#the queer website they say....

[felixfeliccis]

What the hell is happening on this site

[gregorovitch-adler]

Translation: Junior, I have told you several times that Lily prefers to be single, remember?

Lily is the new aroace icon. That's all.

[tippenfunkaport]

That viral post that's going around about how people who write "book quality" mlm fic are too "normal" to publish and have real jobs so only "weird" people publish their "shitty" fanfic is so completely out of touch with reality and I am giving a massive side eye to everyone reblogging it.

Not only is it completely, easily verifiably untrue (you cannot enter any professional writing space without tripping over a dozen grizzled scifi writers who got their start by filing off the serial numbers and publishing their Star Trek fanfic even going back decades ago??? it's a whole thing?? plus how can you look at the mlm category on Amazon right now and say with a straight face that people aren't publishing shitty Spirk and Stucky fanfic??? Oh, honey...) it's also the perfect example of this kind of sneering elitism that true artists would never sully themselves by seeking profit, they do it only for the purity of the thing that always somehow leads back to, "no one should be paid to make art, actually."

The only reason you're seeing more published fanfic right now has nothing to do with the idealistic purity of your hypothetical government employee written smut of the past vs the debased scribbles of those awful straights of today and everything to do with the fact that a) self-publishing has created a voracious readership that wants a ton of content so it's become a viable, flexible income stream for many, especially disabled people b) anyone can publish now with self-publishing tools so there are less gatekeepers and c) lockdown got a lot of people into fandom and therefore writing who never tried it before.

And if you really think there's no "shitty" published mlm and no "book-quality" m/f writing out there that started as fanfic, then you are clearly not a reader so why are you even talking about this?

[isabelopaque]

holy fuckin shit

[lilyminer]

Gonna be so honest if a character based in a historical settings basic description includes them being a dandy, I gotta at least take notice of that as something which might contribute to queer coding.

It’s honestly kinda funny to me when big tough masculine characters use it as nearly an insult cuz like, they’re literally just saying “checks notes” ah yes he dresses refined and frivolously in a way which reads as nearly feminine. . . Like dude just say you think he looks pretty.

[k1ranishf4]

Tom Hiddleston clearly wants to smooch Owen Wilson, so Marvel should allow them to smooch.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

I hope I can explain this well. You can "misgender" me (in quotes bc I don't have a gender) if it's funny. Use whatever pronouns whatever adjectives whatever label whatever is funniest in the moment. Tell me to go piss girl or slay queen. Tell me I'm just some guy. Call me a gender vacuum or whatever the fuck just make it funny. I don't want people holding back on a killer joke because the pronouns aren't in my bio, I promise you won't upset me

[anomalymon]

I guess taking a minute to complain, but I still don't like the nonhuman unity flag.

A big reason is that it's just the genderqueer flag colors. A couple times now we've seen it used and assume the person also identified as genderqueer, or we want to use the genderqueer flag colors since it's the best genderqueer flag colors but because we're nonhuman we'd get assumed for the nonhuman unity flag. A lot of the times we see the flag used too, it's used in just the colors, which makes this issue even worse.

For the color comparison, here is the nonhuman unity flag edited, genderqueer flag, and suffragette flag:

The genderqueer flag is lighter by comparison, but if you were to see these separate, they look similar. The suffragette flag is already confused for the genderqueer flag almost every time I've seen it used.

I also don't have confirmation of this so feel free to correct me, but we heard it's based on the voidpunk flag, but voidpunk is a community that was based on (among other things) aromantic dehumanization. So it just took the parts of that flag that represented the aromantic and asexual/nonbinary flags, and not even the part that was supposed to represent nonhumanity (the black part, representing a black hole and lack of humanity). The other thing is that while nonhumans can use it, the creator of voidpunk has explicitly said before that voidpunk isn't inherently alterhuman.

Either way, it is a wild coincidence because the flag is just the middle part of the voidpunk flag but inverted.

I also hate that that it's being treated as the "official" nonhuman flag. Someone in our system was on a server where someone was complaining about another person complaining about the nonhuman unity flag and asked "What, are we going to change the flag?" and that's. Exactly what you could do. It's just a flag some person made.

[a-litt1e-emo]

I feel like there is no word that adequately expresses the feeling of having an email address that uses your deadname

[laurenttheninth]

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[perenlop]

deleted that post bc i didnt wanna mention specific people (because i know the people its about stalk tags religiously) but its a little depressing how hbomberguy has said that he does NOT want to make another video like the plagiarism one again, even going as far as setting up his reimbursement project to make sure he has no reason to ever make another like it again and focus on helping the victims.

and yet people are still going "omg he should make another drama video on this other shitty youtuber!!!"

[shivasdarknight]

ngl it's really heartbreaking never seeing any kind of bi positivity outside of bi spaces. the big popular posts that go around about specific identities - nothing vague, because god forbid you be inclusive to sapphics that arent lesbians - but theres none of that for bisexuality. and if there is, it's because it's someone trying to make themself feel better about m/f - not a bad thing in it of itself, but where's the rest?

where's the bi4bi f/f? m/m? nbi/nbi? other gender presentations? gnc bi women who are built like brick houses, nbi bi folks who don't give a fuck about how their self presentation is perceived and do whatever they want?

we support other queers. when are other queers going to support us and actually think to include us?

[allpplareequal]

With the growth of purity culture and the excessive amounts of exclusionism, accelerationism, sex negativity, witch-hunting, and general no-true-Scotsman-ing online and on Tumblr in particular, one can only conclude that online LGBTQIA+ communities have a serious conservatism problem that needs to be addressed.

We've already seen how this is harmful to our rights with the US election. The disunity and finger pointing not only lead to queer activists not being able to put any pressure on campaigns, but also lead a small amount of queer folks to either directly support trump or deliberately muddy the waters with anti voting activism.

The involvement of purity-poisoned queers (although there was certainly some astroturfing as well) in the harassment campaign against congresswoman Sarah McBride is worthy of an essay that I do not have the time or energy to make, but I will say that if she had received more immediate public support and was not surrounded by an all red government she likely would not have conceded to misgendering and bathroom bans.

We cannot keep defending our rights if we spend all of our time and energy policing our own community. The only reason we have been able to achieve what we have is because we put forward a united front, instead of taking the advice of terfs and fearing each other instead.

There is no "other" to lock out.

[theood]

A thing that's been on my mind recently is how lots of people will try to convince you being trans is a death sentance to your overall happiness and that you'll NEVER be accepted in society and everyone will be able to tell.

But, the longer I spend outside, the more I have those random everyday encounters with people, the more it becomes very obvious that's just... Not true. 90% of people do not care. They just don't. I was so worried about passing all the time and even with a beard I convinced myself people would know. And some of that is because I grew up during t.rusc.um times where it was just absolutely drilled into me even when I wasn't in those circles I would NEVER be a real man and I could only hope to BARELY pass. But everyday people gender me correctly. No one pays attention to the way I walk, or my height or how I carry myself or how this way I do x is so girly.

And, even when I run into people who don't know what trans is, or what it means, more often than not they're not... Actually mean about it. They just don't know. And they're like anyone when they see something they've never experienced. They ask questions cautiously not sure how to approach the topic. They're not TRYING to be mean or invasive. They've just never met someone like me.

And of course this isn't to say everyone like this or every experience will be like this. But I think it's nice to hear that it isn't really like what everyone wants you to think. What "the other side" says. More often than not people are just going about their day and won't give you more than a passing glance. Life's ok

[alibrandi]

such a stupid complaint but i really hate the acronym being anything longer than LGBT+. yeah i know inclusivity is great but 1. LGBTQIA+ is cumbersome in written and spoken form 2. sounds stupid and gives bigots some ammo 3. the + covers everything else 4. Queer also covers everything.

[theforesteldritch]

I’m not going to say that people entrenched in queer identity discourse who try to split the community into neat little boxes without any shared identity or experiences or even shared space in this world are driving the surge in homophobia and transphobia around the world by themselves but they’re certainly not making it any harder for hatred to spread and any easier for queer people to survive and thrive.