#relationaltrauma

[ramyeonupdates]

{ #feelingintelligence } || source: notesfromyourtherapist

[responsiveparenting]

My virtual friend and colleague @irismcalpin had a post yesterday that left me like 🤯 Watch that inner dialogue… it’s so powerful… and tricky too sometimes. Posted @withregram • @irismcalpin Projected self-judgement is sneaky because it really feels like we're being judged by others. Our inner dialogue might sounds like “He thinks I'm so disorganized.& “She hates my outfit.” “They're so disapproving of my skills as a mother.& “He thinks I'm stupid.” Now of course if someone actually says these things to us it's different, but sometimes we take ambiguous information (like a change in tone or unusually long pause), and fill in the blanks with our own self-judgement. Instead of relating to those blanks we've filled in as our own judgements about ourselves, we insist they're coming from the other person. That may not really be true. Why do we do this? As usual there are many possible answers but one is that if we were constantly being judged and criticized in our family environment it makes sense to assume people are judging us. It’s a form of self-protection to be prepared for the worst. What is the answer to this? The first thing we can do is do is ask ourselves some questions. Has this person actually criticized us? If not, where are we getting the idea that they think we're ____? Is that something we believe about ourselves, or something we're insecure about? Would it be possible to ask this person what their change in tone, facial expression, body language etc. really means? Bringing curiosity to these snap judgements might be illuminating. In the situations where we really are being judged by another person, it can still be helpful to be curious about whether we're adding to it by judging ourselves as well. We may not be able to change how they view us, but by bringing our self-judgment into awareness we have an opportunity to begin to heal the source of that pain. Because it really is painful to be constantly judging ourselves. Even if we're used to it. 💛 . . #selfjudgement #judgement #judgementalpeople #judgemental #selfsabotage #hardtruth #truth #projection #projecting #selfawareness #recovery #traumarecovery #childhoodtrauma #relationaltrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CeHI4xrL8Q0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[theraysparks]

ये चिट्ठी भी भीग जाती होगी तेरी याद में। #theraysparks . . . @yourquoteapp . . #brokenheartquotes #loveletters #quotestoliveby #sadqoutes #hindiquotes #tagthewriterofyourstory #writeratheart #instagramwriters #brokenheart #lifelessons #relationaltrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CTbiungHzO1/?utm_medium=tumblr

[stephanie-light]

Boy do I resemble this. This year, with lots of love, patience, and support from my friends and therapist, I'm finally starting to break out of my unhealthy dating habits. One thing I can say is that if you're trying to break a cycle like I am, it's never just one choice, one decision. I constantly have to choose not to engage in those unhealthy but familiar habits. I constantly have to choose curiosity over judgment. I'm constantly sitting in my discomfort and just feeling it. It's so hard, but I'm starting to feel more free. . . . #loveyourself #iloveyou #youarefree #youareabundant #youareeverything #selfcare #relationships #relationshipgoals #relationshipinspo #relational #relationaltrauma #relationalintelligence #emotionalintelligence #selfanalysis #changinghabits #unhealthyrelationships #healing #ipvsurvivor #dvsurvivor (at Arizona Desert) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJkJ0hzDueu/?igshid=6t7kvs4cd03p

[empressempathidi]

#KnowThySelf ✨ #Rp @epicinitiator Before you go diagnosing yourself (or others) with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Codependent, etc, please just throw away the titles and consider them ONLY as types of wounding. ⁣⁣A label does not make a person AND we are fully capable of healing, in fact, our body, our emotions naturally move towards wellbeing. We have neuroplasticity — we know that attachment styles as well as wounds can change and heal, so don’t get all wild on this one. ⁣⁣The other thing I want you to consider is the human animal. Try to think of the aspect of ourselves that is strictly instinctive and trying to protect itself and optimize survival. Consider the human spirit, the human soul as part of the whole but we can address it separately. ⁣⁣I think when we understand consciousness is layered, ever evolving and awakening it helps us have more compassion for ourselves. ⁣⁣This is a good time to announce that I’m part of an online summit called Crushing Codependence and it’s all about…you guessed it: codependence!!! So calling all my insecure attachment peeps! It’s free and if you want in you can visit my website and join my mailing list to be notified or stay tuned abd links will be up very soon!! Super excited to get this information out to you all!!! ❤️❤️❤️⁣ When we heal from the inside out, we have the confidence, self-trust and skills to enter into the right relationships and to honor our own feelings so we can opt out of ones that don’t feel good sooner. You deserve for love to be easy and rewarding. ⁣⁣For more info, follow the link in my bio @epicinitiator ⁣⁣⁣⁣#healthyrelationships #anxietyanddepression #attachment #polyvagaltheory #healingtrauma #anxiousattachment #avoidant #disorganizedattachment #fearfulavoidant #attachmenttrauma #attachmentstyles #reparenting #attachmentstyle #consciousdating #secureattachment #codependency #codependent #codependentnomore #codependencyrecovery #loveaddiction #loveaddict #boundaries #abandonment #enmeshment #narcissistic #relationaltrauma #relationaltrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CVWORDaP7Nn/?utm_medium=tumblr

[ramyeonupdates]

{ #compassion } || source: notesfromyourtherapist

[responsiveparenting]

Came across this post and just love how relatable it is. Attachment Theory is very complex and can be hard to explain in a social media context. Relating attachment styles to familiar characters can make these complex concepts easier to understand. Posted @withregram • @epicinitiator Which character do you identify with the most? Or are you a mix? ⁣ ⁣ While this attachment business is really fun and interesting, it’s important to remember that your attachment goals are more important than your current attachment style because your attachment style is plastic…meaning, it can change. ⁣ ⁣ You’re not stuck, you don’t suck, you’re not doomed to be alone or to be attracted to people that treat you like a*holes.⁣ ⁣ The coolest thing is that there’s a process and I’ve seen so many cool shifts and changes, even within a few months of doing the work. Often if we’re wanting to change behavior, it’s going to take a good year of commitment, potentially more. Neuroscience has now shown that each cell in our body regenerates yearly, so we are different from year to year. We have an amazing capacity for healing, so by this time next year your attachment style could be vastly different. ⁣ Follow @epicinitiator for more attachment theory info ⁣ #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #attachment #attachment #secureattachment #neuroplasticity #insecureattachment #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #disorganizedattachment #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #avoidance #loveaddiction #loveaddict #addictedtolove #codependent #consciousdating #consciousrelationship #relationaltrauma #relationalhealing #emotionalhealing #emotionaltrauma #traumatized #counterdependent #connectionmatters https://www.instagram.com/p/CX1h4yKrLsi/?utm_medium=tumblr

[dpfagency]

⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #emotionskills #relationshipskills #selfhealers #writerso… ❤️⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #emotionskills #relationshipskills #selfhealers #writersofinstagram #relationaltrauma #relationalneuroscience #vulnerability #relationshipskills #compassion #selfacceptance #tuneintoyouremotions #feelingintelligence #loneliness #trauma #traumahealing #interpersonalneurobiology #attachmenttheory #feelingsarefeedback #vulnerability #mindfulcompassionatedialogue #nonviolentcommunication #nvc #mindfulness #hakomi #dailyquotes #quotes #inspirationalquotes Source

[eyelovelisa]

"Sudden, uncontrollable loss of attachment bonds is an essential element in the development of post-traumatic stress syndromes."

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[sothisishealing-blog]

learning to experience the full range of emotions without trying to jerk ourselves out of them 🙏🏽 . . . self healing resources in bio 🙏🏽 . . . . . #introvertquotes #introvert #introverting #empathlife #empath #hsp #highlysensitivepeople #chronicillnesscommunity #healingtools #personalgrowthjourney #lifegoalsinspirations #inspirationboard #motivationalquotesdaily #recoveryquotes #mentalhealthmonth #mentalillness #narcissisticabuse #trauma #relationaltrauma #traumawork #ptsd #lifecoaching #healingcoach #selfcompassion #cptsdrecovery https://www.instagram.com/p/BygprJdgJl3/?igshid=w1jzuhae3glr