#i am nonbinary and amab so as someone who has heard “i hate men” all my life it did have a negative impact on me and often excluded me from

[talkingontheinternet]

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sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.

[occultist-romantic]

Don't you realize that male and female are social constructs? They're ideas. Scientists don't even believe biological sex is a thing anymore, we're all just people. Gender is almost like religion, it can change, some people are really sure on theirs and others aren't, forcing someone into one is always wrong. Do you know why you're cis? Do you ever think about the possibility that you're not, about what it would be like to be something other then what you were born as. Would you still feel like a woman if you didn't have a womb, if you didn't have breasts or genitals or estrogen? It was a combination of contemplating these things, and mystical experiences with the goddess Hel that got me to realize I was agender. I thought I would lose certain things when becoming nonbinary and genderless, but I didn't. I don't know about you, but know you can be happy as an enby or a boy, you can be loved, and cherished and comforted as an enby or as a boy. I don't know if you're nonbinary like I am. You might find you really do identify with womanhood, but if you do really want to be a woman, then know that that's the same feeling amab women have. I know what it's like to think the way you do, I used to think that way, and I've had bad experiences with men and with the expectations society has for people with bodies like mine. But you don't have to take your pain and call it womanhood.

hi, give me one article stating that science believes biological sex isn’t a thing anymore when your sex determines how you live, the diseases you are prone to (xx/xy-linked disorders, endometriosis, breast cancer, vaginal cancer, prostate cancer, certain mental illnesses, etc) the treatment you receive, how you are perceived, down to the money you earn. there are statistics of women earning significantly lower compared to men, women facing abuse significantly higher than men, and so on. in el salvador, a female gets killed every 24 hours, in bangladesh at least one woman is raped every 9 hours, in somalia girls suffer from the highest rates of FGM, which is completely only because they are females. families don’t have the same expectations and plans for their child when it’s a female, especially in countries where FGM, child marriage, and so on is high. because a woman is seen as the “honor” of the family, the one who has to stay pure no matter what. this is why so many women get forcefully married with their rapists and forced to carry their babies. to save the honor. however a man does not have this responsibility. these are all related to sex and the fact that you say sex isn’t a real thing is the MOST delusional thing i have ever heard in my life. gender is a social construct, a way to oppress women and have them live under the patriarchy. if they don’t fit they must either be a man or unwanted, unloved, ugly, etc. no one is forcing you into any gender because gender isn’t real, but a construct like you said. however biological sex is everyone’s reality and if you are an “anarchist” like you claim you are then you should know this. did you not read kropotkin? anything? which anarchist denies biological sex?

not only this but who are you to act like i’m secretly trans or something? can you PLEASE respond to this and tell me one thing that made you realize you weren’t a “woman” and have it be something else than a gender role? did you hate wearing dresses as a kid? did you want short hair? did you feel like you didn’t fit in with the other girls because you didn’t share the same experiences? did you play football and video games? were you loud and messy? what made you realize you weren’t actually a woman nor a man?

what makes a woman is her biology, not if she has long hair, not if she has a feminine face or dresses to wear, or if she puts on makeup. this is why it’s so freeing. because you don’t have to waste your time thinking of countless terms to further reinforce your “uniqueness” or “individuality” that’s pushing you to microlabels. you can simply exist in your body as a woman because you are a woman due to your sex, not due to the gender roles.

you are saying you had bad experiences with men and society’s standards. don’t you see that it’s that way with every women? when men constantly rape, abuse and kill women; is it ever easy to feel safe? in this case, it would make sense to reject womanhood and want to be something else because a woman is the one who faces the abuse, not someone else. since you are perceived as a woman, you face the violence a woman would. so by becoming “non-binary” you simply try to escape that painful reality.

i’m not going to go into the religious side of it because it’s your relationship with your deity. and simply i don’t care. but i do wish you heal your relationship with womanhood and understand you can be anything you are now simply being a woman, because it’s not a gender, it’s a reality

i want to add that you can be loved as a woman too. you are not alone as a woman