#the dyad?

[acourtofquestions]

‘glowing like newborn gods’

[sashketter]

Star Wars finally using the twin trope to its fullest advantage: mistaken identity, one good one evil, full-bodied telepathy, one impersonating the other, and having the same actor play both.

[thebibliosphere]

One of the really fun and interesting things about writing a polyamorous romance as someone who is ambiamorous/polyamorous is finding new ways to make sure the narrative hits the expected genre beats without just sort of... mushing it into a pre-existing monogamous romance mold, which is what I'm afraid happens a lot of the time.

Trust me, it was my job in the publishing house to make them fit that mold. I hated it.

Reading other poly-centric romances, I can always somewhat tell when someone is writing polyamory from a sexual fantasy aspect (zero shade; I'm here for all the group sex) without actually considering how it functions as a relationship dynamic, which can often come off as... well.

It's lacking for me as a romance.

Erotica-wise, it's fine. But it misses the romantic beats for me that I want as a polyamorous-leaning person.

There's so much emphasis on the polycule and never the individual dyads within the larger relationship.

For example, in a triad, there are actually four relationships to handle.

The dyad between A + B. The dyad between A + C. The dyad between B + C. And the overarching relationship between A + B + C.

With monogamous-leaning authors or authors that've been pressed into conforming to the pre-existing genre beats, there's a tendency to treat the relationship as a homogenous mass where everything is fair and equal, and you treat all your partners the exact same way.

And I get it. It's easier to write everything as peachy-keen and to have external conflict be resolved with either acceptance or a brave confrontation.

But it doesn't always land for me as someone who wants to see my style of love represented in the genre.

In healthy polyamory, either closed or open, each relationship is unique in its own way. Taking the example of a triad again, the way A acts with C likely differs from how A acts with B.

And that's a good thing!

Because C might not want the same things as B, so trying to treat them both the exact same is a surefire way to make sure someone isn't getting their needs met, and that will lead to conflict.

Polyamory isn't striving for equality between partners but rather equity.

What are your individual needs, and how do I meet them, as well as meet the needs of my other partner(s)? What do you want from the larger relationship as a whole? How do we accommodate everyone without making someone feel neglected or uncomfortable? How do we show this in the narrative? How do we make sure character A isn't just treating B the same as C in every interaction? Do they ever fall into that pitfall? How do they remedy it?

It seems like common sense when you write it out like that, but it's a major pitfall I see time and time again. The characters never alternate their approach between partners, if there's any focus on the individuals at all.

The other major telltale thing I've noticed is that taking time to be with one partner is seen as a step down from the "goal" of the greater polycule.

The narrative is framed in such a way that they might start out with individual dates, but the end goal of the romance is to eventually be together 100% of the time all the time, and wanting individual time alone with any one partner is somehow "lesser."

Which is the goal of romance in monogamy, but it's not the goal of romance in polyamory.

Granted, you do need to end on a Happy Ever After or Happy For Now for it to fit the genre requirement. And a nice way of tying that up is to have everyone together at the end as a happy polycule all together all at once. I'm not disputing that as a narrative tool. I'm just pointing out that there's a tendency to present those moments as the sum total of the relationship when in actuality, there are multiple relationships that need to end happily ever after.

The joy of polyamorous love is the joy of multitudes. It's the joy of experiencing new things, both as individuals and as a polycule. If you're not taking care of the individual dyads, however, your polycule is going to crash and burn. You cannot avoid that. So why, then, is there such avoidance of it in stories meant to appeal to us?

Is it simply inexperience on behalf of the author? Or is it that they're not actually being written for us? Is it continued pressure to meet certain genre beats in a largely monogamous-centric genre? All of the above?

Either way, I'm having fun playing around with it and doing all the things we were warned against in the publishing house.

I'm having fun with Nathan and Vlad enjoying their own private dynamic that is theirs and theirs alone. I'm having fun with Ursula and Nathan being so careful and vulnerable around each other. I'm absolutely 100% here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula without a chaperone. And I'm here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula together and Nathan's fond, loving eye roll as he trails after them, too enamored to tell either of them no because where would the fun in that be...

Anyway. Don't mind me. Just getting my thoughts out while everyone else is in bed.

[human-rocket]

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[dyad-tmesis]

Man, I gotta stay on top of my tagging. Went through a buncha reblogs to organize stuff. ANYWAYS ITS BEEN AWHILE SO HAVE SOME PONIES

The besties are fightingggg

[flintsilvers]

Anakin turned, and found within Obi-Wan’s eyes a depth of feeling he had only rarely glimpsed in all their years together; and the pure uncomplicated love that rose up within him then felt like a promise from the Force itself.

[fanfictiondramione]

You were alone, left out in the cold Clinging to the ruin of your broken home Too lost and hurting to carry your load We all need someone to hold

You've been fighting the memory, on your own Nothing worsens, nothing grows I know how it feels being by yourself in the rain We all need someone to stay We all need someone to stay

Hear you, falling and lonely, cry out Will you fix me up? Will you show me hope? At the end of the day, you we're helpless Can you keep me close? Can you love me most?

(Someone To Stay by Vancouver Sleep Clinic)

[reylo-ever]

Love does wonderful things 🥹💕🦋

[foreverreylo]

I can only imagine how painful it must have been for them... And when she realizes that they are not going to be together 💔

[unionizedwizard]

OBVIOUSLY there's no "canon" azem/azem name beside what little glimpses of them we've been privy to, and even then it's like, basically hearsay at this point and for a really good reason and that's an awesome idea and i love it

HOWEVER, the fact argos exists at all is a STRONG point in favor of the "azem is canonically odysseus coded" theory. what if you had been sent away to fight and you got lost and kept wandering and ending up in weird situations and basically losing your mind and were known for being cunning and tough and good with people and with a lot of hidden skills and you were called The Traveler. and then when you managed to get back home again only your dog still remembered & recognized you. what then

(it's NOT a 1:1 equivalence okay it's about the symbolism. you understand)

[mayhemspreadingguy]

An AU in which forming a Force dyad is a revered phenomenon, as it gifts the dyadic Force users with unique powers and deepens their attunement to the Force. This occurrence is still sporadic, but common enough for a ceremony to be created. It is a tradition to officially unite two such Jedi in a temple-recognized relationship.

[clonehub]

Googled for dyad

The two times we see it in star wars it's a man and woman romantically involved with one another forming a bond that transcends space and time and is so deep and unfiying. This is catholic as shit lmao

[louistrations]

Hm, how to describe this one? This is Alice from the comic Phantasm Dyad by @jezmmart - who has been drawing daily Amy Rose art this month for #AMaY

[human-rocket]

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[dyad-tmesis]

Flights of Fancy

On rare occasions Jekyll will take Hydes place and go to the roof of the society at night to stretch his wings and think over things.

[aberrantcreature]

Happy Dyad Day 💖