#that one safe space post

[myfandomrealitea]

I think one of the things that annoys me the most on the safe space post I made is people barging in to try to dictate how people can find respite, where, and how much respite they're allowed, and why.

"Oh its fine to take a break as long as you don't take too long and immediately launch back into activism again until your next burnout!"

No.

Respectfully; fuck all the way off.

"Yes!! Recharging is so important so you can keep being a good activist!!"

Who asked you? Who declared you Assigner of Respite Rights?

When I was at my worst in terms of mental health, I went a good two years doing absolutely fuck all for the rest of the world. I could barely get out of bed every morning, you can bet I wasn't doom-scrolling war articles and organising charity drives for the homeless.

I was one of the many, many people in the world that needed help.

And as I recovered, activism and fighting for other people were the literal last things on my mind. If they started talking about shootings on the radio I turned it off. If my friends started talking about the latest Worldwide Horror I asked them to stop or I left.

I'm better now, and I made the personal choice to re-engage with activism in the best ways for myself, and I've made the choice to only be an activist when I feel like I can properly be one.

Some people might never get to that point. There are billions of people in the world. Stop screaming at individuals who are tired and broken and need help themselves. Stop assigning blame to the wrong people.

That's not activism or justice knighting.

Its bullying.

[lilybug-02]

Some Symptoms of ADHD from Someone who is diagnosed:

Forgetfulness that impacts daily life

Difficulty remembering others names and even faces

Hard to stop fidgeting or moving when bored. Difficult to stop even when aware

Hyperfocus

Lack of motivation in tasks, even more so when external motivations are not given

Difficulty in being organized for extended periods of time

[[Symptoms of Adult ADHD]]

[frillypaws]

me at 3 am scurrying around the house in search of food

[dykedvonte]

You ever just see a Mouthwashing take that makes you want to bang your head into a wall? I literally just saw someone claim Curly couldn't have been emotionally abused by Jimmy before the crash because he was in a higher position of power than Jimmy.

-Shrimp Anon

The mouthwashing fandom has shown me that people genuinely do believe that certain types of abuse are not as detrimental as other types especially when they deem those immune/resistant, ergo, believing one is objectively worse no matter how it affects the person nor the intersections of power, history and dynamics at play.

Get ready cause this is a yap session:

Cause like it's heavily implied that Curly and Jimmy's friendship was toxic and abusive, pointedly in the direction of how Jimmy uses Curly's belief/comfort in him. Curly wasn't forced to enable Jimmy but he was emotional and mentally on edge around him in almost every scene in some way. Mental and emotional abuse are not contingent on what positions you have at work. Yeah, he's Jimmy's boss but he was Jimmy's friend first and it's like getting into Psych discussion to talk about how social power tends to overshadow any perceived organizational power in the human mind. People are concerned about their jobs ofc but they tend to hang onto and put more value/investment into their personal relationships, hence why there tends to be laws and restrictions around mixing the two.

I always see the sentiments that "Curly is a grown ass man", "Curly is bigger than Jimmy", "Curly is Jimmy's boss", "He just needed a backbone" as criticisms of Curly and while I do agree that on the surface level all of these to be true and viable ways Curly could've taken more control of the situation, I often look at the parallels of Anya and Curly as victims of Jimmy pre/post crash.

The way Jimmy talks to Anya post crash is how he talked to Curly in the pre-crash segments. It's hard to pin-point mainly because we know he hates and wants nothing to do with Anya compared to his contrary but similarly handled obsessions with Curly. It's a weird sort of "honey-moon" effect of abuse Jimmy does in terms of emotional and mental victimization. He is always horrid to Anya, always talking down or questioning her abilities and thoughts in a situation, this of course includes the harassment and assault. However, he has a moment of attempted gentleness/conditioning when he question her about the mouthwash when she's contemplating drinking it at the table. The key difference is he has no personal investment in Jimmy outside wanting nothing to do with him, meaning there is no sort of romanticized version of him that he can condition her off of. He knows this, hence, why he always reverts to trying to make her to scared to oppose him.

This sort of give and take of "kindness" doesn't work on her because she knows he is just doing it to take more from her than whatever he could possibly give but it reflects even the "softer" scenes between him and Curly where he always rewords or rephrases Curly's sentiments and concerns to sound more shallow. He is feigning a deeper understanding by reworking Curly's emotions into something bad and needing to be hidden. Everything is laced with envy and resentment, an outburst just around the corner, I mean he even slams the table in the birthday party scene, a tactic in emotional manipulation to set the victim on edge and cloud their ability to respond. Even if Curly knows Jimmy won't get physical in that moment, the physical actions is intended to make him back down in the confrontation in case it does. This is something that is just not person specific. It ingrains itself into how you interact with the world and life and it shows in major and minor ways with Curly.

Post-crash, the abusive nature is more in tandem to the physical victimization Anya went through and the stripping of voice and autonomy we see take place. Like the parasite in HFIM, Jimmy speaks for Curly most of the time and puts words in his mouth, similarly to how he takes Anya's plans as his own. He very commonly, with the both of them mind you, supplements the worst aspects of himself into them; pettiness, selfishness, lack of understanding... And tries to cover himself with their best qualities; kindness, planning, initiative, etc...

These parallel are just to say that positional power has little to do with if a person can be abused and how it can even be flipped to further the abuse. There is no doubt that Curly could've picked up on Jimmy's envy of his position hence another reason he never confronted him as a Captain but as a friend as doing so would immediately put Jimmy in a space to be confrontational/combative.

I think the disdain some people have when they talk about the heavily implied if not implicitly stated emotional/mental abuse Curly experienced being Jimmy's friend is when treating it as an excuse to why he didn't do more. I can understand that completely because it is not an excuse to why he didn't do more but is a very real reason people in his position in these scenarios can experience whether in the context of a work or social environment. However, I also think the way people talk about it really does demonstrate a bigger problem when talking about abuse when somehow who is/was abused is either part of the issue or enabled it.

Harkening back to the sentiments about Curly's inaction regarding Jimmy, I think the exact phrases I used/have seen show how there is an inherent belief that it is easier to overpower the effects of emotional/mental abuse that go in tandem with the perception of Curly as someone who should be able to. There is not an age you suddenly stop being susceptible to abuse nor a set point or low where you realize how it has affected you. You don't suddenly know to stand up or put a face on to face your abuser nor admit that you inadvertently enabled them to subjugate someone else to the same treatment. Maybe it's my psych brain but their is this growing belief that direct action is somehow easy or always the best method with the game shows you instances where it is not always the case. In real life that rings true too. He should have done more, but it's not impossible to see why he struggled to find a way or didn't even if it makes us mad.

It's not easy to suddenly gain a "back-bone". You don't immediately want to resort to aggression, especially if it mirrors the type you were a victim to. You don't want to believe you allowed yourself to be treated this bad, let it get that bad or allowed something bad to happen to someone else. It is easy to be in denial, to retreat to your thoughts or make excuses to avoid the painful truth. It's frustrating but in a way we know is relatable. It why we both hate and love Curly for it. We know we'd be better, we think we'd be better, we like to think we wouldn't falter in the same ways but it's always easier to say that from the outside looking in. It's easy to see what he was doing wrong because we are seeing it, not him, but the game really does make you picture what you would do if this was your raw reality and it's why this debate about Curly seems so never ending/contradictory. We can all say what we'd do but bottom line is that's much different when you're in the moment with all the emotions and human feelings attached.

I personally think Mouthwashing tackles the themes of rape culture, enabling, toxic masculinity, types of abuse and patriarchy in ways that are meant to deconstruct the typical straightforward views we mostly have of these concepts and how little subtilities of them are just as, if not more, detrimental than the overt/obvious parts. The game deals with the idea of little details and bigger picture in a way to show that sometimes the bigger picture is not the issue but the little details that make it up. It's why I have a personal dislike of depictions of Jimmy as the typical horrible person who would of course do something like this because the game is about noticing the little warning signs, the foreshadowing and foresight.

It's why I dislike the typical discussion of "bro code" and "boys will be boys" for the game because the game makes a point to avoid the standard depictions of such. It is about the type of men who still enable despite not condoning, agreeing or even perpetuating harmful beliefs because they can't see the little details or the ways it seeps into their everyday. The severity is not obvious to them as it was not obvious to Curly, Swansea or even Daisuke the way it was to a woman like Anya. There are little details about Jimmy that should ring alarms but if you are too naive like Daisuke, too distant like Swansea or too conditioned like Curly, they are just off markers.

There is 100% more constructive/concise ways to say "Curly was a victim of Jimmy's abuse on an emotional and mental aspect that clouded his judgements and perceptions in the scenario" while also critiquing on the side of "Curly still had a responsibility to protect Anya as a crew mate and Captain that he failed to do due to biases and stigma's he failed to surpass" without the weird condemnation people give him about should've knowing better than to let himself be manipulated by a person he considered a close, if not family/best-friend and had his own reasons to trust initially. Also stop being weird about victims of abuse in general with this fandom, like sorry not everyone has a like social epiphany the moment someone's nasty to them. People are treating it like you immediately know when you are in a toxic relationship immediately or comprehend when a person is actively dangerous and either it's your fault for not knowing how to leave/cut them off or you deserve it. Like the hypocrisy of people believing how certain fans treat the story reflect their irl views but not their own is crazy.

End statement is: I honestly don't even know man, I've been writing this too long and just like no man on that ship was perfect or really helped Anya when it mattered and I feel like pitting them against each other in discussion on who did the least or most or how it was justified sucks cause in the end Anya always did the most and best thing for herself.

[bigbeansana]

Hi hun, I see you working so hard on your school work and I’m so proud of you 🩵 I know it gets tough, but it all eventually comes to an end with that pile of work to do, I promise 🩵

And if you need a break, mommy will be here for you💙

[natsuki-bakery]

⁎˚ ఎ Arcane Agere ໒ ˚⁎

I was wondering if i could request cg!Viktor (arcane) headcanons?

•Viktor, despite his frail health, is fiercely protective of those he cares about. His sharp mind and relentless drive make him a formidable force, particularly when he sees someone he loves in danger. He might not be able to physically shield them, but he would use every ounce of his intellect and resourcefulness to ensure their safety—designing gadgets, traps, or even new forms of Hextech protection

•Given his background in science and his own health struggles, Viktor would have a deep knowledge of medicine and anatomy. He would be the type to carefully monitor the health of those he cares about, ensuring they have access to the best treatments and technology. His workshop likely contains various medical devices he’s created, tailored to specific needs, especially for anyone who has chronic conditions or injuries

•Viktor would go out of his way to tailor his care to the individual. Whether it’s designing a specific Hextech tool that helps with a unique challenge or creating a comfortable environment for someone recovering from an illness, Viktor's approach to caregiving is highly personalized. He believes that technology should be used to enhance quality of life, and he applies this philosophy to those he loves

•Viktor, despite his intense focus on his work, is incredibly gentle with those he cares about. He understands the value of emotional support and knows that sometimes, what someone needs most is encouragement. He’d take time to listen to their concerns and offer thoughtful advice, always from a place of understanding and empathy. Even in his darkest moments, he’d try to be a source of light for those he loves

•Viktor tends to put others before himself, often neglecting his own health and well-being. If someone he cares about is in need, he’d push himself to the brink to help them, even if it means exacerbating his own condition. This self-sacrificial tendency might worry those close to him, but Viktor sees it as a necessary burden—something he must do to protect those who matter to him

•Viktor would use his inventive genius to create small, thoughtful devices to ease the burdens of daily life for those he loves. For example, if someone struggles with anxiety, he might design a small, handheld device that emits soothing sounds or lights. For someone who works late into the night, he’d craft a lamp with adjustable light levels to reduce eye strain. These little inventions are Viktor's way of showing he cares

•Viktor understands the power of presence. Sometimes, he knows that words aren’t necessary, and he’ll simply sit with someone in comfortable silence. Whether it’s in his workshop or a quiet corner of Zaun, Viktor offers his company as a balm, understanding that his presence alone can be a source of comfort

•Viktor values intellect and curiosity, and he would encourage those he cares about to pursue their own passions and interests. He’d be the type to share books, discuss theories, or even mentor someone in the finer points of science and technology. Viktor sees knowledge as a gift, and he’d be generous in sharing it with those close to him

•He would likely keep detailed records of the health and well-being of those he cares about. He’d have files on their medical history, notes on their preferences, and even journals documenting their emotional states over time. While this might seem clinical, it’s Viktor’s way of ensuring he can provide the best care possible—by being as informed as he can be

•Viktor’s love and care are often shown in quiet, almost unnoticed ways. He might not be openly affectionate, but his actions speak volumes. Whether it’s fixing something before the other person even realizes it’s broken, or leaving little gifts of technology that make life easier, Viktor’s care is subtle but deeply felt

•Viktor has a special routine for putting themnto bed. Every night, he reads them a story from his collection of old Zaun tales, his voice soft and soothing. After the story, he uses a tiny Hextech device he created that projects calming, starry lights onto the ceiling, helping them drift off to sleep with a sense of wonder. He’ll always tuck them in just right, making sure they feel safe and snug before giving them a gentle goodnight

•When it’s mealtime, Viktor takes extra care in preparing food for the age regressor. He understands that during regression, certain textures and tastes can be comforting or distressing, so he always makes sure to prepare something they love. Whether it's cutting sandwiches into fun shapes or making warm soup when they’re feeling vulnerable, Viktor’s attention to detail makes every meal feel like an act of love. He even designed a spoon that changes colors when it’s too hot, to make feeding time a bit more playful and safe

•He’ll gather a collection of simple, safe materials and together they’ll create small gadgets or toys. Viktor patiently explains how each piece works, encouraging them to explore their curiosity. The look of pride on their face when they finish a project together is one of Viktor’s greatest joys. Sometimes, they’ll even design little robots that can move around, making the little one giggle with delight as their creation comes to life

•Viktor is incredibly patient and always there with gentle words of reassurance. If his sweetheart ever feels overwhelmed or scared, Viktor kneels down to their level, offering a warm smile and reminding them that they’re safe. He’s quick to scoop them up into a comforting hug if they need it, his hold gentle yet secure. His presence is a constant source of comfort, a steady anchor in their sometimes turbulent world

•Viktor loves surprising them with little inventions he makes specifically for them. One day, they might find a music box that plays their favorite tune, or a tiny Hextech creature that lights up and follows them around the room. Each surprise is crafted with so much care and love, and the regressor’s wide-eyed wonder and joy are the best rewards Viktor could ask for

•If his sunshine has a bad dream, Viktor is quick to respond. He’ll sit by their side, softly humming a calming tune, and gently stroke their hair until they’re ready to talk about what scared them. Viktor listens intently, offering comfort and reassuring them that everything is alright. He might even stay with them until they fall back asleep, or create a small device that projects soothing lights to chase away the lingering fear

•Viktor cherishes the quiet mornings when they wakes up. He’ll help them get dressed, choosing soft, comfortable clothes that they like. Breakfast is always a special time, Viktor prepares their favorite foods, and they eat together while Viktor listens to them excitedly talk about their dreams or plans for the day. He loves seeing their bright smile first thing in the morning; it’s the best way to start his day, too !

If you're in the basic criteria , are DSMP fans, vivziep0p fans , h0tel/h3lluva b0ss fans, Owl h0use fans, St4r butterfly fans, Ghibli fans, ddlg/abdl blogs, nsfw/k!nk blogs, anti-agere blogs, or anti Christians/Christianity blogs : just dont interact !

[littleprincerianne]

Pick-and-Choose Game !

It's bath time, kiddo ! Don't wanna be icky and sticky, right ?

1. Pick out a towel, pretty please ⁽⁠⁽⁠ଘ⁠(⁠ ⁠ˊ⁠ᵕ⁠ˋ⁠ ⁠)⁠ଓ⁠⁾⁠⁾

2. Bath toys ? Sure, pick out two !

3. Pick a bath bomb ! Let's make bath time colourful and pretty (⁠*⁠ﾉ⁠・⁠ω⁠・⁠)⁠ﾉ⁠♫

4. Now, the important stuff... We need to get our hair washed, take your pick !

5. Now the more important thing... BUBBLES (⁠ノ⁠^⁠_⁠^⁠)⁠ノ

6. Okie-dokie, last thing... Pick a sponge thingy !

Hooray ! We're all set and good to go ! Have fun !

(comment y'all's answers !)

[ivymoonstudios]

annabeth chase

[quins-makeshift-menagerie]

As most of you know I try my best to be civil and kind. I’m too exhausted and the world sucks too much for me to go about making other people feel like shit, it’s not really something I see worthy of my or anyone’s time really. I try to keep things positive not only because it might brighten someone else’s day but for my own sake. I curate this space because I know a lot of you feel and experience the same things I do. Do not twist this into me being delusional. I am fully aware the internet can be an unkind place, but that doesn’t mean my blog, my space, has to follow that example.

Be kind, be patient, and be respectful, not that the majority of you haven’t already been doing so. Asks are open again. Anonymous will be turned on again when I feel comfortable.

Apologies to those who used anon because they were nervous/anxious. I completely understand where you’re coming from and this is nothing against you. Regardless I do hope you stick around, and maybe one day work up the courage to be open with me. Or continue to keep your distance, I completely understand that too.

[mike-milkyway]

In my head the Zosan babies came to be in a very quirky way, mostly because I wanted them to be biological children of Zoro and Sanji and at the same time I couldn't decide who would get the mpreg treatment.

Finally, I decided how it would go with the help of Ivankov, Law and specially Nami.

Ivankov swapped either Sanji or Zoro (that's up to you to decide) and Law came after some time and used his devil fruit to pass the baby (???) to Nami, as she volunteered to be the kinda sorta surrogate mother.

During the first months she powered through the exaggerated over-protection of Zoro and Sanji as well as their insistence to be around her all the time to check on her and "hang out with the kid".

Then OH? Surprise surprise, it wasn't just a kid. They were having twins.

Nami was shocked, Zoro almost has a heart attack and Sanji had a nervous meltdown. As for Law and Chopper they actually expected it because of Sanji's brothers.

Either way, the next months Nami guilt-tripped everyone in the ship into treating her like royalty with the excuse that doing stuff with the twins was hard. When the day came Vivi, Zoro and Sanji where in the room. It went smoothly, well, at least medically.

Zoro and Sanji were very stressed from the start but when the girls came out with green hair and a curly brow Nami had to scold them, so they would stop bickering (Secretly they were smitten by this traits).

Anyways, this is why Nami and Vivi will never have kids.

Not like she has to have other kid to fullfil Zoro and Sanji's obsession for the number three, Luffy just picked up and orphan and gave it to them that Christmas because he saw they were excited about having kids earlier that year.

[too-sxft-for-all-of-it]

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[myfandomrealitea]

Me: Hey, so, actually, for the sake of me not killing myself I would actually love spaces where I can play Animal Crossing or share baking recipes or talk about Captain America showing hole for Iron Man without people sending videos of dead children and police brutality and trauma-dumping their personal issues on me. I also think its important over-all for these spaces to exist and be accessible and protected. Random Idiots Online: So you're a white-privileged racist? You know everything is political, right? You want us to just co-exist with bigots? What about my uncle's daughter's best friend's queer goldish?? What about people being blatantly transphobic in the chat? You're just going to say you hate all black people like that? White pig.

[if-loki-was-a-fox]

This is 100% a "seeing myself" thing, but I freaking love so many of the hermits seem to use pestering as a significant part of expressing affection, as a whole Love Language just of pestering and bothering

[tetzoro]

the day the earth stood still is the day i felt your presence leave it, and then every day after that.

[jaredwormsboyslizardsquad]

Aromantic Squad I need your help because words fail me. Describe the difference between a Normal Friendship, a Squish (a crush but for desire to be homies), and a QPR (if that's thing you do/consider). Thank you.

[bigbeansana]

Hi little one!

Oh no! What happened? Did you fall!?

Oh my goodness! It’s okay now, mommy is here! Can you get up and walk? No?

But it’s just a little scratch?

Ohhhh, you just want to be held! Okay, mommy can hold you and clean up that scratch on your knee. Wipe those tears baby, mommy is here ❤️

Mommy will keep you safe and sound now.