#so avpd is a thing

[creamlacecami]

"my greatest fear is to be rejected": X

"my greatest fear is to be rejected (and Deserve It™)": ✓

[14dayswithyou]

💖 Day 3.5 is now available! 💖

For the last couple of months, only Server Boosters had access to the 3.5 update... Buuuuut now it's available for everyone to play in the 14DWY Discord — and soon itch.io once I'm happy with the QA and state of the game — so please don't feel pressured to join unless you want to!!

The full devlog + even more screenshots are under the cut ^^

What's been added to the 3.5 version?

📺 Streamer Mode!

I've been told that it's difficult to stream and monetise age-restricted videos on YouTube and Twitch, so I added an option to remove the sexual content and strong language used in the demo.

Now y'all can invite Ren into your bed for cuddles without putting your streamer career on the line /silly /lh

This won't affect the 18+ rating or dark themes/elements of the game, however! Although Streamer Mode will prevent you from seeing any "gruesome" CGs in the future, most of the core elements of the game will still be tied to the choices and decisions you make. So you won't miss out on the overall experience by using streamer mode!!

⚙️ Custom Pronouns!

It only took me one entire year to get around to it, but you can finally choose your own preferred pronouns (or use a set of pronouns instead)... At the cost of being able to change them mid-game ^^;

Since the original pronoun screen wouldn't update until a new scene was displayed, I temporarily disabled the feature. But once I find a workaround, I'll bring it back!

💗 Choose how others perceive you!

You can now choose how the cast and narration perceive you! Originally, the narration was kept strictly gender-neutral (outside of pronouns and genitalia picked by the player), but this will soon change in future updates.

For more clarity: you don't get to choose the words specifically, but you can choose between masculine, feminine, and androgynous terms!

📋 Separate top and bottom genitalia!

You can now choose your tatas and pps separately! >:3

Alongside that, you can also choose your preferred body type!

I removed the "both" genitalia option because a few players still assumed it was an obscure version of "intersex". That wasn't my intention and I don't want to mislead anyone, so I took it out for now ^^;

I also didn't want to include a screenshot of the new genitalia choices in action (because it's NSFW), so y'all get the same character menu screen for the nth time instead lmao

📱 Relationship Screen Overhaul!

You can now change your own status for more immersion, and long-term Server Boosters will eventually be able to submit and use their own icon within the game as well!

Stalking finding your friends has now become easier by using "Buddy Maps"; a new app that allows you to see the location of all the cast members!

I want to offer players more incentive to check the relationship screen since they tend to miss the status updates, so hopefully this might help ;v;

It also says it "updates every few hours" so folks don't go overboard and check every 5 seconds to see where Ren is gdsghf (also keep in mind that he's a hacker lol)

🖤 Additional Scenes Update!

Day 2 received a brand new CG!!!!! Originally, I planned on only adding a few CGs sporadically throughout the game, but it didn't feel right to leave Day 2 so... empty... so I added a brand new CG to (hopefully) make things feel more balanced and natural!

If you decline Teo's offer on Day 3, Leon will now call and try to convince you to reconsider. However, players are still allowed to decline, and if they do, they'll reach a dead end.

After listening to feedback on itch, I changed some of the dialogue during Days 1-3 to make it seem more consistent! They're only small changes though, so it's honestly not worth looking for sdgjssga

🎶 Updated BGM and SFX!

I wanted to try out a different style of music to see if it fits the vibe of 14DWY more! The BGM features more acoustics to suit the "beachy" theme of Corland Bay, though I made a conscious effort to include piano elements as well to stay true to the original!!

I figured it'd be better to give players a live example before I make a poll (to see if they prefer the change or not) and publish it to Itch.

Some new SFX have also been added, though it's very minimal and honestly not that noticeable.

How to download and play the update?

(warning: clicking on the following links will open Discord!!) To download the Day 3.5 update, simply join the 14DWY Discord server, verify your age, and visit the "14dwy-updates" channel!

Alternatively, you can also wait until the update is publicly released on Itch to play it as well!! (It normally gets released shortly after a round of QA testing/getting feedback from the server, though I may release it earlier if I feel like it hehe ^^)

Enjoy!!

[mattodore]

guy whose “extended one-night stand” regularly deploys polish to call a little mouse

[avpdpossum]

the avpd + schizotypal traits combo is really fun because it means you can be up at 4am thinking about how you should just give up on your entire future because school and jobs and everything else worth doing involve a level of ability to talk to people that you simply don’t (and probably never will) possess and then you look up at your window sill and see a dead ladybug on it and it’s like wow. the universe itself is practically screaming in my face that i’m shit out of luck

[aftonsparv-bugzz]

:33 < can we stop with the "oh if youre cringge ? just be yourself !! doont let people judge you !!" speech alterhuman community ? ihave avpd and it really shows yall do not think once about the fact that people could literally be disabled and not able to not let people judge them because yall just assume feeling fear because of judgement is a "silly little thing" and "just being yourself can fix it !!"

[happyk44]

You know, children of Hades/Pluto and Thanatos/Mors with a propensity to develop SZPD or AVPD would also work. Their fathers are entwined with death, the dead, which makes connecting to the living hard for them.

It could be partly because of rejection when their parentage is discovered by demigods, possible unease mortals may feel around them due to their aura or whatever, and then partly because of their own innate nature, meaning even in the friendliest of circumstances they struggle to connect with the other person.

[takemetodragonstone]

can things stop happening? i’m still trying to process the things that happened when i was 3 what do you mean there are more things

[nebuvoid]

i want avpd to be the next new trend. like yeah its annoying how everyone is adhd autism this and that right now but at least its spreading awareness. i need people to know just how debilitating it is im constantly ruining my own plans, standing in my own way and unable to fight the urge to avoid like this can and will ruin your career and social life and yet even within mental healthcare its often unknown or disregarded

[fairiencarnate]

One of my coworkers invited me to her birthday party along with a few other coworkers and I just?? Is this real? Not a sympathy invite? I haven't made a friend who wasn't adjacent to somebody I already knew in 8 years. And I've been to work-related dos but this isn't about work at all. Somebody just.. wants me there. At their birthday party. Crazy

[cconfusedkat]

I wanted to mention i do in fact have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) so whenever i make any hc regarding a character with npd it is all based on my own experiences regarding my disorder !!!

For kallamar hes been neglected his whole childhood as well as not getting enough praise as a child , thus forcing himself into academics at a faster pace than everyone else for recognition from his peers ,,, hir pmv will be the only colored one just to represent hir better sense of self compared to the other bishops :-3c

^ Shamura has avpd (avoidant personality disorder), Heket has bpd (borderline personality disorder) , and Leshy often derealizes && forgets about the reality of things (Narinder doesnt exactly struggle with a sense of self ,, hes also probably the only one out of the family to. Like. Not struggle with identity ? Hes 100% aware of reality , its mainly just the social aspect of life hes a lil bad at ,,, Autism™ )

I *wouldve* given one of them aspd (antisocial personality disorder) But. I do not have aspd! Even with enough research of this disorder i think its not my place to hc anyone with aspd just cuz ive zero experience with it 👍👍 the ring of cluster pd's are Broken </3 /sil

[avpd--culture-is]

questioning avpd / adhd culture is being able to hold a conversation but feeling like you're outside of your own head and have no control over anything you say, and when the conversation is over you feel unbearably anxious, embarrassed, and ashamed of every single thing you said :-)

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[aroceu]

not offline as in "i don't use social media or digital communication at all and find no benefit to using the internet" but offline as in "i don't let the internet skew my perception of how the world works because i wish to treat people like human beings instead of accounts & i'm interested in finding practical and kind solutions rather than idealistic and extreme ones because i'm more willing to hear people out than get myself trapped in an echo chamber just so i can feel morally superior to those outside of it"

also offline as in "an adult with a job who has better things to do than engage in internet negativity just for the momentary dopamine and sense of validation"

[ningningkittie]

maybe i should just be grateful he didnt full on block me everywhere

[avpdpossum]

i never understood why some people said they felt like they knew how they were going to die until i started driving. between the adhd/dpdr combo making me constantly space out at the wheel and the avpd/probably-ocd combo making me react to bad thoughts by jerking the wheel or slamming the brakes, i’m starting to feel like it’s pretty much inevitable that that’ll eventually be how i go. if it isn’t, it either means i just got super lucky every time, or it’ll mean i got super unlucky and died some other way first.

[crystalkleure]

WE DON'T HAVE TO TALK WE DON'T HAVE TO DANCE WE DON'T HAVE TO SMILE, WE DON'T HAVE TO MAKE FRIENDS

[happyk44]

leo's avpd making him think piper specifically deviates the conversation back to her because she secretly doesn't like him and is only his friend out of pity and nothing about him is worth listening to or caring about, and being unable to see that she does it with pretty much everyone, not just him

meanwhile piper's hpd eats up his attention and she gets so so stressed out whenever he gets "busy" and stops talking to her because she cannot see the real reason behind him suddenly being busy is her inability to fully acknowledge him as a person instead of an audience and all she notices is the lack of attention and it hurts so much

what a lovely cycle of angst 💙 her need to be the focus makes him worse, and when he's worse, he isolates from people, which makes her desperate because he's pretty much where she derives most, if not all, of her positive attention from, so she seeks him out, sweet and pleasant and needy, and he feels reassured and wanted and comes back, only for it to start all over again, yay!