#the man is trans you cant tell me otherwise

[stiffyck]

Reasons why scar is trans to me:

1. Keeps showing off them tits. He got them custom made ofc hes gonna take off his shirt at every opportunity. Designer tits.

2. Hotguy

[dustofthedailylife]

I was randomly reminded how a guy in high school kept calling me "dumb hoe" because he thought it was quirky and hilarious and thought I found it funny, too.

Years later I found out he had a crush on me and he didn't get why I didn't have one back...

[snekdood]

Quite honestly, i think people just dont like to acknowledge how many times i have been victimized bc it doesnt work for their narrative of the Scary Bad Trans Guy With No Regard For Others And Likes To Kick Puppies And Doesnt Know Real Pain Or Trauma

[starless-nightz]

ive been waiting for someone to make a fucking video (sapphic blog) about this (zzz) /ref .. i need genderbent lycaon its not even funny. that is a WOMANN that is a trans woman and i need her so bad. could u do fem lycaon w a reader whos her coworker ..

Fem! Lycaon falling for coworker! reader

note -> LYCAON IS A WOMAN YOU CANT TELL ME OTHERWISE!! We need more sapphic blogs man >:[

warnings -> none.

content includes -> fluff and angst, Lycaon trying to act professional, a forbidden relationship :[

Lycaon knows that its completely unprofessional to fall in love with a fellow member of the Victoria Housekeeping Co. But she just couldn't help herself

From the moment she met you, Lycaon had her eyes on you, she was smitten with you the moment your eyes met, it was obvious by the way her tail wagged whenever she spoke to you, even when she acted professional

When she learned that you too had feelings for her Lycaon didn't know what to do, you two couldn't be together unless one of you quit, and Lycaon knew that neither of you would do it

Lycaon knows that relationship between coworkers wasn't allowed in the Victoria Housekeeping Co. so the only thing she could do was to stare at you from afar, maybe one day you two could be together

[arcanechariot]

watching for popo dameron - part 1 (spoilers)

i caved okay? im so weak to him 😖😖

hes so pretty what the fuck

how do i already have an oc in mind for him 😭😭

brb crying in the club rn

no you cant do me like this pls (the gay trans-masculine urge to lick the blood off a pretty mans face)

bro is so hard rn and you cant tell me otherwise (also pls lemme bite his neck i need to bite him so bad grrrrr barkbarkbARK)

forget the x-wing, im riding him into battle

dude i was 15 when this came out and i had 0 taste to not wanna jump his bones immediately

(who was i liking in like 2015? probably like pagan min from far cry and paladin danse from fo4? good choices but still)

this is a painful experience

im creaming my shorts its been an hour since i saw this lil goober

[ INHERENT ANIMAL SCREAMING ] LOOK AT MY HUSBAND

DONT BITE YOUR LIP LIKE THAT YOU SLUT

i would let him knock me up im just saying hypothetically potentially like if he asked me to yk in theory—

honeybun i would treat you so right

hes so husband material im gonna scream and cry and kick my feet

[lemonine]

might delete this post later but its 3am and i keep overthinking this so im just gonna ramble here about the seasonally appropriate topic of family members saying shitty things

so we were watching tv and there was this show on by this tv person who happens to be intersex. and my mom made this comment using their deadname so i was like. no mom theyre called [name]. theyve been called that for a few years now.

so my mom goes "but isnt her name just [deadname]?"

no mom. also its they not she. they use neutral pronouns.

and then she starts complaining because thats too hard and theyre all going a bit far with the pronoun business and then my sister chimes in to say hen/hun isnt grammatically correct

and then i get mad! and i tell them to say it right because even if its a person on tv, you should still be respectful and use the right name and right pronouns. my mom wouldnt like it if i suddenly started calling her by her full name right? or if i used 'he' to refer to her right? youre supposed to try to be nice. and at least Try to get it right.

but now im suddenly the LGBTQIA police and being too difficult and now were arguing and she keeps claiming "No i dont have anything against trans people! you can still bring your trans friends home with you because theres no way i would say anything bad about them!" (ignoring that time my friend came to pick me up and they were like Haha shes definitely a girl because she cant park)

and at this point i get upset and i know im not acting very nice or kind anymore but i just. Dont understand. why people always act like its Too Hard. no. fuck that. skill issue. just do it, even if you mess up sometimes. just Try.

and like. when im at a family birthday and my uncles start to complain about woke or something. i just go hide out in the kitchen for a while until that conversation is over. and i roll my eyes but im not gonna argue with em bc i know i wont win and i only see em like once a year anyway so im like. whatever.

but with my mom... i spend every day with her... and its always such a disappointment... she says its just her opinion and i should respect opinions but i dont feel like "im not gonna treat people with respect" is an opinion thats good or valid. its just mean. and then i try to rationalize it by going okay but theres a generation gap and shes just old but that doesnt make me feel any better. bc even a 5 year old can understand that you have to be nice to people and call them by their right names

idk man its not the first time this kind of stuff happens but it always makes me so sad. and mad. and then i turn into the most crabby person on planet earth so my arguments dont even sound valid anymore bc i cant phrase them in a nice way.

anyway uhhhh sorry about all that. if anyone knows how to deal with this id like to hear your thoughts but otherwise id like to send my hugs to all the people that have to deal with family saying dumb shit at thanksgiving/christmas dinners. stay strong pals

[velvetvexations]

if you cant accept the lived experience of others in a way that might conflict with ur own to the point where you not only dismiss it entirely, but also make an effort to silence and degrade those voices in an effort to dismiss them from the conversation that you claim is a fight to bring equality of us all, then idk what to tell you.

i have no idea what happened in the last decade but it seriously feels like we've backpedaled to a time where i was fearful that by taking hormones and becoming a man, i would become the enemy of anyone who calls themselves a feminist. the cultural attitude i was brought up in led me to put off my transition for years, and it took me to a very dark place that i wouldn't wish upon anyone.

i also hate to bring this up but, being raised as a girl, i was very often spoken over or not listened to, told i was stupid or otherwise infantalised. Most of us hopefully realise that this isnt fair and want to move towards a society where this isnt the case. When i speak about the particular issues trans men face, i cant help but feel an eerily familiar feeling when im told that my issues arent important, that they do not exist or i'm selfish for wanting to do something about it.

people claim tme/tma labels are useful for speaking about populations but fails to concretely describe who is part of that population, by picking and choosing who should be included based on the issue being argued. how can this framework be considered inclusive when it seems to be fundamentally built upon excluding or refusing to acknowledge people?

you cant make a framework that, by default, cant support trans men/masculine people, non binary people, intersex people and other swathes of demographics, and then act like those people are whining, selfish brats or brutish, misogynistic idiots for calling you out on the exclusivity.

actual scum behaviour, please go spend time with queer folk in your actual, real life community and learn that we arent the enemy you seem to think we are.

thanks velvet nation, i really needed the vent space.

You're always allowed to vent here. <3

[transexualpirate]

because i think this deserves it's own post: ive seen the rhetoric that because marsha never outright referred to herself as a trans woman (that i know of), lots of cis people tend to try to erase her identity or at least make it seem like she was a cis gay man, which if you've read anything about her at all you know she wasn't.

while labels do change and i cant find any record of marsha outright saying "I AM A TRANS WOMAN", she did refer to herself as a woman quite often like, for example, on rapping with a street revolutionary: an interview with marsha p. johnson when she literally straight up says "Lots of times they tell me, “You’re not a woman!” I say, “I don’t know what I am if I’m not a woman." (actual quote copy pasted DIRECTLY from the s.t.a.r. survival, revolt and queer antagonist book). can we say for sure that if marsha was alive to this day she'd identify as a trans woman? no. can we make a pretty fair assumption, considering she's definitely not cis and tended to call herself a woman? i think so.

and either way, even if she's not a trans woman, again, she is definitely not cis. she reportedly desired gender reaffirming surgery, back then more commonly referred to as sex change surgery. she presented femininely. she used exclusively she/her pronouns. she called herself a woman. she used feminine terms to refer to herself. if she was or wasn't a binary trans woman is pretty much meaningless at this point - marsha was absolutely trans, and so was sylvia rivera, and saying otherwise is just trans erasure, plain and simple.

don't pretend that trans people that are important to queer history are actually cis. there are cis people important to queer history. focus on them if you want. leave marsha and sylvia alone and respect their memory by respecting their identity.

⚠️do not pretend ex cop fred sargeant is a reliable source on my post or i will lose my shit⚠️

[randompjofan]

more pjo headcanons cuz the last one was really long

•will has a southern accent but it faded a bit over time

•the tyche and nemesis kids argue alllllllll the time and it drives chiron insane

• they constantly manipulate each others luck in training/chores, sometimes even dates (not very often since the aphrodite campers aren't above breaking a few toes)

•the hunters of artemis will ALWAYS accept trans girls

•when artemis learned how close nico and reyna were to the point where they were like siblings it reminded her of bianca and she felt so bad that she let reyna took every other saturday off

•the other Hunter were wary of this until reyna brought up that nico was gay

•calypso is t e r r i f i e d of toasters

•leo finds it hilarious but made a quiet toaster for her anyway

•hazel cant visit the underworld with nico anymore because it gave their dad the hades/pluto effect

•https://youtu.be/WskMx1_PBv4?si=k8CnHTZa3qFydOGV this did indeed happen in the big house one day

•one time rachel and annabeth were hanging out (it was mentioned in hoh that rachel and annabeth were good friends dont come at me) and percy was on his way to see annabeth and rachel and annabeth pretended to argue as a joke

•percy ran straight back to his cabin

•once during capture the flag dionysus decided to be a little shit and split every couple on opposing teams

•there was much making out in that game

•will made clarisse a friendship bracelet when he was 13 and shes worn it ever since

•percy laughed at the irony of it and got a nice kick in the shin

•upon meeting hearthstone and blitzen everyone has thought at some point they were dating. Magnus has never told anyone otherwise

•T.J. has been single since he arrived at valhalla and alex and mallory have made it their mission to get him a gf cuz if anyone deserves bitches its T.J.

•hazel was completely shocked upon leaving the underworld and realizing how diverse the world is

•jason takes FREEZING showers

•leo takes the hottest showers known to man and is known to make cabin 9 extremely humid

•all you need to do to find leo in a crowd is start singing girl on fire by alicia keys

•"this girl is on-"

"FIREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE"

•as zoe was put in the stars by artemis, she lives in elysium AND the cosmos and has meet andromeda and perseus before

•the judges in the underworld spent a little over an hour trying to decide where luke would go (every option was available)

•they solved it with a rock paper scissors match and he got elysium

•athena has to remind most of the gods what they're the god of a lot

•it got so out of hand with hermes she tattooed it onto him for another century

•the hypnos campers can tell when people are awake or sleeping and will sometimes tell the harpies who for money

•nico went to the underworld once and came back with a whole ass haircut and will thought it was the hottest thing

•nico did hate mcdonalds because of the bianca thing but after tsats when he saw her for the last time he ended up liking it again because he has finally moved on

•jason met grover, they're actually good friends

[realarthurdent]

Grisps you. Give me your Arthur headcanons. I need to know. Also, maybe some Marvin headcanons too, as a treat?

ouguhhhbh

arthur is a trans man 100%. nothing can tell me otherwise. also bisexual. i headcanon that arthur has a lot of grandma hobbies. like knitting and cross stitch. i stated it before but i also headcanon that arthur has arthritis, i also headcanon him to have depression and psychosis (him and zaphod are the psychosis guys)

another headcanon i have is that arthur has a phobia of

looking at the sky. i think its really ironic for all the things that happen to arthur happen when hes literally too afraid to even look up. guy who doesnt know about space because for reasons he cant understand hes terrified of looking up into the sky day or night

i dont rlly have many headcanons about marvin sadly. i need to come up with some i cant leave him hanging

[maeofthenoldor]

I am god and now am giving out sexualities to lotr charachters because no one can stop me. And I have insomnia and sleep deprived.

Frodo: A gay trans man and on the ace spectrum

Samwise: Bisexual and there's a reason I nickname him transwise gamgee. (samfro is t4t)

Pippin: Just a feral nonbinary guy (They/he) and is pansexual. he falls in love easily. Probalbly had a crush on everyone they met throughout the journey. (he even had a crush on tom bombadil because he liked his little gay songs)

Merry: Token straight out of the hobbits and is in love with eowyn, which is now his sexuality.... (I mean i dont blame him)

Boromir: Definitely not straight. I mean have you seen him? gay, absolutely gay

Aragorn: Straight but has questioned his gender many times.

Gandalf: The most aro/ace icon out there. Uses all pronouns. Will trans your gender and turn homophobes, transphobes and general bigots into toads. Move out of her way or you will be crushed by her heels.

Legolas: pretty fluid when it comes to gender, mostly uses he/they pronouns however he really doesn't mind anything else. He identifies as queer.

Gimli: he's a bear bisexual and will kill anyone who purposely misgenders another. He is dating his partner Legolas and has a lot of fun with them when they hunt down bigots.

Eowyn: She is bisexual and also loved merry (except they are both too scared to make the first move)

Faramir: Gandalf helped him transition when he was a child. All he wants is to be accepted by his father. Boromir loves that he has a brother. He is also unlabled.

Denethor: Repressed bisexual.

Arwen: I cant tell if shes straight or bi, but I’m leaning towards the latter

Elrond: The best dad in the world, but otherwise he is also straight.

Bilbo: The gay traumatized fun uncle. Obviously had a dwarf husband, but sadly is widowed. Now he sings his gay little songs and everyone adores him. mood tbh

Eomer: Straight but is extremely supportive of Gimli and Legolas that he cries whenever they do something sweet to one another. It gets worse when he's drunk.

Theodred: Hes not even really in the book but I need to spread my Boromir/Theodred rare pair ship. Hes bisexual obviously. 

Galadriel: Intersex, nonbinary (they/she) and has a hot trophy husband.

Celeborn: the trophy husband, a trans man and is queer. 

Saruman: He is the definition of the queer-coded villain. I mean his name is saurman of all colours and he literally transforms into a gay pride flag.

Tom Bombadil & Goldberry: They deserve to be grouped as one because they are the best representation of a queer platonic couple out there. Goals.

Rosie Cotton: Bi but doe sent really know it, but if she ever met Goldberry, she might then have her awakening.

last and not least we have Sauron himself, and anyone whose read the Silmarillion know exactly what his sexuality is. so go read it.

Anyway tell me your hcs if you have any, I would love to hear them.

[armandcock]

waittt I lowkey need to hear more about christian cult member armand turning journalist daniel into his new husbandfather au...

okay it gets kinda long but

•armands in a cult that marius & santino run & hes being groomed i mean trained to be the leader when they die & when hes old enough will marry one to bear his successor etc

•armand is trans in this au its pretty important

•as such hes been raised with really strict ideas regarding sexual purity & behavior & his relationship to other men because hes still 'technically a woman' (hes allowed to cut his hair & be called by his preferred name n pronouns but cant really transition otherwise

•daniel shows up because hes writing an article about cults or whatever

•daniel meets armand through the investigation & armands been raised in this super strict hypercelibate culture after marius 'adopted' him on a 'missionary trip' where its fine if marius fucks him because hes his father :) the spiritual head of the household :) & will pick out a husband for darling armand one day :) daniel i hope its you

•daniels article gets published & the cult is disbanded

•armand fr Doesnt know any other people so hes like daniel :( can you be my guardian now :( & daniels like okay sure til you find a job & house & whatnot

•armand moves in with daniel night one is confused because daniel gave him his own room & wont hover around monitoring what he does & doesnt make him read the bible or aristotle before he goes to bed & isnt touching him

•armand starts freaking out because he went from this tightly knit religious group very strict rules & guidelines & hes like i need someone to tell me what to do what am i doing wrong why do i not have commandments to memorize

•daniel realizes he may have made a mistake agreeing to be armands guardian because now he has this grown adult man sitting beside him in bed shaking & sobbing & asking daniel to absolve him of his sins & daniel did NOT sign up for that!

•like i cannot emphasize enough how much armand at this point does not have a basis for 'normal' behavior because hes been groomed to be so entirely dependent upon what his 'guardian' says & danie is very conflicted because 1) he doesnt wanna just be a replacement for the cult 2) armand is really really hot & basically just told daniel he can use him uowever he wants & follow all his rules & GOD does daniel really want to fuck him

•through herculean effort daniel doesnt fuck him even though armand asks him to do these 'rituals' to 'ensure his purity & route to heaven' (read: checking to make sure hes still a virgin, sending him to other 'leaders' to have sex with, etc)

•you know those cards ppl have that are like. pledging yr virginity to God til marriage. armand has one of those but it didnt count whem its his religious leaders bc thats how cults work

•'how can he be a virgin but have still had sex w marius' backdoor doesnt count

•anyway armand learning about modern life & culture he gets a library card & starts testosterone he still really wants daniel to fuck him & daniel lets him cuddle him & get handsy cause it grounds him & its getting really hard not to but daniel doesnt know if he actually wants to hit or just expects him to to fulfil his duties

•gets caught jerking off to daniels boxers

•daniel realizes Oh This Kid Is A Grade A Freak even outside of the cult

•they do end up having sex eventually but the burn is SLOW as FUCK & theres sooo much sexual tension & conflict

•oh yeah armand has a therapist named barbara

[snekdood]

oh you want to force the label "butch" on to me? well looks like its time to go back to strictly fucking cis men

[ps1snake]

my gendy bendies. if you even care. close ups + notes under the cut

doc: no longer an insane med school dropout and lying about it, doc is now an insane nursing school graduate and still lying about it (both are saying they're doctors)

carolina: frankly carolina is way less interesting as a dude, goes from being a woman who has to be masc but not too masc but also masc enough to be Good Enough for the army/her farher/ her own neurosis shes now just just bog standard army brat type man. although without all the internalized misogyny to wrok through first hes a lot more concerned with the latent honosexual tendencies now.

tex: same issue as carolina to be honest, goes from being butch becuase she likes it (and to my mind, to be different from allison), is just like. a dude because she is a dude. differentiates himself from allison by being trans. he just chooses to do that. but its like. adding 0+0. a process has occurred hut you cant tell. (to me regular tex does this too but i digress)

church: shut-in IT department manager becomes shut-in fujoshi forum warrior

caboose: he doesnt think that hard anout any of this, i think he just wears whatever his mom dressed him in when he was little and calls it a day, as long as it's comfortable. swapped the goetee for glasses because the goetee reminds me of shaggy scooby doo and the glasses remind me of velma :)

tucker: tucker goes from IM A MAN IM MASC IM A MAN IM MASC to 'im not like those OTHER girls im one of the BOYS like YOU. but im also NOT A BOY im A GIRL im FEMININE and never insinute otherwise. puts effort into her appearance but doesn't want you to know it - she wants to appear effortless, asopposed to regular tucker who doesn't want you to know it because it's girly to carw how you look.

wash: girl wash purchases pain killers. thats it

kai: her main gendy stuff is modtly just "how hot and slutty and DTF as many genders as possible can i look at any given time" so she's easy peasy. she wants you to see her bulge so bad.

grif: trades stubble for a rack, he doesn't put effort into his appearance and his taste wouldn't change, so it's very little difference.

simmons: a boy child bullied for being a nerd and who mostly hangs out with girls until he gets scared of them and a girl child bullied for being a nerd and who mostly hangs out with boys until they get embarrassed by her is the same child basically. so very small detail changes and not much else.

sarge: sarge is not a gender presenter sarge is a bit presenter and baby am i dedicated to it. girl sarge is still saying shit like "ive never hit a girl in my life" and not thinking twice about it

donut: donut is a silly little man whos going out of his way (intentionally or not) to look and act like a homo gay fag scream it from the rafters. the first insticnt is to make him be a hyper feminine bimbo type, but i think they were right when that one gender bend ep of s14 said hes a butch now. i agree even if they did it wrong. hes now a free-the-tit type butch with farm muscles (girl edition). enjoy.

lopez: in the spirit of all the great photoshop gags of early rvb, she just gets a bow to show that shes a girl. he likes it but will never admit that.

sheila: she is a tank and caboose can't tie a tie so that's right out.

[ghostedeabha]

can you write penelope garcia with a trans-masc (he/they) reader? Maybe reader is feeling a bit insecure about their identity and penelope validates them. 😕🙏🏾 my little trans heart needs this

omg yes absolutely, this is such a cute idea :((

there's truly not enough penny love, and there's truly not enough penny x trans-masc reader and i am happy to provide

penelope garcia x transmasc!reader

warnings: just a teeny bit of angst but otherwise none, just lots of cavity inducing fluff :3

word count: 497

a/n: i'm sorry it's so short, i feel like i didn't this idea justice. i may come back to this later and rewrite it if i can think of a better way to write it. anyhow, reader is transmasc and uses he/they pronouns, it is not specified whether or not reader is on hormones or has any type of gender affirming surgery because i wanted to leave that up to interpretation of the readers. every trans person is different so i want to make this as inclusive as possible, i apologize for any slip ups that could be in here.

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"you wanted to see me pretty girl?" you ask softly as you walk into penelope's batcave, the blonde turning her chair away from her many monitors to face you.

"yes, i did. come sit." penelope replied, pulling another chair over to where she was and patted it.

you complied with a soft chuckle and sat on the chair across from her, giving the woman a sweet smile. "what can i do for you my gorgeous angel?"

"tell me what's got you so down pretty boy."

"what?" you ask in shock, taken aback by her bluntness. how did she even know you were upset? you had barely seen her today and made sure to put on a smile each time you did. you didn't want to bring your bubbly girlfriend's mood down because you were feeling insecure and dysphoric.

"you heard me baby, why are you so down in the doldrums?"

"oh, well... -god pen, it's dumb. don't worry about it." you brush off.

"handsome, your feeling are not dumb. i love you, please let me help you." penelope said a little firmly, grabbing your hands in hers.

you almost break at those words, feeling your throat getting a little tight as you try holding back the tears of both relief and sadness.

"i've just been feeling really insecure lately again, i guess." you began with a shaky voice, trying to keep your calm as you explained your bottled up feelings to your angel of a girlfriend.

"like i'm not good enough, manly enough."

"oh my love..." penelope says softly, her face falling into a heartbroken expression. "is there any reason for this? or did these feelings just creep up?"

"they just creeped up i suppose. i just, i don't feel like i'm being a guy right. that i'm not good enough of a man no matter how hard i try..." you confessed, tears slipping down your cheeks as you tried to not let out any sobs.

"(name), there is no right way to be a man. you are the perfect man just as you are. no matter the body you have, no matter the hormones you have coursing through you. you are a man because you know you are, it makes you feel right and happy. and you're an amazing man at that." penelope assured you sweetly, wiping your tears with her thumbs gently. "what i look at when i see you is a handsome, capable man who is amazing at their job, amazing at his studies and the perfect boyfriend. i know i cant make these insecurities go away over night, but i want you to know that i am always always here for you when they appear and you need help. i don't want you hiding your feelings and struggles from me handsome. promise from now on you'll come to me?"

"i promise pretty girl, i wont hide from you again. thank you, for being here. for everything you do."

"what else are girlfriends for?"

[transmaverique]

you're assuming a lot about binary trans people, and if anything it makes me think that our understandings of our genders aren't actually that different? Not every binary trans person wants to pass as a cis person. I don't want to pass as a cis woman, I want people to understand me for what I am, a collection of internal beliefs and thoughts that I've constructed an identity with. It sounds like we both have created identities for ourselves! If you think that non binary people are the only people capable of creating their own identities and striving to be seen as them, that's on you

im gonna try one more time. i cant really tell if youre being sarcastic or not so im gonna assume youre being genuine when you say you think we have similar understandings of gender. but to me it sounds like you are deliberately ignoring the Actual Words i am saying.

we need words to describe our experiences, both different and common ones. those words may be in themselves faulty or somewhat inaccurate, but they are what we have to discuss important concepts, and they function well enough if they have a generally agreed-upon meaning. right?

so. the dominant culture of the imperial core is one of strictly binary sex. anything that breaks this, is deviant of the "rules of nature", to this dominant culture. right?

so then we call people who are NOT of this binary system multiple different things depending on cultural context and personal identity and personal circumstance. right?

'nonbinary' is only one of those words. to each individual it may mean any one of hundreds upon thousands of different things. everyone has their own personal identity, and while we may use the same word to describe said identity, no two people will have the same definition.

this is true of 'manhood' and 'womanhood' as well. every individual, cis trans both neither intersex perisex and so on and so forth, every single one of them has different PERSONAL interpretations of these words and the concepts they are meant to describe.

but 'woman' has to mean something in order to function as a real concept. it has to have some semblance of shared meaning, shared experience, shared conceptual feeling and vibe, for it to work within the imperial core as a means of systemic control and oppression, for it to work as a communicable identity, and for it to function as a word in a language.

in the same vein of thought, 'binary' is a word we are using to describe someone whose gender, in some way, shape, or form, fits into the schema of 'man and woman'. your internal definition of your own gender does not actually matter very much to other people who do not know it exists.

for me, it matters that i am percieved as a binary gender no matter what i do. it matters, and hurts, a lot. and for some people, it matters and hurts less. for some people, it matters and hurts not at all.

whether you consider yourself binary or not is entirely up to you and how you interpret your own navigation of the world. its very strange to act as if im saying anything otherwise. YOU defined YOURSELF as binary in your responding to me. you said you were also agender, so, like i said in my prev tags, i dont think youre the target audience. but the way youre reacting, it seems you think you are. i am also going to reiterate that 'binary' is not a bad thing to be - binary trans people and for that matter, binary cis people, are not my enemies. but i deserve to have the language to talk about my experiences as they compare to binary people. that's all it is.