#circles in how my coworkers talk to me. theres no like aha gotcha! you dont know how this works! oooh we knew!!

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A thing that's been on my mind recently is how lots of people will try to convince you being trans is a death sentance to your overall happiness and that you'll NEVER be accepted in society and everyone will be able to tell.

But, the longer I spend outside, the more I have those random everyday encounters with people, the more it becomes very obvious that's just... Not true. 90% of people do not care. They just don't. I was so worried about passing all the time and even with a beard I convinced myself people would know. And some of that is because I grew up during t.rusc.um times where it was just absolutely drilled into me even when I wasn't in those circles I would NEVER be a real man and I could only hope to BARELY pass. But everyday people gender me correctly. No one pays attention to the way I walk, or my height or how I carry myself or how this way I do x is so girly.

And, even when I run into people who don't know what trans is, or what it means, more often than not they're not... Actually mean about it. They just don't know. And they're like anyone when they see something they've never experienced. They ask questions cautiously not sure how to approach the topic. They're not TRYING to be mean or invasive. They've just never met someone like me.

And of course this isn't to say everyone like this or every experience will be like this. But I think it's nice to hear that it isn't really like what everyone wants you to think. What "the other side" says. More often than not people are just going about their day and won't give you more than a passing glance. Life's ok