#so so so tired of everyone's bullshit

[bottomlessabyssposts]

Everyday y'all find something to say about Mike and everyday my urge to become violent grows stronger

[corviiids]

in an au where there's no kira and lawlight really do just meet in college light takes L home for dinner and is like ok we both know i have endless patience with what a weird freak you are due to how much of saint i am as we both know. but please try not to be too weird of a freak when you meet my parents. L's like yes okay whatever and then spends the entire dinner with his back really overexaggeratedly straight and making excessively normal small talk about american baseball and the stock market and light's family is bemusedly enchanted but light correctly interprets this as an act of passive aggression and a declaration of war and breaks up with him dramatically over dessert and then cries in his bedroom all night while light's parents are really confused why their nice son seems so angry with his perfectly polite and normal boyfriend who thanked them so sweetly for the ice cream. and soichiro walks L to the train station and bonds with him about law and then is like light i don't know why you behaved so shockingly at dinner tonight when ryuzaki (L uses a fake name for absolutely no reason at all in this au like just to be difficult) is such a nice young man and light punches his wall

[doydoune]

random aa doodles totally in order

[frozen-seagrass]

Thinking about Mav being unsure of what Ice's eye color is

Of course he's not going to do the normal thing and ask the man, so he settles for finding ways to get up close and personal to try and see for himself without being obvious (-> he fails)

But every time he gets a close enough look they're different. One day they look blue but the next they look hazel. One moment they look brown but then he turns his head and a different light catches on them and they look almost green

It turns into one big game of "How close will he let me get? How much will he let me see?" And it's not until he's gotten to the point of being a breath away from Ice's face- close enough to brush lips- and standing under the bright white LEDs that he realizes that they're gray

[boimgfrog]

it's always "autism acceptance" until the autistic person is weird, or fat, or a man, or has poor hygiene, or a POC, or makes unfunny jokes, or isn't a cute feminine gay, or is actually bad at communicating, or needs to have things explained to them, or is too loud, or too quiet, or needs to be told something multiple times to understand it, or has mannerisms that make people stare at them, or, or, or, etc. if you would show patience to the cute autistic girl who collects plushies and stims by flapping her hands then you MUST show equal patience to the large autistic boy who stims by humming or hitting his head and worms underwater welding into every conversation. I am no longer asking. your acceptance cannot begin and end with people you deem palatable.

[weepingalaxy]

a couple years ago, i was told that i would be a miracle. something theoretical i guess.

[bigskydreaming]

Imagine if you were a gay or bi man who tried a certain firefighter show because of all the attention it was getting for one of its mains having a later in life bi awakening.....and between seasons you ventured into its fandom in search of material to tide you over til the next one. And you're greeted by a deluge of posts and fics that are just cheerfully homophobic towards one half of the newly out bi character's canon relationship on the basis of 'well he's not the RIGHT gay guy' and pushing the idea that actually its fine to cheat on him because Reasons and he's sexually predacious based on......behind the scenes implications people have divined like they're reading fucking tea leaves.

But don't get it twisted....this fandom, like all fandoms, really cares about representation!

Sorry not sorry, but we really need to kill this idea that fandoms are welcoming and inviting and inherently progressive when they're frequently insular and reductive as fuck. Every single fandom I've been in has had major trends of people doubling down on their own headcanons and fanon interpretations of the characters and willfully enacting trends aimed at running off people who like the 'wrong' characters (usually characters marginalized along one or multiple axes), like the characters in the 'wrong ways' or other bullshit.

Scott is a Bad Friend fics overtaking Teen Wolf fandom was not incidental, it was a FEATURE of the fandom, because the vast majority of that fandom did not want to share its space with anyone who had the nerve to like its main character. Survivors complaining about or criticizing the prevalance of rape fics in a certain fandom has in my experience always led to a reactionary UPTICK in those fics, with gems like 'this character can, will, must be raped' in the tags making it crystal clear that some of these fics exist because how fucking DARE anyone try and push forth a narrative not agreed upon by Fandom Main.

I could cite examples for so many other fandoms, with the commonalities always being that vast majorities in these fandoms are explicitly reacting defensively to being asked to be more mindful of fandom trends revolving around or exacerbating racism, homophobia, transphobia, rape or abuse apologia, ableism, etc....

With the most prolific fucking rallying cry across countless fandoms being "No the fuck we will NOT be doing that," because lolololol.....

Fandom is an inherently progressive space, didn't you hear?

[ninoochat]

Shameless - season 2 episode 11: Just like the pilgrims intended

[naomiknight-17]

Any time someone refers to a member of the queer community as 'exempt' from some kind of bigotry or 'straight passing' or whatever it really rubs me the wrong way.

I'm not a trans woman, so I'm 'exempt'' from trans misogyny. But am I really? What about all the cis, gnc, and intersex women who are mistaken for trans women and targeted as such?

What about the fact that one of my parents is an intersex trans woman? You think the bullshit they face doesn't affect me? Affect my whole family??

I'm exempt from lesbophobia, because I am not a lesbian. But I was still verbally assaulted on a bus for being a 'filthy pussy licker' for no reason I could discern other than I have an undercut.

My partner and I may 'pass' as a straight couple, but do you really think it's a privilege to be mistaken for something I'm not? To get dirty looks when I'm buying/wearing pride stuff with my husband beside me?

Why do we have to split it up into microlabels of who gets subjected to what kind of bigotry?

I am not saying not to talk about your own unique experience, of course not. And of course some of the terms and labels for certain kinds of discrimination are useful for expressing what you're facing. But dismissing everyone else's experience because 'oh well they're exempt/immune to the exact kind of bigotry I face'?

I dunno. Just seems shitty to me

[fiona-fififi]

"Why doesn't their side call out the bad behavior they accuse us of??"

Because they've blocked all the crazies on their side and aren't seeing it. Just like you're not seeing all the bullshit on your side because you've blocked all the crazies over there, too.

Also, they ARE calling it out. You just have everyone on the other side blocked, so you aren't seeing the callouts.

Like jesus fucking christ, can we stop generalizing giant portions of fandom based on the behavior of the worst fucking people in them?? Because I promise you, whether you are seeing it or not, there are really fucking shitty people in ALL corners of fandom.

[thr4shit]

Funny to think how a rather "interesting" / big aspect of my brain is just sitting here hidden from y'all but I want to talk and be normal about it so bad but also crippling fear because I've literally lost entire friend groups over it because of masking too aggressively and when honest pissing people off for some fucking reason.

Like. UGH.

BRAIN. UGH WHY.

Like. Yeah. Y'all are just fuckin strangers on the internet but some of Y'all are genuinely better than the friends I've had in my lifespan :/

(Unfortunately a lot of people I befriended in the past suck and I hate them. And they're part of why I'm this way and blah blah blah and whatever. :/ ugh. why can't people be fuckin nornal about masking out of fear of being called crazy or a faker despite VERY MUCH FUCKIN NOT. HELL. If I WAS I'd have a MUCH BETTER FUCKING LIFE THAN WHAT I GOT. HARD TO MAKE THAT SHIT UP WHEN IT ACTUALLY FUCKING HAPPENED. THANKS SOOOO MUCH TOXIC EX FRIENDS FOR MAKING ME MINIMIZE MY OWN LIFE BECAUSE YOU "HAD IT WORSE" YEAH. MAYBE YOU FUCKING DID BUT YOU MADE ME FEEL LIKE AN ASS FOR EXISTING. YOU MADE ME FEEL LIKE AN ASS FOR COPING. GO FUCK YOURSELVES. YOU USED MY EMPATHY TO GET WHAT YOU WANTED. YOU DRAINED ME DRY THEN DROPPED ME WHEN I WAS AT MY LOWEST.)

[violentlyexplosive]

it's always so funny to me when i get a new follower and they have shit like "proship DNI!!11!1!1" in their bio or pinned post. like brother my blog is not a safe space for you (neither is the entirety of the real world, but I don't think you people are ready for that conversation. on account of being probably 12 years old. cus that's what you're acting like.)

"censorship is bad" should not be a radical take in the year 2024. stop trying to sanitise the internet into some uber-puritan, ultra-virtuous, squeaky clean space. like what are you, catholic? i beg of you- grow up.

[monstrousparalysis]

So anyways, Arthur is not either of the twins' parental figure, and to say so weakens a lot of themes with both the twins and Arthur, to me.

He gives Emizel too much free reign. Few good parents worry about their child this little, and few bad parents know that their child deserves this much autonomy.

He gives Shilo the grace of being seen as an equal despite his inexperience, very important for Shilo when he has never been anybody's equal.

Both of the twins are impacted by the way their respective parent treated them, which were styles of parenting that are widely socially acceptable regardless of the harm they cause, and it is important that Arthur doesn't treat them the same way.

Emizel has problems with authority because Jeffrey used that authority to treat him like an employee. He rejects the idea of Arthur having authority over him, so Arthur doesn't try to.

Shilo has been struggling his whole life with his mother seeing him as too fragile to make any decisions for himself or learn anything about the outside world. The very first thing Arthur does for Shilo directly is respect his decision to run away while giving him advice he may need due to his sheltered upbringing.

He still gives them guidance in a society they're unfamiliar with, but that alone does not make a parental figure. Guidance can come from any number of sources. Emizel and Shilo have more experience than him with some things anyways, like technology or social grace.

Even if one did want to adhere to a traditional family structure despite the twins both having suffered as a result of the power traditional family gave their parents over them, it's pointed out far more times in canon that Arthur sees them much more like his younger siblings. Grizzly even says so outright at times.

[honeypleasejustkillme]

“i’m sorry you feel that way” “i’m sorry i upset you” “i’m sorry if..” just say “i’m sorry” and that’s it. you’re just triggering me to believe that now it’s my fault i feel that way, that i made myself upset to spite you. i have bpd. i already am upset and you adding on “you feel that way” makes it seem like you truly don’t give a shit. i don’t need extra words, i just need you to acknowledge that you were wrong and made me upset so you should apologize.

[soullessjack]

this isnt rlly a serious post more so than a thought I need to verbalize but like. there’s an INSANE difference between the fandom being like “hey what if jack was actually his age and got to be a little normal” vs y’all treating a grown ass man like he has to cover his ears when someone swears or sleep with a nightlight on because he’s afraid of the dark, and throwing the P word around to anyone who thinks he’s attractive. one of these things is not like the other.

[imthursdaysyme]

stali ft. anger issues