#tagging anti just to be sure

[egophiliac]

Hi it's just to let you know that the official romanization of Revaan's name is Raverne ! Also they have romanized Baul's name to Baur !

Twst coming back at us again with the least expected romanization! thank you everybody (oh god my inbox) (no it's great, I literally asked for this and the reactions have been INCREDIBLE, thank you all!)

I do like Raverne though, I think it's got a nice fancy sound to it! (I had kinda suspected it was going to be an R instead of an L, so the fact that it's SO close to Laverne except for that is hilarious to me personally.) and Dragoneye Duke is honestly probably the best translation for his title, I wasn't envying the localizers that one. :') Baur instead of Baul I was NOT expecting, but in retrospect I think his name's supposed to be a reference to the Bauru crocodile, so that actually makes way more sense!

someone else also said Meleanor has become Maleanor, which is the REALLY weird one to me, because I was so surprised it was written as Mel instead of Mal in the first place?! oh god no I can't decide which one I like better. 😭 (I wonder if they might change it to Mal...they have made romanization changes before) (like I remember House of Distraction being corrected to House of Destruction in Playful Land) (I did check and she's still Mel for now, but I dunno, they might Mal her up and some point and save me from having to make a decision about which one to use) (HECK I CAN'T DECIDE)

uhhhh thank you for letting me ramble about anime names, let's just say MONOGRAMMED SWEATERS FOR EVERYONE

[loserboyfriendrjl]

“Sirius left both grimmauld place and his little brother regulus behind!!!” I’m going to hold your hand when i say this. No he didn’t. Sirius didn’t exist as some sort of saviour of Regulus’. He didn’t exist to tell Regulus to do something he didn’t want to do. Regulus made his choice and he did what he wanted to do. Sirius made his choice and he did what he wanted to do. He didn’t leave Regulus behind because Regulus wanted to stay and because Regulus did not want to become something better than the beliefs instilled in him.

[lover-of-mine]

also something about the bare chest/naked/unmasked buck vs his layered up/visitor badge/closed off "boyfriend"....

DING DING DING!!!!!! Buck is as vulnerable as he can be, he's hurt, he's in the hospital, bare-chested, opening up because that's Buck and he seriously believes he's cursed and we have Tommy with the layered clothing and visitor badge, visibly not taking Buck's opening for vulnerability yet again. Something else about it all is the way Tommy doesn't make any movement to sit, so the scene keeps them unbalanced, Tommy has the power in that interaction. And the crossed arms as Buck starts to get into it make it worse. As always, he's unbending.

And it contrasts to like, Abby after the disaster date or Ali after the truck. The sitting down gives the impression they were ready to stay in the room (also giggling at how Ali instantly goes in for a kiss and Tommy just, pats his leg lol), Tommy looks like he is ready to leave after 10 minutes.

And Tommy contrasts Eddie sitting there still in his uniform, with the coffee cup at the table, and settled into that chair with a magazine as if he's ready to stay there as long as it takes, but he ends up in the same spot as the girlfriends.

And, well, no one has a visitor badge after the truck or the lightning so.........

[got-brainrot]

when i watched HotD (with no knowledge of the book) i was like, ok this is a bit cringey they’re obviously trying to make a pro women narrative and it’s turning out a bit cringe but whatever; and the more i learn abt the actual book the more i’m like, not whatever actually! why is this shit so cringe when you could’ve had much more powerful womens stories if u just stuck to the fucking book plot lines. in trying to make a “feminist retelling” they have just, stripped? most of the female character of most of their personalities??? I can see where they’re coming from w certain ideas, like having Helaena chose her daughter over her son could work in certain stories, but learning abt the book and how important Maelor was to that story it’s just, weird af that they did that? it feels LESS feminist to take away a huge part of Helaena’s story for this like middle school level lesson that daughters r infact just as important as their princely brothers and u probably shouldn’t sacrifice them to kidnappers, like thanks i think we all knew that actually,,,

tired of men trying to make feminist movies with their 3rd grade level understanding of feminism

[wowevenmoreloveonearth]

Conspiracy theory: the reason why eddie is in every bt 2.0 scene is actually just because oliver refused to be in a scene alone with that man and needs ryan there as emotional support

[room217prayer]

Feyre, the High Lady

High Lady of the Night Court, Defender of the Rainbow and the... Desk. ¬ Feyre, ACOFAS, page 7

In the same chapter, Feyre's laments how Rhysand doesn't care to follow and watch the court budget, and so she began looking into it.

The fact is... The way it's phrased. It can make it look both as Feyre doing so for her and Rhys or... that Rhysand couldn't care to do that for her and him.

I'd look through the court budget that Rhys never really cared to follow and see what could be moved around for the possibility of such a thing. For him and for me. ¬ Feyre, ACOFAS, page 7

In Rhysand's defense (wow)... I too, might not be interested in the plans my young and neo fae wife could come up with, after learning recently how to read (and thanks to the questionable way I teached her) and without no one teaching or helping her.

So... why is Feyre put behind a job, the desk, she can't actually do and do well? It's almost like it's only for... Appareance or in waiting for her to reduce her work, to vanish from the seat of power and control.

Feyre is indeed already thinking (still on page 7) about hiring a secretary: Someone to read and answer those things [the pile of papers and letters], to sort out what was vital and what could be put aside. Because a little extra time to myself, for Rhys...

Someone else, not her - The High Lady -, to decide what is important and what's not. And not for efficiency, so she can be a better ruler no... For her. For Rhys, as she put more force behind him.

Who's to say this person won't be someone Rhysand suggests is better for the role? Someone who will do all the work, while Feyre reaps the benefits?

They are not fair and equal rulers between them. They, supposedly, are both High Lord and Lady, but... Feyre is reclused at the desk - a job she's not fit to do as of now - without her even knowing what Rhysand is doing or where he is. She woke up alone, with him so far away she couldn't reach him.

When she did he told her where he was and what he was doing, why wasn't she informed beforehand? Why wasn't she there? She's equal to him, not under him, no?

And to that... Even her own citizens don't call her High Lady, but just... Lady.

Your help has been crucial, Lady, one charity matron had said to me yesterday. You have been here nearly every day - you have worked yourself to the bone. Take the week off. You've earned it. Celebrate with your mate. ¬ ACOFAS, page 8

Not only she's called only Lady, but is talked down... Doesn't the matron sound just like a boss giving rest to her employee? But it's Feyre who is, supposedly, the ruler. She insisted there was so much more to do. Insisted and objected twice, before she was negated and shooed out the door, that was then locked behind her.

She said, on the same page at the beginning: Until I'd been politely, graciously, told to go home and enjoy the holiday.

Do you think she was told politely and graciously? Maybe the first time, the second? She was shooed out. The High Lady of the Night Court.

Was it really done out of the kindness of the heart of the matron? Who wanted Feyre to take rest (while her people are still working to the bone, thanks to the war the IC brought to them?) Or was it a mix of that + her looking down to Feyre - seeing only her as the Lady. The wife of their High Lord? - or... Was it thanks to the order of someone else? Someone who wanted her to not push herself too much? To not get too much involved? MHM.

Anyway. Is Feyre truly and fully the High Lady of the Night Court? Or is it just a decorative tile, given to appease her in a moment, used to make Rhys look better in retrospect to Tamlin? Because it doesn't seem the IC, herself and "her" people actually consider her so.

Now she has a baby, Nyx, to take care too. Do you think she has any time now for even her desk job? Mhm... I do wonder...

In little and simple: no, I don't think or see her as actually being the High Lady of the Night Court, nor I'm sure the "ritual" they made was legit or about that.

We'll see, do I trust SJM? Nope, but it's fun to theorize and analyze things.

[andreal831]

Who's Responsible for the Monster Klaus Became? (I'll give you a hint, it's Klaus)

It's a question as old as time (or at least as old as the show): Who should be blamed for Klaus' actions because surely it cannot be Klaus? Should it be Rebekah for wanting to seek her own life? Should it be Kol for planning to kill him? What about his son, Marcel, for taking his city? His parents for cursing him? I've heard all of these, but the most common one I hear is, of course, Elijah.

I'm referencing a specific discussion, but it's one I've heard many times. We should not feel any sympathy for Elijah because he is the reason Klaus became evil, and then abused everyone he ever encountered. Not only should we blame Elijah for Klaus turning evil, but we need to blame him for all of the abuse everyone suffered at Klaus' hands. Elijah is the true evil of the show, despite Klaus naming himself as such.

The argument starts as such: Klaus was a perfect person before Elijah helped Esther and Mikael suppress his wolf side which made him turn evil. We are conveniently going to skip over the SA on Tatia at the festival. He's just a product of the time, I guess. And then to top it off, while Klaus was being perfect (despite the catalyst event they claimed caused him to go evil had already occurred), Elijah vindictively made Aurora break his heart, turning him into the complete evil person he was. Although, we cannot call him evil. We have to continue to say, "no one is born evil, they are just broken." Removing all accountability from a thousand year old man.

However, there is a fatal flaw with this argument. If we are saying that betraying someone and breaking their heart shifts the responsibility from one character to another and removes any sympathy, this should first have been used to protect Elijah from any blame.

The entirety of The Originals originates with Klaus taking his kid brother to watch the wolves turn, despite knowing better. During this event, Henrik is killed. Now, I don't blame Klaus, but if we are blaming characters for all of the unforeseen consequences of their actions, we would have to blame him. Because of Henrik's death, Esther and Mikael turn their children into vampires. As we all know, Klaus kills someone, triggers his werewolf curse, and goes on a killing spree in their town, leaving Elijah to clean up the mess as he does. But that doesn't make Klaus evil, the murders were all an accident, I guess. Based on the lack of blood on Elijah's clothes, it doesn't seem like Elijah even took the time to feed himself (an assumption, but still). Leading to Elijah losing control and killing his love, Tatia. All of this happened in a short period of time. So when their abusive parents bring up the idea of binding Klaus' werewolf side, I don't blame Elijah for going along. Even still, we see that he does so reluctantly. He saw his brother's body, which had been torn apart by wolves, and then watched his brother turn into one of those wolves and kill people they grew up with. Even after all of this, he still stood by his brother's side, not from guilt, but out of love. He comforts his brother who is covered in the blood of their neighbors.

But this is really where the logic really falls apart. Sure, maybe we argue that binding the werewolf side sent him off the rails, but let's not forget the people he killed in his village before that happened. And I'm pretty sure hybrids can control their werewolf side...

Before we even get into Aurora breaking his heart, we see Klaus and Aurora killing in such savage ways (with the rest of the family, minus Finn), that Mikael has found them. We don't really know who was doing it, but we see Aurora and Klaus taking joy in it. Do you know how much chaos/savagery they must have caused for Mikael to have gotten word before modern technology?? They were on a completely different continent than when they first started running from him. So I'd argue that Klaus was already pretty evil at this point.

The other argument is that Elijah lied to Klaus and broke his heart because of Aurora, causing Klaus to spiral. But who lied and broke whose heart first? Elijah and Rebekah made a vow of "always and forever" to Klaus based on a lie and a huge deceit. That Mikael killed Esther. This to me is the moment Klaus loses touch with his humanity. He is so ashamed by what he's done, he lies to the people closest to him. At the end of the day, Esther was still their mother and Klaus killed her in cold blood. He is so traumatized by this, he puts her body in a coffin and carries her with him for centuries!! No matter what she did, he still feared his siblings would not forgive him. So he lied, causing them to run for their lives with him.

So again, who lied and broke whose heart first?

It is not until Elijah accidentally compels Aurora to tell him what she knows that Elijah finds out about the lie. And in his heartbreak he compels Aurora. His actions are spurred on by Klaus' betrayal. And now, don't get me wrong, I blame Elijah and believe Aurora has every right to be angry at Elijah for those actions. But if we are trying to use this logic I laid out above, Elijah shouldn't be held responsible because Klaus made him that way. Klaus lied and betrayed him, breaking his heart, so Elijah had no choice but to become evil and do evil things.

This is why this logic is bad. There can always be some event or person who "caused" a character to act that way. It's called their lore. But that does not erase who they are and what they do. It does not excuse it or shift the blame.

Klaus ruins countless lives after this, doing far worse than what was done to him, and we don't see those people turn evil. Rebekah is abused by him for a thousand years and doesn't come close. But according to Klaus stans, all of their pain is just a "side effect" of Klaus' actions and Klaus can't help that. It's not like he's a grown man or anything. People have trauma, but it doesn't mean they get to do whatever they want. They are still held responsible for the person that trauma turns them into.

Also this person tried to argue that Klaus' actions weren't responsible for Elijah because of intent. Klaus didn't do anything intending to hurt Elijah, whereas Elijah acted in every way to hurt Klaus and only stayed by him out of guilt. This is just a gross misrepresentation of both of their characters. Elijah regretted his actions so much that he literally erased them from his memory. And yes, I do think part of his toxic devotion comes from guilt, but even when his guilt has faded, he does not waver from his love of his brother. Klaus is the one that weaponizes the guilt anytime he thinks Elijah may choose a different path.

Honestly, I don't get how people enjoy TO with this logic. It ruins all of the complexity of stanning the villain or liking morally grey characters. If you want to love a villain, love a villain. Don't try to turn them into a defenseless teddy bear who can't be helped for his own actions.

[invisible-pink-toast]

[swordscleric]

I can't stop thinking about the post from a few days ago about how Critical Role has been great at doing personal faith but didn't put the necessary work in to discuss the religious/god angle of c3 in-depth. Like the fact that Cardinal Respa was linked to both the Dawnfather and the Chained Oblivion is, on a personal level, very interesting (fallen/corrupted priest goes hard) but like does that mean that there's a Papacy somewhere in Exandria dedicated to the Dawnfather? If so, are there more cardinals who ordain the bishops of the Dawnfather? Are there Conclave-level intrigues going on in the Dawnfather's Sistine Chapel? Why is the Dawnfather so Christianity-coded in vibes alone if there's no actual outline of his religious organisations? With Downfall the Dawnchild/Dawnfather thing makes the allusions to Christ as Son of God co-existing with the Father textual - was there a Dawnfather Schism around whether the Dawnchild was a separate mortal? Was there a Reformation about how the Dawnfather's Pope kept selling indulgences? Is that why the priest of the Dawnfather Grog & Pike offer a drink to doesn't partake because of a cultural shift between Protestant-Temperance-League-coded and Catholic-coded Dawnfather congregations? Why do I have so many questions about the religious organisation of one of the most important Prime Deities in Exandria and to Critical Role's 3 campaigns? How on earth were the cast (and us as the viewers!) meant to care about the gods if all they had were "really tall kings" instead of interrogating how religious organisations provide both a place of healing and community to a wide range of people and also a place of horrific harm and abuse for a wide range of people?

[leportraitducadavre]

Edo-Tensei implies the sacrifice of a living human being for their body to become the vessel of the soul they're trying to bring back. What this author means is that Sasuke and Sakura are willing to perform inhumane acts to "see each other again".

The jutsu was created by Tobirama, someone Sasuke despises.

This is the same jutsu Orochimaru, whom Sakura admitted to hating as he "took Sasuke away from Konoha", used; why would she willingly use a jutsu from his book?

The caster has complete control of the person they summon, the person that was "revived" has no real volition of their own. Obito, who used to love Rin, never even entertained the idea of summoning her (and thus, controlling her), what a disgusting thing to do to someone you "love".

This is the same man who canonically has the chance to see his wife whenever he pleases, yet he doesn't, why on earth would he revive her? Why wouldn't he revive Itachi, Mikoto, or Fugaku for that matter?

Sakura has little to no knowledge of füinjutsu, let alone enough chakra to perform something like this.

Sasuke having a "moment" with Itachi doesn't translate to him actually liking the technique.

"Sasuke and Sakura are only thinking of a possibility" is just as awful as performing it; they're willing to do such a monstrous thing to others to fulfill their selfish wishes. The fact that they didn't do it isn't because they aren't prone to do so, but because they didn't have to, as both are still alive.

Edo-tensei is not romantic, at all. It's one of the worst techniques ever invented as it was devised to seek control over powerful (deceased) shinobi to use their souls/techniques as tools of military power. The person revived has no control over their actions, so they see themselves committing acts they might not agree with because the person who summoned them wanted their strength. Its origin was about complete control of a human being (humiliation likely plays a part, as having no control over your body yet having your mind intact is the ultimate form of torture), the possession of the power of others, and the ultimate tool as those revived receive no real damage as they respawn.

Edit to add: This line was, in fact, in Sasuke Retsuden (in the manga adaptation Sasuke never actually confirmed this, as it was Sakura who replied for him -lol-). Jun Esaka just butchered the entirety of Sasuke's characterization, this woman was paid to write a SasuSaku story and couldn't even bother to understand and respect the characters' original personality, having to modify everything about them and using their trauma as a "romantic device" to show "how much Sasuke and Sakura love each other". I have no respect for her as an author, at least, not as an author inside the Narutoverse.

[luck-of-the-drawings]

"I think this is the most inhuman; and human, that I've ever felt.." MUCH CAN HAPPEN IN A YEAR. IN FIVE YEARS. A DECADE. imagine how much can happen in a century. just ONE (1). How will you grow? what phases do you find? even in 5 years, you will find patterns.

[miissworldd]

Lenore Dove's character is meant to serve as a parallel to everlark, but I found her to be more like Gale.

(Edit: I hope this post doesn't make it seem like I'm an anti or bashing her character 😭 these are just some parallels I've noticed + I don't think being similar to Gale is an inherently bad thing. The concept of her,Gale and Sejanus's way of rebellion is interesting.)

She judges and hates a merchant girl without truly knowing her, not because she was ever personally rude to her but because of her status + caging a bird. (Maysilee/Gale and Madge),

Got herself in big trouble after doing something rebellious without thinking of the consequences (getting arrested/Prim getting blown up)

went into the woods

yelled about how bad the Capitol was to their closest friend in said woods.

the list goes on...

I wonder if this was intentional or if it was just lazy writing like people have been saying. and before you call me a bitter Hayffie/Haysilee shipper, I don't like either ships. Besides, her being similar to Gale isn't necessarily a bad thing.

[abyssal-ilk]

getting all of the banter dialogue for dorian and bull so they can be a couple in dai is so... ugh. there is some genuinely wonderful stuff to explore in their dynamic, with iron bull abandoning the qun and dorian leaving tevinter and what it means to have done that and finding themselves as people, but. christ. the fetishization and oversexualization of the qunari in da is fucking hair tearingly painful, and it is at its most obvious with iron bull and dorian. really hoping that something changes for the taash romance, but i am,, kind of doubtful.

[scuderia-hamilton]

the thing that bothers me most about the whole McLaren team orders thing and just the management in general, is that i wish they would just own up to it. like admit that you prioritize one driver over the other, that you have a clear first and second driver system and call it a fucking day. they wouldn't be the first or the last team to operate like that. there's absolutely no need to put on this show of having two number one drivers and they have the strongest driver line up on the grid when you actively show that you prioritize one over the other.

they've spent all of winter break being like oh, yeah our drivers will start with clean slates and we will give them equal chance and opportunity to win, but then first race comes around and they hold one of them back. and they always hide behind strategy and excuses and half of the time it does not make sense.

this is not even directed towards Lando, cause i get it in a way, he's been there since 2019, he's more experienced, i get why they'd choose him. but then choose him. like stand in front of the press and have the guts to say that, yes, although we have two amazing drivers, we are going to hold one of them back, because we prefer the other one. that simple.

i'm so tired of this forced narrative, that they're paying attention to both of them, cause when push comes to shove and race weekend is here, 90% of the time only one of them gets the preferential treatment and it's not Oscar. and sure, call me bitter and biased, but it is so unfair. and it's a shit situation for both of them to be honest and McLaren can brag about having one of the strongest driver line ups on the current grid all they want if they do not know how to manage them and maximize their performance. they're wasting both of their talents away and ultimately i will not be surprised if that will cost one of them the championship.

[ripplestitchskein]

I will never understand the “Me sharing my anti opinion in the main tags is more important than other’s enjoyment”. Mindset

It’s very much showing up at a party where everyone is having a good time, not liking the theme and then standing in the center of the room screaming about how much you hate it.

The person I confronted this morning about it was basically “I am allowed” and “You can keep scrolling” and “it’s just one post”.

People are allowed to be an asshole in a variety of ways everyday, the choice to not be is what makes the difference.

I can keep scrolling, of course I can, but the point of using the tag is that I’m scrolling through what I wanted to see. I specifically chose to scroll through that tag to see it. By putting your anti shit in it people have no way to escape an opinion they specifically chose to not see. It’s a pretty good consent metaphor, people consented to one thing, they declare that consent by using a tag to indicate that’s what they want. Now someone is deliberately ignoring that and forcing themselves into a space they are not welcome or wanted. Tags are a boundary, and part of a social contract you are choosing to ignore, for what?

It’s just one post. But it’s not? It’s multiple a day. You are contributing to an overarching problem. So while we are just trying to see speculations and theories and fun art and angsty head canons about what we’re enjoying we have multiple people a day coming in for no other reason than to ruin that enjoyment.

You are of course welcome to your opinion, and sharing it, but there are tags so that people who enjoy anti and critical content and want to be heard can enjoy it and be heard, and there are tags where people who enjoy pro content and want to find likeminded people can enjoy it and find their people. It’s the entire reason Tumblr is a great community building space and superior in my opinion to other social platforms.

Tumblr is not Twitter or Instagram, the tag system allows people to curate their experience so they don’t have to see content they don’t want to. That’s what the tags are for, so they can enjoy themselves and not be siloed or forced to find people through endless hours of scrolling thorough things they don’t care about. You don’t get more engagement by rage farming on Tumblr. There is no benefit to doing so. It is an entirely malicious action.

It’s not in anyway equivalent in seriousness but if you wouldn’t post triggering content in a trigger warning tag why would you post anti content in a pro tag? They are the same base behavior.

[janiedean]

I have a few problems with Brienne's character.

1. Shouldn't she be bitter to world for someone who went through what she went through like Tyrion? Isn't it boring this way?

2. Brienne believes in rules. Why does she support Renly? She should have supported Joffrey first because she didn't know about incest. She should have supported Stannis after she learned incest.

3. If she doesn't care about the rules, why is she angry at Jaime for killing Aerys? She says he shouldn't have killed him even though Aerys was cruel. She never says I don't think you killed Aerys for the right reasons, she just says you shouldn't have.

weeell

1 she could... and most people would have been, but if she became then that she'd be sandor or tyrion or jaime, not *brienne* - like the entire point of her character is that she manages to *not* be bitter and cynical even if a bunch of shit happened to her and that *even* after she gets through her whole affc ordeal which does give her even more of a wake up call when it comes to how bad things are around she still doesn't become cynical or bitter and she still believes in her vows, which is why brienne is gonna eventually become the best knight in the realm™️ recognized by everyone and not just by the readers, because she's the only one who embodies all the knightly virtues AND lives by them AND even if she went through experiences that could and might have turned her cynical and bitter that's not gonna be what's in store for her

and btw my pet theory that she's gonna kill lady stoneheart for jaime in front of him is also because I think it's fundamental that a jaime who's back on his track to be honorable and found some peace can coach her through what happens when you kill your liege lord who went insane and might help her not turn out the way he did, more on that in answers two and three

2 she doesn't believe in *rules* though, she believes in honour and the knightly code and she's also in love with renly - like, the thing is: renly is the only person who treated her decently in her eyes (for her standards which is BAD - like again I love my girl but she was ready to die for him because he danced with her and didn't tell her she was ugly to her face which is a very fucking low standard), he's obviously her type, she fell in love with him, she swore herself to him and wanted to be in his guard, so unless renly did something like exceedingly HORRIBLE or dishonorable or something nothing was stopping her from siding with him - also when it comes to current westeros kingship..... I mean maybe but if you want to split hairs then the baratheons in themselves could have been seen as them being usurpers if one thought targaryens had the right of it. also if renly visited tarth and renly has storm's end technically she's already sort of sworn to him or anyway more in his orbit (he went to visit tarth for the political trip not stannis), also like the incest thing was something *stannis* said to corroborate his claim but it's not like cersei or anyone else ever owned up to it so she could care about it or not, but tldr if there's a crown crisis and people secede knights are free to side with whoever they think has the best claim. now I don't think renly had the best claim and as everyone and their walls know I'm everything but renly-friendly or anything like that (like I frankly dislike canon renly a lot for various reasons tho I think he could be a decent person in modern au) and that I think he should have sucked it up and supported stannis... but to her if she's not sworn to stannis first, if renly does his thing and if she loves him then nothing stops her from siding with him without it being a problem for her. like she wants to be a knight following a honor code and choosing a lord/lady/whatever to serve and then doing it to the bitter end is also that. she happened to pick renly but idt that's like anything that is particularly not coherent given the situation.

3 the problem with jaime killing aerys isn't the *rules*, it's the *vows*. now in general so it's out of the way: I was one of those people who was ride or die for jaime from the second he showed up in story and I already had a feeling from the get-go that whichever reason he had for killing aerys he most likely had done everyone a favor even without knowing the specifics, but like... no one knows why jaime did it and the fact that everyone thinks he has shit for honor because he's a knight and killed his liege he swore a vow to and he has zero patience to correct them when he actually did it for a very good reason is half of the reason why everyone has an unwarranted bad opinion of him and why the only person who actually likes him is tyrion bc he knows he's a decent person but no one else got as far as noticing it. now we can discuss to hell and back why jaime just went like fuck that who gives a shit and then decides maybe not but that's not the point.

the point is that a) the way you put that question doesn't take into account a lot of things which I'm getting into in a second, b) that literally no one knows jaime as a person beyond tyrion also bc he doesn't gaf to let others close beyond cers, so like for everyone in the realm that's the guy who killed his king when the ultimate knightly oath is serving your king. now not going into the fact that grrm is showing that knighthood is a rotten institution etc, from brienne's pov when she meets him

a) she's ugly, she doesn't think she has a chance to do anything except dying young while fighting and have ballads written about her while she tries being a knight a thing she knows she's good at and put all her chips on because she has literally nothing else going for herself

b) she's a woman so no one takes her seriously even when she's obviously good/better than 99.9% of her peers and it doesn't happen even after she wins a goddamned kingsguard spot after beating people who bet about who was gonna take her virginity first and the only thing she wanted was being in the kingsguard of a man she loved that she hoped to see on the throne

c) meanwhile jaime has everything from her pov - the name, the looks, the skill (because like everyone talks shit abt him but no one doubts he's good at his trade), got accepted into the kingsguard at *fifteeen*, could have had any woman he wanted had he chosen to not be a knight, while being a knight he's sworn into the highest possible position he could reach in westeros in that role like idk how to put it on paper if you wanna be recognized as a bonafide true knight ™️ no one would ever laugh about being in the KG is what makes it... and what does he do he kills his king and is absolutely unapologetic about it and doing the ultimate wrong thing a knight should never do and he gets to stay in the KG anyway when according to outside view he should have been kicked out while she had to eat dirt to get where she was and no one took her seriously anyway

d) she's also at almost her most naive and she still thinks the world works like vows so she doesn't even consider the fact that he might actually have had a reason to do it, so when

She says he shouldn't have killed him even though Aerys was cruel. She never says I don't think you killed Aerys for the right reasons, she just says you shouldn't have.

... yeah she says she shouldn't have killed him because that = spitting on an institution she thinks is the highest honor to be in (which ofc isn't true but other problem entirely) and it doesn't matter what reasons he might have had to do it, bc at that point she presumes that if he had any he'd have said back in the day and since he never bothered to do that then it doesn't matter. he shouldn't have because he's an anointed knight and it's dishonorable to kill your liege, end of story...

but there's the fallacy with your question because yeah... that happens in the beginning of asos before they get their trauma bonding road trip. if you read asos carefully she starts calling him ser or by his first name only without insults or the kingslayer the second he saves her from being raped the first time, she takes care of him at his worst, he ends up not having any fucks to give anymore about pretending he doesn't care about aerys and after they come through almost dying together and end up in the bath she's ready to hear why it happened and he's ready to share it for the first time period. he does it with her, not with anyone else, and on the spot she probably can't process it but after *that* she basically puts him back on his feet and takes care of him and gets in the way anytime someone else wants to get close before they meet roose, after he saves her from the bear pit she stops calling him names or anything but ser, when they meet and he gives her oathkeeper she tells him the white cloak becomes you so she obviously changed her mind... and in her affc chapters when people talk shit about jaime and his oathbreaking she stands up and leaves the premises because she can't bear to hear it and she tries to justify him to lady stoneheart (good luck) and she doesn't think he's wrong for that anymore. like yeah she doesn't go and tell him straight after he shares his story but she has no reason to because he knows she knows and they trusted each other at that point and when we get into her head she only thinks good of him and it's obvious she changed her mind which again... is another point I never managed to meta about even if I wanted to back in the day but like

tldr

if you notice when you read his pov and then hers and you see how they interact with each other he sounds way younger than his actual age (because he emotionally got stuck at when he killed aerys and only started moving on since he gets chapters) while brienne reads way older than she is because she got through enough shit even if she's barely nineteen that it makes sense she would have matured way faster, but when it comes to their ideals he is way more cynical and jaded because he got through ALL that crap at seventeen and he saw that things suck and he just went like fuck it while she is all idealistic and her-actual-age about it because of what I said in 1 - other than being younger and not having had ptsd level military trauma at his age she is also set apart because she's that devoted to being a knight in a way that reminds him of himself when he was young... so after they get past their crap he remembers wanting to be like her back in the day and tries to get there again and get back his honor while she becomes more mature and less naive and realizes the world isn't black and white so they actually hone each others' sharp edges out in that sense and they get better/learn from each other and that's another thing that's compelling about them, but like if you gotta get there then it makes sense he starts thinking she's a naive idiot who's gonna get jaded the second she finds out how the world works and then he's shocked when she doesn't and she thinks he's a pos who spat on the thing she wants most in the world and she can't have because people don't take her seriously and then she realizes he's actually not like that at all and that he did it for the most noble reason to the point she's willing to die for him later.

like again you can find those things not coherent or whatnot or you can just not vibe with brienne but question 3 hinges just on the beginning of their relationship and doesn't take into account the fact that she misjudges him harshly, openly admits it and regrets it and that post road trip and his hand loss it's obvious she only thinks good of him, question 1... well, yeah, there's that person in the books and it's sandor (and jaime too), if she were the same now she wouldn't be primed to become the new galahad now wouldn't she, and question 2 I answered but like again I still think following renly is the only stupid thing brienne ever did but didn't all teenagers in love at 16-17 do something exceedingly dumb and stupid and then grow up? because that was how old she was when they met (if not 15 actually) and it still didn't clash with the knightly code given she wanted to give him fealty.

anyway for extra clarity wrt my thoughts on most of this stuff that I've given through the years: why brienne in the kg makes no sense, why brienne gaf about renly post affc is preposterous and why the show version killing stannis made no sense (delved into the renly aspect), why brienne's pov is important and why she's primed to be best knight in westeros ™️, jaime's rship with both b. and c. and how it's all courtly love deconstruction which went into the knightly stuff which i couldn't possibly recap rn *flies away*