#that’ reality

[jalebi-weds-bluetooth]

Why do you think Khushi continued to stay with Arnav when he ill-treated her so much? I mean I know she wanted to keep Payal and Akash's relationship intact but why not just come clean to Payal? Arnav was almost abusive after all

Multiple reasons:

- first and foremost escaping from an abusive marriage is hard as hell because of multiple social, psychological, financial reasons.

- Khushi has absolutely no social support/network (which is necessary!)

- Khushi belongs from a patriarchal family and lives in a society where marriage means a lot.

- Khushi has no financial independence. If she leaves Arnav to go to her aunt’s - he buys that house and has her pay a rent she cannot afford. Thus, she literally cannot go anywhere.

- During hate marriage phase Arnav has repeatedly threatened her what would happen if she told anyone about the marriage. He knows Payal - he knows she wouldn’t let either of the marriages last if she knew the situation.

- Khushi has sacrificed her dreams of a happy and respectable marriage (she’s always seen IT as her ultimate home and belonging) for Payal’s sake. The last thing she’d do is let her sacrifice go in vain.

- memory isn’t perfect. You and I can count the many times Arnav has been abusive but Khushi loved this man and on some days the marriage was tolerable, it’s enough for her to forget the worst and live with the best of what she has.

[eridan-ampora]

baby animals move like theyre playing a new video game & havent figured out the controls yet

[thejournallo]

ME MANIFESTING THAT EVERYONE WHO SEE THIS POST GETS WHAT THEY WANT.

(Masterlists)

[rivetgoth]

It's honestly crazy that discussion around testosterone HRT skews so much towards the beginning stages of it (to the point that you have dozens of guys thinking their transition is "failed" if they don't pass by like a year in lol) and what the initial changes of the first couple of months to years look like, like the classic laundry list of those early basic changes like bottom growth, voice drop, etc, when IMO literally none of that compares remotely to the depth and intensity of the long term total masculinization you start to experience like 3-5+ years in.

[myfandomrealitea]

I actually love hearing about reformed people's stories. I love hearing about people who were in toxic communities or people who used to objectively be dickheads talking about how they got out of that. How they made themselves better.

I hate how most people's initial reaction to stories like that are things like:

"How could you have ever done those things?!" "Oh my god, you believed those things?!" "Well it doesn't un-do the harm you did!"

People incessantly advocate for change but then refuse to allow people who have changed the grace of being acknowledged and given opportunities and chances.

I love hearing about ex-antis talking about how they don't spend their days being angry and sending death threats anymore.

I love hearing about ex-homophobes who realized there's no magic law about what is "natural."

I love reformed bullies talking about how they made amends with their victims and spend their days being considerate of others.

You can't scream about wanting people to change but then expect them to spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past and on who they used to be. You can't expect people to spend the entire rest of their lives grovelling and apologizing and demeaning themselves.

Instead of clinging to who they were, latch onto who they are.

Ask how they got out of it. Commend them on changing. Enjoy that there's one less cause of harm in the world.

[soul-from-another-era]

[warcrimesimulator]

I hate how acknowledging unfairness in the world is seen as "childish". Maybe children are right. I don't think you should be proud of the fact that you've become complacent with the state of your miserable existence and took on this loser "it is what it is" mentality. Things can be better.

[lesbianralzarek]

"life doesnt get better, you just get stronger" does NOT include ages 11-17. life does in fact just get better from there. those years are dogshit. like, you do get stronger but its mostly just a factor of not being 11-17 anymore. positive thinking helps but it doesnt fix whatevers going on at 15, you have to brute force through that one raw

[acorviart]

not to sound like a boomer, but I need some people to learn how to write emails in a semi-professional (at the very least) format so you're not cold emailing a business/potential employer/any other stranger about formal matters in the exact same way you'd DM a close friend on instagram

the formality/language can loosen up in the email chain once you've established a rapport and you match the other person if they're being less formal, but please don't have the very first email you send a stranger be written in all lowercase ultra-casual sms slang with no greeting or signature and a billion emojis

[moomoorare]

I love nautical and seaside town horror stories. Tell me more about the fog and water that eats people

[creepymutelilbugger]

i can't imagine a world in which i haven't put this video on my page

[aurosoulart]

Imposter Syndrome

something I've been working on overcoming lately...... maybe others can relate

[krmljam]

more bugs more drinking