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Consequences Part 2
RPF
Warnings: Talk of Cheating, STD, Language, Angst,Â
Parings: Timothee Chalamet x Reader
Word Count: 1,244
Two weeks was how long you had to wait for the test results to come in. Timothee and you both got tested for every other STD it was possible to get tested for safe measures. Heâd only known the extra for several days before heâd slept with her. Not long to know where and who someone had been with.Â
Your home was cold the last few weeks. Timothee had been staying in the guest room. You didn't talk to one another aside from one or two words here and there. You could hardly look at him. All of the feeling and rage that you thought youâd pushed aside when you found out he cheated was filling you now. Yes, when you found out he cheated you cried and was pissed. But those feelings quickly faded when you saw how much his actions were eating him alive. You saw that it really was a mistake and he learned from it. You had no doubt that he would never do that again.
Now you were enraged that he could even think of cheating, even if he was drunk. You were betrayed and so hurt. And now, you are terrified of having this disease. This constant reminder of someone elseâs careless actions. Someone who was supposed to love, take care of you, keep you safe.
You both sat in the doctorâs office in front of the desk, waiting for him to come into the room. Waiting, more waiting. Timotheeâs leg bounced with anxiety. He fiddled with his fingers as he absentmindedly looked around the office. He was scared. But unlike all the other times you would hold him and assure him it would be okay, you didnât. Because you didnât know. You werenât even sure you were going to stay with him after this. Deep down he knew that, too.
The door opened, making both of you jump as the doctor walked in. âGood morning.â The doctor said cheerfully. It made you roll your eyes. âI have both your test results here.â He said placing two folders on his desk. He looked up at the two of you. âAre you sure you want to do this together? Normally we do this separately.â
âWeâre sure.â Timothee answered, rubbing the palms of his hands nervously on his jean clad knees.
âAlright then,â He opens the file. âWeâll start off with Ms. Y/L/N.â He looks over the paper in his hand. Youâre holding on to your bag tightly, heart racing. âAll of your STD panels came back negative.â You and Timothee both exhale in relief as the doctorâs eyes scan the page. âNo HIV or anything like that.â He looks up at you. âYou are a little anemic so I would make sure you get more iron in you. You can get over the counter supplements.âÂ
You nod your head. âOkay.â You take another breath. âIs that all?â
âYeah. You are a very healthy young lady.â He placed the paper into the folder and grabs Timotheeâs. âNow Mr. Chalamet.â He lifts the page out of the manilla folder. âYour STD panel came back inconclusive.âÂ
âInconclusive? What does that mean?â You ask before Timothee can open his mouth.Â
âMost of your results came back negative.â The doctor explains. âBut Your HIV results arenât clear.â
You reach over, taking Timotheeâs hand, entwining your fingers. He squeezed you hand with both of his. âSo, what do we do?â You ask, looking at the doctor.
âWe will do another blood draw. Retest.â The doctor looks at Timothee. âIâll be honest with you,â His hand tightens around yours. âYou have some abnormalities with your white blood cell count. Have you been sick lately?â
Timothee shakes his head. âJust tired. With my work, I-I-â
âYou could just be overworked.â The doctor looks over the page again. âI donât want to take any chances. We will do another blood draw and run a few other tests.â The doctor closes the folder. âDo you have any questions?â
Timothee swallows hard and looks at you then back to the doctor. âCan you not sugar coat it?â He says finding his voice. âWhat are the odds I'm infected?â
The doctor takes a breath, removing his glasses. âIt is harder for a woman to give it to a man, but you admit to not using protection. All it takes is one time.â He exhales again. âBut your white blood cell count shows something is going on. The results do align with being infected, yes.â You felt Timothee go rigid. âEven though you havenât passed it to Y/N doesnât mean you are in the clear. But these results can mean a dozen other things as well. Is it probable because you were exposed, yes. Is it 100% positive, no.âÂ
âWhen does he get retested?â You ask.
âRight now.â The doctor stands. âFollow me and Iâll show you to the lab.â
You hold his hand as you follow the doctor and watch him squint when the nurse sticks the needle into his arm. You drive back to the apartment, Timothee showing no sign of emotions the entire drive. He doesnât talk or even look your way. He doesnât comment about your results or even look away from the car window.Â
When you got home, he walked into the apartment and straight to the guest room. You followed him, opening the bedroom door. He was laying in the bed, back to the door. You didnât say anything. You crawled into the bed behind him and wrapped your arms around him. The moment you embraced him he broke. The tears fell down his face as he sobbed hysterically. You didnât say a thing, just held him. Timothee cried until he had nothing left in him. No tears, no energy to let his body be wracked with his own fear and self-loathing.Â
When he finally calmed, he just laid there with no emotion on his face. You still stayed silent. You just let him know you were still there by holding him tight, as close as you could.Â
The room had been quiet for a long time, you thought heâd fallen asleep. You were surprised when you heard his voice groggily speak. âIâm sorry.â He says, barely audible. âIâm sorry I fucked everything up.â He turns in your arms and his eyes are puffy and red. He looks exhausted. You fight the tears that you know he can see fill your eyes. âWe were supposed to be together forever. Just you and me. We were supposed to have a family and grow old in the city.â He begins to cry again. âI messed it all up and I am so fucking sorry.â
You pull him till your foreheads meet. âShh.â You whisper. âStop it.â You wipe away his tears. âYouâre not alone.â I pull him close, tucking his head beneath my chin. âIâm here, with you.â You kiss the top of his head. âIâm not going anywhere.â You feel him hold you tighter.
You could feel the fear pulsing through him. Before you were ready to leave Timothee, to let him and his cheating self, deal with the consequences of his action on his own, all alone. Which was how you felt when he first cheated. Alone.
In your arms now were the broken pieces of the love of your life. And there was no way in hell you were going to leave him alone. No matter what.
Part 3
#Timothee Chalamet#Timothee#Consequences#part 2#reader insert#timothee x reader#fan fic#fan fiction#RPF#Angst#language#talk of cheateing#STDs
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Local Wizard Goes To Store, Casts Duplicate On All The Items
aka I went to the antique mart this weekend and did a bunch of art studies in augmented reality! SUPER fun way to hone the ol 3D brush skills
#art#video#art video#3d art#artists on tumblr#virtual reality#vr#augmented reality#ar#figmin xr#magic leap#i also shared the magic leap with all the store employees so they knew what i was doing in there lol#they LOVED it and told me to come back anytime#and that they'd share all my work on their insta#extremely wholesome experience#ar glasses are like a cheat code to social interaction for me#they make people approach me first but they do so VERY politely#since it looks like i'm creating something even if they can't see what it is#and then i share the glasses with them and the sheer AWE people experience is so wonderful#and then we instantly have something cool to talk about!#very bizarre that a face-computer could be an anxiety lifehack like this but here we are lol
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Eddie, sharing way too much with his Tiktok following: One time when the band was recording an album in Australia, I was having sex in the kitchen of my rental and-
Eddie: Balls d- no, donât wanna say that. In the middle of it, my boyfriend-at-the-time says, âwhat do you think these countertops are made out of?â
Eddie:
Eddie: Anyways, thatâll humble ya.
#Mike: The fact that you sensored yourself a little bit tells me that you couldâve not posted this at all#Eddieâs fault. Canât do stuff like that with a guy obsessed with kitchens#anyways best kitchen Steveâs ever been in was Eddie and Wayneâs back in Forest Hills#Steve said stop saying my name when you talk about dumb shit we used to do#and Eddie said âbetâ and now has his fans wondering if he and Steve have ever broken up before or if heâs admitting to cheating#eddie munson tiktok saga#eddie munson
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phil being trolled (1, 2, 3)
#honorary mention to the 'dyeing everything green' anecdote but putting two moments from the same vid didn't quite work in this gifset sdjfs#dan and phil#amazingphil#phil lester#dpgdaily#phan#dnp gifs#my gifs#compilation#Don't cheat on people at Christmas#Letâs Talk About Dating#Letâs Talk About Dating.. Again
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josh and donna + walk and talk throughout the seasons
season 3
#twwedit#thewestwingedit#the west wing#donna moss#josh lyman#josh x donna#s3#jdwalk#usersource#smallscreensource#tvandfilm#tvfilmsource#tvfilmgifs#useroptional#userbbelcher#userthing#userstream#tvgifs#tvedit#tvcentric#otpsource#sometimes jd walk and talk is all a girl can offer and that's okay#also i felt like i was cheating with some of those but they were too good not to include#and they were technically... you know#moving and talking
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ahem did anyone think about middle aged tommy kinard with his glasses and greying temples, married to abby clark for two decades and some change, professor of aerospace engineering at this fancy grad school, being tested by this hotspur new kid in his class who gets welcomed by loud cheers of "buck!" anytime he enters a room, who gives everyone but especially tommy the wildest grins, and who simply does not take no for an answer?
if yall didn't, they fuck in tommy's office after hours, after months of buck teasing tommy to hell and back, and tommy trying to rein in all his advances with half-concealed threats. you're welcome.
#buck riding tommy's cock while dirty talking about tommy getting off on cheating on abby...#tommy bending him over and fucking him hard while holding his face down on his desk#anyway#bucktommy#911#mimi.txt
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everybody!! la-de-da-de-de-da!!
[image description: a redraw of the "everybody, everybody" group shot of all of the main characters of homestar runner where they are all depicted as humans. end id]
#get a load of these guys...#i figure that writing a shorter id that summarizes everything is better than going through every single character and describing them#but if a longer id is wanted then Tell Me and i shall do it <3#doc talks#my art#homestar runner#h*r#oh boy time to tag. ALL these characters.#strong bad#strong sad#strong mad#the cheat#marzipan#coach z#king of town#the poopsmith#bubs#pom pom#homsar#is that everyone. im not double checking
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Edwin Payne canonically reads cheap romance novels with gay male characters and likes them. Just in case you didnât know
#âEdwin only likes the classicsâ#âEdwin hasnât caught up with literature published while he was in Hellâ#âEdwin doesnât know that gay people even existâ#Valley of the Dolls#the book he mentioned to Monty in episode 4#and ENJOYS#literally has canonically bisexual and gay men in it#And talks about said bisexual and gay men having GAY SEX AND CHEATING ON THEIR WIVES#thereâs also a lot of drug use#So.#edwin c a n o n i c a l l y enjoys soap-opera style romances#anyway.#edwin payne#dead boy detectives
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WHAT DO YOU MEAN THE KNIGHT OF DAWN SPIRIT IS STUCK IN A RING
Please where does it say that I must know!!!!!!!
calling him "stuck" was mostly a joke (and I don't think he's really a floating little ghostie or anything, more like...just some kind of remnant?) but when he showed up at the end of chapter 5, I read it as his spirit being in/attached somehow to the ring, and I think the implication was meant to be that he (or what was left of him) was the one guiding Silver through Lilia's memories. that may be leaning a little too hard into my personal interpretation, but that's what I thought we were supposed to get out of it! đ¤ˇ
(now watch as they turn directly to the camera in the next update to explain that I've misunderstood everything and the ring is really a tiny little robot that we all must shrink down into to pilot) (which would actually be amazing, can we have that please)
#twisted wonderland#twisted wonderland spoilers#twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers#twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers#joseimuke games are serious business#this is also how i have reconciled with myself why lilia's dream was like#'this world is based off of his memories and only exists around him so we must stay close to him at all times'#(smash cut to the knight on the other side of the country having conversations that lilia couldn't possibly know about)#i know the real answer is cheating for the sake of the narrative#(plus lilia's dream was kinda special and un-malleusified until malleus found him at the end)#and they've since established that dreams can extend really far if your imagination is good enough#but i think it also works to say that we got some of the knight's memories in there too since his spirit was there#and. y'know. ~*magic*~#thank you for coming to my ted talk about the intricate headcanon i have constructed around a minor plot point#for my next topic i (trips and spills note cards everywhere)#(the note cards are just drawings of hearts with meleanor's name written in them)
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Do you think the children of Kronos put a stone wearing a toga on Zeus' throne whenever he is not there and then just continue the meeting... somehow this works brilliantly.
Or simply confusing Zeus for a stone every time he is near one.
(Athena: Father, God King, rarely do I ask for favors. Now I'm knocking on your door. With hopes to save a friendship. With one who's a prisoner far from home. Odysseus.
Stone Zeus:
Athena: Thank you Father!
Poseidon in the background: *gasps* but brother!)
#percy jackon and the olympians#epic the musical#epic the wisdom saga#percy jackson#greek mythology#greek gods#siblings#i would do that#lol#just pretend it is him#they would get so much work done#at least stone zeus doesnt cheat#imagine zeus being on vacay#and the gods simply smiting kronos#zeus coming home to bed simply to see hera sleeping next to a stone#the stone doesnt snore nor cheat#they would give him the most brilliant clothes#pretending to not see zeus while talking to the stone#loudly gasping while proclaiming zeus an imposter#stone zeus#zeus#god games#athena#rock!zeus
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This is a little head cannon/What if Macaque had more original powers, a little more Starry Night dreamlike powers leaning into the more nurturing kind, you know, the moon and sun kind of powers? đ��ď¸
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Maybe in the past, he was like a therapy friend to Wukong, someone he could really be himself with, vent, and tell his secrets without being judged in the safety of his own dreams. Someone he can truly trust, and that was Macaque.
Skip to Redemption Ark for Mac
Now he's a therapy friend to the whole MK team! (Against his will) They cuddle, pet, and vent to him with their problems. He's like one of Sandy's therapy cats, just bigger and grumpier.đžđ⨠he just has this way with people I guess
Okay, this is how it starts: Macaque and Wukong's first encounter was in a dream.
Wukong would not shut up about the pretty demon in his crazy dreams, often to his sworn brothers; he talked about all the fun and crazy adventures he'd have, the long meaningful conversations and jokes, and the occasionally moving pictures of otherworldly strong magical humans with sparkly eyes and spiky hair who wield giant weapons that shoots Fire called anime, and that this had been going on for a few months now.
This annoyed and concerned them; they think it's a demon trying to take over the Monkey King's mind or trying to brainwash him somehow, so Azure Lion and the Sworn Brothers all brainstormed together to devise a plan to somehow confront this tricky dream demon. Wukong doesn't want the fun dreams to end or scare off this other celestial monkey, so he decides to talk to his friend in his dreams. Wukong casually brings up the idea that the macaque should visit Flower Fruit and meet his sworn brothers! Macaque of course hesitates, not sure of the idea of traveling to an unknown island and meeting The Monkey King's questionable choice of sworn brothers, but of course, Wukong, sad and a bit offended, but he doesn't give up.
He decides to bring upon the Ultimate Weapon, begging and whining until Macaque crumbles and gives in, which eventually does. Mac reluctantly agrees to travel over to FFM in disguise, just to be safe he tells Wukong he'll be there. Within a month, Wukong couldn't be more excited; he was like a little kid waiting for Christmas day!
So this is what kinds of powers I think he should have.
đ´ the first pic is crossing over to other people's dreams and making their experience life-like he has illusion magic so this makes sense to me. Wukong and macaque would prank the Brotherhood or play tags and hide and seek in their brother's dreams. đ¸The second pic is the soothing ability to calm one's nerves if they pet or cuddle him like a therapy cat,đ Wukong would groom him for hours to calm his nerves. now come copes with foodđđđ
đ¸đśI saved the best one for last the cute/sad little head Cannon I have
At the end of every dream Mac visits they would end it by dancing to music Mac would bring from the future laughing and stumbling while wukong slowly wakes up, wukong has always gone to bed early But now he goes even earlier to bed. Wukong always thought he was the luckiest monkey in the world he gets to have two Adventure and one of them is with his prettiest best friend Macaque đâ¨the monkey of his dreams.
đ¸ Wukong couldn't truly dream of a world without his bestest friendđĽ°â¨
#monkie kid#lego monkie kid#lmk#sun wukong#six eared macaque#doodle#monkey king#macaque#shadowpeach#third idea of power: creating little stars out of his hands that float around like for his shadow play or a night light for the baby monkey#cute right!?#originally I was going to write a short fanfic about Wukong having nightmares and not being able to sleep because of that Mac notices#and decides to visit Wukong in his dreams#Hong Kong wakes up in his dream within a dream to a beautiful breathtaking flower field and seeing the beautiful sky it looks super Galaxy#and Mac just pops up out of nowhere and tries to start up a conversation#at first he's like cocky and stuff and then he gets little awkward#fumbling with his words and he gets a little bit more flustered wukong is like super confused and surprise to see him here#Mac gives up on trying to talk and just attacks wukong after a while we'll come figures out he's just play fighting they pretty much#just play tag and wukong slowly he gets into it but Mac starts cheating a little bit and this Riles up The Monkey King and they're just#having a blast now and at the end of it they start talking eating a few peaches just joking around it's awkward but it's nice wukongs#grooming him and he's just feeling a whole lot better Mac wants to know what's bothering him but he feels like can wait until Monkey King#Monkey King is ready for that macaque gets up extensive hand to Wukong they try to dance#and they're both terribly out of practice they keep going until they're tumbling and laughing and will come slowly gets up#with a smile on the face and super well-rested all thanks to macaque the monkey of his dreams#seriously if anybody wants to make a fanfic about this you have my full permission I don't know I think you guys can do way better than međŤ
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I'm normal about the wizard I promise
Larian can't hurt me with Gale's slow burn romance if I contribute to the pain
From the line he gives us, it seems Tara did the thinking in the way of using magic items. So the idea that Mr. Hermit never considered asking this of a person didn't feel like much of a stretch đ¤Ł
Okay but joking aside, this idea occurred to me and I just. Needed to exorcise it out of my brain. I knew it wouldn't leave me alone until it existed outside of me lol
As tragic as Mystra's charge is, as far as I can tell Gale seems to avoid reciprocating Tav's advances until he's given it since.... y'know, he might not be around much longer;;;
The way Gale shakes in camp absolutely wrecks me. And I wanted so bad to help him more between when the last item stopped working and when he gets the charge. To do something for him, even if it was a temporary comfort (maybe lose a spell slot or two that day from the cost of something like this?). Larian has already done so, so much in the way of camp interactions like the ones with Astarion (the mirror, the scars, etc) and I am so thoroughly grateful and impressed with what we already get but aeugh, I WANT it haha
Small cameo from @chocolatefrizz89's durge on that last page since this is a multiplayer run~!
#gale dekarios#gale of waterdeep#gale x tav#bg3#bg3 spoilers#bg3 gale#gale romance#baldurs gate gale#Baldur's Gate 3#baldur's gate iii#bg3 tav#tav#bg3 sorcerer#sorcerer tav#also can we talk about how CRAZY POWERFUL SORCERERS ARE?#bg3 is my introduction to DnD i basically knew nothing about it until this game#spellcasters intimidated me at first; the whole thing was a little overwhelming#but this sorcerer playthrough now that I'm getting the hang of things better? holy crap#sorcerer feels like cheating sometimes lmao#art#my art#myart
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the theme of purity/uncleanliness which is integral to samâs character is very much female coding but spn fandom isnât ready for this conversation
#thereâs also so much to say about the way dean treats him when he learns about ruby and samâs addiction#he kind of treats sam like a wh*re#and he quite literally acts like a raging husband who learned his wife is cheating on him#which also plays out very blatantly in 4.14 where the siren says that dean craves the ideal version of sam#aka sam who is virginally pure. who isnât poisoned/dirtied by the demonic blood#we need to talk more about these metaphors#sam winchester#wincest#samdean#spn
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the 2019-2020 (dan and) phil secret project
april 2019 | july 2019 | august 2019 | january 2020 (1, 2) | february 2020 (1, 2) | april 2021
#like with the way they're being all ominous now i was thinking. have they ever teased a secret project this much before.#and like i think all the secret project hints in 2019-2020 is a close second.#if u saw me mention all these moments on my main blog in text-form a few months ago no u didn't#and also. i had to cheat the talentworks podcast gifs a bit sjdfs cause i don't think they filmed the whole podcast#so i had to use a clip from where he was talking about smth else <3#and the way i had to redownload stereo just so i can gif Something from that liveshow sjdfs#dan and phil#danisnotonfire#daniel howell#phil lester#amazingphil#dpgdaily#phan#dnp gifs#compilation#my gifs#The Scary Reason I Didnât Buy A House#Draw My Life: Part 2#Vidcon 2019#Vidcon 2020#dnp instagram stories#dnp tweets#dnp interviews#Decorating Dweebs#dnp liveshows
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josh and donna + walk and talk throughout the seasons
season 4
#twwedit#thewestwingedit#the west wing#donna moss#josh lyman#josh x donna#s4#jdwalk#usersource#smallscreensource#tvandfilm#tvfilmsource#tvfilmgifs#useroptional#userbbelcher#userthing#userstream#tvgifs#tvedit#tvcentric#otpsource#tried sooo hard to find a way to include the inauguration scene but sadly it would be cheating too much#they walk and they talk but not at the same time </3#i was excited for this season's gifset but sadly didn't like how it turned out all that much
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How To Stop Killing Conversations
Talking is hard. People are confusing. Making friends is difficult, and interacting with coworkers is tortuous.
You want to make friends, you want to reach out, but it's hard and every time you start a conversation it dies, or limps along until both you and the person you're talking to are looking for excuses to kill it and put it out of it's misery so you can both escape the increasingly awkward situation.
As an introvert who has suffered a lot of social anxiety in my time, let me share a few tricks I've learned over the years going through hundreds and thousands of excruciatingly painful conversations until I found something that works. I've kind of distilled the process.
ALWAYS ASK A QUESTION!!!
The first thing is to always leave your partner an opening. You need to let each other talk for a conversation to get off the ground, but it's more than that, really. You need to actively encourage each other to talk. The best way to do that is to ask questions.
Here are two examples of an introduction: Example A
You: Hello.
Them: Hello.
You: Nice to meet you.
Them: Nice to meet you too.
Example B
Y: Hello, nice to meet you, how are you? T: Iâm doing well, yourself?
Y: I've been really well. How are you liking the weather?
T: I'm so happy the weather's finally getting cooler, I'm looking forward to pumpkin spice season. Do you like lattes?
Do you see how in Example A the conversation wasnât going anywhere? It just kinda died, because there werenât any openings for new topics, whereas in Example B, there were openings to keep the conversation going.
But what do you do if your conversation partner is as socially inept as you were two minutes ago and doesn't play along? All is not lost.
Example C
Y: Hello, so nice to meet you, how have you been doing?
T: I'm doing well.
Y: That's great, are you enjoying the nice weather, then?
T: Yeah. I'm glad it's finally fall, I'm looking forward to pumpkin spice lattes.
Y: I love pumpkin spice lattes! Pumpkin spice anything, really. I recently got the best pumpkin spice candle at the shop down the road, have you been there?
Even if they don't leave you an opening, you can usually make one. It may be difficult, especially when they don't give you much to work with. This is where having a go-to script is a life-saver--me, I always default to talking about the weather, so when in doubt, you can do that.* The important thing right now is to keep fostering the conversation, so once you bring up the weather, segue into a question. When they answer the question, make a brief comment or observation from your own experience and build off of that comment or observation to ask another question.
"But I don't want to make it about me. Doing that's bad, right?"
This is why that questions are important. If you haven't been asked a question, you kinda have to make it about you, you don't have a choice. But to keep from being an attention hog, follow up your shared experience or anecdote with another question.
Example D
T: I love pumpkin spice lattes
Y: Me too. I had the best pumpkin spice latte the other day at the cafe down the road, have you ever been there?
Now you've circled the conversation back around to them again, and you aren't taking the limelight. Sharing an experience is so important, you're trying to show that you understand, that you sympathize, that you relate.**
This really is the most important element of being a good conversationalist. You have to keep asking questions.
The one other thing I will touch on is introductions. DO NOT get into turn based combat.
Example E
Y: Hello
T: Hello
Y: Nice to meet you
T: Nice to meet you too.
Y: How are you doing?
T: I'm fine. You?
Y: Me too.
This will kill any possibility of continuing a conversation. Instead, get it all out of the way all at once, if at all possible.
Example F
Y: Hi, it's nice to meet you, how are you doing?
This is good, but this is better
Example G
Y: Hi, nice to meet you, how are you liking the weather?
Don't ask how they are doing, or if you do, before they can answer, follow it up with your placeholder (weather etc.) so they have to say some thing like
Example H
T: I'm fine, and I'm really liking the weather.
or
T: Not so great, the weather sucks.
Either of those options are much easier to work with than your basic "I'm fine."
Usually, if you can get past the introduction, you can get a conversation going. And then, even if you don't end up hitting it off with the person you're talking with, you at least don't leave the conversation feeling like you've died a thousand tiny deaths.
In fact, if you get past that introduction, you may have just made yourself a friend.
Remember folks, basically everyone around you is more afraid of you than you are of them, and in this benighted age no one has been taught conversation skills, so we are all pretty much in the same boat. (Unless you were born an extrovert, in which case we are all deeply envious and would probably kill you if we didn't need you in our sad and lonely lives so much.)
Have grace for one another, and for yourselves because talking with people is difficult.
Go forth, and stop killing conversations.
*If you are one of those awful people who likes to brag about how you hate small talk and only want to talk about important and meaningful things, I have one question: Do you ever have a conversation that lasts long enough to become meaningful? I thought not. Small talk is an important skill. Develop it.
**This is how you deal with sad or difficult situations too. When you want to show you sympathize with someone going through a hard time.
Example:
Y: How are you doing?
T: Not very well. My dog died last week.
Y: Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that. My own dog died last year and I still miss her a lot. How are you handling it?
Now you've circled the conversation back around to them again. You aren't making it about you.
If y'all want, next time I can share how to extricate yourself from a conversation.
#formatting is hard sorry#but this is something i've picked up from chatting with THOUSANDS of people on language exchange apps over the last few years#and it's something i taught to some family members recently and i've seen marked improvement in their social skills since then#so i figured maybe it would be helpful to others#i had to learn it all by myself and it was so painful#if i'd had a cheat sheet life would have been better#also lately i have had to be the only one keeping conversations going WITH PEOPLE WHO TALKED TO ME FIRST#because they have no clue how to converse with other people#and it's not their fault#this isn't really taught to us#but its also a lot of work#if you're going to start a conversation you should make some effort to keep it going unless you are going to walk away
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