#parenting flags

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Biparental Flag

Biparenting (biparenthood): a dual multiparental term; two individuals parenting a progeniture and/or having two parents, exclusively or primarily.

It's not exclusive to heteroparental families, it includes two parents of any gender. It can be considered a conformant term. Reminder that it's inclusive of socio-affective families and coparenting.

[notherpuppet]

Alastor pulls the “we’re not so different; you and I” card 🤪

Don’t fall for it Vaggie!!!!

[araremonaka]

i love your little peri design so much i just want to see him doing regular ass toddler things like eating animal crackers and watching bluey and standing on a chair to reach something

[motherlove]

✚ Clingy Mother Caretaker｡ 

A flag for motherly caretakers who are clingy towards their regressor.

✚ Clingy Father Caretaker｡ 

A flag for fatherly caretakers who are clingy towards their regressor.

✚ Clingy Parent Caretaker｡ 

A flag for parental caretakers who are clingy towards their regressor.

Requested by : Anon．

You do not have to identify as feminine or masculine to use the Mother & Father flags ... Any being who uses those terms is free to use the flags． ♡

[artheresy]

I made more because I crave Stormbringer content that is silly goofy and not utterly soul-crushing <3

[komarux]

made a tf2 version of that one meme

[Image ID: Two panel meme. Top panel shows Spy and Scout TF2 with Scout pointing at Spy and saying "I know what you are, FRENCHY." The bottom panel shows a little thought bubble next to a distressed Spy saying "his father…" while a confident Scout thinks the pride flag.]

[kupraissad]

[vegaseatsass]

DFF ep9 spoilers

I love gay revenge, I LOVE gay revenge, I love gay REVENGE, I love GAY revenge, HOWEVER

I also love brothers with an uncrossable chasm between them whose parents compare them who lose each other and their entire family along the way... guess what I'm saying is, I love guilty golden boy brother revenge, too

[doctor-whu]

Did the Paris Olympics just referenced the Last Supper with drag queens as the Jesus & apostles on a broadcast that is everywhere or am I just tripping

[coochiequeens]

He's 32 and doesn't get that a sexy anime bodypillow and mouse pad with a sexy anime girl are inappropriate to leave in a guest bedroom?

Update she called him out on his shit and he left to pout.

It sounds like a hobosexual who moved into his younger girlfriends apartment rather soon into the relationship and then turned one of the rooms into a gaming room. Then kept up the manipulation even after the parents left. And of course he resorted to tears once she had enough. She should change the locks. And since in his mind their was nothing wrong with her parents seeing the sexy stuff she should take the stuffing out of the bodypillow then mail the pillowcase and the mousepad to his parents.

[wreckrinho]

Pride flags colour picked from Irep!

The flags are also my hcs for him lmao

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Monomaternal Pride Flag

Monomaternity (solomaternity, unimaternity) or monomotherhood (monomothership/unimothership, unimotherhood, solomotherhood/solomothership): a form of monoparental (uniparental, soloparental) in which someone is parented by only one mother; and/or the state of being a single-mother.

It's the translation of monomarental from Spanish, but I also include self-parented women, sociomaternity/sociomotherhood (not necessarily being biological or consanguineous), and maternities whose filiation is not essentially mother-child (for example, being parented solely by a grandmother or an aunt due to being orphan).

[im-not-buying-it-ether]

Oh hey what about a groundhogs day event where the hero has to relive their traumatic “One Bad Day”-esque backstory but it’s another hero they either know really well and the only way to break the loop is letting that horrible event happen

Bc I’m basic my first thought was “Oh, this would absolutely tear up anyone having to walk down crime alley knowing way too well what’s about to happen”

But I’m also obsessed with my blorbo so my other thought was “Omg lol, imagine if one of the adult heroes ended up in Billy’s body just before his parents left to go die on their dig and think maybe they can save their co-worker the tragedy he faced so young only for every attempt they succeed at getting them to stay keep the loop going and they realize they have to let them go and doom this kid all over again. Haha, extra points if the loop actually lasts from that point to them actually dying so they wake up the next day thinking they failed again only for it to be tomorrow and suddenly Uncle E gets the call that his brother and sister in law are dead and then whoever is in Billy’s body is getting thrown out with a suitcase realizing maybe the nightmare is going to last longer.”

And I just had to laugh bc goddamn my brain cant stop with angst

[sleepystede]

Something I spent way too long thinking about during my 56382944th rewatch, in regards to a very specific line that Ed says in episode 1 of S2:

I'm the fucking devil and these are the kids.

I've always casually thought it might be song lyrics that went over my head (we see Ed using lyrics a lot - like the whole, "here I go again on my own" sequence), but it's not--

Ed craves death. He wants the crew to kill him. And despite Ed never stepping as fully into a parental figure with his crew, he sees that modeled from Stede and no doubt he thought about it.

If the crew are Ed's kids, and if the first person Ed ever killed was HIS DAD for being horribly abusive (devilish behavior)--

Ed is embodying qualities he saw in his dad in hopes of the crew finally killing him.

This adds another layer of reasons Ed experiences so much guilt when he comes back from the gravy basket. He deeply UNDERSTANDS the pain the crew feels, the agony that led them to make that decision.

He gets it because he lived it.

Forgiving himself for these horrible deeds also means forgiving little Ed for what he did to protect himself and his mother.

There's also the more surface-level meaning of "son of the devil" archetype, with the crew being presented as just as devious as the devil himself. But this analysis doesn't sit with me as deeply as Ed=embodying his dad.

[fiery-rat]

6th episode of OFMD s2 was so important to me

it shows us such a beautiful queer representation

there's a found family

there's Jim, a canon afab nonbinary character and they had a mustache drawn on their face and theyre in a queer poly relationship

there's a drag queen and a whole scene in which Izzy had his queer moment and let himself explore his queer identity by letting Wee John do him a makeup

there's a queer community that's loving and supportive

and it's all about forgiveness, acceptance and love

and I'm fucking weeping

[bookshelfdreams]

do it. gimme the Izzy straight-coded meta 👀

I feel like I need to preface this by saying that Actually, Izzy Is Straightcoded would be the inflammatory clickbait title I'd give this if it were written to draw traffic & ad revenue to my shitty website. So don't take that term too seriously.

There has been a lot of ink spilled about Izzy thinking he's in a story where one can only be subtextually queer. Some even by yours truly, but the more I think about it, the less sense it makes. What would be the purpose of queercoding Izzy?

In general, villains* aren't queercoded to show that men being attracted to other men is bad. It's often the outcome; but it's not why the trope exists. It exists because cishet people tend to be (and are encouraged to be) profoundly uncomfortable with gender nonconformity, and so, making a character gnc becomes a quick and easy way to make him appear twisted and untrustworthy. If he** can't even obey the fundamental rules of his own gender (rules that are inherent and unchangeable!) what other rules does he disobey?

Or: If a man is insufficiently masculine, he can't be trusted to have morals. The villain isn't gnc because that's an evil trait to have; rather, the gender nonconformity is a symptom of his evilness. Being evil is what enables him to embrace his feminine side, and embracing his feminine side is what others him and marks him as a villain.

This only really works when he's contrasted with a hero (or heroine) who is Doing Gender Correctly. The villain is foul to highlight how good the hero is. The Hero will be honest and straightforward, brave, physically powerful; the Queercoded Villain treacherous, cowardly, and physically weak. The hero is a Proper Man, a Good Person. The villain an Improper Man, and therefore, a Bad Person.

Of course ofmd fundamentally rejects this. The shorthand wouldn't work, because ofmd simply doesn't think effeminacy is creepy. It's uninterested in moralizing self-expression; it just lets people be how they are. There's a wide range of expressions of masculinity on this show, and none of it is inherently bad. People are allowed to be hypermasculine, flamboyant, and anything inbetween, can express their gender in whatever manner they want, and it's all fine - as long as they are authentic about it. Be however you are, but be yourself, and this is what Izzy fails at. The repression marks him as a villain. The strict adherence to what he thinks a Real Man Pirate ought to be like. He's very preoccupied with enforcing a traditional (and toxic) masculinity on himself and others. It's no coincidence the characters he antagonizes the most - Stede and Lucius - are also the most effeminate ones. And I know, I know anglophones have a much more casual relationship to twat and cunt, those don't nearly feel as uncomfortable for y'all as they do for me, so I don't want to assign too much significance here, but he is the only character who constantly uses this kind of language, and also the one who uses the most gender&sexuality based slurs (as far as I remember).

All of this while being clearly, obviously queer himself! I do not feel like I need to explain this; his flustered reaction when Lucius asks him if he's ever been sketched speaks for itself. The fact that he meets Stede and immediately slices his shirt off of him, speaks for itself. And so on.

Izzy isn't straightcoded in the sense that the story wants us to believe he's exclusively attracted to women. Much like a queercoded villain doesn't need to be shown to be attracted to men (and can even be shown to be attracted exclusively to women!) to still be queercoded. He's straightcoded in the sense that he's a stand-in for restrictive and toxic gender roles that society enforces on people. He buys into the idea that there's a way of Doing Gender Wrong, and this is presented as a tragic character flaw. Something he has to overcome to be able to do the thing that actually marks a hero in this show: express himself authentically.

Part of why I found his death so moving is because it enables him to set right the toxicity he spread. His rehabilitation arc was about himself; about finally allowing himself to be, accepting love, accepting community. His death was about taking responsibility. About fully recognizing the hurt he caused. Looking death in the face enables him to finally abandon the last shreds of that toxicity, to apologize and be granted forgiveness. In the end, he was not beyond saving, and the harm he has done will be healed.

*Izzy is introduced as an antagonist to both Stede and the central romance of this romcom. I'm not gonna debate this; if you disagree, fine, but you clearly have such a fundamentally wrong different view of the show that it's pointless for us to try and convince each other.

**of course Queercoded Female Villains exist s well, but they are a whole different can of worms and less relevant to this discussion