#mona mona mona

[muppetminge]

wow i love twitter sm.

on a serious note - i think it's funny to portray women not wearing make-up as silly and childish when you're the one apparently caring so much about what other people are doing to their faces.

ask yourself: why do you find bare faces not appropriate for formal events? why does it bother you to see a woman without makeup? how does it effect you? why do you think it effects you?

you're so insistent that there are no societal pressures at play, that women are doing this exclusively for themselves and for the joy of it - then where does this urge to force it on women who don't find joy in it come from? why does it annoy you to see women in their natural way of being? it's a choice, but also there's a right choice, apparently, and anyone stepping out of line shoud be promptly shamed into submission. right?

"a little (whatever) never hurt anybody" okay and neither does a bare face. grow up.

[muppetminge]

The woman is not wearing makeup and a short skirt for male attention. She is doing that because it gives her gender euphoria as a woman.

We can agree insofar as she's not necessarily deliberately doing it for male attention - she might indeed be doing it for herself, in the sense that it makes her feel confident or attractive, or any other range of notions. The average woman is not, however, doing it specifically because it makes her feel some vague concept of 'womanly'. These ideals of beauty are only connected with a female identity because we've societially decided that they are. Corforming is deeply ingrained in the human psyche as herd animals; it is, however, only healthy to evaluate what we're conforming to, as to not do so blindly. Makeup and short skirts have nothing to with womanhood. Women were just as much women before the modern idea of femininity came to be, just as we'll be when it's died or transformed, just as we are today when we reject it.

Or, said in another way: When she goes home and puts on sweatpants and takes off her bra, it's not because of any change in perception of her own gender identity; she's still just as much of a woman as she was in the get-up. She's just allowed to be comfortable in her own skin in the privacy of her own home.

That man is experiencing intense levels of gender dysphoria and he needs help.

No, that man is being mysogynistic. He doesn't engage with women's media because he considers it beneath him and intellectually shallow; he rejects everything connected with femininity because he considers it 'emasculating', because his view of woman requires them to be below him; he can't be caught 'acting like a woman' because to him being a woman means being weak and inferior. Engaging with anything related to women and/or what we associate with femininity would require him to rethink his entire worldview, and he's not going to do that. A man like this needs someone below him, or he's the loser. We know he is anyway, of course, but that hardly matter if we're not the one he's listening to, does it? We wholly agree that this is no way to live, of course. Don't waste your time trying to save him, though, is my advice. Emotional labor might be awfully fourth wave, but really, it's not your - our - responsibility to fix these men. Your time is so infinitely more valuable than wasting it on that. Don't waste your energy on somebody who wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire and all that.

A cis man doesn't "feel uncomfortable" when he paints his nails for the first time, he gets dysphoric.

No, he feels emasculated, humiliated, frivolous - in essence, how he considers a woman. He knows, too, how other men will see him - need we get into the interconnectedness of misogyny and homophobia? The connotations of being a sissy, a faggot, a girl?

Just like the cis woman who wears jeans during summer because she forgot to shave her legs and is embarassed about it.

She's feeling embarrased because of societal pressure to be hairless - a state that of course has nothing to do with being a woman, as the very natural presence of body hair on all of us will tell you. This of course leads back to the systemic dehumanisation of women (you must be doll-smooth, an expensive commodity; not a mammal, comfortable in her skin, not a person in her own right) and capitalism (buy buy buy! get our new razors to fulfill your worth - you don't want to be a slob, do you?), but I won't bore you unnecessarily on that note.

I agree in principle with your notion of dysphoria being more common than we think, OP, and that this is entirely unrelated to a trans identity. I do not think we benefit from attributing oppresive systems to this. Saying that women wear make-up, restricting clothes, high heels, whatever the flavor of the day might be, due to some sense of 'gender euphoria', feeling like a woman, is saying that these things have anything at all to do with being a woman, is validating the existence of social pressures to conform to this idea of womanhood - a woman not participating in any of this is just the same a woman. Saying that a man being sexist is just dysphoric is making excuses for his utter vileness, is confirming his notion that he's correct - don't, for the love of gd, give him anymore words to validate his perception of the world. He's not your ally; he won't do the same for you.

The world would be a better place if cis people understood the concepts of gender euphoria and dysphoria as things that everyone experiences, not just trans people.

The woman is not wearing makeup and a short skirt for male attention. She is doing that because it gives her gender euphoria as a woman.

On a more serious note, if a man doesn't feel comfortable to wear a pink shirt; eat a pink ice cream; listen to a female singer who is popular; express his feelings; drink fruity juices; hold his girlfriend's purse; say certain words; act with kindness towards his loved ones; apologize; deescalate conflict; watch a movie enjoyed by women; play with a small and fluffy animal; because he thinks these things make him look girly, less manly or "nor a real man", that is no way to live. That man is experiencing intense levels of gender dysphoria and he needs help.

I feel like people only look at men like that and laugh and call them sexist. Some of them might be and they need to be called out for it, but I feel like gender dysphoria is very common in cis men and we should be calling it what it is.

A cis man doesn't "feel uncomfortable" when he paints his nails for the first time, he gets dysphoric. Just like the cis woman who wears jeans during summer because she forgot to shave her legs and is embarassed about it.

Dysphoria happens to cis people, All. The. Time. Pass the message on.

[jmfenner91]

I read Bunny by Mona Awad while recovering from surgery & it was SO cool! I had to make a mock-cover for it. 🐰🪓

[desire-mona]

[nicostiel]

Glass Onion (2022) + Art

[axoqiii]

ng+ doodles and royaltrio

[erosia-rhodes]

Actual Google results for “World’s Greatest Detective”:

[queershakespeare]

they really do put their whole pussy in it !!!

[scre6m]

@lgbtqcreators​ creator meme: [5/8] lgbtq+ celebs "I had to free my own mind of what, at that time, what I felt like masculine adrogynous energy looks like. I was living in my own binary, and I was like there's no way that I can be androgynous with bigger boobs now. How I feel inside is the thing that I needed to work through." — JANELLE MONÁE

[muppetminge]

gd i get so fucking angry when i see crying about "boys are doing worse in school :(" being pulled up to look like a huge problem. you're not upset about boys doing 'badly' - you're upset about girls doing well. blaming it on the school system is so funny because tell me how the school system is suddenly modelled after the girls when we weren't even allowed in when the basis of the current system was being created lmao.

the difference between average grade by sex is about the same as the regional/geographic difference and it's less than the difference sorted by race/ethnicity (not even to mention the socioeconomic differences), yet these aren't the differences creating headlines every year. why?

because you find girls doing well wrong, like it's upsetting the natural order. you're hanging on to this idea that girls are stupid, yet when you're proved wrong you refuse to accept it, hanging on to an excuse of systematic differences that have to be solved now, because won't somebody please think of the poor boys :(

so we're looking at averages. here's the thing: those are never going to level out. we're always going to see one group being above/below others. you're just upset it's not in the "right" order.

the difference is smaller than you'd think, by the way. when i was in high school (non-us system, meaning voluntary/different kinds of secondary) we were 70 percent women. you know what else? the girls, in general, were working fucking hard. every single grade point they fucking earned. there's this story of girls' grades being inflated due to this and that, but all i've seen is boys getting grades for doing less - because they're outnumbered, the poor things, so it's obviously the teacher's job to support them, right? right??

even in trade school where we were a handful of girls per year, i saw nothing but the girls putting in their all and the boys showing up. sometimes. if they felt like it.

but it's a systemic problem, right? how else would girls be doing well? we've got to solve this, lest the boys get their egoes wounded by not placing in their 'natural' position. gd forbid we end up with an overweight of women professionals.

[janellemonae]

ILYSM! 🤣Happy pride! 🫶🏾🌈🥹

[themakeupbrush]

Mona Patel at the 2024 Met Gala

[lotus-pear]

nothing can best the bond between a boy and his cat (ref)

[arttla]

beachin'