#rude white women

[ausetkmt]

this weekend we're going to break from our normal informational protocol and have some fun with a little social experiment that we're going to call Karen Fest

everyone always enjoys a good comedy Karen video but what if we gave you 30 nahhh we went full queue - FIDDY Y'ALL,

yeah that's right, hands will be thrown

[pumpumdemsugah]

Remember that white person that had a melt down when different Black women told her it's inappropriate to use " say her name" for a white person, as it's an awareness movement that came about because when a Black woman was shot to death no one came to her protest and the deaths of Black women and girls often do not generate immediate outrage or action UNLIKE the immediate vigils and protest that were made in honour of the white trans teen that was murdered in the UK so of course something about racialised misogyny makes sense on a white person and if you disagree the fascists win and the Black women and girls Say Her Name was about are somehow less dead than this trans teenager so shut up it's " solidarity" because whites said so

All this lecturing but doesn't seem to know anything about Black Americans, especially Black American women beyond how useful they are, for a hottake.

This was the reaction:

Would you be surprised that the same white person didn't like when another Black woman pointed out that framing the lynching of Black Americans as anti-rape instead of white supremacist violence reinforces the ideas lynch mobs used to kill Black people

If you try to reblog my commentary, even without adding tags, an anon told me you'll be blocked

Here's a Black American woman that has read about prison abolition talking about Black Femicide and her concerns about prison abolition especially given the history of how rape impacts Black American women

The self righteous meltdown about say her name, was walked back but it's obvious she didn't actually mean it. When online white people call something " infighting" and race is involved it often means some Black person disagreed with them and the implications of what they were saying and instead of being normal they call you "aggressive", which is famously something Black women are never called when we don't sycophantically agree. They don't see their behaviour as identity politics, whiteness is never identity politics, it's natural and neutral.

Black women are tools to these white "leftist" and you're not meant to disagree because they always know more even when they don't. It's crazy how easily these people will bring up Black people especially women into discussions that aren't about us but if you ever disagree, then fascist win

This is the standard behaviour of whites that always have Black women in their mouths. They don't believe in solidarity but usefulness.

[cry-ptidd]

How would Laura be a Mary sue?

This is a reference to this rb where i said Laura would've gotten Mary Sue accusations if i posted her in like. 2018

And here are my arguments against my own OC that i think she'd get

- Insanely powerful monster girl

- Very Edgy Backstory™️

- Conventionally attractive (pretty, voluptuous, hourglass figure, under 30, fit body, white cough cough) + clothes that compliment her curves

- Broody sarcastic coldhearted girlboss type character

- Local OP protagonist Alucard was impressed by her, took her in and respects her (in his own way)

- Abilities that make her a special outlier in her species from what we've seen in canon (impenetrable skin, surviving silver to the heart, wolf form size)

- Good at fighting, shrugs off pain and "easily" tanks a lot of attacks

- Generally respected in her entourage (like 4 people) and dreaded as an actual obstacle by her opponents (-> could put her on a pedestal)

- Would be in the top 5 of strongest characters if we're being fr (Andercard are having a dickfight for first place)

- Strong Female Character = Mary Sue

[wistsandmagic]

Can we talk about the fact that it is not okay to reach out and pat/touch/pull/scrunch/INSERT TOUCHING WORD OF CHOICE HERE someone's hair when you DO NOT HAVE PERMISSION?

I do not care who they are or what their hair looks like. If you do not have permission to touch, DO NOT TOUCH. It doesn't matter if it's pretty, if it's "unique", what their skin colour or hair colour or freakin' eye colour is, there is zero excuse for this amount of rudeness.

Also if we are complete and utter strangers, I probably am not going to give you permission to touch my hair even if you do ask me. I DO NOT KNOW YOU. If you are not my hairstylist you do not get free reign to just PET MY HAIR.

It seems to be overwhelmingly middle-aged white ladies that do this, but just as an fyi for anyone:

Ask permission. Don't get butthurt if you do not get permission to touch someone's hair. Most of the time, asking to touch someone's hair is creepy as hell regardless of the intent, so don't be surprised if you get told off. AND ABOVE ALL, DO NOT JUST REACH OUT AND FREAKIN' TOUCH SOMEONE'S HAIR WITHOUT ASKING AT ALL. WHAT IS WRONG with you people!?!?!?

Brought to you by: Mixed person who wore their hair in blue afro puffs today because she felt cute and got accosted in the bathroom at work by a middle-aged white woman who grabbed my puffs and PETTED ME LIKE A CAT WITHOUT SO MUCH AS A HI-HELLO-HOW-ARE-YOU. DO NOT BLOODY DO THIS.

[rooboy]

[whimsycore]

The way queer white people have always antagonized me and forced hostile interactions then become scared when I start meeting them with a blank face or show them I’m not going to be a doormat is crazy.

[rucow]

my humble era is over, i now claim ownership over my faves and i Will be your voryn/phantom/hircine/fíli mutual. all yuor blorbos are belong me now

[lurking-latinist]

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[flatstarcarcosa]

"ArE yOu AbLe tO cAlL a MaNAgEr" how about I'm not actually and you can gargle my fucking balls how about that

[unproduciblesmackdown]

ppl will be explaining how a difference is a difference & not a Deviation from a Superior state, & people who are the ones considered Default Normal (superior) will be like "okay....to be polite....i Might say i consider Some aspects of Some people's existence mere 'difference' & not being less than me...." as like hey i'm a Benevolent god. i still actually get to consider you worse & don't have to "humor" anything that challenges my superiority. if you only want everything to fit into the norm then it will all come back to upholding the norm. thinking of people's analysis of their own realities as equally legimate as being like Obscure, Irrelevant, Superficial & then using that reasoning to justify dismissing them. same as worrying that the [Different Lessers (Others(tm))] as Everywhere = a manifestation of the awareness that, yeah, respecting them as equals Does threaten your norm which is smothering everything everywhere. ppl who need to lock in the idea of Borders around personhood like um Yes they're all delineated separate Identities outside any hierarchy & so i think it's relevant to for some reason push back against "ohh so now Everyone's queer" like why not. why couldn't they be. what if they were. what if queerness was everywhere b/c it's ideological not a cordoned off Alternative Identity that is accommodated by focusing on Love(tm) as the new border around whose existence we might begrudgingly accept at arm's length (i.e. being otherwise "normal"! just imagine swapping out the binary gender (or, deep breath, presumed Private Parts) of one partner in an exclusive romantic lifelong nuclear family marriage, & that is Gay / Trans Rights. still gross but maybe we can do it, as long as they don't talk about it or shove it in our faces or even exist for more than one encounter w/us in our lives b/c what are the odds). evergreen laughing at someone suggesting ableist logic might be embedded in language of past & present b/c it's just So little to ask for that it's irrelevant but it's also So much to ask for that of course i'm not gonna do anything more than pass it along like "this is why i don't take ableism seriously" like yeah it's the disabled randos like it's the individual cringe teens(tm) ruining [the cishets would take Gender seriously otherwise!!!] & that's why you won't think about it or do anything about it & continue being comfortable with the norm & resent that actually their Difference is Less & disability is something worse that ppl "excuse" & all these ways that people are & all these things that they do are funny & weird & inexplicable & etc & one can't possibly be cruising along perpetuating a hierarchy with a sense that you're reasonable, well meaning, kind, etc etc & thus Justified, systemic oppression definitely wants to maximize how uncomfortable & arduous it feels to everyone rather than push to make it more streamlined & rewarding to embrace, or at least accept, whatever superiority over others you're afforded

[insane-weasel]

Me at concert trying to make Convo: Oh hey I also cycle through 30 AO3 fic tabs to look for something to read then close the fic if it doesn't get me in first chapter

Girl in front of me: 0_0 (utter terror)

[banana-milk-enthusiast]

Mono Cliffs Provincial Park

[saltcherry]

my hot take on ‘can you use food words to describe skin color, especially of nonwhite people or characters’ is, you probably can do it in a reasonable way, it just depends on how racist the rest of your writing is whether is comes off as creepy. like it’s well-established in English literature to describe skin “as white as milk” and “cheeks as rosy as apples” etc., typically to describe young women or girls. the fetishistic tone is not going to hinge solely on the words chosen (of course, associations have to be considered). the real issue is that the fetishization of white women and of Black women or brown women operates differently. the words used to do it are different. the associations with sexuality are different (y do u think white women who want to assert sexuality often choose to do it by either embodying stereotypes associated with women of color or by directly appropriating aspects of nonwhite culture?). so really the challenge for the writer is not to remove all purple descriptors from their language, even stilted or outdated ones, and their associations (impossible task) but to be good enough at their craft to challenge, remake, critique, etc. those associations. like idk it seems like a very hard task and that’s why the advice is to simply remove that language! however it’s more interesting to try to grapple with language imo. and ultimately more productive because many many types of words carry associations of otherness, sexuality, prejudice, etc. when applied to nonwhite vs white people, Black vs nonBlack people, etc. the language problem can only be understood when you know this and only solved when you work at it with deep knowledge. (I guess the reason some people balk hard at “I don’t get why this is perceived as racist” over e.g. “she had skin like chocolate” is because they are lacking that deep knowledge accrued from reading a lot. related: if you don’t read a lot, and you write with that type of language, without knowledge either conscious or unconscious of those biases, will you replicate them? form new associations? is knowledge a curse, lol?

[protaetia]

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[taiscloset]

its always a random old white women w fried skin and dyed blonde hair that causes the most ruckus on a convenience store

[narcopathyfiles]

i find american race politics wacky a lot of the time but like Honestly. maybe having a better sense of identity in my race would fix some of my shit i think.