#the-invisible-queer

[redvanillabee]

TRICK OR TREAT

oops you got trick

(loving the ducks though)

[sugarcoated-lame]

1, 17, 20 for the asks

hi mac !! ☺️

1. who are your comfort characters?

matt murdock, bucky barnes, bradley bradshaw, joel miller, spencer reid, bob floyd, marc spector, steven grant (most of my comfort characters are like the most tortured, miserable brooding characters and idk what that says about me lol)

17. are you farsighted or nearsighted?

nearsighted and very much in need of new glasses :)

20. do you say soda or pop?

soda! one of my friends is from virginia and he calls it pop, and every time my brain short circuits for a second like ‘wtf is pop?!’ lmfao

thank you sm for sending these!! 🥰💕

ask game

[somos-deseos]

Lo bueno de usar “Tumblr” para desahogarse, es que a nadie le importa.

[blackbird-brewster]

2, 20, 40 for the weird asks

Thanks for the ask!

2. Lighter or matches?

As someone who always has a candle burning, I mostly use a longer candle lighter because my lack of dexterity makes striking matches really difficult sometimes

20. Do you say soda or pop?

Neither. I say 'Coke' for any carbonated beverage. "Do you want a coke?" (yes) "Cool, what kind?" That really gives away my redacted origins. Ever since moving to Aotearoa, I try and use 'drink' instead, or 'cold drink'.

40. Did you have any snacks today?

It's not even 10am, so not yet. But my diet is 99% snacks. The audhd means I often forget to eat or I'm not hungry when I'm 'supposed' to be. So I have snacks stashed in my desk, in a drawer in each bedroom, and tons in the actual pantry. My go-to snacks are string cheese, apple sauce, up and go (it's sorta like a protein drink). When I can find US snacks, I stock up on: pop tarts (strawberry with frosting), graham crackers, dill pickles. [Send Me Weird Asks]

[silly-fox-and-its-stuffies]

why does everyone want disabled people to be quiet? nobody cares about our struggles. nobody is excited with us when we get what we need. everyone feels so bad for us. but when we feel bad everyone says "well, get used to it" but dont care to change the inaccessibility. this is all blurry. my mind is blurry. idk anymore. do you understand what I'm saying? please dont let this flop. scream this from the rooftop. please.

[skys-archive]

Hey can someone remind me that I still need to take breaks even on good days so I don't overwork myself and have more bad days

[serana666]

Getting on my soapbox about something I think is REALLY important for chronically ill ppl to think about.

Being undiagnosed and disabled is a terrible experience. You’re screaming into the medical void for ANYONE to please SEE YOU and help. You start thinking “is it just me? Could it just be in my head? What’s wrong with ME?”

And I’m here to tell you, it’s 👏🏻NOT YOU👏🏻 it’s THEM. (The doctors)

I have been through the grueling process of becoming totally disabled by chronic illness, without knowing what it could be. I picked up diagnosis’ along the way: RA, then lupus, then fibro. And I am LUCKY that my blood worked with me to show those things, not everyone is so lucky.

I kept thinking (foolishly buying into the narrative doctors try and sell you) that if I could just get a *serious* diagnosis I would finally be given access to the care I needed, that ALL disabled people need. That was never the case at any step in the process.

When I was diagnosed with RA and began having symptoms outside of it, that were completely debilitating my rheumatologist told me I just needed more exercise and activity. I told them specifically I had fatigue so strong that I was loosing the ability for basic functioning.

When I found a new rheumatologist and was diagnosed with lupus I thought my troubles were over. Then she started saying weird shit like “do you have a boyfriend? You’re so pretty!”

She found out I was a lesbian when I brought my girlfriend to my appointment to be my advocate. Her whole demeanor changed to me and I spent 6-8 months with her receiving no treatment. They kept saying “oh it’s the insurance” nope they sent me letters telling me this office was not following up.

So I moved to a blue state literally out of fear that I would die waiting on these bigoted doctors. I got a rhum in a blue state. I was diagnosed with secondary fibro. Again, I foolishly believed I would finally be in the clear. No, she still minimizes and blinks at me when I describe my pain.

Doctors are not our allies, even though they should be above all else. They find ANY excuse to minimize us. So if you are someone who is undiagnosed or with a diagnosis that is misunderstood/not taken seriously , they will milk that for all it’s worth. 👏🏻ITS NOT YOU👏🏻

I’ve seen people in disabled communities minimized for their race, their weight, their gender, their sexuality/queerness, their age, their diagnosis or the lack thereof, ITS NOT YOU!

You know your body, and the pain you feel BETTER than any doctor that has been trained to systemically ignore you!

Don’t let them tell you what your reality is. It’s such a knee jerk reaction for minorities to do this to themselves.

You deserve medical care that isn’t contingent on your doctors bias’. We NEED more empathy. Don’t let their disregard for your life leak into the love you NEED to give yourself. 💕

[marzipanandminutiae]

sometimes I think about the fact that Anne Lister gets called the First Modern Lesbian when her (allegedly) more femme and non-male-attracted wife Ann Walker is apparently...nothing? a nonentity whose queerness only exists with a masc woman to cast it into relief?

anyway. happy pride.

[whatsourmotto-whocares]

scenes I can't believe are directly adjacent =

Tommy gets his cake (and eats it, too 😉)

[redvanillabee]

5, 6, 12 for the soft ask ☺️

5. who do you feel most you around?

I...don't know? I feel like...whoever I'm around, there's always at least a facet of me that's not quite at the forefront. But I'm not sure that's something I care about, tbh.

6. say three nice things about yourself (three physical and three non-physical).

three physical:

I got stronger after maintaining my fitness routine for over a year

I've got good voice projection that lets me do things I like, like public speaking and drama

I've got good spatial awareness? Is that physical?

three non-physical:

I'm good at noticing patterns

I'm not afraid to jump into new things on my own. If there's something I want to try, I'll do it.

???

12. how are you?

I'm doing pretty good :) Bit sleepy (it's like 2am), and a bit miffed about the upcoming busy work schedule, but things are going just fine.

soft asks to get to know people

[minimallycreative]

i love how sometimes, despite all the medical advancements of the 21st century, the only thing that relieves pain is sitting/laying/standing in a weird position because it places/doesn't place pressure on certain spots

[somos-deseos]

Te vi sonreír con la gente que siempre criticaste y luego entendí quién eras en realidad.

— Seguen Oríah `𓍯 ִֶָ..

[efangamez]

Hi. I'm Efan, and this is an urgent request.

PLEASE REBLOG IF YOU CANNOT ASSIST!

I am a disabled, trans, and queer game designer looking to live again to afford medication, sustained housing, therapy/psychiatry, and some money to save for emergencies.

We have been doing very well with the Help Me Exist Again game bundle (linked here), but we need one final push, as we only have 2 DAYS left to raise some funds.

So, if you would like $80 of games for $25 to get HUNDREDS of hours of games and also change my life, buy the bundle below!

In this bundle, you can obtain:

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Disk Master's expansions, where you can live out your Pokemon or Digimon dream on pen and paper!

This money will go towards affording therapy, medication, possible HRT (I am still deciding), and a new computer for work and enjoyment.

This money is life-saving, allowing me to not be on the verge of living with my parents in a transphobic county that is damn near a sundown town for trans people. I really need this money to live, and I would be eternally grateful if you could reblog and send this sale to someone who you think would help.

And if you can't support the bundle or any games, or just plain wanna help another way, head to my Linktree below for my Patr3on, Kofi, and other things.

Thank you so much!

[cowsabungus]

Some people use different mobility aids on different days! This could be for accessibility, symptom or loads of other reasons!

ID in Alt

[monachopsis-11]

Children do not need to grow into being people, they’re already people and of course they have things to learn but they deserve to be treated with autonomy and respect. Especially queer and disabled children, we deserve better.

[buwheal]

BEACH OUTFIT 💥💥💥💥

He used to surf the web back in 98'.