#that’s so fucking unfeminist

[thatweirdtranny]

people who shoot down any notion that men experience some shit in life really are the most bizarrely unfeminist people on the planet

[lifemod17]

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[pretty-little-martyr]

following and interacting with blogs who get into arguments often/do the discourse on here is very funny because i can only assume tumblr's Check Out These Blogs recommendations are built on some kind of bizarre algorithm like "the guy youre following posts in #here a lot so surely youll like everyone who psots in #here" and i never pay them any mind, but sometimes tumblr will give me a sort of rolodex of recommended blogs with one single post of theirs featured, and ill click if the thumbnail looks interesting because i am but a curious little monkey. and for these same reasons if i enjoy the post ill click on the blog to go nose around. and the amount of times i see someones funny shitpost and then go click on their blog and their bio is like I HATE YOU, PERSONALLY is so fucking funny to me

[acynicalsweetheart]

Dad Jimmy and daughter reader sitting in his lap at a family gathering (like a holiday or smth idk) while she tries not to draw attention to him (not so) subtlety groping her and grinding on her under the blanket. By the time he finishes, he thinks he got away with it without his daughter or anyone else noticing..😇

hai made it curly’s family gathering cause jimmy’s family is dead or deadbeat to me… omfg somebody lynch me i am so bad at following requests sorry. i did NOT see the part ab daughter reader not noticing gosh. anyway… very new to writing jimmy so it kind of really sucks.. read cws!!

content warning: 18+, dead dove do not eat, daddy-daughter incest, non/dub-con, etc etc

“Would you look at that? The couch is all full!” Curly exclaims like he is a fucking sitcom character. Kind of how it goes when he tries to make a joke. Painfully unfunny, that is. His family members sit there like lobotomees, squeezing out half-aborted chuckles.

Jimmy plays along just to spite you.

“Too bad,” he pats your cheek twice—hard, “looks like you’ll have to sit on daddy’s lap tonight.” 

The way the color instantly drains from your face is too good, looking ghastly within a matter of seconds. Curly’s entire family be damned, his fourtieth-something birthday be damned, Jimmy feels like fucking the life back into your corpse.

Right here and now, ideally. He has no clue where that thought came from but it’s welcomed. 

“I’m sure there’s… a spare chair or something I can use.” You look around frantically, eyes scanning the living room like Jimmy having you in his lap is a fate worse than death. They land on your savior. “Right, Uncle Curly?” 

“Sorry, sweetheart,” Curly offers you a quick glance, finishes setting up a shitty movie he for some very peculiar fucking reason wants to watch with his family and Jimmy, to celebrate his midlife crisis milestone. 

Uncle Curly likes you, sure, but he likes Jimmy better. Takes about half a brain cell to see that. 

Jimmy grunts when he pulls you onto his lap, partly ‘cause he’s nearing Curly’s age (old) and partly ‘cause his dick is already kicking up a fuss in his pants. 

He hopes you can feel it.

“Dad? What are you—what is that?” You whisper obnoxiously loud when he grips your hips, moving his own against your ass. “Oh my gosh, is that your—“

“Shut up.” He interrupts before you can finish your babbling, it’s like you want to get smacked. 

Jimmy doesn’t know what he’s doing, he just did it ‘cause he felt like it and now he’ll keep going. Wring every possible reaction out of you because goddamn this birthday party is fucking boring. Where is the booze? The real booze, not some pesky little pint of wine. Curly’s an alcoholic, isn’t he? 

“You’re so gross!” 

Gross? Jimmy hasn’t even fucking done anything yet. Typical stuck-up bitch you are. Like being within several feet of your vicinity is enough to warrant a restraining order against him, an anti-Jimmy movement of some sort. 

He’ll show you how gross he can really be. 

Arm wrapped around your waist to keep you from escaping, Jimmy fumbles with the blanket - purely ‘cause he doesn’t want Curly’s entire bloodline to see his dick - and heads for the zipper of his—

“Is everything okay over there?” Goldilocks interjects. 

You flail like a toddler two seconds away from drowning, teasing Jimmy by putting all that friction against his cock. “Dad’s trying to—“

Trying to what? Fuck you? Maybe. 

“Yeah, everything’s fine.” Jimmy pinches your cheek and you grimace. “Think it might be that time of the month for the little lady here, if you know what I mean.”

He hears one of Curly’s relatives snicker under their breath. 

Your mouth falls open, nearly gasping out of shock. “That’s—“ 

Jimmy knows exactly what you were going to say. That’s so not true! Dad, that’s so fucking mean and unfeminist and bla bla bla, patriarchy, oppression—

“Alright,” Curly’s turn to cut you off, speaking directly to Jimmy like he owns you. That’s right. “Just try to keep it down, yeah? Movie’s just started.” And that’s that. 

“Dirty fucking bitch,” Jimmy presses his mouth to your ear, talking directly into it to feel you squirm against him. “You want them to see, huh?”

“No…” Please. Your panties are probably soaked already, comes with being related to Jimmy—you’re all fucked up.

His hands slide up your bare thighs, feeling the skin prickling up underneath his touch. You kick your legs, nearly hitting some Curly 2.0 in the process. Jimmy keeps going till he finds your mound and he is right like always—you’re wet.

No time to waste, Jimmy creeps under your panties, shamelessly rubbing away at your sticky little pussy, the slickness mildly audible. You’re gripping his wrist so hard beneath the blanket that Jimmy’s surprised he can’t feel your nails break. 

“Dad,” it’s halfway a whine, halfway a whisper, “dad, stop.” 

You’re terribly quiet, not kicking up a big enough fuss for someone who seemingly wants him to stop. Jimmy sinks two of his fingers past your entrance, feeling you stiffen in his lap like you’ve never had anything up there before. Can’t be true, you’re sucking him in like a fucking vacuum cleaner. 

“No.” He picks up his pace, your cunt squelching around his fingers under the blanket, damn near talking louder than the actors in the movie. 

You struggle to contain your own noises, clamping down around his fingers already. 

“You wish it was my cock inside you.” Jimmy tells you matter-of-factly, nips at your earlobe. 

“Eww,” you whimper, a brat even when getting fucking molested. Who raised you? ‘Cause it sure wasn’t Jimmy. 

He doubles down, “you want Uncle Curly to see what dad’s doing to you?” You squeeze him tighter, cheek hot against his. Of course.

Or one of his sisters perhaps. He wants to say… Wavy? Maybe the old fuck casually hogging up two couch cushions that may or may not be Curly’s father. Jimmy should thank him, really, wouldn’t be feeling your pussy gripping onto his fingers for dear life if it wasn’t for him. 

“Quit acting like you didn’t want this,” Jimmy’s fingers find your spongy spot, hitting it over and over ‘cause he knows it’ll have you cumming around him. “You’ve just been aching for daddy to touch you here, haven’t you?” Is all it takes for you to snap. Dirty fucking slut.

The moans get stuck in your throat, teeth biting your lip hard enough to draw blood as you cum—soaking his fingers and his pants and Curly’s blanket. Jimmy doesn’t stop, grinning at your mortified expression. 

Jimmy pulls out with a sloppy squelch after you’ve come down from your incestual high. You’re still frozen, looking like that bitch from The Shining with your open, unblinking eyes and discombobulation plastered all over your face. 

One of Curly’s sisters, or his mother, shoots him a nasty glare. If she’s so disgusted by Jimmy now, she’d have a fucking heart attack if she saw the other guys at the trailer park. Jimmy may look like a hobo from time to time, nothing he doesn’t already know. Plastic whores and their plastic attitudes. They disgust him. 

Braindead freaks. Jimmy practically fucked his daughter right under their noses and they didn’t notice a thing. 

“Act up like that again and I’ll pull my cock out, stick it in your hole for everybody to see.” He wipes off your cum on your thighs, pulling his hands away to keep you wrapped up in his lap. “No blanket.” 

[insaneinpink]

How we feeling about this?

Me personally? Shut the fuck up and leave us the hell alone.

I saw a ton of people saying “your internalized misogyny is showing” bitch I’m just trying to fucking survive and find people who deal with the same shit as me.

We’re not “setting feminism back” for trying to live by romanizing our mental illness. We do it because it’s literally the only thing keeping us here.

Go bother someone else with this bullshit.

“You’re spreading conservative rhetoric.” Shut up. Like actually shut up. Fucking where?

I’d imagine there’s some, but it’s not fucking here. Women can do whatever they want, but god forbid they make their femininity apart of themselves. That’s wrong and unfeminist apparently. We should be ashamed of ourselves. Fuck off.

Also, we’re not dumbifying ourselves. I don’t think women are lesser than for being women. I don’t ever use most of those terms, but even those who do shouldn’t be shamed for doing so. Nobody wants to lose their autonomy or be treated like objects. We just wanna be hyperfeminine in a world that clearly doesn’t appreciate it.

You don’t have to hyperfem, that’s fine, but don’t act like you’re better than us, or that we’re just the worst people in society.

I think my femininity is something beautiful and I like express it. For years I rejected it because I was taught is was bad. Fucking let us express ourselves. It’s not hurting you or anyone else.

Block us, block our tags, and fuck off.

“You’re not as mentally ill as you think you are”

Who the fuck are you to tell people what’s going on in their mind.

Find something better to do than gossiping about what women do to cope.

[swifty-fox]

gale in a dress?? sign me the fuck UP can i ask for spoilers omg

ogghh well basically it's inspired by that person who got mad at me for feminizing gale because it was...unfeminist of me?? idk anyways so I was, spitefully, like 'well now I'm going to forcefemme him so hard'

basic concept is that all the stalag boys kind of conspire to femme gale slowly through the stalag (wont cut his hair, keep jokingly calling him mom etc.) and it ends with Gale in a dress, bent over an office as John fucks him and the other stalag boys watch. it's a bit of mommy kink too

[rimonoroni2]

hi all! This is the new blog of user @rimonoroni

asks are welcome!

some things about me: i am Jewish, white, an anti-zionist, USian, and a trans guy that uses he/him exclusively. i will probably post about these things, the combinations thereof, and misc social justice stuff.

however i am first and foremost a huge nerd, so here’s some fandom shit i’m into that might make an appearance:

batman and company

naruto (yes really)

the wheel of time series

interview with the vampire (both the book series and show)

and other miscellaneous stuff.

blog policy: asks are open bc if i say something fucked up without realizing it, i want to know. feel free to tell me. i’m not perfect and if i fuck up i wanna try to change that.

relevant tags:

#myscrabbles- for my writing.

#// ventilation - vent posts, probably about transphobia or antisemitism etc. filter out if that bothers you.

some of my general positions for reference:

i’m a Jewish anti-zionist. i believe in the rights and liberation of Palestinians and i also will not tolerate antisemitism from goyim who may share some of my beliefs, because those things are not mutually exclusive.

i don’t believe in transandrophobia: as in, i think it’s a stupid descriptor attempting to describe real experiences in an unfeminist way.

i don’t reblog callout posts as a rule and you shouldn’t either.

other stuff for later probably

[newlyy]

“Topless house cleaner” is such a fucking disgusting concept and it’s also unsurprising to me that it exists. I saw a tiktok just now of a girl—she appeared to be in her 20s—saying she was a nurse and did the topless house cleaning on the side but wanted to make it her full time job and it irritated me so bad. You think this is a long term career? You think men are gonna want you to clean their homes naked when your skin isn’t 25 year old skin anymore? When your boobs sag? When you gain weight? Please. Look away, I’m gonna say something unfeminist. Women like that repulse be. I judge and I sneer.

[dragonagitator]

one of these days i gotta put together a little collection of the most excessively unhinged tags i see on Gale Dekarios posts because some of you have elevated tagging to an art form

plus it's simply good networking... all of the "i'm chewing through my restraints" "he makes me think unfeminist thoughts" "what a sad pathetic wet cat of a man i must fuck him" "i have a gale-sized hole" taggers should be following each other en masse since we're basically sisterwives at this point lol

so... who wants to start the Discord server

Edit to add: @hazellblogs might be setting up a new Gale-focused server soon. See Replies on this post for that discussion.

I also found two existing BG3 Discord servers, a general Baldur's Gate (all 3 games) one and a BG3 fanworks gift exchange one. Not Galemancing specific, but perhaps we could ask the server admins if they are willing to add individual channels for each romance? I don't really understand how Discord works so I have no idea how big of a chore that would be for them.

Edit 2: I don't know why the Discord invite hyperlinks aren't saving when I save the post. Here they are as plain text for copypasting instead:

https://discord.com/invite/Ngh72fcg

https://discord.com/invite/nRtKmKXK

[catgirl-catboy]

(this post doesn't apply to my mutuals because this is something I block super easily over, dw)

For all of the performative "I hate terfs" this website has, none of you actually know the signs of terf rhetoric, and will unironically say and do the most terfish/radfemish things I have ever seen. If you say you hate terfs and you do any of the following things, I'm gonna assume you don't know as much about terfs as you think you do.

Disclaimer: Trans people can and do parrot terf rhetoric.

"Men are trash" (and its subvarients, Straight men are trash, cis men are trash, and white men are trash)

Lesbian ships (by which they mean WLW ships) are inherently morally pure and fluffy. As a (nonbinary) lesbian, stop it. Please. WLW ships can be tragic and fucked up and gut-wrenching as any other ship.

Being overly curious about someone's AGAB when really its only relevant to their doctors and maybe long term sexual partners. The division of "AMAB trans people" and "AFAB trans people" (which completely ignores intersex issues, but thats another, longer point) isn't as big as they what you to think. Whatever genitalia I was born with changes upon what is more comedic in the moment, don't ask again.

The idea that certain traits that are perceived as masc/femme are inherent to humanity rather than cultural.

The idea that men (AMAB people is more accurate.) are always stronger than women. There are some cis women with higher testosterone levels than cis men, just due to natural human variation!!!

The idea that each LGBTQ identity has a unique and separate culture with little to no overlap. Nah, we are friends :)

Honestly, the idea that its unfeminist to point out any flaw a female character has. Female characters are flawed and thats why I simp for them. Hope this helps!

Anti-sex work. A lot of terfs are anti sex work, so its a red flag. Yes, even if its just anti those kinks.

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

have you considered some butches like being referred to with he/him pronouns? and, get this, calling their strap ons cocks because its sexy? because it's fun? can your prudish brain comprehend 2 women having sex in unfeminist ways?

Okay? Have you seen how many lesbian sex posts avoid she/her pronouns? I don't understand why I have to be subjected to so many fetish posts everytime I wanna read about women desiring each other. Maybe I am a prude. It's very disheartening to be a lesbian and see so many women refer to masculine women with he/him pronouns or they/them ones. I don't want a partner who gets off on me pretending to be a man. Why isn't my female-ness the sexiest thing to you? Furthermore, have you ever considered WHY butch lesbians avoid female terms? Have you ever considered the implications of this phenomenon and what it says about society and female terms in general? Could it be that things associated with women can make butch lesbians feel alienated from womanhood as a whole, and we should be trying to create a society where being female doesn't come with expectations on who you are as a person? Why do butches feel safer adopting male terms? Another question, anon: can you imagine how the feelings of these butches may be reinforced by seeing posts after post where their dating pool talks about wanting to be fucked by their "cocks" and calling them "he"? Have you ever thought of these questions? If not then maybe I'm not the unfeminist one here.

[smegmafactory4ever]

Tbh I'm gonna say something apolitical and completely unfeminist rn and i know no one cares about (or should care tbh) about my opinion on this subject but out of all the plastic surgeries women get boob jobs are kind of the best. By the virtue of having a lot of hooker friends I've seen so many botched plastic surgery stuff but I'd never seen a completely botched boob job! I know those happen and possible complications could be devastating and studies have been done by my favorite college teacher which proves that boob jobs don't really boost your self esteem that much on average BUUUTTTTT there's just an undinable cunty camp factor to fake titties. Unless they're botched horribly no one can tell until you're naked and by that point it's not like it's gonna put anyone off let's be real. It's also one of the few plastic surgeries that are mostly reversible. Anything done to the face, while it might on paper (and only on paper) be less likely to cause complications is also more likely to get botched and that's your actual real life face that you wear everywhere at all times....... Boobies at least you can cover up + ever boob job I've seen irl has been good (some have been a bit excessive) but almost every facial alteration I've been irl has been a mess one way or the other. I'm not telling my female followers to get a boob job. I'm just saying if you wanna fuck with your face consider if you'd fuck with your tits first. If the answer is no then you should probably leave your face alone too is all I'm saying

[muppetminge]

I think it’s really sad how quick people are to attribute malice to people purely on the basis of disagreement. 

Discussions around beauty culture so often end up being a case of pitting traditionally ‘feminine’ women and ‘non-feminine’ women against each other - despite the fact that this is usually not the initial intent. 

I am extremely critical of beauty culture. Flat out. I do not like make-up. I think it’s a horrible thing. I stand by this. 

I do not have anything against individual women who wear make-up. Or women who shave, or get botox, or plastic surgery or whatever. Nor do I - solely based on this - have any opinion whatsoever about how feminist or unfeminist you are. No, wearing make-up or shaving or whatever will never be a feminist action. You, as a person, can still be be - no one is ideologically pure, we are all whole, multifaceted people. That’s good, and that’s fine, and that’s how it is. You are so absoluted allowed to do things without going through the analysis - otherwise no one would ever get anything done. Something something ethical consumption or whatever, you get it.

The point with all this is, I think it’s a shame that so many seem to interpret anti-beauty rhetoric to be anti-you, as a person, or, indeed, anti-women. Because that’s exactly the opposite of the intent! I feel about this like I do, and as passionately as I do, because I love women. 

And I think it’s, mind the language, fucking bullshit how much bullshit is invented purely to prey on insecurities that don’t even have a grounding in reality! Because I promise you, your face is fine. Your skin is fine. Your body hair is fine. 

You are allowed to look like a human woman. Because that’s what these standards are about, isn’t it? Alienation from our natural form? Trying to convince perfectly normal women that something is wrong with them for ... being perfectly normal women? Because, really, why are you insecure about your hairy legs in the first place? Your perfectly normal, though non-airbrushed complexion? The signs of life, and joy, and laughter, and age on your face? The length of your eyelashes, the size of your feet, the shape of your breasts? Because it sells. Because it’s kind of genius, isn’t it, inventing shit based on fuck all so you can sell more stuff we don’t need to (over) half of the human race. Most importantly, because it takes control away from you. Because messing with your confidence and your self image makes us easier to push around; to stop us from meeting our potential (and, oh, is there anything that’s more terrifying than the thought of women being what we could be, what we have the ability to accomplish?) 

And I’m at the point of rambling now, perhaps, but there’s that. I don’t hate women who wear make-up, my beef isn’t with you. I promise you that. I’m not asking you to burn your eyeshadow palette. I’m just fucking sad this is how we are treated. That we are expected to buy into this whole illusion that there’s something wrong with us, that we’re just a sack of (fixable! buy our latest cure now!) problems in a trenchcoat. 

And I wish that more of us were better at looking in the mirror barefaced and be astonished at the beauty there, instead of feeling naked and ashamed. I wish we didn’t try to hide from each other quite so much. I wish we could just be. 

She screams at the top of her lungs, I’m whole! I’m body, I’m heart, I’m mind, I’m soul.

[mur-art]

Unhinged nsfw wttt calivada thoughts under the cut; don’t mind me:

Super Bowl in Vegas! 49ers loss! It’s a total recipe for chaos for our favorite trainwreck ship.

Nevada ends up pity-fucking Cali, but the mans was READY for the alternative, so he’s got like, a bunch of “congrats” balloons and victory merch and shit that he awkwardly and hastily shoves in the closet/under the bed/in the bathroom shower before Cali gets there 😂. And it ends up popping out/falling out of wherever it was hidden at the most inopportune time while they’re doing the do (for comedic factor, of course) Like it was either gonna be victory sex or comfort sex; he was totally prepared for either option. Either way he has copious amounts of alcohol and a brand new set of niners lingerie and they are going to make INCREDIBLY BAD DECISIONS TOGETHER.

Bonus points for Nevada blasting Tswift the whole time, leading to Cali going on a drunken rant about how it’s *unfeminist* to hate her BUT—😂

They’re terrible; I hate them. /lh

[thousandyearphantombunker]

vent: I'm mean again sorry. Im pretty sure this is a bit cruel and Im very harsh

being part of the RWBY, Transformers, and Mouthwashing fandom and begging people to be normal about characters who are incapable of speaking.

Like I'm kinder to the RWBY and Transformers fandom about this- I don't like when people erase Neo's muteness or infantalize Bee but a lot of the times I talk to fans who do this and they are mainly just ignorant and don't know any better -its annoying but I can have an actual conversation about this stuff- they tend to apologize for their ableism/aren't that defensive of it (atleast that's my experience for the most part- I hate the 'its cute' excuse from TF fans) but Jesus the mouthwashing fandom has been told multiple times not do this shit

As a disabled woman I am more uncomfortable with the treatment of Curly than Anything else like don't hit me with that TERF bullshit- y'all are so fucking defensive of your shitty behavior- y'all do realize that Curly's situation is supposed to parallel Anya's situation- it's not unfeminist to say that some of y'all are ableist shitheads

like both of their situations are the kind of shit you don't wish upon your worst enemy. The whole point is that Curly's situation is a mirror of Anya and saying he deserves it is kind of like saying he would've deserved to go through exactly what she went through that he deserves to be raped- you do realize his injury is supposed to mirror her fucking trauma?

But oh no that's not a feminist thing to say now is it? Stop excusing your ableism with feminism. I'm so done with this. As a disabled person I'm tired of being called a traitor when I point out ableist bullshit/lack of accessibility because clearly I'm just being a moral purist conservative when I tell people to not say/do awful shit or that things aren't accessible for a lot of people-im tired of experiencing this- in politics and fandom

I get that sometimes our disabilities inconvenience others or that we aren't good at stuff because or whatever because we arent strong or smart (literal symptoms of many disabilities you guys are assholes about it though) or whatever but I also don't care- fucking listen to us and stop acting like we're the problem when we ask you to NOT depict mute characters using fucking dog buttons or to not portray people with severe intellectual disabilities as symbols of the anti intellectual movement or to not automatically diagnose every abusive asshole with a personality disorder or to not say that being an amputee doesn't count as a disability (one of the worst takes on FMA and brotherhood I've ever seen) or to not put the literal burn victim on a monster fucker meme-

it's not hard to do a little critical thinking- burn victims exist in the real world some of them got their burns because they did something bad- idk like drink and drive and they do not deserve their injuries- some people have throat injuries from throat cancer from smoking- I'm not gonna be a cruel asshat and claim they got what they deserved. I'm sorry but if your automatic response to being called out on being ableist and yes that includes being ableist toward assholes is to try and make us into the villains your fighting against or infantalizing us/treating it all as a joke so you don't have to listen your a fucking asshole.

It's not that hard to understand alternative forms of communication exist (whether it be AAC- that thing many people with autism or brain injuries use or Morse code- also Johnny's got his gun? or sign- which admittedly curly can't use but like etc) . These forms of communication aren't embarrassing/unaesthetic/immature to use and are certainly better than dog buttons/just erasing the disability and if your automatic response to fans who get grossed out by this stuff is to say it's a joke

Remember that Jimmy made shitty jokes to and that those jokes where a red flag

Remember that Cinder treated Neo like shit by talking at her when she's upset and that Cinder is a bad person

Remember that beer is an adult and who gets taken seriously in universe

Remember that disabled people exist irl and that your treatment of them in fandom says a lot about how you'll treat us irl

I do take issue with Curly's actions (he should've given Anya better protection it's part of his job- while pony Express is a fault for the lock situation and punishing Jimmy at the time was a bad option he has ways to defend her) but dear god you people disgust me. The way you treat people who can be called vegetables and you treat disability as a punishment

Also if you write Anya abusing Curly as a joke I hate you- she's a fucking nurse- a damn good one despite not being able to become a proper one (somehow? Girl kept curly alive with no skin for months- like how wasn't she a valedictorian of a nursing school) - and she despite having a tense relationship with Curly is still a good nurse- as in not only did she keep him alive for months but she isn't abusive. Medical abuse is a fucking cruel ordeal and while Anya and the rest of the crew don't treat Curly the best I refuse to see this women be written as a shithead. I know part of the reason she refuses to give Curly his pills is because she's pregnant and it makes her I'll but I'm pretty sure the noises Curly makes also triggers her memories- in other words this woman is compassionate and empathetic but struggling with trauma- she isn't a shitty person (also if you get mad at her for having a fawn response/'being a doormat'/'not fighting back' or say she got in the way of curlyxjimmy i hate you)

Its not that hard to treat mute characters like adults and not like cute pets (I swear to God the cute mute trope is or atleast can be freaking infantalizing as shit)

Its not that hard to depict alternative forms of communication in a dignified manner (it's not childish or embarrassing to use blink based language or signs or whatever but it is dehumanizing to depict a grown man using dog buttons -AAC devices aren't gross or unaesthetic, there's a lot of different options and they are not lesser forms of communication- non speaking people aren't being over sensitive when they call you out on this shit)

People who cannot speak can often still communicate (some people can't and they also deserve to be treated well). Stop speaking over them or moving away from the topic while they trying to say something stop ignoring them- if it's hard for them to keep up in a conversation because communication takes longer then learn to fucking wait- but no people can't even handle a disabled person calling out ableism in fandom spaces without going 'but feminism!' or 'its just a joke! You clearly are coddled and too sensitive!' go fuck yourselves.

Mute nonverbal or speech impeded adults are adults who deserve to be treated like humans and have their opinions be voiced without being told it's not that serious when you constantly reveal your actual horrible opinions of disabled people- remember Jimmy and Cinder- if your joke is too distasteful then keep it to yourself and stop talking at people

The former nonverbal in me and the comm major in me makes me pissed- they're so many options and ways to communicate- whether it be nonverbal or not and it's pretty easy to understand and research this sort of stuff!

im sorry for being so pissed here

[gordiita]

can i say something kinda "unfeminist" real quick. hottest most controversial take that might get me death threats but it's an argument i actually see a lot (most often by people who don't grasp the nuances of it) and i disagree with. anyway opinion under the cut.

so disclaimer, this can apply to any relationship. heterosexual, gay, lesbian, married or domestic partnership, or adults living with their family for free. even between roommates, if relevant.

ultimately, the claim that "domestic labor needs to be financially compensated" is a fair concept theoretically, but i disagree with it in practice. and yes i am familiar with labor theory of value and the interpretation thereof in several schools of thought.

in my perspective as a housewife - if someone else is paying your way, providing for your needs, and in exchange you do housework; being fed and sheltered is equivalent to a wage.

does anyone else see what i mean? like, if my husband is employed and i'm not, and he is paying for my basic needs, it's only natural that the other tasks fall on me automatically + without assumption that i'm otherwise compensated. because i'm not going out of my way. the labor is already evenly divided!!

yes i am definitely still doing "work", i'm not saying it's not work! but i just don't receive liquid currency and this is okay because my "pay" is room and board and food. why should i need or be entitled to an additional paycheck on top of that?

(also, when you're formally employed, you don't get paid for both your job plus cleaning you might do at home. because that's irrelevant.)

he receives tangible funds for doing his job and pays for us to live here; in return, my work is to upkeep it. he buys the groceries so i cook them. i dont need to be paid for these things. they've already been paid for. simple as.

if you disagree, i respect that opinion! if you are in a similar situation too and you receive/want to receive extra compensation, i respect that and believe you deserve it. but if you literally cant understand what im saying and decide to take me in bad faith then you might be fucking stupid.

also no we are not "trad" or conservitards and i am not unemployed by choice. i'm probably not going to engage arguments on this either.