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#fucking stupid how my boss keeps complaining#about work not being done#when we're short staffed#as in#I'm the only employee#shut up and do your own job for a change#and do it more than twice a week#I don't know why i even go to the office anymore#she actively wastes my time#i want to be done with all of this#she can't keep saying we're understaffed and that we need more ppl#amd do nothing about it#because she can't even afford it#i hate it i hate it i hate it#she wants me to do her job#it literally would take an hour every day it's ridiculous#and she keeps telling me how i do everything and then pay me a ridiculous wage#which sure i agreed to it and she gives me my bonus every month to her credit#but it's not enough anymore#it's just not#I'm doing all the work#amd she only does hers twice a week#personal#sorry i keep complaining about the same things
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ok i finally finished this shit and honestly, they wasted some good acting on this fuckass writing.
i'm also still mad bc of that boring ass kiss between juha and doyoon. they could've put all of juha's sexual repression into it but nooooo they had to blur it and make it lame
#is it bc doyoon's actor is an idol?#did the guys from a shoulder to cry on kiss? i don't even remember wait hold up#bruh i don't think they did#guys this is very disappointing ugh#we need more jiwoongs in the kbl industry#ok he wasn't an active idol back when kissable lips and poongduck came out#but WE NEED MORE KISSES LIKE THE ONES IN THOSE SHOWS FRRR#that deleted behind the scenes poongduck kiss is my roman empire i'm not even kidding#jazz for two#can't believe that jungwoo will probably waste his time watching this damn show to hype his sister up#like out of all the kbls she had to be in the shitty one#but i gotta say one thing which is that i really liked doyoon although he was an idiot with no self respect#roommates of poongduck 304#kissable lips#do yall think jiwoong and seobin will ever have a reunion#my divorced parents fr
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very very personal, just insight into where im at w my family and things that bother me/have encouraged me to move out
"i know youre moving out so im just gonna say no ones kicking you out and if you feel like this is something you have to do then ok"
thanks! i know im not being kicked out! but yknow i kinda yet a weird vibe when your out of touch husband takes me to a cemetery to yell at me, tell me im just like my father/dont give my father "the time of day", and that im "mean to people who care about me" in front of his dead mother's grave in a poor attempt at guilting me out of speaking my mind. but no yeah thanks for stating the fucking obvious that im leaving on my own terms
#problems!#people seem to underestimate how quick i am to make moves#the job market is piss. cant believe yall two would blame me for being unemployed when all i do from rise to slumber is hound ppl for jobs#im not going to stay in a house where i will be 'scared straight'. that shit doesnt work on me. in fact it has the opposite effect#i respect yall even LESS now#and youre so so fucking lucky one of my goals for next year is to make things right with you it would be easy to cut you off forever#same way i did with my abusive transphobic dad.#my mom is someone i know can do better and can actually listen to reason instead of being stuck in her generation's mentality of#'x is easy if you just do y. you kids have it so easy the world is at your fingertips' blah blah fucking blah#i am autistic i do not keep jobs easily. i am trans jobs do not want me. i am black and perceived as a woman. every customer at all of my#past jobs thinks i am rude or mean or have an attitude when i do nothing but treat others the exact way i would want to be treated#customers dont like what i say? i stop talking. customers dont like when i dont talk? i talk to them. rinse repeat#like i know im the problem here but all of my problems circle back to my autism and the fact that because im not a supergenius or#someone whose special interest is capitalism i fail at every avenue i try to jam myself in.#but yeah no i need to work harder i need to be taken to a FUCKING CEMETERY and yelled at by YOUR HUSBAND for wanting to go to the bathroom#in front of his mothers grave. god rest her soul and yall know im no christian so i actually mean that shit#because in his mind all i want to do is smoke and party. when i smoke because i have fucking migraines and g to shows#(two out of three of them being free and for the purpose of their willingness to 'get me out of the house')#bc i like music and i like engaging w my scene. but no its all violent noise theres no actual purpose or activism behind moshing. nope#its just one big party right. im just wasting my time right. because i like sleepin on a couch every night with no doors to close. yep ok#anyway heres to me getting my meds getting the fuck out and being somewhat far from my scene now that im moving#hows that for smoking and partying all the time huh?#if any of yall read this i am so so sorry. bitching about my stepdad will become a thing i think#hes one of those bible thumpers that are totally boring and indifferent to differences around them and thinks my mom is just like him#in some ways? she is. but she is a people pleaser and will never take her wants or her feelings seriously#because she had the unfortunate upbringing in being brainwashed into thinking her feelings/wants are sinful#shoutout to my christian or catholic mutuals who are fucking normal and dont let some old fantasy novel control your life. peace#religion mention
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Lowkey miserable in college
#ive decided its a wash this semester#but god these classes fucking suck#theyre unorganized i dont get my grades back theyre boring the one textbook i have is overly complicated#quizes have questions that are like opinon not just fact and i get them wrong#ive done no fun activities#and the classes are short but only offered at the most fucked times so im there ALL fucking day cause i have 2 hrs between one#like its wasting my fucking time also no ome wants to be in a class at 5 thats fucked up#ughhhhhhhhhhh#having a horrible day and its not even noon#im also convinced that i left the key in the safe (everyone else has done that many times) but i didnt turn it to where it locks#and that the cleaner robbed us (shes very nice i like her she never would) and now im responsible for all the stolen money#and u think thatd be something worthy of a phone call but no ive decides they arenr calling me and have decided to ambush me on friday
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Song of the Day: March 26
"Songs About Rain" by Gary Allan
#song of the day#you might think that this is the opposite of 'Groovy Little Summer Song' but nope! closer to same because (drumroll)#they are one of the very best categories of thing: Country Songs About Country Songs#I love them. I adore them#'Songs About Rain' is one of the strongest and best examples of type I have (also 'Cheatin Songs' by Midland. impeccable)#'and it sure ain't easin my pain / all these songs like / Rainy Night in Georgia / Kentucky Rain#Here Comes That Rainy Day Feelin Again / Blues Eyes Cryin in the Early Mornin Rain#they go on and on and there's no two the same / oh it would be easy to blame / all these songs about rain'#what a gift. what a delight. legitimately hard to sing this song in a mournful voice because it makes me so damn happy#anyway as you might glean from how this is posting at 3 pm my time: my sleep schedule is /fucked/#I did have part of the bad conversation with my boss on Monday (immediately followed by garden times#which so overtook me that I spoke only about the garden and good spring feeling in my song post. what a blessing the garden is)#but mostly what happened is I said 'hey it is technically possible for me to make this but it will not help it will not do anything useful'#and my boss said 'but you can make it' and I said 'yes but we shouldn't. it will be a waste of time' and she said 'make it by Thursday'#and I said 'I absolutely cannot make it by Thursday. if I finish instead this better thing I've already been working on--'#and she said 'no we don't care about that thing. make part of the useless thing. by Thursday morning'#and I said 'if I bring you part of the useless thing and part of the good thing and I directly compare them in front of you--'#and she said 'we'll look at whatever you have Thursday morning but it's the useless thing we care about'#so the meeting is scheduled and I'm going to plead for the life of my better thing and probably the best I'll get is permission to do both#which is. I mean the useless thing is going to be a time-waster for sure but at least it won't be actively detrimental to anything?#it'll be fine I'll make it be fine. the inherent problems of when your boss doesn't actually know what you do for them I guess :/#(also maybe. maybe if it comes down to it. maybe I'll just make the good thing for myself and use it to make my own life better#and someday maybe they'll ask for a project that works and then I'll be able to dramatically unveil it but either way I'll benefit from it#hmm maybe yeah)
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#the day was going so well until my mom decided to be mean to me for no reason in a piblic space where i was already feeling scared and over#stimulated. i wanted to try out the skateboards in decathlon but there were too many people and i got scared. and my mom suddenly said that#the skateboard that she was going to buy for me after/on my birthday. she had decided to buy now. since we were alr in theshop and i said no#way bec i hadnt decided which one i wanted yet and i was soo panicked. and then after some time when id calmed down a bit and was gonna try#to skate anyways she started questioning me abt when i planned on peacticing and where i was gonna do it and i obviously just started saying#things that i thought she would approve of. and then she told me i didnt have the time management skills or resolve to make it work. and she#just kept on passive aggressively bullying me until i just couldnt do it anymore and i told her i wanted go leave the store bc she was#spoiling the mood. and then she started bullying me louder and she told me to stop blaming her bc she was only asking me a question and she#didn't want to waste any more money on things that i wasnt gonna do even though ive wanted a skateboard for years now and have been actively#asking her for months. and i just lost my emergy and my appetite and i wanted to leave the mall and go home but insteaf she gook us to a#bagel place that ive been trying to get her to take us even though i felt like throwing up before we even left the mall and i told her i#didnt want to go there. and my brother even told her that she was ruining things for everyone. and he still ended up blaming me in the end.#but whatever. i kept getting flashbacks to insanely traumatic moments where shed yelled at or bullied me or cornered me or tried to#embarass me in public. and this is most likely my last year at home. and my last year of childhood. and its all going to be remembered in my#brain as underwhelming and depressing and mostly horrible. and im going to leave home and never cone back and my last year at home is going#to be just as shitty as every other year and ill just have to deal with that and try to build something good and new and kind when i leave#she shouldnt speak to her own children like this. she shouldnt be looking for reasons to make things miserable for me all the time like this#i should study. my head hurts. my entire body hurts so bad#delete later
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can a random tiktok not hit me with captions that say when people think you're gonna have such a good job and a good career but you're mentally struggling and nothing is working out the way you want it to and "you're the smart child in the family" used to be but not anymore on a thursday morning?
#every time i think about all the potential i'm wasting i want to rip my hair off or smth#my younger self would be so fucking disappointed#everything she was dreaming of seems so far away#i can't help but think what my life could be like if i were confident and brave and smart and motivated and pretty and happy and active#guess i'll never know#personal
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Listen.... I know full well why I’m crushing so hard on Prince Eric and we’re just gonna embrace it
#he is simply the embodiment of what was missing in my past relationship#the biggest hurt with my ex was him constantly dismissing my feelings#my dreams#my curiosities#little moments that have stuck with me so clearly because of how unseen and disheartened i felt#like me saying 'i want to learn x someday' and him saying 'well that sounds stupid and like a waste of time'#generally never being attentive or sympathetic to my feelings#and eric is out here just#ADORING ariel's curiosity and following her where she wants to go and looking on with awe and love#i was actively blushing and swooning throughout the whole movie#the way he cherished that ridiculous lil hat bc she put it on his head and he's like 'you bet i'm never taking this off ever again'#anyways fuck you matthew#(bc of course his name was matthew)#and manifesting someone like prince eric someday bc it's WHAT I DESERVE#now that i've overshared on main hope y'all are hanging in there#autumn posts#the little mermaid
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you meet the worlds most misogynistic person and its literally your mother
#thank god she doesnt have a son her daughter in laws wouldve cried#how she can actively say things like but women have to be lesser than men in some way is beyond me you are literally a woman??????????????#'the womans role is to give birth' maam WHY did u waste dollars to send me to school and university then#im not saying housewives are less they are very respectable!!!!!!!!!! but if both a husband and a wife are doing a nine to five why do u#expect the woman to ALSO take care of the children and ALSO do all the household chores on top of that ???????#men just exist to lay around ???????????#her argument is didnt people in the past do this. maam#the economy is ignificalty worse cost of living is way higher salaries are lower#a modenr family cannot survive on one persons salary!!!!!!!! and what man is completely willing to be the sole breadwinner and let his wife#spend his money as she likes#if u are expecting women to carry out the traditional role then men shouldtoo and be the only breadwinners and stay out for work everyday.#'didnt your grandmother do this? didnt she work as a teacher and also raise all three of her kids alone?' yes and my poor grandmother admits#to me that she wasnt happy about it and that she regrets a lot 😐#poor woman spent her life taking care of everyone#oh my god i hsouldnt get into these arguments with her. its a waste of my time and energy
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I feel like I'm at a point in mental health where CBT is no longer very helpful. Like I know what most of my problems are. I do things to challenge myself and challenge my way of thinking whenever I can. I actively make decisions and change my behaviour to ensure things don't get worse BC I know my symptoms and what can make them worse.
So now talking to this therapist doesn't help BC they just tell me what I already know. And give me tasks that I already know I need to do.
We had an interesting one today where she was like "you need to be able to identify your emotions" and I was like "yes, I know, I try to break them down based on physical response BC I can't really read my emotions" to which she said "you need to be able to identify them, and not concentrate on the physical response". We went in this cycle for a few minutes, after which she said "can you read other people's emotions?". I, stupidly thinking that maybe she was getting it that I am autistic (I know it's on my chart) and can't do that, told her no.
My homework for this week is to make note of how I emotionally feel, not physically, and try to pay attention to the emotions of those around me.
So that's great. At this point I just need someone to help me plan my week so I can function better and THAT shit isn't available on the NHS!
#delete later#endlessly frustrating#doing cbt whilst being autistic is half about trying to explain things without the therapist lookinh at you like you have#three heads. and half about being actively gaslit and just going along with whatever they say#i just. its wild#i thought ut would change now i have an actual diagnosis but like they dont seem to bother with it anyway so#rhey still rolled out the old#you have a fear of uncertainty. we will fix that#my first ever therapist did great on my ocd but went in hard on the fear of uncertainty and i just got so upset#that i couldnt seem to do anything about it. yeah thats bc its a seperate disability. i dont blame thst lady#neither of us knew i was autistic. she did pretty damn good#its just a nightmare that cbt is thr only thing the nhs offers. abd for max 10 sessions#nothing gets done. and i just feel like im wasting nhs money and time eveb though im doing the good thing abd trying to get#help. and theres no like support like i would actually need. most of my anxiety and overwhelm come from not being able to#disect what i need to do abd put it into a plan. if i had that i would function so much better#but i dont. i have a lady who relates everything to dieting and tells me the same five sekf care things over abd over#the one plus is that she validates that mu childhood was shit. so thats nice that i dont feel like i made it up
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why did i even say i wanted to do this??? i hate writing essays 😀
#love writing in general but essays hard pass#it's about the importance of recycling and my mind went blank#i can't get anything out of my mind#and it's fue tomorrow bc my teacher decided she wanted it for tomorrow#when the activity that they actually need it for is this Friday#i also have a Spanish test on Thursday that i have not studied for and I'm here wasting time on the essay#don't wanna plagiarize bc that's s big no no#but what can I do???? like idkkkk#( b.stfu )#( b.txt )#imma throw myself off s bridge bye-
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I'm only going to be in Germany until mid-February when the semester break starts (not like I'm getting along with anyone this semester anyway, and I only have one left after this one to be done) so I didn't bother to pick a big suitcase, literally 4 thick jumpers, 2 pyjamas, 3 trousers, 1 coat, 1 nice outfit... It's not like I'll be going out much 🤷🏻♀️
#liveblogging my life#i feel bad bc I'm kind of wasting the experience but there's nothing i can do I'm so busy i don't really have a lot of time to make friends#and I've travelled a lot through the area#and there's always my two friends there#I'll try to do things and join activities as much as i can ofc#but like it's only a month#the summer semester will either be more fun or depressing#though i might go to europapark by myself#since in a full year i got nobody to come with me#that'll be fun#i might also sneak a trip to vienna#though my gf will be sad that we didn't go together#i would invite her but she already visited me for my trip to berlin#hmmm
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spent way too long reading (one of?) the twitter links on that franzeska fandom racism post, and my tumblr app refreshed. if someone happens to see it or reblogged it recently, could you send it my way? thanks!
#hoo boy do i have a lot of experience getting hate for just discussing racism in fandom#idk who remembers my time in the hamiltom fandom but me & my then gf had to leave bc the constant racism FROM hamilton fans + racism from#anti-hamilton people who would say racist shit to her for being Black in thp fandom. and i remember our finals straws sooo vividly like#people do not want to see fans of color find joy like they actively will celebrate something as white ppl & then turn around and say oh but#its hypocritical for you to do this because xyz. and even the anons we had were so different me being white & her being Black#where i would mostly get 'actually george washington was a good slave owner' and i would waste my time debunking that bs#she would mostly get personal attacks about her & her ancestors - calling her offensive names & just people saying the most heinous things#she was one of the smartest & most passionate young historians i knew & fandom racism destroyed that drive#and when i say i hate hamilton this is what I'm talking about btw#there were a few racists in thp fandom before hamilton but they were manageable with the block button but hamilton brought out the worst of#a lot of people#racism
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see this shit? this is not okay.
i ended up deleting all the comments because i didn’t know how to respond to this user’s reply, but oh my god. this is not how you talk to fic writers. i wrote eleutheromania FOR FREE at a time when i was working three jobs, going to grad school, and you know, living through a worldwide pandemic. i have said multiple times in the comments that writing the fic was incredibly personal to me and was informed deeply by my experiences with antisemitism and emotional abuse. i have also said in the comments MULTIPLE TIMES that i do not accept concrit on my work. that is not because i’m “not emotionally capable of dealing with anything that’s not blatant positive feedback.” it’s because i don’t post fic on a03 to get torn apart by internet strangers for not sufficiently including their favorite character. if you’re reading a fic and the author makes a choice you don’t agree with, click off. to me, that’s just common courtesy.
this comment was just so incredibly mean-spirited and i’m honestly a little baffled that someone felt like this was something they needed to send a complete stranger whose art didn’t vibe with them. not wanting to engage with concrit is not craving validation. ugh. i’m trying not to be upset because part of me feels like i’m proving their point but idk. it has never once occurred to me to send a message like this to someone. ever.
#anyway please just remember that fic writers don’t exist for you to scream at#if you don’t like the choices i made in my fic write your own!!!!#that’s literally what fic is for!!#just. being kind is so so easy#the amount of effort this snide reply took and the fact that someone clearly felt catharsis from expending that effort honestly confuses me#why spend your time this way?#what do you gain from this#all you did was hurt my feelings a little#piss me off a lot#and get your comment deleted#anyway. sorry for not including ahsoka enough i guess#(it’s not like she is ACTIVELY OFF PLANET and anakin is ACTIVELY AVOIDING THINKING ABOUT HER FOR TRAUMA REASONS)#she’s in the sequel tho. not that internet stranger will know. internet stranger has been blocked#i wouldn’t want them wasting any more time on me
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#told my roommate ive been depressed this weekend and she kindly offered to watch a movie but i knew shed be too tired and need to cancel#bc of the clocks changing and its ok i know how tired she gets i was the one to suggest it was okay if she cant + it was still a nice idea#but now im alone for the evening again ive been alone all weekend and weekends are the hardest for me and i thought i was feeling a little#better but im not and theres nothing to stop me from harming which is okay i keep it safe and its always a choice i make to do it or not#not anyone elses responsibility but i didnt want.to be alone tonight thats all. and offering something she knows she cant fulfil makes me#feel rejected too and i also wanted to talk abt some of her behaviour that upsets me sometimes but gently bc i dont want it to seem like#im blaming her bc its not her fault im so bad at communicating and neurotic and weird abt shit that doesnt even make sense#but its been bothering me for a really long time and it comes up again every time we meet with other people and i get really upset over it#and im the one that keeps putting off talking about it but its so hard when its been gping on so long and i find it so hard to express#anything and communicate especiallt when its shit like this but im so so so so tired of sitting on it i just want it resolved one way or#another and now i wont see her for a few days bc of this family trip and itll be on my mind the whole time and the thought is making me#feel insane already ive wasted so many hours and hours being upset by her and not being able to talk abt it i need it to stop its not even#that big a deal.it just is to me. and i dont know how to say anythign ever#and she wants to make plans with friends next weekend which feels like hoisting an anvil above my head bc if i dont go i risk having a#rejection sensitive episode bc im vulnerable rn and this is exactly what happened over the summer and it took me months to recover from but#if i do go ill get upset bc ill feel unwanted there and ill be dealing with the same issue that comes up every fucking time and either way#ill end up harming in response to it bc i cant handle how intense my emotions are and i dont have any better outlets right now#for these specific feelings and i dont want to do that i want to be a normal fucking human being who doesnt lock themself in a#stupid fucking iron maiden style repression over completely innocuous shit that no one would even know im reacting this way to#i cant do it i cant do thjs anymore i cant i want it to stop im so tired and it hurts so so much feeling so much like this#they should make a mind for me that is capable of not inflicting distress this intense on itself i need to explode#actually. maybe since i wont see her for a couple days i can write a long discord message about it instead. i know its a shitty way to#deliver information but maybe it would be easier that way rather than trying to summon the courage to say anything in person when im#usually actively upset abt it at the time and my immediate response to getting upset is to shut down and not express which doesnt help#and its so stupid but i need it to not be like this i cant keep living with her and getting so upset so regularly it has to stop now#ill think about itand maybe draft it. and then i can decide. but right now i need to eat. and pack. and then cut sorry. but its ok#ughhhhfdhf. please let this week be better ill try harder ill say something i have to im the one inflicting this on myself by not talking#about it!!!!!!!!! so. man and i think my dinner is cold now too. oh well#.vent#tw self harm
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Doodle I did of my girl Juliet earlier
#keese draws#lobotomy corporation#oc art#not super happy with this but I do enjoy looking at her so I can lower my standards for her#at least I feel like I have a better idea of her general shapes now#I spent hours and hours today on the lob corp grind and I think Im Finally ready to actually move forward with they story#Ive also been thinking abt my nuggets during their lor eras and thats been fun#in particular its been fun to think abt my ogs because half of them are experiencing their crash from finally being free from lob corp hell#and the other half are like frolicking in fields and making friendship bracelets and have made peace with their past and upcoming futures#and that half is the half that are all just godawful people who do not deserve that peace and happiness while the people they actively#traumatized are just left to deal with it#this is mostly abt juliet and loki they both suck I love them sm <3#juliet is the one thats caused more active harm tho since shes that type of boss that will obsess over those she thinks have ~potential~#and once youve caught her attention you are guaranteed to have a horrible time as she will get what she wants out of you no matter what#she doesn't even work on abnormalities anymore just just breaths down ppls necks and fights when need be#loki is very similar in that regard he puts a lot of pressure on his team to provide the results he wants#hes less likely to like. directly psychologically torture those who are under him. but he still isnt a good boss.#hes also more openly rude and disrespectful towards those around him because while neither respect anyone but eachother#loki much more frequently openly states that fact to ppls faces because he feels like everyone around him is wasting his time#now loki actually does legitimately like a few other ppl he works with which is smth that cant rly be said for juliet#but hes also the one whos always on team 'lets murder the newbies for science' so y'know#ding is like his least favorite person here and its like 30% because he specifically accepted her into the info department because he#planned on getting her killed to finish off some research on a tool abno that was being worked on#but she survived the process so now she just like actually works here and he despises her despite the fact that shes rly good at her job#juliet doesn't usually send ger guys to die on purpose but if they do die she doesn't care#she simply feels that if they die early they were weak links anyways#she will still be 'nice' to newbies and to all of her coworkers for that matter but she still has quite the bad reputation regardless#some newbies do fall for her polite act but anyone whos been here for more than like a few days knows that she doesn't give a shit abt them#theyre both doing fine in lor theyre just like we may have lost everything but at least we have eachother :) (mason wants to strangle them)
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