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I wish i could grab people by the shoulders and mind beam information about how deeply mundane it actually feels to have those pds. like let's be real the general presentation of the traits outside of breakdowns and whatever is pretty socially acceptable even.

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I have really bad period in my life and I have urge to hurt people so I will talk about this:

"CaN nArCciSsiStS/sOciOpAtHs LoVe?"

This is a question which drives me fucking insane. And not only people who ask this but more people who answer this. Especially people who answer this and don't know ANYTHING about NPD/ASPD. Who the fuck are you to tell others what is love? And who do you think you are that you think you can speak for every pwASPD/NPD? Do you think we are humanoids? Do you think we are fucking villians without emotions? EVERYONE LOVE. We can show and feel it differently but everyone is capable of love. I see you are uneducated but stop being stupid and ask me and others if we can love. Of course we fucking can. My fp/ep/exception is a narcissist and even if he can be horrible sometimes, he's the most amorous person I've ever met. The stigma is unbelievebly big it makes me wanna kill

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“Fatherless behavior” stop giving my DAD credit for all the work my MOM put into making me a terrible person!! Stop erasing women in history!!

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does it even count as manipulation if you just ask them to do a thing and they do it really

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continuing gender roles arw pathetic chronicles, guy (unprompted) started to explain computer hardware to me (i am technically his coworker and in the it department of the company) not too long after sharing a bunch of medication with me for free

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how it feels to talk with someone who doesn't pay full attention on me, doesn't notice every detail about what i'm saying, takes more than 2 seconds to reply my texts, doesn't answer my calls at the exact moment i need them so answer, isn't curious about the names i mentioned at the convo, reply a dry "hi" instead of "hello, my lord":

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i don't actually disagree with you in general, being able to identify your problems and find a community you can relate to as a teenager can be extremely helpful for a lot of issues. but the unfortunate thing is that "treatment" for the specific two disorders i've mentioned is very difficult to find at all and mostly really vilainizing and unhelpful, it's not rare for it to straight up just make it worse. maybe it's different in different parts of the world but as far as i've seen it doesn't seem like the best option for a developing brain to me

No offense but what's with the influx of teenagers in aspd/npd tags. 16 and over is understandable but if there's over a year and some until your high school graduation this is not the place for you 😭 don't let your brain settle you into this life while you still can help it

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i've had low empathy since i was pretty young and it mostly doesn't bother me but one thing that does is being unable to be happy for others tbh. and i see other people (who often don't even have low empathy) who despite having that empathy seem to feel a similar way and it makes me kind of disgusted with myself because christ they're insufferable lol

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honestly doesn't even take nearly as much effort as i imagined because most cishet men Will not genuinely pay attention to anything feminine shaped beyond the surface visuals. it's been like my special interest to arrange that in specific ways and see what happens

cishets are so pathetic about gender i wish i realized that before. you can literally get dudes to do things for you if you're just really girly

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cishets are so pathetic about gender i wish i realized that before. you can literally get dudes to do things for you if you're just really girly

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Npd really does it's job as a trauma response I won't even lie it comes in clutch as fuck. Like I would not get rid some things abt thr disorder.

Urge 2 do smth evil? Ew no I am NOT an evil weirdo I am a perfect prince and I will not engage.

Depressed crying over a man in my room? Lame. That's so lame. Let's stop we aren't lame we are cool and swag cool swag people have cute cool rooms and do hobbies let's do that instead.

Like ty npd we r making it werk

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npd culture is being the fp of someone with bpd and making it your mission to be as healthy as possible and not influence them negatively in any way because if I did I'd be a major loser

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People think NPD is all about ego, but it’s really about needing significance to feel okay.

When you’re starving for connection and validation, and people only show up on their time, it feels like betrayal. Like you’re invisible.

It’s not that we don’t appreciate connections, it’s that the timing and consistency matter more than people realize.

Casual check-ins or delayed replies feel like crumbs when you’re starving. And that mismatch? It drains you fast.

The frustration turns into anger. Not because we want to be jerks, but because it feels like people don’t get it.

It’s not enough to love us when it’s convenient. We crave that deeper, constant significance in their lives.

This isn’t about being selfish either. It’s about survival in a way that makes sense to us.

NPD makes it hard to self-soothe, so we seek external validation to stabilize. And when people can’t meet that need, it feels like a direct attack on our worth.

For those with NPD

You’re not alone in this. It’s tough when your needs feel like too much for others. But recognizing the pattern can help.

Seek people who naturally meet you halfway and learn to self-soothe when they can’t.

No one is going to save you

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what do you think about the 'ASPD and autism can't be comorbid' thing? I don't know, unless they're all lying, I've seen multiple people at least claim to have ASPD and autism, sometimes even professionally diagnosed with both (though people can lie about this, too)

ASPD and autism can absolutely be comorbid!

If disorders cannot be comorbid, the DSM has a section that states it usually (ex: such as the Cyclothymia criteria saying that you can't have the disorder if you had a major depressive episode before => therefore major depressive disorder & Cyclothymia cannot be comorbid).

You will not find such a thing in the ASPD or autism criteria for either of those conditions. What you will find is statements such as "Behavior should not ONLY be present due to X condition" or "Behavior should be present OUTSIDE of X episode" => Meaning you'd, as an example, need to meet ASPD criteria outside of things like psychotic episodes, in order to have it. Or you'd need to meet autism criteria outside of what could be accounted for by something like schizophrenia already, etc.

Its actually frequently talked about now, that growing up with autism is often traumatic (due to society not meeting your needs, people actively punishing you for your traits, being isolated due to the behaviors, being told you're "wrong" / "bad" etc.) and ASPD is usually trauma based, so a comorbidity makes sense + there is nothing in the autism criteria that would make a development of ASPD impossible/be in opposition to it (as far as I know)? I think the claim comes majorly from people seeing autism as "uwu innocent baby" and ASPD as "bad cruel asshole" and not wanting them to be thrown into the same bucket.

There should be a really thorough screening for ASPD, if you've been suspected to have autism (and other way around) though, cus theres a lot of behaviors & emotional experiences & thought patterns, that can look similar/be similar at first glance, so they can also be confused for one another! Thats one of the reasons, why I am also on the waiting list for an autism assessment, as such as been recommended to me, by a professional, who also said ASPD is an accurate diagnosis for me (which, to me, sounds like a comorbidity is seen as "possible" by said professional, so imma trust him there too).

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genuinely i need people to understand not only that it's not "fun" to be this way but also like. profoundly uninteresting. it does not make you special or smarter or more charismatic. we are not less likely to get hurt in relationships and we are not automatically good at manipulation just because of the disorders themselves. we just all hate admitting this kinda stuff

No offense but what's with the influx of teenagers in aspd/npd tags. 16 and over is understandable but if there's over a year and some until your high school graduation this is not the place for you 😭 don't let your brain settle you into this life while you still can help it

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No offense but what's with the influx of teenagers in aspd/npd tags. 16 and over is understandable but if there's over a year and some until your high school graduation this is not the place for you 😭 don't let your brain settle you into this life while you still can help it