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[judgingbooksbycovers]

Sexographies

By Gabriela Wiener.

[reginasbread]

I don't think I'll be able to finish any more books this year to add to my little project, in which I try to read at least one book from every country in the world. This year, I covered 16 countries:

Oceania:

Fiji - Jacinta Tonga, A remarkable Rotuman Woman

South America:

Uruguay - Eduardo Galeano, Open Veins of Latin America,

Chile - Pedro Lemebel, My Tender Matador,

Argentina - Sylvia Malloy, Dislocations,

Peru - Gabriela Wiener, Sexographies

North America:

USA - Sigrid Nunez, For Rouenna

Asia:

Oman - Jokha al-Harthi, Celestial Bodies,

Palestine - Adania Shibli, Minor Detail,

Iran - Mahnaz Afkhami, The Other Side of Silence: A Memoir of Exile, Iran, and the Global Women's Movement

Europe:

Spain - Paul B. Preciado, An Apartment on Uranus,

France - Annie Ernaux, The Years,

Finland - Siri Kolu, Kesän jälkeen kaikki on toisin,

Norway - Kjersti Anfinnsen, Øyeblikk for evigheten,

Ukraine - Margaryta Yakovenko, Desencajada,

Czechia - Ota Pavel, Death of the Beautiful Roebucks,

Germany - Katharina Volckmer, The Appointment

I thought that I'd be extremely limited by being able to comfortably read only in 2 languages and that Polish would be more useless than English. Surprisingly, there are many books published in Polish that are unavailable in English. hell yeah for small Polish publishers!

[markcatiss]

mark gatiss as henry rackham in the crimson petal and the white (2011) // "gooning" on urbandictionary // gooning sex guide, sexography // sex on fire, kings of leon

[lexclarkeproject2]

Section 3: "Confessions of a Queer Sex Goddess"

This section is about internalized homophobia. adrienne talks about her relationships outside of heteronormative views, with non-binary, trans and women. She talks about how even when she is engaging in “gay sex” she found herself centering men, in ways like including a penis (strap on or real) even when its not necessary. She is combating that thought and trying to see how far she can go in her sexual encounters without a penis (real or fake) and what she found was there are a ton of ways to have sex that are fulfilling and pleasurable without one. She talks about the power she was shown through her own fingers and what they can accomplish for a partner. adrienne also talks about how there is no such thing as “gay sex” that is just a term used to marganalize queer folks further. The truth is sex is sex it doesn’t matter who your partner is, it is just sex. I

found an article by Faith Ann that talks about bisexuality and how she is constantly asked about her sex life because of that, people ask her the difference between having sex with a man vs a woman. To that she exclaims “well one has a penis the other a vagina” which I think is her way of being unapologetically queer and owning her bisexuality. I think this article ties in well with adrienne's point that sex is sex no matter who is having it. I also used the image in that article as it depicts two “people '' embracing each other and neither appear to have a gender, showcasing we are all human after all.  Here is the link to that article. https://medium.com/sexography/gay-sex-is-just-sex-so-please-stop-asking-1850c2c276a9

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Looking for something to read this weekend? 💕🦋 Today's staff pick is Sexographies by @gabrielawiener. Marketing team member Janna (@hardbackhoe) says: This is undoubtedly one of the best books I've ever read. Gabriela Wiener is the Peruvian Carrie Bradshaw only about a thousand times more daring and introspective. The topics she explores are Vice-worthy (and sex/gender inclusive) but without the exploitation or cheap shock value. I deeply admire her ethics as a journalist because she refuses to examine others' lives in a removed or self-superior way, causing her own life to be transformed through her interactions. Find it on our main floor #staffpicks column! •• #staffpick #staffpickfriday #gabrielawiener #sexographies #restlessbooks @restlessbooks (at Strand Book Store)

[lazyydaisyyy]

Can there be anything more inspiring than this perfect decadence? Sometimes I swear I’m not seeing it but I’m inventing it.

Gabriela Weiner, Sexographies

[greeniezona]

#julywrapup — minus Ariel Gore’s We Were Witches, which I had to return to the library, and which I have scoured every bookstore that I’ve been in since. I’m pretty happy with this stack! Which was made larger over the course of my birthday weekend, and also the #24in48 readathon. Still not any poetry, though! I psyched myself out by deciding to create my own poetry annual — a notebook into which I would hand write my favorite poems of the year (an idea I discovered on twitter). I made a stack of all the poetry I’d already read this year, intending to go through them to find my favorites, when it finally occurred to me — I don’t have to order the books chronologically! Anyway, there will be lots more poetry in my August TBR. . . I’ve written about most of these books already so I won’t go into much detail here. So let’s say that my favorite book this month we We Were Witches, my favorite character was Rabeya from The Taqwacores, my favorite ending from Desdemona and the Deep. I was pleasantly surprised by NevermorEarth and How the Two Ivans Quarrelled, and experienced The Moon of the Crusted Snow most viscerally. . . I love seeing all of your monthly wrap ups! Have you read any of these books? . . #bookstack #booknerd #nevermorearth #thetaqwacores #michaelmuhammadknight #howthetwoivansquarrelled #nikolaigogal #definitelymaybe #arkadyandborisstrugatsky #thesinofwhitesupremacy #jeanninehillfletcher #politicalaction #michaelwalzer #desdemonaandthedeep #csecooney #sexographies #gabrielawiener #thekissquotient #helenhoang #moonofthecrustedsnow #waubgeshigrice #goodtalk #mirajacob https://www.instagram.com/p/B0o7tVXgstL/?igshid=1nzpkecbu8pnh

[almondmilks-posts]

Dream team CNC separate)

* warning CNC*

If you want to learn more I like this website as it's clear and not too graphic. https://medium.com/sexography/understanding-consensual-non-consent-8e275053ba54

George:

I really don't see George bringing this kink up. I feel like it's outside his comfort zone that if you wanted to try he guesses he has to please you with it. It's a whole other kink on itself but almost not, somophilia. You always said to George that if he was hard while you were asleep just use you. And that tonight he woke up from a wet dream, you were asleep next to him well because it was 5 am, conveniently you were wearing thin shorts that could be simply pushed to the side. George pulled his cock out from his PJ's he spat on his hand and stroked himself a few times. He felt dirty but the rush he had seeing you asleep forced him to fuck you while you were asleep not caring if you woke up it not. " You look so pretty when you sleep darling"

Sapnap:

I look at sapnap as a switch but tonight he was definitely top. You wanted to try something a little further than what you guys are both used to. You wanted to simulate a break in roleplay in which sap would take you as a hostage ect. You brought it up well as a joke but he was really into it so you might as well go along. Sap brought a ski mask and went out shopping. You on the other hand just looked pretty occupying your time. A loud thud startled you. Another thud and you went to see what that noise was armed with a baseball bat you carefully walked to the kitchen where the noise was coming from. But nothing just your cat sitting on the floor looking not at you almost behind you- a large hands grabbed the baseball bat from your hands, the man pulled you into him and covered your mouth with his hand you tried screaming but it was muffled " what do we have here, came looking for some money but your worth far more sweets"

Dream:

( I got carried away smh)

I feel like dream would definitely like the rush and the power that would come with this. It was an organisation kidnapping that you thought would be fun for both of you, since dreams house is so big you decided to try it. You were careless reading outside in the sun not face down in a book clueless as to what dream was planning. He grabbed some rope and a Bandana, waited an hour until you were really into your book. In the meantime he got the basement ready ( Idk if Florida had basements I'm English 😭) he set up a chair and some more rope, duct tape, blacked out all the windows. He waited until you stood up from your book to get a drink when he snuck up behind you and grabbed your body, he grabbed your arms and tied them behind your back. You screamed and tried to struggle "shut up slut don't want the neighborhood to hear you"

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[dragynkeep]

zutara fandom, we need to talk.

this past week  —  & honestly before that really  —  there’s been a reoccuring sentiment from people who could honestly just benefit from blocklisting tags & moving on. but much like the antis they say they’re so different to, we have now got a situation where people in these circles are being harmed by radfem rhetoric once more. so, your local kinkijew is gonna speak up.

zutara is a ship important to a lot of people, & people will express that in different ways. make art, amvs, fic & sometimes some of that fic will be sexual. sometimes, some of that sexual fic will be kinky. & sometimes, those kinks will be kinks you don’t like. & that’s fine.

what’s not fine is harming those people. what’s not fine is spreading radfem rhetoric again & again, infantilizing women, harming survivors; all because you don’t like a certain kink. & i’m going to name the kink because there shouldn’t be any shame around this, there shouldn’t be shame around any kink.

if you don’t like cnc; otherwise known as consensual non consent, an umbrella kink that encompasses everything from kidnapping, to bondage, to outright rape scenes, that is fine. that is your right. no one will ever make you feel lesser for not enjoying or even wanting to be around these kinks as that is your right. an age old saying in the kink & bdsm community is “your kink is not my kink, and that’s okay.”

however too many zutara fans have become downright evil in displaying how they don’t like these kinks, even if they themselves have written nsfw fics, kinky fics, drawn nsfw art, etc. it’s a double standard & it’s one absolutely fuelled by anti sex, anti kink & anti feminist radfem rhetoric that is so staple on social media, especially tumblr where there was a notable rise in the 2010′s that never went away. it affected so much of our queer spaces, our nsfw spaces & our kink spaces.

straight up; kink cannot be abuse. see it, repeat it over & over, sear it into your brain. kink cannot be abuse because all kinks require consent. all kinks often have far more verbal consent & communication between partners than vanilla relationships because of the nature of these types of sex. straight up, all relationships will feature some form of “drop” after sex, it is a natural response to the release of endorphins & the body trying to return to it’s natural levels. no, this is not “evidence” that kinky sex is harmful because you experience dom / sub drop afterwards. straight up, you do not get to speak over 62% of women, along with the countless numbers of men, genderqueer, nonbinary & intersex people, about our kinks. you do not get to say heinous things such as “no one wants to be raped” when a generous amount of people who practice these kinks are survivors. you do not get to claim our “coping mechanisms” are “harmful” when a. you are not a psychologist & b. actual psychologists disagree with you. you do not get to generalize trauma, harm, reclamation & sexuality in such vile ways just because you personally do not agree with it.

you do not get to be uneducated & act like an authority. end of story.

some of you really need to look at yourselves & realize that just because you do not like something or don’t understand something, doesn’t mean you get to then force your opinions & thoughts on someone else. you do not get to harass people. you do not get to ignore the actual facts, the science behind these experiences. you do not get to erase peoples voices because you don’t like what we have to say & think you know better.

you do have to act better. before you hurt even more people.

sources for those who wish to be further educated.

https://medium.com/sexography/understanding-consensual-non-consent-8e275053ba54

https://sexwithemily.com/consensual-non-consent/

https://bound-together.net/cnc/

https://cerebral-sexuality.com/2018/04/09/consensual-kinks-arent-unethical/

https://aeon.co/ideas/fantasies-of-forced-sex-are-common-do-they-enable-rape-culture

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/women-who-stray/202102/consensual-non-consent-exploring-challenging-boundaries

https://domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/

https://monomaniacism.com/2017/09/16/safewords-cnc-and-how-we-define-consent/

[cyberthot666]

https://medium.com/sexography/the-feminist-sex-wars-radical-feminism-against-sex-positive-feminism-c3be0f362a35

y’all please read this article with me I CAN’T

[newsmutproject]

Only 13 states in America require accurate sex education — and many sex education programs are abstinence-based and heterosexual-based, leaving out a lot of crucial information.

Better sex education can improve people’s health and well-being. Research shows that teens who received comprehensive sex education were 50 percent less likely to experience unwanted pregnancies than those who’d only received abstinence-centered education. Additionally, people between the ages of 15 and 24 make up almost 9.5 million new STDs experienced by Americans every year. A solid sex education, on the other hand, can help students understand healthy relationships, feel autonomy over their own body and respect others’ bodies, improve academic levels, and support people who aren’t heterosexual.

[hardbackhoe]

This is undoubtedly one of the best books I've ever read. 🍐@gabrielawiener is the Peruvian Carrie Bradshaw only about a thousand times more daring and introspective. The topics she explores are Vice-worthy (and sex/gender inclusive) but without the exploitation or cheap shock value. I deeply admire her ethics as a journalist because she refuses to examine others' lives in a removed or self-superior way, causing her own life to be transformed through her interactions. Compelling, sexy, and dark, each chapter is a genre-bending and brilliant new discovery about sexuality and humanity. 🍐This is also my staff pick at @strandbookstore & she'll be coming to the store in October!!! Wahoooo. 📸Photo by @snyder.erica •• #gabrielawiener #sexographies #bookreview #ericasnyderphotos (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/BnU7IYblYy2/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=3cw9hg39weci

[siddysthings]

Hogging Is A Cruel Sexual Prank To Murder A Woman’s Self-Esteem, Just For Fun | by Toni Crowe | Sexography | Oct, 2021 | Medium

[greeniezona]

So, at almost the last second, I decided to sign up for the #24in48readathon. Originally I had planned to travel to the Detroit Festival of Books on Sunday instead, but today finally decided that it was too hot, and I don’t have any book money anyway. So, Readathon with the kids it is! . This is an unusually small #ReadathonTBR for me (I like to have lots of choices!), but I think we will go to the library first thing in the morning so I may add some books then. Plus, when my oldest son gets home from camp tonight, I will probably ask him for a rec or two, as is our tradition. . I am currently weirded out that there is no sff in this stack, but nothing on my shelves was grabbing me, except a couple of anthologies, which I don’t think would make good picks for a Readathon. . Are you a frequent readathoner? What kind of book do you like to start things off with? . . #tbr #bookstack #thetaqwacores #howthetwoivansquarrelled #nikolaigogol #thesailorwhofellfromgracewiththesea #yukiomishima #neartothewildheart #claricelispector #politicalaction #michaelwalzer #jeanninehillfletcher #thesinofwhitesupremacy #sexographies #gabrielawiener #thekissquotient #helenhoang #goodtalk #mirajacob https://www.instagram.com/p/B0G9BokAwIK/?igshid=1dm9nxy0t3lls

[sherala007]

THERE’S A SEX POSITIVE CALENDAR!!!  :D

https://medium.com/sexography/your-national-sex-holiday-calendar-a7e401aeffc5