#the same goes for cis ppl

[timeloop-angel]

You know, in one hand i'm aware that my constant recess into discourse is unhealthy for my mental health. It makes me angry, upset, annoyed and by a lot.

In another hand, i try not to. I try to spend time without following actvism blogs (tho i always came back because their work is great), i try to block/filter tags/posts, i try to block people. But it doesn't work.

It doesn't work when casually following someone, it's high the chance of they posting some of the most upsetting shit you've read because so deep in the I'm the Most Opressed game that they are just circles back into erasing parts of the community. It doesn't work when you see people describing themselves as "progressive" when they're IDpolice and anything that doesn't fit the new binary they reinvented (and from words that had little to do with that binary from the first place cough transmasc/transfem cough) gets deemed problematic or cringe or whatever word they use now

It doesn't work when there is people you know online who casually brushes it off as just discourse. Bc yeah it is discourse, but the reason why i always go back to it is very simple: It's fucking upsetting how excluded, discriminated and erased i feel from the community that was originally meant to be for the discriminated.

And yeah the fact that my experiences are always deeply misunderstood, spoken over by people who know batshit about the identity in the first place, is always deemed as problematic by people who act like self-righteous cops just because they're ☆magically free☆ of opression for being the right kind of trans, makes me want to fight more and more. Because what else id do? Ignore not only my own, but community-wide problems that are extremely harmful? Don't queer people historically fight back in these situations? Even now in form of Silly Internet Discourse it matters, for me at least.

Look i know abt posts that r "this is just in the internet. Irl it isnt like that" but i cant truly believe that. Because, people online also exist irl so if i talk about my experiences there is a chance that the person im talking to happen to be one of these people, because seeing so much discourse makes me believe that thats the standard.

I'm closeted irl, i live with transphobic relatives, altho im ashamed to say this i dont know much about my own country's queer culture because everything i learned abt queerness was from gringos for gringos. Heck even the usage of "queer" tho i adore this word i feel so...complicated in using it irl bc it's so anglocentric in a way, also the realization that all modern lingo related to gender and sexuality all came from USA or England and that the only lingo that is from my own country is slurs. That kinda fucks you a lil bit.

What i want say is that the internet, in this case tumblr, is the only place rn that i can be myself and learn more about my community (as much it is in an anglocentric way). So yes it is upsetting that the place that should be a safe place not only for me but any type of person is actually the place that triggers me a lot.

Anyways the day i finish my neocities site (n share discord with my mutuals ofc) i will delete all socmedia, including tumblr. I just need my own corner of the internet.

[kjzx]

Binary stealth trans people wanting to be gendered correctly with the help of cultural gender role shortcuts 🤝 NB people wishing people would ask about their identities instead of assuming 🤝 GNC cis people wanting to be gendered correctly in spite of their gender non-conformity

Despite the opposite desires sharing the life of getting by in a hostile world not built for them

Listen, the life experiences are not the same but I think there is or should be a way for these groups to coexist even if you're actively opposed to the idea of being treated the same way another person would dream of being treated

[butcharyastark]

friendly reminder that all of the "x-ppl can reblog but don't say shit" "x ppl stay in your lane" " non-x ppl stop disrespecting--" "don't derail this post it's about [xyz issue]" "you need to listen to y people--" phrases r about oppression dynamics. its for when u need to call out casual or overt bigotry. it is not about intercommunity same-level-oppression interactions.

this is about pride discourse. stop getting into intercommunity discourse that isnt about transphobia from cis lgbp+ ppl or about intersections of other oppressions in the lgbt+ community (like race or class) and saying shit like this. if you add "[xyz lgbt+ group] need to listen to the voices of [other lgbt+ group they are not oppressing at all]!!" shit to your psa posts it makes me ignore your whole post bc u clearly do not understand oppression dynamics if you think that, like, bi women and lesbians are oppressing each other, or bi ppl and pan ppl, or some shit.

if you have intercommunity discourse, just say what u fucking mean instead of implying you think another same-level lgbt+ group has privilege over you

[talkingontheinternet]

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sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.

[viciouslyrobotic]

Saw a post regarding passing and I am so...idk mad?? That people in the trans community keep gendering shoulders when we know thats bs. Fucking quit it's weird and it will always be weird to buy into a beauty standard that is by design unrealistic.

[thriftdyke]

I feel like a lot of times ppl talk about gaining their parents’ acceptance of their lgbt identities by being like “but I’ll still have a normal life! I’ll still fall in love and get married, and yes you can still have grandchildren!” at least I’ve seen that a lot in like. Media. But I feel like we need to normalize being queer in a way that is Not equivalent to a “normal life, just with genders switched”. I would argue that queerness as a way of life is an inherent rejection of the norm. Same goes with “love is love” and “it doesn’t matter who you love or fuck” kind of statements, like sure that’s Nice, but for me queerness is not about Who I love or fuck. It’s about who I am and my outlook on life. It’s a way of revolutionizing how I define my relationships and what “family” means. I am probably never going to “settle down” or get married, I may never even have a traditional committed romantic partner or anything like an “average” sex life, I sure as hell do not want to live in a single family home with a sole partner and kids and be isolated from all sense of friends and community, and even if I woke up straight tomorrow, I am never ever touching a razor or wearing makeup to work again. You don’t necessarily have to be “queer” to have this perspective, and I’m definitely not saying that all queer people do or should live this way, but I would argue that it is a perspective that emerges from queerness and is deeply intertwined with queer history and culture. If I wasn’t a lesbian I would be a completely different person, and that’s not just because I would be loving or fucking men. It’s because I wouldn’t have had to completely deconstruct my relationship to womanhood and femininity and romance and monogomy and all of these things that are deeply ingrained in the structure of society. and I Want straight and cis people to have access to the freedom that comes from that deconstructing, but I think we do ourselves and them a great disservice by trying to make queerness palatable or “the same as” straight/cis-normative life

[what-even-is-thiss]

A lot of people genuinely think that being transgender is a sexual fetish and that’s why they think it’s inappropriate for us to be around children or for children to learn about us or for children to transition. It’s similar to why they don’t want gay people around their children.

Basic logic doesn’t matter to them. If this was just a sex thing I wouldn’t commit to it this hard. My day to day existence as myself isn’t any more inherently sexual than the day to day life of a cishet man. Same goes for trans women, non binary people, and gnc cis ppl that choose to physically transition.

We all know this. A lot of bigots will also claim to know this. But this was the official explanation of and the public’s general understanding of trans people for decades. That we have a sexual fetish we’re going way too far with. There’s still older trans people who self-identify that way because leaning into these misconceptions was the only way they were able to get healthcare back in the day. These ideas are deeply engrained into society and don’t vanish overnight.

This is what a lot of people think about when they see us. Sex. It’s all about the sex part to them. Our day to day existence is inherently involving other people in our fetish to them. And yeah. Transitioning can lead to better satisfaction with your sex life. But that’s mostly because it leads to better satisfaction with every part of your life. But again. Basic logic doesn’t matter to bigots. But learning this explained a lot to me about why they react to us the way they do. It is a dislike of things they don’t understand, yes, but it’s also decades of everyone assuming that we’re just publicizing a fetish we have and making it everyone else’s business.

[heartf0ul]

I’m bored so um

Shaw pack + Sam listeners sexuality head-cannons ig🤷

THESE R ALL MY OPIONS ABOUT THEMM

David - bisexual cis man

He likes more androgynous lookin peeps and goes by he/him

Asher - pansexual trans Demiboy!

Started socially transitioning around 8 got his first binder around 13 and got top surgery around 17 :3 goes by he/they

Milo - bisexual king and gender-fluid

Likes more masc looking people and goes by almost all pronouns (no neo tho they just aren’t his thing :) )

Sam - bisexual and starting to question his gender

Likes both fem and masc goes mostly by he/him and sometimes they/them

NOW LISTENERS YAYYY

Angel - non binary and achillian! (Is that right? Idk they like masc ppl tho)

Romantically and sexually Into men and aesthetically into masc ppl, they go exclusively by they/them

Babe - omnisexual and gender-fluid

They like more masc presenting ppl and go by any pronouns

Sweetheart - another bisexual king 🙏 and is trans masc

They like both masc and fem and go by he/him/it’s started socially transitioning around 19 and got their first binder around 21

Darlin - DARLIN MY LOVE a gay trans man!

He exclusively likes (mostly) masc men and goes by he/him already looked pretty masc before he started socially transitioning which was around 11, refused to let anyone call him a girl, got his first binder when Asher gave him one of his old ones, got top surgery around the same time as Asher

THATS IT YAYYYY I’ve been wanting to do one of these for a while lol

I’ll have to get into more of the other playlists and make more heheh

I did a lot for darlin omfg I just have the most head cannons and shit for them 😭😭 they my favorite :3

[tirfpikachu]

markiplier making an only fan was so fucking stupid but also really shows how little straight men risk in the sex industry. if pics of his dick spread around or whatever, what does he really risk? the overwhelming majority of males are straight, and he'll just be a dick pic in a sea of mostly nonconsensual dick pics. and the het/bi women buying his stuff are partially doing it for laughs. even then, he might regret it down the line, but het men can do it just for shits and giggles. if a woman does it? if someone female does it? if her pics spread, she can lose everything. if she has another job, she can be fired. if she goes to school or goes literally anywhere regularly, and her pics/vids are spread around, she can be harassed by creeps and even have her life be in danger. she can lose her safety overnight.

men, though...? the overwhelmingly majority of men are only into women, cis/bio women at that too. the ones who are gay still risk really fucked up things, and insane homophobia if it's found it, but they won't have the waves upon waves of men harassing them sexually if they're doxxed, their face is recognizable enough, or people they know are shown the pics/vids. it's just not the same.

i fucking hate males who downplay this shit, especially bio men. i still like his content, but this was so stupid to do. making a mockery of the disgusting amount of women & transmascs getting roped into the sex industry and risking their safety and their futures, often bc they're living in poverty and have few options, or bc ppl around them are romanticizing it so much and girlbossifying it all. it makes me sick

[aropride]

i really truly do not know what my "gender presentation" is. maybe its an autism thing bc i remember a cis* friend talking abt the same feeling but i dont understand a lot of things that are considered "masculine" or "feminine" clothes/style/traits/etc. like. im wearing a purple hoodie rn. is that "fem presenting"? im wearing black sweatpants, is that "masc presenting"? like i wouldnt call my outfit rn "androgynous" either cuz its just. clothes. im not "presenting" anything im just trying to be warm. tbh i feel like- ok let me set the scene actually. this is taking place in an annoying tiktok street interview video where an annoying guy with a microphone goes up to people and shows them pictures of ppl and goes "r these people masc presenting or fem presenting". and i feel like these hypothetical strangers would would probably say im fem presenting bc i dont pass as a cis guy. but like if my exact outfit and hairstyle were on a cis guy i think theyd say its masc presenting. anyway when i wear a cool and fun emo outfit thats also confusing to me bc i feel like that veers more towards like, intentional androgyny, bc i think a lot of emo outfits r intentionally playing with gender a little bit. but also again bc i dont pass as a cis man i think it gets read as feminine. which i dont think is Fair. bc it makes it hard to figure out what label actually Applies to me. im cold presenting. im autistic presenting. im emo presenting. gender is a prison. why do i have to present anything i sent my accommodations documentation at the beginning of the semester stating that i require an alternative assignment

[chrliekclly]

if you ever want to talk about your thoughts on joyce .. Peeks over the corner of your blog. i love talking and hearing ppls thoughts on joyce sooo much even if they're different from my own!! and your analysis and stuff is always so well thought out

i hope u dont mind if i answer this publicly to take advantage of th request nd get my ideas out ther (also tyvm im happy u like my insane takes on these idiots, iv ben thinking abt them for almost 10 years)

i said a lot here so gnna 'read more' it

iv ben building trans charlie n my head fr, like i said, nearly 10 years. i used to view him as cis bcuz i always try to take as much frm th source material as i can wen i craft my HCs nd i had v personal (stupid) hangups insofar as him explicitly referring to his junk multiple times nd bottom surgery simply not being on my radar as a naive littl trans idiot deep in th sauce tht transmen oftn fall into w phallo being viewed so so poorly

evn still i leaned towards transmasc charlie nd always lovd moments tht let me imagine, for a moment, it being true, like his discomfort w taking off his shirt [hundred dollar baby, charlie kelly: king of the rats, the gang exploits the mortgage crisis, young charlie and mac deleted scenes, etc etc etc], or bonnie yelling abt ppl stealing her "charlie-girl" [the waitress is getting married] which i lovd to see as her accidentally misgendering him while drunk off her ass.

having grown out of my phallo issues (nd if ur reading this and u still view phallo super poorly, please do some research and grow too), ive in recent years fully subscribed to transmasc/nb charlie, and view his timeline something like this:

baby -> elementary: charlie refers to himself as a boy, doesnt "come out," simply has no idea he's afab. bonnie lets him dress however he wants and refers to him as asked. when charlie gets confused about his genitals, bonnie says his dick will grow in later lol, makes charlie wear a dress in public restrooms and tells him its just a game

middle: puberty hits and charlie gets confused and scared. bonnie puts him on blockers w.o explaining them ("my mom used to vaccinate me like every month" [the gang gets quarantined]) charlie goes on content and oblivious. STP acquired because hes "a late bloomer" and his dicks still not growing in?? weird. confides this in mac once, but he doesn't understand.

high: charlie finally registers that he's trans after forgetting theres a health class 1 day and not being able to skip it. throws him for a loop a bit but he becomes actively invested in his goals. he gets to start T and wants to have surgeries. "what guy hasnt done some extensive research on his own genitalia?" [mac is a serial killer]

college (aged): able to surgically transition (ty medicare) and continues on with life as we kno him now

joyce, imo, fits neatly into these views.

as a transmasc nb who came out young nd prefers to be seen as just A Guy by strangers, i grew up v vehemently against anything girly that might get me misgendered, but th more i began to 'pass,' th more @ home n my body i felt, th more and more comfortable i am w femininity, th more i wdnt mind putting on a dress, as long as th general public wd see me as "a man in women's clothes." n my mind, i prescribe something not exactly th same but v similar to charlie.

i see charlie "i dont really identify" kelly as afab and nb. i see joyce as a "character" he originally created to distance himself from the dysphoria of putting on a dress as a young trans boy, but that became part of him as the hard lines he drew in the sand as a child became blurry with age and self acceptance. charlie's comfort with himself allows joyce to evolve into a more solid persona, one he enjoys embodying and allowing to become a permanent facet of who he is. he's ok with being referred to as either. they're both him.

so maybe joyce comes out a bit more outside of the bathroom now.

[were--ralph]

btw, the gender feelings might be an autism thing. i think lots of us are somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum. but for what its worth, as a trans guy that doesnt want bottom surgery its nice seeing a cis-adjacent guy openly talk about wanting a vagina. i feel like a lot of the discussions around sex, porn, and all that are very dick-centered and like i love dick but cunts are pretty awesome too! i think a lot of cis people would get bottom surgery if this kinda stuff was more normalized, i dont think wanting different genitals makes somebody trans the same way trans ppl wanting to keep their genitals are still trans.

i dunno if its a tism thing. i have a cis-male friend who wants a vagina and i genuinely think it's just a normal thing. like some people like vanilla so much they want to smell like it all the time (me) and some guys like pussy so much they want one. one of my only cishet male friends said if he were given the chance to choose he'd get a vagina instead of a penis and not because he feels feminine he just likes pussy and rubbing cooch sounds fun and hot

i have one friend who actually did get bottom surgery and im so fucking envious of him for it but he still goes by he/they and likes being called daddy

[butterfly-ribbon]

been thinking of ppl saying that mizuena should've been in a yuri or josei manga that isn't popular which is a sentiment i understand bc yes a hypothetical mizuki akiyama that exists in a yuri or josei manga would probably have her transness made explicit i guess (absolutely not guaranteed tho imo considering the amount of transfem manga i've read that quickly veer into third sexing u_u) but even if i accept this premise at face value i'm not fully onboard with it bc i feel like her character exists best in something like prsk bc she exists as a response to trans girls being into things like love live, revue starlight, bandori, etc. it's in her metanarrative…

not saying gacha game writing is always good … a lot of ppl often say it's frustrating how much it expects you to fill in the gaps (bc that's part of audience engagement) and ena5 was arguably gachapilled abt it but i think it makes sense. gacha thrives on implied queerness bc even when the writers are passionate about what they're writing abt they can't risk alienating executives and wider audiences bc writing queerness in something 'mainstream' is often complicated? so it's not always the writers' choice? i think mizuki is pretty Explicitly transfem though. the only "issue" with her writing to me is that they don't let her say this, which i also only consider a problem /at all/ bc when she's outed it's pretty explicit? gacha often has very character driven writing … the queerness is often also an Audience Draw. i wish they would at minimum call mizuki a girl. textually. i want ena to call her a cute girl … though considering how many ppl go "ano ko", she's getting called a cute girl all the time lol.

with that being said, i think the picnic event is one of my main examples of things that make me go,,, mizuki's character works best in the context of something like prsk as a response to things like bandori bc it's about a tgirl vs cgirl idols. that mixed events inherently highlight mizuki's circumstances as "othered" by society around her and the inherent complications of her own life vs others. ppl compare mafuyu and toya sometimes also but it's so bare bones by comparison bc mafuyu is literally in a dissociative cPTSD fugue at all times. it's about so much more than being forced into a life goal she doesn't want. everything about how her mother has raised her has warped her as a person. made her unable to see healthy or more objective realities. mizuki and mafuyu both have wanted desperately to die and disappear. mizuki even now … struggles so much with that and being around "normal" ppl is hard for her bc of it bc no matter how she tries, she can't be a normal girl. an average girl. so she has to be abnormal or exceptional. no in between. how she exists in contrast to bandori is so genuine in that engagement with gender and i specify bandori bc it's colopales other game.

going back to the picnic event i love the moment when they're eating the food airi prepared and talking about how airi and shizuku are "idols who are capable of bringing others hope", but then mizuki quickly goes from admiration to somberness, wishing she could be the same as them ... and even when the others bring up the music she makes with her circle it doesn't do much to cheer her up? it reads so much to me as a trans girl struggling with an inherent sense of inferiority amidst cis girls who have never had their own girlhood questioned in the way she has and can thus take so much for granted! ena might be really ruthless and mean in a way that is atypical of femininity and airi may have struggled with not being traditionally feminine and was bullied for failing to act out "proper" girlhood, but she still has a very different experience from mizuki and neither can compare to the constant transmisogyny and degendering that mizuki constantly has to go through every day and having her identity denied so vehemently on a systemic level.

it's so pointed to me bc mizuki is an idol fan and has that genre awareness ... the way trans girls often connect with media like mahou shouio and idols but despite their love for it, still feel an inherent sense of alienation due to being an Other ... bc there's a separation between "liking these girls and these things" abstractly versus actually meeting them, and i think it's interesting that there's literally no way in the context of this game that any of these girls could be idols and trans, specifically bc mizuki is a trans girl who can't be one and this game predicates a major portion of its story around mizuki As A Trans Girl! if mizuki tried to be an idol, she'd be outed and harassed! that's a fear she already has to live with when she's making music with niigo even though it's safer due to its anonymity. transness and idols don't have to be disconnected of course, but her being a trans girl who's a fan of this stuff who's disallowed the opportunity to directly take part in them is So fucking important. her engagement with all of this.

this is an event about ena's relationships with other women but also how mizuki exists in the borderlines of girlhood ... how no one else is so prepared as she is for things going wrong and how much she has had to take on undue responsibility in the world at large just to "exist"... she's protected at home but everywhere otherwise, she always has to take responsibility for how others see her, how others project onto her, how others expect her to act, and the event ends with mizuki still declining ena's offer to join the group call with airi and shizuku bc it didn't resolve anything ... bc simply repressing her own insecurities and fears in the moment to rescue ena and airi bc it's more important to act didn't help in the grand scheme of things when this is something mizuki is always expected to do! ena did it out of kindness, but it's terrifying to be invited to a group trip with her childhood friend who is actually a cool and beautiful idol, and then for another beautiful idol to be there. and both of them are so pleasant and sweet and nice. how is mizuki supposed to interact around ppl like that, after all?

the mizuena in the picnic event is so fucking vital bc of ena trying to give mizuki comfort but making her more and more discomforted, which is good buildup to my footsteps, your destination. it's about how mizuki still exists on the fringes of girlhood even when someone is actively making effort to make her feel "included" and the invisible yet uncrossable barrier that exists between her as a trans girl who loves things like idols and idols themselves (who are predominantly cis girls). airi and shizuku are very sweet! but it's… kind of agonizing, bc airi was already ena's "friend" and mizuki feels like she has no place in the lives of others and wouldn't deserve to be ena's friend if ena found out about her transness, which is why she clings to the plausible deniability around her gender status. airi is someone who can bond with ena and be close to her much more easily bc of their shared experience with misogyny, but this is something mizuki has to struggle for much more even though the misogyny she struggles with is even more Amplified due to how the [trans]misogyny she experiences is often denied and erased even among other girls...

[genderkoolaid]

I'm an AFAB transfem and I feel so strongly that transfem and transmasc aren't tied to AGAB but gosh it's like the whole world disagrees. I can't be with cis people because they just see me as cis, I can't be with trans people because they see me as either a horrible person appropriating trans womanhood or a poor sad transmasc in denial. I can't be with nonbinary people half the time, as they say, "why can't you just be trans AND fem?" no, I'm transfem. I hope more ppl realise I fucking exist

!! yeah!!

it's hard explaining it like no im not detransitioning and i am a femboy but it's not the same as just being a feminine trans guy. i think people hear AFAB transfem and think like. generic cis woman who wants to feel special instead of a trans person with a complex relationship to womanhood and femininity that is inherently trans and can't be understood any other way. & same goes for AMAB transmascs ofc! these are not experiences that can be reduced down to whatever explanation is easier for other people to understand. for me it puts me in the weird position of feeling like I don't really fit into either transmasc or transfem community even though both terms fit me and I have experiences that make me relate to both groups. But once again the multigender angst of "being both means i can't be either" returns lol

[lowkeyrobin]

hello, ziggy katz x transmasc reader. Ples 😋😋

- 🗡️

okay I can try 😔😔 ; thank you for requesting 🗡, hope you enjoy! ; also this is just kinda a hc thing idk man I tried LMFAOOAOAO

ZIGGY KATZ ; trans-something

summary ; being trans and also ziggys partner is something else

warnings ; language, slight transphobia / ignorance & misgendering

word count ; 409

masterlist

he lowkey doesn't understand at all

like.... okay??

he doesn't rlly care he still finds you hot/cute

he's supportive

but he doesn't rlly know what to do for you to make you comfortable so you're gonna have to have that talk

he's kind of ignorant tbh so don't expect him to be the nicest about it

like he wants to tell ppl himself and out you to his friends or random ppl and it's like wtf stop

lowkey misgenders you on accident

he grows a pair and stops whatever he's doing once u talk about it but like bro

he's always been ignorant / weird in a not good way but gang 💀 u wanna slap him upside the head sometimes

again he does grow a pair and releases "oh that's not very swaggy of me"

he talks like a 2020 dsmp kid, fight me

he often asks about if you're wearing your binder properly and keeping up with your T shots if you take them

he often sends you tiktoks ab trans ppl talking about their experience w being trans and asking "is this what u feel like??" and "damn I never knew it was this deep"

he was definitely one of those kids who needed the lgbtq+ explanation with the game consoles iykwim

like it wasn't that hard to understand but go off ig

he also sends you the occasional cringe "be who you are" video to make you smile

if you write any poetry about being trans, he's stealing it /hj

gotta keep the audience engaged

if it means speculation about him being trans then it's fine

a few weeks later he'll actually credit you and ppl r like "....does this count as queerbait?"

LMFAOOO

lowkey i hc him as transmasc too

so for any transmasc ziggy truthers this one is for you

transmasc boyfriends goes crazy btw

you're so much tighter now

he's a bit ignorant when it comes to accidentally outing you / accidentally misgendering you but tbf it's very new to him and he doesn't mean it purposefully

he never really feared anything when he came out so like.. he thought you'd be the same ??

he shares clothes with you as well

he genuinely passes as cis super well so if you need any help on passing he's here

he's lowkey kind of a bitch ab u not returning clothes tho

they're his not urs... it's called borrowing for a reason

[imoga-pride]

Just because some identity is contradictory to you doesn't mean it can't make sense. Actually, nuanced identities are often contradictory when you know the basics of it, ignoring all details and complexity a multilabeled or combined identity can be.

If you think cisgender nonbinary people can't have a definition bc then it would describe someone who is not cis, then you're in the wrong bc just cause something describes you it doesn't mean it applies or include you bc the identity requires self-identification as well.

Same goes for bi lesbian, demisexual, or lesboy, you 'are technically lesboy' (/demi/lunian) but refuses to label yourself as such? Cool then you're not/don't experience that identity 🤯 and that's okay. But to imply anyone with such identity are not that thing bc it can't exist, then you're being a reality denier, bc ppl with such identities exist regardless if you recognize them or not. For instance, just bc someone uses ungrammatical conlangs doesn't mean that language can't exist. In fact, it's written already and it's on you if you're gonna cry or ignore.

Also transhet people are allowed to be nonbinary; binaryn't transfems/transmascs are allowed to be hetero due to their alignment, presentation, AGAB, or any other typical reason.