#raise your relationship standards

[femininedating]

Dating Tip:

Want to get married? Get the ring first. A man who truly loves you will marry you.

Don’t become a babymother, play house with a man or build with him only to “hope” for a ring later…

Stop giving your all to a man who won’t even marry your first.

[feministfang]

A 50/50 relationship is not in any way better than a traditional marriage lifestyle. Equal partnership is just an illusion sold to women in the name of gender equality bullshit so they would overlook the sacrifices they are making for their relationships, and these men could reap out all their benefits from it without putting in any effort.

Women in the traditional marriages are expected to cook, clean and serve their husbands along with maintaining the feminine beauty standards, giving sexual favours and birthing kids for their husbands in return for these men providing them with a roof over their head, luxurious lifestyle and food (that these women brag about as if they used to be homeless before marriage).

Women in the 50/50 relationships are also performing feminine beauty rituals just to look attractive for their ugly boyfriends or husbands, they are also giving sexual favours to these men that these men are always desperate for, and on top of that, they also give birth to their kids. But men do not provide anything because equal partnership gives them a benefit of splitting the bills 50/50.

Liberal women are too brainwashed to not realise that this is NOT an equal partnership. Men think they don’t have to work hard to have access to women they like only because they can do their own domestic chores, and women keep buying into these scams thinking he won’t be a domestic burden on them.

But later on he does become a burden because there are so many things that these women do for their husbands that cannot be split 50/50. They do not realise this because liberal society has sold them lies that are promoted in the name of gender equality and choice feminism, like “it takes 2 to make a baby”, “casual sex is beneficial for both men and women”, “beauty culture is so empowering” etc.

A 50/50 relationship is only beneficial to men just like a traditional marriage. Women have no advantage in it. They only lose and men keep enjoying their benefits.

Society has set two options for women to choose from; either depend on a man financially and serve him domestically, or become independent and serve him without expecting him to do anything for you.

Nope! You don’t have to choose from any of these options! Independent women do not need men because we can provide everything for ourselves. It’s the men who need women because their entire survival depends on female energy and this is why they take their own lives when single and lonely.

If i would be dating a man, I’d expect him to serve me, financially add value in my life and put in all the efforts to even get my attention. He’d be doing everything for me, i won’t do anything for him. The relationship should be benefitting me and not him. Otherwise, why the fuck would i want him?? 🤷🏻‍♀️

So unless a man lives up to the highest level of standards that a woman has set for herself and worships her like a goddess, women are better off single as separatists!

[serpentface]

You said that the Ulelilwa people are the only group fully permissive of intersophont relationships, in this case between Qilik and Elowey. But since the Elowey are mammals and the Qilik are avian and would thus have very different "equipment", I wonder how that would work.

It could involve pretty much any of the litany of non penetrative sex acts out there (with some limitations to oral and digital due to Teeth and Claws)

Elowey have the same basic anatomy as humans and the mechanical act of reproductive sex is basically the same. Their mouths are a little more intimidating than those of humans, but not really any More dangerous to have near your genitals and have similarly flexible lips and muscular tongues, so they would be capable of performing all forms of oral sex. Their hands are the biggest difference- their fingernails are much thicker (though can be filed down to the base) and their fingers are furred, so receiving penetrative digital sex from that might be uncomfortable. But other than that, any sex act performed by humans from Real Life could be accomplished by elowey in the same or similar ways, so there's a lot of possibilities on that end.

Qilik mate via cloaca contact and have no penis, so the external parts of the cloaca is where pleasurable stimulation occurs and their reproductive tract is not predisposed to receive penetration. VERY shallow insertion of a digit or tongue might feel good for the average person but that’s the full extent of it. There’s probably people who like putting things up their cloaca, it’s just not going to be a Common desire (and a qilik cloaca doesn’t have any internal structures like the prostate that are directly pleasurable to stimulate), and the difference in size wrt elowey would likely make penetration painful and potentially dangerous in most cases (it could Probably be safely accomplished for some people with practice/carefulness/substantial lubricant because elowey penises are pretty small and thin, but this isn't going to be all that common).

There are also obvious limitations to performing oral on the part of qilik, they don’t have mobile lips and their jaws are full of small, sharp teeth. You cannot put a penis in there in any way that will benefit you, and their tongues are long and thin and can't lick with that much pressure or finesse. A lot of qilik are more likely to perform oral-adjacent sex with the bare skinned tips and sides of their snouts, which is a notably sensitive area of the body (not in the Fetish World IF YOU TOUCH IT I WILL CUM way, just tactile and good for physical affection of all kinds).

Like Humans, sexual pleasure is not solely derived from the mechanical reproductive act, but this is PARTICULARLY pronounced in qilik. Exclusively reproductive sex is very rapid- the entire act with full sperm transfer takes about 5-10 seconds. Their pre-sophont ancestors would breed over a period of a few hours, cycling through periods of male display, mutual preening, and mounting with sperm transfer. Bonded same sex drake pairs/throuples cooperatively rearing young would also intersperse their greeting allogrooming with mounting and full cloaca contact, as an affiliative sexual behavior that strengthened social bonds. This translates substantially into how behaviorally modern qilik tend to enjoy recreational sex, for most the act is 95% about intimate grooming and physical affection While Aroused and 5% direct genital stimulation.

This would actually be a fairly agreeable circumstance for a qilik/elowey pair, as both species have allogrooming as a basic behavioral drive (with layers of cultural convention tacked on top of it). Allogrooming feels nice in general and can be enjoyed in a sexual context.

So like bottom line for what would commonly be on the table:

Horny allogrooming

Other physical affection (licking, nuzzling, cuddling, etc)

Non or lightly penetrative oral/digital sex

Non-penetrative genital contact

Charged allogrooming moment between Ulelilwa men. Guysrule, beautiful romance, etc

[thessaralka]

when u realize every mean and nasty thing said about women (women will die alone w 4 cats if she doesn't settle for whatever lame ass broken loser proposes to her first and lower her standards, women fall in love too fast, women open their legs to any Chad that walks in the room and ignore the Good Man Who Just Happens To Be Ugglieee Right Next To Her, women are too emotional, women have shallow friendships women lose value as they age) is false for most women but very true for weak men ur eyes start to open and u become free.

bc only weak men who:

have to settle for whatever women MAYBE picks them bc they ain't shit and their standards are way too high compared to who they actually are as people,

can't control their emotions and fall in love w the first woman that glances at them,

try to have sex with any woman who he finds hot and gets offended when 1. she turns out to be batshit crazy and has major self esteem issues so she was using him as a validation toy or 2. her standards are higher than Him, and then blames her for her desires rather than working on himself to become a man who can match the kind of woman he says he wants (but doesn't want to work for, not realizing that a woman like that REQUIRES at BARE MINIMUM a man who busts his ass for her and dedicates his life to her well being)

have no emotional control because the realm of the emotions is forbidden to them by their pride and they haven't explored the Feminine aspects of their psyches

^ due to fear of losing bro points with equally immature loser bros who sit around trying to impress each other while flexing their muscles and circle jerking about how cool their cybertrucks are or whatever,

are definitely losing value as they age bc they don't work on themselves to become Grown Men and only place value on outer qualities not inner growth,

are spitting this shit about women.

and realizing this is how you raise your standards for men and the kind of men you surround yourself with. because you're not the kind of woman to hang out with crazy immature babymen. so why bother yourself with fools any longer?

[whatudottu]

So I’m reading through your ideas for Ben 10 and seeing the “cliquey and territorial cerebrocrustaceans” one is making me realize how absolutely hysterical it would’ve been if at the beginning of Alien Force Brainstorm was incredibly kind and affectionate towards Gwen more so than Ben usually is meanwhile he’s just disgusted by Kevin’s entire existence.

Brainstorm: “Oh, Gwendolyn! I have a surprise for you! I witnessed you express an interest to see a feature film that has recently debuted, so I decided to purchase two tickets so that you may go and see it with a colleague of your choosing! And there’s no need to worry about refreshments: I’m more than happy to lend you the proper fare required for you and your chosed companion to purchase all of your favorites!”

Gwen, genuinely put off as Ben’s never been this nice to her before: “Umm…thanks?”

Kevin: “Hey Ben, do you know where the bathroom is?”

Brainstorm: “T H E  G R O U N D  U P O N  W H I C H  Y O U  S T A N D.”

(Of course, as Ben gradually warms up to Kevin, Brainstorm eventually grants him one of the highest honors he can bestow: permission to touch him without needing his consent first)

Oh hell yeah this got me cracking up!

Ben 10 rarely ever explores the differing psychology between Ben’s humanity and all the aliens he does transform into- well, save for Rath that is! Sure, the smarter aliens he transforms into affect his intelligence, but academic IQ is a completely different ballpark to social instincts, and the idea that Brainstorm who - being a cerebrocrustacean who’s social evolution centres on a severe in-group vs out-group - would interact quite differently with his peers than in his human base form.

Hah, Gwen may be confused and perhaps slightly off-put given Ben - while affectionate and caring of her - isn’t quite so open and hmm… what’s the term… considerate? Attentive? About her interests that he’d spend the money on them for her. At least for the sake of their present closeness Brainstorm wasn’t on 10 year old Ben’s playlist, Gwen would have been on the outest of out-groups you’d need to have been a criminal actively harming him to get it worse.

*looking at Kevin* Ah right yes, that criminality- Kevin would HATE Brainstorm like it was personal, even after Ben the human gets to trust him more and drop the suspicions. Would probably groan whenever he shows up again, it’s almost like Kev treats Brainstorm like an entirely different person (in a similar but opposite way Ben sees his transformations as people), even after he becomes part of Brainstorm’s in-group. Can’t handle the saccharine :P Understandable-

[feminineenergylife]

Funny how men will want you to go 50/50 on their responsibilities, but don't offer to do 50% of the housework, chores, cooking & childcare.

And the worst part is women fall for it 🤦

[officialjanetweiss]

“4B is problematic because it reinforces the idea that sex is only for men’s pleasure! Women deserve pleasure and shouldn’t have to abstain from sex with men!” Literally go masturbate.

[bluejayblueskies]

god that long post about marriage and how it's a legal contract first and foremost frustrates me bc it's really great info except for that one person smack in the middle who goes 'and this is why your poly aro QPR dreams make me fucking nervous' as if the problem is the people who want QPRs and not the fact that marriage is culturally and socially bound to traditional romantic relationships

[skrunksthatwunk]

still thinking about how one of my first yyh meta posts got reblogged onto an sjw cringe comp blog in the year of our woke 2022. truly tumblr dot com, the last bastion of progressivism, has fallen (<- sarcasm) and also i'm kinda baffled that they didn't choose like. me putting yusuke in a skirt or something

[theloulouge]

Reminder (Day60)

Never settle for bare minimums.

You deserve overflowing love, attention and efforts.

[aidenwaites]

I deleted the post I originally made that was along these lines but truly. The video game show did not end up as revolutionary as some people treated it as

[femininedating]

You deserve a man who is already built and established. Not struggle love and a man who wants you to suffer with him while he 'builds'

[feministfang]

As a straight woman, a relationship advice i would like to give to other straight women is to never settle with a man who is not adding value to your life.

Some of you radfems in heterosexual relationships are literally dating men who put bare minimum effort. You people keep crying about the bar being so low for these men and then proceed to date them when they only give you respect, attention or are loyal or have integrity. These things are just bare minimum.

If i am dating a man, i would expect him to serve me. He should make my life easier, struggle-free, support my dreams, spoil me with romantic gestures like dates, flowers or opening doors. He should worship me literally and make me feel special because i know i am a goddess and deserve high value treatment.

This is how i treat myself. And if i am treating myself better than how he is treating me, or if i am struggling with something and he is just sitting there with his verbal "you’re so strong you can do it yourself" gesture thinking that would make me fall for him more,i would literally dump his ass. He is completely useless.

Take advantage of your relationships! If your relationship with this man is not benefitting you, then he is just another burden in your life. Men are literally built to serve women, so raise your standards!!

It’s always the broke or 50/50 mentality mediocre ones crying about high standards of women. And it’s always the women who are not aware of their worth settling with these losers. These low standards you people have for these men are not even my standards for platonic relationships.

Start valuing yourselves!! Decenter men, stop chasing them, stop replying to their texts if social media is where they approach you… it’s literally embarrassing, and just live your best life loving yourself and being obsessed with yourself.

It’s because you’re so focused on finding a right partner, you limit your standards in the process. If you actually start utilising all that energy in yourself instead, you will realise that you’re out of so many men’s league and their low effort behaviour will make you wanna puke on their faces.

You disrespect yourself when you lower your standards for men. If a man cannot afford my standards, that’s his problem not mine since i would reject him. His loss! My attraction to a man will never become a reason to date him, it will always be my high expectations. I don’t care about my love for him. I love myself first.

I don’t need a man for anything. I am independent and can live happily on my own. But just because i can provide for myself does not mean i would settle with someone who does not have a provider mentality.

I am not blessing any man’s life with my presence if i am not welcomed like a goddess in it. I won’t even give him attention. As long as he’s bothering me, he’s my server or he’s a nobody to me.

[tleeaves]

Thank you so much, Alondra!! I'm honestly over the moon that you noticed and reblogged my post 🥹 I'm definitely having a wonderful time, I hope you have a good day/night too! 💛💛💛

fuck it everyone tell me about one fanfic which has changed your brain chemistry

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

[yuwuta]

friends with benefits with nanami wouldn’t work because he would think you deserve better. you think your arrangement is going well, kento has never complained before, and you’re certainly more than satisfied in bed. he’s handsome, strong, kind, generous with aftercare, and really fucking good with his mouth, so there are no complaints on your end. which is why it’s such a surprise to you when kento confesses that he doesn’t like the way he’s been treating you, and no matter how much you insist that it’s fine, and reassure him that he treats you more than well enough, he refuses. 

“but kento, i’m okay with this,” you attempt to convince him that hooking up is enough—he doesn’t need to feel like he has to do more for you, “you’re good to me, and not just in bed. please don’t feel like you owe me more.” 

“you deserve something proper,” he’s adamant, shaking his head, “you deserve more than convenient sex.” 

“but what if this is all i want?” you can’t help but to tease him. he looks awfully cute with his arms crossed, respectful refusal written all over his face, “i think eating me out on a weekly basis is quite enough, it would just be greedy for me to ask for more, don’t you think?” 

your jokes don’t amuse him, but his expression keeps you giggling. still, nanami sighs, and grumbles, “you should want more. it’s not greedy.”

“kento, if i didn’t know any better, i’d think you’re telling me to raise my standards.”

he blinks, cheeks pink with irritation and eyes hollow with tiredness. you push every single one of his buttons and he doesn’t know why, but he would never stop you. maybe that’s where this impeding guilt is coming from—kento likes you, and he doesn’t enjoy feeling like he’s using you, even if you get to use him in return. he doesn’t want your relationship to be transactional, and he doesn’t like that you think such a relationship is okay. 

because, guilt aside, kento knows he wants more of you; he wants all of you. and even if you don’t want him back, he thinks you should know that you’re worth having all of, and nothing less. 

“maybe i am,” he settles, “you are worth more than an occasional hookup. you should be treated better than this, and i am sorry that i have let it go on for this long.”

“this is ridiculous—you’re nothing but good to me! and i like having sex with you. if you don’t want to have sex with me anymore, that’s fine, but—”

“i didn’t say that,” he interrupts. 

“so… you do wanna keep sleeping with me?” 

“yes. but we should go on a date before we continue.” 

“but what if our date is terrible. do we still get to have post-first date sex?” 

he shakes his head, stepping closer to you and holding your forearms before leaning down to kiss your forehead, “i don’t put out on the first date.”

you scoff, taking a half-step closer, snaking your arms around his torso, and grinning up at him, “what a prude.”

at that he smiles, before bending his neck to indulge you in one last kiss. “i’ll pick you up at seven.”