#polyam bisexual

[bicultureblog]

bi culture is being polyamorous!!

December 26, 2023.

[figs-and-cigs]

I played DnD for the first time last week and am now part of a regular group. Have I reached my ultimate polyamorous form? Where do I go from here? Are there still more achievements to unlock??

[starnosedmoles]

a few lgbtq+ flags i color picked from these bugs!🏳️‍⚧️🐞❤️🪲🏳️‍🌈

[burntoutpaladin]

I got married and turns out my wife and I are the hottest people alive.

(A blacksmith friend of hers made me a longsword and twin daggers for her for our wedding.)

(I'm a paladin, she's a rogue.)

[adragonflyaway]

suddenly change the aesthetic and the pronous, wild.

[bloomshroomz]

So, we're ten days into pride month. Things are a bit confusing for me right now. I’m trying to figure out what I want, or what I need.

I know that I’m aromantic, but…

I want companionship. I want commitment.

I want to kiss someone. I want to make out with someone.

I want to cuddle and watch a movie with someone.

I want to spoil someone. I want to be spoiled.

I want to love someone. I want to be loved.

I want emotional intimacy. I want physical intimacy.

I want these things with multiple people.

I don’t see any of that as inherently romantic… Maybe it would be easier if I did? Something about that feels wrong, somehow. Why do I have to slap a romantic label on it by default, when I know that none of these things need to be confined to romance?

People aren’t usually committed to you unless you’re their partner. I’d like to have a few partners. Do I want that to be romantic, though? I mean, I know that I don’t want it to be romantic, because I don't want anything to be romantic. But, am I opposed to it?

I don’t know. I can’t tell.

Most people would call these feelings romantic. Why does it feel so much more complicated to me? Why do I have this weird disconnect?

Sometimes I feel like it would be easier if I just tossed out the aromantic part of who I am. Just being bisexual would make things so simple. But I don't think I can just flip a switch like that. Can I?

Do other people feel this way?

Is it just me?

Edit - 6/20/2024

A lot of people have been giving me the same advice over and over, and while I appreciate the sentiment, I've probably heard it before. Like, a lot of "you should look into QPRs/cupioromanticism/bellusromanticism/etc." when I've already known about those things for years.

Please read this post before giving advice or input, especially if it involves labels or attraction/relationship types. I know a lot about labels and attraction/relationship types; my struggle isn't coming from a lack of vocabulary. Thank you.

[rouge-the-bat]

QUEER LABELS VALIDITY & REQUIREMENTS MASTERPOST

have you ever wondered "is it okay for me to call myself this label?" "can i identify as [this] if im also [that]?" "is this identity valid?" or various similar sentiments?

well look no further! this post is compiling a list of specifications for different identities along with why you can or cant use certain labels along with other ones, so youll be able to make an informed decision on choosing your labels! (and not call yourself something thats very problematic and harmful to other queers)

As if!

you can do whatever you want forever <3

you know yourself best, only you can decide what labels fit your own experiences and identity :)

other people can offer their perspectives from their own experiences if you want to hear them to try to figure out what you relate to, but no identity has a universal experience! no one can tell you that you cant identify as something!

no one, i repeat NO ONE, ordains the details of queer labels and who can or cant identify as what, or if a label can be used at all or not! not even if they are of the identity theyre trying to enforce rules on!

just because some rando may walk up to the gate of a public park and begin trying to control who can or cant enter doesnt mean its their property!

go, be free and queer, even with the most complex and weird and confusing labels! nothing can tie you down! (unless youre into that)

💖❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[hem0mancy]

Holy shit it can't be that hard to just be normal about polyamorous people and NOT repackage homophonic rhetoric to exclude them

"Well I don't care what they do I just don't want them in the LGBTQ community" that's the same shit they've been saying about trans people for years dawg

"Well all polyamorous people are ugly and cringe" that's the same shit they've been saying about trans people for years dawg

"Well all polyamorous relationships are just one ugly guy and two helpless victim girls" the predator rhetoric is the shit they've been saying about gay and trans people for years dawg

"Well all polyamorous relationships are just an excuse to be a cheater" 1. Not what polyamorous means, can't be cheating if everyone consents, 2. That's exactly what the same shit they've been saying about bisexuals for years dawg

[1tz-4ll-m3]

Unpopular opinion: Two or more consenting adults don’t have to have sex with people they’re romantically and/or sexually attracted to, you guys can have sex purely just for fun and still be happy being friends.

[museumofferedophelia]

A lot of "queer" culture is deeply intertwined with the emergent "what about me?" culture, which is centred around people believing that every single conversation and post on the internet has to relate to them or reflect them in some measure- and if something doesn't, it's exclusionist, or exposes some deep-seeded issue in society.

I'll give you some examples:

There'll be a post talking about enjoying intimacy with a partner, how sex can be so special and sensual. And it'll get flooded with asexuals talking about "allonormativity" and asking why society "revolves around icky sex," and how "we need to cultivate a culture that isn't so centred around sex, asexuals exist too."

Someone will post about how special it is to find "the one" and share your life with them. And a bunch of "polyamorous" people will insert themselves, complaining about how "you can share your life with more than one person," and "just people forgetting polyam people exist," and "mononormativity and polyam ersaure."

A lesbian will post about how she's happy that she'll never have a pregnancy scare, and will jokingly talk about how doctors are always confused when she tells them that. And a bunch of "trans lesbians" or women dating "trans lesbians" chime in being like "well, about that..." or "trans lesbians are valid" or "cisnormative terf, lesbians like girldick."

I think people are too immature and narcissistic to realise that people are talking about their own experiences. Not everything is meant FOR YOU. If it doesn't reflect you, ignore it and move on.

And if you want to see more representation that reflects you, go create your own rather than harassing people whose life experiences are vastly different to yours.

Not everything has to be about you.

[scretladyspider]

[inky-squid-art]

im still alive. hi

[bihexualandferal]

i love being polyamorous because sometimes you get funny relationship dynamics like this

we are literally a three-man circus with one brain cell among us. anyway Happy Pride fuckers

Edit: would like to clarify that I love both my partners equally and I’m not just being mean to my bf all the time, I’m exaggerating for the bit lol

[queerism1969]

[atlasthemayor]

(I may have to make a specific tag for these frogs comics later)

The dialogue is from a convo a friend's friend had with their bf

My friend told me it was peak nurseydex, and tbh she was RIGHT

[passioninblue]

I'll be loud and proud 'till the cows come home

(Happy pride!!!! I really really loved the cow pride flag design from @razzytism , so I'm repping these colors for EVER)

Drawn by my Fiancé @runby2 💜