#please no reblogs

[brandyllyn]

In 2011 my dad and I packed up all my things and took off for California. It took us four days and we never turned on the radio. Just chatting and arguing and generally having a good time.

When it came time for him to fly home I tried to hand him back the paper atlas we had used to navigate through dead spots.

"No. You keep it. So you can always find your way home."

Go call your dad. Tell him you love him. You don't know when the last chance will be.

[violeteyedkiller]

please be sure to take care of your mental health y'all

[lutawolf]

Hi Luta,

Re : personal matter

(This is not a usual ask. I am asking for advice.)

I currently live with my mom and 2 siblings. I am in university and I have a job. My mother has schizophrenia,but refuses to get medicine. She was very narcissistic from those days and believes that she doesn't need medicine. From those days, if we didn't listen to her, we were subjected to very harsh punishments. She doesn't listen to anyone including her own husband /parents/kids/siblings.

We [whole family]tried so many times to get her treated but to no avail.

I am from a third world country .Our country doesn't have a mental health act, so we can't force her to get medicine unless she commits a crime.

She is slowly losing her ability to function. Right now ,my father is away for work . She is constantly paranoid and has a lot of delusions. From recently her hallucinations have become severe.I am being blamed for everything that goes wrong. She thinks that I am her enemy and I'm out to harm her. She thinks that I am breaking things in the house and stealing her things. Those days she used to accuse my dad but now since he's away for work ,she is putting all her rage and anger on me.

One of my siblings are quite small. And I am scared to leave them alone with her and leave them. They are the only thing holding me back at this point.

My home life is also getting more and more difficult and I keep getting very angry at her even though I know that she's sick. At certain times ,she loses reason and starts behaving completely irrationally.

I actually don't know how to handle this whole situation. In our society mental illnesses are heavily stigmatized. So not many know about this issue except for my close family members. I don't have anyone to ask for guidance. I feel so angry and so sad that this is happening to me. My education is also getting affected because of this. I am under an insane amount of stress. It's very difficult to live with someone who is suffering from a severe mental disorder. I am overwhelmed with all this.

How can I navigate this situation? How can I concentrate on my studies? How can I make it better for my siblings? I feel so ashamed even to ask these things. It feels like I am incompetent. But I actually have no one to ask for help.

(Please forgive me if my English isn't that good and I haven't done these asks before. I usually only reblog and read posts.)

With regards,

Anon.

Hey Anon,

First off, I'm so sorry that you are going through such an incredibly tough experience. I'm also sorry that I can't answer this privately, and I was concerned that if I just answered separately, you'd miss it. I don't know how heavily you follow me.

I unfortunately can't give you advice as a medical health professional, but I can give you advice as someone who has been there. I know it's scary and there are times that you don't know if you can survive this, but you can.

Do not buy into the myth that someone with schizophrenia can't get better or live a full and meaningful life, or they aren't responsible for their actions. Medication is often necessary, but there are other things. Self-help strategies such as changing to a healthy diet, managing stress, exercising, and seeking social support can have a profound effect on their symptoms, feelings, and self-esteem. And the more someone does for themselves, the less hopeless and helpless they'll feel.

Schizophrenia is often episodic, so it sounds like your mother is in the middle of an acute psychotic episode. Some things to know when dealing with someone who is relapsing.

Remember that you cannot reason with acute psychosis.

The person may be terrified by their own feelings of loss of control.

Don't express irritation or anger. It's okay to take breaks and walk away as long as it's safe to do so. Do not stay when walking away is better.

Speak quietly and calmly, do not shout or threaten.

Don't use sarcasm.

Decrease irritants when possible, by turning off the TV, computer, any fluorescent lights that hum, etc.

Avoid continues eye contact.

Avoid touching them, keep good personal spaces.

Have you notified all the adults in your life, including your dad, of this? The fact that your mom is having a flair up? You need to talk to them about implementing an escape plan for you and your siblings should the need arise. I can not stress enough how important it is for you to keep your cool and speak calmly to both your parents and family members. You are far more likely to get the results you want. People tend to treat others as exaggerating in these situations, so that means we have to prove them wrong.

Document everything. Backup everything you document to the cloud, that way if your phone is confiscated, the information is safe. If you have a friend you can trust, have them keep a “jump out bag” with necessary things like money, etc.

So to repeat: - document everything. - have an escape strategy. - contact all adults, starting with father.

I know that it may seem like there isn't a way out, but I once thought that too. Now I've got a family and beautiful life. This too shall pass. You are strong and resilient, and I'm so proud of you for reaching out. I know how tough it is. Just keep it going, make sure your family and father hear you. And if it gets violent, call the cops. I know that's your mom, but she can survive the cops. It would hurt her more to know she hurt one of you.

💜💜💜

[reidsbookclub]

We love buying new stuff for the new school year and paying tuition, classes, books , clinical instruments, scrubs , a new white coat so I can have an extra one , a better stethoscope….. where is Hotch when you need a sugar daddy 😭

I need my check to process soooon because this sucks.

[spoonsforminutes]

just woke up and i’m already crying. i’m waiting to hear back to see if i can get put into an LGBTQ IOP group, but oof, directly undergoing abuse by a therapist is traumatic. and no one is here for me right now. i’m all alone, yet again. i’m just tired. it’s exhausting having to keep defending my right to be alive, but i want it so bad, and i want it with other people who i can trust. i don’t like socializing in online spaces. i’m so deprived of connection that i need real people, but everyone is so focused on themselves and maybe my pain is too big to handle, but i am forced to handle it. i need support, and i am getting it (although slowly and not enough), but too much of our structural society is broken that this is going to be a long fight. things desperately need to change

[cassandthings]

Welcome!

Hello! Welcome to the new Blog!

My name is Cass. I’ve been on tumblr for 8 years, jumping through various fandoms, and decided a new blog would be a good fresh start.

I’m too old (33) and lazy to bother separating things into multiple fandom blogs, so this will be a mishmash of everything. Sorry in advance...?

I’m here to share my work, support others work, and have a good time. I’ll open my asks once this blog has been fixed up a bit more!

Formerly Amariahellcat / Cousinslavellan, both blogs are still up and any old content can still be accessed! 

I’ll slowly add info about my games, characters, etc. For now, hi again!

For my writing, you can find the majority on AO3 under Amariahellcat.

[unforth]

Y'all I know that when so-called AI generates ridiculous results it's hilarious and I find it as funny as the next guy but I NEED y'all to remember that every single time an AI answer is generated it uses 5x as much energy as a conventional websearch and burns through 10 ml of water. FOR EVERY ANSWER. Each big llm is equal to 300,000 kiligrams of carbon dioxide emissions.

LLMs are killing the environment, and when we generate answers for the lolz we're still contributing to it.

Stop using it. Stop using it for a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. We need to kill it.

Sources:

[medichamcham]

i really enjoy looking through reddit threads related to death metal because the replies sound like a groupchat for cartoon villains

[desperatepleasures]

one time I used the ben affleck smoking reaction image in the family group chat and my mom replied with the funniest possible response which was: "mommy doesn't know who the guy is???" and that phrase has not left my brain since. I'll see blorbos on my dash that I don't recognize and I'll be like well it seems mommy doesn't know who the guy is.

[girldraki]

[icarus-showmethemoon]

inspired by boop day, reblog this post if its ok for people to send you random asks and interact on your posts with no judgement. i want to talk to people.

[acepumpkinpatrick]

Y'all!!! Emergency!!!

Your Esims are also helping Palestinians in Jenin!!

Instructions & Discount codes

Truly Esim

Thank you @anneemay for the notice

[violeteyedkiller]

Random ask to my moots:

What is a movie that is a favorite of yours but you keep forgetting about it but then when it's mentioned you remember how much you absolutely love it

Mine is Oh, Brother, Where Art Thou?

[kachikirby]

IF YOU LIVE IN THE US, PLEASE READ THIS

Posting this from the bird app since I hope it can help people.

People have been contacting the White House directly to demand a recount, especially since there has been evidence that not every ballot has been counted and will be thrown away if it hasn't been cured.

The link to contact the White House is here!

The following screenshot comes from here!

If you need help writing something, check under the cut! I've provided a prewritten response from one of the replies!

"I am a concerned citizen, and I need you to hear me. I urge you to recount the ballots from this election and investigate election interference. Bomb threats have been called into multiple polling locations, causing some to close early. Domestic terrorists have burned ballot boxes. An unprecedented number of ballots have been rejected and require curing. There have been reports of polling officers allowing voter intimidation in and outside of polling places across the country and an estimated 20 million mail in ballots are unaccounted for. In addition, many people have reported that ballots were not counted for suspicious reasons such as signature invalidation which is information that vote counters do not have access to. These events have occurred in swing states such as Pennsylvania, Nevada, and Georgia, for instance."

Feel free to add and change what you want, this is just a base for you to work off of.

[icarusinfreefall]

reminder that adhd medication isn't a luxury or preference, but a lifesaving medication. a 10 year long study in the usa showed that, when properly medicated, the rate of car crashes people with adhd get into goes down significantly--men's rate drops by 38%, and women's by 42%. the med shortage, denial of meds by doctors, rising prices, and the "war on drugs" has killed--with such a car dependent society, not driving frequently isn't an option, which means we need better healthcare and need it now.

https://shorturl.at/8VD8B

edit because i forgot to explain: short link is to an article by the washington post, it should be free to read

[nymphoutofwater]

And why? Cultural norms? Personal schedule? “Cause I’m always late to everything”?

Bonus points: Region and/or ethnicity?