#real dating advice

[lurukifennecfox]

Gotham was welcoming of Amity Parkers.

not as loving as with her own but she was way more patient with the people of her friend that any other outsiders.

so the people of Amity those Liminal and aware of her tried to pay her kindness back, to a reasonable degree of course but they could help and she let them stay so they did.

Paulina took it upon herself to make a nice place in the fashion district, she sold some charms to help with the curses as much as she could.

Sam being Sam opened a surprisingly Ivy Approved community garden and was very hard to convince not to join the Eco-terrorist but they managed to, thankfully.

the Fentons designed filters to help the 'Parkers but it was good for the city too if too little to do much.

Val hadn't moved here (yet) but she visited often enough and each visit volunteered somewhere.

Gotham grown to adore them almost as their own, she even hid them from the bats for a while to let them settle (and maybe help her more before her Knight inevitably got paranoid)

Gotham laughed when her King stumbled into her Red Knight, you could hear it in subtle ways the sounds of the night flowed just a little too much like a giggle.

Hood did deserve more good things she's proud of herself!

[touchlikethesun]

if you told kageyama and hinata that they could improve their timing and strengthen their hitter/setter bond by kissing they would immediately start making out. even if they weren’t interested in the other like that at all before, those boys would do anything for volleyball

[calmparticles]

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[girltalkcollectives]

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[feminineenergylife]

Stop looking for unconditional love through relationships and men. You must love yourself unconditionally. Other people's love has terms & conditions. (With the exception of love between parent & child)

[all-pacas]

This is not a CamChase post, but, I actually do want to talk about something I feel is deeply underappreciated by fandom, which is: Cameron and Chase are actually friends.

Long before they ever sleep together, all the way back in early S1. The two of them are almost always shown to get along! Cameron sticks up for Chase the entire Vogler arc, refusing (incorrectly) to believe he would rat, or that he should be fired. Chase, noted apathetic, actually tends to go out of his way to compliment or stick up for Cameron in early episodes: he passes along her good ideas to House (Maternity), defends her from House's criticism (Detox), and compliments her good ideas in Pilot and DNR, something he notable never does once for Foreman.

They get along! They have a joking conversation about lab results and House and Foreman's fight in Socratic Method. In Paternity Chase makes a sort of borderline inappropriate joke that the patient should take his mind off his pain by admiring Cameron's boobs; Cameron laughs instead of getting offended. In Sports Medicine, he teases her about her upcoming date with House. In Hunting, before the meth hookup, Chase is openly worried about her and asks Cameron to drinks; he even offers to do extra work so she can take it easy! Chase! The laziest man alive!

But to me, the most telling example is in in Mob Rules. We're at the start of the Hameron arc, and last episode Cameron asked House if he liked her, which he didn't answer either way. And what does Cameron do? She talks to Chase about it.

CAMERON: Did House seem weird to you? CHASE: Are you expecting him to be weird? CAMERON: We spoke about how we felt. CHASE: You told him you liked him? CAMERON: No, of course not. CHASE: What are you talking about, then? CAMERON: I asked him if he liked me. CHASE: Why would you do that? CAMERON: Because… I like him.

They're friends! Chase reacts with zero surprise that Cameron likes House; she goes to him for advice in a moment she's feeling vulnerable. He already knows she likes House, Cameron wants his opinion. This is a conversation between friends.

In fact, this happens a few times. Notably, Cameron tries very hard to get Chase to open up to her in Cursed:

CAMERON: You know, parents are never as bad as kids think they are. CHASE: You like my dad so much, ask him out. CAMERON: [joking] I’d make an excellent step-mom, I’m very lenient. [pause] He’s your father, you never see him, and he’s here. Unless he’s done some unspeakable thing, you should lighten up. CHASE: Right, thanks for the tip.

And, yeah, she clearly doesn't get it, but she's trying! She's joking around, she cares. Cameron tries to get Chase's advice in Sleeping Dogs Lie, she commiserates with him in Deception, she unilaterally defends Chase in The Mistake. They joke around sometimes, she confides in Chase when the TB guy in TB or Not TB asks her out: Cameron goes to Chase for relationship advice! More than once!

These are conversations that do not happen with other characters: Cameron and Foreman indicate they respect one another medically, but never have personal conversations; Chase doesn't open up to anyone, period. But whenever Cameron is looking for advice or to share romantic gossip… she goes to Chase. And Chase, for his part, likes to tease her (and she him: sex can kill you was 1000% Cameron trolling him), but honestly tends to be… if not automatically sympathetic, he listens, he jokes about TB Guy, he knows about her crush on House and treats it like old news. They're! Friends! I would actually argue this is probably the main reason Cameron goes to him when she decides she wants casual sex: Chase is someone she, in fact, likes. Even if that liking is not romantic. (Even the btw we should have sex, I will never love you is uh. Unless you are totally deranged that is not how you approach a fwb situation. Unless you. You know. Know Chase isn't gonna be offended because he already knows you're friends and aren't trying to drag him.)

And this actually does continue once they do date, btw. They're constantly hanging out. Chase spends entire episodes of S5 just hanging out in the ER. He still likes to tease her (Whatever it Takes), she inexplicably/hilariously still ropes him into her House drama (Ugly), but I can count on one hand the number of times they bicker or are unkind and mean it. They are friends! They always were friends. And that was the case long before they ever hooked up. In an AU where they never dated, they would still be friends. Their (romantic) relationship was badly written, no one likes it, I get it. But honestly I really do love how well they got along in S1-2, and I wish people appreciated that friendship more.

[randomnoteforfuturereference]

Broke: Macho grandpa being homophobic when the grandkid comes out.

Woke: Macho grandpa being accepting right off the bat.

Bespoke: Grandpa offering hilariously out-of-date and borderline-problematic dating advice after the coming out.

[yonemurishiroku]

who wants to read Nicobaster with crossdressing Nico? me.

[honeydewcorporation]

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[lightasthesun]

I asked the cute flight attendant for his number AND HE GAVE IT TO ME?! I may have girlbossed too close to the sun!!

[emylis-lovemastery]

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[thessaralka]

character growth is realizing that someone being in relationship after relationship doesn't mean they're in high demand and some ideal image of perfection that everyone wants, it probably just means they have really low standards and can't handle being alone for long periods of time so they settle for people they're not good with because those in-between periods where you have to be single and say no to a lot of good guys (or girls) to find the one or two that are right for you scares the shit out of them due to fomo and fear of being alone.

[girltalkcollectives]

Why Silent Breakups Are Not Okay

You know what’s worse than getting dumped? Watching someone slowly ghost you into a breakup because they’re too afraid to just say it’s over. Having to drag the words “I want to break up” out of someone.

For two weeks, I watched those message receipts change from “delivered” to “read” while my anxiety spiraled. Two weeks of crafting perfectly casual texts that screamed “please just talk to me” between the lines. Two weeks of making excuses for someone who couldn’t even give me the courtesy of a conversation.

“Maybe he’s just busy.”

“Maybe his phone’s acting up.”

“Maybe I’m overthinking.”

“Maybe, maybe, maybe…”

But here’s the truth about maybes — they’re just what we tell ourselves when we’re afraid to face reality. Because deep down, I knew. Every “hey, can we talk?” left on read was an answer. Every ignored call was a response. Every day of silence was him breaking up with me without having the courage to say the words.

The worst part wasn’t even the silence. It was watching myself become someone I didn’t recognize. Someone who begged for basic communication. Someone who analyzed every Instagram like for hidden meaning. Someone who made excuses for inexcusable behavior.

Until finally, I couldn’t take it anymore. I sent that text — you know the one — “just break up with me if that’s what you want.” And suddenly he had plenty to say. “I didn’t want to hurt you.” “I was trying to figure things out.” “I needed space.”

No. You were being a coward.

Because here’s what nobody tells you about being slowly ghosted into a breakup: it hurts more than a clean break. It makes you question everything — not just the relationship, but your own sanity. It turns you into a detective analyzing evidence that doesn’t exist, looking for closure in between read receipts.

What I wish I’d known sooner is that when someone’s ignoring you, they’ve already broken up with you in their head. They’re just too afraid to do it with their words. They’re hoping you’ll either do the hard part for them or just… fade away quietly.

But we deserve better than being someone’s slow fade. We deserve better than watching message receipts change like we’re watching our relationship die in real time. We deserve better than having to force someone to end things because they’re too afraid to be the bad guy.

So here’s what I learned: If they’re making you question your sanity with their silence, they’ve already given you their answer. If they’re letting you spiral for weeks because they’re too afraid to be honest, they’re showing you exactly who they are.

Don’t be like me, spending two weeks sending unanswered texts and making excuses for someone who didn’t have the decency to just say “I want to break up.” Don’t let yourself become someone you don’t recognize just because someone else is afraid of being honest.

Your peace is worth more than their comfort. Your time is worth more than their cowardice. Your heart is worth more than their silence.

And to my ex: Next time just say the words. It would have hurt less than watching those read receipts mock me for two weeks straight.

[merakiui]

Hello Mera ~

Speaking of the Lich brothers, it's hard not to mention the topic that they fall in love with one person. The scenario is that Floyd or Jade is now with a girl and at first the second one did not show attention. Later, when they get to know each other better, the second brother will understand why he started dating such a cutie. Both brothers are very determined, so... In any case, they will try to divide the "shrimp" in some way. Perhaps through a dispute or competition, a contract with Azul (if he also falls in love, it's a combination of c c c combo!) And since the brothers are equal, most likely they will share you. Or they will unite together against Azul!:D

The twins share everything, so naturally if they fall for the same darling they're going to share! Being sandwiched between two eels is better than spooning with just one. For the low price of your privacy, you are gifted two very loyal eels!!!! It's a very good deal! If Azul also likes you, the twins will consider sharing, but they want to clown on him a little more. It wouldn't be very fun if they just let Azul have all that he wants. They'll let him suffer for the fun of it because they want free entertainment.

I also like to imagine a situation in which you go to one of them in hopes that he'll be your wingman (wing-eel?) and set you up with the other. And miraculously he agrees (so long as you're willing to provide payment in exchange for his help), but the more he gets to know you so that he can set you up with his brother the more he falls. And now your wing-eel is in love with you while you're in love with his brother. orz the twins can compromise by sharing you, so there won't be any need to argue.

[curiousgirlsguide]

Friendship

What is real friendship supposed to feel like? Over the past few months I have been through a hard time with my own friends. Normally friendships are supposed to be easy and a place for you to go to feel supported and loved and for you to love and support. But when a friendship isn't like that, it's torture. A girlfriend's betrayal is worse than any man's, and that's the story I have for you today. I had this friend one, let's call her, Jane. Jane and I had been friends, some might say best friends, for quite a while. We did everything and anything together and we both were never really interested in any sort of romantic connection, not by lack of interest in men honestly, so we would come together and just focus on the friendship. However in march of this past year, I had met someone. Now granted this person was not great and my real friend, lets call her Sam, as well as my sister had let it be known that they did not like him but wanted me to do what makes me happy and they will be there for me regardless. However, for the entire time I was with this person, Jane had seemingly been supportive and liked him as much as I did, telling me to "go be with my man" and "not to worry about her to go see my man". I had thought I had my best friend's approval and I was ecstatic. Now about two months later me and this person stopped seeing each other. However, through those two months, Jane had started isolating herself from me. Now I know what you may be thinking, "did you ditch her?" and there is a simple answer for that, no. I was always making sure she did not feel neglected and constantly asked her to make plans and she would meet me withe same answer every time, "go be with your man". One day someone had brought something very upsetting to my attention, Jane had been talking about me behind my back. When I did a little more digging I had confirmed with 17 more sources (I counted) that this was true. Not only had she been speaking ill of me behind my back, she had been doing it for months. Telling people she did not understand why I was so well liked and why I was so wrapped up in some boy. This had broken my heart because I had never spoken ill of her in my life, in fact I always made it an effort to defend her if someone else was doing it. I had no idea what to do but I ended up confronting her. She denied everything. Right then and there was when I knew this friendship was over. The immediate tears in her eyes even though I was calm and asking her a simple question. After that moment, I had officially lost my best friend. I was crushed and heartbroken, however as time has gone on and I am more removed from the situation I realize how better off I am. You never want your friends to make you feel less than but you also want them to be honest with you and not just blindly support you than talk about you when you do something a little crazy. People, especially friends, who are two faced like that, are jealous because they wish they were as secure as you. Don't let them steal your shine or a friendship spot that could be held by someone who is truly caring and supportive. Forget your Jane and find your Sam. That's all for today!

Signing off,

Your Curious girl

Next up: FWB and why it NEVER ends well

[discoreptile]

Beasties of Greenhollow soundtrack! Some tracks on this are from older projects like elphame but all of them have been reworked in some way. Most of them are entirely new. Enjoy!