#the good the bad and everything

[bahoreal]

obsessed with this

[blueberrytwoberry]

eddie diaz and parenting

So, the thing is, Eddie Diaz's Parenting Skills seem to be taken to one extreme or another so often. Either he's held up as the best parent or the worst, and I don't know, I think there's a lot of nuance there, which is part of what makes him interesting as a character; there's some good, there's some bad, it's complex!

First of all, we get characters telling us Eddie's a great parent, but mostly this is Buck, and Buck has a reactive view on "good" parenting that basically boils down to Eddie being very affectionate and open and, face it, lenient with Chris. Buck thinks Eddie's the greatest parent ever, but Buck isn't looking at things empirically (I could get into the Buckley parents here, but that's a different manifesto and no one would like what I had to say, so).

And in any case! A lot of those things are good parenting things. It's a positive that Eddie is affectionate and supportive, that he cares, and that he adjusts his behaviors when an issue gets pointed out to him (the entire skateboarding thing, for example).

At the same time, man, Eddie underreacts to some stuff Chris does. Like, you know, throwing a bowl on the floor to break it and getting an Uber to someone else's house without any notification. Or sneaking around. You get the idea.

So, boundaries aren't a big thing for Chris. Which is, I think, actually a pretty realistic problem considering that Eddie was not in his life for years. He didn't get entry-level experience in setting boundaries, and then things were probably easier when he just didn't set them, and now...

Anyway, really, boundaries seem to be the root cause of Eddie's Parenting Issues, I think, because it's not just that he doesn't set boundaries for Chris, he doesn't set them for what he shares with Chris, not really, at least in regards to, well, relationships.

Chris knew far too much far too early about both Ana and Marisol. There's a reason that the experts recommend waiting around a year to introduce a new romantic partner to your child. Introducing a new partner almost right away (and moving them in and then out again, in Marisol's case) isn't great for a kid, because it throws everything into confusion, undercuts the child's sense of security, and, when/if said partner leaves, well...

So, you know, all of that put together, it's not exactly a shocker that Chris operates under the belief that jetting in and out of someone's life is the norm. It's also not a shocker that Eddie made the decisions that brought them there; it all adds up pretty neatly, even if it makes me want to shake him sometimes. You can see the steps that led to this destination and, to be clear, I appreciate that he's not a perfect beacon of parenting decisions. He makes mistakes, just like all the other good parents on the show.

And I also appreciate that, right now, he seems to be making the right long-term choice, because, well, Chris is, what, 14? That's old enough that the court system would allow him to decide where he wanted to live, if their situation went to court. Old enough that he could very easily just leave again if Eddie tried to "drag him back," doing more damage to their relationship in the long-term.

So, Eddie's letting him pick. Even though it hurts him. He's respecting that decision and you know what, good for him. Because part of parenting means respecting your child's decisions even when those decisions hurt you and even when those decisions hurt them, because children aren't an extension of their parents, they're their own people who get to make decisions that aren't always in their best interests, and the scope of the decisions they can make expands as they get older. Chris, at 14, can make a lot of them, including deciding to go live with his grandparents.

As a parent, you're there to help when your child needs it after the results of that decision and you can try to explain why it might be a bad idea, but you can't take the decision away. Parents aren't gods.

Anyway, I deeply appreciate that it's a consistent thing for Eddie. He doesn't want to force his way in. He wants a relationship where both people want to be there, which, I mean, seems like it should be a bare minimum for everyone, but in many cases, it is not. So, good for him.

And, yeah, I suspect that some part of Chris wants Eddie to swoop in and try to make him come back, but you know, that's part of growing up, too. Part of making decisions and telling other people what you want is accepting that they're going to believe you. Expecting other people to read your mind and know what you actually want out of a situation is a good way to live a life of constant frustration and heartache (also, to break the people around you, because no one can live under that kind of strain of constantly second-guessing and worrying what someone actually means forever).

I do also suspect, after Eddie's garage convo in 8x4, that the show might have him go make a grand gesture in Texas, which, fine. It'll be another layer of complexity, and I've no complaints there.

Anyway, I don't know, I've got too many thoughts in my head about Eddie and how he's not the best or worst parent ever; he's just a man who is trying his best, and sometimes his best is amazing, and sometimes it's awful, actually, because he's a human and that's how it goes, and I appreciate him so much as a character.

[everyonesadoptivedad]

Stole this for this fandom bc some pEOPLE need to hear this today.

[montanabohemian]

if i see a single one of you pissed that your faves canceled an event or a con appearance because they're striking for fair wages then imma come for you in your sleep 🔪🔪🔪

(direct that fury where it belongs: AMPTP and the execs)

[hinamie]

wanted to practice some more intense angry expressions and what better excuse to further my agenda of giving megumi the emotional catharsis he deserves

[vidapon]

get ready, everyone!! (crunchiest battle theme recorded thru a dsi mic starts playing)

[gojuo]

Remember what they're taking from you

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[honeybard]

if there's one thing about Lou Wilson it's that he goes above and beyond when given the option to sabotage himself and his party

[mumblesplash]

part 2!!!! [read part one here]

transcript below the cut arranged into stanzas to help show where the rhymes are:

“that’s why they brought gem in? as a failsafe?” as a pawn. we were told to point her at whoever we need gone

“gem won’t hurt her allies. …yet.” the curse she carries will it’s had its eye on her since she lost the other eye she was specially selected for her hunting skill it’s quite the high honor. “wow. how generous.” we try

think about it: why does almost no one fight the curse? “given how fast scott killed skizz last season, i can guess.” [“any pain you spare your friends, you’ll have to suffer worse”?] it’s designed to shut down higher reasoning with stress

[caspergs]

every time someone famous is outed as being a shitty person theres people going “this is why you shouldn’t idolize celebrities,” “why are you sad that a bad person is being exposed as a bad person,” like PLEASE just let people be upset that someone they liked sucks

[starry-bi-sky]

Out of Context Stuff for a Danyal Al Ghul au i haven't posted - Pit Beast Danyal

Damian, 13: Look, Danyal, -- I am so sorry for everything that happened between us in the League, I hope you can forgive me.

Danny, 10 (allegedly): (has been secretly plotting to murder Damian this whole time, is still gonna do it obvs, but is going to make it significantly less painful now)

Danny: I-- of course, older brother. :]

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Bruce: what do you have there, Damian?

Damian:

Danny: (a hulking 10ft pit beast standing beside him, growling idly with ram horns gouging out his eyes and a second set of horns jutting into the air, spines down his back, and a long, spiked tail with an animalistic, skull-like face)

Damian, who smuggled him in (they've made amends): a smoothie, father

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Damian: this is my little brother Danyal, i murdered him when he was five. He festered in rage for the last half-a decade, took over a League mountain base in Switzerland, murdered everyone inside and then tried to murder me when I went to investigate with Drake.

Danny: hello!

Damian: we're cool now

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Damian: thoughts on resurrection

Danny, (a full ghost): i will succeed in murdering you if you try it

Damian: we'll put a pin in it then

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Danny (still instilled with League values): why don't we just murder him??

Damian, on patrol (Danny followed him): we don't murder people, Danyal

Danyal:,,,,are you sick, Dami?? Have you been possessed? Why not!?

(There is raucous laughing through the comms)

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Danny, five, pre-death: Dami! :D

Danny, dead, vengeful: Older brother (:

Danny, post-forgiveness: Dami! :]

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For some actual context: Danny is fully dead in this au, its a result of the classic DPxDC Demon Twins "death duel" trope but instead of Danny getting revived, he stays fully dead. Danny was five, Damian was seven. His ghost lingered though, and due to the proximity of the pits his ghost steadily absorbed the ambient energy it was letting off. The pits are not corrupted ectoplasm in this au, it's just liquid ecto.

Which means Danny's corruption from an angry and hurt little ghost boy to an unrecognizable monster is from his own doing. It's a result of him stewing in his hurt and anger for years, it physically warped him. He's very powerful. Danny can travel between League Bases but chose a small, out-of-the-way base in the Swiss mountains to fester in and then just. Never Left.

His influence steeped into the very foundations of the building, allowing him to transform and warp the rooms and hallways for his own bidding, Meaning he could turn it into a seemingly unending labyrinth if he so wished to, and block the entrance.

Eventually, blinded (both metaphorically and physically) by his own rage, Danny grew powerful enough to appear physically in the living realm and attacked everyone in the base, slaughtering them all and leaving the base abandoned. He attacks anyone who dares enter -- whether that be other league members, or the unfortunate hiker who stumbled across the base. His conscious is steeped into every nook and cranny of the building, there is nowhere you can hide where he can't find. Nobody leaves without his explicit say so. Nobody ever does.

Him appearing as ten years old before Damian in the skits above is his own physical doing. First it was to prevent Damian from being suspicious of him. Damian initially thought Danny was revived with the pits, he was too busy with his own training afterwards to notice that Danny never showed up again, and when he did notice, he assumed it was because Danny was too ashamed of his loss to face him. He'd always forget to ask about him.

Then it becomes a personal choice to appear as ten. It's how old he would've been had he been alive.

danny forgiving Damian is kinda for an offshoot branch of the main au. Whereas the main au takes the form of a ps4 first person horror game where Damian and Tim are investigating the Base for Plot Reasons. There's no sign of the rumored "monster" living inside until the end, where Danny, who was found inside the Base and has been happily "helping" them look around, manages to persuade Damian into splitting off from Tim in order to "show him something."

This something turns out to be Danny revealing that he never really forgave Damian for that fight, and he reveals through a horrifying transformation, that he was the monster the whole time. Which the game subtly hints at throughout as Danny's strange behavior becomes harder to ignore.

First from his insistence to only refer to Damian as "older brother" (when before the duel he always called him Damian or Dami), to him right off the bat denying the existence of a monster when questioned. ("There's no monster here, older brother. It's just me.") To other various things, like his knowledge of the outside world not matching up to modern times or things going on with the league outside of the base, or what happened to the other league members.

This whole idea was inspired by the song "Scylla" from Epic the Musical, with Danyal being the voice of Scylla as well as Odysseus, while Damian stands as Eurylochus. The instrumentals after Scylla says "hello" is him turning into the pit beast, and Scylla's "drown in your sorrow and fears" part is danny, as the pit beast, snarling at Damian while he attacks him.

There's a Good Ending, a Bad Ending, and a True Ending. The Bad Ending results in Damian being killed by Danny, it happens when Damian decides not to question or suspect Danny and treats him kindly. The Bad Ending is a cutscene, where Danny kills Damian quick and painlessly.

Meanwhile the Good Ending is Damian killing Danny. This is a boss fight, and it happens when Damian treats Danny coldly and suspiciously the whole time. Danny as a result, decides to make Damian's death painful as he had planned to, which is why it's a boss fight because it only causes him to double down on his anger.

The True Ending is Damian escapes with Tim. It happens when you treat Danny warmly up until the last minute, where when Danny proposes to Damian that he wants to show him something, Damian goes to talk to Tim and finally, reluctantly agrees that something is off with Danny, and that he'll be careful going in. It starts off with the boss fight until a third through, where it then changes to a cutscene where Tim manages to get the door open and Damian escapes out. It's then a chase scene down a never-ending hallway as the building actively works to keep you trapped inside. But you eventually make it to the exit so long as you avoid all the projectiles and doors.

Remember when I mentioned that Danny only lets people leave when he wants them to? That's where the treating Danny kindly throughout the game comes into play. It causes him to second guess himself and, eventually, reawaken and strengthen the love and admiration he had for Damian prior to his murder. It's why in the Bad Ending he kills Damian quickly -- because by then, he loves him enough that he doesn't want him to suffer, but is still so consumed by his rage and need for vengeance that he kills him anyways. That quiet part is what allows Damian (and Tim) to find the exit, because some part of Danny still loves Damian enough that he wants him to live.

The True Ending ends with a cutscene of Damian and Tim tumbling out into the snow/grass outside of the base. Damian looks up back to the entrance to see Danny standing there. But rather than a ten year old boy, there's a little five year old Danyal Al Ghul instead. He stares at Damian emotionlessly, blood seeping from his chest, staining his clothes, and little, bloody sword in his hands and tearstains on his cheeks, before he turns away and disappears back into the building.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Lan Wangji Goes To Lotus Pier AU: Part 5: Flip Slip.

(Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 4.5)

[barghest-land]

ata tu corazón, mi amor, y arrástralo por la tierra

[saturnniidae]

[sic-vita]

GOOD OMENS + Aziraphale being relatable to me

[skunkes]

adding to my collection, need more