#self help group

[ngopartner]

Exploring the Concept of Self Help Groups

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We hustle every single day exposing ourselves to so much possible damage in the outer world. Though we take care of our physical damage, we often ignore the mental damage being implied on ourselves. The sad part is not when we ignore our mental health but when we do not even realise that it’s getting ruined. The main reason behind this blindness is that we are not healthily connected to ourselves. To help you with the same, I am sharing 5 ways to be kind to yourself in this article which will help you reconnect with yourself.

[thelailasblog]

[dykedvonte]

I think a big misunderstanding is the power people give Curly to actually change things about the way the pony express operates or could’ve done things on the Tulpar.

We are talking about a company that docks pay for bad synergy despite mandated psych evals that should tell which staff members would work well together, only allots for 5 hours of sleep despite having literally no other tasks to truly do and locks all resources behind the access of one person. The last one is likely to manage resources and make it easier to justify collective punishment and blaming one person for it; someone needs something in “excess” or the captain gives in? It’s all on them your pay is docked. Instant resentment.

It’s insidious how the company works, it’s by design to distract you from coming after them, to force tensions to line their own pockets. With all the restrictions and forced interactions, altercations are bound to happen. 5 hours of sleep a day, limited sources of entertainment, no real tasks… the monotony alone would cause bad cabin fever, mix that with just only one absolute mediator and you get the exact environment that allows shit like in the game to happen.

The idea he could just complain and try to throw his weight around to get them to dig into their pocket for the crews comfort is laughable and misses the predatory and dehumanizing aspect of capitalism the Pony Express represents. Curly was and is still just another asset to them. Being a top show pony doesn’t mean he’s anywhere close to the actual top. He is the top of the working ladder, not whoever’s in corporate, he wouldn’t even be on the bottom step unlike what Jimmy perceives. The resounding recommendations he would get are almost mocking as they throw him out like nothing just like the rest. Being a shitty fucking company, how much do you bet they’d mean anything anyways, especially since he wanted to leave the field all together.

He made a fuss and they didn’t listen, he says he should’ve done more but you can tell he knows it wouldn’t have changed anything. Jobs like this are willing to make a sacrifice if it means even a penny more. Curly makes a bigger fuss they likely would’ve just found an “unrelated” reason to fire him, hired a more pliable guy or, terrifyingly, promoted Jimmy. The company was failing, going to shut down whether anything happened on the ship or not. But knowing that they were shutting down and that everyone, including him, would be out of a job with this being their last paycheck, he had to factor in not destroying the last bit of their financial stabilities combined with every other issue on the vessel and his own. He gets another cryopod or locks and then he has to break to them that they are not only fired but there will be substantial cuts to their paychecks due to the “upgrades” (things that already should’ve been in place on their part) on top of anything else that could be docked along the way.

You can blame him for saying it so early into the trip but then again, if he mentioned it later who’s to say it wouldn’t have been worse? On the capitalism side alone how would people in a galaxy away from home, out of a job and already stir crazy react? Don’t get me started on how Jimmy would have reacted if he realized he only had two days left to fix what would be a very hard to miss “problem” in his head…

I can’t even consider explaining this as devils advocate because it’s just facts of the world we and they live in and factors that heavily affected the situation. People are just so quick to make claims on the ease of the choices when P.E literally makes it hard to choose to do anything but suck it up.

[typosandtea]

Nobody including me posts about their ocs enough so please please please reblog reply or whatever with some oc tidbits!

[ohgreat-moretapes]

Tim I noticed a lot of indigenous patches on your jacket, are you Native?

Idk what my dad was 'cause I never knew him, but yeah my mom is (or... Was.. I guess..) Muscogee, the tribe native to the part of Alabama I'm in.

If I remember correctly she came to Alabama from Oklahoma (where a lot of Natives were displaced to in the 1800s) to "get back to her roots."

But yknow, I was separated from her in childhood (which tbh is upsettingly common for Native families) and I was raised in a very white very Catholic asylum so I'm not as connected to the culture as I'd like to be.

-Tim

[holylulusworld]

Self-help group for killers masterlist

Summary: 6 men meet up to talk about their problems. They soon realize they need someone to help them solve their problems. This person is you. Whether you like it or not.

Pairing: Steve Kemp x fem!Reader, Lloyd Hansen x fem!Reader, Robert Pronge (Mr. Freezy) x fem!Reader, Andy Barber x fem!Reader, God, the bounty hunter x fem!Reader, Ransom Drysdale x fem!Reader

Warnings: angst, hostage situation, mentions of murder/killing for money, serial killers/hitmen, mentions of blood/gore, kidnapping, scared reader, talk about crimes, possible smut in future chapters

A/N: Please consider Steve Kemp is not a cannibal in my story. This is an AU. All men are serial killers, killers, or hitmen.

SHG for killers (1) - The first meeting

SHG for killers (2) - You (reader)

SHG for killers (3) - The second meeting

SHG for killers (4) - Lloyd Hansen

SHG for killers (5) - Steve Kemp

SHG for killers (6) - Andy Barber

SHG for killers (7) - Ransom Drysdale

SHG for killers (8) - Robert Pronge (Mr. Freezy)

SHG for killers (9) - God, the bounty hunter

SHG for killers (10) - Between heaven and hell

[liviawildrose]

𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐬

trigger warning: mention of abuse, bullying

hello everyone, i’m livia wildrose. welcome back to my blog! today, i want to share four foundational steps that can help anyone find direction and purpose. these are the steps i’m taking to start my glow-up journey, and i believe they can be a powerful beginning for anyone on a similar path. having a sense of direction keeps us grounded and focused, even when life gets chaotic. so if you’re ready to start building a path that feels true to you, these four steps are here to help you begin with intention.

i truly believe that if each of us embraces these steps, we can gain a clearer sense of where we’re headed. having that clarity allows us to be more mindful and intentional with everything that comes our way. i hope these steps resonate with you as much as they have with me. thank you for being here, and let’s begin this journey together

𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁

1. develop a growth mindset

you have control over your life ,you can be whoever you want to be. every broken heart, every broken part of you can heal. your circumstances, environment, trauma, toxic people, bullies they only have power as long as you allow them to. the moment you take that power back, you’re in control. build an internal locus of control you can shape your life, your mind, your body, your grades, your career, and the way you respond to challenges. it’s about developing control over yourself and your life.

stop blaming others and choosing to be the victim. yes, life can be incredibly hard, and some people make it worse, but if you want to grow beyond the hurt, you need to be your own savior. no one is going to come and rescue you from your problems you have to be the one who does it. take full accountability for your life. if things aren’t going well, it’s up to you to change them. at the end of the day, if “mean” people keep putting you down, part of the change comes from deciding to speak up for yourself, even if it’s hard. if you’re procrastinating or feeling stuck, it’s your responsibility to tackle it and get things done.

stop letting negativity win. listen, if i can get bullied by classmates, beaten down by family, called “lazy,” “ungrateful,” and “undeserving” by relatives, excluded from friend groups, and ridiculed for liking someone (he was single, by the way) all of which hurt my mental health and impacted my exams. yet, still find a way to stay positive and remind myself that none of this can define my future, believe me, you can do it, too. if you need more of my story, check out my get to know me blog post to understand where i’m coming from.

instead of staying stuck in self-pity, look for solutions. trust yourself, the solution is inside you. focus on the positive aspects and start making changes in your life.

many people don’t realize this, but really take a look at your body and your life. do you genuinely believe you can’t change? you can. you want to grow taller? listen to subliminals. you want to become wealthy? it’s possible. nothing is out of reach. this is your life. you are magic, and everything you need to succeed is already inside you. manifestation is real, and it all starts with the right mindset. remember: your thoughts create your reality.

2. fix your mindset

before anything, understand this: nothing is out of reach. you can be whoever you want to be. a simple but powerful exercise for this is writing down your limiting beliefs, then challenging them. for instance, if you think, “i can never be an actor because i don’t have connections,” flip that around, remind yourself of countless people who started from zero, with no connections, and went on to become major successes in the industry. keep writing down reasons why these beliefs aren’t true 10, 15, however many it takes. trick your brain into seeing possibilities instead of limits.

stop feeling jealous of other people. so many women put each other down out of jealousy, but we’re stronger when we lift each other up. someone else’s success doesn’t mean you’re failing, or that you’re worth any less. if another person can achieve something, so can you. don’t get insecure seeing someone your age “having it all together.” instead, let that inspire you. they worked hard, and so can you.

next, watch how you talk about yourself. even if it’s in a joke, stop saying things like, “i’m such a loser” or “i’ll probably fail this test.” i used to do this all the time, but now i’ve promised myself i’ll never say anything negative about myself, even as a joke. our words shape our reality, and so do our thoughts. instead, use affirmations. look in the mirror and tell yourself, “i am beautiful, i am smart, i am capable.” if no one else is saying these things to you, then say them to yourself—there’s nothing wrong with that.

practice gratitude. yes, my family has flaws, and sometimes they’re abusive. but i know there are people with far less. i have a family, food, a place to sleep and parents who support my education. that’s privilege, and i’m grateful for it.

be mindful about what you let into your life. what kind of music are you listening to? if it’s depressive, maybe switch it up. what are you watching? if it’s negative or disturbing, consider the impact it’s having on you. i used to watch a lot of horror and true crime, but i stopped when i realized how it was affecting my mental health. pay attention to the people around you, too. family might be non-negotiable, but you have choices with friends and partners. remember, you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

for me, even though my family hasn’t been the most emotionally supportive, i know that one day i’ll create a family of my own that’s filled with love and understanding. and that means being mindful of the people i let into my life, building my future with intention and purpose.

3. be delusional

i don’t care if people think it’s bad to be delusional. in fact, i think we all need to be a little delusional when it comes to our dreams. believe that something miraculous will happen and that things can change in amazing ways. believe in magic. it might sound far-fetched, but trust me, have faith in god, the universe, or whatever higher power you connect with. believe that something incredible will come your way, that you’ll land your dream job or meet the right person. let that belief fill you with hope, a hope that isn’t weighed down by pressure or doubt, but by a quiet confidence that things will work out.

when you believe in that magic, you start to dream more freely. yes, maybe i can date jude bellingham. yes, i’m manifesting that. and yes, i think i can be everything i want to be, without anyone’s permission. do you have a problem with that? because i don’t.

𝗱𝗲𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀

ask yourself: what do you truly want in life? what do you want to be? take a moment to write all of this down, whether in a journal or your notes app. reviewing your goals every single day can be a game changer. make it a habit to read through your written goals first thing in the morning. this simple act is incredibly powerful because it sets the tone for your day, aligning your mindset with your aspirations right from the start.

if you want to take it a step further, you can create a mind movie. so, what’s a mind movie? gather images that represent your goals and dreams. for instance, if you envision your dream body, find a photo that embodies that. if your goal is to be a singer, include pictures of artists who inspire you. compile these images into a video, displaying each one for about 2 to 4 seconds before transitioning to the next. layer your voice over this video, affirming statements like, “i have my dream body, and i’m so grateful for it.” “i am a world known singer” “i’m a grammy nominated artist”

watch this video every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to bed. this practice is incredibly potent. i plan to write a detailed blog about this process soon, so stay tuned!

the clearer you are about where you’re heading and what you want to achieve, the more likely you are to realize those dreams. many people lack this clarity, which can make it challenging to stay motivated. but when you know exactly what you want, it empowers you to take the next steps toward achieving those goals. once you have that clarity, the path will unfold before you; you just have to take it.

𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝘀, 𝗿𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲

1. rituals

create a ritual for yourself because you are a goddess, and every goddess deserves a sacred practice. rituals can be subtle or extravagant—it’s entirely up to you. the key is that they resonate with your goals and your life.

you can create a specific self-care ritual or do something that honors the life you aspire to have. for example, i want to be a singer so i start my day with a glass of warm water and honey to soothe my throat and hydrate my vocal cords. follow this with a cup of herbal tea known for its benefits to singers, like ginger or chamomile. this simple act is not just about drinking; it’s a way of saying, “i am nurturing my voice and preparing for the incredible career i’m destined for.”

perhaps you dream of being a model. in that case, you could include a detox drink in your morning routine, one that energizes and revitalizes you—something like a green smoothie or lemon water with apple cider vinegar. every time you sip it, remind yourself that you are embodying the health and vitality of a model.

you might also want to incorporate affirmations into your rituals. as you go about your morning routine, speak affirmations that align with your goals: “i am confident and radiant,” or “i attract opportunities that lead me to my dreams.” this will help you cultivate a mindset that’s aligned with your aspirations.

don’t forget to celebrate your rituals! you could set a specific day each week to reflect on your progress and how your rituals have helped you. light a candle or play your favorite music as you honor the work you’ve put into yourself and your journey. this celebration reinforces your commitment to your dreams and enhances your connection to your ritual.

the beauty of rituals is that they are entirely yours. whether you choose small, daily practices or grand, elaborate ceremonies, make them meaningful. by integrating these rituals into your life, you not only honor who you are but also actively participate in creating the reality you desire.

2. routine and schedule

create a routine that helps you get closer to your goals. having a structured schedule is essential, as it sets the foundation for your day and keeps you aligned with your aspirations.

for example, if you want to be a model, establish a morning routine that includes waking up early, dedicating time to your skincare regimen, and engaging in a workout that enhances your physique. consistency is key sticking to this routine will not only help you stay in shape but also instill discipline and determination.

your morning routine can be a sacred time for self-care and preparation. perhaps you wake up, drink a glass of water to hydrate, followed by a quick meditation or visualization of your goals. then, go on with your day, having a good schedule and goals planned already. you can use a bullet journal in order to plan your entire day and your goals for that day. i used to bullet journal in 2021 and i kid you not. It is the best thing you can do to keep yourself moving towards your goal. i’m planning to start bullet journaling again next year so expect a post regarding bullet journal too.

don’t forget about your night routine. this is equally important for winding down and reflecting on your day. consider incorporating activities that help you relax and recharge, such as journaling about your accomplishments or reviewing your goals for the next day. a calming skincare routine before bed is also a great way to pamper yourself and signal to your body that it’s time to rest.

developing a routine for your daily tasks can also keep you organized and focused. allocate specific times for studying, practicing your craft, or engaging in creative projects related to your dreams. having this structure allows you to prioritize what truly matters and helps you eliminate distractions.

establishing a routine not only gives you clarity but also enhances your mindset. when you stick to your plan, you cultivate a sense of achievement and purpose, which can greatly influence your overall outlook on life. you’ll find that having a routine helps you stay more focused, reduces decision fatigue, and empowers you to take actionable steps toward your goals. i’ll share all my routine too (skincare, haircare, morning, night, workout, daily) and also tell y’all how you can do it.

remember, your routine is a reflection of who you are and who you aspire to be. customize it to fit your lifestyle and needs, and don’t be afraid to adjust it as you grow. with a solid routine in place, you’ll be well on your way to transforming your dreams into reality

3. non negotiables

boundaries are like the protective walls you build to guard your energy, self-respect, and peace. they’re essential, even if it means certain people may not agree or may choose to distance themselves. setting non-negotiables helps you uphold your standards for how you want to be treated not only by others but also by yourself. it’s a form of self-care and a way to ensure you stay aligned with your goals.

first, let’s talk about boundaries with others. there are certain things that no one should get away with, like disrespect or attempts to undermine your goals. start by listing all the things that are non-negotiable for you things you absolutely won’t tolerate in your friendships, relationships, or even with family. these can be simple yet significant rules, like refusing to let anyone talk down to you, or being firm about not letting others intrude on your personal time.

when it comes to family, boundaries can be tricky. like i said, in certain environments, we sometimes have to navigate things carefully to preserve our boundaries. for example, i try to keep things balanced at home by focusing on my achievements and being mindful of how i react. when i accomplish something, i notice my family is more likely to treat me with respect and actually listen to my words. it’s a compromise i make for now staying obedient to avoid unnecessary conflicts because it helps preserve a boundary of mine: no one gets to shout at or berate me. you can say i made a promise to myself to start achieving more and becoming better every single day because people respect people who respect themselves. if i am achieving more and becoming better, that shows that i respect myself and my goals and simultaneously people will start respecting me too.

next, let’s dive into boundaries with yourself. setting standards for how you treat yourself is equally important. promise yourself that no one’s words will be allowed to crumble your confidence. this boundary with yourself is about self-discipline: it’s deciding you’ll never give up your truth or your voice. you are here to live your life on your terms. a personal boundary like “i will always speak up for what i believe in” is a powerful rule that can shape your character and self-esteem. another boundary could be to avoid people-pleasing at the cost of your own peace.

then there are the little rituals and standards you set for yourself. they might seem minor, but they help ground you and bring consistency. it could be as simple as “i won’t start my day until i’ve brushed my teeth” or “i’ll spend 10 minutes meditating every night.” these routines may seem small, but they’re symbolic each one represents respect for yourself and your own time.

and then, there are your true non-negotiables things that you will not compromise on for anyone. for example, i won’t text or talk to a guy late at night, especially if it’s a casual situation. my late-night hours are for me or for those who are deeply close to me, and that’s not something i change based on who wants my time. another non-negotiable might be unfriending people who stay close with someone who has bullied or hurt you. i’m not here to tell anyone who to be friends with, but if you’re friends with someone who tore me down, we’re probably not compatible as friends.

having non-negotiables is like setting up a shield around your life; it’s saying “this is my space, and only the people who respect my values get to be here.” these are your standards, your way of ensuring that the energy around you is as uplifting and supportive as you deserve. boundaries and non-negotiables are not selfish they’re essential for building a life that aligns with your true self.

𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝗴𝗼

let’s talk about alter egos. you might be wondering, “what exactly is an alter ego?” an alter ego is like the boldest, most fearless, unapologetically powerful version of yourself. think of this person as everything you aspire to be. they have unshakeable confidence, strong boundaries, and a fierce mindset. they embody the qualities you admire and inspire you to step out of your comfort zone.

for me, it’s livia wildrose. and, i get it, you might’ve thought that was my real name, but it’s actually a name i crafted to embody the energy and vision i hold for my future self. livia wildrose is the woman who’s already achieved her dreams. she’s not afraid to stand tall, voice her opinions, and own her worth. she’s the energy i channel when i need a reminder of what i’m capable of.

name them – the name you choose for your alter ego is important. it should feel powerful, unique, and representative of the qualities you want to embody. make sure it’s a name that sparks something in you a name that makes you feel inspired, unstoppable, and totally you.

give them qualities – now, think about the traits your alter ego possesses. are they fearless? disciplined? resilient? write down all the qualities that align with the best version of yourself. maybe your alter ego is kind but firm, strong-willed yet compassionate, confident yet humble. paint a vivid picture of who they are.

define their habits – your alter ego has certain routines, habits, and even preferences. they might have a morning ritual, a daily workout, or even a specific way they respond to negativity. think about what kind of routines your alter ego would follow to keep themselves grounded and motivated.

dress the part – if you feel like your alter ego is more stylish, edgy, or polished than you are now, start integrating little pieces of that style into your wardrobe. it doesn’t have to be extreme, just subtle touches that remind you of who you’re stepping into.

speak and act as them – whenever you feel anxious or unsure, tap into your alter ego’s confidence. ask yourself, what would they say? how would they handle this situation? eventually, this confidence will blend into your true self, helping you handle challenges with strength and grace.

channel them daily – every time you face self-doubt or feel unmotivated, call on your alter ego. think of them as your personal mentor, the voice in your head that says, “you’ve got this.” with time, this alter ego becomes a natural part of you, merging seamlessly with who you are becoming. ask yourself “what would [alter ego name] do?

by creating an alter ego, you’re giving yourself permission to dream bigger, stand taller, and walk confidently in the direction of your goals. it’s like summoning the courage and drive you need from within, a powerful reminder of your limitless potential. so if you haven’t already, consider creating your own alter ego. name them, define them, and let them guide you. remember, they’re already within you, waiting for you to let them shine. I have channelled my alter ego so such that now i think she’s me i’m her, lol.

if you want to join me on this journey of becoming a higher self. please comment, like, reblog, and follow let's embrace the glow of together.

[unbidden-yidden-deactivated20240]

Hello friend!

Ahoy! You are now anonymous (because you asked so nicely and it's a valid question.)

G-d I wish I had a real answer for this. I think it depends on the person, but is this someone you feel like will be receptive to you approaching her with some vulnerability about how unsafe that makes you feel? Do you think she will listen to reason if you give her fact-based explanations for why that rhetoric is more antisemitic than it is helpful to the Palestinian cause? + your perspective and feelings on it? If so, it's worth a try if you are intent on maintaining a trust-based friendship.

If you don't think you'll be safe/you aren't really in a place to take the risk of vulnerability, I'd say you have a few choices:

Avoid her or at least talking about that with her for now, and talk to her later when some of the heat has died down on this issue. Admittedly, this is not optimal because it's way easier to apologize and backtrack when the stakes are low(er), but if you really work on it with her maybe you could rebuild some of that trust.

Stay friends but don't trust her with your safety (emotional or physical). Up to you about how you answer her if she notices and asks about this.

Cut ties at whatever speed you are comfortable with and don't tell her why. You can drift or just start avoiding her. That happens sometimes for non-political reasons.

Cut ties with her and tell her why you aren't interested in maintaining the relationship. That's obviously the most direct, confrontational version; if you go this route but don't want to have a fight about it, you could just say "hey - this really showed me that you do not value the lives and human rights of my people and therefore me, and so I no longer feel safe around you. I wish that was different, but it can't be fixed at this point because I can't trust you anymore." That's a tough lesson, but it's one some people need to learn.

Obviously none of that is ideal, but we're not working with ideal circumstances here unfortunately. Idk if other people have suggestions, but those are mine. I'm sorry you're in this position and hope that you have other supportive community no matter what you decide and how she responds.

[duckapus]

Idea: one of those "Ash somehow ends up in a group chat (usually with the Champions or Legendaries, sometimes with other characters) the first day of his journey and it messes with the series" AUs that've been popping up on AO3 lately, but instead it's a group chat made up of alternate versions of himself. One of them's the canon version (or at least close to it), the rest are AU versions, at least one of them is Ashley (not sure if trans or just genderbent. leaning towards trans), and all of them are from post-series and trying not to give too many spoilers because they don't want to overwhelm their "mini-me" or make things too easy for him 'cause if they do he won't grow as a trainer and person like they did (not that he'd want them to coddle him like that anyway. He's always wanted to get through on his own merits not have victories just handed to him). Also Arceus told them not to (who else do you think would've set this up?).

Granted, sometimes even when they do give spoilers it doesn't help much between them not having perfect memories, being from alternate timelines so a lot of the details are different between them, and forgetting just how stubborn and bull-headed their Kanto Era self could be.

I call it the "Self-Help Hotline" AU

[hajihiko]

How do you think Junko manipulated the other sdr2 survivors besides Hiko? Kazu, Sonia and Akane?

Kazuichi: lots of praise and conditional affection (now that you're addicted to being my favourite little puppy, sure would be sad if you did something to make me and my friends mad and not like you anymore. Because I could make sure no one ever wants to be around you again :( build me a death machine pretty please?)

Sonia: aren't you tired of being nice? Dont you want to go apeshit? (aren't you tired of doing only what other people expect of you? You're barely your own person. Go on, try being a little bad for once! A little bad escalates into being immensely selfish, and eventually it's too late to go back)

Akane: a little harder, but she's very gullible and easy to trick into doing things, and has a LOT of trauma to tap into (maybe something along the lines of, "the world is a shitty place and no one ever helped you when you needed it, right? Only way to be safe from that is to be not only strong, but scary. Show them they can't mess with you! KILL")

[moeblob]

Druas and Eva

[edwinisms]

I know how it sounds at first, but I really gotta feel bad for the boys that sacrificed edwin; I mean even the term “sacrificed edwin” paints them in a more sinister light than they really deserve– considering that wasn’t really, actually their intention.

they were bullies, they were homophobic (and/or were self loathing gay boys themselves taking it out on edwin, or were equally likely peer pressured into acting a certain way), they planned something stupid and mean to do to an innocent, anxious boy with the goal of scaring the shit out of him, all because he was effeminate and an easy target. but they didn’t know or expect any of the ritual stuff to be real. they were all laughing and joking during the ritual because it was just that to them– a joke. a cruel joke, but a joke.

teenagers can be mean and stupid and they usually regret it as adults and grow out of it / grow from it. they were stifled the chance to grow out of it, at least while alive. none of those boys deserved to be instakilled and sent to hell; they’re really not that much less deserving than edwin himself. they were all just kids, after all.

[thelailasblog]

[daz4i]

one of the best things you can do to combat shame over your symptoms or where your life is due to your mental illness is to befriend (or even just spend time here and there with) other mentally ill people

both in a sense that you'll see how the things you may feel shame over are more common than you think, but also in a sense that you won't judge them for these things, so maybe you'll be able to judge yourself less too

as well as being in a judgment-free zone. it's easy to spiral when we compare ourselves to neurotypicals or when we're surrounded by ppl who criticize us for not achieving things that others already have, but ppl who struggle as well would get you, even if their situation isn't exactly the same