#teacher abuse

[blogofsara]

TW: Mention Of Abuse

I was psychologically, emotionally and verbally abused by my elementary school teachers but I didn't become a Serial Killer who kills teachers who yell at their students..... Dear Rosamund, your logic makes no sense! (Original screen: Auric180).

[vague-humanoid]

A 74-year-old former teacher in Wisconsin was found guilty of repeatedly sexually assaulting a teenage student and faces hundreds of years in prison for the crimes, authorities said.

Anne N. Nelson-Koch was convicted by a Monroe County jury on the 25 counts against her for sexually assaulting a 14-year-old male student in the basement of a private school in Tomah during the 2016-2017 school year, Monroe County District Attorney Kevin Croninger said in a July 31 press release.

The jury deliberated for five hours before returning a guilty verdict.

“The victim of these crimes is an incredibly brave young man,” Assistant District Attorney Sarah M. Skiles wrote. “He spoke the truth, and the jury heard him loud and clear. We are so grateful to the jury for their dedication to finding the truth.”

[the-joyful-abyss]

يعني ايه ٩ ساعات متواصلين شغال محاضرات ولسه مكمل كمان ساعتين 🫠🫠🫠

[lolitaology]

He said, ‘Behave yourself,’ with that smirk of his, and all I could think was, ‘Make me.’ Preferably over your knee, if we’re being honest.

[gorextoy]

until I have enough for these I’ll keep dreaming . ݁₊ ⊹ . ݁˖ . ݁

[k1nkybunnyy]

I'd love to know what it feels like being groped and used by a teacher or professor 😵‍💫 risking his job for me..

[supreme-leader-stoat]

"Homeschooling should be banned, it's only ever used by insane conspiracy theorists who think the public school system is run by the devil and doesn't even teach kids basic literacy or social skills and [three paragraph rant that just tells me you've never sat down and talked with a homeschooled person in your life]."

[waambles]

We love Gale memes, we don’t stand real Gale slander.

[amazingdeadfish]

Who's Mr. Wukong's crush in the LMK High School Teacher AU? Is it mr. macaque because he's always "making faces at each other in the assemblies?" Also, does macaque have a love interest in this au. If so who is it? (not me shipping teachers at lmk school. lol)

Mr Sun (Wukong)'s love interest is (unfortunate for shadowpeach shippers) not Macaque. Though, that might be for the better, because they're already a handful when they hate each other.

As for who is actually Mr Sun's love interest (it's not actually confirmed, but there's a ton of student speculation. Mr Sun has never outrightly confessed he even has a crush, nor will he ever. That doesn't mean he doesn't have endless rants about the main suspect unprompted at any given moment though, and get too excited when the main suspect is in the vicinity), here is a small comic that might answer it better than measly words:

For your second question? Well-

Continuation from here

[one-time-i-dreamt]

One of my teachers from school was an evil doctor/Arby's manager, and he abused both powers in equal measure.

[ceoandslutler]

not to always complain about antis but why do they read/watch kuro if they hate sebastian this much

he's the mc how do u have beef w him so bad, interpret him however u want but if you genuinely dislike him... why put yourself thru the torture of reading his story (and this is about him, no way to argue against that)

like are you just gonna ignore all his development with the other servants... he is the epitome of an allegorical queer coded outcasted non human character who finds kinship in other odd (queer) people. how are you ignoring that lol

you can interpret main characters as morally grey or evil (a lot of times they are) but atp it feels like antis hate him and ignore any changes or developments in his personality, at least acknowledge him as part of the 'phantomfam' he helped to create. there would be no phantomfam w/o sebastian because there would be no o!ciel and phantomhive manor w/o sebastian,,, hell, there'd be no kuroshitsuji w/o sebastian. actually fun fact it's called 黒執事 kuroshitsuji (black butler) not 貴族子 kizokuko (noble kid).

they hate him until they sexualise him into the molds they want, usually within the ships they like [nothing wrong with those ships per se but they're viewed as 'correct' while the most canonical ship is wrong(?)] or they only love him after they take away all his sexual characteristics and turn him into a cat loving spinster, a dad/mom figure with no other characteristics other than (1) love cat, (2) dad/mombastian, (3) cooking and cleaning, nothing else but that ruins him because he's not that flat of a character in the original work... from what we've seen he likes a lot of things, he enjoys playing this butler game with ciel, he likes being mean and flirty, he likes being around certain humans like agni who he genuinely seemed to respect despite being a demon, he likes the concept of death and finds it beautiful, he has an eye for fashion and a lot more.

the way they treat him is akin to how society treated women in the victorian era... either the angel of the house (maternal figure, or in his case, paternal but they do momify him a lot, no sexualised identity or made limited and very 'pure'/'demure') or the hated demonised prostitute (evil evil demon taking advantage of little boy, no parental feelings and no feelings AT ALL, worthless). it's laughable how half of the fandom have such an innate dislike of sebs that they want to deny the changes within him or in the best case scenario, they'd minimise it. not to mention how they want ciel to be the perfect little sex-repulsed victim but other people have made posts about that before. my focus is on sebastian who is so grossly mischaracterised by antis, they are either purposely misunderstanding him or just very obtuse.

you guys have two interpretations of him and both are either dead wrong or at best extremely misinformed lol

[lolitaology]

He mentioned his wife again today. I’m sure she’s lovely, but if she ever gets tired of him, I’m ready to step in and pick up where she left off.

[g0ddamnb0x]

Considering how bad Gideon and Harrow's childhoods were, I find it very sadfunny how in NtN it is a plot point how a teacher mistakes Nona for a abused child.

[mxtxfanatic]

Just for the record, I actually don’t hate any mdzs character. Mxtx’s stories are so well-crafted that I love the roles that every character plays. I love the chills and digust that Jin Guangyao inspires in me. I loved the hatred that Xue Yang causes to flare up in me when I reread the Yi City arc. I love the amusement I get every time Jiang Cheng lives up to his failed-hero role, doubly so when I remember that he is also a failed-villain because Xue Yang is actually the better version of him lmao. I love dissecting Nie Mingjue’s hypocrisy in what it means when Wei Wuxian thinks of him as an “upholder of morality.” I love the pity that I feel for Lan Xichen such that I struggle to commit to how I view him just like how he struggles with how to view those he loves. And the complexity and diversity of each character’s life experiences and autonomous choices is the icing on the cake that makes fans’ (me included) obsessions over them wholly understandable.

What I hate is feeling coerced into liking a character how fandom wants me to like them, especially if the “evidence” supporting liking said character is just popular fanon that the fandom has taken as gospel truth. The more I feel pressured into ignoring a character’s canon personality to adopt a fanfic version of them whose only similarity is that they share a name, the harsher I want to be with my critique of them. Don’t give me morally righteous!Nie Mingjue who totally would’ve defended the Wen and I won’t give you hypocrite!Nie Mingjue who deserved to be cut into pieces, just not by the person who did it. Don’t give me best brother, best jiujiu!Jiang Cheng and I won’t give you pathetic manbaby!Jiang Cheng who deserved to have Wei Wuxian’s golden core removed from him the hard way for his ungratefulness and for his sister to come back to life to bitch slap him for how he treats her son. Don’t give me best bro wangxian shipper!Lan Xichen and I won’t give you morally weak!Lan Xichen who deserved every bit of the psychological torture Nie Huaisang put him through for his inability to truly stand by any of his brothers, biological or sworn.

Don’t give me some “everyone is secretly good with no flaws” bullshit and I won’t feel the need to balance it out by listing every single one of their sins and nailing it to the door like Martin Luther. I like these characters. Don’t turn me into a hater, cause if you think I’m mean now? Lol

[guess-that-ship]

S14 Round 1

Hey Man. Please Communicate With Your Husband

cw: age gap, student x teacher, bad communication, child abuse mention, major spoilers

A is a bodysnatcher, who (not by choice) takes over the body of an abusive mentor of B's. A grows instead into a beloved mentor and father figure for B, and is the only person aware that A will later be forced by something of a prophecy to banish B and ruin his life. A knows that B will return, and expects B to kill him for it. B comes back, and instead of killing A, wants to know why he did it. Terrified upon his return and not listening to anything B says, A flees and fakes his death.

B spends the next several years searching for a way to bring A back. When B finally finds A is still alive, B has a breakdown so bad that A realizes what B needed all along was just for A to talk to him. They finally talk and A apologizes, in as much as he knows how to do that.

They end the series married, and B has no idea that he still doesn’t know A's name.

Vocally Bound

Aquamarine needs someone to kill his father for him, and Obsidian needs someone who accepts him, including his past.

Aquamarine discovers Obsidian's history as a supernatural serial murderer, and blackmails him into doing his bidding. Obsidian never even sees his face, only receiving audible messages from him. Given Aquamarine's high social standing, and the even greater power behind his father, it's only natural that he'd be careful.

Aquamarine is harsh, and malicious. He tests Obsidian's loyalty and skill, and relishes the opportunity to be less than graceful in his demeanor. So then, the longer the threats persist, the more Obsidian finds them a comfort; after all, the safest knife is that which is held to one's back, yet refuses to pierce the skin. At the end of it all, what is an enemy who refuses to strike, if not a friend?

[onbearfeet]

Crawl

I keep thinking about power, and corruption, and revelation.

I really like that Robert Caro line about Bob Moses--the idea that power doesn't always corrupt, but it always reveals. When you give a guy the power to do whatever he's always wanted to do, you find out what he's always wanted to do.

I think about slavery, and I think about my fourth-grade math workbook.

I lost the workbook, early in the year. No idea how. This would have been 1993, 1994, decades before kids did their math exercises online. You had a paper textbook and a paper workbook and you tore out the workbook pages and turned them in for homework. And if you lost the workbook, at least at my tiny church school where all the books were produced by an expensive fundie publisher in Florida, well, there were no replacements. So I had to ask my friends, every day, to let me photocopy their workbooks in the office before they did their homework so I could do it too. This was difficult because I was a gawky, "ugly" little girl with big glasses and a bigger vocabulary, and I didn't have a lot of friends. Or any friends, really. So what I actually did was beg a different person who disliked me every day, hoping they'd get over it by the time I cycled through the class again.

You're probably wondering about the slavery.

The early modern slave trade is tricky to teach children about in a school where half the teachers and most of the parents think white supremacy is a good idea that just hasn't gotten a fair shake. But my teacher tried, and to her credit, she started with an exercise designed to teach us that the idea of owning human beings is fundamentally fucked up.

Unfortunately, she did that by instituting slavery.

She explained what slavery was, and encouraged each of us to write a list of what we would want our own personal slave to do for us, if we had one. (I know. I KNOW.) She suggested things like carrying our books or fetching our lunches from our cubbies at lunchtime. I remember seeing everyone else writing a lot, and wondering whether I was doing the exercise wrong. I didn't want anyone else touching my stuff or doing things for me that I could do for myself. It felt weird and cruel to demand such things. I decided that the only valid purpose of any kind of servant, or assistant, or whatever was to do things for you that you COULDN'T do for yourself. So I wrote down: Let me copy your math workbook before you do your homework.

The teacher collected our papers, paired us up, and announced that half of each pair would be the other half's personal slave for the week, switching positions the following week. And then she revealed the twist: the only things any of us had to do as "slaves" were the things we had written down that we wanted our slaves to do for us.

There was a lot of complaining, of course, but we'd all dug our own graves, as it were. I remember the teacher coming by to collect my list, looking down at my one sentence, and smiling a little. The only kid in the class who needed to copy a workbook was me ... and I didn't have one anyone else could copy. I would spend my week of "slavery" doing absolutely nothing because I had barely scratched the graveyard dirt. My partner was utterly disgusted when she saw the single useless obligation on my list. She was baffled when I looked at hers and asked her very politely not to do any of that, please, unless the teacher said she had to. I think I eventually let her fetch my books once a day out of a vague sense of good sportsmanship and not wanting her to get a bad grade in the unit.

For the next two weeks, I watched fourth-graders performing their personal slavery fantasies for one another. I particularly remember the most popular boy in class knee-walking to fetch books from his partner's cubby and complaining the whole way. I remember thinking: Why would anyone want to see someone else crawl?

That was the part that never made sense to me: the shockingly common desire to see a stranger humiliated. It didn't seem like anyone enjoyed seeing it, so why had so many kids wished for it?

That's the image that runs through my head every time I hear about a famous artist being abusive. For CEOs, it makes sense; that seems like a life path that attracts people who like exploiting other people. Same for politicians. But artists? Who goes into ART expecting to become powerful? I can only assume that, for the rare artists who make it big, it's kind of a shock. It's unplanned, on some level. Lightning striking. Sure, they usually got help from societal privilege and rich parents, but a lot of talented nepo babies DON'T make it big. There's obviously some luck involved for those who do. And they probably don't have a clear idea what to do with power beyond their own vague impulses, the ones they would have written down in that fourth-grade classroom.

And I keep wondering, when stories come out about artists being abusive and the people around them all normalizing it: was I really the only kid who just wrote down let me copy your (blank) workbook?

Fourth-graders aren't adults, of course. Plenty of us are little shits as kids and manage to function in a society when we grow up. Maybe more of us would leave the list blank as grownups. Certainly more of us would spot the trap the teacher was laying. But as I listen to some of my neighbors talk about the election and what they'll do to their "enemies" when their "turn" comes, I wonder if I'm weirder than I thought. Maybe I'm the freak for not wanting to see anyone crawl. (I mean, if it makes you happy, you do you, but don't trouble your knees on my account.)

I think about the Neil Gaiman allegations. About him and his five-year-old son (allegedly) giving a vulnerable young woman humiliating orders, and people around them just ... rolling their eyes. Not thinking it's weird and cruel, just understanding the impulse to see someone crawl.

I wonder what I'd do. Not in an if-I-won-the-lottery way, more of an if-I-saw-a-terrible-accident way. What would I do with that kind of power? Would I still be the kid who just wanted to have the same homework everyone else got, or would I discover I've become someone who wants to see crawling? Does power corrupt? Is that why the most popular boy was the one with the wildest demands?

And if power doesn't necessarily corrupt, but it does reveal ... how weird is it that it so seldom reveals an empty list?

Of course, people acting decently doesn't often make the news. The only celebrity to come through the Neil Gaiman accusations looking good is Michael Stipe, who hosted a gathering at his home for the victims to meet and support one another and who doesn't seem to have harmed anyone in the process. Maybe all his neighbors are okay empty-list folks too, and they're not mentioned because he happened to have the good fire pit.

I don't know. Sometimes I think I was the only kid in that cult who heard do unto others as you would have them do unto you and thought that sounds like a pretty good idea.

I'm not entirely sure where I'm going with this. I know there shouldn't be so many people with the power to make others crawl. But I can't help wondering how much of the perception that all of us, deep down, want to see that is the truth ... and how much is monsters lying to themselves out loud.

Maybe we hear them say Doesn't everybody want to see someone crawl? and we're afraid to say no, actually, that's just you.

Then again, maybe my girlfriend's right, and it's the 'tism.