#taking a step back

[lady-embers]

With the amount of nastiness going on in the Fandom right now, I'm taking a step back. This isn't forever as I do have some commissions in the works as well as some posts for Gwynriel and Elucien waiting in my queue for you all to enjoy.

I also can't wait for Elucien week in a few weeks!!! I think you all are going to love what I have planned for them 🌻💛

[sincerelyang3l]

vent?:

Not really more of just a PSA 😭🤷‍♀️

So I’m working on a drawing rn but after it’s done, I think I’m going to be taking a break from art for a little while.

I’ve been incredibly mentally exhausted lately and I don’t have the will power to keep pouring so much into all my art just for it to go unappreciated and be lost to the algorithm. It’s been a rough last couple of weeks and I’m just so overwhelmed with everything.

I’ve got six unfinished drawings sitting in my painting app just waiting to be finished and I’m just feeling let down because I don’t see much of a point. I know artists should draw for themselves not for others but right now I’m needing a little bit of praise and it’s just not coming. 😊

So for the time being I’m just going to take a step back and reevaluate my art and what I do it for. I need time to get over this spell and hopefully get back to drawing again like normal. 🙏

[mental-health-advice]

Submission about grades

I'm stupid, I would've gotten 3/4 questions on a AP Physics 1 HW wrong if my friend hadn't helped me. I'm a so called GT/AP student, so smart and skilled and molded from elementary school. I'm not worth anything if I can't good great grades and keep up with/outperform my friends.

I'm not suicidal but I say things like I want to kill myself because I think the shock of such an awful statement takes the stress off. Like you just need to scream and get everything out and such a serious statement kinda snaps you out of it.

I'm probably a horrible person for trivializing suicide but I can't help but use it for it's own purposes

Hey there,

Even though I don’t personally know you I do not think you are stupid at all for feeling as though you need to get good grades as that’s what’s expected of you or what you expect of yourself. Almost like without good grades or getting grades that are better than your friends then you are nothing.

In instances like this I feel as though it’s really important to take a step back and just try to enjoy your surroundings. Like what’s happening around you, what can you see, hear or smell. Go for a walk and take note of what other people are doing, sit down on a public bench and just people watch or watch the world around you for a little while. By doing this you are not only giving yourself a break from the stresses of study and grades, but you are enabling yourself the opportunity to begin to enjoy life again just like it should be.

So, experiment with different things. Discover what your likes and dislikes are, what interests you in life. Hang out with friends socially, try not to talk about grades, just have some fun.

The point is to show you that there is more to like about yourself than just your education and your grades. Yes these things are important, but so to are life experiences and self-care. Just something to think about.

In terms of your use of saying things like “I want to kill myself” when you do not get the grades you feel like you should’ve received or gotten, this sounds like it’s just become habit for you as you may feel as though you have let yourself down and are not good or smart enough. This is why I feel it’s important to go back to the basics and just take a break now and again and just focus on something entirely different than your studies, try to find the enjoyment in life again if that makes sense.

If you are wanting to try to not say things like you want to kill yourself in times where you feel your grades aren’t good enough, then try to just take a breath and stop yourself before speaking. Try to remind yourself that you tried your very best and that yes, you wish you had done better, but you are still good enough as a person and are very deserving of being alive. And I know that this won’t be easy at all given that those words are engrained in you but with practice and taking each day as they come you will be able to have a better outlook on life.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

[marzipanandminutiae]

"hey why are all the barrier garments like linen shirts or chemises or combinations going away?"

"oh we have more washable fabrics now! you don't need to worry about sweat reaching your outer clothing when you can just chuck it in the washing machine!"

"cool!"

[100 years later]

"so uh all of those new washable fabrics are leaching microplastics into our water, and the constant machine-washing wears garments out faster. they're also not really sturdy enough to be mended, so we keep having to throw them out and now the planet is covered in plastic fabric waste that will never break down. also it turns out that the new washable fabrics hold odor-causing bacteria VERY well. so could we get those barrier garments back please?"

"sorry babe linen now costs $100000/yard and since it's been so long without them, nobody knows how to adapt barrier garments to the current styles anyway"

"..."

"maybe try this new $50 undershirt made of Special Sweat-Wicking Plastic Fabric! :) :) :)"

[everwalldigan]

My favourite thing ever is when Jason is drawn to resemble Bruce because I KNOWW his ass would HATE it😭😭

Dick: hey Jason you haven’t forgotten our meet u— oh my god are you ok?? What happened?

Jason *rocking back and forth on the floor with a traumatised look in his eyes, whispering in horror* someone mistook me for Bruce in the grocery store today.

Random kid at a charity event pointing at Jason standing grumpily in a corner: who’s that?

Bruce (smiling fondly): that’s my son Jason!

Random kid: he looks like you! :D

Jason: *leaves the room*

Bruce (running after him): jason, Jason they didn’t mean anything by it, Jason, you’re going to jump off a balcony just because of a child’s observation Jason?

[asthedeathoflight]

Still thinking about none houses left grief, and while I understand where people are coming from, "it took me out of the world" is just... Really not a relevant criticism here. Like, that line is SUPPOSED to be jarring. It is supposed to be kind of darkly funny, but the point isnt for you to laugh. Its not trying to be a punchline. The point of that line IS to "take you out of the world" because the point is that *this world isn't what you thought it was.*

[priestfrommidnightmass]

i’ve discovered i’m tired of doing literally everything myself so even if that’s kinda led to a lot of loneliness and self isolation it still feels better than straining myself at 100% all the time just to get half that on a good day

[mollygetssherlockcoffee]

Its Official

It's time for me to take a step back from Tumblr, officially. I haven't posted fics on here for a good while, though I've been wanting to, and I think its time that I finally throw in the hat.

Tumblr used to be a great place for writers to share their work but, for the past few months, it just feels like a creativity farm. Creators, whether writers or artist, or other, have been made to feel like cattle who produce work for people who show no gratitude.

I've seen posts of people asking for fics of a certain show/film, character or trope. "We need more fics of *insert character of your choosing*!!!!!!". So writers make it for them. They put effort into coming up with ideas, to writing the fic and making sure its true to character, true to the source as much as possible, and as much like the request as possible. And then they post it.

And then they get a like.

Now don't get me wrong, a like is great but it is not a show of appreciation. Liking a post means exactly that - you like it. A reblog is a sign of appreciation - a way to thank the person for making this work. You don't need to leave a comment or a tag in the reblog, the reblog itself is enough.

I've seen so many creators posting about the lack of interaction and being called entitled, and then see them lose motivation. Its heart breaking. Its heart breaking to see these talented people lose the love they had for their passion because people feel entitled to ask for that work and then show no appreciation.

I'm fortunate enough to not have personally experienced this. However, seeing the way others have been treated has demotivated me. Looking back over my fics and looking at my like-reblog ratio has demotivated me.

I'm just tired of the way creators are treated on here.

So I'm going to go, for now. I'm not even going to attempt to write for this site anymore because this is not the community that I signed up for. I'm going to go back to my original crappy writing site (I love it), writing for my original crappy fandom (I love them) that inspired me in the first place and hope, pray, that they can bring back that spark, that love, I had for writing.

Maybe then, once I have that spark and once creators, of all types, are treated right on this platform, I may return.

I will continue to read the amazing fics that are posted here, I will continue to appreciate my fellow creators by liking and rebloging your work but I'm taking a step back, officially, from creating for this site.

Remember...

[eemolu]

the fact that emily brings the leopard sofia lee dice box that siobhan made her everywhere she goes including glasgow for the quangle. their friendship simply means so much to me

[ping-ski]

i know the pain is nauseating. i know you are disappointed. i know you feel betrayed. i know it feels hopeless and bleak. i know you're tired.

please don't disappear.

please be kind.

please continue to take care of yourself.

please keep living day by day.

please live. out of spite. out of hope for a better tomorrow.

if you are POC, queer, femme, trans, disabled, you are loved. you are wanted. i may not know you, but i love you with my whole person. there is still good in this world, this isn't the end.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Good morning, Sleepyhead.

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[mental-health-advice]

Need some advice. I’ve got 2 friends who we used to be in a group of 4 with (including me) long story short 2 of them started dating, broke up and it was ugly so they aren’t friends anymore. We split our time but me and my best friend just ended up sticking together since we were splitting our time. She’s my closest friend and she told me in October she wasn’t vibing with our mutual friend anymore. We’d had a phone call from her in before that where she said she didn’t like that we only ever hung out in a group and wanted to see us individually which is agreed with and have tried to put in the effort to see her but I’m not seeing as much of that from her side. It seems my best friend and her though just stopped talking privately after that. My best friend can be very stubborn but I feel she’s bottled a lot of feelings for awhile and has had some unfortunate moments with our friend but in my eyes everything was fine until she told me it wasn’t. Now I feel weird talking in the group chats even though my best friend assured me she doesn’t mind hanging out with her she just is creating some of her own boundaries. I just feel weird that our mutual friend doesn’t know anything is wrong and if she does she’s not saying anything. I have spoken to my best friend that it makes me anxious to talk about it and she said she wouldn’t anymore and that she isn’t going to have a convo with our mutual friend cause she explained a lot of the stuff she’d have to say might be hurtful and she doesn’t want her hurt our mutual friends feelings. I’m trying to upkeep my personal relationship with our mutual friend but I’m also getting the vibe she is disinterested or just doesn’t have time for me now. She has a job and a boyfriend she lives with so I get it. But I don’t know how to stop feeling so anxious about all of this and wanting to fix problems that I have no business in fixing as they aren’t mine. Any advice? (P.s this is a friendship group from college to now which spans across 8 years so we’ve changed a lot but just so you know time frames and we’re all mid twenties)

Hey there,

As I am sure you know, overtime friendships with others are bound to change regardless of how long we have been in the friendship or friendship group for. This is normal as people will go their separate ways sometimes and this could be for many different reasons as you have experienced with one of your friends within the friendship group.

It can be very hard when two friends within the group decide to date and then break up. It can cause a lot of distress and anxiousness of where to go from there, how to divide your time up with everyone to enable you to stay friends with them. I think that you and you other best friend are doing your very best in trying to split up individually to spend time with your other friend. I know first hand how difficult this can be so I admire you both for doing your very best in trying to make it work for all involved.

I think that your other friend making boundaries, despite being hard, is a good step to take and I am wondering if you could do the same in regards to trying to take a step back and acknowledging that even though you want to try and fix everything between all, that it’s not your place to do so and even thought this can be hard to accept, there’s not much that you can really do without possibly causing even more problems.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is just focus on your best friend and hanging out/ catching up with them. It sounds as though your other friend may have a bit more going on for them right now which is completely OK, but just let them know you are still there for them and perhaps then let your other friend decide on what to do with the friendship with you and your best friend. I know this won’t be easy to do but try to take a step back, be kind to yourself and just do what you need to do for you right now. Unfortunately, we cannot keep a friendship going if the other persons heart isn’t fully in it, so try to keep this in mind and perhaps talk to your best friend about it for some comfort and support.

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

[bloodsbane]

warmup doodle that ended up not even being a warmup bc i got distracted for 3 hours. inspired by my new chilaios fic stepping stones where everyone's favorite enthusiastic but dense blond doesn't know not to Loom yet

[omnificent-orion]

Don't ever forget. Wherever you go…

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[bloodymarymorstan]

I honestly still can't believe how openly and causally queer Agatha All Along is. Like there have been THREE actually hilarious gay jokes in the past two episodes. Everyone knows Agatha and Rio are exes and it's totally chill, except for when it's revealed that Rio is Death and they're all like "really, Agatha?" and she's just like "what can I say?". Billy has a boyfriend and that is also very much not a big deal. All the girls have a crush on Rio at the beginning. As someone who has been waiting YEARS for good queer rep in the MCU this is just so wild, I truly never thought we'd get here.

[swiftmitsu]

Flirt Success!

(guys i forgot how cool Geno is. i love him.)