#so you're cool with some slurs being reclaimed but not that one?

[carnage-cathedral]

really seems like some of you fail to understand the "reclaim" part of reclaiming slurs. reclaiming slurs is not just a free pass to say them. it's a way of healing from the pain they've been used to cause you and taking the power away from the word itself in order to cope with it

[butchpeace]

hi i'm too scared to do this off anon since i'm still publicly trans so. i just needed some place to get this off my chest because its been festering for almost a decade

i'm de-transitioning. i found out i was intersex as a teenager after years of considering myself "transmasc" because i didn't understand why my body was the way it was. i came out as trans at age 12 because i didn't understand what was wrong with me or why other girls made fun of me for looking "like a boy." i just tried to fit into the boy mold because it's what i was always told, even though there was an F on my birth certificate

i now realize i'm an intersex lesbian. while i don't fit the perfect mold of boy/girl, i'm just me. my experiences line up with being a woman, and i was born a girl. i'm just me and that's cool.

i've been in trans spaces since i was 12. the misogyny in these spaces is completely fucking vile. trans men are now being called "gentle queers" or "tender queers" because they try to say that exposing random people to sex acts is bad. explaining that some people can go to jail for having testosterone "DIY" or get fined is just trans men being "pussies," and they're not confident in their transness like their opposites. it's all packaged under them really being men now so they should shut up, and trying to combat it is "trans misogyny." you can't speak about an experience you've had your entire life without being told by a man that you don't Really know what you're talking about.

like you don't think that trans man is a "gentle queer," you want to misgender and call him a woman. on twitter i've been called a cunt, been given rape threats, and more by trans "women" because i said that a 35 year old trans "woman" was preying on younger trans "women." he was going after people who were 18, having them move in with him, and keeping it under the label of "age gap BDSM." i just sat there and sucked it up because i didn't want to be trans misogynistic because those people have power. they create fear.

"trans misogyny" is the most fucking bullshit term i've heard in my entire life. it isn't misogyny because there isn't centuries of oppression and violence behind it. any criticism towards a trans woman or their behavior is trans misogyny.

they grew up male and those who didn't never stopped benefiting from the patriarchy. they take up space, argue, and make women afraid like men. they use slurs they insist on reclaiming because they grew out their hair and wear shitty makeup. they have male socialization and sexism is so ingrained into how they interact with women because they only know us as surface-level caricatures. it's like watching someone mock me like how my peers did on the school bus.

you can always fucking tell theyre men because of the way they treat you. it's exhausting. i'm trying to find spaces for intersex women but it's all just MEN. can we not have this one fucking thing? why do they want to talk about misogyny when they've never truly experienced it? i spent my entire life being coddled and told i was Really a boy because i was a physically masculine girl, even though that wasn't who i really was. years of trying IUDs as a *14 year old* and doctors trying to "fix me" and getting called a bitch online for fearing for someone's safety is real fucking misogyny.

i'm tired.

feel free to ignore this. your blog seemed like a safe place to vomit all this out. your blog is like a breath of fresh air, thank you for what you do. hopefully intersex little girls like me one day won't be told they're too boyish to be a girl and face sterilization. Xx

Thanks for sharing your story! I’m so happy that you’ve accepted yourself and that you’re distancing yourself from that “community” ❤️

It really is misogynistic as hell, and it 1000% follows the age old pattern of male oppression of women. Personally I think it’s probably worse than misogyny in the general population, because I don’t think it’s possible for a man to “identify” as a woman without being a total misogynist.

[wondercourse]

chat, is it finding empowerment in pain (reclaiming a slur) to demean someone through the use of the word you're supposedly claiming you're using for self-empowerment (straight up just calling someone a slur for the intended purpose of calling someone a slur, which i personally thought we generally agree was wrong), especially when the people that slur refers to (people with intellectual disability, which is also how the slur is intended even when directed at people without) say that unlike many other terms that folks choose to reclaim, This One Ain't It?

like there are so many other ways to say that you find someone's stance to be illogical or ridiculous. i literally gave you two free words right there. but y'all are disturbingly quick to jump to slurs and it is not the power move you think it is. i guess you could trace this back to my post about how not caring about the fact that you're being an asshole does not somehow circle back into you looking cool. because it says more about you (namely that you're being a dick) than it does about anyone rightfully calling you out for being a dick.

like idk why some of y'all truly expect to get off without the consequence of being called out on your shit. if this is some "this is what the real world is like" shit then lmao because y'all would not last a SECOND with some of the shit you get away with online 😭 be so fr.

man i have a lot to say lately but syscourse is, somehow, even more of a goddamn pit than usual. amazing. truly incredible.

anyway i'm going to once again go back to experiencing whimsy (my friend is awake and i want to talk about an au with him) but y'all are...really something else.

oh wait no actually additional hot take: yes, we as traumatized people do hold a lot of anger that stems from a place of fear. which results in us lashing out. i get it; i lived it and continue to live it. it's a protective measure. a way to keep ourselves safe and keep people away.

it does NOT make it okay for you to go around and actively be malicious towards people. holy fucking shit.

okay now back to fun au time i'm done for the night.

[lapdogchase]

house season 8 episode 12 liveblogging (LONG post sorry)

sorry again. see why it took me 2 hours to watch 45 minutes

bandage placement made me think top surgery. god iwish i lived in the beautiful world i conjured in my mind for .3 seconds where chase took time off work to get top surgery

has anyone told him he probably shouldnt be having sex while also having an unhealed stab wound

thank god at least HE takes pills with water. unlike SOME PEOPLE (house 😒)

(respectful voice) big fan of.back muscles. Noreason for sharing just was moved by the spirit i suppose

every time house calls himself the c word i have an instinctual Hey man you cant say that reaction and then i go Wait he can reclaim nvm... Hes using it as a slur though

wait is this chase's apartmwnt I need to know fto write the most accurate fanfiction possible

guy who just got stabbed but is "fine" Okay man

NUNS......

can he stop standing and walking around and shifting his weight on his injured legs im nervous.

he was a seminarian......... i already knew this. but like. wow he has GOT to have some insane brain problems as a result. (thinks about "i had faith" "yeah that has baggage stamped all over it" exchange btwn him and adams)

^is this supposed to be hot or am i just insane

^BABYGIRL YOURE SO BAD AT THIS I LOVE YOU

i love you babygirl ur cool and casual touching ur hair despite barely having hair anymore is definitely showing how chill and calm u feel abt this conversation

"priests and nuns were the closest i had to family" :(

^what do u mean by this :(

"even though you don't find my case interesting, you find my interest in it interesting" AGAIN . CHASE KNOWS HIM SO WELL. and the pause after and looking at him like he's making sure he's reading him right and then house does exactly what chase expected. im normal about them

^oh you should ask chase about this topic im sure hes familiar #true /notprojecting

"your overreaction to your stabbing is to blame me even as you are drawn to me" ? i cant be the only one seeing homosexuality here

"how can you not be traumatized?" "can't change what happened. can only make better choices from here" me when im so not traumatized that i blame myself for what happened to prove im not traumatized.

"no one joins the clergy without having that epiphany.that god's love is speaking to you directly" <- needed to save this quote. not sure why. It will be helpful to me in my travels i think

this is sofucking good im. slurping this episode like apple juice Fuck

EVEN THE PATIENTS KNOW HES A WHORE!!!!!!😭

the first thing he has to know about being hypersexual/using sexuality as an unhealthy coping mechanism is that u cant drag other people into ur problems Especially if u have to interact with them regularly. (doubly so bc if they realize ur like, using them to worsen ur own brainproblems they will feel bad !!!) Fucking all the nurses at the damn hospital is like the worst thing he could do Now its followed him into his career Smdh. Well to be fair he probably didnt have an alter to tell him that. shout out mars i miss u every day

"i'm just looking for something more" "so am i" auoughhghhhhh

he spends all this time nowadays being like house but sometimes u can still see the earnest kicked-puppy look in his eyes

"you think im hitting on a nun? angry at god or i just need a challenge?" "Or you're terrified of intimacy, which is why you're a serial slut" MY JAW IS ON THE FLOORRRRR I THOGUHT I WAS THE ONLYT ONE SEEINF THIS SHIT!!! I PRACTICALLY WROTE THIS WORD FOR WORD THE OTHER DAY IN MY NTOES APP FOR THAT FUCKING. DIALOGUE I CANT STOP WRITING FOR SOME REAOSN.

got too excited about teevee show now i can feel all the blood in my body

"youre right i was running away" girl so is he :(

how it feels to lose urself in meaningless sex rainbow dolphin image :(and by rainbowdolphin image i mean not that

^😭 HELP

"there was a stabbing" ME WHEN I DISSOCIATE??? brother.see a therapist

"i need to get away from house and everything that reminds me of him" (house md 8.12) // "avoidance of trauma-related stimuli after the trauma" (ptsd criterion c)

"you're gonna get away from him by turning into him?" OH.... FINALLY SOMEONE ELSE IS SEEING THIS

i truly do not believe his little story abt how he got kicked out of seminary school im not buying thgat. me when i lie

he's like a puppy to me. hes so kicked puppy core. and his gay little outfit is so cute and i love him i want to pick him up and throw him against the wall. like a bouncy ball not in a sexual way. In a sexual way also tghough

DO NOT CONFESS YOUR LOVE TO THE PATIENT??? WHO YOU JUST MET AND SLEPT WITH ONCE??????

^in terms of how house is this is basically a deeply vulnerable discussion of his regrets and traumas

the little tiny barely perceptable nods i lvoe you i love you

[edible-emerald]

gonna try and make a proper pinned post lmfao

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SYSCOURSE CODE: 👍/❤️🗯/📘/🔺🔶/🔵/🌘🌕/🟧/🌲/🌥️☀️/💭/🐊/🐌🐞/🐳

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A LOT OF THIS WAS WRITTEN BEFORE WE KNEW WE WERE PLURAL WE'LL UPDATE SOON I PROMISE MOST OF THIS APPLIES TO THE HOST

Howdy. You can call me Emerald, Calypso or Syren. My pronouns are she/they/xe/it. (Girlflux) Usually any are fine to use but they do fluctuate, so ask. Even if you use listed pronouns when I don't want you do I don't usually care all too much. I'm aromantic/asexual, EXTREMELY romance repulsed, and a minor.

Because I am a minor, I ask that adults respect their own DNIs if they have that. If you don't, you may interact; but I get defensive, argumentative and anxious very easily, especially around adults.

Idk how I never added it but my mental disorders and disabilities are: ADHD (Diagnosed at age 9) Depression (Diagnosed at age 11) Social anxiety (Self diagnosed) Autism (Highly suspected/in the process of pursuing a diagnosis) Some sort of trauma disorder (Suspected, talking with my therapist about possible PTSD) OCD (Suspected) DID/OSDD (We're a sys(let) so the chances are relatively high, plus other symptoms)

We're desirdae! We use a lot of desirdae & dissomei labels, however some major ones are desirfakesui, desirpermateen, desirworsen, desirpermadaydream, and a few others.

On most websites I use the username edible_emerald, including discord and ao3.

Median. I'm still figuring out this identity and questioning it so it's kinda a placeholder and we're gonna try and become more distinct but keep that in mind. Simply plural is Abysstem, if you friend me tell me your tumblr username when you do (I may decline sorry)

We're a Mixed Origin system! More specifically, Esogenic and our term, Hexabyssgenic. if you have a problem with it than block button is there for your convenience <3

I'm alterhuman!! Therian, otherkin, conceptkin, holothere, otherhearted, and voidkin. Theriotype: Northwestern grey (gray? grey? hwo the fyuck do you spell it) wolf, kintype: mermaid, and i'm also a mermaid holothere :> I'm questioning Lynx/wild feline, along with something winged (but I'm not too sure anymore). I’m also mermaidhearted and have other hearttypes that I’ve been too lazy to figure out but I will eventually. I'm also conceptkin of the concept of dissociation because uhhh fuck you

I post art sometimes

Also I like to write!! :3

MY SPINTEREST IS MCYT!!!! I LOVE!!!!!! MCYT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KSMP LSSMP UU PARK/PVPCIV CSMP TRSMP AND WHITEPINE OHHH I LOVE YOU OHHH I LVOE YOU

Current hyperfixation: STUDIO INVESTIGRAVE UUUUAAAGHRRGHHGGHHHHH OHH HYM GOD RODY IFS SO FUCKIGN STUPID OHH BOK-SU THYEE COULD NEVR MAKE ME HATE OYUUU.... SOMe previous hyperfixations include LU/TOTK/TLOZ, TOH, CSMP, KOTLC, TADC, HH, HB, MD, TOS (1 and 2), and chess. I write fanfiction a bit and you can find my writings on my ao3 account (edible_emerald)

I run a plethora of sideblogs, ask if you're curious

I can reclaim the slurs faggot, retard and tranny but I don't really use them very often (also i'm extremely uncomfortable with being called a retard or retarded even if it's reclaimed or as a joke, please don't, also please don't call me stupid or insult my intelligence at all /srs)

I will update this when I remember stuff lmao

I will try to respect your boundaries, but I may forget and accidentally misgender you, break your boundaries, make you uncomfortable, etc. Please correct me if I do! We're autistic so sometimes it's hard to tell TvT

I'm pretty petty keep that in mind I am NOT the bigger person

My only DNI are that bigots DNI. I also ask that Harry Potter and DSMP fans DNI *UNLESS* I interact first, then you're welcome to.

Also, astrothetherian supporters get the fuck away. We've been harassed by them and sent literal SA threats by them. If you think that's acceptable than stop pretending you care about trauma survivors BECAUSE WE ARE ONE.

As for my other DNIs, I don't have any, anyone can interact. You will want to keep in mind that I'm:

Pro endogenic/tulpamancer/willogenic systems

We believe tulpamancy isn't cultural appropriation as we've seen screenshots from Tibetan Buddhists saying it was OK, but if you have people who are Tibetan Buddhists saying otherwise please let me know /srs

Pro self-diagnosing (with research)

Shipcourse is stupid. I guess we're technically proship/profic (in the sense that we believe in "ship and let ship" and won't harass people over it but don't actually ship problematic things ourselves) but we still ask darkshippers DNI (because it makes us uncomfortable) also anyone who calls themselves "antiship" unironically DNI you're all the most insufferable people on the planet (if you say you're anti proship you can interact because only people using 'antiship' get involved in shipcourse. hardcore shipcoursers also DNI you're literally the most obnoxious people out there disrespectfully)

Pro contradictory labels (we don't fully understand most of them but we don't care it doesn't harm anyone)

Anti Radqueer, TransID critical (we understand why they may be used but we believe that they aren't OK to use anyways, not letting transautistics into autistic spaces is not akin to not letting trans women in womens bathrooms and saying so is transphobic, putting "trans" in front of things like "abuser" or "groomer" after you've "transitioned" doesn't make you a transgroomer, it makes you a groomer, being transharmful due to intrusive thoughts is harmful to those with them and the destigmatization of intrusive thoughts)

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Send an ask and we can go into more depth on any of these opinions

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[ethanscrocs]

forgive me on possible poor wording on this post (suggestions and discussion are welcome and open) i'm really not feeling well right now and i struggle with articulating myself because of brainfog.

tumblr is an echo chamber but if you say that you're accused of being a fascist or whatever when it's just plainly and simply true. it's genuinely wonderful to have an online space dominated by autistic people and leftists but the disadvantages of such a space rear their head quite quickly when you think about it for more than five seconds.

(there is NOTHING inherently wrong with the way autistic people think vs allistic people think, merely i think a lot of us struggle with the same issues that can sometimes inhibit our understanding of the world around us and experiences different from our own)

autism being the norm is fun and cool until you try to explain the nuances of like, for example, online behavior. because i think a lot of us struggle with black or white thinking that goes unquestioned and it can lead to really unhealthy habits. like yeah terfs are shitty people and we should reject their ideas, but spending your spare time sending random people on the internet gore is really weird, is giving them more attention than they deserve, and is overall a waste of time that can't be good for your mental health. and if you explained to anyone offline that one of your hobbies is sending gore or suicide baiting people on the internet, even with those people being bigots, they will be weirded out. it's not healthy to put that much emotional energy into your oppressor. it's just weird. go for a walk or something, girl. i can't watch this.

(creating public campaigns against specific terfs just gives them more of a platform and a weird victim complex. most importantly, you're putting your transfem friends and mutuals in danger by exposing them to this shit and giving transmisogynists a way to find them!)

(i don't say any of this to be shitty about autistic people i just think our brains are wired or whatever to make it really easy to fall down weird pipelines. hence why 4chan was filled with a lot of autistic white dudes. a lot of us are fairly susceptible to rhetoric if it goes unquestioned and aligns with our personal unchallenged world views.)

another example, if you say the r slur in real life everybody is just going to think you're saying the r slur. the average person (who also is chill with the r slur and probably uses it themselves) will be like haha yeah. and the average autistic or intellectually disabled person will be like oh good god i need to stay away from them. but for some reason people on here think they can reclaim the r slur by using it as a slur online (especially when they themselves are NOT intellectually disabled and have ZERO right to reclaim that term). you've all been infected by 4chan brain and you don't even see it because you've convinced yourself being a coldhearted edgy bully is cool and that being shitty to, for example, people with social anxiety is funny and aligns perfectly with your progressive persona (you reblog posts about social justice but you're a dick to everyone you've ever met and you have no friends because you're a negative person who is genuinely unpleasant to be around)

image credit goes to: @batmanreturnsnineteenninetytwo

and did you know that randomly deciding to make asexuals or polyamorous people (people who deviate from the norm) the butt of your jokes and calling them freaks and shit is actually progressive? everyone has just been slowly and slowly becoming more mask off disgusting and it's wild to me. on tumblr.com, you people are being shitty to anyone who deviates from the norm? i mean. who am i kidding. this website hates trans women and people from the global south more than anything so i haven't believed tumblr was a truly "forward-thinking" space since i was a naïve young teenager.

people who lose their shit about tankies. people who clutch their pearls about misandry and "transandrophobia"... people who accuse all palestinians of being scammers. people who send suicide bait and debate with bigots they should really be ignoring. people who make fun of people with a complicated relationship with sex or with social anxiety. you freaks are everywhere and you're all ridiculously reactionary, you just dress it up as progressivism and how to be cool on the internet or whatever. i'm SOOOOOOOO tired...

100% a line of thinking inspired by this very spot-on post, as well as the interaction that had in the comments with @deepseasmetro - thank you!

tumblr is a flimsy ego-boosting platform that's filled with bullies who hide behind their politics and relationship with oppression meanwhile they don't give a fuck about anyone who has less than them, who has it worse than them. it's all about the oppression olympics, looking cool, and punching down. obviously most of us with a head on our shoulders know this already but it truly never ceases to astound me tbh 😐

it's the same people posting inspiring poetry & textposts about kindness and love and small animals that are out here telling teenagers to kill themselves!

anyway. while you're here please donate to hamada and mohammed and heba and her father bakr ⭐️

[ditizygirl]

omg forgive me for using your askbox as a dumping ground for my rant but you're one of very few people with common sense so I'm sending it in anyways feel free to ignore or delete 🫶

as someone who's been in the mogai community for three whole tiresome years and who has also been heavily involved in communities which literally engage in child exploitation (as a victim LOL I gotta clarify 😭😭) there's a lot of overlap even if some people refuse to admit it

like is it emiko rei asano from the real hit show I Dressed Up As A Drop-dead Gorgeous Model for a Day and My Entire Class Fell In Love With Me?!?!'s fault that predators would decide to target them for their typing quirks and the way they present themselves? no, absolutely not, and it never will be. but is it still relatively their responsibility to make sure that what they're doing doesn't genuinely border on ageplay? yeah, I would say so, because if as many of them are involved in sfw age regression as they claim they should know what's commonly in those sfw communities and what's typically only limited to ageplay—yet they don't.

if you dance around in a landmine field, eventually something is going to explode.

a really common tactic used by child predators which I'm gonna like explain super briefly and avoid giving too much info abt is that they expose people to explicit things under the guise of it still being sfw, and gradually move on from there. if you are a predator and you are entering the editblr community all you need to do is scroll through an anime list, pick one, pick some shitty dividers from canva to slap onto a character and add a psd coloring to it. it isn't that difficult to talk in third person ꒰⁠⑅⁠ᵕ⁠༚⁠ᵕ⁠꒱⁠˖⁠♡, it isn't that difficult for your one and only idol to start dming u abt how cool && awesome ur work is and how they wanna get 2 know u better ^–^ none of this s××t is difficult to replicate xD

and I'm not saying it's their fault if a predator comes up to them. but I am saying that editblr puts a large focus onto fake personas that everyone holds up no matter what, and a lot of them are all-knowing goddesses who are meant to fear nothing—so what happens when you mix that with someone who knows how to use that to their advantage? an explosion.

I'm not gonna sit here and claim that everyone on editblr is pedobaiting or predators because most of them are lonely afabs with no irl friends looking for a safe community they can reside in and be seen as cool. and that's fine. but when you worship a 15 year old and treat their work as if it's the greatest thing to ever touch the tags.. that is going to cause issues. that could potentially cause disorders, or at least traits of disorders which cannot be "fixed" or "cured", for lack of a better word, without a fair bit of therapy.

teenagers are easy to manipulate. lonely teenagers who don't get attention from anyone other than one community are the easiest, because they'll go all the way to get what they want. and when they go too far, get ostracized from the community and end up alone again.. it opens up more opportunities.

I wholeheartedly believe that the emphasis on the personas, the layouts, the typing quirks, the aesthetics and the most important aspect everyone tries to live up to, perfection, will cause the downfall of the community.

I do also think it's funny that everyone is caught up on the dyslexia thing considering half the people in this community are faking disorders and saying slurs they can't reclaim just because nobody will question them for fear of being attacked but uhm that's a different personal topic !! btw for a group all abt acceptance they certainly do hate it when people aren't white or "japanese" (you know fully well why that's in quotes) .. lol .. kinda funny how that works !

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[mossier-tendencies]

updating my intro!

my name is veil! i also go by luca, cairo, vision, cecil, liv/livie, and mossy. plus a few others. i usually use a different one depending on what side of the internet i'm on.

basic stuff:

pronouns - they/xe/moss/decay/spore (more on pronouny)

some of the stuff i'm into - half life/hlvrai/any spinoffs, metal gear solid, house md, disco elysium, dungeon meshi, the magnus archives, mob psycho 100, ace attorney, pokemon, psychonauts, and hunt down the freeman. very subject to change, tags linked on each of these.

main blog - this one! i reblog fandom or funnies (tagged as #funnies), or whatever else interests me. if my tagging system seems inconsistent i prommy i'm trying to make it better LOL

art blog - @mossy-tendencies, sometimes active on there

hlvrai/half life blog - @teamsnice. i'm so glad i was able to claim that url.

webdev blog - @byte-beetle, where i reblog cool graphics n stuff!

my carrd

byf:

i am 19.

i use tone indicators often (for ease of access/my sake)

i also use slurs i can reclaim liberally. i'm a bit of a faggot baybeeee!!

i'll tag anything if you need it tagged! for the most part, i only tag posts that are overtly nsfw, gorey/graphic, or common cws such as eyestrain or suicide. ask box is open if you need anything, or just wanna chat.

i fluctuate between periods of hyperactivity and inactivity. i also follow lots of people, so don't take it personally if i don't reblog your art. my spoons are in the negatives, sorry.

comprehensive dni on my carrd

some of the tags i use:

#veil rambles - posts/reblogs in which i talk a lot.

#misc. art - really anything that isn't a fandom i am regularly in.

#useful thingies - crafts and the like which are. Useful, as the name implies.

#queer existence - my general lgbtq+ tag, or stuff that encapsulates the queer experience.

#warmth - posts that make me feel cozy inside..

#animal art - regular ol' animals

#anthros and furries - Not regular ol' animals

#objectum - i think tech and machines are hot.

#cowboypostin - cowboys are one of my special interests. i'm also gay as fuck.

#bugposting - another special interest.

#eyeposting - eyes give me gender euphoria. also another special interest.

#divineposting - as the name implies: anything holy, divine, angelic, or just with that general, religious vibe (in the cool, otherworldly way)

#creatureposting - mythical creatures, monster and fey alike. for beings i wouldn't consider anthros or furries.

#extinctiongender - a personal xenogender of mine. i may make a post for it someday, but for now... you can just look at the flag on the left side of my pfp.

you made it this far? my nsfw/18+ blog is @bearly-bearable-faggotry! NO MINORS. i'll block you if you're underage. ty.

thanks for stopping by! again, ask box is open, feel free to say/send anything (within reason).

[realmupp]

I’m bored so I’ve decided to answer all these questions

1. Which labels do you use?

I use a TON of labels so if you want to see them all, it’s linked in the pinned post on my profile

2. Do you like to use the term queer for yourself? Or just LGBT, etc?

I use both because I like ‘em

3. Which pronouns do you use?

He/They

4. Are you "out" to your family and friends?

I’m not out to any of my family members but I am out to a lot of my friends

5. Are you "out" publicly?

No because I only come out to people I trust

6. (If you're out) do you wish you came out sooner?Later? Or was it the right time?

I think all but one of the times it was the right time. However, there was this one guy who was shipping me and my other friend so I straight up told him that I don’t like girls and now there’s drama between two of my friends because of it

7. Are you the "token" queer person in your family?

I mean kinda???? I don’t know if any of my siblings are queer but none of the give off the energy that they are

8. Describe your gender without using any words traditionally related to gender:

Bleak

9. When did you realize you weren't cishet?

Sometime during middle school when I learned about asexuality through a fanfic but I remember being attracted to men in elementary school but I was still convinced that I was straight

10. Something that gives you gender euphoria (whether you're cis or trans):

I haven’t discovered anything that gave me gender euphoria because most things are “meh” or “DEFINITELY NOT” so yeah

11. Favorite (or just one you love) piece of LGBT media?

Probably The Owl House but it’s over :(

12. Name some queer artists/bands or songs you like most:

I listen to a mix variety of artists but I don’t know if any of them are queer and I’m not gonna look it up because there’s A LOT

13. Do you choose to reclaim slurs, why or why not? I

Personally myself I don’t say them and when other queer people say it I just get a bit shocked and then move on with my day

14. How do you think other factors like neurodivergency or upbringing have impacted your identity?

Hell if I know ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

15. How has your identity changed over time?

I’m gonna say a shortened version of it because I can’t remember it all straight -> gay -> bi -> gay -> gay and asexual -> bi and asexual -> gay and asexual -> polyromantjc and asexual -> + a whole lot of acespec identities

16. Do you attend Pride in person every year?

I’ve never went to a Pride Parade before

17. Have you ever attended Pride in a big city/ large metro area?

Same as above

18. How old were you when you got to attend your first Pride? Who did you go with?

Same as above

19. Do you feel safe and accepted in your local community?

The only local community I’ve been in is my school’s GSA club and I think it’s pretty cool

20. Do you feel like you "fit in" with the queer/Pride community overall?

I’m not really sure what this is asking me

21. What message would you give to your younger self?

Stop being convinced you’re straight, you literally liked men and knew that but still denied that you’re queer

22. How do you usually celebrate Pride month?

For the first couple of days I’m usually like “yippie!!!! :D” but then after it’s just same as usual

23. Do you prefer loud parties or quiet?

I don’t go to parties but I think I would like a mixture of the two

24. Do you practice any religion, if so how does it play into your LGBT identity? Do you feel welcomed by your spiritual community?

I currently do not practice any religion

25. What queer discourse frustrates you the most?

All of them

26. How do you feel about the term partner rather than husband/girlfriend/etc?

I like it :D

27. What gender-neutral terms for yourself or others do you use (i.e. joyfriend)?

Not really a whole lot

28. Do you experience both romantic and sexual attraction? Do you experience them the same across any gender(s) you are attracted to?

I only experience romantic attraction to men

29. Are you currently partnered, or if not are you interested in having partner(s)?

I’m currently not, I’m fine not having one but I would like to have one in the future

30. Are you monogamous or polyamorous?

Monogamous

31. Post a pic in your pride gear (or it can just be a selfie or anything else Igbt):

I’m not comfortable posting myself on the internet, but these are all the Pride stuff I have. I got the flag and the progress flag pin from GSA club which is pretty cool

32. Do you do arts and crafts? Post a pic of a project you've done:

I don’t really do arts and crafts that often

33. What about your LGBT identity do you feel proud of/ want to recognize/celebrate?

I probably recognize my asexuality the most

34. What are you needing most right now (what would make your life easier or more fulfilling in regards to existing as queer)?

Probably having rights

35. Anything else you want to ask during Pride:

None, but if you made it this far, thank you for getting to know a bit about me!

[radmalenia]

@polyamorouspunk Wow! You said the quiet part out loud... You have nothing in common with gays, with lesbians; not even with regular bisexuals. Being "queer" is putting on a performance for other people, to you... It's a weird alternative subculture that you want to be in so you can feel like you're special and cool in some way. You've directly tied it to dressing super punk/alternative and you literally want people to clock your "queerness" because of your outfit and personal appearance. Wow

Here's the deal - it wouldn't be that bad if you just made this your own thing, but you're not - you're saying you are part of the gay community because of it, you're saying this is what gay people are like and what being gay IS. You forcibly team yourselves with gay people and insist on calling the whole fucking gay community the "queer community". Guess what - actual homosexual people aren't like you. They aren't the fucking "queer community", and it's disgusting that so many people like you say "I don't mind using/reclaiming this slur, so everyone else should be fine with it too!" Soooo many gays and lesbians have totally distanced themselves from the whole community because you guys insist on this term being used as The Umbrella Term for everyone. It's very uncaring and disrespectful of you.

And it would still be cringy and rather offensive, but it would be a lot better and way less people would be angry with you; if people like you just admitted you've taken the term "queer" to mean "weird and alternative" and went off with it and made your own thing, made it clear that it's about self expression first and foremost, not sexuality; and therefore it's separate from the gay community. But you don't. You insist it's one and the same - and that's the problem. And let me be clear - it is completely okay to simply be alternative. I'm not going after that at all - dress however you want, have whatever piercings, tattoos, and hair color you like - your appearance alone is fine and is not the point. I myself am a metalhead, a trad goth, and a former emo kid; I love the alt scene. I'm also strongly bisexual. And my goth clothes have ZERO relationship to that. I have absolutely no desire to wear my sexuality on my sleeve, because I have a real personality and therefore I don't make my sexuality my identity! It's as neutral a fact about me as my eye colour is - I don't need to have anyone see me and immediately think "oh that is a bisexual person". Why the fuck would I want that?? What's the point???

And so me and all these others are pissed at people like you because you damage both the gay community and the alternative community. Tying "queer" to "alternative appearance" and then also saying that the whole gay community is the "queer community", is a huge problem. Read these other people's reblogs, read mine; and actually think about what we're saying. Think about what fucking message you're putting out here and how it reflects on all gay people - why gay people (and a lot of alt people too) are very upset about it.

“Don’t judge a person by their looks” but also I did not dye and cut my hair and sew on all these patches and studs and stick all these safety pins and button pins in my jacket and scuff up my boots and rip my jeans and sit through getting these tattoos/piercings for you to not assume my gender and sexuality. I’m queer.

[astrayan]

"come on don't you see that it's cool to be weird? epic to be strange? sexy as hell to be fucked up and perhaps even a little bizarre? feel how affirming it can be to claim that for yourself, to embrace what makes you peculiar in other people's eyes" is the hot take of today and while i respect the people who view the word queer as a slur, i do not consider it to be one myself. they literally wrote on huge fabrics and chanted "WE'RE HERE, WE'RE QUEER, GET USED TO IT.". this is a part of our history y'all.

but again I'm not american so i never had to deal with the trauma of being an English speaker and being offended by it and consider it's a slur. you're absolutely totally valid. my opinion is completely from the outside since i live in another country.

EDIT: trying to reclaim words takes time. some people WILL be offended. they have every right to be as you do. but i myself believe queer is a positive connotation word and it's overflowing to mainstream. so, nice.

EDIT 2: we do have something similar in portuguese. the words "viado" and "bicha". but we are also trying to reclaim those words to change their meanings from negative to positive. I constantly greet my queer friends with "E AÍ VIADO", and we refer to each other as "bichas" like 99.9% of the time.

[bibookmerm]

pinned! updated August 2024

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pronoun-collecting genderqueer/fluid trans man

Out as trans since 2017! Had top surgery March 2024! Medical transition is one small part of my journey and gender expression, not the destination or what "makes" me trans.

married since 2020 ♡

SCAdian (living history geek). areas of interest: fencing, dance, bardic, scribal, cooking, and sewing clothes! card weaving and spinning also seem cool as fuck. I'm a beginner at everything, I just think these are the coolest things in the SCA.

Current language studies: main focus is Yiddish. secondary Irish and ASL.

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I'm anti-Zionist. This does not invalidate my Jewishness.

I lean toward inclusion on most lgbt+ discourse. I just want people to learn about and understand our histories.

I reclaim queer for myself and my relationship. My wife's a lesbian and "queer" honors both our identities. I don't tag it as "q slur".

DD/LG and similar dynamics squick me out. I don't want that type of content near me, please.

Otherkin are cool in my book. So are furries. If you mock them, idk, I think you're mean. Ah, fuck it. I'll grow up and be honest with myself. I'm a furry.

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[oscar-mildes]

elvira you know I always see what you're hiding in the tags,, I will always read it if you answer all of them abhsjdbs

nev you asked for this and im going to go thru with it bc im an oversharing idiot like oh you asked me how’s the weather i will tell you about all my trauma instead :D 

What do you identify as and what are your pronouns? i’m cis yo i’m she/her. i’m biromantic ace. thats the label i would put on it i guess. i really just refer to myself as gay bc i like pretty boys who look like girls and pretty girls and pretty nb and queer people and basically i just like pretty people ajsfbjf

How did you discover your sexuality, tell your story? theres no story to it. no epiphany or realization. i just always was ok with thinking that girls were pretty and that gay people are cool and it wasnt until recent years that i was like oH SHIT AM I GAY

Have you experienced being misgendered? What happened and how did you overcome it? no i guess bc i’m a girl and id as a girl and have a very obvious girl body

Who was the first person you told, how did they react? i guess my best friend. we’re both very ok with gay shit and we just always made comments about pretty girls and now we’re both pretty gay. i like my big tiddie anime girls and she likes her pretty kpop girl bands

Describe what it was like coming out, what did you feel? i’ve only “come out” to some of my friends. i would NEVER in my LIFE even imagine telling my mom i like girls. shes homophobic Like That

If you’re out, how did your parents/guardians/friends react? uhh see above. my mom, stepdad, family members are all homophobic. hispanics in general are Like That rip. i think my dad would be the most ok with it but he lives in mexico and i dont talk to him often anyway. doesnt matter

What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality? i hate when people ask me about the ace part. like they have a bigger problem about my not wanting to have sex over the liking girls part tbh. sometimes it’s difficult for me to even describe where i am on the ace spectrum. it’s honestly the more difficult part 

Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. basic nerd. you know those fics like “she dressed in a black t-shirt, skinny jeans, and all star converse” yea that she is me

Who are your favourite lgbt+ ships? ajkfj this is a good question and canon wise i love Ash and Eiji from Banana Fish, Uenoyama and Mafuyu from Given, Nezumi and Shion from No. 6, and Simon and Baz from Carry On. Not canon i love Kurama and Hiei from Yu Yu Hakusho, Izuku and Todoroki from My Hero Academia, and Inosuke and Tanjiro from Demon Slayer. Note how most of them are anime i

What does makeup mean to you? Do you wear any? i dont really wear any bc im lazy. if you like it you do you but idrc for it? except for lipstick i LOVE lipstick i have all the colors. i wear it so it distracts people from the rest of my face

Do you experience dysphoria? If so, how does that affect you? ...no

What is the stupidest thing you’ve heard said about the lgbt+ community? i live in the south so ive heard tons of shit talk about gay people. i dont really have any that stand out. my mom just likes to say that we’re going to hell :D so let’s give em a show ay

What’s your favourite thing about the lgbt+ community? i guess i like how we find solidarity in each other just bc we’re not straight. most of the lgbt+ folks i know are pretty chill about everything

What’s your least favourite thing about the lgbt+ community? terfs but they dont count

Have you ever been to your cities pride event? Why or why not? i live in a small town and i could never sneak out of my house for that bc i still live with my mom so no

Who is your favourite lgbt+ Icon/Advocate/Celebrity? theres so many big celebrities now that id as lgbt+ but im going old school and loving my man, my tumblr url namesake mr Oscar Wilde. my man got put in jail for sodomy 

Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet? lmao never bc im mean, ugly, and terrible at talking to people irl. i had a bf in middle school? but bc i was 12 i dont count it 

What is your favourite lgbt+ book? Carry On and the sequel Wayward Son. (very anxiously waiting for book 3 Anyway the Wind Blows come on Rainbow Rowell)

Have you ever faced discrimination? What happened? for being gay? no. bc im not really out. ive faced discrimination for being a brown woman tho :)))

Your Favorite lgbt+ movie or show? yall i love gay anime: Given, Banana Fish, No. 6, Yuri on Ice yeee. i dont really watch tv with real people but i think that Brooklyn 99 does a very good job with Holt and Rosa yall im love Rosa

Who are some of your favourite lgbt+ bloggers? theres bloggers??? um idk i love u nev so you count right @why-do-you-pick-flowers

Which lgbt+ slur do you want to reclaim? for a while everyone was mad as hell about “im gay for ___” and idk im gay for everything so thats a “slur” i use for myself

Have you ever gone to a gay bar, or a drag show, how was it? ive never gone omg i’d probably be intimidated as hell like i have a lot of problems just existing so to be existing around very flamboyant and extravagant people like that makes me break into a nervous sweat

How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that mean to you? ive always felt like a girl even tho my mom always said “oh you like boy things??? you should have been born a boy” but like, your likes and dislike dont determine your gender. i like “boy” things and “dress like a boy” but i dont FEEL like a boy. ive never had any desire to become a boy or id as a boy. gender is a social construct fuck society

Are you interested in having children? Why or why not? i have a very complicated relationship with children. babies are ugly and toddlers are annoying but i feel like if i had children i would love them obviously because theyre mine. this is gonna be a weird analogy but like i dislike cats. BUT  i have cats. and i love the fuck outta them. so i feel like thatd be me with kids. but im ace so like.... who would even have kids with me. i could not. pregnancy seems like a hassle and adoption is... i have thoughts on that but thats for a different post. also i can see myself being married and not having children OR having kids without a spouse. theres just something complicated about having both??? maybe im just fucked in the head idk bro

What identity advice would you give your younger self? you dont hate girls you like them, dumbass

What do you think of gender roles in relationships? fuck gender roles. get pegged, bros. i also have a very specific dynamic if i ever got into a relationship (which you know. wont happen) but like if i dated a guy i feel like i’d be very top. a MAN telling ME what to do??? fuck that. but if i dated a pretty girl??? top me pls

Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender? i think ive already said too much oh god someone is gonna look at this and be like what the FUCK but like lmao dont be afraid to ask me i apparently have no shame

What is something you wish people know about being lgbt+? it’s scary at first because you think “im not normal” but like pray tell me what is normal. do what makes you happy. fuck society

Why are proud to be lgbt+? i’m comfortable with the people i like. i might not be very confident and i have depression, anxiety, self esteem issues, probs adhd or ocd idfk but at least i know if i see a pretty girl or smth im gonna be like wow that girl is pretty and have no bad thoughts about it. it’s just how it be. after a lot of dissecting my past behavior, ive always been this way. you cant change who you are. just accept it

[wyrmwynd]

Hey, I kinda look up to you a bit, and I wanna know if you think it's acceptable to tell people who are avoidant (for whatever reason) towards the q word that they are terfs? I'm seeing posts that are basically "if you tag the q word you're a terf and should be blocked" everywhere and I kinda wanted to know your opinion, thanks and if this discourse is something you don't wanna touch I understand

I? Have not heard this one yet? But I guess I haven’t been on tumblr much today?

Lots of people avoid the word bc of personal experience or the history of the word or even just bc they don’t like it or even trauma so like not wanting to use the word or be labelled as it is? totally cool? And as long as ppl realize that it is not up to them to tell everyone else not to use it then it’s fine. Like. My gender identity is genderq*eer bc it’s the closest word I have to describing my gender. But there are also other people who would hate to be called that word. Both are cool and okay and can exist in the same space, and have been existing the same space ever since the word was used to reference lgbt+ people. It’s easy and free for me to censor the second half of my gender in text if it makes other people more comfortable, or at least alert them beforehand if it were a speaking-conversation, and for me to not use the word around those who don’t want me to use it around them.

I also really hate this trend of calling literally everyone a terf. To be a terf one must be 2 things: 1 a transphobe AND 2 a radical feminist. that’s. that’s it. the majority of transphobic ppl that we deal with are….. transphobes…… and by calling every transphobe a terf we’ve made this environment where? literally anything can be called “terfy” if even one (1) transphobe used the same “rhetoric”. It allows ppl to assign behaviors to “terfs” as a universally hated group instead of faulting the individual people for being shitty and transphobic. In this example it makes it so that instead of some transphobe being avoidant of q***r (which could have been strewn to be a “trans” word that they didn’t wanna be called since it includes trans people? idk i dont know where this Discourse originated but either way it’s ridiculous) it becomes “terfy” to avoid the word and then even trans people who don’t like the word would be then called “terfy”. I know many trans people who don’t like the word, are they all “terfy” now? Like, henlo???? Anyways this paragraph got off topic but. Baseline: it’s not terfy to hate or love the word, bc it has nothing to do with being a transphobic radical feminist.

My advice to u is to like. Unfollow whomstsoever is saying these things bc in reality it’s best to just. Ignore them? You don’t need to deal with people who are so willfully obtuse ya know? Like I said I haven’t even seen this Discourse yet so it could be something w/ a few people u follow, I know that’s happened to me before, where it feels overwhelming, like all these people have a hurtful opinion, but then it’s like o hey. It was only a couple ppl I followed who wouldn’t stop talking about it. Which has happened to me… quite a lot. It’s cool to remember that this website is made in such a way that allows u to be with people/content you WANT to associate with, and that there’s never any harm in unfollowing someone if they are doing anything that bothers u. Even if it’s something small. But in this case I would say it’s a big issue, since it was enough for you to even message me over it! So in your case I would definitely try to see who it is that is saying this a lot on your dash and just. Unfollow them. No harm done!

TLDR cuz this got long but: calling people terfs for random things is ridiculous on many levels but this is most likely one of the worst i’ve seen.There’s literally nothing transphobic about the word, or avoiding the word, it’s literally just a reclaimed slur for lgbt+ people, so yea. Unfollow people who are bringing bad discourse into yr life and u will feel better. Also sorry for talking about it for so long this was just the first i had heard about it so I kind of, got long winded with it,, I apologize. It’s super sweet that you look up to me, I appreciate it a lot! I hope I didn’t disappoint u with my response, although I probably overwhelmed you, sorry 

[punkscowardschampions]

Ali & Marlene

Ali: Hey babe, sorry I missed rehearsal, know you rocked it regardless  💋 Marlene: Kind of need our lead singer to do that. Instrumental wasn't the vision for the track, babygirl Marlene: Where did you have to be? We could've rescheduled Ali: I know, I know, my bad! Make it up to you Ali: Ugh, got detention, didn't I Ali: don't even get me started on that Marlene: Make it up to me alone or me and the band? Marlene: Little rebel Marlene: Can't have you getting in more trouble by ditching, can we? Marlene: I'll add in another rehearsal, the girls won't mind Ali: Why not both? Ali: Come over and I'll record the vocals for you Ali: You know it boo 👩🏼‍🎤 Ali: Exactly, even though I'm fully staging a protest tomorrow Marlene: That's my girl Marlene: I'll be there front and centre, lending my voice to the movement Ali: Aww, so supportive Ali: cute 😉 Ali: I've rallied all the usual suspects so it shouldn't be a flop Ali: we have the allotted hours, like, if they fail to control us in 'em, why add more, yeah? pointless, where's the logic Marlene: Making me so proud to have you on my arm Ali: As you should be Ali: Though that arms not bad 💪 Marlene: I wouldn't be the best bassist in this shithole if it was Ali: One track mind 😏 SUCH a bassist Ali: don't you ever break that focus? Marlene: It has been known Marlene: For the right girl Ali: Introduce me to her some time, yeah? Ali: Get some tips Marlene: You know her pretty well Marlene: The name's Alison, like the song Ali: So soft Ali: Still say we do a Elvis Costello and Dolly mashup Ali: idc what you say, Jolene is a bop and you need to own it Marlene: If I can hear you do an original Elvis cover, I'll think about it Ali: Fine, I'll happily sing about myself all day Ali: can even get the accent down, thanks Ma Marlene: I'll be waiting for that Marlene: The girls are asking if you need posters or anything else for the protest? Anything to stick around and drink more Ali: Patience, babe Ali: Gotta save these pipes for the protest Ali: Feel free to go for their lives, like Ali: Bear in mind if they use too many expletives, the School ain't gonna listen tho Ali: creative language, not colourful, ladies Marlene: No promises on getting them to dial back the reclaimed slurs Marlene: But we'll leave off calling the teachers the cunts they are Marlene: For you, our glorious leader Ali: 🙇 down Ali: I'll take it, they're not going to go anywhere near hate speech vibes, too risky Marlene: Tempting offer Marlene: I'll take you up on it when we're alone Ali: Yeah? Gonna skip rehearsal more often then Marlene: For revolution and no less, babe Marlene: But I have missed you Ali: The revolution's always rolling, babe Ali: I can't stop the wheels of change, you know Marlene: I know you want me to make a rock and roll pun Marlene: But I refuse Ali: Boooooo 👎 Ali: too punk for me now? Marlene: Not gonna quote a dead white man either, not even Lennon Marlene: You're still my little punk princess, you know Ali: Throw some Yoko craziness at me Ali: 👑 Marlene: Keeping it back so the protest won't flop. Can't let it Ali: Sure, you just don't wanna get on the rooftop with your mates Ali: someone'd fall, or get pushed 😂 Marlene: Not me or you Marlene: With these arms we're safe Ali: 🔫 pew pew Ali: they wanna try me, bitch Marlene: We should fill up supersoakers for those who are anti our message Marlene: Piss on their negativity in a literal sense Ali: not with actual piss, right? Marlene: You have to start thinking punk rock, babe Ali: I am not pissing into a supersoaker Ali: not dying to prove my aim is as good as a man's like Ali: you do you, babe but I'll leave it at good old fashioned water Marlene: Now who's deserving the boos and jeers Marlene: So regal of you Ali: what can i say? my idea of a good time isn't pissing on my own hands Ali: crazy, i know 😉 Marlene: How true my love is Marlene: Any time's a good time with my baby Ali: 💙 Ali: forreal tho, what are we doing this weekend Marlene: There are a few parties Ali: where Ali: i wanna go as far away as poss Marlene: They're local, usual suspects Marlene: We can do something else Ali: Think of something better, yeah Ali: I'm sick of the locals at the mo Marlene: I'll come back to you with a plan Ali: 💋 Ali: that's my girl Marlene: What am I good for if I can't take you away from this shithole? Marlene: Not like it's that hard Ali: You got your license, 'til I got mine I'm at your beck and call, like Ali: Your Ma will be cool, yeah? Doesn't need to be long, just long enough to breathe Marlene: I'll make a deal with her Marlene: Name drop you since she's a fan Ali: Such a parent pleaser 😇 Marlene: If you sang it she'd do anything you say Marlene: Thinks you've got the voice of an angel for sure Ali: Aww, what a babe Ali: like mother like daughter 😏 Marlene: She had her moments of hell raising Marlene: Would to this day if it was possible Ali: Imma ask her all about it when I see her Ali: fo'sho Marlene: That'd make her happy Ali: Who doesn't love being scandalous? Marlene: Whoever gave you detention Ali: Give you three guesses 😑 Marlene: I don't need them Marlene: Most are in your fan club too Ali: Exactly Ali: Don't teach R.S. if you can't handle healthy debate Marlene: Yeah. We live in Dublin not a dictatorship Ali: Honestly Ali: Some people really wanna take it back to the troubles Ali: Shouldn't have said as much but chill, dude Marlene: Freedom of speech, babe Marlene: I've lost count of how many teachers I've called homophobes Marlene: Gotta speak up Ali: True Ali: you are a bit quick on the draw sometimes, like Marlene: I'm not letting them get away with it Ali: Just sayin', plenty of reasons to give you dirty looks, babe, not all of 'em that you're gay 😜 Marlene: I'm a perfect gentleman and you know it Ali: True Ali: You don't look it tho Marlene: You don't look like a rebel queen Marlene: And yet Ali: I know looks are deceiving, tell it to the homophobes, babe 😏 Ali: also you gotta stop with the compliments 😾 Marlene: But everyone's clearing out. It's the perfect time to shower you with them Marlene: Where do you wanna be? Here or there Ali: When bae only sweet talks you when their mates aren't about Ali: SUCH a fuckboy, darling 💋 Marlene: You know what I was getting at, darling Marlene: We can be alone finally Marlene: But only if you're in the mood Ali: I'll come over Ali: as much as my Ma is also a fan, just yours like, not so much mine Marlene: Let me pick you up Marlene: It's too dark for that shit Ali: Nah, I wanna walk Ali: gotta burn off the energy I didn't get to rock out Marlene: Hold your keys since you won't take my knife off me Ali: Don't worry Ali: My Da beat you to the self-defense lesson, like Ali: I'm sweet Marlene: If I'm not there to protect you, I'm bound to worry Ali: You worry too much, baby Ali: Good thing I'm coming to take all your cares away Ali: and I've got bud, naturally 🚬 Marlene: And I hid some drinks from the vultures Ali: Party of two 😘 Marlene: When you get here. Until you do I'm sitting on the floor alone writing shitty songs about you Ali: Try and write a good one, will ya? Not having it bandied about that I'm a shit muse 😉 Ali: you could never Ali: gonna play for me when I get there? Marlene: Been trying since I met you, babygirl Marlene: It's not you, it's me Ali: Nah Ali: there's a hit in there, I just gotta try harder Ali: as you're so anti-establishment, your brain is noping on writing a bop that everyone will love Marlene: I want you to love it Marlene: You're the one it's for Ali: I'm excited to hear Ali: assuming I don't get shanked on the way by the big bad wolf Marlene: Your tragic early death isn't the inspiration I want or need Ali: Tell it to the TV writers, hun Ali: angry protest song #765 Marlene: I'll sing you my shitty song and you can die laughing Ali: Never Ali: cross my heart Marlene: And fingers that I can patch together a chorus that doesn't make me wanna die before you get here Ali: 🤞 Ali: I have faith enough for two Marlene: As an angel, you kind of have to bring it Ali: No pressure 😓 Marlene: I'm more than okay with you lacking it, stick it to your detention giver over again Marlene: And I love you, so forgiven most sins Ali: A benevolent Goddess you are Marlene: Modeled on the original lesbian in the sky Ali: Debated theology enough today to live and let live on that one babe Marlene: Promise I'll save the angry lesbian god essay recital for another night Ali: You're a doll 💋 Ali: Oh, hold up, I see my ex Ali: ready for this awkward convo in 3 2 Ali: brb Marlene: Bet you want me to pick you up now, don't you? Ali: [15 mins later] Ali: That was wild Marlene: What the fuck, Ali Marlene: I was about to start searching for you Ali: Soz, more chatty than I remember Ali: only gone at got someone pregnant hasn't he Marlene: Dodged a bullet Ali: Tell me about it Ali: Still out on the town tryna get some though Ali: is that the new come on? I'm fertile! Marlene: In this town, likely Marlene: Which ex is it? Ali: #4 good drugs, bad teeth Ali: the one who lowkey stalked me after and my brother had to smack him one Ali: good times, unexpected detour down memory lane there but got us some freebies so Marlene: It took 15 mins to get what you're owed, how long does he take over customers who aren't his stalked exes Marlene: bad business is what you should've called him Marlene: Or manners Ali: names are definitely open to workshopping Ali: he had to show me the scan pics, duh Marlene: Had to do the whole come on Marlene: fucking pig Ali: Bless Ali: have your fun whilst you still can, kid Marlene: not with my girlfriend Ali: don't worry babe, got the drugs for free free Ali: not suck my dick free Marlene: Are you gonna be here soon Marlene: I can still bring the car Ali: Yeah, I'll get a wriggle on Ali: 5 minutes if I run Marlene: If you don't run into any more exes first Ali: cities littered with 'em Marlene: If you didn't date men you could stay friends with them Ali: why would I wanna do that? Ali: I've seen your dyke drama, a no thank you Marlene: I don't have dyke drama Marlene: You're the one trying to avoid the awkward Ali: 😏 Ali: I don't care, its funny Ali: he wasn't that bad, really Ali: don't need to add every ex to my inner circle though, that's a madness Marlene: He stalked you Marlene: He's an asshole Ali: Not properly Ali: Just had issue letting go as fast as I did, who can blame him 😘 Marlene: It's not funny, Ali, it's fucked Ali: So serious 😾 Ali: It ain't like he locked me in his basement, I get to decide how fucked it was or wasn't Marlene: You get to brush it under the carpet too, doesn't make it right Ali: 🙄 you're as bad as my mother Marlene: maybe she's got a point Ali: Ugh, don't need to point score, she already likes ya, babe Ali: he's just a stupid kid, not fucking Bundy, yeah, let's chill Marlene: He doesn't have to be Bundy to be held accountable, babe Marlene: He's gonna be someone's dad Marlene: What the fuck Ali: for what? being a bit of a prick at 16 Ali: s'not a crime, last time I checked Marlene: it doesn't have to be Marlene: Lads think they can do whatever they want Marlene: They can't and shouldn't Ali: Nah, this isn't a soap box moment, babe Ali: we all do things we know are wrong, and ain't proud of Ali: 'cos of how we're feeling Ali: Honestly, not a big deal Ali: and not an exclusively male thing, that's a crock of shit Marlene: If I was heavy handed with one of my exes I'd get so much shit Marlene: He gets boys will be boys Marlene: It's not a big deal because you're making excuses for him Ali: From who? The lesbian mafia? Ali: Straight girls are INSANE Ali: way worse than #4 was ever Ali: I'm not gonna burn him at the stake for something I don't believe in Marlene: Straight girls are a whole other subject Marlene: Last I checked you didn't have any of them as exes so no really the point Ali: That you know of Marlene: I know about every one of your exes Ali: Okay, Liam Neeson Ali: can't be calling out stalkers when you're breathing down the phone like that 😂 Marlene: You're not funny Ali: I am though Ali: but I ain't coming over if you're gonna be such a downer Marlene: Are you serious? Marlene: Your jokes are so bad I can't tell Ali: Duh Ali: Killing my vibe, babe Marlene: You're basically here Ali: So? Ali: I can keep walking into this dark night Marlene: So come in Marlene: I'm sorry, baby Ali: You promise you're gonna stop being lame? Marlene: Cross my heart Ali: Okay, lemme in then

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"Do you have any idea how many graves you're pissing on? How many people would be enraged that you're using their deaths like this?" WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY'D THINK. THEY'RE DEAD. WE'VE LOST AN ENTIRE GENERATION OF LGBT (MOSTLY TRANS WOMEN AND GAY/BI MEN) PEOPLE TO THE AIDS CRISIS. AND Y'ALL HERE NOW REWRITING HISTORY AND SLIDING INTO THESE EMPTY SPOTS AS 'ELDERS' IN UR 20s SO THAT SOME SUPER SPECIAL CISHETERONIS CAN CALL THEMSELVES QUEER. YOU ARE THE DISRESPECTFUL ONE YOU FUCKING MORON.

I’m tired of everyone acting like this. Leave the fucking phrase some, it’s been consumed by liberal efforts enough as is. Stop using this fucking slur for anyone other than yourself. Cis straight and cis aroace people leave us alone.Let’s all stop fucking bickering over the AIDS Crisis like a divorced couple in a property dispute. Responds like yours aren’t that much better either. People died. It has everything to do with transmisogyny, homophobia, racism, and classism and fuck all to do with aphobia. People used and still use HIV and AIDS to shame LGBT people for having and wanting sex, as a way to say that any level of physical intimacy with gay men and trans women was dangerous. It was a way to paint LGBT people as predatory lepers while letting us die off, two birds with one ugly stone. We were quarantined and isolated, left to die and die nameless. That’s why we started throwing stones back. That’s why we picked the stones back up, still covered in own blood, and threw them right back. That’s what “we’re here, we’re queer” was for. Queer was and is a weapon used against LGBT people. When we reclaim it, that’s pulling the weapon out of our wounds and using it for self defense, nothing else.If you haven’t been hurt by the word queer, it’s not your wound you’re picking it out of. It’s you pulling it out of the wound, leaving it to bleed and bleed, causing someone else to hurt while you feel cool with a stone in your hand.THAT is why I’m against the phrase being used against LGBT people and for asexuality. So, let’s just fucking stop. No tantrums like this, even if you’re technically right, just... respect for those who came (and went) before us. And a respect for history and activism that came from a place of pain most of us can’t fathom.