#real-world example

[lostconsultants]

Guiding Project Success: Revealing the Essence of Fulfillment

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In my journey through project management and software development, I’ve come to appreciate the critical role of clarity. Amidst the whirlwind of tasks and deadlines, one concept has emerged as a beacon of guidance: the Definition of Done (DoD). From my experience in software sprints to overseeing construction projects, the DoD has proven to be more than just a checkbox—it’s the foundation of…

[houseswife]

wilson saying “I need to do this. for you.” is fucking insane actually. in the same episode where house is deciding whether or not he should commit suicide as a result of wilson’s dying. They are each other’s lines between life and death. humans have a biological instinct to preserve their survival at all costs; house has an addiction that governs his life. but they were willing to forgo all of it for one another, because they couldn’t fathom it being any other way. IM SICK

[turtleblogatlast]

Something I like about Leo is that he’s honestly really chill? It’s easy to remember the moments where he’s being obnoxious or excitable but I feel like most of the time he’s incredibly “go with the flow” and has an overall affable demeanor.

[creatingblackcharacters]

Claudia from AMC Interview with the Vampire

Rubric

[ceratedfish24]

Mumbo has been shaking the trust between Grian and Skizz since literally the first episode and no one has said anything. He kept telling Skizz that Grian was going to betray them. With the language he uses, he makes himself look like he’s on Skizz’s side. Then, he spends the whole 3rd session with Grian, telling him how they should leave Skizz or kill Skizz or let Skizz die. He says condescending things about Skizz like how he just “makes noises to his death”. Unusually, Grian isn’t even trying to spend time with Mumbo. Mumbo has mostly been following him around uninvited, trying to establish connection. He wants to make it seem like he’s the only one who’s there for Grian. However, when all three of them are together, Mumbo is usually complimenting Skizz, while Grian chastises Skizz. This makes Mumbo out to be the good guy, even though he was feeding Grian ideas about how bad Skizz is as a teammate. He even tells Grian that he’s the only friend Grian needs. This is a common manipulator behavior. The point is to isolate Grian, make Grian’s other friends look lesser than or antagonize them, and make Grian be the one to push them away so that Mumbo doesn’t seem at fault. It’s all about control. He wants to control Grian.

Do you see how that sounds CRAZY. This is how people talk about Scott and Pearl. Mumbo is just being silly with his friends, and Scott deserves that same space without being called the bad guy. I understand that you guys are talking about Scott’s character, but you’re forgetting that Scott is not actively trying to play a character. Do you know how much it sucks to have a silly competition with your friends only to have thousands of people overanalyze your every move and calling you the bad guy for teasing your friends? Do you understand that this is not an analysis of a character so much as of a real person in a competitive environment with a bunch of his friends who he trusts and understands the boundaries of and therefore may tease and chastise more as a joke because he trusts them not to take it the wrong way? Imagine messing around with your friends and everyone starts telling you specifically that you’re manipulating your friends when you tell them not to shout in a library. That’s how people are treating Scott for chastising Pearl and Impulse about antagonizing Gem and Joel. You’re all so forgiving when it’s not Scott, but once this one particular guy is in the hot seat it’s game over. Does it not feel targeted to you?

[starsapphire]

I'm so sorry for this wall of text I'm about to send you; your post got me fired up.

You're so right about the abused Tim Drake post--sometimes it feels like people want abuse to be Dramatic and so obvious any adult in their right mind would step in, whereas what's going on with Tim in the comics is always something much more insidious. There's this sort of catharsis, I think, being sought in having Tim have such a glaring problem that can so quickly be addressed and resolved, but what the comics depict is more like something that will leave him thinking 1. it wasn't actually that bad, 2. surely all parents are like this (to varying degrees), and 3. even if I felt bad I'm fine now.

I'm literally never going to forget something he said very early on, which was just a mildly annoyed "I never know where they're going or for how long." It's inconvenient to him! He has his needs met (he's being taken care of!! what do you mean alone at 9- no!), he has friends in school, and he's sad because his parents aren't home. And it would sound crazy to say "I think I'm abused because my parents were busy with their jobs," but it's not just that it's the repeated subtle dismissal of his interests, it's the uninvolvement in his life with no clear plans to fix it or give replacement parental figures, it's how he knows so little about them! That's not even touching stuff after Jack wakes up, just Jack and Janet pre-incident.

And I do think that personal experience really helps in figuring this one out, because (as I've learned), subtle forms of abuse like this are not actually the norm, which means the majority of fans have not been in this sort of position. When people project their own feelings onto Tim but they're coming from a place of translation (turning, say, an experience with bullying) as opposed to transposition (taking one's own experiences with neglectful parents), there ends up being some wild takes because parents have enormous amounts of power over their children; everything is magnified.

I want to believe that it's naivety because that's the nicer option, but sometimes I worry that people simply don't believe that emotional abuse and neglect are real abuse unless there's something worse going on. A comparison I like that people never get unless they've lived it: people can understand that it's cruel to have customer service workers have to behave, to be kind and polite even when customers are bossy, rude, and wrong, so why is it somehow it's hard to grasp that it's cruel to ask a child (a child!) to behave, to be kind and polite in the face of a parent that is acting like the worst kind of customer? Do they think the kid can just act out without consequence?

This has been quite long, but in short: you're right about Tim Drake. I think it does a disservice to him (and to real people) to treat him like the world's punching bag in fandom. I hope you find some catharsis in him.

(I'm sending this anonymously because I also have first hand experience and don't want this traced back to me, sorry).

i agree with everything you said and i'm actually so grateful you sent this because it's helped me organize my own thoughts on the issue. you're so right — i think in the end the issue is that a lot of people are just. not able to comprehend that abuse and neglect are not that obvious, and it turns into this thing where, if someone is an abuser, they must be Cartoonishly Evil. so we end up with this strange dichotomy of extremes where people either believe that tim was a totally-or-mostly fine latchkey kid and the abuse is made up by fandom, or that the drakes abandoned their kid at 8 years old and only came back home every 6 months to smack him around. neither of those things is true, but both of them are easy to understand.

neglect, especially emotional neglect of children, is not very obvious, and then when you combine that with the context of when tim's early comics were written (re: latchkey generation), it's very easy to just say that welllll tim was actually fine. especially if you haven't read many or any of the relevant comics! (a lot of people have. a lot of people haven't.) like you said, people both want and expect to see a Very Obvious Problem that has a Very Satisfying Resolution. and if you're looking purely at canon, tim's story just doesn't have that. the abuse is not terribly obvious, it's not entirely known to or acknowledged by other characters, it's never explicitly called by its name, and the issue is ultimately never actually resolved. jack just dies. and tim grieves him, and loved him, so how could you say he was abused?

and like. the thing is, it is very plainly not only neglect, because we actually see jack getting violent with tim! on panel! but he never actually hits him, and he never has — he even says as much to tim (arguably as a thinly veiled threat) after he finds out tim is robin — so is it really abuse? even besides the neglect, jack's destructive behaviour, threats of physical violence, and general lack of respect for his son are all textbook examples of emotional abuse. but i think, even when people feel they know about emotional abuse, they're still stuck with this pervasive belief that abuse isn't Abuse unless it leaves a bruise. and that's not, like, a failing or whatever, that's just kind of the common opinion we all get fed our entire lives.

it seems kind of stupid to be saying that people need to learn how abuse works and what the different forms are when we're discussing batman comics but... people really do need to learn how abuse works and what the different forms are. not to analyse fiction but to protect themselves and others in real life. anddd maybe to keep others who have been abused from having to see painfully oblivious takes online.

anyway thank u for sending this it was very insightful (and helpful to me)... i hope you have a great day 🤸🤸

[bumblingbabooshka]

Every time I watch the cold open of Memorial and B'Elanna tells Tom about how she ASSEMBLED a 50's television set from SCRATCH just to surprise him (there's no reason beyond that - just an incredibly sweet and thoughtful gesture) and replicated popcorn for him to eat while he watches and Tom says "They didn't have remote controls in the 50's ♥ Also where's my beer?" I contemplate murder ESPECIALLY because B'Elanna responds cheerfully to it - GIRL!!! LEAVE HIM!!!!!! IS HE SUPPOSED TO BE CHARMING IN THIS SCENE????

[hyakunana]

God and his staff

[catenary-chad]

Today on “your ship is actually VERY CANON irl”- Electric Coal (Electra/Porter)

Electric locos are ironically great as coal haulers, they’ve been used on heavy mineral trains since the early 1900s due to their power and being great at climbing hills (and capable of regenerating power going downhill).

For an early British example, the NER EF1

For an extreme example, the Virginian Railway was a notoriously wealthy, hilly coal-hauling route that bought some absurdly large electric locomotives for dragging 9000 ton coal trains through the Appalachians

There were also several coal power plants in the western US that used GE E60 locomotives to haul long, frequent coal trains until they shut down

And as a bonus, a underground mine trains (including coal mines) are usually electric, usually battery powered, due to the flammable conditions and smoke being a problem in enclosed spaces

[daisyachain]

I’ve made this post before but I can’t be bothered to find it. In what we commonly consider a ‘traditional’/patriarchal European society, the paths in life are: marriage with children (acceptable), bachelorhood (frowned upon, locked out of certain professions/roles), spinsterhood in servitude to parents (probably suffering), religious servitude. An unmarried person is a servant either of the local lord, the Lord, or the parents. The parental relationship has a built-in hierarchy of the senior parents and the underling child. All pressures push down and toward marriage as a form of (highly limited for women) freedom.

One of the few ways around this system is the sibling relationship. Sticking with a sibling can provide an avenue to independence from hierarchy via a peer relationship, a person who moves in with a married sibling is protected under the auspices of that marriage (though somewhat dependent on the sibling) and is not automatically subordinate as with aristocracy/religious orders/parents. I’m interested in the sibling relationship as a kind of lifeline or shield against the buffets of social expectation specially in a world where there is some kind of censure against unmarriage and in which marriage is seen as the final step in growing up. Siblings are the playmates of childhood, they are biological family, to remain part of s biological family unit is acceptable, to remain unmarried is not, the sibling is the last line of defense against a spouse without submitting to hierarchy and/or could be read as the last line of defense against growing up.

This isn’t coherent. I like the idea of two siblings choosing to remain close into adulthood not because they necessarily like each other that much, but because they understand the consequences of abandoning someone to social forces. Siblings as a kind of delayed maturation, a sign that something is wrong, a failed evolution, a vestigial relationship, you’re supposed to be close growing up and then split into different clans, but they have failed to do so and have closed the loop to return to childhood.

[infinitelystrangemachinex]

Veilguard vaguing:

It's not automatically a good thing, actually, that the game de-emphasizes or even outright removes racism against elves, and bigotry against other groups, from the story

[lycandrophile]

hey i know your post about your mom was mostly just a personal vent, but i have to say, do you realize that also happens with trans girls and their fathers? literally happened to one of my friends. i’m not trying to downplay your experience or something but i found it strange that you seem to think this is something that only affects transmascs

i have one question for you: so fucking what?

i don’t doubt that trans girls have experienced similar things and yeah, that’s bad too, but what the fuck does that have to do with me and the specific things i’m facing as a result of being a trans man? i never said “look at this thing that happens to ONLY trans men and NO ONE ELSE,” i just said “hey, isn’t this thing that happens to a lot of trans men, including myself, fucked up?”

i would also like to point out that what you’re talking about is in fact a different (albeit similar) thing. the way cis people treat trans people can differ dramatically based on the cis person’s gender because their commitment to gender roles is, like, a major part of problem. the specific way a cis mother reacts to her trans son’s transition is often going to be very distinct, while a cis father will likely respond to his trans daughter in a different but equally distinct way.

what i’m talking about is a very specific kind of ownership and control and self-victimization and total lack of boundaries masquerading as love and care and maternal concern that cis women (i would argue white cis women in particular) project onto their transmasc kids when we do literally anything to our bodies. i’m talking about a phenomenon which is closely related to the way moms often pass eating disorders onto their daughters (or children they view as daughters) because they see a body that looks something like theirs and project all of their insecurities and ideals onto it. i’m talking about a form of parental transphobia and projection that’s specific to the dynamic of a cis mother and her child who was “supposed to” be her daughter.

if you’ve never felt that, you’re not even remotely qualified to tell me shit about how i should be talking about that experience, and if you couldn’t recognize that experience when you read my post, i’m guessing you probably haven’t experienced it because the replies to that post made it very clear to me that anyone who has experienced it firsthand immediately knew exactly what i meant.

like, yeah, cis dads also project onto their trans daughters, but are they likely to have a reaction like running away with actual tears streaming down their face? do you expect them to passive aggressively make comments about how sad their kid’s transition makes them, how it’s such a difficult emotional time, how it’s so tragic because their kid’s body was so beautiful before? do you think their go-to transphobic reaction will be weaponizing their emotions? i’m sure there are some dads out there who are like that, but i think we can agree they’re in the minority because that’s not how cis men are taught to react and parents like this tend to be pretty damn committed to following the gender roles they were taught.

and even if i’m wrong and our experiences are exactly the same, let me reiterate that i never said this was an experience exclusive to trans men. all i said is that it happens to us. that’s just a statement of objective fact.

this started in my life when i got my hair cut short for the first time almost a decade ago and it has not stopped since. i’ve watched my mom cry over me changing my name and respond to being asked if my happiness matters more to her than my name by saying “i care about both”, i’ve watched her melt down in a mall over me getting a suit for prom and give me the silent treatment for days after, i’ve heard her plead with me to stop t because it “looks unnatural” and she’s just so “concerned for my health”, i’ve watched her stare at me post-op and say “my poor baby” over and over like she’s looking at my corpse in a casket. i’ve watched her turn herself into the victim of every single aspect of my transition. i’ve had to live with this for 9 years and spent the early years of the pandemic literally locked in a house with it. this has been my entire adolescent and adult life, and the question of if i’ll have to cut her off someday (and maybe never see my cat or my little cousins who i love more than anything in the world ever again as a result) haunts me every single day.

who the fuck are you to tell me how to talk about that?

[princessofghosts-posts]

Fandom view of Percy

Ok y'all,let's unpack this one too.

My last serious post was about Percy backstory and how his trauma is rarely acknowledged by the fandom and sometimes by Riordan himself. At the end of it I also wrote how the fandom is most at fault for this,and how it also inflicted on Rick writing of him.

And let me tell you why and how.

First of all the "Percy is dumb and can't do anything without Annabeth" stereotype. Fortunately this one is slowly fading away,but I tell you that in the PJO italian fandom it was something. Most of the ff I read had this,or a variant of this,stereotype. It got to the point that I also started to think about it too,before remembering how he was in the books. 2018/2019 was war on Wattpad for this.

Percy is extremely smart and has an high Battle IQ. We are talking about the same dude that fought Kronos and won (credit to Luke's help too) and kept the world from being destroyed twice. The only reason why people started to believe that was because Percy himself has loe self-esteem,so people often don't realize how much things he downplay of himself. Also,do I need to remember you all that most of the first 5 books no one explained things to him? They literally thrown him out there in the greek world,after a basis tutorial,and said "go figure out it yourself". Chiron and Annabeth never told him about his prophecy,so it was normal for him not understanding shit. He didn't know and nobody told him about it,and that's something I'm always mad about,but he isn't stupid for this. He actually adapts to a situation pretty quickly,even when he almost doesn't know anything,and that's impressive. He was the one to make the plan in TLO,he positioned the campers and went to help them right and left when he could. It was his plan,not Annabeth's. He does a lot of things without her,both in PJO and HoO,so he isn't confined to her and he can still function without her. Like she can without him. They have each other back and help each other,sure,but he was never depended of her.

Then we have the "silly guy obsessed with blue food",another popular one that I hated for how much it got redundant. This also is almost everywhere and I'm sick of it because people don't understand what really means for Percy blue food.

We are introduced to blue food in TLO,when Percy talked about how it all started because Gabe didn't believe the food could be blue,and that it was stupid. Sally went out of her way and made sure that the food was actually blue,and ever since then they had it as a sort of tradition. The blue food was born to oppose their abuser. And that's why for Percy is so special. Because it was the only thing that Gabe couldn't ruin for them and couldn't snatch away,and it's also one of the few things that Percy had controll over during his childhood. All of the other things? Gone,Gabe took them all with his gambling habit. But he couldn't break the blue food. And that was something that probably grounded them. In PJO he only talk about it in the TLO,but in HoO,during their stay on the Argo II,he always ate something blue. And again in this situation,blue food didn't changed meaning for him,because it's the only familiar thing he still have of himself while everything is going to shit. Like the seeds kept Nico alive in the jar,blue food grounded Percy to a small sense of comfort and controll in what was happening. It's more deep that what people thing.

The "joke/a frat boy that would stay out partying all night and make horrible jokes to his friends" after he got accepted at the College in New Rome. Not a very popular one but I saw a couple of them,and N O. That's not Percy. Percy personality is nothing like the "popular guy" troupe,he would stay in his and Annabeth apartment rather than staying out all night. He is extremely good at met others comfortable with him,but e is actually pretty awkward and shy around people he just met. The would spent his time with his friends or doing something he likes,rather than taking part in frat parties. He ain't a frat boy,he is one of the most kind and gentle character out there. We are talking about the same guy that turned down immortality and godhood (who actually does that??) because he wanted the gods to be better parents. He is everything except this.

"Percy was disappointed after Nico told him he wasn't his type anymore" is one of the worst probably. This actually is everyday and I'm sick of it because the jokes are old,overused and OOC. Fortunately some people actually get the memo and are aware of it,but most of the time the jokes are still there. Which sucks.

Percy was confused about Nico confession because for him it was so out of blue. It happened after the conflict and the newly fresh ended prophecy where he actively took part in,and untill 12 hours earlier was still fighting for his life. He has a low self-esteem,remember? So of course when it cames to relationship he doubts himself often and don't see himself handsome. This is the same guy that in MoA asked himself how could Annabeth still love him after knowing how and what he was. You think he thought that Nico got a crush on him? Nah. He is also pretty obvious when it cames to his own relationships (because he is pretty aware of other people's). BotL had the whole crew in love with him and he was clueless of it. He never took it on personal and was probably confused on how,why and when. So the "I'm not your type!" jokes are stupid and after a while not funny,and extremely repetitive.

"Percy is OP and could fight a god/overthrown the whole Olympus without a problem". Did we read the the same books? Apparently no because this is bullshit.

Most of this was born from the fact that Percy isn't afraid to call out wrong doings,especially the ones done by the Gods,and he can be quite disrespectful with them because tired of their games,and another part is because of the Akhlys scene in Tartarus. But half of those things are in his thoughts. They are still Gods and he is a demigods,those are things he can never change and can't go beyond. He is powerful but not that powerful. He can't overthrow the gods both for the difference of power and because it would go against Percy himself as a character. His fatal flaw is loyalty. His is loyal to his friends,his loved ones,Annabeth and his dad too. They have an ok father-son dynamic (I already talked about it in the other post),and going against the Olympians would be going against his father too. And again,he did all of that shit in the first serie because he didn't want to end up like Luke,and now people hc him that way? Naaah. That's crazy. And the "Dark Percy" everyone talk about is just the one that snapped in Hell,where he wanted to survive. Why does he have a fault at that and why people think it's a different Percy than usual? It's the same,only when he is pushed to his limit. There isn't a Dark Percy,it's just Percy that did everything and the gods still decided to use him again and again because they can. Which is depressing as fuck but put emphasis on the distances that there are between Gods and demigods.

There are probably more but I already covered the main/most popular ones. Of course if there are any others you want to discuss about feel free to comment, rebblog,ask,or something. I'm always open to deep talk and overanalyzing of characters.

Now,going on with the last part of this post,at the start I said that the fandom view of Percy influenced Rick writing of him. And I want to explain why.

You see,while some author are completely out of reach from their audience,there are some that are pretty familiar with it and like to mingle with the fans. It's not something bad actually,it means the writer take us in consideration and is aware of how the readers feel about his books. Constructive criticism really do wonders for a product. But it also has his negative effects too. When the author is too close to the fandom,they can assimilate some of their idea about a certain character.

Take the Rowling for example. That woman was out for Draco Malfoy fans since they put him on a pedistal,and went on about how "he is so misunderstood","he is an anti-hero","he isn't evil he just didn't have a choice","Draco is the best character ever,idk why people never talk about him","he is so underrated",and many more. She actually took part of a CG (acting like another reader) with some fans only to emphasize how bad he actually was,and not misunderstood,and those same fans kicked her out because she didn't understand his real character. She then proceeded to dislike him more and I think she published a couple of updates on Pottermore about him,and how the character wasn't an innocent guy everyone made him about. Crazy right? But put emphasis on how much shit can happen when an author gets too close with their readers.

Rick is also close with his readers,and he is quite loved by the fandom. He interact with the fans a lot between books and series updates,or when someone ask him a question on the books/characters. And again, that's quite ok and sweet and all,but it can also damage the author view of his own characters when the whole fandom decide to mischaracterized them.

I didn't read the new Percy Jackson serie and I probably never will because I'm going to stop at Nico serie. Rick showed that he values more quantity over quality,and at this point he is just writing books because he can. I stopped at HoO a couple of years ago,and I'll read TOA only to have a good picture of what happened before TSATS since I've wished for years to have a Nico centred serie.But I'll stop there. Anyway I'm not immune to spoiler and quite like to spoil myself,so I'm always updated. And this is why,I want to ask,what the fuck was Riordan thinking with the way he wrote Percy? Because apparently he is a totally idiot that needs Annabeth to say smart things for him to do something. Like he can't think with his brain and needs Annabeth for everything. And wait! Who else interpreted Percy that way? Oh right! The fandom. The fandom that Rick fairly interact with. You think that an author doesn't know what his readers think about his books or characters? Especially if it's something that almost everyone agree on about? That they don't know or care? Wrong.

They got people that frequently check social media for them and update them on the most big things. For years the fandom had a popular hc on Will (the one about how he could glow in the dark) and in TSATS he apparently can actually glow in the dark. The hc isn't an hc anymore because it's canon,and that's not a coincidence. Like how Percy got written like a stupid idiot. His own author mischaracterized him because the fandom has a different view of him,so he decied to stick around with it.

We are our own greatest enemy. We fear that new fans (especially the ones that will enter the fandom with the TV-show) will mischaracterized the characters once the future seasons will be out,but we ourselves have already done that. And this time it got so bad that Riordan himself decided to stick with it. As if he never wrote Percy like the genius fighter he was. And I'll never like this.

[kedreeva]

What would happen if a chick had nothing to imprint on, not even hatchmates, or if it couldn't see anything? What would that chick act like?

I don't know, as that would be very cruel to do to a baby, so no one would or should do it.

[gods-favorite-autistic]

Idea for if nsbu ever gets a tv adaptation have 2 different shooting styles one for when we’re watching a scene from the action movie and one for the real world then when they get sucked into the movie whenever they’re shooting in the real world style you hear the real persons voice come out and when they’re shooting the movie style you hear the characters voice come out