#reality shifting tw

[compassionatereminders]

Hi Kat,

I know you have quite a big following so I want to ask you something, just to see if any of your followers or even you experienced something similar. I apologize for a very long message btw.

The topic is: A STRANGER CLAIMS THEY KNOW YOU BUT YOU HAVE ACTUALLY NEVER MET THEM.

Firstly I would just like to say that I don't do drugs or drink. I'm a few years older than you, so while yes I'm 31 I'm still not an old grandma and my memory is pretty good.

I'm a person who still recalls how the voices of my ex-classmates sound (when I read books, or anything else, I read it with a voice in my head... if you know what I mean. I can recall voices I like and read text in that voice), I still know their names and last names. Except I don't know all the last names of my classmates that I went to high school with for 4 months (but I remember how they looked like, sounded like and I know their names, I just don't know last names of some people who had pretty long or complicated last names).

Now to the story. Last year I went to pay a lottery ticket for my dad. He plays a lottery ticket every week. I don't really know what this little store is called in English, we call it "trafika". You can pay lottery tickets there, you can pay bills, they sell magazines, some alcohol, cigarettes, little chocolate bars, chewing gums... and that's pretty much it. It's very small. A woman owns this store and she has 1 employee. One works in the morning, another one in the evening.

Last year, it was during summer break time I saw a new cashier - most likely the owner took some time off.

The new cashier wasn't rude looking or anything, but when I stepped into the store I got such an odd vibe, just a very uncomfortable feeling. This happens a lot to me... it's like an intuition I guess. And I'm usually right because when I get an odd vibe from someone something usually goes wrong.

I wanted to pay the lottery ticket when the woman called me by my name. I was quite surprised since I had never seen this woman in my life. She told me her name and because I was looking at her confused she told me she used to be my classmate.

I went to some high school for 4 months before I changed schools. Her name wasn't common, and I was even more confused because I would 100% remember a unique name. I have never had a classmate with that name.

I'm a loner, a quiet type so she would 100% not know me if she weren't my classmate. But even if I'm a loner I did speak with those classmates, heck I was forced to when we had to do stuff in groups and so on, so I 100% interacted with all my classmates at some point.

She even told me the name of the school I went to. I told her that I don't remember her at all, she seemed kind of disappointed and a bit mad, but since I saw this woman for the first time in my life I didn't feel the need to lie and pretend I did know her. I just felt like it would be more awkward if I lied. I paid for the lottery ticket and I said bye to her and told her I had to go because I was in a hurry (that was a lie but oh well. Her mad stare was kinda making me feel awkward so I just wanted to go asap)

The next week I didn't pay lottery ticket there but I went to the post office instead because this interaction kinda freaked me out a bit. I even crossed the street when I walked by in the next few days. But after a few days, the owner was back (you can see easily inside because it's a glass window and that woman never returned since then). I don't even know how many days that woman worked there because for 3 days I was too freaked out to even look at that direction, I know it sounds silly. And the day I looked there the owner was back. So I guess she was there less than 3 days?

What else gave me the creeps is... she really wanted to convince me that we knew each other. Something about that just felt off to me.

I know like 15 years passed since then but I swear to you on my life I don't remember ever meeting this person. I remember people who take the same bus as me, even if I see them on that bus once every month. And I don't brag I can recognize every person I have ever seen, because I can't. But if I remember a random person I see on the bus once per month, I'm sure I would remember this woman like I remember every single one of my classmates. This is why I feel crazy.

I deleted my facebook ages ago, and when I had facebook I was never sharing personal info like which school I went to or where I worked. So it's not like she was bored, saw me on social media, and decided to prank me.

I listen to yt stories sometimes and some stories are about how people shifted into a different reality. These are just interesting stories to me, nothing more. But that day I felt like this woman met another me in some different parallel universe, I know it seems crazy.

I find the idea of a parallel universe interesting but I don't know if I believe in all this, but it just felt like she is from a different reality where she met me. And in this reality, I never met her.

I lost all touch with ex classmates (they also live far away from me so it's not like I can run into them either) I can't ask anyone else if they remember her.

I usually don't message you on anon, but in this case, I will turn on the anon button... because I feel kinda crazy. Some time passed already but whenever I walk by I always think of this incident. And I was just curious if anyone else experienced something like that?

I agree that it's odd, but I don't believe in reality shifting and I think it's far more likely that you genuinely forgot one classmate after 15 years than that she's from a different reality. Even if your memory is unusually excellent

[theiasthesis]

Shifting can be escapism, and that's OK.

Im going to give you a valuable lesson, so stick to the post, dont skip because every word is important. Don't let that small attention span get to you baby, remember that knowledge is power.

My name is Willow! I'm a non-dualist reality shifter, shifting coach and subliminal creator who's a freak for the multiverse and knowledge. Everything I say on here is based on my own personal experiences and research.

This post can help you with:

Escapism, guilt for shifting, realising you're worthy of shifting.

The self determination theory (SDT) is a psychological theory of motivation. It focuses on the degree to which specific human behaviour is for the self ; self motivated and self determined

Basically, what exactly is it that a human being can do, that isn't manipulated by outside influence, but rather their own human nature?

According to the theory these are 3 self motivated human behaviours:

Autonomy

Having the freedom to decide your actions without outside influence.

Example: Being able to go out with your friends, without your parents restricting you.

Competence

The ability to do something effectively and be useful.

Example: You're a very useful employee at your company, this means you are competent for your job.

Relatedness

Being connected or related to someone, or something.

Example: Having a connection with family or friends

OK, so how does any of this apply to shifting and escapism?

When you lack one of any of these 3 behaviours or feelings, this is a disruption your human nature. Naturally by birth, you are within your birth right to recieve all of this.

Each of these behaviours, have extreme importance in your cognitive behaviour

- Cognitive behaviors are thoughts, ideas, and representations of yourself to others.

If you don't have the will or ability to control your actions independently, you are most likely going to feel stuck, and like everything is out of your control. Doing things that make you happy and activities you find meaningful, will become an issue due to your lack of autonomy.

If you don't feel competent in areas of your life, or people aren't competent when it comes to you, this can create low self esteem and a bad self concept, you may think of yourself as "worthless" "useless" or "incompetent"

You may feel less motivated to taking on new challenges and activities, as you feel like you're just going to fail, and mess everything up anyways.

Connection is what makes us human, love and empathy towards overs and receiving it, is what makes human life so special. Relatedness, is what you need to experience caring relationships, to be part of a community, and overall to feel love. Humans need love, that is a fact.

When these basic needs aren't met, a human being can lack the motivation to commit to any one of these factors, which take up a huge part in life.

Lacking these can make you feel, stressed, anxious, self loath and nihilistic.

When you don't have these 3 factors, this causes a lack of motivation to commit to them, which means you don't have them.

So you turn to something else, escapism.

"Escapism is the tendency to distract oneself from real-life problems. It can also be conceived as shutting meanings out of one's mind and freeing oneself from self-awareness for a while . Escapism has been identified as one of the key drivers behind online behaviors, in both adaptive and maladaptive ways"

- PubMed Central®

Link to study

Think of escapism like touching a hot stove. Imagine you place your hand upon a stove. At first its cold, and you're fine.

Then the temperature starts to slowly rise, its currently warm, its still fine you can deal with it. Now, it's getting hotter, and hotter, and hotter...

And you remove your hand.

Not on purpose, but by instinct.

By reflex, your hand immediately moved away from the stove once it got too hot.

Your nervous system felt the pain, which sent a signal to the brain, that something with your hand is wrong.

Biology isn't my strong suit I fear.

Another example.

You're in immediate danger, there's a tsunami coming your way, it's too big for you to face, if you stay where you are, you're going to get crushed by the water, and die on impact. So what do you do?

You run.

Naturally you escape from the dangerous situation, because who in their right mind would test their luck and try to survive a tsunami?

Are you getting it?

When human beings are faced with a situation that is uncomfortable, causes mental, or physical harm, or even death, their first response is to escape.

It is human nature to run, to escape, to not face the dangerous situation. Sometimes it can be a bad move, like ditching a daye you were nervous for, other times it could be skipping school because you constantly run into a group of serious bullies.

Repeat after me.

If you are in a situation where you do not feel loved, worthy, or free, you are allowed to escape.

You are allowed to escape.

Empathise on that baby, nobody is going to tell you off for it.

However, you must be weary of using shifting as escapism.

Shifting is a wonderful phenomenon, it is not something that determines whether you live or not. It doesn't determine your worth either, nor is it something that causes you psychological stress.

If you find yourself having suicidal or self harming thoughts, with shifting as a way to mend these thoughts, I beg of you to take a step back and evaluate these thoughts of yours.

Shifting is a journey, I preach that it's something that can be done on the first go, but that isn't the case for everybody.

It can be as short or as long as you make it, failure in shifting when using it as an escape from serious issues, is a one way road to psychological distress.

With that, I ask that you first deal with your mental health, before anything else.

Find something that makes you feel good and grounded, something you enjoy.

Please remember, that not everything is something you must be good at, if it came from you it's already perfect.

Meditation, painting, dancing, listening to music, writing, exercise. Anything and everything that makes you feel good, nothing is too silly, nobody is going to think you're weird or bad at doing something you love to do.

I found that talking out loud, writing in my journal, mediation and watching anime helped me a lot when I had "life impacting plans" connected to shifting.

LESSON SUMMARY

1. It is natural for human beings to run away when they are faced in a dangerous or uncomfortable situation

2. Shifting being used to run away from a bad situation, isn't negative. It only becomes negative once you prioritise it over your own health

3. Your mental and physical health always comes first before shifting

4. You deserve to be loved, to feel worthy, to not be let down, and to be free, whether that's through shifting or not!

[theangelshifter]

Simple things I’ll be able to do in my DR that I can’t do here:

- Be able to talk to my parents freely

- Be able to smile with my teeth without feeling bad

- Be able to have a snack without feeling like I’m eating too much

- Be able to not have to worry about what people around me think

- Not have to worry about messing up

- Not have to stress over temporary things

- Feel secure and feel like I have a secure future

[klxudykai]

there is nothing wrong with permashifting/respawing

slight tw for suic!d3 mentioned

now i’m kinda stating the obvious with this one but i don’t think ive ever actually explained my thoughts and opinions on it before.

first off, permashifting and respawning are not the same. so wtf is the difference??? well permashifting is shifting to a different reality and making that your cr (current reality) BUT you still have connections to your or (original reality). while respawning is again, shifting to different reality and making that your cr but you have zero connections to your or. so they’re kinda the same but they’re different as well.

some people share pretty strong opinions on them both saying shit like “it’s unhealthy you can’t escape your cr blah blah blah” well im gonna tell you right now that that’s absolute bullshit. you can see shifting as an escape from your cr there isn’t anything wrong with that. it becomes an issue and unhealthy when you see shifting as something that’s above you. as long as you don’t think that, then there isn’t an issue.

the people saying that bs shouldn’t even be worried about you in the first place cause it’s YOUR journey, not theirs. if it was unhealthy then that’s your own fault so it shouldn’t concern them at all. istg shifters are some of the NOSIEST mfs i know. especially the mfs that consider themselves the “shifting police” like bffr why tf are we limiting realities??????? there’s literally an INFINITE amount of them. there is no such thing as “realistic” because everything is realistic. that’s a whole different topic for another time so i won’t get too much into it now (i’ll make another post on it one day)

now one thing that people (ESPECIALLY shifttok/new shifters) think has to happen in order to respawn is that you have to kill off your or self (original reality self). ABSOLUTELY NOT. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO KILL OFF YOUR OR SELF IN ORDER TO RESPAWN. i don’t know where the hell people got that idea from but it’s totally false cause respawning just means making a new reality your cr and forgetting about your or. don’t do it, it’s unnecessary just set the intention to not shift back to your or it’s literally as simple as that.

i don’t think i have anything else to add but if i do come up with smth ill ofc add it to the post. anyways that’s my take on permashifting and respawning 🤷🏾‍♀️

[emptygravesyard]

TW : GORE, BLOOD, NEEDLES, AND MENTION OF KILL.

Here are some gore dividers for everyone !! ❤︎︎ i made these in a day cause ive been busy with stuff so heres something to make up for it 😔

NOTE : YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CREDIT ME JUST DO NOT STEAL, COPY OR TAKE FOR CREDIT.

Im gonna do a part 2 with these and a black aesthetic eventually.

Enjoy!

[lxlsposts]

Anyone struggling to feel real anymore? Like I'm seeing and feeling the world around me, sure - but my brain won't fully take it in. I'm not at the same time. Im trying to feel real, but i feel stuck in this, like a glass wall around me? Like I'm just watching everything happen with no input of my own. Can anyone help me?

[primaddonagirl]

Fear

I feel like no one else talks about this and i hope someone can find comfort in this or help me find comfort. When it comes to loa, spirituality, shifting, manifestations, religion even, everyone says it is so simple and natural, witch i believe it is, i believe it is in our nature and we have forgotten it, became unfamiliar with it, i believe we are much more than our human bodies, our thoughts, beliefs, assumptions etc. There is no denying that, its in our nature to seek more, seek religion, spirituality, different beliefs, fulfilment beyond everyday human life and that must mean something. Yet it feels so unfamiliar, sometimes i feel so “crazy”. Like im having a crisis, developing some sort of spiritual psychosis. I try to silence this feeling/fear with affirmations, prayers, convincing myself that im fine and don’t feel what i feel, but that doesn’t change anything. I and alot of people in this community just act like everything is so simple, that everything it is, is just believing, getting your desires, getting your dream life, appearance, shifting to love your s/o etc. Its literally life, all life. I know it is not my duty, nor am i under any obligation to understand how life works, how the world works, how the universe works, why is everything. But i doubt my beliefs and i feel so much, and im scared of my mind, im scared of not being in control, not knowing, that maybe with such scary things in the world, my minds just made me believe in such things as a shield from the world, from things i cant change and control, from things that i am afraid of.

If you are still reading, thank you so much, i would really really appreciate if anyone responds or talks about things similar to this. Also Marry Christmas and happy holidays! Love you all.

Thank you

[fluffygumi]

I hate the way my dad thinks so much. all three of us are autistic but my dad acts like me and my mum are the defect ones and he is perfect and he always starts fights because of it, and he always gets to get away with it because "oh he's going through things blah blah blah" he really needs to learn some fucking manners because this not how life works, and it is very very stupid way of thinking

[shiftingcultureis]

~Freaky~ shifter culture is trying to figure out how to script your freak shit into your DR without it being highly immoral or dangerous

(e.g. person who's attracted to dragons would have dragons pass the harkness test)

𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 shifting culture is..

[For screen readers: freaky shifting culture is…]

[shiftingwitholiver]

doing a new thing where instead of wanting to k!ll myself after a bad thing i get fresh, renewed motivation to shift

[camiisshifting]

this but with my dr bag items

[groovyeggz]

Me when I lie about not relapsing again #iftheydontseeititdidnthappen

[royallaufeyson]

I am so drained of all energy and motivation I do not know what to do anymore. I just finished my finals and I'm so relieved and tired but also scared for the results, I need to shift so bad but I know I'm gonna make it out of here. I promise myself that. The urge to off myself is so bad rn but I'm pushing through and I'm getting through it. I trust myself, I just felt the need to say this for some reason but I miss my s/o sm hes been my only comfort recently. I just want to be in his arms rn, I'll be so happy with him. Hes going to heal me, I know it. Anyways I'm just really tired and depressed but I'm still gonna push. My only motivation is my birthday and that I'm going to see my love soon.

I love you all so much 💗

please take care of yourself <3

[simply-shifty]

Okay but like...vulnerable moment for me rq:

As someone who grew up poor, in a trailer, and needing financial help from others...shifting is so healing. Like, tf you mean i can script no one ever goes through poverty or homelessness ever again?

What do you mean i have enough money to not worry about being able to pay rent, bills, food, and be able to shop and still have money left over?!

What do you mean my IR s/o's have black cards and are stable emotionally, financially, and think i should have basic human rights?!

What do you mean my partners actually like spending time with me and never see me as Too Much?

What do you mean that people of all religions, no religion, gender havers, non gender havers, queer and non queer people and neurodivergents and neurotypicals all get along and no one is excluded?

And what do you mean i can live as much as i want without any abusers present?

I can script/tell my OR trauma to my s/o's and they'll actually listen and care and comfort me?

And what do you mean that i can actually put those baby names i've really liked, but never planned to use here, to use?

And what do you mean i can walk down the street with my partners hands in mine, wearing what i want and finally feel completely comfortable and safe in my own skin?

Extra: bc i'm petty and have mommy issues

How i feel knowing at least one of my male s/o's is the type my mother finds attractive and would try to get me to leave if he were in my OR

[sassywiththesas]

Nobody cares about who i am and who I'll be.

[someonesrealityshifting]

slit ur fucking wrists

Bold of you to assume I haven’t tried