shes a smart kid but shes also not a very nice one. at least in the moment. i think with dustin , shes also HIS baby. he raised her ya know. and that was his youngest until they had the twins. i think he also has that same soft spot and wanted to believe in her a little bit but now hes likeyeah not making that mistake again obviously. their whole business was put on out there. that being said theo overshared. and thats on him. he shouldnt have openedhis mouth AT ALL. so he has some penance himself to do , thank you for your ask, love! i hope this makes sense bc i kinda rambled? if not lemme know. sorry for the length haha

[blackthornv]

TWP: my arthurian headcanon pt.4

Oh, please, we all knew it would come to this, there's no mystery here. Also i don't know a lot about this arthurian character so i'll just go with the basic stuff.

Tiberius Nero Blackthorn, fifth of the Seven Blackthorn Siblings: there's just no way he wouldn't be Merlin. It's impossible to not make comparisons between both these characters intellect. Merlin is one of the greatest warlocks in the history of literature, with immense power and wisdom. He is mostly represented as a mentor to many of the others characters in the Matter of Britain such as Morgana Le Fey, the Lady of the Lake, Lancelot and King Arthur (ah yes, our Arthur).

Ty was introduced to us as an erudite and later on he went pursuing his dreams to be a (sort of) investigator in Scholomance - the most refined manner of education Shadowhunters allow in their midst. (Let's get it out of the way: Ty is the greatest student in the history of Scholomance. Source? I don't need one. Shut up.)

He also has began his introduction to (forbidden) magic in QoAaD and we can tell by Livvy's PoV that he - they - are exploring the magic that remained after his attempt at necromancy. I might be biased (and so what if i am?) but he does always find a solution to the problems he faces (even death lol) and so far things are going alright for him except for... the poorly acknowledged matters of his heart.

Okay, maybe to say he doesn't acknowledge his feelings is a bit harsh, but he certainly doesn't let himself process it. I do believe that some of the fault here is at his older siblings and parents. I understand that they did the best they could for him without actually understanding why they always thought Ty to be sensible, it's just i can't help to feel like the excessive coddling might have done him harm when it comes to get in touch with both his and other people's feelings. For all my previous thoughts on how Ty might be depriving Livvy from her freedom by keeping her around even though she clearly doesn't belong anymore, i believe Livvy held him back in the past.

All that to say: Merlin's ending is usually marked by his death/entrapment after he falls madly in love (let's ignore that he fell for the Lady of the Lake). The intensity of his feelings ended up making him careless in his approach and blinded to anything else. As a result of that, he was trapped in a lake - condemned to drown perpetually with his feelings.

Ty wronged Kit. I understand how they were both coming from difficult moments and how delicate the situation was but i still think Kit was right in all the decisions he made to keep a distance between himself and Ty.

Ty knows a lot but he will not learn how to deal with his feelings by staying locked away in the Institute or pretending to move on at Scholomance. He didn't allow himself to go through his grief when his twin died, when Kit was there offering comfort, companionship and love - but now Kit is gone and in this scenario he has removed himself from the equation is a much more drastic way than Livvy because he chose to leave. He doesn't give Ty any other option than to feel the ache of his broken heart - of their broken hearts - created by this oppressive absence.

In the end, his twin hovers above his shoulder as a ghost but it is Kit who haunts him.

[alexanderflowerbird]

DAY 14

Today was such a long day at work, lemme tell ya. Ugh. I really wish that I could quit my day job, but what's new right? Us writers end up having day jobs for so long while we toil away at our personal projects, kind of just accepting the suffering reality that if we could live off our writing, we'd be able to tell our stories, and so many more stories, in a more timely fashion. This morning at least, I sat down to get some work done and I'm very happy with it. I cried a lot while writing it, as mentioned in a previous personal post lol, but I think it's the exact thing I should be writing, to be emotional about it while I do it. It's cathartic for me in a way that's hard to describe to make a character that represents all the painful realities of my mother, who has been the only constant in my life, while making a case for the fact that I believe she deserves so much grace and empathy and understanding by portraying a woman that I think is as complicated and ultimately loving as I believe my mother to be.

In the beginning of Blood Sun Territory, you hear about Felina through Malachi, and while Malachi fucked things up with her, his love for her is never in question. He demonstrates through his memories of her that she is rough around the edges, that she loves hard and predominantly shows how much she loves others through her actions. His view of her is deeply loving, even if it isn't romantic, and his view of her isn't dishonest. It's just not the whole of her. So leading with the first two chapters where you are with Malachi and hear about Felina through Malachi, it's easy to see why he loves her so much, to fall a little bit in love with her too.

Chapter 3 is when you meet Felina, when you're in her head while she's enacting a small, but impactful cruelty upon her daughter and you're meant to understand that this is how it always is between them, that now that Mercedes is a teenager, Felina barely knows how to be around her daughter without hurting her, and sometimes, she wants to hurt her, not in a ruthless and cruel sort of way, but in the way parents who don't have any other skills reach for the most base, easy and self satisfying tools to get their way with their children. She knows it's wrong, but she still does it. She thinks about it being wrong when she's alone with it, but she can't get herself to change.

This is my experience of my mother, growing up believing that she barely liked me, even if she deeply loved me. Feeling like she never understood me and didn't want to, but would die for me if the circumstance called for it. And it's a strange sort of love... and while my mother is the type of person who rarely opens up about the complex qualities of her heart, I hold an enormous amount of empathy for how hard it must have been for her to love me and not know how to love me correctly. So. I give you your excerpt today where I introduce you to Felina, and share with you a peek into my mother as I know her now, knew her then, fear sometimes I might become her, and love her anyway.

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1…2…3…4…5… Felina counts her breaths as she forces them to slow, leaning over her sink with her head hung between her shoulders. Behind her, the frantic, clumsy clinking of pieces of porcelain is disrupting her count, jostling her barely there calm, beckoning her temptingly. She could just react. Mercedes is old enough now that coddling her is unnecessary, disadvantageous even when she needs to grow up stronger and more independent than Felina had been when she first entered the world. Felina is struggling with herself about many things in this moment, so being silent is the safest course even though she wants so, so badly, to give Mercedes a reason to remember this moment, to change her course and stop fucking everything up. Is she fucking everything up? No. She’s going to fuck everything up, maybe. Mercedes has been slacking on her chores, shirking her responsibilities, she disinterested in study and daydreams about god knows what, some boy in town or some place she’s never been to probably. Marriage, like most young girls, even though Felina never put that ridiculous life goal in her daughter’s head. Mercedes is standing next to her with her hands full of a broken plate and even though Felina isn’t looking at her, she can sense her daughter’s fear. She’s never hit her daughter, she’s raised her voice plenty but it’s not like she’ll ever be a quiet, gentle woman, what the fuck is Mercedes so scared of, just now? If Felina’s approval mattered so much to her she’d stop fucking everything up. She’s not fucking everything up. 

“I’m sorry, momma. I’m sorry.” Mercedes whispers. Felina doesn’t answer her. She’s counting her breaths and she’s never been one to respond to apologies or thanks. She doesn’t need apologies or thanks, she needs action, so when those words come out of people, the silence after them is decisive, reflexive, a rejection of social niceties Felina thinks are useless exchanges. She knows the silence after I’m sorry or thank you hurts Mercedes, but she can’t ever seem to remember that and fill the silence for her daughter when most of the time, Mercedes is about as relevant to her as anyone else in the world. She won’t change her speech patterns to soothe her daughter, but she would die for her. She won’t simply forgive the broken plate, not without making sure Mercedes knows better than to let it happen again, but she loves Mercedes more than she’s ever loved anyone. Isn’t that wrong? What’s wrong with her? 

“What are you doing?” Felina asks when she looks at Mercedes, who is standing there with the broken plate in her hands, still trembling a little, eyes wide and searching like a scolded dog. She blanches and Felina knows the look. Mercedes thinks she’s made another mistake, already. She hasn’t, why is she so skittish all the time? If she’d stop fucking everything–

“I… I didn’t know if you wanted me to throw the pieces away or if you wanted me to try and fix it. I could fix it, maybe. ‘Member when we read about Japan? How they did the gold, with broken plates and stuff? Maybe… Maybe I can make it better. Not with gold, but… I could use my paints?” It’s a stupid, sweet suggestion. The plate’s worth all of three dollars, it’s more the trouble of going into town to replace things like this than that it's broken that’s frustrating. It’s not worth anything, repairing it is a waste of time.

“Throw it away.” Felina says, openly tired, indifferent to the way Mercedes’ hurt floods the air between them. She’s a teenager and her emotions are so, so loud. It’s exhausting, knowing how her daughter feels all the time, it’s painful, knowing how often she’s afraid, it’s confusing, how Felina can’t seem to find the energy or sense to do anything about it. Mercedes is so smart and strong, she’s independent and vibrant, she loves animals and likes to learn how things work. She is perfect, Felina knows it. As perfect as any person can be, and she will be such a fine woman. When Felina imagines that woman, she feels so much pride it fills her up from the top of her head to the tips of her toes. But right now, she’s almost that woman and she’s upset and anxious and asking for attention all the time. When she’s older, maybe she won’t be so emotional. Felina feels guilty to look forward to that, but sometimes she wonders if she’ll survive that long, if their relationship will survive that long. 

Sometimes, when she shouts at Mercedes and her daughter goes to her room and cries and cries and cries, Felina remembers what she was like at Mercedes’ age. She would’ve run away, if she had a mother like her. She did run away, as soon as she could do it without ever looking back. Sometimes Mercedes goes out to go work for their neighbors or to wander the open pastures between their farm and town, and Felina wonders if she will suddenly just disappear. It won’t be death, or danger that sends Mercedes away from Felina. It will be Mercedes deciding she doesn’t want to be scared anymore. Isn’t that a good thing? Isn’t Felina teaching her something important, even if it’s accidental and cruel? Felina goes to get her wallet and opens it, producing a few bills. She puts them in Mercedes’ hand once she’s thrown the broken bits of plate in the trash. 

“Go into town.” Maybe don’t come back. 

“Get a couple new plates, something you think looks good.” I’m sorry, baby. It’s just a plate. I don’t know how to tell you about your father getting out of prison, or how I feel, or why I am so angry all the time. I don’t know how to explain it, and even if I did, it’s none of your business. You’re too young for such burdens.

  “Get some icecream or something, too. Just be home when you’re supposed to be.” I forgive you. Please forgive me. 

“Go see Chashwi, see if she needs you to do anything for her.” I love you. You are growing up so well. Go be with someone who’s better at this than I am. 

“Be back well before sun down, you hear?” Please come back. If you don’t I understand, but please come back. 

“Yes momma.” Mercedes says softly, and she crushes the bills in her hand before wrapping her arms around Felina. Mercedes probably knows something’s wrong, even if Felina is doing her best to be as she always is. There’s benefits to being so hard– if you’re harder than usual, most people can’t tell it’s because you’re hurting about something. But not Mercedes. Mercedes knows. And Felina doesn’t even think it’s because she’s Mercedes’ mother. Felina thinks it’s because her daughter is the sort of kind that can sense the aches and pains of others, and rather than doing the sensible thing and ignoring them, she reaches out with soothing, tender intentions. Felina hugs her daughter, petting her dark hair once. 

“Go on.” She says tightly. She’s never cried in front of Mercedes, she isn’t starting today. 

“Yes momma,” Mercedes repeats. “I love you,” She says shyly at the doorway to the dining room. 

“Love you too.” Felina answers. She does. She knows it, with every part of her. She does. She does, doesn’t she? Maybe not the right way. She’s trying, she really is. She does. More than anything in the world.

[alarrytale]

Since we’re talking about kids, I believe that Harry would be the stricter parent and Louis would he sneaking them treats and being the pushover lol. Just my opinion.

Hi, anon!

If they ever have kids, i think they will have a similar parenting style. They are both no-nosense people. I think they both will be equally strict and equally a pushover. They will both see the benefit of a rutine for their kids and march them to bed to make sure they get enough sleep. They will both say yes to ice cream (most of the time lol). I don't think they will coddle or hover over them, but i do see the kids running to Louis when they need to be comforted if they're hurt lol. I don't want to stereotype their parenting based on how we fans percieve their personality because i think we really won't know how they are as a parent until they have kids on their own. I do think they're more similar than we think.

[ask-the-royal-absol]

what does your muse take inner comfort in knowing ? what guides your muse ?

i cant decide for who but Destino and Karma would be interesting!

(Oh damn, what a good question. Actually have to think about this.

For Destino. Joke answer would be they take comfort in knowing how attractive they are lol. That’s probably how Destino would respond. I mean, they ultimately want to be the ruler of the Underdark. They want to be a ruler someday. They’ve been told they will inherit the throne someday and that fact makes them sure about the future. They take comfort in knowing that that day will come. They’re sure about it but Destino is definitely annoyed they haven’t got it yet. I suppose that’s what guides them. Each decision they make may lead them a step closer towards that goal.

Even if Destino does believe sitting on their ass and doing nothing will make them a ruler. I suppose, if we’re going really deep down, it’s about control. Destino wants control of their future. Destino wants control of their life. With parents (well, one particular one) coddling them and fussing over them, they’ve certainly not had much of a say in certain things. By choosing not to do anything, they’re in control of their life. It’s also why the hate the idea of the prophecy. That’s something they’ve had no control over and that makes Destino frustrated.

And Karma is an interesting one. Karma is incredibly strong. Her and her husband are the strongest in the Underdark and almost on par with the other rulers. They’ve certainly done their best with the limited resources they have. Karma takes comfort in knowing she’s strong enough to protect the people she loves. That’s why she’s so threatening towards others; she knows she can best them in combat. And she knows her strength is what makes others listen to her.

And I suppose that kinda guides her. Being powerful over others. Being strong enough to charge in when her family is in need. That’s why she didn’t want Destino to know about the surface. Because if they left, she wouldn’t know if she’d be strong enough to handle the emotions of not being able to watch over her child. She wants to present as strong for her kingdom. Her subjects. Because if she doesn’t present as strong enough, then her kingdom would be lost.

I hope that answers your question. I certainly did the best I could! Thank you for the question!)

[xslytherclawx-writes]

like i was telling @tavina-writes earlier, this is part of why i like writing evan so much bc he's charming and affable and typically nice (to people he views as equals) and capable of deep genuine love and affection.... and that doesn't do anything to erase his absolutely abhorrent moral beliefs.

at the end of the day, he still believes in it, even when he follows regulus to east berlin lol

if anything, i think it's harder for evan to become disenchanted because he has a coddled upbringing and parents who dote on him and adore him, and why would his genuinely kind and compassionate and loving parents steer him wrong? why would he instead believe the people who target his friend (bc he is friends with snape lol) for a laugh? the person who left regulus in an abusive home with only a house elf for an ally?

[my-gf-is-kazuichi-soda]

Still in the middle of D3 so no spoilers please!

Edit: I've finished D3, spoilers okay now lol

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I dont usually make up family headcanons with same-age characters (it leaves myself more room for shipping) but for some reason I came up with three of them here. Okay I just realized the first one theyre not same age but, uh, anyway!

Ryoma is Hiyoko's uncle. I dont have much of an explanation for this. At first I thought it would be a funny idea if Ryoma was Hiyoko's dad but then I realized that Hiyoko's dad goes to all her dance recitals while Ryoma's been in jail for a while, so that makes it kind of impossible. Just a silly idea.

Kazuichi is Kaito's younger cousin (idk what the timeline is for D3 compared to the other games yet, and I know often times this class is headcanoned as younger than the D2 class, but this is all in an au anyway). They're same-voice actor cousins. Kaito gave Kazuichi the idea to build a rocket engine, maybe they watched alien movies together when they were little. Kaito hasn't seen Kazuichi since she was still in her booknerd phase, so Kaito would laugh a lot if you told him that his nervous, fidgety cousin went through a "scary punk phase." Have an idea for a short fanfic where he calls and says he's coming to visit her again and she's mid-transition at this point and unsure about coming out to him - I think he'd be cool with it. He'd possibly confuse trans with drag at first but he would be supportive and say that he's glad to see Kazuichi gain some confidence and self-esteem "even if you're still a bit fidgety" (Kaito that's not from being afraid that's just the adhd). Also Kaito and Zoey get along alright.

Nagito is Kokichi's older brother. (potential ableism trigger warning, also a warning for that sibling dynamic where one kid is neglected for the sick/disabled kid). There's angst potential as well as funny potential. This is more subject to change since there's a lot I still dont know about Kokichi, but from what I can tell he's a manipulative liar always making scenes to get attention and even though some of the fandom says he is "a normal person faking mental illness," I dont buy it. Maybe he's faking something, but he definitely has something too. Not sure if this is a controversial opinion, but I believe that people who fake mental illnesses (to this degree at least) are not neurotypical, it's a cry for help and they do need something, so they shouldn't be brushed off as just "ableist assholes" because there is something going on, though on the flip side it is not the job of other mentally ill people to coddle their feelings when that person is being ableist.

I think Kokichi also went through some trauma, like something happened with his family that made him have to attend court sessions (he said in the first trial that he had to go to trials all the time a long time ago "for his crimes as an Ultimate Supreme Leader" but I think that's Kokichi-talk for "he was a little kid and had to sit in trials for some family drama and the adults constantly blamed him for problems that weren't his fault," which is why he plays up this sort of misbehaving bad kid role). Anyway, my ansty hcs is that Kokichi was neglected because his parents focused on Nagito's illnesses, and that's part of why he acts up to get attention. He has some resentment for that but blames his parents more than Nagito and he and Nagito have the type of sibling relationship where they're sometimes on good terms and sometimes can't stand each other. They've thrown some shade at each other but Kokichi really knows how to piss off Nagito and is not afraid to bring up "hope" to mess with his head (though if anyone else did this they would suffer Kokichi's wrath, as far as he's concerned he's the only one allowed to pick on Nagito). Nagito thinks he goes easy on Kokichi when they fight but he can be petty and sassy back and has a lot of embarrassing dirt on Kokichi. They're the kind of brothers that will pester and argue with each other but they'll bury the dead body for the other no questions asked. And Lord help you if they're in the same courtroom, they could find the dumbest little things to bicker with each other about and filibuster the case, but also Nagito will totally back up Kokichi's lies and vise-versa. Whatever creates bigger hell at the moment for the player. It was a mercy they weren't in the same game.

Anyway, since I haven't finished the game yet there's probably-definitely stuff I dont know about these characters but I got excited to share this with you.

[trans-wojak]

women bitch about misogyny so much meanwhile 99% of "misogyny" is women not getting special treatment lmfao (relevant examples: https://archive.ph/IUzLD http://breakingthescience.org/RichardGelles_MissingPersonsOfDV.php)

Honestly, a lot of the time they (feminists) accuse men of misogyny for very mundane things and it’s annoying because

1. They engage in full blown misandry all the time and pass it off as ‘acceptable’ because women have experienced gender based oppression or play it off as “just joking” (which is exactly what they get mad at men for doing)z

2. They can contribute to women having irrational fears. Most violent attacks on other people are experienced by men. But feminists will try to have you believe women are having a fucking genocide by lone strangers. I’m not denying women experience a huge amount of violence, especially through DV but men do too, it’s just not socially acceptable to talk about. Even in cases when the woman is the aggressor, the police are gonna arrest the man most of the time. Women face more rates of intimate partner violence but we also don’t know just how much men face it cause it’s not documented as much.

3. I agree with gender equality/equity. But part of that includes remembering that not everything is misogyny, I’m sick of being told EVERYTHING trans men face is misogyny instead of the fact there is deadset transphobia aimed at trans men. Some of it is misogyny yes, but some of it isn’t too.

4. While it is true misogyny is prevalent in society, there’s a double side to it - women get more sympathy for poor behaviour. When they commit crimes they are more likely to gain lesser punishment because “it’s a poor woman, she wouldn’t have known better.” Yes that’s misogyny but denying that it benefits them is redundant - considering they always point out that the patriarchy always benefits men.

5. A lot of them aren’t consistent with beliefs. Pro choice but only for those with uteri. If a man wants to give up parental rights for a child he never wanted, they tell them they’re losers who shouldn’t have sex/use a condom/get a vasectomy. The same talking points used against women who want an abortion. I’m aware that abortion is wayyyy different to payments for child support but at the end of the day, telling men they can’t have sex if they don’t wanna pay for a baby is against body autonomy.

6. They like to accuse me, a trans man that the only reason I do X or Y thing is to look “more male”. They think trans men should act “more female” because they still see us as women. I’ve lived as both a man and a woman, they both have disadvantages in life. We can acknowledge this without making it a pissing contest. Women face sexism yes. I’m not gonna deny that at all but my criticisms of some women aren’t invalid just cause they face oppression. That’s not equal.

7. I don’t know if it’s my autism or not but I honestly just see everyone as people first, gender is second. If I’m in a room of mostly women or mostly men, I don’t really pick up on it until later. The only time I notice (cis) men more is when they’re all bigger/taller than me and it makes me dysphoric lol. I treat women the same way I treat men. This includes not acting like women need to be coddled just for being women, so I won’t change the way I speak for them i.e online feminists being mad I talk crass and say cunt a lot.