#slef help

[peanutheadedshenanigans]

klance in 2024.....

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Choose a number 1-30 and read a sentence for you in time of needs. You can ofc read them all.

1- You're braver than you think. You can get through this too. Just take a breath and then start again. Do not give up.

2- You're not alone even if at times it feels so. Don't worry about being a burden or annoying others: ask for help, talk about your needs and feelings. You don't have to deal with all that by yourself. Keep asking even after being rejected. Someone will answer you.

3- Look inside and see your real worth. No one else can compare to you. You're you, and you're enough and deserving already as you are. Don't let others' harsh judgement make you think otherwise.

4- Life is made of light and dark and so are you. Find your balance again among the two and keep going. It'll be fine, no feeling is going to last forever.

5- Things look scarier and rockier cause they're changing (you're changing too). It's okay to feel uncomfortable and a bit loss or overwhelmed: give yourself time until you find a new balance in your new reality. It won't be bad, I promise.

6- Go slow, take your time. Nothing and nobody is rushing behind you. It's okay to take breaks, it's okay if you're taking a bit more time than you thought in doing something. Focus on the journey not on how much time you're using or thinking you're wasting. You're not wasting time when you use it for yourself. But worrying will make you lose a part of it and hurt you even more.

7- Try to believe that things can change. Be open to them, even if you cannot control this process and see how it is gonna be, chances are it will be great. Trust yourself too (not your fears though, separate from them).

8- You're on the road of success, whether you see it or not. Keep learning, keep welcoming (your feelings in particular): the more grounded and stable you will be able to be, the more opportunities you'll be able to see and make yours.

9- Always be kind and compassionate with yourself: the mistakes you made today won't ever be the mistakes of tomorrow. Making mistakes is a way of learning, not a confirmation of you not being enough. Nobody ever has made no mistakes while trying or becoming better at something. Be patient and give yourself another chance (and even more).

10- Remember the last decision in your life is always up to you: you're the protagonist of your life, don't let it pass you by. Even if at the moment you cannot see a way out, it will come to you. Keep staying hopeful. Keep focusing on what you can actually control, be it even just your feelings.

11- You're not responsible for anyone's feelings or emotions. Remember you cannot control how they react to you or anything really, and you don't have to necessarily make everything better for others. Respect yourself too.

12- Be confident in your abilities and knowledge. Do not second guess yourself cause you were somehow taught you're not good enough: you are. And you can be wrong here and there too and it won't change your worth ever. Trust yourself whether you're right or wrong and soon you'll be just right.

13- Remember that as you give, you also need to receive from others as much. Stay open to that. You don't have to just empty yourself in order to get crumbles or the bear minimum: that's not what healthy relationships are about.

14- Set your boundaries and stand up for yourself. You're not being selfish for this, as you're not imposing on or taking advantages of others. You're just putting yourself on the same page as them, you need as much respect and love as them.

15- Take care of you: stay hydrated, make your bed, take a shower, go for a walk, enjoy a nice book or video or movie, sing, dance, paint... prepare yourself a nice cup of tea and treat yourself with a little gift here and there. You deserve all this, especially when things get rocky and too much to bear with. Celebrate your little successes too.

16- Surround yourself with the right people for you. If you cannot get away from some negative people, try at least to build boundaries and find other people with whom you can share nice moments of peace and growth, and that can get your feelings too. It's important to communicate with people that can understand us.

17- If you feel alone, try to go out and go visit place where you may find like-minded people. Join a volunteering association, go to a movie teather, a park or a library, or start a course of something you're passionate about. Sometimes we need to be the one creating opportunities to ourselves instead of waiting for others to approach us first.

18- It's okay to feel lost while trying to figure out what to do or where to go. Take a breath when this happens and focus on just doing things you like. The more you'll get to know yourself and work on something you enjoy, the faster you'll get to understand more about the next steps to take. Ask to someone trusted for their advice as well: many times people around us can see us better than what we do. Just remember that not everyone can really do that anyway so trust yourself first.

19- You don't have to work on your fears anytime you get triggered or feel overwhelmed. Take a break, focus on something else and come back to it another day. Taking breaks is part of the healing process as much as working with your shadows and triggers, so take time to enjoy your present life away from that too.

20- Help yourself liberating from the excess of energy, caused by anxiety and overthinking, that you may have stored in your body. Move your body: walk, dance, do yoga or any little light exercise (as much as you body allows). Go back to yourself, get in touch with your body and release what is not serving you anymore.

21- Journaling can help you wording and throwing out your confused thoughts, in order to clear them from the inside. You don't have to write them reasonably, this will come later: just focus on freeing yourself first and foremost. At times we just need to pour emotions/events out to process them.

22- Trauma may have caused you to detach from yourself, so take time know yourself again. Know your values and what you can compromise on and why. List things you like and dislike, what you think are your strengths and what may be your flaws (be objective here, don't let others or your wounds decide for you) and so on... you make the rules. Making lists of pros and cons for something may also be useful.

23- As we never stop learning, we never stop making mistakes and growing. Share everything you got around you, keep welcoming and understanding yourself and the world around you. Keep spreading your talents: yes you do have talents, and no they're not negative ones. Allow yourself to try anything you want: who cares if others do it too? They are not doing it better than you, they're doing it differently. See yourself where you can get just by trying with no pressure.

24- You can also try something new and different from what you're used: getting out of your comfort zone can be very inspiring both for your creativity, your mind and your life in general (and in knowing yourself). Share your finds, share your passions. Don't be shy.

25- Having being judged so harshly during your life has probably made you more insecure and willing to close off from the world: please try and allow yourself to see that even if it hurt you so much, it wasn't on you. You weren't the real object of those judgement. It is always all in the head of the person judging, it's never on the object. Be nicer with you, you're worth much more than that.

26- What is really stopping you from trying what you have in mind? Fear of making or not making? Either way, take your fear by the hand and take it to see how is it gonna be for real. Our minds want to keep us safe and try to make things look worse than they actually are just cause they want to keep us in a known zone. But what if that's not where we're supposed to stay? Or where we want to stay?

27- Don't fear: you won't be let down forever nor you won't be alone forever. Your people are coming, try to get ready to meet them and let them in. You're not made for everyone and, if your past has been tough, you may fear not being good enough for the relationship (any type) of your dreams, but you are. And you'll have the chance to build it the moment you'll be ready for it.

28- You may not trust others much out of past hurt, but the fact is that it's never your fault what others do with your trust. You don't have to feel guilty or any less cause you trusted the wrong people. It wasn't your fault.

29- Take your time when you need to bring yourself closure about an event or a relationship. Go slow and try to welcome and nurture each of your emotions and feelings, of whatever type they may be. Ask for support, talk about how you really feel, write, and slowly go back to your passion. Act according on what you feel like doing. Do not make sudden decisions and also, take time to grieve and cry. Grieving is complex, you'll experience ups and downs: it's okay, give yourself time and space to deal with all that at your own pace and conditions.

30- Healing is not about not being triggered anymore and feeling like nothing can scare you: healing is about learning how to recognize your triggers before they hurt you and taking action so that these emotions won't overcome you as they did. It's about learning to not let your fears decide your actions, but taking actions even if not knowing the results feels really uncomfortable and scary. It's about learning to be in discomfort and not letting this ruin your whole life.

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I hope these short texts can help you in your journey. I hope you take care of your whole being even if you don't really love yourself. I hope you can see yourself as someone you may end up liking after chatting a bit or as someone in need and that you may want to support. Start with that. And be open to see your good sides too, cause you have plenty even on your darkest days (they never disappear).

[sillycatgirlss]

why do i keep fucking eating i hate myself why cant i be like i was this time last year what is wrong with me

[elliesspacee]

Why am I no one’s first choice?

[l-0-s-t-at-s-3-a]

I've picked up whittling as a hobby lately and it's actually great for SH urges. It gives you that feeling like you're destroying something, but you're actually making something beautiful! Pretty cool :)

[bloodyrosesnthorns]

the voices want me to cut again ‼️

[nightmare-robo-1111]

I littarly forgot to post this one here 💀 anyway here sunny for you

My favorite line is "I should turn off the lights my slef" or "DO IT AGAIN OR YOUR TAKING A NAP 👹👹👹" I love him sm

[littlemissmasshisteria]

[6ftoverxoxo]

Me: getting changed

The line shaped “birthmarks” on my thighs:

[c4nn1blr]

Halp!!! I js cut WHY are the cuts immediately purple and raised???????????? Also my hear hurty but that’s probably sth else idk HELP IM SCARED

[emptycvts42]

Anyone know how I can purposely hurt myself, like break a bone, fall down on my wrist n break it, fall over n crack my head open???

I try but always stop myself

[loveyourlovelysoul]

if you have been looking at life from a window, never seen yourself as the protagonist but often daydreaming of yourself as someone else (physically and/or as for character) able to live their *your* dream, it's normal that you feel scared once you want to start trying to change your perspective and be in charge of your life and see the real you as the protagonist. It's hard to envision all this and imagine it can even come true. You don't feel enough or good enough: it has always been your imagination's version of you (the one you *unconsciously* thought people would have liked more), and it has always been anyone else but you deciding and living your life or directing you (and you had been obeying them, maybe also out of fear of disappointing them/them overreacting if you rebeled).

It's really scary. It's ground-shaking, when you start to give yourself the chance to see things differently. It's like losing all your certainties, moving into unknown waters. But you can make it. Just be kind with yourself and give yourself time, also to listen to your fears. And give them space anytime you find a trigger and you start again telling yourself you cannot do it. Nurture them and yourself (the younger version of you who had to go through all that and now is so scared to change). You can do it. You totally can. Maybe not immediately, but you will. Have faith in yourself and don't let any doubt block yourself (do not complicate things through your mind, even if it's a human thing to do). Hold your own hand along the way. (Or also ask for support in the process to professional figures)

[cenoriak]

ALL FAKE !!!!

its ai generated!!!

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almost there

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congrats

these are not deep bcs im scared of that. btw u can hear billie on my headphones loll. i was 1 moth clean (⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠) and boooooom

[patisratii]

TW SH

It's old. :⁠^

[trashytobes]

TW vent

what do I do now. my partner comes out of the hospital Thursday so I only have to wait 3 more days to see him. but I can't handle being alive anymore. I can't handle waking up every morning. but I don't want my partner to come back to hear I'm in the hospital now too. he doesn't need that pressure. what if people think I'm copying him, what if they think I don't need help. I'm going fucking insane. please. I'm seeing things, I can't handle being alone, the thought of death is calming and has no effect on me negatively, I r3lap$ed what do I do. I just want to die that's all. please I'm going fucking insane. I want to go to a hospital. I need a fucking hospital. please I'm fucking begging you I can't handle being alive anymore, no, no I can't wake up another morning knowing I have to go through another day. please no, no stop, please.

[bloodyrosesnthorns]

It's all about control.. isn't it?